He told me to go back to China

Due to certain reasons, all communications between Lisa and her ex-husband broke down. He told her to go back to China, leaving her to fend for herself in this foreign country.
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[@all9115]

Good for you to leave that useless husband. Stay strong

[@ngrobert5054]

uselss husband correct

[@qiteindashenggreatsage3621]

I have met alot of useles wives too.

[@spiderjump]

What would say to her if she cheated on him? Would you say he deserved it because he must have neglected her or she would not cheat ? Please you have only one side of the story .

[@heibk-2014]

​@@ngrobert5054 when you refer to china is it the peoples republic of china or taiwan ? 😅

[@ongernie7216]

What have actually happen, we are not sure. This is one sided accusation. How accurate her words towards the actual incident is yet to be verify by the partner. So, we should keep out of these married break up. Yes, it can be very sad to knows what had been claim. But need to be fair to all parties. The person that have brought these story into mass media should understand the outcome.

[@hookkimhin7097]

Good to see you doing well now. Be positive in life. Fallen once but don’t look back. Life is a big challenge and you just need to move forward.

[@Wuyh99]

when u r in a foreign country is alr a pain, and by asking the foreigner to go back to their home country adds another level of pain/dmg to their emotion. Just imagine u going overseas and someone ask u to go back to yr country.

[@wangpaochen8569]

Exactly, these are racists' remarks n attacks on Asian Americans in USA is ongoing. Shameful!!!!

[@limrosemary8536]

marry to get citizenship is NEVER a gd way out of misery

[@Wuyh99]

@@limrosemary8536 but maybe she was naive too

[@Zubaidah000]

I never met rude China people before. I can get along with them. And I'm not Chinese. They don't deserve to get racist remarks

[@singaporean7672]

Marry the wrong man that's why. Perhaps her husband never love her. If you love someone you would always stand by and support her.

[@amandalee1268]

How does one know which man is the right one. Unfortunately, this is life, sometimes the person you think is ur life partner changes as time passes. We just have to learn to adapt and move on. In reality, being or falling in love are not forever in marriages, one has to compromise, give and take, support each other and of course there are arguments, sometimes big and small n there are children in the equation. At times, in life or when one reach a certain age, there are people who likes the bachelor lifestyle-man or woman.

[@hbu8012]

We need hear from the husband side of the story to be fair. Or else she is always the angel and her husband is the devil. She also refuse to be transparent on a particular incident. Maybe she cheated? Be unbiased pls.

[@arwanasuperred1321]

Agreed, Men are always blamed.

[@russiasucks7170]

Precisely , most of the people here had already jump to premature conclusion.

[@innovtech]

I applaud her for for her courage to move on despite discouragement and despair to pick up the pieces and move forward . Now she wants to help others too ! Awesome !!!

[@stoggafllik]

Go back to wuhan

[@wangpaochen8569]

@@stoggafllik Stop your Racist's remark!!! You dont know what happen. Dont give your nasty comment. Respect your neighbors.

[@MrLaueebee]

@@stoggafllik You sleep no wake lah.

[@stoggafllik]

@@wangpaochen8569 Another PRC mainlander bug.

[@wangpaochen8569]

@@stoggafllik Get behind me, Satan!

[@8888cA]

There is a popular Cantonese saying * If man can be trusted, pigs also can climb trees *..🤣🤣🤣 partly true...I am one of those men..🤪🤪🤪

[@singapore_liu8639]

I'm good man lei

[@fishingdad88]

Speak for yourself.

[@8888cA]

@@singapore_liu8639 good does not mean you are perfect...we are human after all..😜

[@lyhthegreat]

@@8888cA but there's still a difference between being a despicable man and an imperfect person..

[@hapainess3636]

@@8888cA good doesn't mean being a sh*tty person

[@suzannayong9484]

Actually we don know the hole story. 😊

[@luvmeno4643]

It seems like we do know the WHOLE story

[@jansoncho722]

Whether who we are, where we are. We must be strong, be healthy, be happy. We shall conquer all with our courageous. Keep it up!!!

