He ruined everything... | AITA

[@donkthekongjr4670]

I like how brandon has his own opinions and doesnt immediately bend to the will of the comments. It makes a good video when the reader has strong opinions

[@GalaxyOfTerror1]

Nah he comes across as a bit of a dick, especially with that golden child comment. He’s like “I don’t know what it is and I don’t care to learn so I don’t care”.

[@dr.temperancebrennan]

@@GalaxyOfTerror1bozo

[@aralornwolf3140]

"What's this golden child thing"... well... My grandmother had a golden child. He could do no wrong in her eyes. At the end of her life she wanted the family to be together and happy... well... My cousin (the daughter of her golden child) wanted nothing to do with her. Which I completely understand... as my grandmother's golden child lost custody _and_ visitation rights with his daughter because he was an abusive A-hole _and_ cheated on his taxes so he wouldn't pay child support (yeah, that didn't go well for the golden child)... but through all of this, our grandmother blamed everything on my cousin's mother... saying she cheated, she was a gold digger, etc. while completely ignoring all the bad stuff her golden child did in his life... like the elder abuse charges. Yeah... that's the extreme version of the "golden child" phenomenon.

[@shannonp1656]

All I could think of during the baby name story was "We named the dog Indiana." "You're named after the dog?!?"

[@RRW359]

Well technically Henry named himself after the dog.

[@ginabell694]

I thoight he was gonna say how Steve was somehow a terrible person. I was so worried.

[@RisingRevengeance]

I thought the issue was gonna be that he mentioned his death but nah... he smelled sometimes... shocking.

[@5Demona5]

I thought it was the death too. Like she wanted to meet Steve and OP said "you cant, he died" But it's just animal smells

[@Silentgrace11]

With the cat scenario, who wouldn’t love to realize that someone’s cat has the same name you do? Especially when I was a kid, sharing a name like that would make my day. Hell, I share a birthday with my little sister, and while a lot of people made a huge fuss over it when she was born (lots of negative emotions following a gritty divorce) I was absolutely over the moon and now make our birthday cake every year as a tradition (for her sweet 13 it’s gonna be a murder mystery cake and I’m so hyped to make that happen). Weird coincidences are fun and awesome when you don’t treat it as a devastating event.

[@pinknight310]

Seriously. My uncle had a cat that was older than me with the same name as me and I loved to tell people how funny it was that this cat didn’t have my name, but I had hers! Obviously I wasn’t named after the cat but it was still funny for me to say. She passed away at the age of 16, which is my age now. I wish she was still here but she lived a long and good life

[@ellecapone1337]

With regards The one about the poor girl who’s hair was cut against her will- if you cut someone’s hair against their will here in Canada it is straight up considered assault and I is therefore a criminal offence !!! That woman is the devil

[@nanomisu]

nah, not even a devil, she is satan

[@cmctiernan]

true! when i was a kid i went to my grandmother's for a week. i had long hair similar to the girl in the story's, and she had asked if i wanted it cut. unlike this situation, i did, and i fully consented. however nobody notified my mother who was VERY controlling of my autonomy and ironically she went ballistic. i understand her anger as yeah, somebody should have told her, but the fact she blamed me and held it against me? ew.

[@ellecapone1337]

@@cmctiernan oh dear that’s awful , she shouldn’t have blamed you and it’s YOUR hair. I hope you are In a better life situation now 💜

[@augustawright22]

The stepmom that cut the childs hair needs to have a beat down from the mom and husband needs to divorce her. Thats abuse and just cruel. It seems shes jealous if the child's hair. This one got me so mad

[@cmctiernan]

i had to pause and just take it in. the second op talks about how she hates the fact the stepdaughter prefers products MEANT for her hair texture over cheap ones and that op rather sleep than do her hair? i have never felt so much anger before because my own biological mother did the same to me as a kid. what made it more ironic was that my mother herself had blonde curly hair, and she neglected it out of laziness, also neglecting my long wavy/curly hair and constantly resorting to keeping it shoulder length and straightened

[@onewingedangel9189]

I love hearing I love hearing Brandon push back against the blatant bs in the comments when so many other YTers just go along with it.

[@OhHeyItIsNano]

It's annoying to have people in the same house go full blast with music and have the audacity to wonder why I complain about it. Not even Noise cancelling headphones save me. Also, it would be Epic for both the child and the cat to have the same name. Would also be hilarious to respond with "Which one?" when someone asks where Millie is. 🤣

[@CrazyDaizy3106]

My husband gets upset with how much I use my earbuds until I told him it was out of respect. I don’t want to pester him with my videos/music that he may or may not like.

[@cupcakenews5788]

I can relate to the hair story. When I was younger, my parents kept my hair cut, even though I hated it. They did it for the same reason too, it was difficult to take care of. I was too young to remember how I felt, but I think the daughter certainly will. I can totally understand where everyone's reactions are coming from, as well.

