Healing & Learning to Love Yourself After a Toxic Relationship

[@nekohwa4962]

But a healthy relationship after a toxic one is terribly difficult

[@mandolaa]

Yes, even with yourself! It takes so long to be stable and okk

[@karenm254]

Yup no one really talks about that!

[@zainabfarooq2482]

People whoever were in a toxic relationship...know that u are strong and u have a life that u have to live u have a purpose of coming in this world I pray that all of you get healed and enjoy life as it is deserved to be enjoyed !

[@elizabethdavis9794]

Thank u ♥️

[@mugluvin3300]

“Walking on eggshells” That summed up how I felt. She was very kind in many ways but she didn’t let me be myself, I couldn’t say and do what defined me and her opinion of me could change on a whim. I know the pains of playing by someone else’s fiddle trying to be everything they want. It was an exhausting life.

[@gabbylikestowatchstuff]

Thanks for sharing your story. I myself was in a physical and emotional abusive relationship for 3 years and I thought after it was done that I was finally fine! I was wrong. The months after led me to a lot of realizations on self work I needed to work on. I had so much healing I had to do for me. I was so used to being hurt that i think people could sense that I was escaping from the pains of not loving myself. I was too attached to anyone I met after because I felt it was my duty to in able to feel like I can be cared for back. That wasn’t the right way to find love after love hurting me. Real love came from self love. I’ve remained single since that relationship and I been pursuing and putting my energy into my passions like hiking, writing, exercising, traveling etc. and I felt more rewarded and cared for after these experiences more than the relationship. I hope anyone who sees this video and reads my comment heals! It’s been since 2018 since it ended so about two years later, I’m still trying to find my healing. Please remain patient and let time show you real love. It will be an up and down journey like I had!

[@emilytaylor1001]

Great information!!! Thanks for sharing!!! I have left my narcissist 1 week ago, after living together for 12 years in hell. I had to record message on my phone before I called to him to tell I am done. My voice was shaking, I was terrified and scared to death. But I did it, I called him and broke up with him. No contact now, and I started self-love healing process. I am preparing my mind, that this is going to be a long journey.

[@freemind222]

Omg she fit every description! Wasn't allowed to hang out with friends, wasn't allowed to go to the gym, wasn't allowed to have any social media, she made me quit 2 different jobs. Made me feel like shit about myself. I can't believe I allowed this to happen to me. She told me things about me that I KNEW weren't true.

[@giaguastella526]

I just got out of mine yesterday and this is by far the hardest thing I've ever had to go through

[@leebella2160]

Inbox [phone] via WhatsApp for help now

[@mandolaa]

You're strong!

[@twinkletxt]

I just left a toxic relationship. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I miss him and I still love him. He’s done so many unforgivable things whether it be from the relationship or after I left him. I miss him. And I can’t let go. And part of me doesn’t want to. At some point he controlled every aspect of me. And I don’t know who I am without him. I dont know how to move forward.

[@OriginalGangster841]

Ash Jade i know it’s very hard to get out of it, and put effort into .. well... honestly speaking...starring over! Don’t be afraid to start over. I know what you went through and my recovery is taking forever.. I hate that part of it, but I am finally in a place where I once again know my worth! I know everyone has to take their own time, and recover on their own terms, but one thing I hope you consider is trying to do it faster than I did.. I wallowed too long... wasted time is the ONE thing we can’t get back! You seem like you are still pretty young, which is great! No one who doesn’t value you deserves your time!!!! Sorry it’s a rant, but I really wanted to say: I know you love him-BUT HES NOT WORTH IT!!! YOU CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER! FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF-I AM FINALLY BACK IN LOVE WITH MYSELF AND ITS THE MOST AMAZING FEELING! Forgive that person when you are ready and live you life while you have it. My good friends kept telling me, and I “understood”, but I refused to keep moving forward.. I would go backwards so many times. Please don’t go backwards! Your life is precious

[@missladypaigee]

Ash Jade how are you feeling about that relationship now?

[@giaguastella526]

felt.