[@donaldirene]

That husband is a disgrace

[@shirny74]

Oh Lisa, I'm so happy that you have a completely new life! I also from China and I was married a Singaporean. My ex-husband kicked me out in the mid-night several times, I know how desperate you are at the time. But believe me, everything will be fine, we'll go through it.

[@marctoh2947]

Everybody only hear from one side and only have the surface information. Nobody knows what’s the root of the tale deep inside. Not many can admit their mistakes but mostly accused others. They know better and it’s their own chosen path..before and after. So to each it’s own. It’s not fair for anyone to judge anyone of them. ✌🏻

[@johnnyphua4529]

You still look good Don't worry n don't think about him You will come across a good man n take care of you. Stay strong n positive

[@CK-mp9pq]

It is very fortunate to have good friends in times of need. One may have many friends but the true ones are those who stand by you in a crisis.

[@tompp894]

Thanks for the nice story 😊👍 , it inspire me to overcome myself to face it and move on stay positive jiayou

[@ajisenramen888]

With two kids who are Singaporean why is she still a “foreigner”? Isn’t she at least a PR? Before the birth of her kids, she chose to marry and live in Singapore. Even with a divorce, even without care and control, she still has custody of her children or at the very least visitation rights. You can walk away from the ex husband but you can’t really walk away from your kids right?

[@MichaFang6579]

What you say its true..but what happen to us we still a foreigner although we have kids.bcoz we stay by married visa.if divorce we not longer stay here if no body garanty our visa.they say we cant take kids bcoz we a foreigner..kids must stay by papa..some people not understand ...they say mama go away not care kids..but they not understand..this ex husband control all.what we can do?we only foreigner here?sorry i say this..bcoz this same happen to me

[@ajisenramen888]

I am sorry it happened to you. And I do hope you get to be with your kids as often as you want. The courts can usually vary visitation if you request it and it is deemed in the best interest of the children. My friend has to shares custody with foreign ex spouse but he gets restricted visitation (as in supervised visitation without her present) because things got so bad between them.

[@submaxatp]

The reason, might be the loser husband didn't want to apply PR for her despite their marriage status. As a matter of fact, She must thank that LOSER for making her who she is today, good riddence for her that LOSER is gone for good; she now have a better life and go on the next chapter. 😊❤

[@bentan8927]

Hi Lisa, u are a very strong girl... Come on 加油Lisa加油.. u can do it... Rough patches do tanish, strong woman doesn't 哦！💪 U are a very great lady.

[@denisechan5992]

Seen some condemnation of the ex husband, but we don't know why the breakup as she does not say. The good thing is that fate intervene and she met a good lady Nicole

[@truthseekersane9224]

Congratulations Lisa, hope your life will turn for the better. Glad that your friends help give you a new future. Wish you happiness & success and a good life. Stay strong.

[@rickybatot9744]

Lisa, stay strong for yourself and especially your children. You are a Singaporean now. Get the proper help and live independently with yr children. You can go through these hard times. Never give up hope.

[@spiderjump]

One side of the story . Maybe the ex husband was abusive . Maybe she cheated on him? Maybe he cheated? Who knows ?

[@roberto2238]

Always listen to both sides story. be fair.

[@jamielim5059]

Never depend on men!

[@Paul265]

she is a beautiful woman, i hope that soon she find the happiness she deserve.

[@cindysiew257]

Lisa加油! Similar for relationship if you put in efford...you can also nurture a healthy relationship.

[@shaunyeo3426]

Great for sharing your story.

[@gingsing202]

I advise her husband never ever think about marriage as he was not qualified at all

[@Wanyann]

I am a native Singaporean empathetic to your story. Be strong move on for the the children sakes. I apologize on behalf of the Singaporean men bad treatment towards their foreign wife. This is because we had seen many were cheated by the ferocious Chinese wife. So the experience might really given some married men wrong ideas towards their China wife. However, not all are bad, some China wives are really good faithful and treated their in law filial and sincerely. Lisa, you are one of them hope you have a good chance in your marriage again.