[@rosameryrojas-delcerro1059]

Yeah, my parents forced me to keep my hair short as a kid. Not because they hated taking care of it, they never did take care of it after I started kindergarten, it was my responsibility after that. I would have gone to school looking like crap if I didn't take care of my own hair and they wouldn't have cared if I did look like crap. Thier issue was that they didn't want me to become vain, so I wasn't allowed makeup or anything else either. Finally when I was 16 I told the hairdresser to just trim it because I wanted to grow it long and have kept my hair long since. Needless to say, when we got home my parents were furious, and to this day, they still don't understand why I keep my hair long. I am over 40 and they have nothing to say, but they still hate my long hair and mention cutting it regularly, because it just means women are vain jn thier opinion. The thing that pissed me off though, is not that the girls hair was cut at the shoulders, it was because that people believe that the step mom should be required to get up and style an 11 year olds hair. By 11 she can take care of her own damed hair if the wants to keep it long. I would have been happy as hell to have long hair at 11 and wouldn't have complained about caring for it. I would never style the hair of any 11 year old no matter what length thier hair is. What is the step mom? The girls maidservant? How entitled is an 11 year old whose step mom combs and styles her hair every morning? The step mom should have told the father that she was done dealing with his daughters hair, especially since she was 11 and should be dealing with it herself long since. And I had to deal with my own hair and clothes when I was five so don't say that 11 year olds can't handle it. In my life, I wouldn't care how long/short thier hair is, but I won't take care of it for them, washing, combing and styling is 100% thier responsibility, not mine. I would be willing to bet that the dad would not be happy to get up early and tediously deal with his daughters hair for more than a few days before he got tired of it and gave the job back to the step mom. Guilt tripping her back into doing it if necessary.

[@HardcoreLevelingBaka]

Millie wasn’t even the baby name that they decided to use, it was just one name on a list of potential names that they were considering

[@Sknotty]

I hate this stock footage format, but at least it's not subway surfers. I really do miss when it was just the posts on screen and nothing else.

[@Magninatorn]

Same, however as you say it's still better than subway

[@SqmButBetter]

same, but at least it doesnt hurt my eyes like the gameplay

[@LT0124-Mythica0]

Yeah, bring back the text on screen!

[@sharkksoda]

I agree. I usually watch while drawing (with youtube minimized) and it's almost impossible to focus on drawing with the little window with moving colors

[@SqmButBetter]

same i always have these videos on picture-in-picture@@sharkksoda

[@RinkameWolfs]

A golden child is the child who is favored by narcissistic parents, it usually involves abuse or neglect and harsher treatment of the other children while the golden child can do no wrong and the parents bend over backwards to fawn over the aforementioned golden child.

[@Techischannel]

Just go back to a plain background, simple white or some gray color. No fancy stock footage or boring overused mobile games. Unless you go with rarely seen before games such as RAID SHALLOW LEGENDS ... i mean cookie clicker.

[@wta1518]

I don't mind the stock footage, at least it's actually relavant to the story

[@royallynick]

Agreed. I like to read along with the plain bg so it's really distracting with all these stock videos

[@violet7773]

It's so distracting I hate it

[@altmusicperson]

I agree. I personally prefer black because I’ll listen to these kind of vids while trying to sleep

[@Tajarim88]

I prefer white, because black makes me think of bad things.

[@brotherofthesixth]

As someone who is not their parents golden child, people who haven’t experienced it just can’t understand. Being made to quit activities because your sibling doesn’t want to do them anymore, having every achievement be ignored in favour of that sibling, everything being my fault even when it isn’t just cause that sibling was involved. Look, having teenage feeling about parents being ‘sooo unfair’ is normal, growing up and moving past it is a part of life, But that is not that same as the hurt parents cause by always choosing one child over another. 5 years of therapy and counting and this is still a part of my life years later. What the sister did maybe an overreaction, and obviously this Reddit post can’t represent the years between two people. But the fact he had to resist the urge to tell the in-laws rather than maybe talking to the sister about why they maybe feel about how their parents treated them. I’m not saying that it will all work out but it’s probably better than them hating each other over who is loved more. Jus my thoughts, take ‘em or leave ‘em.

[@danielabeckham7397]

Yep. Was going to type the same thing. “Who cares” is such a golden child thing to say 😂😂😂. But yea coming from the lifelong scape goat it hurts to hear someone discounting it like that.

[@littlemoth4956]

"people who haven’t experienced it just can’t understand" Don't gatekeep empathy. That's a cunty move.

[@ReiMari12]

Honestly, I just get a bad vibe from the op. Don't know why.

[@valeriaabsinthe]

That last one written the hair thing really pissed me off. I'm with the outraged comments, that was actual abuse, not to mention that IT WASN'T EVEN HER OWN CHILD. Why didn't she consider talking to the actual parents first? And why couldn't she just f**king suck it up and deal with it? It's not like she was being told to conduct brain surgery; there were MULTIPLE other options to consider instead of emotionally abusing a child.

[@loganlikestoast]

It wasn’t abuse everyone throws the word out for everything

[@PurelyCoincidental]

That girl who had the long hair will most likely hate her stepmother forever. And if the girl is anything like me, she will grow out her hair as long as possible once she's able to. To people with long hair, it can be their pride, joy, identity, an expression of personality/beliefs, etc. etc. etc. It takes a lot of time, gentle care, patience, and love to grow it out that long--and evidently the stepmother has little of any of those attributes. I hate the term "teachable moment," but this easily could have been one. Teach the girl about protective hairstyles? Negotiate with her so she does more chores, to make up for the cost of the products? Get into DIY gels?