[@agllvrez]

Aw girl, me too :-( i hope you’re doing better now

[@calicaldeb]

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[@camillathornhill8230]

Having finally left an abusive 20 year relationship in July I still feel like I'm living in a bubble. Just disconnected from life. I'm happy to be free of that intense fear I was experiencing but I'm still wading through the junk. I found your video soothing and comforting. Thank you

[@grimreap3rpro402]

Insecurities is first things first into a toxic relationship. If someone can't trust you being outside dressing how you and nor can they support you with in their defense because I love you it's really insecurity and sense of or fear of someone losing you and becoming jealous but the guy most times doesnt do the same thing either and some cases I seen this and it typically ended in cheating most times by the guy who was too insecure.

[@theangel5416]

I was in a very controlling and manipulative relationship for almost 7 years. Exactly what you say I have felt it and have lived it. I'm learning to love myself, leaving him was the hardest thing I've ever done. I just started running because it's better than crying..I think it's saving my life right now. I'm on an antidepressant because of how bad things got. I dislike having my pic taken as well. This video really helped me. Thank you so much. ❤️

[@gabrielapacheco8237]

I was recently diagnosed with PTSD due to being with a guy who would abuse me mentally and emotionally. It’s been hard but I’m seeing a counselor now and soon i will be seeing a therapist.

[@katb6112]

I'm currently in the process of separating after a 5 year nightmare and it’s the scariest thing I have ever had to do. I’m giving everyone who’s struggling virtual hugs because 2020 is an asshole and we all need hugs

[@misakdo9228]

I've been healing for the past 6 months and until now but i'm not giving up to fine happiness again....:))) Fact: if a couple breaks up the loyal one stays single and deals with the damage until it heals and the other one is in another relationship

[@tracyhunter4315]

Thank you for this. I've been in 4 domestic violence relationships. It's time to love me, because I've survived. I'm 44 years old, and now I feel it's time for self love, self nurture and self reflect. Thank you ❤

[@SoniaElsie]

Just watched this whole video and you are so well spoken. Thank you for sharing this story. This is definitely not something that anyone deserves and I’m so sorry you went through this. I am so happy that you took the things you learned from this and have been sharing your voice on Twitter / KZbin / IG. I guarantee you are helping hundreds if not thousands of people find confidence and realize their own self worth within their relationships or just on their own. You are extremely empowering and just seem like an overall very genuine person. I freaking love you! ❤️

[@SoniaElsie]

Also I feel like therapy should be free / properly covered for everyone society would be so much better as a whole! 😭❤️

[@AmandaSette]

@@SoniaElsie OMG SONIA I AM GOING TO CRY!!! 🥺You're so sweet, thank you so much for your support and love. I appreciate you endlessly!! ❤️My biggest goal with social media has always been to help others become confident and strong. If I can help just one person, I'm satisfied. It infuriates me that therapy isn't always covered by insurance and how expensive it is!!! Mental health needs to be taken more seriously and I hope one day I get to see when it is

[@guadalupemagdalena8344]

This morning I had a dmv appointment and I ended up not going and I had a mental breakdown and honestly I think it’s because the breakup happend last week and I thought I was doing perfectly fine. And today I started balling I think I needed this. Needed to cry.

[@mariana_m8888]

My abusive relationship had lasted for 9 years. There were all the kinds of abuse in that relationship from time to time but the one that never stopped was phycological violence . It's been 4 months now that I left it. He cheated on me and now he's married. Honestly, I'm happy that this one ended this way because now I'm pretty sure that he won't come back into my life. After a month of emotional struggling I sighed with relief. My self-esteem is getting better because I do what I love and treat myself without judgement. Though, I feel at loss when it comes to building new connections, with guys in particular. There's lot's of work on emotional health. Where to start? I don't know... I wish everyone who passed through such a hell - strength, love to yourself,supportive friends or anyone close and faith there's a future. Don't give up!

[@KellyKristin]

powerful transmission. Healing is a JOURNEY, but it is totally possible. You can heal from ANYTHING and be better than ever. I never thought my life could be as good as it is after so much abuse and toxicity, but there is so much on the other side.

[@johnnycoleman1255]

Kelly Kristin I'm learning to heal its definitely a journey

[@manuelajacquez5667]

I am glad I came across your KZbin channel

[@mcnimi]

i've found that i need to forgive myself for stop listening to my heart in order to move forward. to forgive myself for abandoning my heart. it's been a year and a half since i broke up with her we've been together for 3 years. now after a year and a half i'm starting to feel like myself again. sending love to anyone out there that goes through the same thing.

