He's Not Ready for a Relationship - Do This and Make Him Commit Now

[@delnayo9474]

If a man tells you that he is not ready... thank him for telling you the truth an walk away...cauz someone better than him is on his way....🤣

[@Chydova]

Yes!! And even after he tells you that he isn't looking for anything and keeps messaging you ignore him!! He will ghost you! I had a guy do this to me just last week. And it hurts!! Save yourself the heartache!!

[@toptier6021]

Exactely

[@meetvirginia7023]

I did that 3 1/2 weeks ago, and now he text me tonight asking “ what’s going on in your World” Of course I didn’t text him back, because I’m here 🤣🤣

[@farhanakhan7021]

Seriously very true 😅

[@laydijayne8963]

@@meetvirginia7023 typical 🙄 when you go quiet on them they start to panic , but it seems to be okay for them !! I will never ever understand men 🙈

[@ramaat2731]

If a man tells you he doesn't want a committed relationship, believe him. No point trying to change his mind

[@BeatzByMK]

Ra Maat yes!!!! I made that mistake back in college and even though it was one of the most fun and exhilarating experiences I’ve ever had, it ended in me being hurt because I thought I could convince him that we were perfect for each other. Now I’m sitting here like “why go for someone who doesn’t even want what I want??? I don’t wanna force myself on somebody”

[@ramaat2731]

@@BeatzByMK you shouldn't have to. When a man really wants you, you will know. You won't even have to question it

[@crownedmelaninqueen]

“ Making him” Is manipulation, right ??? 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@tsukiomilover]

I figured guys saying that is just like girls saying it as a “nicer” way to tell boys they’re not interested in them specifically. Haha

[@MeganMay62442]

What if you can't find a man you like that way who also wants to have a relationship with you? So many men don't, it's like they're scared or believe that women are wicked creatures, trying to trick them into an unhappy marriage they don't want. Some people, men and women, are manipulative and will treat you bad, but not everyone. Alot of people just want to have a good life together. So I think alot of men need to stop detesting the thought of marriage or even a girlfriend. It's a good thing! you just have to find the right person and give her a chance instead of constantly disappointing all the random girls you casually date. You experience true love or support that way.

[@madianmayorga9907]

It really hurts when we invest time and feelings thinking we are going towards a serious relationship and sooner or later realize it has been a waste of time with somebody who avoids commitment and couldn't be honest from the beginning.

[@dr.traceymarks6291]

I recommend you to a powerful man who can help you sweetie 💝💕💕💕💕 he helped me too few days ago. He can help you

[@dr.traceymarks6291]

Talk to him on WhatsApp 💞💞

[@dr.traceymarks6291]

[phone] ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@elizabethdorman3104]

1. give yourself a time frame. 2. Stop thinking/talking about comittment 3. stop giving him everything he wants 4. make him work for it 5. Keep your options open

[@beatricemelinne9220]

Hello do you need help ? I can recommend you to someone that helped me get my ex back recently

[@beatricemelinne9220]

Whtspp him

[@beatricemelinne9220]

[phone]

[@elizabethdorman3104]

@@beatricemelinne9220,not interested in this scam! 🤬

[@Bigred338]

What is if he says ,he wants a relation with you but needs time ?

[@susan5048]

If he’s not ready for a relationship means he’s not ready for a relationship with YOU. Start dating other people. . Leave him in the dust. If he wants you he will know it. Ladies take my adv.

[@Kimmica20]

Thank you!

[@katrinaaq1528]

I agree ...

[@TinaMuse-n3b]

@@katrinaaq1528 If I am attractive, funny, witty, understanding, helpful, passionate in bed, things that I got to know that he wants in general, why am I just a fwb? Oh wait... I forgot I dont look like the latina baddies he likes on Instagram

[@annalouux8553]

That's exactly what I do...l respect myself first and foremost....

[@caro12345ification]

Leave. I stayed.. for a year... with the guy not ready for a relationship. And monday he told me, he does not see in a relationship with me, but may want a relationship with someone else.

[@zchtutu8457]

I suggest for next topic: "How to handle guys with "exes" baggage.

[@_NguyenVanHoangLong]

Think we're long lost friend Amanda 🙂

[@chelholt7407]

Yes, the “I love you but I’m still not over my ex who cheated on me and divorced me, but I don’t want you to leave me” men.

[@karinavillegas2079]

Please do!😔

[@angelicaelias182]

Yes, whether it is the most recent one or an ex from few or many years ago... what about them when they’re hunting back and the “something” guy pays attention? Gosh that’s my problem right now. I hate this quarantine, everything was developing so good u.u

[@beckytull8505]

Simple answer: if he isn’t ready to close the ex chapter, move on.

[@wickandde]

Honestly ladies, if he says he's not ready for a relationship let him go, don't play these games. You deserve someone who has already realised he wants to commit to you on his own without you having to manipulate him. Games like this backfire down the road. There's nothing wrong with a person not being ready for a relationship or simply not wanting one with you, truth is we've all been there. I'm sure even you have met a great guy who was really into you but you didn't feel him in a romantic way, it happens, except now you're in the receiving end. Be happy he was man enough to tell you the truth in the beginning saving you from a lot of second guessing and heartbreak down the road, wish him well and bid him farewell. Sorry if its not what you wanted to hear.

[@lanlab4909]

It is what we need to hear, thanks a lot.