[@Aloe002]

That's the worse part. Her hair may NEVER grow to that length AGAIN, and if it does it will take YEARS! The word A**hole does not do justice to the actions she did. I really hope that was just a fake karma fishing post

[@rosameryrojas-delcerro1059]

Since when is step mom supposed to get up every morning and style an 11 year olds hair??? My parents forced me to keep my hair short as a kid. Not because they hated taking care of it, they never did take care of it after I started kindergarten, it was my responsibility after that. I would have gone to school looking like crap if I didn't take care of my own hair and they wouldn't have cared if I did look like crap. Thier issue was that they didn't want me to become vain, so I wasn't allowed makeup or anything else either. Finally when I was 16 I told the hairdresser to just trim it because I wanted to grow it long and have kept my hair long since. Needless to say, when we got home my parents were furious, and to this day, they still don't understand why I keep my hair long. I am over 40 and they have nothing to say, but they still hate my long hair and mention cutting it regularly, because it just means women are vain in thier opinion. The thing that pissed me off though, is not that the girls hair was cut at the shoulders, it was because that people believe that the step mom should be required to get up and style an 11 year olds hair. By 11 she can take care of her own damed hair if the wants to keep it long. I would have been happy as hell to have long hair at 11 and wouldn't have complained about caring for it. I would never style the hair of any 11 year old no matter what length thier hair is. What is the step mom? The girls maidservant? How entitled is an 11 year old whose step mom combs and styles her hair every morning? The step mom should have told the father that she was done dealing with his daughters hair, especially since she was 11 and should be dealing with it herself long since. And I had to deal with my own hair and clothes when I was five so don't say that 11 year olds can't handle it. In my life, I wouldn't care how long/short thier hair is, but I won't take care of it for them, washing, combing and styling is 100% thier responsibility, not mine. I would be willing to bet that the dad would not be happy to get up early and tediously deal with his daughters hair for more than a few days before he got tired of it and gave the job back to the step mom. Guilt tripping her back into doing it if necessary.

[@Aloe002]

@@rosameryrojas-delcerro1059 Like the comments of that thread said, COMMUNICATION!! Talk with the girl, talk with the mother, talk to your husband

[@rosameryrojas-delcerro1059]

@@Aloe002 Go back and read my post. I did say that, but you obviously didn't read it. You probably just wanted to get offended.

[@jacklynheath3780]

The golden child one is TA. she spent her whole childhood being second best, don’t tell her to get over it. He immediately wants to go snitch. She’s lashing out because you/your parents ruined her childhood and now you’re trying to do it with her in laws.

[@mayureshkalsulkar6588]

Right. It was okay when you had no choice but to be a blood relative but Let her choose her second family don't be there to disturb the remaining life.

[@loganlikestoast]

@@mayureshkalsulkar6588you can’t help who you fall in love with tho.

[@Icheasea_T]

As a rainbow golden child, I’m so lucky to have a good relationship with the middle child. Bless her maturity and our friendship

[@TheDemonAscended]

35:18 Cutting your kids hair without their consent or against their will is ab*se. I do not care if it’s not physical ab*se. Emotional ab*se is still ab*se. Cutting someone’s hair when they don’t want to cut it is absolutely revolting and for some people hair is the most important thing on a person’s body and even sacred. I hope he divorces the lady.

[@kooskoos1234]

For the cat story; “Hey john, i’m planning on naming my son john, please change your name” Like what lmfao

[@RRW359]

7:30 There are chemicals in public pools that you pay to use and keep maintained. OP can't know what chemicals are/aren't in a private pool or what the owner has to do to clean it.

[@daybreakdragon]

Agreed and lady was the AH for escalating the issue but 100% one of the other kids peed in the pool anyways.

[@Chloe_Raine]

I had to get my hair cut even shorter than that when I was her age. Lice had invaded our family, and I have long, thick, dark curly hair. We tried everything to get rid of them, and nothing worked, so my parents thought cutting my hair would make it easier to get rid of them. (Spoiler alert: it didn't). I didn't even realize that the girl here was 11 until that one commenter mentioned it. That brought back a flood of emotions. I thought I looked like a boy for YEARS. I was embarrassed to even leave the house for YEARS. That woman has got to one of the most vile humans to walk the earth. Fuck divorce. That man should sue for damages. That poor little girl 😥

[@eyesofwater123]

The wedding story labeling OP as the AH are AHs themselves and the sister is coming off as abelist or jealous her own kids weren't included in the wedding. People man.

[@zgaming8721]

OP was def in the wrong for bringing her developmentally challenged child to the wedding.

[@TheFreshPrinceOfSaiyans]

As someone who works with animals, the reality is you are constantly having to deal with being peed on, pooped on, and p*ked on. Better to know that before you aim to spend your life doing something you won’t be able to handle.

[@Jakewebmaster8]

I just want to read along with the post while the narrator narrates it as I'm reading it. I don't like this stock footage format and the old format was perfectly fine like 2 months ago. Also, I find it kind of insulting that the posts has this weird stock footage thing while the replies to each post actually don't, thus proving that this is just extra pointless hours spent on editing.

