Healing Trauma: The Light Shines Through the Broken Places with Tara Brach

Healing Trauma: The Light Shines Through the Broken Places with Tara Brach (03/08/2017)
Most of us have encountered trauma either in our own direct experience or with someone in our immediate circle. This talk examines the shame and suffering that arise from trauma and how meditation practices can support a path to full spiritual healing. We focus on practices that help us access a sense of love and safety, and then increase our capacity to bring presence to the unprocessed, unlived life in the body. (Note: For many who suffer from PTSD, therapy is invaluable and these practices are not considered as a substitute.)
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[@makaylahollywood3677]

I listened to this about a year ago. It was good. After a year or two of reading many books on trauma, counseling and self-love- i am listening to this talk again and realize how far I have come in my healing- because, I can now fully "get this". My brain works better. Really wonderful talk.

[@90MysteriumFascinans]

That’s really beautiful. Thank you for sharing about your journey.

[@millymilly8097]

Could you, please, write down any book that helped you in ypur healing process? 🙏

[@tommartin2826]

Thanks! This gives me hope!

[@karenphillips5811]

@@90MysteriumFascinans , v A1 ;

[@VanessaSimon26]

What are your tools? I need help.

[@hannahg39]

I have been diagnosed with bipolar 1,CPTSD,ADHD,a dissociative disorder,and 4 kinds of seizures and I don't know where I would be if I hadn't found buddhism as a teenager.I no longer need most of the medications I had been on,I have integrated from my dissociative disorder,and I am no longer I my own worst enemy.Healing is possible.

[@michellekania8420]

🙏🙏🙏💗💗💗 May creators grace continue to guide and bless you beloved siStar

[@SM-gl3in]

Inspiring , thank you. Onwards!!

[@yfoog]

Tara, I'm healing more with your KZbin videos than time with my old therapist! I can't believe how precious these videos are... So timeless. You have given so many a gift. May you be well, may you be healthy and may you be happy!!!!! Thank you and namaste Xoxoxo

[@dorothymiller3367]

Wow, just wow. Sobbing my heart out as I see so much of me and so many other people needlessly suffering. Your words are so wise and so true. Incredible, thank you! Thinking on it, what if anger and greed were actually mental health problems and its trying to live amongst this is making the rest of us extremely mentally unwell as we don't understand the way they think and yet we are classed as the ones with the mental health issues. Makes sense to me.

[@cynthiaennis3107]

Tara Brach thank you for this great lecture & meditation! Namaste! Great for a horrible day of no one understanding me while coming off a Benzodiazepine after 26 yrs... The just don’t f**king get it! No one does...only those going through it! This was very helpful! I hope I will have the Executive Function & Memory to remember to come back to this! 🙏🏼🌹♥️

[@c.taylormorgan3668]

Hi Cynthia, it was amazing coming across your comment here from 2 years ago. I also have horrific trauma from coming off a benzodiazepine (clonazepam) and it has led me to seek holistic and spiritual paths to soothing and healing. I was wondering how you are doing now and are you still involved in any peer-support benzo communities?

[@Paseosinperro]

29:43 Thanks for saying that! I think it's really important to be clear with the fact that, if one has suffered trauma, going directly to the pain can be counterproductive.

[@davex44]

A “must watch” for every therapist, teacher, or anyone struggling with trauma and disconnection, Having studied this for many years, followed Tara, sat with many of her peers, taught mindfulness and Vipassana, the most insightful talk I’ve ever seen. Blessings and many thanks, the watch will be a repeat, David

[@arwaqutbuddin8023]

I cried a lot. Thank you for opening my heart.

[@marinamayer4411]

The best explanation of trauma and how to heal from it

[@reachme33]

I've swapped my NPR time for Tara Time! Slowly, I'm learning to do what helps / heals and letting go of areas over which I have minimal control. It's a process . . . Sending love.

[@Liberty969]

This gives me hope that I might heal someday...😢

[@y9w1]

🙏❤️🌸

[@y9w1]

@@Liberty969 Yes, you can hope and do this kind of conscious work, and it will happen, even if it takes a long time ❤️❤️🙏

[@cynthiaennis3107]

earthpearl I hope I can do it, as well! 🙏🏼♥️🌹

[@jude999]

Amen, sister.