[@queenesquiresquad]

The guy I dated never did tell me from the beginning. Instead he led me on for 4 months and even talked about marriage with me and our future kid’s names, and asked would I change my last name. He expressed that he is a long term guy. I finally started catching on that he was leading me on by the 4th month when he only wanted to see me at nights or weeknights. Never on weekends and he was mostly Mia on weekends. I broke it off with him. Then he reappeared the 5th month and confessed that he had just got out of a 2 year relationship when we first met and wasn’t ready for a relationship. That was only after I told him why I broke it off with him in the first place. He wanted his cake and eat it too by having me do relationship things and have sexual experiences with me but continue to be single and flaky/ inconsistent and mention relationship with one minute and then he’s not ready the next minute. So no not all guys will actually tell you at the beginning. Some will waste your time for as long as you allow and lie claiming they want a relationship or marriage. You have to use your intuition and run. I just wish i never gave him a second chance because it only got worse.

[@TheSentinel555]

So true

[@tebandekemaryam2646]

True

[@shutit4024]

Song Stress oh and I got lead on for almost 6 months if I would have never said anything or bring up the relationship part he would still kept using me and the sad thing is we already knew each other 3 years before dating he’s a piece of shit

[@AL-cv3qt]

Him: I really like you but... Me: BYE BOI BYE!!

[@lucymaynard6798]

“Men appreciate and value the things they have to work hard for”... I’ll forever bare this in mind 🤝

[@viktoriyadan4328]

👏👏👏

[@teresaskinner5401]

Even after ur married

[@sunflower260285]

Covid-19 is making me feel like I am going to be single for a long time 😓

[@bongiwexaba8148]

Same WhatsApp group🙈

[@mvc0623]

I feel you

[@marythesinger]

Feeling the same way

[@annettenasrollahy6703]

Same 🌹

[@LoveBeccaJoe]

Same girl. Same.

[@ellyssaaleessandra5473]

Just walk away....and he will miss you ....

[@preciouspayne723]

@@AntonioBorrello right

[@preciouspayne723]

I thought he was the right guy guess I was wrong he wants to get back together with me so he can have friends with benefits with me no

[@preciouspayne723]

And he touched my private parts and he said I was using people bbutI will never do that he wrote me and mean message on messenger his sister said I was posting about him on Facebook but I did not hes nothing but an asshole so where not together anymore I blocked him he hurt my feelings and did not say hes sorry I deserve better than him who treats me right

[@beckytull8505]

Nope! Nothing happened. Guys don’t miss what they don’t want.

[@ellyssaaleessandra5473]

@@preciouspayne723 your situation same like mine...but I decided to close my heart for him. We deserve to be happy 🥰 and have a chance to live with someone can bring us a happiness and lots of love to share together

[@HeartCenteredUniverse1111]

No way. If a guy says he’s “not ready for a relationship” I’m out. Why waste more time? I know my worth 💝

[@dickbanger8924]

As long as he sealed the deal before hand you can go wherever you want lol

[@graciedg5723]

Heart Centered Dating absolutely correct. There are more fishes in the ocean 😊🤣

[@lauralynn1667]

❤

[@robettakruger2760]

Usually when men don't want a committed relationship, the truth is they don't want one with you. I've had them tell me they don't want to commit and then a few weeks later be in a committed relationship with someone else. Future video topic- breadcrumbing and coming in and out of your life randomly ( Orbiting) to keep you hoping that they like you or want you.

[@robettakruger2760]

@@AntonioBorrello yes, super sad that there are even terms for such bad behavior. I honestly would rather have someone just be honest with me instead of trying to keep me on the hook as a back burner option.

[@96wordpass]

@@AntonioBorrello yes I am very interested in bread crumbing and orbiting. I did not actually know there were terms for this, lol! But, sadly, I have experienced it.

[@ellashailamislang763]

Antonio Borrello can i ask your email.. Thank you

[@juliejuleswiingreen7277]

What if it's a long-distance relationship? My ex is really ambitious about his music career and he would never move home just because I wanted him to commit. (move into an apartment) I am 20, he's 23...He cares about me but won't give up his dreams. So he broke up with me because I called him too much, was planning our first vacation this summer, and was talking about buying a new bed together. SURPRISE surprise... that totally pulled him away (I know after watching all videoes there is on youtube)I just want a non-complicated boyfriend who wants to be together.

[@victoriafontana3520]

@@96wordpass but I have found Rachel is most men will keep you and be looking for another woman who is better than you in their eyes

[@natechriswell]

Last night I said to him "Your happiness matters to me, and I can't make you want me. So, yeah I want you to do what you need to for yourself, but I definitely have feelings for you, feelings I know could grow. It would be painful for me to be around you and not be building something meaningful. I guess if something changes for you where you might want to try, please let me know. I hope I'm still here, cause I cant do fuck buddies situ, and If there's no chance you want a relationship, then I'm not going to hurt myself being around you. If something changes you know where I am".......actually feeling relief...not sure if I'll work, or I'll hear from him, but I'm free to live...

[@rosieeye6812]

Omg that says exactly how I feel!! Ty(I’m plagerizing tf outta this!)

[@felistusmumbua4258]

Hi Natasha, This is so me 2 weeks ago...did he come back?

[@tiktoktiktok4056]

Damn!

[@jm7Dreamer]

You shouldn't have said "please let me know". You just say I want someone who is 100% sure for me, you are not and it is fine. I can't see you anymore because I want to be happy and to be in real relationship. Just walk away and close the fucking door!