[@OJ_36]

As a teen who somewhat takes pride in his hair and has been bending his back over to take care of it for the last few years, I know that if my mom told me that she wanted me to buzz cut my hair on the way to the barbers, I'd turn the car around. I hope the demon that's considered a "human" in the last story gets divorced. That poor child will probably experience trauma and pain every time she thinks back on the times after you did that, just for a bit more sleep. Shame. On. You. I hope you get woken up violently at the same time in the morning that you'd do her hair for her just as a reminder to the damage you've caused with your husband, his ex, and I can't stress this enough, his daughter. I'd even go as far as saying that she's not your daughter anymore and that she'd better *never* call you mom.

[@YennaAvyeon]

As a linguistics student, and as someone who has done subtitling assignments, I know most people can read up to 12 characters per second. Anything more than that and most people will just get tired trying to follow along. And above all, the subtitles aren't needed. The format with the lines of the reddit post being revealed as they were told was perfect.

[@wmdkitty]

Because, like, Deaf, hard-of-hearing, and people with auditory processing issues just... what? Don't use KZbin or enjoy a good Reddit story?

[@YennaAvyeon]

@@wmdkitty The reddit post was still on screen before.

[@Iamthepersonofyt]

no more stock footage

[@amiahuman]

Please, for the sake of the viewers, return to normal. I used to love ask Emkay, I liked how unlike other channels that used subtitles that flash away, Emkay shows the post. Now, Emkay is just like every other channel. You don’t have to be like the others, you won’t get more views. We liked you because you were unique, and since you made those changes your views have gone from 40k to 10k. You are ruining a perfectly good channel, and we want the old style back. Edit: your most viewed video since the change in format was the 1 hour video of confession, because you used old videos that used the original format.

[@qrrel850]

that pool one is NTA She let the 7 y/o in the pool and other kids?? They 100% pissed in that pool.

[@zgaming8721]

…what kinda person were you at 7? She’s TA

[@TheDarwinProject1]

An easy solution to the story where the 17 yr old daughter who has just been diagnosed with diabetes & is having a hard time keeping up with the pet care would be to invest in some auto feeders (assuming dry food), a robot litterbox, auto deliveries for pet food, a system like Alexa to set alarms/reminders for both pet care tasks & her own schedule, & working pet care into self care. Per Google, exercising when you have a "bolus of rapid-acting insulin on board" can risk a dangerous drop in blood sugar, so timing dog walks either right when she wakes up/before eating or during "safe" times of day, it should allow her to get exercise in & care for the dogs with her new diagnosis. She will need to rely on schedules & routine much more now, but with support, once she gets it down, she will find things much easier. The whole family will likely need to adhere to her schedule too when planning meals, travel, & events, so support is necessary, but its absolutely possible to handle!

[@masterridley8593]

Historically, 'throwing away' someones games and/or gaming devices has ended EXTREMELY bad in a good handful of cases years ago. Daddy youtube's rules likely won't like me mentioning them here so shouldnt be TOO HARD to find but they ARE old articles.

[@TheOneAndOnlySnazzyJazzyAzzy]

Subway Surfers footage was bad, this format is mid, OG format with nothing but the posts was S tier content

[@FallenRosestorm]

It is I love reading along with them as they read the story it helps me remember and understand what's happening better, ut the stock picture make it harder to focus :/

[@Jade_1872]

So many of these feel so off and I’m not even 15 mins in yet… being a golden child isn’t just a child thing it’s just the name. It’s about neglect and favoritism. If you get neglected and your sibling gets everything and anything you’re gonna hold resentment especially since it tends to keep happening forever… you don’t just hit 18 and go “oh well I’m an adult so now I forgive the child neglect and abuse”

[@mayureshkalsulkar6588]

Right. And most importantly you do not want their child and your child in any competition relationship like you two used to....but that golden child is trying to sneak into her family again.(or at least those in laws will at least compare two daughters in laws and there will be jealousy again)

[@venezialugosanchez831]

(from the first story) As someone who interacted with animals quite often (Vet student), if you wanna involve yourself on the care of any animal, expect to smell pretty bad and smell PRETTY BAD stuff Of course, taking care of hygiene is important, and normal people shower, but no amount of soap is gonna save you after cleaning animal waist for hours and not being able to catch a break Working with animals is amazing, but its a hard job and don't expect to smell completely clean during work hours No one told me this, but it is kinda logical Things like that should be talked about with more normalcy tho Do not romanticize any job, it doesn't help

[@MphoenixE]

How people get offended by animals with the same name. Like literally multiple people even have the same name

[@twideslauriers7875]

26:42 The kid was a little shit but like… yall paid for the switch. Why would you throw money away like that. Also he is 9. Sitting down with him and explaining whats going on and what his sister is going through would be a lot more productive than throwing away an expensive gaming system.

[@Raiidennshogun]

The first one is so weird to me. Does she think taking care of animals is just cuddling them all day? I did animal management at college, and now at uni I’m doing zoology and I spent most of my days picking up poop. We’re basically glorified cleaners sometimes.