[@miriamtiuseco2nd]

Cheated as in being demure and gentle while on courtship, and being ferocious after marriage OR being cheated by having affairs with other men? I think it's the 1st since I heard chinese women are capable and if their husbands don't bring home the bacon, they goad the men to improve, so quarrels are inevitable. I don't think it's the 2nd one because they don't indulge in having relationship with other men except their husbands, , compared to some of our Filipino women here, which i heard many stories of from the TV, are promiscuous when their husbands are away from home

[@Wanyann]

@@miriamtiuseco2nd actually there are always 2 sides of the coin to such sob story. We have many such sob stories from foreign wives. Nowadays, Singaporean men are very careful to find foreign wife due to many unhappy stories about them. So we just pray that this phenomenon doesn’t continue

[@annechng9898]

I am filipina married malaysian chinese.he is alsolike that aso me to go back to my country.and when we uaving baby he started beating me slap me but i still for jim its because if i ask him separate he ask forgiveness.i stand and sacrifice its bcoz of my daughter.he cheated also.but i never find an man..im suffering depression .luckily. i have one friend who always help me.so either singaporean malaysian or different coutry it dpends to men.attitude is number 1

[@Wanyann]

@@annechng9898 I feel sorry to hear your story. Please be strong for your daughter, the gem of your life. Seek assistance from your embassy on your genuine case. They will always be there for you. God blessed

[@stoggafllik]

@@annechng9898 You deserved it. No sympathies for you

[@chatterbox7602]

Is good to heard that you love your children, children will grow up, so be strong.

[@gingsing202]

We have been married for 50 over years and I am a 75 elderly and never quarrel before because I truly understand the concept of a marrieged life.

[@syarifahnajwa5491]

Stay strong Girl...💪

[@arwanasuperred1321]

So many men' bashing stories in the society. We are aware.

[@leahquispe4569]

What makes you say that all I heard was the storey of her life... How strange of you to say this!!!

[@binodrai2654]

You don’t have to cry . You have to be strong no mater what for you kids !

[@ronniejames2392]

Stay strong with your good decision & wish you the best of future endeavour in Singapore

[@Nicole12Sam]

Go Girl and never stops! Been there before, it really takes a lot of will power and courage to stand up again...

[@bobbuilder1255]

My wife is Chinese as well now a Singaporean. If we ever quarrel, she is the winner 😒😂😂😂

[@oldlee2706]

Lousy man. Sia sway

[@Zubaidah000]

You're a kind husband. She's lucky

[@___Disha___]

she is a strong women. keep going ..best of luck ❤

[@kestrel356]

Wow!! Very proud of you sis 👌👌👍👍👏👏🌹💕💓♥️

[@sgpropertybuyertherapy]

加油

[@tanheng8265]

When people are much younger they are normally attracted to each other sexually, once the novelty wears off, things may not be so smooth and also probably due to other reasons such as financially difficulty or the man could have attracted to another woman. Have trust in the Lord, marriages are meant to last....

[@chatterbox7602]

Not all marriage are meant to last.

[@wangpaochen8569]

Satan will always attack marriage first because he wants to break up what GOD's has put together. Pray to JESUS daily many times to ask for help n if we put GOD/JESUS first in our lives n family, Everything will fall in place.

[@arwanasuperred1321]

women hit the wall after 30yrs old

[@hapainess3636]

@@wangpaochen8569 sadly, life doesn't work that way. When more or more years come by, the love in the marriage will come to an end sooner or later. Just enjoy everything in your life

[@wangpaochen8569]