[@mohamedsied1401]

Today I heared the same exact excuse " I'm not ready for a relationship" I'm so broken hearted, it hurts.

[@cherutoirene6776]

Sorry

[@yvonnemorgan9002]

Be strong and better days will come. A ton of world wide Beautiful famous women have the same issues.

[@cherylthompson2731]

I feel this way now! He's in an unhappy marriage so we're " just friends" but, it's like impossible! I really care for him but, I need to step back.

[@lizzylisa1904]

How do you feel now.? I hope your happy 🙂

[@mohamedsied1401]

​@@lizzylisa1904 now i look back and i feel nothing. not even "Screw you"!.. just plain nothing (-:

[@l3l3Cakes]

What I’ve come to understand is that no one will pass up on someone they really want. That’s like saying, “I really want to be rich one day, but not at this time”, If anyone (not just a man) wants to you, they will jump on the opportunity. Also, if you respect yourself you won’t make yourself constantly available to be passed up and under valued!

[@citizn-xh7rv]

Great analogy I really like this one. It's so true I'm sick of the excuses when it comes to dating, if they really like someone they won't hold the relationship off, or say they need a huge amount of time to decide things.

[@orangecookielee6412]

Dating other guys? 🙄 I am so done dating games. Dating is harder than my work projects, I’d rather focus on my work/promotion/invest 💰 myself where the hard work is paid off with satisfying rewards.

[@sweetesthershey]

I am exactly on this situation... i stayed too long waiting for him to commit. But... i realized i deserve more. Specially right after watching this video. Right at this moment i know i have to move on. Thank you so much for this. More power.

[@sweetesthershey]

@@AntonioBorrello we even lived together (so i can push him and help him find a job). But you know what? Instead of finding a job he find girls online and hookup with them. And its not just 6months. Its almost 5years. I thought he would change and finally learn to appreciate me. I never forced him... never pressured him to commit. He even told me he loves me and I thought we are getting there. Yes, you are right he is getting gf/wife benefit from me. But no. He did not change. Still does not want relationship with me. So, I made up my mind and told him that "I CANNOT LET YOU KEEP DOING THIS TO ME". He keeps playing me, using me because im convenient for him while he still hook up with other girls when we are not together. And im not happy with how he is treating me. After watching your video... it inspires me more not to keep up with his crap and stop being with him. I deserve more and i deserve respect. Billions of guys out there! He is not the guy for me. He don't deserve me. Its been almost a month since i told him i do not want to continue and i stopped communicating with him. I did not reply from his messages since 28th of march. All his belongings are still here. I do not want to reach out and tell him to get his stuff. I want to give away all of his things so when he finally decides to get his things... i can tell him that he no longer have his stuffs and I give it all away. So he wont have any reason to come here. I dont want to see him anymore. He even blocked me on viber which i do not care. I dont need anything from him anyway. Your videos are inspiring. It made me realized that i do not need him. Yes. Its hard leaving someone you loved (who does not feel the same way). But i deserve someone who wants the same thing like i do. So for now, i focuse more on myself. My goal is self love and I try everyday to keep myself busy and do things I enjoy. They said, if you love yourself more love will find you. Thank you for your help. I hope you will help a lot of people out there struggling in their relationship. Again, thank you and more power!

[@Francy375]

My current situation 🙋‍♀️

[@elsiemanubag6758]

@@sweetesthershey Thank you. I thought i am d only unlucky lady hooked on a wrong guy. On the other way around, we are blessed by God for He took us out of the worst situation. God loves us. We are on the same tract...on the process of moving on, letting go, and engaging and giving more on self-love. Thank you so much for this agreeably very inspiring video. I love it so much! Big help!!!

[@sweetesthershey]

I'm in a new loving relationship now in the past 6 months! He treats me like a queen and he loves me very much. Love will come to you... Don't forget to love yourself first.😊😘

[@elenajohn8840]

@@sweetesthershey I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley 💝🌹🥀

[@Hotnighteventsnj]

When they don’t want a relationship, give them what they want and walk away !

[@amandabrown8535]

Topic idea: why he's afraid to get into a relationship with you even when he says he really likes you

[@fabiolatiscareno2661]

Amanda Brown lip service that’s all that is love. If a man is really really interested in having you in his life he will commit to you bottom line. He doesn’t see the value in you or you just haven’t proven your value to him. Simple

[@Beadacut_]

i want this topic please.

[@baydoona4403]

I used these methods few days ago, he finally said , he really like me and like " really " but even if we were in a relationship ,how is it gonna be after he left the country ? Since he couldn't do Long Distance Relationship , he needes to see his gf and close to her and ever tried it with his ex 6 years ago but still broke up. His job is a model that demands him to travel to many countries, he could have stable relationship when he settles in one country , he said.

[@brynebroderick9239]

What if in a long distance relationship, he says "if you lived closer, there's no doubt I would commit 💯 to you, I love you and don't want to be with someone else but..."

[@AN-cw8ub]

If a man says he’s not ready to commit, it usually means not with you. He still waiting for a better option.

[@cherrylyndaigo4930]

Just dont ever fall in love. Love urself first so u wont get hurt.

[@anthonyrivas4377]

You can do both

[@megrorden4921]

Maybe if we're really in love, we don't fall, we recognize that we are "standing in love"

[@n.v.1173]

Keep it moving. If he returns with a real commitment 💍 then it was meant to be. If he doesn’t, be grateful. You dodged a bullet.

