Watch This If You're Too Self Aware

[@sully2932]

This is why it bothers me when people say “I’m too self aware for therapy”. Overthinking can be just as dangerous as under thinking.

[@Redcloudsrocks]

overthinking is something else though. I know several ''awareness yoga'' people that funnily enough for all their talk of mindfulness and awareness seem to miss everything even concerncing themselves. there is no underthink, Just be, if you can't just be then you'll always be all over the place, One of the most peaceful, kind and calm minds I know is just some old dude drinking a beer and relaxing in the sun.

[@sully2932]

@@Redcloudsrocks I wasn’t equating the two. I was saying that people confuse being self aware with overthinking their issues, while still being unable to solve them. If they were truly self aware, they probably wouldn’t be stuck in that loop. Under thinking can be an issue for people as well though. I mean impulse control can be a big issue for people with adhd for example.

[@ianmcnab8751]

The whole point is over self awareness, the same as over thinking about one’s self. The point is avoiding being stuck in that loop which leads to depression, anxiety and such. It’s the same thing.

[@Agrosian]

I used to do this with a candle, just stare at the flame for a few minutes while meditating.

[@5houradhd]

smart i might try that

[@helenalin1493]

Great tip! I don’t have a singing bowl, so a candle is just perfect, thanks!

[@Arkanefull]

Dr. K also talked about staring at the candle as sort of meditation. (He did a video with The Diary Of A CEO and talked about it at 52:00)

[@gatlinbrown3368]

@@Arkanefullthank you for the time stamp

[@salottin]

I used to do it too. Pretty amazing. Everything else goes dark

[@vahanara]

welp... My tinnitus also never stops

[@CrzBonKerz21]

Built in singing bowl!

[@SpoonFinder]

I have actually tried to meditate on my tinnitus! Unexpectedly i noticed being much less prominent the next few days (eventually it went back to normal) Be careful though, apparently some people report increased symptoms if they pay too much attention to it!

[@kylebwg2151]

​@SpoonFinder never have i thought to use my tinnitus during meditation, thank you for revealing this missed opportunity to me

[@sprigganpanda]

​@@SpoonFinderFor me, if I pay attention to the ringing it just gets louder. If I switch my focus it goes back to normal. I've found tho that if I focus on smthg else enough I'll forget that I'm even hearing the ringing so that's nice.

[@codyp2808]

@@SpoonFindermy tinnitus always gets worse when i try to meditate while stressed, but if i keep meditating even 5 minutes a day it vastly improved. Tinnitus for me has a direct relation to stress and lack of processed emotions

[@bigpigperry]

To those confused about the difference between meditation and dharana. Meditation helps you in becoming more mindful and self aware. But to control awareness you must train your ability to focus on it by practicing dharana. To those confused about how it is different from normal meditation, even the breathing method is different.... instead of simply thinking about your breathing yoy can chant 'ahum', breathing throug different nostrils and timing it etc. Just my personal experience

[@polycrystallinecandy]

No, they are two different kinds of meditation. There are many more kinds too

[@mahammadoutunkara6430]

Thank you.

[@IDontKnowYouBut]

I listened to classical music while staring outside at a tree waving in the wind. The music was aligned with the branches. Is this too many things going on for that?

[@kushalramakanth7922]

@@IDontKnowYouButyes, generally music is not recommended other than white noise or binaural beats

[@dovien1779]

When im overwhelmed with too many thoughts i just imagine a cube with a word "block" on it. It works to "block" out all thoughts 😂

[@Cozmonimbus]

Works for me so far! I just tried it to "block" my sneeze attack and it worked. I love imagining 3D objects.

[@semantidutta1405]

Nice!

[@byronsmith1982]

😮

[@carlybun231]

I'm genuinely going to do this. Thank you.

