Talking with QTCinderella about Confidence | Dr. K Interviews

[@hafeezytaughtme]

I think all of us lurkers who never chat but also never hate need to start spreading some positivity.

[@Yura-Sensei]

no

[@LipSyncLover]

@@Yura-Sensei yes

[@faux4780]

@@LipSyncLover no

[@djordjenikolic1632]

@@faux4780 yes

[@bogdanv9591]

@@djordjenikolic1632 no (need to keep a pattern)

[@guilicastillo4441]

"Confidence is the ability to face uncertainty" hit me hard

[@HarryNicNicholas]

you have to remind yourself the sky hasn't fallen in just yet.

[@user-bu6nq1ve6m]

I would call that bravery, Confidence is more of thing that puts uncertainty away it is like knowing and being aware that you can do something by being exposed to it a lot already or having some personal traits that gives you some kind of security which make you act more confidently.

[@mr.broski2427]

​@@user-bu6nq1ve6m Confidence is more like a stupider bravery, Bravery is like " I might not make it out of this alive but I'm gonna do it anyway" confidence is like " oh yeah I can definitely take on this 10 foot 3000 pound gorilla"

[@brooksie359]

​@@mr.broski2427 I disagree. Confidence doesn't mean you are arrogant and think you will succeed necessarily. Someone who is confident and can go up to a girl to ask for their number isn't because they think they will get it if they ask but it's because they are ok if they say no and failure isn't a big deal. There are plenty of people who are confident who know that there is a chance and even a good chance that they will succeed. If your confidence is predicated on you knowing you will succeed then that is flimsy Confidence.

[@vm3249]

Facts!

[@mathalamuel6069]

“Sometimes the only thing people need is a cupcake” - Dr. K, thats some good shit

[@mattakudesu]

Especially kids starving in third world countries.

[@RockLou]

Almost as good as a cupcake

[@mashpit3221]

Put that shit on a shirt. with dr K's grin face.

[@jeremyrockwell1287]

i stopped playing the video specifically to look for this comment. thank you.

[@chrismhp]

It's a beautifully simple sentiment. I immediately thought of HiTop Films "Importance of Chocolate Cake" video on raimi's Spiderman 2. That chocolate cake scene is passed off as a seemingly throwaway scene by most people. But it is one of those moments that elevate it beyond just a superhero film. Peter is at his breaking point. All his personal relationships are in shambles, even with Aunt May. Everything bad in his life is a result of being Spiderman. And when he decides to give up the suit, people suffer and die. He can't be happy no matter what choice he makes. He's alone. Then, in his lowest moment, the shy girl knocks on his door and offers him...a piece of chocolate cake. It seems insignificant, but she gave him exactly what he needed in that moment; to be shown a little bit of compassion, even in the smallest form. We often underestimate the power and positivity that small, thoughtful gestures can bring someone. It's that simple touch of humanity we all need.

[@AlphaSteam2]

Never knew Qt struggled with so much. This really makes you realize everyone struggles in one why or another. Nobody is truly "perfect" or "whole". Hope she is able to feel better with herself in the future and gets the help she truly deserves.

[@asnalem4391]

Yeah many people think attractive/successful people have an ironclad confidence and they just disregard any empathy for them at poking at their flaws thinking they can't be hurt.

[@ralleks]

We all have struggles, dont forget that! :) Consider what you say, before you say it

[@AlphaSteam2]

@@ralleks That's... exactly the point of my comment.

[@peterbedford449]

@K D Literally the most toxic statement I have ever read on a Dr. K stream. She is of course pretty, by any standard. And that shouldn't matter, that's the whole point. Her self esteem issues come from a complex past and not from whether she is pretty or not. And if she fixes those issues, it doesn't matter whether she is pretty or not, because she will be able to move on from those issues, succeed and focus on what she wants to do. Coming onto this stream to comment "she is not pretty and all her issues stem from that" is not only very toxic but also bad analysis. Her issues are, of course, more complex, and unrelated, to that. If someone feels good within themself, it doesn't matter how pretty they are. But yeah, coming on here to comment shit like that is unhelpful and incorrect. This stream is all about building people up and coming in here with half-baked and toxic analysis ain't helping anyone at all. Go work on your own issues before you comment on toxic shit like that.

[@asnalem4391]

@K D thanks for being part of the problem buddy think about how you'd feel having thousands of lowlives talking shit about you on the internet.