[@christinecarlos7316]

NOTES: 1) Give yourself a time frame (to make a decision; get to know you to get deeper) 2) Stop thinking & talking about commitment. The more you talk, he will feel pressure, no talk on future & commitment. 3) Stop giving him everything he wants. Set BOUNDARIES. He's getting all his needs met. Say NO to him. No last minute dates. Make plans. 4) Make him work for it. Make him invest in you & work harder. Let him do things for you. Men appreciate & value what they work hard for. You share decision making. Make him invest time, effort & energy. 5) Keep your options open. Date other men. Men get complacent & take you for granted. He has no fear that he will lose you to another man. Don't stop dating other men. Keep you calendar full so you're not as available. 6) Have the talk when the time is right. Give the "spiel". Dating casually will just sabotage your chances.

[@parrotshootist3004]

Please do this. Line up your cat future. There are people who have invested in pet food and veterinary services.

[@rosemariemerzlak3856]

​@@parrotshootist3004she speaks truth. Keep options open

[@caradaniels4040]

Someone that CONFUSED is BAD news. I say continue to be nice but busy with your own fun life, goals, travel, school, dating, etc. Also, NO benefits, booty calls, etc. YOU are back in charge of you. Take back your power, FLIP the FREAKING SCRIPT. Stay SWEET, just say NO its NOT what a QUEEN would do.

[@lifeofthepodgorskis_]

Cara Daniels I appreciate this!

[@kotare86]

Soy la Pu Yes, this is what you do. They are a lost cause but there's no point cutting them off completely (unless they are abusive etc of course). I cut my guy off after he dropped the "can't do commitment, soz" spiel and I think it took me much longer to move on.

[@roxismith6122]

The old saying is "why pay for the cow when you get the milk for free"

[@lulalula7120]

😁😁

[@victoriafontana3520]

@@AntonioBorrello men today seem to want the milk for free with no commitment.when they reach a certain age 50 and over there so afraid they're going to die tomorrow they want to experience every woman they can

[@sherishawty]

Hahaha

[@queenesquiresquad]

Roxi Smith bs. I’m saving myself until marriage and still run into the same situation

[@Oddoneout22]

Men don't want candy unwrapped and with fuzz balls on it. Make him buy new candy.

[@graciedg5723]

I dated a guy who doesn't want commitment. So, I let him go. I deserve a better one. 🤪 I know my worth.

[@The_Lovey_Informer]

Top 4 priorities 1) Myself 2) Money 3) Parents 4) Hobbies/Pastimes So I'm good, and I'm 19.

[@mmommo2025]

#1 is God, the rest will work out.

[@marieberry6021]

Money over parents.... ok lol 😅

[@relayne6609]

ive been in a no label relationship for almost 3 years he told me that iam important to him. Deeper feelings towards him is too much painful. Until now.

[@stephaniebenjamin7812]

Thanks for this video! I have learned that when I hear “I’m not ready/looking for a relationship”, that means “I’m not looking for a relationship with you”. I take for what it’s worth and move on.

[@stephaniebenjamin7812]

Antonio Borrello....thank you and again, I’m a huge fan of your videos!!

[@denig2000able]

Me too. I run very fast. Next as they say eh!

[@Nesterou]

That's not really what the video says 🤔

[@stephaniebenjamin7812]

@@Nesterou thanks !

[@nadineboggon7346]

Video topic suggestion 1.) How to create an emotional connection with someone you found online and have not met yet and is long distance. Also same thing for keeping an emotional connection after you have met. 2.) Should you be in an exclusive relationship with someone long distance if you met online or just wait for exclusivity until you are both living in the same town?

[@PosLifeHypnosis]

Suggested topic: How to deal with a man who says he respects your boundary but then continues to try crossing it. Actions don't match words.

[@ivy3839]

They simply tearing your set boundary ... just in case !

[@intuitiveself-love9513]

Drop him!! Lol

[@amasion2882]

Nancy Martin : It depends. If he’s violating you physically, sharply insist he take his hands off you. Remind him you agreed to respect the limit. Add that it’s unpleasant to spend time with him when he repeatedly disrespects you. If he continues trespassing, dump him. It’s a red flag.

[@GinGin28]

Run

[@ankitasaha_1]

Run away from manipulators like that. They invade your boundaries very tactfully and playfully. 1 year late so, I hope you have run by now 🤣

[@Sevyn984]

The way how they treat you is how they feel about you, period...

[@emmaalvarez1617]

Woh!

[@MyLifebyJuliaIRL]

why do guys say they have no interest but they get mad when another person wont date you ? this is my topic and current confusion please help oh there is more to this but its my first idea

[@KarenDTA]

Men say they don’t want a relationship but the “with you.” Part of it is as silent as the G in lasagna. ( I quote I saw from twitter, idk who but it’s so true!)

[@chonalyn298]

My long distance bf told me his not ready for relationship after he tell me tht he love me...n his scared bec of his past...but stil want to talk to me as a friend do i need to accept tht or i just ignore him?