[@amdrew_0969]

This is literally the best channel I've ever found in my life

[@Chris-b4w8t]

Same

[@ruby9719]

This guy is saving lives with his techniques and study. May God bless you for helping us! I would have suffered my whole life if it wasn't for you

[@shmoop6543]

NO WAY honestly it feels insane how i learned almost everything you teach by the age of 22 mostly by scratch. Grateful for this blessing of self awareness and foresight that was once seen as a uncontrollable curse. Glad to finally put a name on something i learned to do a little over a year ago. Will continue to check out your content and learn more 🙏

[@shmoop6543]

I used my blood, I would point to a point of my body and focus on that flow of blood and follow it over my body until I lose it. Now I don't need to point I can follow it with my mind and I use it daily just taking 5 or I'm my breaks at work

[@JK-fu1bn]

I struggle with agoraphobia and dysmorphia. I used a mantra to help me leave the house in spite of these things "who fucking cares? not i."

[@matthewbates4219]

This video has resonated with me. It helped me to begin accepting my undesirable situation and my emotions. Sleep well knowing that your voice is being heard and is making a positive impact. May the Most High bless you.

[@dashadow1817]

For anyone doing this with a candle, dont do it with the flame on. Or else it is called trataka (different type of meditation) and it involves starring at the flame of a candle and closing your eyes and seeing the image of the flame in your mind. You are forced to keep your focus at a specific point or it will fade from your vision in your mind. This trains a muscle in the brain for focusing, not awareness.

[@Canadiantiger23]

Best KZbin page I’ve subscribed to ❤

[@ldyobaca]

Thank you sir you have been helping me get through some really bad mental break downs well at least help stire me in a better direction thank you

[@jarineando]

One thing that has helped me is thinking about it like the target lock mechanics in video games :)

[@spaghetto9836]

Sounds cool, I'll try that.

[@kylebwg2151]

whenever i need to meditate i open VATS

[@Ty-no8hh]

​​@@kylebwg2151Can you explain what that looks like? I'm unsure what you mean. I know what VATS is.

[@RukoshiSensei]

I’ve played Kingdom Hearts enough in my life that this method might actually help me

[@JB-pe2yn]

Love the singing bowl idea!

[@somedude42838]

I used to do this all the time as a kid :0 this actually explains a lot😭

[@TravisPluss]

I was practicing this technique without even knowing about it while I was on a holistic retreat. The anxiety and over analyzing my self awareness has been completely gone the last couple days.

[@Chris-b4w8t]

I have really bad existential anxiety because of my self awareness and I really really hate it but I think this might actually help and I’m so glad I’m not the alone in these feelings

[@LoriRushPixies]

I could literally listen to you say that word all day!!! And I’m grateful for the advice & I will try it tomorrow morning 😊

[@davida1606]

Covered! I do this every morning as I close my eyes,,listening to every crunch when eating cornflakes.

[@Zentao420]

I feel very subtle sounds, singing bowls really are like a bath😂❤

[@catwesk]

This is so helpful, I currently do this with my breathing, but with stress, my chest can lock up very badly. I'll try this instead

[@Jakethayne]

Is there a limit to awareness? Not just like overthinking your actions but like knowing yourself. I love learning about myself and become a more knowledgeable person (in general but therapy is usually the way) and I guess I was just curious what other people think of it. Like becoming more knowledgeable or aware

[@SongwritingJoe]

I do that all the time when I finish a recording take and let the instrument ring out at the end until I can’t hear it anymore lol

[@ayhmnuman4415]

I also always have this whenever i hear a ringing sound even when it stops i can still hear it because i keep thinking about it for some reason So i guess it just has to do with self awareness i guess.

[@kewoshk]

I used to stare at my lava lamp for hours, I guess that was also meditation? It felt very therapeutic ☺️

[@middleofnowhere1313]

Milkdrop visualizer for music on the Winamp program is absolutely amazing for that

[@FaultyParadox]

I've been doing this naturally since I was a kid because autism requires it when everything around you is dialed to 11.