[@flosotall3041]

Tara you are an angel sent from above. I've been trying to figure out for over 20 years where all the uncomfortable feelings such as hallucinations, paranoia, depression have emerged from. But after listening to its evident that their us still trauma stuck in my body. Thank you for shedding light on what trauma us and the impact of what trauma can do. Thank you so much

[@jude999]

It makes a lot of sense. Much trama we don't even recognize as such. It took me 30 years to recognize mine.

[@cutzymccall7675]

Dear Tara: that’s all. Just Dear Tara. ❤️

[@Liberty969]

I feel ashamed for the maladaptive way I responded to a perceived slight that cost me my job and some friendships. 😔 I fear that the gaslighting will follow me forever no matter where I work therefore healing will be a life long struggle. I may be damaged goods but I will learn to survive. I feel cutoff now. May I feel love, may I feel safe, may I feel peace ......💔

[@patriciahealey2927]

Well your a human we all mess up hope your good today

[@bethb7965]

I hope you are now feeling loved, safe and at peace......

[@tammypoor3865]

Beloved Tara. Your teachings on shame saved my life but did not prevent me from making a very serious suicide attempt three months ago. I have no shame whatsoever, but am still suffering from significant PTSD. I was held in solitary confinement, tortured and told that I would be tied up with a hood over my head if I made a sound. I went through eight days of pure torture. It resulted in two suicide attempts and experts say that what happened to me results in suicide 100% of the time. I've made a dramatic comeback but am still suffering a lot. I've been using re-evaluation counseling, dialectical behavioral therapy, rapid transformational therapy, neurolinguistic programming, etc. I am listening to you right now and just heard you say that it is love that we need and kindness. I have a deficit of that and have been videotaping myself every time I have an emotional release. The young person who said they want someone with skin on. I have a lot of online friends but my local friends are too busy for me and I can't get skin to skin attention. It's horrible and I can't wait to get that need met. Here's an impromptu video I made that shows my radiant joy and I wasn't traumatized at the time. But then the memories come back and the trauma is re-triggered. I'm not afraid. I have no fear. But the rapist who was involved just showed up today and has been driving up and down past my home. kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5mykpV3Zrythrs

[@melatara]

Tammy Poor dear it breaks my heart to hear your story. You deserve to be safe and you deserve to get your needs met. I have worked with a few people with severe traumas and I understand how hard it can be to meet your needs in your situation. I am on Facebook under this name if you want to find me though I do share content related to educating people about satanic ritual abuse so that we can conquer this issue. My heart of healing and wholeness reaches out to you Beauty. You are so courageous for making it this far and saying yes to life every day. 💕🙏🏻

[@kidsmoked]

You are very attached to your story. #acim

[@gayathriganesan67]

Thank you, Tara. I've been listening for the past year and have healed so much from scarring and violence. I love your voice.

[@mmikitio]

Healing energy in your voice, Tara. Thank you.

[@yfoog]

I know! Just hearing it and my nervous system calms down. Magic!

[@crisbrackett2067]

That thumbnail has a visitor in the background.

[@dRumpfsadouchebag]

The breathing technique is referred to as heartrate variability (HRV).. . helps align the heart with the mind with bottom/up signals and activates the parasympathetic nervous system (when in freeze/ fight/ flight/ faint/ fawn we go into shallow breathing which send a signal to the brain to remain in these sympathetic areanas)... the breathe is an internal closed circuit that is available to all of us ... Hemisych is also a good understanding to begin, crossing our bodies midline with our extremities.. Both of these self -soothing modalities can be done at anytime and without anyone noticing.. Both very important to grounding/regulating and re-engaging the prefontal lobes and allowing to reconnect to the present moment... Doing it when not in distress/ disregulation is important, because we can recall these more readily when in these states/ frames of mind, because recall when in these states are very difficult unless it becomes familar and habitual... these intense reactions are imbedded in the subconscious and thinking cannot reintegrate because the thinking mind doesn't control those areas, however bodily functions will send the messages to help re-regulate to a point to be able to respond in the moment with kindness, compassion, understanding and empathy for ourselves and understand what we need and we can provide to ourselves... 🙏

[@Watercolordragon]

Oh Tara! You are healing me in some powerful ways. Your voice your care. Only listening speaking about the brain and tears come 🤣 thank you!