[@elenajohn8840]

I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley 💝🌹🥀

[@elenajohn8840]

He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰💯💯💯💯

[@elenajohn8840]

Text him on whatsap

[@elenajohn8840]

+2 :3 :4 :9 :0 :5 :6 :7 :3 :1 :5 :3 :4

[@JKkimnuu]

Stop giving him everything that he want that's I must remember 😞😞😞

[@mjbravo2794]

Suggested Topic: What does really a guy feel if the girl they like dates other men? When he was the one who suggested to keep her options open since he isn't ready for a relationship yet.

[@Mamijae__]

Same question that I need an answer to..

[@SophieLaureen98]

He wants his cake and eating it 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@kia6955]

You're soo on point!! I kept my options open and dated others (wasn't even interested) I was unavailable for him..when he asked for my time. The VERY NEXT TIME I saw him.... He asked me to date him exclusively!!! Thank you!!

[@telsclark]

But is he dating you exclusively

[@superstarnokids]

Awesome 🙌🙌🙌

[@TinaMuse-n3b]

Were you putting stories on Instagram with other guys to make him jealous or you just told him you are dating others?

[@LisaGemini]

Most women sleep with a guy too soon. If you give up the cookie right away and is getting all his needs met, you won't get a commitment. You have to say no. Absolutely right, Antonio.

[@queenesquiresquad]

Lisa Cunningham I never even had sex with the guy I dated several months. He claimed he wanted marriage with me etc and then later said he just got out of a two year relationship and wasn’t ready. So it’s not always due to sex. I never even had sex with the guy I was dating and he still led me on

[@LisaGemini]

@@queenesquiresquad I'm sorry that happened to you. People need to be more aware of what their real needs are and be open and honest so they don't lead others on. It's sad.

[@MeganMay62442]

Yeah but what people never talk about are the woman's sexual needs. Maybe we "give it up" too fast because we are actually in heat at the moment and really like the guy and want to sleep with him! So I'm supposed to be able to control my hormones and my sexual desire more than him? That's not fair. Men should learn how to say no to sex too. They should say I want to but I want us to get to know one another first so we can possibly build a relationship before being intimate. Men need to control their desires too it's not fair to say that only women should have to learn to control themselves. That's unnatural.

[@rhondastrode2072]

If sex are all of his needs, you don't want him anyway. Women get hobbies.

[@shutit4024]

Megan94824 I agree

[@juliaperry9452]

Emotionally unavailable men who keep stringing you along 🙄

[@queenesquiresquad]

Julia Perry right

[@rimamalak4988]

Yep. Avoidants

[@cheapeatz3336]

Can you please make a video on dating while a person is separated or going through a divorce.

[@trueleo4103]

A guy told me he doesn't want a relationship but if he did it would be with me. He texted me twice but I'm doing NO contact.

[@Dreaming1970]

Where were you when I was younger

[@someonetotalkto6927]

I have this doubt I'm seeing this guy, actually we're already five months knowing each other, but the thing is that because it's a internet relationship we won't start dating until we see each other in real life, so basically we're kinda friends with benefits... but without benefits? Does that make sense? So what now??

[@KarenGarcia-wg8fo]

Can u make a video on why we get hung up on one person and how to detach ourselves ...

[@nourelhouda1802]

It happened to me and it's true 😔😔the more you talk about it the more he ignored ..I pushed him I tried to give him what he wanted and that took me to no where I just want him one day realize that he lost a girl who really loved him ..

[@elisarios1044]

what to do when you were already in a relationship because he wanted but then get dumped because he realized he was´t ready

[@dickbanger8924]

You was a pain in the ass that's why he binned you

[@roseluz1765]

How does one deal with a broken heart? That's a topic for discussion.

[@meganthebritishcatmom]

I'm in this exact same situation right now...

[@jallowsbeautyjallowskitche2209]

Me too sis..He told me he don't want something serious but he introduces me to his mum n friend am confused glad i found this video .

[@estherng3574]

SAME frick

[@lindal6032]

Megan Hensel, I am also and he has some kind of hold on me. It has been 6 months, in a long distance (150 miles) relationship. We still text daily and some calls. I am still communicating with other men but can’t see anyone now with our stay at home order. He is 72 and I am 70. He went through a bad divorce and has had a loss by death of someone he almost married. We enjoy each other’s company very much when we are together. What is your situation?

[@AntiquityCentury21]

My advice to ladies on this (from a man's perspective--at least my own from my experience) when he gives you the "I'm not ready for a relationship" is that, yes, take him at his word *but* also don't take it personally (like many are suggesting). It's true, most guys *do* want a relationship but they have so many fears. The worst is when women want to have "the talk" about where the relationship is going. It's understandable, but can be avoided. Instead of waiting for that dreaded, indeterminate moment when you decide to broach that question, be more up-front from the beginning but do not make it personal (that will defuse the pressure of him feeling he must make a once-in-a-lifetime decision either on the spot or at a specific time in the future). If he says that he is not looking for a relationship, then just continue the conversation and try to *not* make the focus all about him. You might say, "Yea, I know how you feel. I've been there, but I think that I am maturing enough to possibly enter a long-term relationship soon. Maybe someday you will be too." That is a far more attractive way of approaching the subject without making the guy nervous, and he will possibly feel more comfortable with you afterwards to open up about his fears. Guys like to feel independent, even if they know they want a relationship. You can make him feel this way without being pressuring or manipulative, you just have to give it some effort to understand male psychology. If he is dead-set against a relationship, a few more interactions (maybe another date or two) should give you that clear picture. Thus, I would advise against simply moving on immediately if he says he doesn't want a relationship, but rather to do so after a bit more general communication.