[@ethereal_taytay]

37:26 oo, i take *big* issue with that statement. as someone who grew their hair out for basically their entire life and had it reach about knee length(i was 5'0 for reference) before i finally decided to cut it at around 11 years old, if someone had forced me to cut it before i was ready i would have cried without a doubt. the only reason it "doesnt seem like a big deal" to OP is because they've never felt the sentimentalism that comes with long hair

[@hopper8514]

What the fuck is that last one about cutting the hair? What the fuck? That is a HUGE fucking boundary that was smashed away and was not deserved in the slightest

[@ellaminnowpea1999]

25:54 I kind of feel like this one (dad who missed movie night w daughter and her mom) is more of an ESH situation. Yes, he should have set reminders, etc. to remember the event, but I think it’s crazy that she didn’t even call him. What if he was in a car accident or had an emergency? If I have plans with someone and they don’t show, I always give them a call to make sure everything is okay

[@daluogbuefi9480]

She’s dating her brother in law and thought her sister would be open to the idea?!!?? Am I the only one that thinks it’s weird

[@kitty_catra]

I'm someone who has curly hair, it does take a lot to mantain it, like a lot. I keep it shoulder length because it's quite thick and I do not have to energy to deal with it But if I was someone who had the energy to keep it in it's ringlets instead of frizz and my mam made me cut it, I can't imagine trusting her after it, I think it would really ruin me (luckily my mam loves to comb it out and to style it)

[@impishrebel5969]

Goldenchild/scapegoat, where one child is lavished with attention, gifts, favor, and everything else, and the scapegoat, the child who gets little to nothing, cast offs, ignored, or the actions of the golden child is blamed on them, as well as being voluntold to do things for the golden child's favor. It's not a phenomenon it's a narcissistic family dynamic where one or more family members are narcissistic/enables narcissistic behavior. I was a scapegoat and was parentified at a young age when my older sibling started having children, I was effectively raising the kids for a while because their mother couldn't get her act together and abused consumables that weren't food. But god forbid anyone recognize any of the work I did I was just told I was greedy and selfish when I wanted time to myself, to study, or get opportunities so I could get the hell out of it. And yeah psychologists use these terms to explain the dynamic as well.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

23:14 I completely agree! Plus, many seem to be ignoring the care of the animals.

[@FNFsprites]

The stock footage is kinda annoying because I like seeing all the text instead of subtitles that go by pretty quickly.

[@nyxx5357]

Daughter with Type 1 Diabetes not fulfilling obligations: Either light ESH, or NAH, I can't decide. OP is not an ahole for being fed up with her daughter's failing grades and neglect of her animals. The daughter is not an ahole for being chronically ill, and not knowing how to cope. I feel really bad for everyone in this story, including the animals. That being said, the daughter is wrong for mot asking for help, and OP is definitely wrong for threatening to punish her daughter instead of trying to find out why her daughter is struggling, and trying to help her. Here's my rough idea of how OP should handle it (these steps are not necessarily in order): -Reach out to friends/family (including daughter's friends) and ask for help. Ask for one person to care for the animals, another to drive daughter to doctor/therapy appointments, another to help your daughter with homework, etc. -Try to find out what, specifically, your daughter is struggling with, because something is clearly wrong. Is she physically tired from her diabetes? Is she depressed? Does she have any neurodivergencies or mental health problems that are being exacerbated by the stress of this situation? Does she just feel overwhelmed, and possibly need a break from school? -Have another conversation with your daughter about this, but be more kind this time. Apologise for threatening her, and then reiterate that she cannot keep neglecting all of her responsibilities. Ask her what's going on, and offer to help her in any way you can, but don't be pushy. If she bristles up ("I'm fine, it's nothing, just leave me alone", etc), back off for a bit, and bring it up again later. If she keeps trying to avoid the conversation, say something along the lines of "I know you're upset, and that's okay, but we still need to talk about this." TL,DR OP was too harsh, and needs to try a softer approach.

[@althealee9375]

I feel like a kid would love meeting an animal that has the same name as them

[@Musicalsfangirl]

With the names story - there always seem to be a name every year that literally everyone calls their child. This year it’s Theodore. The amount of kids in our daycare called Theodore or just Theo is crazy. There’s also the name Mia being a trend right now too. Another year it was Alexander. Another year it was Oliver. Another year it was Emily. They seem to come in waves, and it doesn’t put parents off calling their baby whatever name is popular at the time.

[@tarrangriffith4653]

if i saw my husband putting CANNED CHICKEN into my mac and cheese…im divorcing him.

[@eminemfanboy12]

i understand both sides of the pool story as a person with ocd AND a son. because who wants to be in the pool with pee? it makes me more uncomfortable than others obviously, so i extra get it. but also, like be understanding of your sisters defensiveness. that’s her baby and she feels you’re depriving him of fun. and definitely let her know beforehand. additionally, i do think people on reddit are far too harsh towards people with kids and the kids themselves. it gives bitter and unhappy in their own lives. the childfree sub is pathetic and sad 80% of the time.