[@ts3858]

I was actually shamed by one member of a 12 step group for having trauma which retraumatized me ...🙏

[@allisonblaustein7898]

So sorry. I’m a long time member & also have had some trauma to work through. I know there are definitely some people in the groups that are very sick and not safe. I’m grateful to focus in on the loving and kind folks in the rooms. May you find your loving and kind people 🙏

[@studioc9853]

Very clear, helpful and compassionate. Thank you Tara!

[@CorrinaChoe]

Thank you Tara this was so beautiful.

[@LunaStargoddess]

Very hard to hear but Tara you are so gentle and loving, you have helped me so much, I thank you with much love and gratitude

[@nanc6987]

Tara, you are the light through my broken pieces. With immense gratitude, I thank you for sharing your wisdom and guidance. My spirit is returning, my life is returning because of you. Thank YOU!

[@karonpowell750]

wow. This hit home and was very therapeutic. Thank you for your part in my awakening and further guidance. This video is one I will watch and have already watched again and again. Thank you Tara!

[@pampinese3641]

Your voice is so soothing and calm it makes it easy to listen and absorb, thank you for sharing your knowledge💗

[@karendelouth]

You have helped me heal from some deep wounds and reconnect with my biological father to that SAFE spot of love that I haven't felt in years. Traumatized as a child because of divorce. This has helped me understand so much and I am so grateful that I can feel that re-connection with the spirit of my father whom passed on a few years ago. This particular talk has overwhelmingly given much needed insight on PTSD. I have practiced the breathing and meditation for years. This has beautifully blessed me to reconnect with long lost and missing love from many years of pain. Thank you! NAMASTE!

[@Sus-Annah]

Much needed

[@chrisharris331]

Some conceivably useful timestamps: 24:48 - About shamanic soul retrieval rituals, which heal in part by creating a social container of deep love and safety 28:37 - Research about relationship, hugs, etc., and reducing fear 29:30 - It’s not useful to just jump maximally into trauma and fear. It’s important to approach it from a place of sufficient safety, love, and resources. 30:55 - Story about parole officer with lingering sexual abuse trauma. Includes coming up with the mantra, “May I feel completely safe; may I feel fully loved”. Resourcing techniques to help explore trauma with some feeling of safety (starts 34:40): 34:58 - Grounding, by sensing gravity or by noting visual objects 36:30 - Finding places in the body that give a sense of comfort or safety 37:23 - Intentionally manipulating the breath, six seconds in, six seconds out 38:38 - Bringing to mind people or other helpers who can make you feel safe and loved 42:04 - Parole officer story continued. She eventually has some very intense energy movements in her body, leading ultimately to an experience of “My soul was back”. back” 42:28 - Reiterating that you need to find the window of tolerance when working with trauma. If you’re in the window of distress, this may just retraumatize you. 43:17 - Parole story continued 50:07 - final reflection/practice

[@fionnualasmyth3272]

This talk is pure GOLD. In gratitude beyond words Tara Brach. You are a treasure, glad to be alive to hear such wisdom, and presented in language that is easy to understand. God Bless You and your work. 🙏✨💕

[@alexmurphy5289]

Tara is incredible. Thank you so much

[@1810to1849]

A beautiful experience. Thank you.

[@samantha-kemp-therapy]

These presentations are always fantastic. I send all my clients to them and bathe in them. Thank you always x

[@havad3938]

You have come at a perfect time in my life. Your words, priceless! Though your voice, and kind looks alone do it for me!

[@noellesantrizzato1194]

thank you so much for your beautiful sharing(s) all along the journey....it touches my heart, and revive my courage to be open and vulnerable, to be....to love always, more and more.....

[@peterawit99]

Incredibly applicable to my life. I’m so very grateful to your information and its most gentle delivery.

[@mrsvestagoodarz]

Your are one of my allies. Thank you for your wisdom, teaching and being connected.

[@dianabakervevang2972]

I learn from all your healing work.

[@mucjud15]

This makes so much sense

[@carlosmariscal7719]

You videos & lessons, protocol are exceptionally uplifting & very meaningful to life itself, love them! Please continue!

[@aklabchick]

THANK YOU TARA!!!