[@Oktaviii]

AntiquityCentury21 women don’t do it because it hurts our ego. We are literally being rejected, so staying around for him to “get comfortable” just doesn’t sound right. Especially if we have other options who are begging us for relationships. It’s like who does he think he is? If he is not into it as much as I am, right now, I have other options who are. Yes, he was number one on the list at this moment, but there are so many other great men that sticking around waiting and begging him is not an option. That’s why the best option is to say ok, good luck, it’s over.

[@AntiquityCentury21]

@@Oktaviii I am glad that you have options, for sure. I in no way suggested that you should be "begging him" for a response (just the opposite, actually). I was only saying that you can give him one or two more chances (like another meet up, not the end of the world--not a sexual dalliance). Otherwise, it comes across like a very strict ultimatum up front--long term relationship NOW or bust! It doesn't have to be so brutal. I would also be wary if anyone, your or him, is "begging" for a relationship. Who does that, lol? Is there an ulterior motive in that case? Do you guys have the same goals? Level of intelligence? Religious beliefs? These are very serious issues that take a little time to start to understand. I was honestly just trying to give women some helpful advice and to remain positive about interacting with supposedly commitment-shy men.

[@Oktaviii]

AntiquityCentury21 “begging” was a strong word, by that I meant giving another chance or two. I just think saying something like “I’m not comfortable with keeping things casual and seeing different people. It’s not really my thing and I don’t think I can really get to know you if we are not exclusive. Also it’s hard for me to develop feelings if we see other people.” Then if his response is something like “oh idk, I’m not sure I’m ready” etc then to me it seems either he is not into it and giving him a chance is a waste of time OR he is a kind of a person that somehow is capable to have feelings for a girl while sleeping with other girls. Either option does not sound good. Thank you for your advice. But most women want men who know what they want and if relationships is not something they really want at the bottom of their heart, then it’s time to look at other options. It’s just better to stay friends and move on. It gets frustrating when a man wants several things at once, it comes of as very arrogant, entitled and disrespectful. It’s like “I want you, but at the same time I want to have a freedom to disappear any time I want, or go out with a different girl and when I miss you come back and know you are there for me”. Hell no. A guy gets one chance and if he is not sure it’s time to move on, because being a safety option in a “maybe” category is very toxic.

[@AntiquityCentury21]

@@Oktaviii Ah, well it sounds like you've had a lot of toxic experiences with men, sorry. I am certainly not talking about men who are trying to "play the field" but rather ones that may be nervous to make a verbal commitment to a long-term relationship after only a very short time meeting a girl.

[@Oktaviii]

AntiquityCentury21 I’ve never met men like that. Not saying they don’t exist but most girls who complain about guys who don’t commit are probably not talking about the guys you are describing. Most of the time they are facing the situation with guys who are trying to play the field. That’s why you are seeing so many comments that tell the girls to move on right away, because in 99.99999% of the cases it’s not about a guy being shy it’s about a guy who wants multiple things at once while taking 0 responsibilities.

[@solexbesty4227]

This Is my suggestion and it's even what happened to me... I asked my ex boyfriend why he doesn't tell me frequently he loves me but he answered, he likes me as a gf but doesn't love me.. But he still wanted to be with me.. Does that makes sense? Whereas I do love him. What pained me is that he even got the courage to give me that kind of a response.

[@dickbanger8924]

My ex girlfriend said to me that she didn't feel that I loved her, I said explain to me what love is...... she had no answer, how can someone feel strongly about something they cant even describe, the myth of love is just another word for kissing her ass

[@nikkaaguila9186]

What if he is your best friend and you have same feelings with each other but he doesn't want to level up your relationship yet and acts publicly like he doesn't have anyone in relationship with.

[@myhuniegirl1]

I’d love to see a video with the topic of “how do you know if things will get serious or is it just a booty call to him ...

[@8309barbie]

myhuniegirl1 yes!!!!

[@LinaP]

Perfect timing for me as well. He keeps saying “Let’s take things slow”. Future topic? Better communication tactics for couples

[@jessedavis6296]

He wasnt ready for a relationship... but then goes and tells all of his mates how much he likes me

[@margaretearly386]

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[@lo9099]

You mentioned dating other people. If no one is asking you out, how is this possible?

[@lo9099]

@@AntonioBorrello Hi Antonio ☺ I'm too scared to try online dating. That's where all the serial killers hang out waiting for their prey! 👹😱😆 I know I need to get out more. I just want to feel safe and not sorry later. The world is not what it used to be. 😞🌎

[@unamass75]

L o you just have to give it a go, sign up and play with the chats, gotta be in it to be able to eventually “take our profiles down”

[@lokinggoodbrowneyegirl9557]

I dont want a relationship I m on my own he can do the f***" he wants

[@TheBlairWenchProject]

_he told me that. I started seeing other ppl_

[@polinamuo4683]

Good for uuu

[@queenesquiresquad]

I blocked him. Guess I screwed that up. But I couldn’t stand his Constant mixed messages, ignoring me, texting me one day and then Mia other days and selfish af. So I was too fed up and walked away.

[@queenesquiresquad]

Antonio Borrello I’m hurt but getting over it. I’m glad I finally reached the stage where I don’t want him back at all and over the idea of him. I deserve better. Thank you for responding! You’re the best!