[@__-bk6mm]

The amazing thing about this talk is that QTC is really open and readily volunteers a lot of information that is so helpful, it's kinda beautiful how this talk flowed from her willingness to be open and share and how powerful the advice was as a result. Massive respect to her for opening up, the self-critical/self-judgment stuff is incredibly relatable, I bet she doesn't realize just how many people will relate to that automatic response and will be helped by this talk.

[@joshjonson2368]

she isn't tryna be real just presenting herself as humble to her masses of simp followers lol

[@billybob7177]

@@joshjonson2368 Yikes dude I hope you can work through whatever problems you’re having

[@pleasedyes]

@@joshjonson2368 you realize she doesn’t cater to “simps” at all right? She’s pretty chill and genuine about who she is

[@joshjonson2368]

@@pleasedyes 'chill and genuine' kek whatever you wanna believe lol

[@pleasedyes]

@@joshjonson2368 Sure

[@Scaaaaaaar]

i wonder what happens if you say ''no'', to Dr. K asking, if he can think for a second

[@ryanm3045]

Lmao I was just thinking that

[@escapefromtibet2530]

The universe will collapse. True story

[@laurynas4959]

Top 10 questions scientists can't answer

[@floatingblaze8405]

Happened before with Sweet Anita, though it was her Tourette's called Terrence: Dr. K: "Can I think for a second?" Terrence: "No, get out-" Anita: "Yeah sure, go for it"

[@Tami-po3gr]

The conversation would end I could imagine

[@Simrasil_]

It's really brave of all these streamers to open up so much in these talks with Dr. K and to make themselves vulnerable when basically their entire life is spent having to withstand the pressure of the public opinion. Much respect for Blaire and Dr. K for this and thanks for the AoE healing :D

[@georgeindestructible]

+1

[@wutzgedudel]

@@Murderbits narcissists generally are extremely protective of their weaknesses and flaws and would avoid having them being seen by other people at all costs. Even if your assumption that most streamers were narcissists would be correct, the guests on healthygamergg wouldn't represent that majority because sharing your flawed human nature with other people is exactly what this show is about.

[@pentaxtp7527]

@@Murderbits Age of Empires healing

[@KingofKnowhere]

jim jones Dude that’s fucking far from the truth when it comes to people wanting to stream. Sure that might be a reason, it’s not a main reason. The most popular streamers and content creators stream or create videos because they want to. They enjoy what they like and want to share that. Because of that they blow up and then the attention gets shifted to making sure you maintain an audience, because now it’s a main job at that point. It’s the same thing with actors and music artists; they don’t do it because they’re narcissistic, they do it because they love what they can create and share.

[@KingofKnowhere]

jim jones Because it’s now a job for QT, much like other streamers. She’s signed to GenG; an esports organization as a content creator. Her job is to now stream on Twitch and create content through Twitch and KZbin, which means most of the time it’s reasonable for her to play games earning money. As for what I said in the beginning of my last comment, yes people who are narcisstic would go into streaming; but they aren’t normally successful. It’s a reason for some people; but not for many. And who’s to say that people like QT aren’t donating most of their money; they don’t have to make that public. It just seems that you’re envious of people who have made streaming a successful career.

[@S1L3NTIGamer]

When she started talking about her mom I couldn’t help cry with her.

[@reannedias6601]

What happened to her mom? How did she pass. That’s so sad I just started watching her

[@88Chronox]

I don't know what is it about this girl, but this is easily one of the best talks I've ever seen with Dr. K.

[@TempestsFury]

She helped Dr. K help her by helping steer the conversation in the right direction

[@HarryNicNicholas]

while i don't doubt her sincerity, and do i hope she overcomes her "problems" this community sounds like a bunch of whiners to me. maybe if you have a hundred thousand people bullying you in a stream that's difficult to deal with, but jeez, what do you expect? i do hope she improves, but really, there are real problems people have to deal with.

[@RocketSlacker]

@@HarryNicNicholas What a sad way to think.

[@Jelissei]

@@HarryNicNicholas you do realize that the problem is not the twitch chat right? That's what they were talking about. The problem stems from the experiences she had early in her life that warp her experience of (or with) the twitch chat today.

[@forkmasterderp919]

@@HarryNicNicholas Putting a valuation on the legitimacy of someone else's problems is toxic as fuck bro

[@beaujones5124]

MAN these interviews really show how beautiful people are. I swear if you let people talk about themselves for long enough they will say something that absolutely moves you. Thank you Dr. K and QTCinderella.

[@spentlamb3588]

beautiful ass sentence my guy

[@Lenci_the_Nugget]

It's so funny how our minds work... She's over here worrying about a zit and yet my first thought on this video was that she's really pretty. She's even pretty when she cries. Can't believe people are telling her anything different.