[@lauriegoldsmith3629]

thank you for your work and your dedication to helping us all heal from our wounds...profound.

[@johnsontian2733]

Tara’s teaching provides such clarity of knowledge and insights on this topic. I am so grateful for her teaching and feel there is hope for healing.

[@kimayacarvalho7345]

Thank you for your guidance , clarity , understanding ,warm love awareness. You female presence tremendously beautiful !♥️🙏

[@maryryan5594]

Thank You Tara for this wonderful timely talk.

[@Stress-relief-insights]

Thank you Tara for your love, compassion & wise council. I too am navigating significant trauma like many otgers here. im grateful for your message & your generous heart. May you feel safe, well & have peace also 💞

[@StineAsmr]

Thank you Tara. My soul needed your wisdom & these words❤️

[@davevillaflor3267]

Thank you Tara Brach 😊

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

Gabor Maté is right regarding the criminal justice system: in its criminality, it perpetuates trauma. Kudos to this woman for healing and creating change around her.

[@jesskittoloughlin3902]

This came into my life at the perfect time. Thank you so much Tara. I am so grateful to the universe for putting you in it. I love you so much! 💜

[@MrCanigou]

29:09 Thank you Tara, the effect of loving kindness meditation is indeed so efficient !

[@quilting]

so lovingly tender and beautifl tara, you are so blessed

[@crimeandpunishment1130]

You're the true refuge, Tara. whenever I need that truly in my life since the first time I discovered your video.

[@surviveandthrivejoy5742]

These thoughts have been my own the last few months so glad to find this video

[@LauraSmith-ur7vd]

Tara Brach u r an angel of light for so many ppl

[@LadyCrimson25]

Thank you once again, Tara🐛🦋🙏

[@portiaclark4748]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@azaleaslightsage1271]

The real trauma is in the Disconnection within from our TRUE Aunthentic self

[@leonachanning]

Yes this must be where self sabotage comes from and I know that when your healed you can believe that the person was inside you the whole time like the real you was always there but just blocked by trauma when I felt healed I called it the epiphany but now I am going through a difficult time again trying to find healing but Tara has been amazing to watch its helping alot

[@maikaimakena9424]

I think we all should say thank you to Tara I am kinda of blown away at all that life throws are way and the complex nature of things that she can put together so many great teachings to all of us. I am very thankful for the KZbin videos they have been a blessing thanks for all you do. Really getting so much from these videos. 👍👌☺️

[@katemittry1931]

MaiKai Makena I

[@katemittry1931]

MaiKai Makena i

[@Naranja1792]

thank you so much Tara

[@ariellanoon]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@songoftherainbow]

thank you so much for this 🌸💗

[@bronsonmcdonald5473]

Thank you Tara

[@jaynehartstone7532]

Incredible talk Tara. Arohanui (big love) from New Zealand!

[@hecateywicca]

thank you so much I appreciate you so much

[@bgeraghty9497]

Thank you

[@livinginlight1122]

thank you

[@Pipananda1]

Beautiful talk! Trauma and it's effects are actually universally prevalent and much more far reaching than what was cited here from those studies. While management and transcendence are effective approaches, resolution requires deeper work like EMDR or ID-R . From my over thirty years of experience as a counselor, Here are some essential books that give a deeper perspective: "The Myth of Normal" by Maté, "The Body Keeps the Score" by van der Kolk, and "EMDR" and "Getting Past Your Past" by Shapiro.

[@patriciaquaglia1795]

She is explaining me She knows what she is talking about ❤ finally someone who totally understands and is able to help me heal and transform

[@user-qi7ev7rg1i]

I'm so thankful that this video has subscription ..💜

[@siripornleonard7433]

Gold. For everyone.

[@Patricia-ok1cd]

i relate to many parts in this story.

[@cloudsofwonder7004]

This is so helpful Tara Thank you For this valuable information I do need to recover Playfulness blessed Be

[@Yeshua144]

Amazing grace

[@user-kl1on3nw7y]

Amazing video

[@davex44]

Thanks!