[@FaultyParadox]

It doesn't change it, but it allows you to focus on one 11 instead of 8, 11's.

[@ezzie_aus]

For some reason focusing meditations are the FASTEST way to trigger a panic attack for me.

[@moushmail]

@lesliellama7779 it's happened to me before. It would bring up anxiety. It's much better now but I'm careful now. Of overwhelming vol or speed of thoughts

[@SaebriSelect]

So to summarize, in your head too much, literally chill out and find something to put your energy into and focus on 😅

[@TheeSkaterGeek]

I'm curious as to why he says not mindfulness, but then describes a breathe based practice. I thought that mindfulness was focusing on the breathe and then when your mind wanders, accepting the wandering mind, then bringing the attention back?

[@GhANeC]

Thankyou very much

[@PixterBoyz]

Wouldn't focussing on the breath be considered as a form of mindfulness meditation?

[@Ghost____Rider]

I think he means not just general mindfulness throughout the day but rather taking out some time to specifically focus on something like your breath or the singing bowl

[@agonyguy96]

gaslight myself to focus

[@xXx_Regulus_xXx]

might want to double check your definition of gaslight. training ≠ gaslighting

[@viniciusmendes7693]

Is this a clip from a full video?

[@YG-kk4ey]

Really interesting. Thank you

[@anannanas8118]

I must be great at this. I've held my awareness on my phone for the last couple hours.

[@Elyra-Hightower]

Funny, because you go: don't do mindfulness, I mean, you can but, do this instead... Then you go on to describe what exactly I thought mindfulness to be.

[@user-yup-you-are-human2]

I miss this practice with my ashram. Very powerful practice thank you for reminding me of dharma

[@Locut0s]

Meditation has been a game changer for me. It's no magic bullet, NOTHING is! But it helps been such an incredibly helpful tool in my life!

[@krittacat111]

I gonna try this soon. Having mind danving around for 2 hours before sleep for every day is too much for me.

[@passionate_compassion]

I have a dumb question. What's the difference between focusing on the music bowl or watching a movie? Both decrease self awareness, right?

[@pattychan3941]

Well, the purpose of the singing bowl meditation really _Isn't_ to decrease self-awareness, it's actually to strengthen it so that you can point your awareness somewhere where it isn't being harmful and your brain actually keeps that awareness there. And as for the contents of the meditation, a movie wouldn't work because it's specifically designed to hold your attention, so it's not very good training in terms of awareness. A singing bowl on the other hand only has that sound, the feel of the bowl (if you're holding it up), and the movement of the gong/stick you used to ring it as you trace the rim of the singing bowl. So unless you really focus on trying to detect all the nuances of that sound, it's kind of boring, and your brain will want to wander off somewhere to search for more stimuli (which is where the training happens). A good comparison to make is that using a singing bowl is like doing push ups while using a movie is like laying on the floor and just letting it hold you. You might wanna readjust because the floor is a little uncomfortable, or maybe even find a different floor or a couch that's more suited to your lounging preference, but either way you're still not really exerting all that much effort.

[@passionate_compassion]

@@pattychan3941 Thank you

[@denimyadav3826]

I do this everyday and I can focus for hours On my phone.

[@mrginedive]

Why is it now that you have pointed this out it has become harder to control

[@rachcomp_yt]

Someone is gonna look at this and go "huh, glass bowl and wooden spoon it is"... and they aren't wrong lolololol

[@seyproductions]

I use the Dharana method in Thelema's Liber 9, using the five tattvas.

[@Voyzeck26]

I gotta get me one of those singing bowls. Would be cool to try in a sound-proof room.

[@tuii_11]

I’m too hyper aware I see other people who look oblivious especially about their surroundings and it makes me feel so different

[@LisaMarieAdams]

The best trick with the same effect is to tune into the hum of your air conditioner. You will instantly become present & in the moment ✨✨✨

[@MichaelNorth]

I feel like I'd get distracted long before I would stop hearing the sound. I have a hard time staying focused on things.