[@dariosusu1529]

this

[@namehere6524]

Its probably because they hate themselves

[@hgzmatt]

She's absolutely beautiful. We know it about others.. but we don't believe it when someone tells us..

[@juttyism]

And yet, even if she wasn't pretty she wouldn't be worth any less as a person.

[@navysammy2411]

well people have opinions. Everyone isn’t going to think she’s pretty and that’s fine.

[@chef_moquin9535]

"I think I am okay at baking" Anyone who has seen QT's baking streams knows she is absolutely amazing at baking!

[@vera39440]

QT gives off some awesome energy. The way she reacts to things, good or bad, always puts me in a good mood Really hope she can improve her mental state and find lots of success in streaming full time. If you haven't yet, stop by one of her streams! It's always a great time

[@Elbow54]

Always ask for marbies when you do

[@kevinbeefchips]

@@Elbow54 marbies or riot

[@torrix_4595]

QT's streams are always a safe space from my experience

[@BB-zy9oh]

I’ve watched ludwig for at least a year now (the guy screaming in the back of her vids) and that introduced me to her. They’re the only two people I watch daily

[@Gloobster1350]

Unless it’s that horrible egirl rejections show

[@lantzeerie2481]

"Deserve to" is used in two different ways. 1) That a person is owed something. 2) That a person should be afforded something. These subtly different definitions caused trouble. You were thinking of two different words sort of. I agree with her that no one is owed anything. I agree with him that people should be afforded things anyway.

[@VioletEmerald]

Afforded? What does that even mean? That they are owed something makes sense as one definition. That they have worth and value as people makes sense to me as a different definition.

[@lantzeerie2481]

@@VioletEmerald provide or supply (an opportunity or facility): "the rooftop terrace affords beautiful views" · "they were afforded the luxury of bed and breakfast" Its as easy as using a dictionary.

[@bellacatlover23]

That's a very subtle but important distinction. Thanks, it actually cleared the use of that term up for me

[@dmacpher]

I would find it so hard not to interject in those moments of anguish when she says “this may sound dumb”... the need to correct that worldview and value judgement vs the need to just listen. The doctor has an incredible skill set he has practised and exercised for so long. His commitment to the craft while being a fundamentally emphatic person has me in awe

[@toastygaming7964]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@holyfrackledang]

As mentioned in another video he’s inclined by his job to agree with his subject so through that mindset it’s easy to ignore disagreements with those statements

[@dominokos]

I think what she needs is to flip the switch. Go from "people don't deserve anything until they prove themselves worthy" to "people deserve kindness until they prove themselves unworthy". It's a very important distinction and it not only helps your confidence. It also makes it much much easier to cut bad influences out of your life but also makes you kinder.

[@iqranoor6082]

Omg so true 👏🏽

[@mikeb7195]

Glad my boy Ludwig treats you nicely! I didn't know anything about you besides the few times you've been on his stream, but you seem like a genuinely kind person. I found a lot of value in this one, thanks for sharing.

[@DaphneShadowsASMR]

This woman is SO brave! I really liked being able to see someone unravel reasons and behaviors and feelings and anxiety, in real time. It's so human and hope inspiring. I really connected with a few things (I was even brought up Mormon) and it was interesting to hear someone else peel back layers that I found myself agreeing on. Some of the advice he gave her, I am SO going to try for myself. 💚

[@littlecurrybread]

I love how Dr K supports people's points with an emphatic "Exactly!" It makes it feel like he's truly always on their side

[@AnxietyRat]

As someone who has anxiety about saying the "wrong answer" his frequent enthusiastic agreement makes me feel good. Validated, I guess. Even though I'm just guessing the answer along with the other person on stream and have no actual input into the convo they are having. It's kinda great.

[@friend8124]

QT - "I dont like me so why should anyone else like me?" Dr. K - "Good" lol

[@ungface]

Hes saying good because she figured it out.

[@ArkbladeIX]

@@ungface don't add context. Out of context dr. K is best dr. K

[@ethanr483]

@@ungface (that was the joke)

[@tyleri8639]

This was heartwarming and heartbreaking and heartwarming

[@Akixkisu]

I clicked on this one on a whim. I'm fascinated by how applicable it is to my environment.

