Conquering SOCIAL ANXIETY ft. Poopernoodle | Dr. K Interviews

[@NezeruGaming]

Props to Poopernoodle for mustering the courage to come on.

[@jakejason4333]

she so brave! wow!

[@xiqy1959]

WH OMEGALUL

[@The_Alumil]

@@xiqy1959 yikes

[@vernie7882]

I read this "Props to Poopermoodle for murdering the courage to come on."

[@philthy8974]

Props for telling the pop story and naming herself about that story

[@huandan8152]

Dr.K has a very beautiful way of making every problem seem logical. He makes people see themselves as human rather than crazy, which is something really special about these interviews.

[@wolfrevenant1489]

Huandan Well put.

[@RooKangaRoo]

Think of it as logic that’s founded within emotional understanding

[@varski76]

You are right about that. He is really great at his art

[@user-bu6nq1ve6m]

It some tribal cultures schizophrenics are treated like gifted one and potential future shaman

[@judith2939]

@@varski76 Non mais

[@deadinfebruary]

BRO WTF. Big respect to her for revealing the meaning behind her name lmao

[@d0x2f]

How do you accidently do a shit in the sink tho?

[@jkb8564]

@@d0x2f probably was urinating and shit accidentally came out as well lmao

[@WhatIsNature]

@@d0x2f You're thinking too much about it if you're asking how it can be an "accident." Sharts, by definition, aren't on purpose. It can just happen. This is why "shart" stories exist--because it just happens, and people get a crazy embarrassing story to account for it. But most people don't intentionally shit their pants (nor the sink). If it hasn't happened to you before, just keep living life and wait for it. Sharts can happen to literally anybody. Not to mention that she was already using the sink to pee (something that I've been guilty of due to social anxiety myself). If you're a girl (or sit down to pee in general), have you never had some doodoo slip out? In those cases it obviously doesn't matter--you're already on the commode, so it works out. But obviously the dynamic changes if it's a sink and not a toilet. Hence you get a Poopernoodle story. I have mad respect that she recounted that story in front of the internet. A lot of people would be too shamed to admit something like that. Even just admitting that you piss in bottles or a sink due to social anxiety can be TMI for people to feel like they can admit. It's easy for me to say, anonymously online, that I share the account of pissing in bottles/sinks due to social anxiety. But I don't think I've ever admitted this to anyone in real life. First of all it's an odd thing to come up, so that's probably the main reason. But even if anyone ever directly asked me, I'd definitely feel reluctance. I'd probably feel similarly if my face was online and I was telling it to the whole internet. But that shit can happen when social anxiety flares up. It's unfortunately not a very uncommon symptom if you have bad social anxiety (or even depression? which is often comorbid with anxiety), particularly when living with roommates. Add in the general possibility of "sharts" and this was always a potential inevitability. But it's still not something you plan for. Nobody ever expects to shart. That's when it gets ya.

[@suckmyduck7029]

@WhatIsNature this dude lowkey wrote an essay about someone accidentally shitting in a sink

[@jnes624]

she has explained the fullstory elsewhere, think of a sexual activity involving that area of the body

[@aidanschram9652]

Anyone else with social anxiety terrified of phone calls? I have an easier time talking with someone face to face than over the phone. I always have to rehearse what im going to say several times before I call to make an appointment or something.

[@brightenblack207]

I have really bad anxiety mixed with speech impediments so I've had to type out scripts for myself with different possibilities just to make sure I don't screw up while talking on the phone

[@LinusE]

I have that as well. Same with incoming calls from people, I get very nervous.

[@freerights6695]

I only get that when there's other people around, so it's kind of like everyone's listening in on your conversation

[@user-dj9iu2et3r]

Face to face is 100x worse for me.

[@wanderingrandomer]

I am. Well, I was and am a bit better now. The thing that helped was that I literally had to do it as part of my job: ordering food for a cafe. It was the same repetitive thing I had to say each day, which eased me into the concept of phoning people. I'm good with official stuff like that, but struggle phoning friends and family.

[@kohtas]

I haven’t cried out of sadness in at least four or five years, but her story about the bracelet and how she felt excluded has made me a complete mess. I have severe social anxiety myself and can recall so many times where I felt (and was) left out by “friends” when I was younger. I’m so glad she came on here, it’s nice to know there are others out there who have gone through what you have and still struggle with daily.