[@_.Dylan._]

That’s fine, the point of doing it is to train your brain to get better at it and focusing on things in general

[@gbltzr]

I call this zoning out. Practice it daily.

[@Bricklemore]

This sounds like part of the process used to make Quantitative EEG Brainmapped Neurofeedback function.

[@QQWoLPHie]

I thought mindful meditation was when you you know focus on something and every time You forget it you try and bring it back you forget it and you try and bring it back And you do this while being mindful of your surroundings, yourself, That moment, your thoughts

[@kurlzinkorea]

The sound never stops?!😮

[@aljonserna5598]

Some Bushido Zen meditation is like this, eyes only half closed as you focus your eyes on a certain thing

[@BenMcIrish]

This helps in the moment. But how do I correct the issues causing the self awareness.

[@pattychan3941]

I can see why you think your self-awareness is the problem, but hear me out when I say I (and Dr. K in this case) disagree. The general premise of what he's arguing is that it's usually not the actual self-awareness that people have an issue with. Rather, it's the _spiral_ of 'self-aware thoughts' that that's usually so debilitating. Unless that first, _singular_ self-aware thought is so crippling or depressing that it would one hit ko you, it's more likely that the lack of control you have over your mind/awareness allows your brain to spiral into a multitude of 'self-aware,' depressing/deprecating thoughts that makes you crash and burn. Hence why he's suggesting fixed point meditation in order to help us train in the delicate art of brain wrangling. So while yes, the meditation he suggested does help clear out your mind for a bit, the real goal of doing this meditation regularly is to train your brain to actually do what you ask it to. That way the next time you have that depressingly 'self-aware' thought, you can decide that this train of thought is not beneficial and that your awareness would be best placed somewhere else, and your brain will actually move to wherever you place it and stay there. And even then, I think it's still a stretch to treat your self-awareness like it's a problem or like some tumorous cyst that needs to be cut off from you, because frankly, it's a lot more than just depressing, self-deprecating thoughts. After all, if you had no awareness at all over yourself, that would be kind of terrible. If you had no awareness over your body, how would you taste, smell, touch, or see? Or maybe you would, but without the awareness that those senses meant anything, how would you be able to function? How would you be able to move through the world without stubbing your toe or breaking an arm, and how would you know to go to the doctors for your broken arm without pain? There are already people in the world whose pain receptors don't work; and they have to be infinitely more paranoid of all the cuts and scrapes amd broken bones they aren't aware of because it's so much easier for an undetected wound of theirs to get infected. If you had no awareness over the shape of your emotions, well-you've probably seen or know the consequences yourself, considering the channel you're on. Massive explosions of rage, behaviors and thoughts from yourself and others that seemingly come from nowhere, etc. But even more tragically, how would you know when you're happy? What would it be like to never notice a hint of joy or satisfaction a single day of your life? Would life truly be worth living then? And what of the river of your thoughts? How would you know what it is that you liked or disliked? What your morals were; what is unacceptable in your eyes. How would you realize that the clingy partner you had was actually looking to manipulate you? How would you figure out that you deserve better than what life has given you and think up the plan to crawl your way out of there? So at the end of the day, I think self-awareness is a wonderful gift and part of us. It just sucks when that self-awareness tumbles into the dark, messy pit in the back of our minds and can't claw its way out (which again, is why we're training that awareness to be built out of tougher, more obedient stuff so it can actually get outta dodge). And at that point, is it really our self-awareneas that's to blame for our suffering, or the massive pit of self-deprecation that's been brewing back there this entire time? ...Apologies for getting a bit poetic there, but I hope you found at least some of what you were searching for. TL;DR: The meditation is meant to train your awareness to be able to evade the self-deprecating/depressing thoughts that make you hate your 'self-awareness' so much. And the short term effect of clearing your thoughts during the meditation is just a neat side bonus. I hope you have a wonderful day ❤️

[@selliantuttimusi6735]

Does improvising music count as meditation?