[@TheHiddenDirector]

The golden child thing... so, I do agree that having a golden child is never a good thing. You should always treat your children equally and without favoritism. For that story specifically, though, I think her sister had no right to be pulling that just because OP found love and the family liked her. OP isn't at fault if people act differently to her than someone else. And she shouldn't be expected to just put her own love life on pause to cater to her sister. That's not how to solve that problem. I DO think the sisters should sit and have a conversation where OP listens, learns, and understands the trauma that kind of treatment her sister is obviously feeling. That's the part that bothers me about it. Everyone is acting like it's OP's fault, when it's their PARENTS who caused the trauma. OP admitted she had no idea that anything was actually wrong, and that's not a sign she's a bad person. People are just assuming that because they don't like "Golden Children" and want to villainize her. It's not great that she still doesn't understand, but again, ignorance is not a sign of a bad person. Just someone who needs to learn. Her sister is just as much in the wrong for wanting to dictate whether or not OP can make friends with whoever she wants. She obviously didn't do it through malicious intent if we go by OP's words. She was just making friends with people who were nice to her. She's allowed to date someone if she feels she's compatible with them without worrying that her sister's feelings might be hurt. I feel like people are so determined to label someone as an entitled brat that they don't realize that demanding someone revolve their life around the person they're siding with is just as entitled.

[@Shadowman2001]

throwing the switch away story: OP is straight up abusive, doing things like destroying an item, or throwing it away is abuse I'd say that he is grounded from it for a full month not permanently and if OP and her husband are struggling financially this is so much worse, OP is TA but how much of an AH she is relies on the financial situation, I might be a bit biased as I'm a nintendo player myself as my profile suggests. Edit: holy crap that third comment is so true I did not realize that, that commenter is very wise and insightful.

[@Snakeofwrath]

I feel like I’m in the minority with the one about the person who brought their disabled son to the wedding. Aside from a very short outburst that was immediately resolved, the son, at least from what the parent was saying, wasn’t causing issues. Also as long as his headphones and iPad keeps him calm during the wedding, I don’t see an issue with him doing so. It keeps him from being disruptive so I don’t think people should care so much. Idk, maybe I’m biased cause I’m disabled myself (autistic and have adhd), and have done many years of volunteer work with disabled children, but even so, I’m gonna say NTA. He wasn’t disruptive, he met the age requirement, why should it matter if he’s not mentally over the age of 10? The way OP’s sister and family acted feels a little ableist, even if unintentionally so. Them wanting him excluded immediately implies they see him as a little kid, and not the teenager he is. I’m so sick of seeing developmentally disabled people being treated way younger than they really are just because they don’t act the way they’re expected to at their age. It’s not our fault we didn’t hit certain milestones at the same rate as neurotypical people. Like for example, until I was 4, I was almost fully non verbal. That doesn’t mean it’d be right to treat me like an infant. Just like how it wasn’t right for your sister and family to treat your 13 year old like he’s 3. Your son shouldn’t have to miss out on important events like his aunt’s wedding because of something he can’t control.

[@Isalley1724]

It said he interrupted the event once before they gave him the iPad, which is why I disagree with your opinion. I myself have some disabilities, but I know when I'm not able to stay thru an event like that due to my disabilities, and dont go. I'm not saying u r wrong, just that I disagree

[@princecoffeelazybunny1604]

Yeah, this and also she could've told OP specifically that he couldn't come due to a possible disruption. Like specifying that reason for no kids under 10 rule would've been fine

[@twideslauriers7875]

yeah like if he’s not on his ipad in the photos who GIVES a shit

[@randomisonline]

Why are people getting so mad with Emkay? First people were upset that they removed the outro and the fanart segment from their videos. I wasn't happy about it either, but I understand why they did it since a lot of people would click off at that segment which negatively affects viewer retention and monetization for the channel. Then people got upset when they included gameplay of Subway Surfers in the background. I didn't like this change either, but it didn't ruin the videos or anything so it was surprising to see people getting so mad over it. And finally, after they removed the Subway Surfers gameplay and included stock footage relevant to the stories, people got mad again. I don't see what's wrong with the stock footage. It's something visually interesting to look at and they still include captions for the stories for viewers with hearing issues. If it's distracting, you could just listen to the video instead of watching it. After all of these situations, I think people just don't like change.

[@ReiMari12]

That's just human nature friend.

[@randomisonline]

@@ReiMari12 Yeah, that's a good point.

[@Maxo-bh5ni]

GET THE STOCK FOOTAGE OUTTA HERE. LET US ACTUALLY READ THE POST.

[@WlwHylas]

As someone with curly hair, the stepmom cutting the stepdaughter hair actually made me cry. :^((((

[@abbysmith5933]

Peeing in the pool is disgusting 😭

[@Tyranid_Hive_Mind]

Fun fact: chlorine on it's own doesn't have a smell, this means that that swimming pool smell is chlorine mixed with pee

[@FallenRosestorm]

@@Tyranid_Hive_Mindoh god, that just make me think about how m uh pee had to be in the pool for you to small it so strongly

[@potato-rp2bf]

The pet story - animals need care now. If the teen can’t give it then sucks but they need to go to someone who can care for them. OP picked up a second job for her teen’s meds. She doesn’t have time to care for the animals. It’s good OP is getting this solved before the animals are hurting

[@RisingRevengeance]

19:59 NTA If it was just her grades and doing stuff around the house then sure she should get a pass but you can't just not take care of your animals because you're not doing well

[@christopherlizon5198]

I can't believe how many people did not think about the welfare of the animals in the story about the daughter. It does sound harsh, but life is harsh. Pets don't understand you are sick. When I was once in the hospital being told that I almost had a heart attack and they needed to do testing, all I could think about was going home because my dog was alone at the time and the hospital had no cell reception. I forced them to let me leave and said I'd come back for tests because my dog needed care. I may be wrong about this, she never said which type of diabetic she was, which is a huge missing piece of info before people should be going nuts. One for is very manageable and sucks to have but isn't as life threatening.