[@wormsnthedirt]

it is incredible to see QT and how far she has come: from feeling so insecure to hosting, planning, and executing incredible streams and events for the twitch community. I hope 1:37:00 comes to fruition and they do talk years from this point because her journey, although we may not have seen it in its entirety, is truly inspiring qtcL

[@asamimomo4607]

I would love to see another QT and Dr.K stream just to see how shes doing now with everything. Also, QT is such an amazing, intelligent person and doesn’t deserve all the random hate she gets its so sad

[@LynnMVD]

Guys hating on QT won’t make sense. Females hating on QT? More likely. Random? no

[@bobobsen]

@@LynnMVD?

[@alxndrthree]

@@LynnMVD i feel thats a rather stereotypical worldview if im correctly understanding you implying girls are more likely to put people down?

[@chaemin1275]

Holy shit, this one really hits hard. I've always found I care too much what other people think about me, about always setting myself up for perfection. This has always created anxiety and low self-esteem in my life. I relate to her so much in that I find that my sense of value is not intrinsic, and hopefully her and I and everyone else who feels this way keep trying to gain our self-confidence and keep reminding ourselves that we are worthy

[@JupiterSlim]

I heard her talking on Fear& pod for just a sec about therapy and I related with her. Immediately went looking for any vids where she talks more about mental health and sooooo glad I found this. If only she knew how intelligent she sounds and how nice it is to listen to her talk.. she has more than she knows

[@carl6969100]

Watching this 3yrs later and QT still feels this way but as a fan, everyone makes sure she gets what she deserves, even if she doesn’t still deserve it. Love you, QT!!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@bowhuistv7638]

Thank you so much for this one. This is the one that has helped me the most. I struggle with exactly the same things she does. (Apart from sexual harassment/judgement cause i'm a guy) However i'm still just as self conscious as she is. I never realized how my lack of confidence has turned into a lot of my anxiety. I love you Dr. K. Thank you so much for everything you do man.& Thanks to QT for sharing her issues with the public.

[@lisamkramr]

This was one of the most triggering and relatable videos to date for me. Thank you QT for sharing your story!

[@soupytho]

LOOK AT QT NOW!!! She's definitely at the top of twitch 😭😭😭

[@kova1729]

*when she hosts streamer awards

[@selvaa1592]

@@kova1729 no she is literally at the top percentile of twitch, like 0.01%. I don’t think yall understand how hard it is to even keep 1000 viewer average

[@kova1729]

@@selvaa1592 is she? I mostly watch KZbin so I only hear her being mentioned when the streamer awards come around

[@selvaa1592]

@@kova1729 the fact that you even hear her mentioned is fact that she is at the top of her game. the vast majority of streamers have much less clout in general

[@MS-ov9sv]

​@@selvaa1592 thanks for sharing....that's a very positive msg ....ppl can overcome their thoughts ❤

[@littleripper312]

I've had dogs with anxiety issues and one was even an abused dog by previous situation and I found the best anti anxiety for them is lots of exercise and then patience on our part.

[@alexeonbel4304]

Damn this girl is an absolute mirror of myself. I don't know how to stop the self-deprecating and the anxiety lol. But I'm trying. It's nice to see someone else going thru this (not that I wish this on anyone, it sucks to have low self-esteem). because it helps give me a different perspective. I'm happy she had someone professional to talk her thru her worries.

[@Ducky195]

I’d never think in a million years that QT would have issues with anxiety and lack of confidence. She so beautiful, she should be a cover model on a magazine.

[@dr.bandito60]

beautiful people can be the most anxious about their looks because people comment on it constantly. it becomes very important to their sense of value.

[@arnoldli9537]

@@dr.bandito60 wow that makes a lot of sense

[@LynnMVD]

Not me trying to be break the peace. I already knew she has a confidence issue based on what she said or what she did or how she interacted with OTHER female streamer. Alot of of times, her low confidence WON over her decisions and pulled the toxic side out. Hopefully, Ludwig will continue to support her.

[@toushiri9476]

Am i the only one smirks whenever dr K have an “ow that’s interesting” face expression!!?

[@cupcakemcsparklebutt9051]

Need timestamp noww

[@greyarea805]

Need time stamp now

[@Bananarama67]

Waiting for someone to hit Dr. K with the "which do you prefer?" when he says you can call him Alok or Dr. K

[@KY_100]

I do it too but I know it drives some people crazy when you don't give them a single answer

[@1nnuzz]

These interviews are actually so great. I learn so much - and can also relate to so many things from people I never expected, thank you for opening my eyes.

[@stendaalcartography3436]

idk when people "care" about me, I immediately think, "why does this person care about me?" or "why should they care? are they faking it?" or "what's their ulterior motive?" That's just how I felt as far as I can remember.