[@amandaryan3263]

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[@elainekling4687]

Please. Do more videos like this one please. I've been through the emotional and mental abuse. I'm trying to find to love myself again

[@Thesunshinelife]

Found your video on a day I really needed to understand this thank you my healing journey starts now and it’s honestly because of you😇

[@raesian1]

we stan a strong and growing queen 🖤

[@AmandaSette]

Love you angel 🖤

[@mandolaa]

Has anyone felt that his/her healing process of an abusice relationship has postponed because of other toxic people like family or friends? I takes me so long to get back on my feet because of other toxic relationships as well from whom I can't escape yet because of quarantine... so sad

[@HIGHIMALYSSA]

I'm wishing the best for you and your journey to heal from your abusive relationship!!

[@mandolaa]

@@HIGHIMALYSSA thank you, I really needed that :)

[@Manpreetkaur-lc7rf]

ive gone through the same thing..restricting me from posting pictures(tht other guys would stare at me),restricting me wearing jeans,feeling so insecure me talking to any other guy and fooling me by saying he's just protective about me.he told me tht his upbringing is this way and he can never change all this bt sugar coated it with excessive love and care.till this moment i thought may be il never get such care back again and someone who loves to express themselves so much that he loves me every moment.i knew his past bad history of relationships where he was never loyal bt i continued to give it a shot.now im realising day by day tht this is not love n evn if it is i don't want such kind of love.thankyou for sharing your experience i hope i heal soon❤

[@emilytaylor1001]

Great information!!! Thanks for sharing!!! I have left my narcissist 1 week ago, after living together for 12 years in hell. I had to record message on my phone before I called to him to tell I am done. My voice was shaking, I was terrified and scared to death. But I did it, I called him and broke up with him. No contact now, and I started self-love healing process. I am preparing my mind, that this is going to be a long journey.

[@Manpreetkaur-lc7rf]

@@emilytaylor1001 Emily im so proud of you..its gona be long because you need to heal from it bt trust me its gona be worth it..also u might feel pangs of loneliness or even question your decision if whatever u did was right? trust yourself in those times tht yes there was something majorly inappropriate tht made u take this step..my love and good wishes with you❤

[@emilytaylor1001]

@@Manpreetkaur-lc7rf Thank you so much for lovely words. I have 2 daughters to look out, and every morning I wake up, I am happy because I have a meaning to live. Now I am focusing on self-love. I discovered only now after 12 years living with narc, I had codependancy addiction disorder and never knew how to love myself. I am sooo happy, there are tons of info on youtube to educate ourselves. God bless you and your family, all the best!!! :)

[@gracemassey7644]

You just dm'd me back, the law of attraction is so so real, keep preaching your truth, OUR truth, for all of us who have survived or are still surviving abuse, the way you articulate everything is so poignant, you truly have a gift for it. Thank god I found you when I did 💜

[@AmandaSette]

So grateful for you Grace! Sending you all the love 💜

[@조수다]

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[@RenIkeda]

That is such a great outlet and same. Learning to heal and get to know and love myself again. Thanks for the chat

[@chanterobinson6533]

Peace and love everyone. One step at a time.

[@itsmfbrit1565]

This help me so much! ❤️ I just got out of a toxic relationship and thank you so much 💕

[@perezgiselle]

My dad died almost 2 years ago and now recently I just got out of the most toxic situationship ever and the pain and depression is extremely similar. I literally cry every day multiple times every day.

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[@mariakhalid4708]

Thankyou for this ❤️ really needed it

[@chrisce1265]

Keep talking and sharing your healing story! This experience is so prevalent and not many talk about it.

[@legendofcelink]

Thank you so much for this video. ❤

[@サラ-m9p]

I must say she talks from real experience. Great video!

[@tyesheaclarke2452]

Thank you so much!

[@vanessapineda6869]

Can someone share the top 3 things that helped them overcome a toxic relationship?

[@roseandrews8523]

Thank you so much for this. I'm just getting out of a decade of abuse with my husband.