[@christinamansen8636]

As she told the story I was just remembering this stupid time when I was young and I had a group of friends of like 7 girls and I had been the first to get a phone and they all promised me that when they got phones we would exchange numbers and text etc. And then like a year went by and I was at lunch and found out that they had all hung out together the weekend prior without me and I was like "why?" And they were like "oh cause your not in the group chat" and I found out that day that all 6 of my friends had gotten phones, told each other, exchanged numbers, made a group chat, and never once told me. It was probably one of the worst feelings I had ever felt that young which feels so stupid cause i was so young

[@LizVonVillas]

@@christinamansen8636 it’s not stupid to feel sad about that, you felt excluded. Doesn’t matter how old you are, it can really hurt!

[@omega_shalow]

Hope you're doing better now!

[@noeliagutierrez4223]

Felt

[@noeliagutierrez4223]

@@christinamansen8636 I'm still trying to wrap my head around why that happens. Like maybe people feel uncomfortable around us? It happened to me with a girl passing out candy and I knew me and her didn't exactly get along but it was so awkward being the only one who wasn't offered a candy. You'd think she'd notice and be like I should offer her one out of common courtesy, but no.

[@Sea_Bears]

We need "Can I think for a second?" merch.

[@winter666madness]

He does have it on the healthygamer merch store! lol

[@CrapsGoodxD]

How about, "Am I making any sense?!"

[@user-uq4gr5nl5o]

@@CrapsGoodxD I want the "Does that make sense? squadR"

[@ccloudleaf]

There really is something to that. So often people worship other who are able to retort on a dime (im thinking destiny or shapiro). I LOVE when Dr. K asks for a moment to think. It is so refreshing, and we need to worship people who think before they speak and not shame those who aren't able or don't want to sound like they are in a heater of a debate at all time.

[@SkinnyLegend1800]

I would like a "how are you feeling right now"

[@Linfamy]

"Close your eyes in public." "But what if I get hit by a car?" 😂😂😂

[@Linfamy]

@@sugoiz4276 😁👍

[@saswitchcraft7881]

She doesn't even know how pretty and funny she is lol. Well, I hope that thanks to Dr. K, she's going to start seeing that now!

[@sowl1044]

@@didkddididj1914 Yes officer, this is the child who learned the word simp recently

[@Abnormalproductions2]

@@didkddididj1914 When did u realize ur mom didn't love you?

[@didkddididj1914]

PMS-ing Nun when did your dad leave?

[@nussymussy]

damn dr k in a hoodie hits different

[@oousux]

top comment in coming

[@ardinugroho5236]

dr k wit the drip

[@Proger-sj8cj]

*Fresh asf*

[@MattIsLoling]

i can imagine him running up some stairs like rocky

[@spacedout1336]

LOL i was thinking the same thing

[@xDewritos]

Everybody gangsta till DR. K need more than one minute to think. EDIT: didn’t expect my original joke to get this many likes lol

[@elilandrum2017]

on god

[@Rodrigolarentube]

Like Shikamaru

[@ihorkarpiuk4102]

@@Rodrigolarentube aahhahahahaah

[@RawbLV]

Ruined your comment with that edit

[@porkerpete7722]

You ruin it when you edit it. Just enjoy and stfu. It's like you're surprised when you're being funny, cuz you're usually not.

[@tyunieism]

this feels like free therapy. cried quite a few times during this lol

[@jin6000]

Exactly! Completely agree.

[@worstpianist3985]

Crying ≠ therapy

[@SharockoRAZR]

@@worstpianist3985 crying can happen in therapy, they never said crying equals therapy

[@AzThaBeast]

@@worstpianist3985 crying can be extremely therapeutic

[@JaymieDornanVoice]

There’s a difference between therapeutic and therapy friend. ^_^

[@jewhwuehwjdhjw]

She is so sweet my heart just melted

[@AXharoth]

me too :D

[@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203]

You're gross

[@raoufal4427]

@@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203 ?

[@AXharoth]

@@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203 ??

[@tiggerknowsbest6817]

@@gijane2cantwaittoseeyou203 ???