[@tracyqin7589]

Stendaal Cartography It sounds like you were betrayed by someone you cared about or insulted by someone you trusted. Your mind probably created an instinct to think that because when you were young you needed a defense mechanism to keep yourself from being hurt again. But is it a lack of faith in other people or a lack of faith in yourself that you deserve to be cared about? Idk I’m just pseudo dr k rambling here

[@Soma2501]

There are a lot of potential reasons. Perhaps you're modeling your behavior based on your parents. Maybe you're sleep deprived and thus misinterpreting the intentions of your friends due to impaired judgement(this is common and causes social withdrawal and a sense of loneliness). As Tracy Qin said, an experience in the past may have incited your cautiousness which isn't necessarily a bad thing.

[@stendaalcartography3436]

@@tracyqin7589 Well, theres nothing wrong with some rambling musing here. I've been trying to figure out why I feel this way, and yes, I also keep thinking it had to have stemmed from some sort of painful memory. I have a lot, partly because childhood circumstances and my genetic disposition for good memory which i think is big reason why I'm so fucked up. Hard to know where to even start to fix myself because so much of myself(so it seems now that im analyzing) is trapped in the past, sealed away with powerful, painful memories. For now tho, Ithink it is more my lack of faith in other people. Certain extroverts or certain anxious people would try to give their trust right away, and that bothers me and pushes me away from them. You would think a random kindness would be perceived as good, in my mind, it's "never take that offering."

[@edwardseverinsen5598]

I grew up in a family of drug addicts and a father who was a bit harsh when I did things incorrectly. And was constantly picking at me in a way that hurt my confidence although not intentional on his part. If you've ever dealt with a drug addict that wants something they can be very manipulative, especially emotionally. Often they would preface asking a favor or something with seeming generosity or compliments to prime me to give them what they wanted. So now compliments feel calculated, receiving favors or gifts feels like I'm becoming indebted to someone who's gonna ask for a favor later. Someone seemingly "liking" or "caring" for me doesn't feel true because my mom and siblings have all done this to me and those are the people that are supposed to care for me but lie and butter me up to get what they want. Overall it's really degraded my trust in other people and I think my only value is what I have to offer someone rather than my own intrinsic value for being the person I am. The relationships you have early on really shape your relationships for life it seems. And these are some really hard models to break. I have anxiety over doing something wrong or being wrong. I have more anxiety about someone being nice to me than mean to me. The closer people get the further I lean back. I'm sure that your problems probably stem from similar circumstances and I'm sorry to hear that. Just understand that statistically you're probably pretty average and have no more reason to be hated or unloved than anyone else. You deserve love, you aren't lower in worth than anyone else, etc. And *you have intrinsic value just in being who you are without being funny, smart, or anything else.*

[@Gloobster1350]

That’s simply just putting up walls so you can’t be hurt as easily

[@WonderboxGamerGirl]

This was a fantastic interview. I found so many things relatable, it was, as she said, “a great refresher”

[@loonylauren90]

I’ve never been a streamer, but I have been this level of anxious before being brave enough to seek out help. It’s great to see someone who’s like me taking her first steps of facing her anxiety. I seriously hope that she finds her self worth.

[@Malery]

This made me realize that I've been underestimating the impact losing my mom had on my self-esteem.

[@FeralKobold]

Wow I just discovered this channel and I'm getting so much from it. I somehow found myself in a job where I'm a sort of counselor, but I didn't go to school for it so it can be really difficult and I'm able to pull so much away, not only from the guests and like, how to manage my own issues that relate to their from your advice, but also from a counselor perspective I'm finding so many things and being like "wow, I really need to remember that and incorporate it when I'm working with my clients." A lot of it i was doing naturally but didnt know it has a specific name or wasnt conscious of it and now i can do it more mindfully and with intention, thank you so much!

[@sarcasticismyname1163]

Wow that part at 12:00 minutes in where she’s pouring out her deeepest, brazen thoughts is so good. She says so many things I relate to and I’m not even remotely successful, I just feed off of feelings like that for some stupid reason. And then dr. K comes in like a freaking loving, caring parent, listening and helping her out. I love dr. K and I love qt for being such an open person.

[@krasmazov009]

I totally understand her story and her feelings as I feel some similar or equal feelings about myself. She seems awesome. I hope she comes back.

[@meech8914]

I was lucky enough to catch this one live, a lot of really powerful moments. Inspiring session

[@Silokkes]

Thanks for coming on QTCinderella!