Our grandparents, parents, in the old days, respect, persevered, had patience, tolerance, n suffered n went thru hardships together. Nowadays, young couples dont even really knew each other well, before they get married. One has to have a longer, decent modest relationship before "taking the plunge", get to know one another's character better, pray to GOD N trust in JESUS asking for guidance! Not just he's handsome, rich, n has the 4C or she is gorgeous or having same interest is not enough, once the honeymoon is over, just watch!!!! I have seen n heard many marriages broke up. *Without GOD'S teachings of true love, respect, patience, n perseverance in suffering n being tolerant during arguments, differences of opinions n bad habits, n being able to say sorry when wrong, n accept one's mistakes, marriage n relationship will never work*. *We need GOD to be in the center of our lives* N if we want our spoke to change, we must learn to change too. But natas is always there to break up all good things. I am older n have gone thru many ups n downs in my marriage life n THANKS BE TO GOD/JESUS, we both learn to respect each other, admit our mistakes n say sorry when wrong, laugh n joke even, therefore l can speak from experience! For all young couples, *What abt the marriage vows?* We should not forget the marriage vows. *l will take you to be my beloved husband/wife, cherish you, love you, in times of sickness n in pain blah blah blah..... till death do us part* And after a few months, a few years, all that vows just thrown out the window!!!!!! Might as well do away with all that if one doesnt take the marriage vows seriously!!! Marriage is not a bed of Roses all our lives. Its hard work for both. So many ups n downs. No marriage is perfect!!!! *Only in Hellywood crap fake make- believe movies, Hallmark dramas n Disneyland movies. Those are dangerous to watch. It brainwashed us to believe!!!! *Snap out of it* Life is tough in this evil world n natas is ruining marriages n families. Trust in JESUS N pray asking him for help n JESUS will. *Suffering teaches us humility*

[@pamguevara9237]

Every women or anyone deserve a second chance..Coz in Gods eyes we are equal!!!!

[@annechng9898]

In all stories here.this is call my attention.your experienced and me are they same.im suffering depression now.because of my husband

[@mooo400]

After kids are growing up, you already got the green card to work outside legally in Singapore.Of course you can divorce la.That’s reasonable.

[@hlwonka8783]

Be strong & stay strong for you & your kids.

[@abdrahmanabdullah3113]

Majority Women much stronger then men, generally men would climbed high building and become superman fly to the death. For men come on man respect your spouse.

[@dexterhuang7303]

加油你行的

[@B1essings-4-you]

This interview video like incomplete, no explanation why her husband ask her to return China ??? We only hear her part of story, why don't interview her husband too, so the story more complete

[@arwanasuperred1321]

Yess

[@dpuk6783]

It's the media always wants to sell the tears! Fairness in reporting is never in their priority list. The Singaporean husband should've been given a chance to speak for himself.

[@lyhthegreat]

likely both of them are at fault..

[@moonstars6279]

I heard mostly they stayed with sporeans men cisvwan a place to stay and work here aftertgat nobody knows wT are they're intentions

[@KironManuelCards]

Do you know how many women were rough with me?I have taken care of a lady's children.I rescued them lots of times and even took them for holidays.In another case I gave my money and time.In the end it is about money,race and religion.I have two jobs now.I have two active blogs.I like to travel so I am in Malaysia and Singapore.

[@qiteindashenggreatsage3621]

Good advertising

[@littledrummerboy9080]

IMHO, more credit should be given to Nicole and Ding. Even if you are the best in the world, but if no one gives you an opportunity, you are nothing.

[@adibolivares2377]

The alike alley affectively rhyme because connection sadly collect in a helpful gorilla. labored, nebulous money

[@besottedbelovedlovely2560]

She should get help from embassy or social worker in singapore..as she is a foreign worker..but all goes well..if the help of her friend..its good she has moves on..

[@peniosman4684]

Rakyat China tak salah Dan jangan terlibat pada rakyatnya Yang harus kita Persoalan adalah Pemerintah Kerajaan China yg buat angkara. Rakyatnya tak mempunyai apa-apa...jangan salah mereka. Mereka adalah sama seperti kita yang tak mempunyai apa-apa ditanah air sendiri. Mencari kehidupan untuk hidup ditanah sendiri tak ada tempat... dinegara lain ada kesempatan untuk berubah....Kita sama dlm satu rumpun iaitu "(RUMPUN MANUSIA YANG SATU) yg membezakan kita adalah kepercayaan masing-masing Dan ALLAH sudah tentukannya. Berbagai bangsa Dan berbagai agama anutan bukan bermakna kita harus membenci mereka...buanglah kebencian itu kita harus hidup bersama- sama sebelum akal menjemput kita. Kita hidup untuk sementara. Kita mencari kehidupan untuk hidup bersama-....aman Dan bahagian..yang jahat kita sanggah.

[@johntalo6082]

If you marry a foreigner, please respect her in everything no matter what happens but never say to her anything Infront of her kids. Seek happy life, don't stress yourself.