[@woonjiaboi6963]

you are best teaching

[@maggiejohnson369]

Thank you..🙏

[@hellgato777]

Your wings & halo are showing 😇 Thank You. ♊ ♥ ☀

[@hulkgrouphumanunconditiona4658]

Blessings to you of Health, Wellbeing and Joy , your family and all that surround you , the blessing to all that you help so selflessly , your amazing at what you do . Thankyou for you and the path give to you for what you do for Being’s having this human experience that is heated up LOL.

[@evazdanovica9512]

Such a nice video!

[@donnacarter9090]

Thank you x

[@larryprimeau7738]

very good info...but the best way to learn it is to access it from within ie deep meditation.

[@mags127]

Thank you♥️

[@jesstargreenland6758]

Thankyou 🙏

[@MrCanigou]

9:17 There's a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in (Anthem by Leonard Cohen)

[@heartmanheartman1083]

Thanks

[@SwamiChampakAnand]

Thank you for your kind attention .

[@dmichael2697]

🙏❤️🙏 thank you Tara : namaste

[@princessoftides87]

Thank you.

[@matanatrahimova497]

Kingdom of Tides ij

[@Erupted89]

Oh, you're putting fingers on pretty much everything I struggle with.

[@woonjiaboi6963]

excellent enlightenment

[@insightandintuition276]

So much sadness has risen up listening to this I am crying. It is as though I’ve watched my life passed before my eyes. I am now in the final stage of trying to make myself available to contribute and put myself out into the world. I was a victim of severe physical and emotional abuse as a child as well as other ways. My husband of 35 years who passed away four years ago would get up in the middle of the night and just put his arms around me or touch me in a loving caring way even just holding my hand and like you said here Tara it seemed to changeMy brain chemistry. The tears still role as I speak wish I had someone to hold me. No family or friends nearby. 😔I will do what you suggested and imagine loving caring arms around me.🙏🏻💖I will pray for all of those of us who are in my shoes

[@mariemmohsni7026]

Sending you a hug

[@joywilliams4014]

I am so sorry for your loss. You were so lucky to have such a loving supportive human being in your life and for so long. Sending good vibes and a hug.

[@LadyCrimson25]

I really recommend a weight blanket that helped me grounding and could re-connect with my body when scanning it. Mine is about eight kilos, feeling embraced and much easier to sleep instead of trying to escape and “run out from home”. It really helps me to stay! I know that not all of us suffering from PTSD can manage but give it a chance to try it if you can rent one as I am🥰

[@alphaangel4219]

What is a weight blanket?

[@patricialawson-df4wo]

Yes on trauma as a child. I'm a listener.

[@clareunderwood6690]

I feel you on my team. I'm so very grateful for all you do. 💛

[@heidihulsman5599]

I was meant to see you my online therapist recommend you. Both parents suicide by 12 so much trauma ...but I'm finding the light blessings

[@myrthewallaert4817]

Reacently I started reading your book and I followed the channel years ago after recommendation from my dad. This video realy helped me to get more insight. There is however something I struggle with. I noticed that for me it is extremely hard to let the sensation of nurture and resourcing exist. I feel an urge to run away from this sensation, just as I have dificuly to alow myself the experience of joy and I fear this joy and sensation of nurture. Is this familiar for anyone?

[@argnesh]

Myrthe Wallaert I can relate. What I discovered in my healing journey is that very early on when I was a baby, a was never allowed to be breastfed until I was full and the connection with my mum was interrupted repeatedly (as per the advice from the doctor.) this created a fear of connecting and shame of wanting. I am working on this retrieval with therapists (Internal Family System therapy) It is a slow process but I truly feel it is possible to heal. Wishing you reconnection.

[@sacred_alchemy]

yes, as we don't know what it feels like so when we feel it the sensation is unfamiliar and causes us to fear love itself.

[@alphaangel4219]

Definitely

[@kit93]

I wish I could work with you, I know you don't do it anymore, it's just difficult to find therapists with this much kindness to offer someone struggling with trauma

[@Spiritually-Guided-Deliverance]

Let there be light

[@allisonblaustein7898]

I know this true from my past healing of child hood trauma. The bigger the wound, the larger the space to hold Spiritual gifts. I thought I had done my trauma work and was on to a great life. However I just found my son - passed - in a horrible accident- make’s my past trauma seem so much lighter in comparison

[@michellekania8420]

Holding you in prayers for the deepest healing and your son in Heavenly peace 🙏