[@spoonermcgee]

Love Dr. K and the way he handles all of these situations. It shows all of us how human we are and how much we can be vulnerable, but in a good way. QT was so honest throughout this, she is truly brave and worthy of feeling fulfilled 🙂

[@mynxlunartrix]

what an insightful session. it's seeks to amaze me how much my thought process are identical to blaire's which really hits close to home at certain points. i do hope that we could eventually seek value within ourselves than those who are around us. anywho good job doctor k. your videos aided me tremendously in comparision to the majority of the therapy sessions i've went to.

[@ryanhollist3950]

When she said she was raised Mormon, so much clicked into place for me, even before Dr. K got on it. I grew up in under that religion, too. So much about it is messed up with what they teach you about what you are worth, what other people are worth, based on them doing all kinds of certain things the "proper" way.

[@dedemianmia9854]

Woah, i usually watch these cause i wanna learn about the streamers and cause i really like how DrK explains things, but this helped me so much I have a lot of gender disphoria and this helped me realize that avoiding looking at my reflection and not letting people take pictures of me and wearing baggy clothes, makes me feel better in the moment, but feeds the anxiety Thank u I will struggle to change but it makes so much sense and ill keep it in mind

[@StreakOnPitch]

I wish they would do a follow up, present day. Really enjoyed this one!

[@TimeeeTimeeeTimeee]

would be intresting, I feel like her mental health got worse over the last two years. But I don't think Dr. K is doing these 1 on 1 "therapy but not official therapy sessions" anymore bc he got some flag for it

[@meesehotel6021]

@@TimeeeTimeeeTimeee what did people say about it ? that's such a shame, i'm loving these they're really helping me!

[@TimeeeTimeeeTimeee]

@@meesehotel6021 short answer: that it's unethical to do these "therapy sessions but they are no real therapy" and broadcasting them to the world. People say that since forever, and some even blame his thearapy sessions with reckful to be part in him taking his own live, but recently (a few month ago) the controverisal creator "MrGirl" made a video where he played clips from the reckful sessions, interjected with expert interviews listing stuff that went wrong or broke the ethics rules. The video is titled "Dr. K: Reckless" you can find it here on YT on his channel. Additionally he also filed a official complaint with the texan ethics board, I don't think they came to an official ruling yet, but considering that one of the experts in the video was the head of the oregon ethics board and was rather shocked by Dr. Ks technic, it's very likley that the texan ethic board will feel similar

[@maiskorrel]

@@TimeeeTimeeeTimeee Such a shame, I found the interviews so much more helpfull and full with positive influence than the other way around

[@dKhaN-nn3rb]

Dr. K gives me so much hope in the world

[@frankscott8490]

This helped me a lot more than I thought it would. Thank you Dr. K. And QT.

[@bruceleeharveyoswald5104]

"In order for your anxiety to be gone, you can't be alleviating it all the time." Talk about a wake-up smack right to my face and butthole

[@AnxietyRat]

Yeah... I mean that's the whole point of exposure therapy as a treatment for anxiety. You have to sit in the discomfort. Desensitize your brain to the anxiety and it will eventually lower... But it takes consistency and TIME. So much time.

[@yusefabuissa6685]

It's so interesting watching Dr K navigate these conversations, he's so masterful

[@Zega_]

“Confidence is literally the ability to face uncertainty”

[@thopoulosp.4893]

This is honestly one of my favourite videos of all time.

[@Fluckinoob]

I think there needs to be more people like QT. This is REAL and very wholesome. I found ludwig on youtube and got super into his streams and ultimately got to QT and she's also fantastic. Hope she's able to overcome these things more she's AWESOME!

[@R3DPandaLP]

my man hit the nail on the head with the affect of a lot of LDS parents' mindset on growing adults.

[@HarryNicNicholas]

stereotypes can be a bummer, i've just hit 67 and although it's been a while i was number one player on three halo servers at one point, and until he left for uni playing video games with my son was the greatest fun.

[@JakeIsLearning]

QT quickly becoming one of my favourite content creators. Awesome that someone is speaking about this and Dr K for giving them a platform to speak on.

[@m_1230]

Dogs often tend to reflect and absorb their owners emotions quite well, so qt being quite anxious might have taught the dog too.. hope both of them can get better 💗

[@aLr_boosh]

I was surprised to hear about the self worth issues given the confidence she always displayed on the Rajj streams of the past. I am currently struggling with the self issues of my own so I was able to ask myself some interesting questions due to this episode. Thanks!