[@DJ-se5pl]

Could I say strum my guitar and listen? Or would that be too active

[@Redcloudsrocks]

There is no rule to any of this, don't get caught up in pointless practice and fancy exotic words. You can focus on anything if you want, it can be a movie, a game, your thought about something. It is not a singing bowl, it is just a bowl, the material makes it make sound, it is not magic. the practice is to just focus and pay attention and be yourself

[@igoresque]

The sound never stops, the laws of thermodynamics don't exist

[@sacred3995]

when u ring a singing bowl and keep rotating the stick around it, the sound will keep going lower and and lower regardless but as long as you are rotating it wont completely stop. but to a person who doesnt practice dharana the sound wont be audible even if u keep rotating around it

[@igoresque]

@@sacred3995 ahhh, thanks for explaining :)

[@judyhathcoat7853]

Ima get the bowl from my Kitchenaid stand mixer n wear this out!!! 🎉🎉🎉

[@cheese___cat]

Instructions unclear, now i can hear 2 miles away

[@1359peter]

Would you consider collabing with Dr. Ali Fenwick - In regards to relationships and relations in general?

[@TheUnkindness]

Me, who's half deaf and has self-diagnosed ADHD: Wait, the bowl made a sound?

[@briannagravely9349]

Same. I loved when I could hear the bowl at my old Dharma Center. The days that someone who tapped the bowl very lightly led meditation were sad days for me.😅

[@cottleston4525]

there is no spoon

[@spaghetto9836]

Self-diagnosis deniers gonna show up at your door soon.

[@OneWithinn]

You self diagnosign yourself with ADHD means nothing, it's just an excuse for incompetence most of the time.

[@TheFrenchedFries]

​@@spaghetto9836 because it has no real merit. You can, based on personal research, make the presumption that you probably have ADHD, but it needs to be diagnosed by a non biased 3rd party. You will always bias your own opinion because having a label as to why you're feeling the way you do helps you cope, but it doesn't always mean you're actually right. There's a lot of overlap in symptoms of ASD and ADHD, and ADHD is on a spectrum, no two people will have the same symptoms

[@ParallelPenguins]

Oh singing bowls are pure nopamine. I’ll stick to concentrating on my breath.

[@sanjanalogy]

Which book should I read to know more about these techniques?

[@William-Morey-Baker]

"technically the sound never stops"... 😂😂 come on man... stop it.

[@kellymichelley]

I have wondered what the purpose of those singing bowls (didn't know that's what they are called) are.

[@tnblackdragongamingofficia6163]

3 days have passed when do i stop

[@arbsan8366]

Interesting!!

[@stfd4599]

Does listening to an audiobook count?

[@Chrish-nm8rk]

flame meditationnnnnnn

[@SadulloKhadjibayev]

That's some Kung fu Panda stuff.

[@Jack-pt6bo]

I don't understand how this helps too much self awareness though

[@Andy251153]

As a musician who actually has a problem listening toouch i think i need something different 😅

[@Rohtix]

I sort of do this already? I'll listen to music and try to pick the different sounds I like apart

[@j_t_eklund]

I have ASD/HYPER awarness, how would you comment on this according to that specific situation?

[@Cozmonimbus]

@HealthyGamerGG i think I'm missing the premise you're setting up about self-awareness and too much of it. I'd love to watch the original video here! Where is it?