[@osamanofal9454]

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[@veronicawells9923]

This is very helpful. Keeping option open. Love it. Never thought about it like this. Thanks for opening my eyes!

[@veronicahamilton5513]

What to do when he comes back? How to be clear with your expectations?

[@osamanofal9454]

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[@somebodysopinion543]

Tell him straight up. I refuse to do relationship things with you unless we are in a relationship.

[@What_Els]

Yeah, I feel like 2,5 years of trying maybe should be the limit of my time frame... stupid voice in my head always telling me, what if he needs just 6 more months.. girl, don't be silly

[@ultrakrisi]

Ladies, manipulating him will never result in a long term thing so let go

[@shakellseymour9346]

Thats true but this video isn't about manipulating him. Its about setting boundaries and standards for yourself, giving him to think about what he wants, and then dipping if he can meet them.

[@AnaKiefer]

Self love or how to add value to yourself should a topic.

[@tebandekemaryam2646]

I love this

[@tonyahallock818]

Antonio, I just discovered your channel, and happy that I did, this video has given me a new perspective on dating since I lost my husband of 22 years back in December 2018. I wasn't really wanting to jump into anything serious, I just wanted to be single and enjoy meeting new people. Anyway, recently by a chance encounter I met this man and though we have only seen each other a couple times [too soon I know] I feel like maybe it's time to re-evaluate my not wanting to commit feelings, because he makes me feel every bit the way I want to feel and treats me the way that no other man I have dated in the months after losing my husband has made me feel. Anyway, this has given me a new perspective on the modern dating scene. VIDEO IDEA: How to handle getting back into dating after losing a spouse once you become a widower after a long marriage. Thank you, great videos.

[@m.r.m.5856]

*Suggested Topic: Why are men in love triangles?

[@najmataaj5181]

This same situation hit me once n even went into depression for months, but when I started watching yo videos it changed me alot in many directions

[@SB-zw9hv]

Next topic ‘He is afraid of commitment because of previous bad marriage/relationship’, basically how to help him or her overcome previous bad relationship & not carry baggage forward

[@margaretearly386]

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[@margaretearly386]

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[@noahle6281]

I’m afraid if I dare other people he will think I’m a hoe.

[@BYCDatingStoriesandAdvice]

It’s very hard to get someone to do all of these things after the fact. I think it’s more important to set expectations upfront. Feeling someone out and keeping our emotions in check is more important. It’s not wise to date a guy who is not looking for a relationship. You end up in a Frienationship, always questioning where you stand! It’s manipulative to act like you’re in a relationship and do relationships type things without the commitment. If they do not want a relationship there is a reason. Maybe they’re a great guy, but if you’re not on the same page it will not work. Go on with your life and be patient. We often make choices out of desperation and stay when we know we should go!

[@danaglover6801]

Antonio Borrello Hi... I just recently stumbled on to your channel and found that you’re the male in my life that I’ve needed to tell me all along how men think. Long story short... I met this man abt 3 years ago, at least. He didn’t speak up right away. After a year or so, he finally make an initiation to say something to me. I invited him in. For the first maybe 5 months we were really into each other talkin all the time we hung out a few times. Early on within those few months I saw things start to change. We haven’t been intimate in over a year. Text msgs have been cut way dn and so has conversations. He used to pick me up all the time bcuz we live so far apart from each other. He ended up having an amputation and I was there wit him thru it all. Made sure I was by his side wit whatever he needed. He keeps promising that things will go bk to the way they were in the beginning. I’ve lived on this for I know now well over another year. I’ve explained to him that I wasn’t gonna let an amputation stop the way I felt about him. Work us always the excuse now as to Y he hasn’t asked me to spend time wit him. This man is 50 yrs old!!!!! What’s the real deal here. I’m done wit all the talkin and no action all the promises all the excuses about work. I explained this all to him as to how I feel. He says things will change just him some time. That’s all I’ve been doin is being patient. But I’m done now. He texts maybe 3 days now out of a 7 day week. I only text him now if and only if I hear from him first. I’m too old for foolishness. I’m not 50 but I know I don’t have time for this shit. WHAT’S THE REAL DEAL?

[@mummyrk]

Liked to make it 100

[@Ldykittydee142]

You can’t make anyone to commit to you!!! You can’t make someone to be with you!! Is just wasting your time💔I been there. Just trust your intuition on a person is ready for a serious relationship 💛♥️🧡💜💚❤️💙💚

[@Lyslyou]

Make him work for it.. This one comes up often and I like it. He needs to invest his time. I will keep this in mind :) same thing with the fear of losing me. I know my worth. Thank you Doctor 👌🏾

[@debbiec4886]

Your the best relationship coach I’ve heard on here ! Thank you 😊

[@latoniacager2662]

What happens if u dated before he wasn’t ready you cooled off for a couple of months then started back dating and afraid to ask what he wants

[@kellyblair2186]

Great point of view!!! Wish someone would have spoken these words to me years ago! All women need to listen to this video. Very smart!!!

[@kringv.1310]

If he says he’s into a commitment issue? After dating him for almost 3mos now .will I give him more time to think if he’s ready or should I let him go? Please help

[@AFilipinaLovestoTravel]

Let him go, Don't waste your time for nothing, You deserve better than him. Just pray to God. Kaya natin to.