[@nevergonnagiveyouup1180]

If I remember the video said type one diabetes. I’ll go back and check to make sure Edit: 18:04 Yeah it’s type one. Doesn’t change the fact the animals need care and I’m not condoning animals being in a household if they’re going to be neglected but type one diabetes can be deadly and it’s understandable why the daughter is depressed and the parent could’ve worded things better

[@damiancrowley569]

So, my girlfriend has been in my children's life since my daughter was 3 (now 5) and my son was 6 (now 8) and I have had full custody with their mother having a few hours long visits once a week. My gf is amazing with the kids , That aside, if she ever cut my daughters hair, I'd feel the exact same way. I have hair as long as my daughters and understand how important it is, personally, let alone the implications of cutting someone else's hair so drastically. Definitely the a-hole

[@fullelement4886]

Wow... that last one made me legitimately angry. I have a feeling that will forever be an evil stepmom story that 11yo girl will tell people.

[@JewelWildmoon]

It sounds like the husband and his sister refuse to listen to OP's boundaries about not messing with her cooking, so I think she should get her and her kids take-out and give them both none. Make them eat the monstrosity they created themselves since they're changing it to their liking, or they can make/buy their own food. If they don't eat it, pack it in the fridge for later. Refuse to give them anything else until they finish it. If they refuse and it goes bad, repeat the whole cycle if they do it again.

[@samcloud327]

for the baby name one with the cat sharing a name... i shared a name with my childhood dog lol the cousin will be fine its not a big deal

[@LunarCatKan]

The wedding one reminds me of when I was about 4-5 maybe 6 I can’t remember it was about a decade ago but anyways I have adhd and I remember during the wedding ceremony I yelled out “hurry up this is boring” and my parents faces of just “omg no-” and “shushhh you’re not meant to talk right now” were pretty funny looking back

[@mothgrave]

The comments on the story about the disabled son at the wedding absolutely reek of ableism.

[@BDWriter92]

Why in the world would a kid want to work with animals and not consider that it smells? Even a toddler has gone to a petting zoo. It's a tradition in most school districts where I live to go to the big zoo in the state capital. It's like wanting to be a doctor and not realizing that comes with breaking bad news to people. It's no pleasant or a highlight of the job, but you deal.

[@cat_with.a._shirt9503]

37:56 NOKCAKJSDVNAKJEDHVLIAJEDJBOIF I HATE THIS SOTRY Just because YOU think it’s a lot to deal with doesn’t mean you can just say”oh yeah we’re lopping all of you hair off😊”. Oh and you can tell she loves her hair because of how much products and stuff she uses so I don’t get i. And you think oh I have short hair so she can to! NO that’s just stupid and your stupid. Ik I got very mad with this but I have long hair too and I would be so mad if this happened to me.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Swiftie story: I literally hide Swift from my dating profile. There should be a compromise. Headphones, taking turns. And not being able to say anything about Swift is horrible too. ETA: this wife is everything I hate about Swifties.

[@Sacrimony_]

The last one is enraging. I also don't understand how the salon could get along with it when the kid was crying

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

11:30 I’m guessing the neglected child cares lol

[@Lilywithcatears]

I had a similar experience to the girl who was forced to cut her hair (although in the opposite way) That kid will probably hate her stepmother for years.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

12:06 but the fact that they even thought about it says a lot. Just the idea of being a tattle as an adult is what makes them TA.

[@chayden153]

The switch story pissed me off. Like ma'am, you are acting no better than the nine year old! Him throwing away his sister's period supplies is absolutely unacceptable, but just because she's on her period doesn't give her an excuse to act like a brat.

[@emeraldqueen1994]

Story where OP’s daughter recently got diagnosed with Type 1 dibeatis : as someone who wasn’t diagnosed with Autism until 21, let me tell you struggling with a new disability can be painfully slow and hard…. OP needs to give the kid some slack for what she’s going through!!

[@illuminaticonfirmed1389]

this. only being diagnosed with something MUCH later in life means you’ve had absolutely no accommodations to your condition growing up and now you suddenly have to reroute your entire life to do so.

[@Alky64]

Agreed

[@myrezz8833]

Also OP has two other kids, and what she could’ve done is tell them ‘hey, your sister is going through something, so can you make sure you help her with anything - including the pets?” That’s it. Sometimes you have to pitch in a little more.

[@lemonsss1094]

Id say NAH. I get thst the daughter is struggling with mental health, and the parent was a little harsh, but I'm sure they're both just stressed. The animals do need to be taken care of, and if the daughter isn't feeling up to it, while I csnt blame her, the animals shouldn't suffer for it.

[@CrazyDaizy3106]

Type 1 Diabetes, that shouldn’t stop you from living life. Was the daughter taking care of the pets before the diagnosis? Yes, Then she can continue after the diagnosis. Yes I understand it’s new and possibly stressful/scary but you can’t let it stop you from living your life. And for her grades to drop that drastically, nope that sh*t don’t fly! If that was my child I would let that be an excuse, if you don’t take care of YOUR pets and you don’t keep YOUR grades up, something’s gotta be done. If that includes rehoming the pets to take the “strain” off of your child so they can focus on School, then that’s what’s gonna have to happen.