[@user-un8jx8yo7z]

Ego can be a copping mechanism to deal with feeling inadequate. If you trick yourself into believing that you're awesome and force yourself to be confident you don't have to deal with feelings of inadequacy anymore. It's a lot easier for the brain to handle fronting positivity rather than I suck.

[@opliko]

I was introduced to QT because I watched Maya's content with the animal sanctuary, and seeing this video is like the lore to what I already know, and super interesting and heartwarming knowing what QT has accomplished since this video

[@JasonOon]

I like the segment of developing confidence so much!!!

[@ariah5093]

She's speaking the words out of my mouth. I feel you sister. It's so hard being a girl for so many reasons. It's like we're trapped in our bodies that react in ways we cant control

[@46september]

Wow, did anyone else notice what Dr K did at 1:31:20. This dude is next level.

[@iansvane]

"Never light yourself on fire to keep others warm"

[@theotherlee28]

Dr K needs his own Jamie to handle the scene changes

[@Boekemannetje]

and to pull something up every now and then

[@lysanthir7231]

Give Moses a ring lol

[@SaladDongs]

Can I think for a second?... Yeah just thinking about how a gorilla could rip a human to shreds. So how can we help you today?

[@texerious2356]

@@SaladDongs lmfao

[@carrotbailey]

Salad Dongs what you really need is to try DMT

[@ladnavar]

both QT and Ludwig started off their conversations in similar ways, and were very worried about if this sort of being-honest-about-negativity content would be boring or unpopular.. they seem like such similar people, but Lud was more closed-off, more of a persona, while QT indeed seems very honest and more open about her insecurities. much respect for that!

[@juxtaposition22]

The world 100% needs more cupcakes, please.

[@jogadorjnc]

Fuck, I'd go for a cupcake rn

[@SuperLotus]

Have you been to America? We've had enough 😂

[@doomrayer1714]

No eat your greens BOY

[@smeliscave]

this was super helpful, thank you both for sending healing buffs all over the place!

[@dexter5970]

what you're doing is amazing, i have low confidence issues myself and this was very helpful

[@michaelbirkettmauizaui2337]

I was also raised in a Mormon home, I understand where QTCinderlla is coming from a little. My dad served a mission, my two older brothers served, i felt obligated to go on one as well. I felt my confidence going down and being a disappointment to my family/ward. Love this Video!

[@joelschuman2320]

Dang someone started cutting onions over here when she spoke about her mom.. I think they’re both awesome and I’m really optimistic for her

[@iqranoor6082]

I wish she would realise she is beautiful 🥺

[@rockblackbird]

Dr. K's explanation of the repetition compulsion was so simple and clear. Makes so much sense that we gravitate towards people who treat us the way we expect to be treated and feel we deserve to be treated, even if it's absolutely crap. Really need to get a grip on this self-esteem stuff lol

[@lavacore26]

this therapy is that good that its mindblowing me to the point where i cant comment it the way i feel it. In other words my vocabulary fails my desire to express feelings

[@happywednesday6741]

The word is cablamotits

[@ignorantslave663]

понимаю

[@robertlynch8971]

my mom is still alive and hearing qt talk about hers makes me tear up and miss my mom too

[@darkphoenix2]

She's kind and beautiful and funny. I hope she feels better and better about herself as more people see it. It's very obvious, it took about one KZbin video for me to like her.

[@jj-jn3vz]

Dr. K I just want to let you know that you're an inspiration for me, thank you for helping people and posting educational stuff, your energy is captivating :)

[@tachibanamei6647]

when qt started crying about her mom I started bawling holy fuck. I'm so glad I watched this video, a side a blaire I have never seen

[@killilu6968]

1:05:28 sounds more like her genuine laugh like hearing that made me smile

[@matthewjamesmjw4172]

This was so helpful on so many levels. Thank you.

[@andrewnaber5406]

It’s really great to see this for the first time years after this interview and seeing how much QT has implemented the things talked about here. These interviews are super helpful to me.