[@divyanidutt958]

It feels so freaking good when you’re in the exact same situation but guess what, you’re already doing all this without thinking too much about it. He’s so right, ladies gotta raise their standards! 😍👌

[@anitaromero3121]

I think you should make a video about someone being married to a person who is putting them through emotional abuse without that person who is doing it knowing it.

[@Sophia-mf2pq]

This video was absolutely amazing . Situation I’m in and have been too often. Didn’t need to pay a love coach of £150 an hour . Thanks!!!🙏🏼

[@ladytcamel8198]

This was a very helpful video I needed these tips. Thanks Antonio!

[@aishawilliams7181]

What to do if he agrees to marry, but deep down you know he did it just to keep you from dating other men, and when you bring up the wedding plans he gets quiet or change the subject

[@mattamedjam450]

Oh... This .... I see, the term is "agree"., to marry you. He has to want it too.... He is dodging because he likely doesn't... But doesn't want to lose you or what he is getting.

[@cherbruin1637]

Exactly!!!

[@Lauren-ds3vw]

I think you might have to just say, “it feels like we’re in different places with this, I need to take a step back for myself.” And really give yourself (most importantly) some time to think about if this is who you want. If he truly wants to marry you he will say so and you will have the right to ask for something concrete. My 2 cents

[@fiona1287]

I think you already know the answer. He does not really want to marry you.

[@didhingsalazar9515]

Hi Antonio.. can you please give an advise if someone is in a long time relationship and all of a sudden the boyfriend asked for space

[@โค้ชเจรี่เลดี้เมืองนอก]

This is me right now, the guy who’s seeing me for 3 years doesn’t want to commitment, I just stop seeing him for two days and he seems not care much even he said he love me and care for me so much so I will try to do like what you said then I will tell you more about the results

[@Classic_literature]

What happened now..after 7 months!? 😅

[@radicalhonesty3628]

trying to focus on the video and it's so hard. I just can't. too many thoughts and feelings in me. I've fallen in a trap again. a terrible horrible painful awful trap. falling for yet again: another unavailable person. dear God, why do I do this to myself? I'm old now and I've never ever had love. never ever have I been in a real romantic relationship... the pain of this is so horrific: it truly rapes my soul.

[@imposphere4812]

I'm the guy who is not ready for commitments so i'm watching this to change help me how can i commit to her :(

[@aliyaasanovna5661]

Hi. Thank u for all what are you doing for us - Girls. I hope everyone Will find a right person

[@mariaclarissaraquinel3699]

Thank you for making this video! Very timely for my situation. A wrong match doesn't define a woman's worth. Note to self.

[@mariaclarissaraquinel3699]

Antonio Borrello Hi. I want to ask your thoughts about my situation. I've been in a long distance relationship for three months now. Thanks to online messaging, my bf and I are able to communicate with each other. Lately, I noticed that he seem to "forget" to communicate. When asked, he told me that he's busy at work, gets sick or even lost my number. I am the one who initiates communication. On his end, he take how many days to have an initiated communication. I am quite having the feel that something is off. Any relationship advice? Thanks!

[@gavhlev2853]

Man has an intention.Just keep moving on

[@mkart9046]

I’m seeing a guy who says he loves me but there’s no commitment and we see each other about once a week. We have slept together at this point. There’s no real commitment

[@Skillcentrepro]

Why the only physical intimacy is considered love in spite of having no legal bond or commitment ? I mean, he asks for physical intimacy just to prove her love ,if she feels reluctant, he gets annoyed.its strange to understand

[@thecuriositearoom3541]

Thank you for this video, it really hit home! I think a video about situationships, what to look out for, how to get out of them/ change them would be amazing. Thanks for another wonderful video x

[@edwardcharlessturney2995]

Everything about him for her. What about the other way around. I am in a relationship with a lady that I love but everything this guy says is just the opposite what I've been going through. When he says him, in my case it would be her.

[@Delulu1989]

Can u make a video of casual hookup to committed relationship? Lol please pick me for Amazon gift card 😽

[@idkwhattonamemyself9326]

He makes me happy, he does everything for me, he's funny, sarcastic, good kisser, treat's me good but I don't want relationship cuz I don't like this commitment things duh it doesn't mean I don't like him it's just the way of thinking we enjoy each other's company cuz just bcuz giving a tag to relation doesn't make sense to me.

[@lilyg2134]

If a man tells you he doesn’t want a relationship, or he’s not ready to be a father, sis believe him, that’s his decision nothing is gonna change his mind... no need to play these games it will never work out!!!

[@reeferseasalt]

Enforcing boundaries if your needs aren't being met is hard but it's also empowering because you are listening to what YOU want. I went no contact with my fwb and ignored his texts and when he finally resorted to emailing me I decided to write back, that I don't want a fwb. I think he knows that but now I'm making it a reality. You're right about expecting change when he has no reason to.

[@leahsimiyu8269]

Yeah, he says he is not ready for relationship, yeah I don't have his time lol, let me mind my own business.

[@lloydchristianbalungcas7159]

Hello! Please request...can you please make a video with long distance relationship or long distance friendship...How to deal with it? Or how it will works? Thanks Dr.

[@CryptoProphet]

Suggested topic: "What to do when he comes back after a period of no contact." This is for a situation where you have set a boundary and made it clear that the relationship could work but certain things about it do not work for you. How do you deal with it when they do come back and say they've quit drinking or changed some other behavior that is destructive. I'm talking about deep changes here, not the kind that can happen in a couple of days or even a couple of weeks. How do you deal with this?