[@pattychan3941]

I don't know which vod the short came from, but the general premise of what he's arguing is that it's usually not the actual self-awareness or even the thoughts themselves that people have an issue with. Rather, it's the _spiral_ of "self-aware thoughts" that that's usually so debilitating. So unless that first, _singular_ self-aware thought is so crippling or depressing that it would one hit ko you, it's more likely that the lack of control you have over your mind/awareness allows your brain to spiral into a multitude of "self-aware," depressing/deprecating thoughts that makes you crash and burn. Hence why he's suggesting fixed point meditation in order to help us train in the delicate art of brain wrangling. XD Hope that helped out a little and have a wonderful day :D

[@sully2932]

@@pattychan3941​​⁠ you explained this really well. However I’m having trouble understanding the goal of the singing bowl meditation he describes. He says how you have to harness your awareness more to detect when the sound stops… so is the goal of the meditation to learn to control your awareness by taking it off of the self and directing it to the sound of the bowl?

[@Portia620]

I am very self aware!! Yikes

[@adamloepker8057]

I guess we will see

[@kuroinokitsune]

It is stops though... sound I mean. It stops when fluctuations of air from wave become same level as basic fluctuation of air. So...

[@_.Dylan._]

You’re supposed to keep circling the bowl so the sound doesn’t actually completely stop

[@kuroinokitsune]

@@_.Dylan._ well with bowl yeah, but I thought it was about sound in general. Hm. Maybe it wasn't

[@crimmycat117]

This is the equivalent of focusing all your concentration to hit a black flash...i can do that

[@goldenegg7447]

On iPhone the little speaker button on the top of the screen blocks the word from being able to be read. Can you lower the words by 1 line next time please?

[@kikialeaki1850]

..what? I see the words fine

[@v-spirituality]

I opened this clip as my first short, then swiped down and held my finger to read it

[@Noah-gs6de]

Can look on my phone, computer or tv for hours, that’s childs play! What’s next?💪

[@geoffreyalbury9805]

That’s mindfulness meditation….

[@tarasupicaart]

Wow nice

[@kmr671]

What about other people awareness?

[@BlurSpin]

Oh so that’s what my neighbours been doing

[@ezterion]

Hmmm, i could use my guitar for this

[@pogolaugh]

I do this all the time with my phone, by watching KZbin 🤫

[@triplea657aaa]

"Watch this if you're a narcissist"

[@zettovyker]

Silly question, i know, but... can videogames... does... league of Legends count as a mindless meditative practice 😅?

[@exyronylfa]

is this guy the Buddha of our era?

[@18mvo]

Im trying to think of beer. Shut up.

[@sameehscott]

Finger on forehead. Close eyes. Repeat. Who is “they”? How do “they” control the outcome ones of my reality? That finger indicates there’s only 1 person in this room. Do this every day for as long as you need until you realize you no longer need it. There. Video summarized. You don’t have to buy my merch, I don’t sell any.

[@codiethompson3401]

Any advice for how someone with AD&D can do this?

[@Cj-cv4wb]

It's just to do it. Your mind will wander more then average at the start which means you get more chances to bring it back. You basically get to do more of it and likely can improve to deeper depths a bit easier once you get over the initial hump.

[@pr00009]

exactly how anyone else would do it.

[@kaczok1985]

First, you roll 3d6 six times and assign the results to the stats. Then you pick your character class and...... Sorry, low hanging fruit 😅

[@_.Dylan._]

First, you go to the settings app on your phone, then go to WiFi, then connect to the access point…

[@markusklyver6277]

This doesn't help if you have tinnitus.

[@amina6669]

Sounds like torture 4 adhd ers

[@gizmobrooch8577]

I dont get how too much self awareness is bad at all. Im super self aware, yet I dont find it bad. Then again Ive always pushed thoughts away I dont wanna think about since a young kid. So maybe thats why I feel its not bad lol. But that wouldnt be a self awareness issue, that would be an intrusive thought issue.

[@sully2932]

Or maybe you’re not super self aware, so your lack of awareness makes you believe you are 🧐

[@sarahf.s.2961]

Modern people have short attention spans

[@DoctorSantaPhD]

I used to do this with a ticking pocket watch. I guess i should get back to it.