[@AtomicVegetable]

Please use the old format

[@byakurenbreak]

I desperately want an update for that last story, but seeing as how OP deleted her account and the post, that’s not happening.

[@MAPriestAuthor]

The one about the hair also implies racism. Sure, op didn’t mention race, and yes some white people have super curly hair (I’m one of them), but seeing as the little girl and her parents knew how to take care of her hair, it’s not a stretch to see a black girl being abused by her white stepmom because stepmom doesn’t understand, and likely doesn’t care to

[@NoahSalas69]

She has blonde hair as said in the video and mentioned at the end that it looked kinda darker after the hair cut so good theory but chances are she was not black

[@Snow_Sailor]

Yo can we get the original format back? I think a lot of people would prefer it.

[@Tiana_atr]

Ya know, I've been considering cutting my hair to around shoulder length, because it's true, its a lot to maintain. That said, if someone *forced* me to cut my hair? I'd be absolutely *LIVID*. My hair is special to me, especially as a trans girl, its my goddamn choice if I get it cut or not

[@mrchief975]

Go back to the posts on screen only

[@betheguy_posts]

As someone who grew up as the black sheep and had a younger sibling who was the golden child, its unironically annoying (and even a bit frustrating) to hear you disregard the concept of golden children and to teel OP to "get over the golden child thing". Like imagine if every adult in your family/life goes out of their way to show you that your sibling is more improtant than you and then you get told constantly that you need to just "get over it"? That's pretty insensitive of you man, i expected better. Don't knock someone else's lived experience just because its foreign and unfamiliar to you. Also I agree, stock white backround or a soft pattern works best for these vids.

[@trindaquil9696]

Mom was definitely overreacting throwing away the son's switch, Dad was the only NTA in that scenario...

[@waterbottle82730]

the hair one.... im a guy with long hair it sucks to deal with but i love it! its so pretty it makes me feel happy. if someone cut it i would cut them of for good.

[@avoiceinthedark2028]

I was sure she was gonna ruin Steve Irwin by saying he was dead! Not expected lmao

[@hohtari1]

"A lot of people pee in pools" Does NOT make it okay to do so. I bet you piss in public pools. This is why I don't visit them.

[@MammusaEinki]

NTA to parents with disability. And what is this in America you don't take kids to weddings? Our kids are our joy. Of course nieces and nephew should be welcome to weddings. A strange custom.

[@cinnamoone3553]

type 1 diabetic of ten years diagnosed in middle school here. diabetes isn't an excuse in and of itself for you to suddenly not do anything. it's only mildly intrusive, and with the technology that's available now it's almost a non-issue. sure it's an adjustment, but it doesn't validate a complete shutdown. also, MAKE INSULIN FREE DAMMIT-

[@cylex45]

All I heard in that hair cut story was "me me me me me" like holy crap how can a stepmother be that entitled towards her stepdaughter

[@pale_fr0g822]

i also have type 1 diabetes (for 2.5 years), and it isnt THAT difficult to deal with. like yeah its stressful sometimes, but the eay she handles it is just dumb. shes 100% the a-hole bc she makes it an excuse for even the simplest things and its so infuriating to hear that someome does that.

[@Archmagos_Faber]

sorry but at 12:07 you went on a little rant but the comment you just red said would which implies they know the OP had not snitched yet. your take on that one was off IMO but again that is just my own opinion.

[@wowjennawow]

i’m cool with the stock footage, but i wish you’d still put the post somewhere on the screen to read along to. great that the responses are the same as they used to be though, appreciate that y’all are working with your viewers on this :)

[@MadParrot88]

What I would give to go back to the old format of just having the posts on screen to read along to

[@AceFace350]

"An almost 300 dollars mini computer" Try 400, lol, and, can I have the link to that post, because, my switch broke, I would like to take them up on that offer/joke

[@rosiekittengirl760]

For the post where OP was threatening to rehome the pets, I'm leaning towards no one being the Ahole. The daughter is obviously struggling with her mental health right now so I don't blame her for struggling to do her chores. However, those animals still need to be cared for and if this household is no longer able to do that then those pets need to go to a home that can. I WILL say that I don't like how OP went about it. She framed it as a punishment when I think an honest heart to heart would have been better, so maybe 0.5/5 butthole score for that. I'd also like to know exactly what chores were being neglected, since if at least the animals' basic needs were being met there may have been more wiggle room for compromise. My heart goes out to them both and I wish them the best.

[@VanVeniVidiVici]

I'm genuinely curious: How much does the stock footage cost on average per video?

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Sharing a name with a cat takes nothing away from the name. The Millie story is ridiculous.

[@yukitai9063]

10:45 Remembering that time my older sister dated my best friend's brother (I don't think she 'slept around', but definitely dated ~5 guys in 2 years)... Everyone called it a coincidence, but really? Why a sibling's friend's sibling of all people? It's way too weird in many ways. 20:40 NTA. She does need that wake-up call. A diagnosis shouldn't be a reasonable excuse to become a useless bum, especially if you've had it since birth and haven't noticed until now.