[@StarrySunnie]

Thank you very much 🙇🏻‍♀️🙏🏽

[@andrewchew2537]

Mind sharing what job she was working as when she first arrived in SG or before she met her husband?

[@李珊-f2r]

She would better be married with a Chinese man from China. They are better. Because a lot of Chinese Singaporeans act white. I prefer a traditional Chinese man Not an Ang Moh acting one

[@sweetcandysugaarmy8480]

Also, Mainland Chinese men are very hardworking , determined and business minded. The top 2 richest men in Singapore are new citizens from China. 👏

[@mavinaxi4240]

@@sweetcandysugaarmy8480 one of them is Zhang Yong, the founder of Haidilao.

[@sweetcandysugaarmy8480]

@@mavinaxi4240 That's right. He was just a poor welder from Sichuan during his youth and built up his Hotpot Empire from scratch. No handouts from wealthy parents. Forrest Li, the Boss of SEA Ltd is another success story. His company owns Shopee and bought over Home United Football club which got renamed as Lion City Sailors FC.

[@wangpaochen8569]

Well said, Lee Yeonah!!!!

[@karenlua5082]

Women shd stay strong . Women is survivors . 💪. Rise again .

[@LuLu-sf5cg]

Just be yourself, stay strong your path ,things you wanted to achieve, remember that you got kids , l am happy for you. Continue what you do best in Singapore. Singapore is your dream home . You will always be happier what you do .

[@clementwang7097]

This unhappy marriage is like a chicken living with a duck.

[@andrewau1993]

you are not Chinese you are Singaporean if you are from Singapore.

[@Andrew_Alxf]

Marriage is overrated, better single or have partner without marriage. Win win

[@leehooipeng8274]

Thanks for sharing Chinese hope you be happy on your life 💕💕💕💕

[@norman6499]

Morale of story of this kind: Build your career first.

[@wahlingtai1172]

她説話的語法與語氣，不像中国來的。

[@nalrani08]

Wonderful message. Tk u U r really blessed to meet the wonderful ladies who not only helped u but brought u to another dimension. Tks to them too 💐😘

[@hogspit9203]

how do u get mad at her being a mom thts her job df he wanted a sex slave or sumin

[@jamescrump8482]

your an amazing lady stay strong well done 👍

[@zzy341]

Don’t really wanna say this but my wife is from China and has been in Singapore for more than 15 years with a pink IC (even before we got married). Although she speaks Singlish, her Chinese is still very China sounding and would criticise our Chinese standards. She would always say Singaporean this and that, etc. Honestly, all of them still regard China as their motherland I don’t know why they take up citizenship! I did ask her to go back to China a number of times as well I don’t see what’s wrong with that.

[@zzy341]

I think they have problem differentiating Chinese (race) and Chinese (nationality) because she will always say we Singaporean Chinese are also 中国人 and we got into a number of heated argument because of that. I am not specifically anti-China but I feel if you really want to insist, my Grandfather was a Malaysian so I can be considered 1/4 Malaysian but I have no connection or whatsoever to China except for my race!

[@zzy341]

China people seems to think that Taiwanese and Singaporean Chinese are arrogant but from what I see I don’t think Taiwanese are arrogant at all! I believe this is due to us not admitting we are 中国人, and it means we look down on them. But what the hell?! 我是华人，不是中国人。我是新加坡人！

[@musawopatu7641]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I think the way you used to tell your wife go back to China was different from the way her husband used to tell her. So your wife never took it seriously. Or you might have said it then did or said something nice after. Usually it's the tone or when a statement is said that depicts the seriousness of the matter.

[@puremind6227]

妹妹，如果再恋爱，你一定要和伴侣沟通，相爱就是要表白交流！ 我有28 年的婚姻，相爱容易，初时相处会有磨擦！久了感情会稳固的！ 希望你克服感情的阴影！ 找到你的真爱💕

[@beautifuldurian]

U go girl!! 🤚👍🏼💪

[@najmikrisnawan189]

There are always 2 side of the coin

[@kawaiipink6958]

Actually the ex is the one that chooses the person to be : ex Wife so don’t mind me saying since.u were the want to chose this Wife don’t u think have a part to play

[@jjlim6569]

柳暗花明又一村，希望明天会更好。祝你和孩子们开心快乐每一天。谢谢。

[@Potomacstud]

Stay strong

[@rosleeabdulaziz7733]

Human mouth cant be control

[@rosleeabdulaziz7733]

Not all China girls are bad.