[@basavmusic]

Thank you fro this. Please post more videos like this. 💖

[@princess17257]

I thank you 😍 so much for your video 😊 can relate to your story 💓

[@Cozy_cavy]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I love this, found you through your tweet

[@AmandaSette]

Thank you love! 💜

[@halle1560]

My past relationships hurt me so bad, first I had a emotionally exhausting person, he was always saying worrying things, and I cared and then he moved and broke up with me and the first day, he got with a new girl and would talk about him and her, and then I got with a kinda player guy and he was just really possessive and making himself sound like I could not protect myself and I didn’t like that so I broke up with him and then we are friends but for a month feelings were coming back but I knew not to get with him, and then I got with another guy months later and he was sweet and everything but I felt we were better as friends and so I broke up with him and he was so mad that he made a livestream with my first ex talking badly about me and I blocked them both and that really hurt me internally, and then my last ex made me feel so special and he was so loveing and sweet and we would cuddle and hold hands and then he broke up with me and my best friend got with him right after he broke up with me, and I was devastated, I was crying and shaking and I just felt so hurt and betrayed, so now I really don’t trust anyone at all.... and so I don’t know what to do...

[@nicoledelima7233]

Wow you just describe the relationship that brought me to this video

[@jaimebaker9722]

this helped me a lot

[@elliottfireice4394]

Their words haunt me to this day. I was friends with a man for 10 years. We were extremely close. When he had cancer, i brought him a card with the words to his favourite song and i gave him daily injections when nobody else was willing to. During the worse time of my life when i nearly died, his friend who was also my friend at the time, she compared me to an alcoholic wasting time at hospitals. She said I'd exaggerating my problems and she needed proof of my illness. When i ended contact with her, he encouraged me to have continued contact with her. He sent me absuive texts on her behalf which upset me to the point of me having a panick attack. He knew this but didn't care. He phoned her up when he was with me knowing i didn't want him to. When i ended it with him, he showed up at my work asking what he'd done wrong and how hurt he felt for me ending it all. He said I'd one day regret how i treated him. Then 12 months later, he texts asking if i wanted to hang out again. I never got any apologies. I've never been able to move past that

[@dusamag]

I like your honedt story sharing.. It was helpful for me ❤️

[@michellezoura6062]

Thank you ❤️ I needed this

[@alixlatour899]

Thank you xox this helped a lot.

[@djdanny6753]

It’s about RESPECT SO IF YOUR PARTNER DOESNT LIKE WHAT YOU DO THAT SHOULD BE TOOK INTO CONSIDERATION & IF NOT ITS NOT A REAL RELATIONSHIP. Love yourself & don’t settle

[@100nation5]

As a man I'm affected by a trauma bond from my ex wife. I was her knight n shining armor. Rescuing her from multiply shelters and being there for her. Eventually making her my wife. I found out she was for the streets and we divorced due to do her infidelity with a man that she decided to marry. She got kids from that marriage then divorce him. I take her back, accepted her children as my own. After 10 years thinking we finally found a stable and happy home. You guessed it" she cheats again. I was forced to move out and start my life over after 15 years and now living with insecurities, depression, and self worth.

[@Claire-zf5ew]

crying rn

[@elisalizardo9826]

Thank you for sharing. I felt like I was stuck in a bubble for so long. Being a toxic relationship and coming out makes you see the world so differently and you don’t know where to start. Thank you for giving your points on how to start your life again. 💕

[@saraiya503]

She showed me care and made me feel so happy and smile. Then people tried to get inbetween us. and it worked and she got tired of me telling her what tohers are saying. and she jsut ended it. she gaslight me i told her i was sorry so many time and begged and she still left and theres so much more shes done and hiurt me so i jsut want to be done and move on from her

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[@lmcgee2010]

And if you grew up in with a narcissistic parent who instilled these things and then married a narc, is there hope? I'm so messed up.

[@Shawndrea]

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[@lt3997]

You’re probably at fault too, don’t forget self reflection

[@alliecano576]

We are at fault for staying & being toxic back. Because if your in a toxic situation it rubs on to you, & changes you to be something your not….

[@chrisce1265]

Keep talking and sharing your healing story! This experience is so prevalent and not many talk about it.

[@chrisce1265]

Keep talking and sharing your healing story! This experience is so prevalent and not many talk about it.