[@hugglesnz]

What a powerful interview. It really feels like we've forgotten the power of words in the shaping of ourselves and others. Watching this beautiful, intelligent, articulate woman realising all the programming she's endured - and then realising I've absorbed so much of that very same programming - and then getting some tools to unpack it, to take it out and observe it and then remove the training wheels. Wow. Just wow. I'm so grateful for this video and the openness QTCinderella showed. Just incredible

[@jinx3272]

this conversation is so nice to hear because i'm proud of qt saying all the things i felt a couple years ago. then i decided a boundary: if people are going to judge my PERSONALITY based on my CLOTHING or HAIR instead of judging my clothing and keeping it at that, they don't deserve to see how cool of a person I am/ and or I can show them that I am not who they "perceived" me to be. we can all be friends and not like how someone dresses lol its not that deep. its basically having an idgaf attitude when it comes to self confidence. faking it until you make it is how i did it. act like you dont care when someone calls what you're wearing is dumb because that person decided to be mean instead of nice. i dont choose to be around people who choose to be mean. they couldve said something about your outfit that they did like, but instead they wanted to make you question yourself. its so sad, and now that i see it that way i could never see myself insulting the way someone looks or what they're wearing because WHO CARRRESSS. like in the large scheme of things, their shirt is not affecting me. its not going to change my life. so why am i giving it so much? like people calling qt bald, so what if she is? does that literally affect you beyond trying to make them feel bad about it?? it doesnt change anything about who she is or how funny she is. giving people a chance to be nice to you when you are very vulnerable is extremely important, and its how i changed my self confidence 100%. the people who go out of their way to kick you while youre vulnerable are the people you want to avoid. its an amazing technique to find the people who arent meant for you and who are.

[@Amy-ji8nd]

I relate so much to her it’s actually insane, I’m going to support her to the fullest

[@primetimedurkheim2717]

Good stuff, Dr.

[@Vladimyrful]

So guys, just a (hopefully) useful nugget on self-belief and confidence: I found it accidentally, I was looking for legendary Cus D'Amato's Peek-a-Boo style (boxing style Mike Tyson used) and I ran into the part in which he details how he build self belief in his fighters. It's surprisingly step-by-step and detailed, the man was decades ahead of his time, and it's here on youtube (the video is titled: "Cus D'Amato - Philosopher's Mentality (Featuring Young Mike Tyson)" ). The part I like the most is he says "I have to give him concrete reasons to believe in himself, otherwise if he believes in himself but can't back it up it's going to be unstable". Just some good old-school, hard-man advice. Give it a watch, I loved it.

[@magnaphoria3022]

Thanks for this info :)

[@Vladimyrful]

@@magnaphoria3022 My pleasure friendos :)

[@SF-op5ix]

Thank you so much for sharing!!

[@v3nus651]

this feels like watching a recording of a conversation i would have with a therapist, qt is acting exactly as i di/would in these scenarios and idk it makes me feel less terrible about my interactions with therapists and doctors

[@jseanbrooks1]

This is the most fascinating one I've seen so far

[@LGuiilhermee]

I would pay good money to see keemstar joining Dr. K for a little chat.

[@3rdHalf1]

*onision

[@Xygif]

Sadist.

[@bigheadrhino]

He’s been wanting to talk to a troll

[@djthevj]

keem has multiple personality disorder

[@kleim3139]

@@bigheadrhino Gnomes aren´t really trolls but they´re somewhat close I guess

[@joeevans7762]

Just finding this channel now. Looks like I'm going to be binge watching

[@minmintea4006]

Im really thankful for this video, and it must’ve been so challenging for QT to open up, but I feel like I’m not alone and I’ve understood parts about me through this video.

[@prettynpink832]

such a good episode, i would love to see her on again if she wants to !!!

[@Thurrak]

When QT says she is disappointed at around 13 mins... ugh just want to give her a big fat hug.

[@JaySharp1]

You just gave all of us a really good cupcake. Thanks Blair.

[@Zega_]

“Just accept yourself 4head” had me dying 😂

[@seignee]

i'm shocked QT has anxiety at all! She's so confident in the streams, i've always aspired to be like her (like have her ability to banter and such)

[@AnxietyRat]

Generalized anxiety is different from social anxiety. You would be able to tell if she had social anxiety... But generalized is more... Personal centered worries than nervousness when speaking to others. So on stream she wouldn't seem nervous, probably. Also people can learn to mask physical signs of anxiety. Most of the time you can't tell from my body language I'm anxious. It's very very internal. Source: I'm diagnosed with both.

[@canobenitez]

@@AnxietyRat holy shit, youare goddman right. I wonder how our caveman fathers deal with it...

[@AnxietyRat]

@@canobenitez idk probably died. Jealous tbh. 🤣🤣🤣

[@toastygaming7964]

🙏🙏🙏 exposure and honestly always beautiful from the people that come on with the addition of dr.ks guidance/knowledge

[@Aziz32ing]

thank u both for this conversation, it was therapeutic. I followed QT not a long time ago and she's great! wish herthe best