[@cktan4291]

The video didn’t say what was the cause that distanced the once loving couple.

[@sunatagunawan5316]

I must find ding @nicole

[@sebastianniqvist3144]

Why everybody blames her husband? Maybe she made a mistake and her husband didn’t want to put up with her nonsense. As soon as a woman start crying everybody blames her husband/partner/boyfriend. Maybe she is the one to blame.

[@lowhuiphing]

Jia you!

[@jaywu7078]

現代的女人不是古代時一樣，有自己的主見和理想，加油

[@lulukendahwa9749]

God bless you to be a blessing

[@lindatang4955]

Inspiring woman

[@healthivity365]

Thank you The Royal Singapore! I like to listen on how people growth and become a better person! It is inspiring! I like the way they encourage female! Woman indeed should help each other! But in real fact woman is hurting one another.. ladies, please.. stay strong! We should find our value! Encourage one another :)

[@richardlouis3929]

The SG govt does not give PR so easily even you have kids or lived here long enough.This is SAD

[@willengel2458]

Singapore is a small city state. so it must choose carefully. when China proposed legislations for citizenship and resident permits. based on public feedbacks, it now offers resident permit instead of permanent residency.

[@gabrielday9519]

Very sad😥

[@xXxXkuramaxXx]

Never tell someone to go back to their country. You have no idea or know nothing of what they where trying to escape from, or avoid, or maybe start anew. Sorry she had to go through that. And happy she got herself accomplished through her endeavors! Good job, Lisa!

[@yongkiankuen6480]

This lady husband is bullying ,As husband he must have responsibility don't bully foreign wife without family to turn to.

[@gingsing202]

Lisa, must be strong related to your personal problem. Nowadays most men treated their wife like slave which I certainly object. Wife were humans too and certainly need respect like everyone so what is the big deal?

[@ahanadivine6342]

I completely understand her. I am going through the painful marriage for 30 years. I am now deciding to take the divorce. Life is too hard.👍💕🤗

[@shaunkong62]

I think the videographer of this video can write a short summary about this woman, where from, what is this video about. I know you going to say, no time etc..

[@mariantia926]

人生都是历练，没有过去的无知，就没有今天的蜕变。As women, regardless where you are from, or where your partner from, do not assume they should take care of you. A partnership always needs 2 party to work together for the greater goods. Else you are in dreamland which reality is not. In the world now, no one is more trustworthy than our own self. Only believe yourself your worthy and not let anyone outside you judge you. Who is honest or dishonest only our heart... 靠树树会倒，靠人人会跑，靠自己最好，有钱没烦恼。

[@asokansubra2046]

🤷‍♂️ only god knows the real story. Too many incidents already happened.

[@marsitatulus4205]

Be strong...💪👈👈..Life is BEAUTIFUL..same as You 💕💕💕

[@christinetan2281]

👍👍👍👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏

[@browniepee6555]

Hate those partners dumped their wives or husbands! This too sad. Learn to stand up even it's so hard at first. Never think bad taughts about committing suicide because life is not worth it for someone who doesnt treasure a relationship! Having your children they're always your love ones. Do your best bring them up and educate and be useful person on earth! Mommy can do it so do you.. All the best..💌

[@thirumurthi7944]

Man or woman,good or bad,you are what you are.don't worry or slow or stop.keep moving with open heart and nothing will stop you as the god's will is not only for you but for everybody.may god bless you.

[@Hello-bq8dx]

If people bully you n make you slave. Write 1star for them. Simple. All is fair

[@catherinehui795]

God bless you and all blessing to you. Stay strong, keep well. When your ex tries to come back into your life, don't fall for the trap. You have moved on, he was not there for you. If not for your wisdom, strength, help of your 2 friends, the story would be different. I admire you, other women/men who are subjected to unreasonable nasty bullying behaviour from partners should emulate you. I'm now happy, retired but have had extreme hardship but I understand what u have gone through.