[@takubear88]

Such a sweet gal, wishing her all the best.

[@AXharoth]

love her so cute

[@maniac8128]

@Thanos's Dick ah yes the alpha chad.

[@magnus2544]

@Thanos's Dick There's a reason no one likes you, but it's not too late to change.

[@lain39x]

"normally i shi* in plastic bags"

[@James-wu2hf]

@@magnus2544 Maybe he's just having a laugh? I'm not sure what attributing unlikeability to him does for you here, honestly. If his goal was to get a reaction, he's just succeeded in doing so.

[@AsteryaWindrunner]

I can relate to this girl so much. Especially the social anxiety stuff. I dropped out of high school and then university. I would be like 5 minutes late, stand in front of the door and listen to the class start inside, have a huge melt down, cry, throw up in the bathroom, look at the time. See that I'm an hour late, not find the courage to go inside, and just go home. An hour and a half of transportation btw. I feel so much better now, and actually like I'm in control. I hope everyone who goes through this knows they ll eventually be done with this and get better. it's not you, just something happening to you. You are strong, you just don't know it yet.

[@SniffinCoke]

You literally described my years in university, I couldn't go inside if I was late by like 5 minutes, cause people would look at my direction ... I actually had to stay in the uni baths for hours and then go back home , I never passed my first year at uni and spent 4 years lying to my parents.

[@wreckler5546]

It feels good knowing there's people who go through the same things :(

[@jon9428]

@@SniffinCoke jesus christ this hits so hard. I never knew people had this same fear as I did. I also would not enter a uni class late so i ended up eating at campus and waiting 2 hrs to go home. I tried coming in early instead. I dropped out of uni for 2 years and lied to my parents as well. But im back now and my anxiety improved, i even answer questions in class, also quarantine made everything easier. Dont give up man, its calming to know others felt this way too.

[@SniffinCoke]

@@jon9428 yeah things do get better if you try hard enough . I actually got back into uni and changed my major and started over again ,I will be graduating next year if everything goes right ! I've confessed to my parents and got help cause things were really rough for those 4 years . Not every thing is perfect ( I still don't have a single irl friend since like 6 years ago ) but things really do get better :D

[@jon9428]

@@SniffinCoke sounds like you had it tougher than me. Glad to know things are getting better, good luck out there.

[@isabella7p]

it's kind of funny how everyone in the comments is amazed with her honesty about embarrassing things, yet in the video they discover that it's her defense mechanism, avoiding uncertainty of whether people will like her by portraying herself badly. And it stems from anxiety and negative self image. Not something to respect, more like something to feel compassion for.

[@sofik9931]

It is still exceptional, wether it is “respectable” or not. Most of us will just never dare to reveal things we feel embarrassed of. So it is the honesty that people are amazed of.

[@nevermore6459]

I have a social phobia and I do exactly that... I used to think everyone could see anything I was feeling, so if I did something wrong, I had to confess immediately. I had a father that would watch me all the time and criticize everything in the most negative way possible...so I thought if I told before he would it wouldn't be as bad... It took me till about 30 to not feel guilty all the time anymore... Even if I hadn't done anything wrong I would still feel guilty... Its a horrible reality. I still have phobia though, and It makes me anxious to be around people still, I'm 36 now...

[@edwardrepperiv2227]

I think you can respect her and have compassion for her at the same time...

[@ilah5970]

I have never related to someone more than her. Several moments in this interview brought tears to my eyes. Feeling understood feels liberating

[@parolzaaz5085]

I started tearing up a bit when Poopernoodle was talking about her "friends" and all that. Rough stuff but was a great interview

[@Katzyn]

Same. It still amazes me sometimes how *mean* some people can be...

[@ccloudleaf]

mean girls are horrible

[@Unofficial_Beyerdynamic_T70P]

Same thing for me

[@alyssac6215]

Yeah that was heartbreaking

[@Unofficial_Beyerdynamic_T70P]

@@alyssac6215 OMG thank you for commenting I was trying to find this videos but couldn't remember the name.

[@melttyarts5996]

Lou is so relatable. I once cut my hair but was terrified of the awkward encounter with my roommate where we would discuss my hair being different. I wore a beanie around my roommate every time I saw her, even in the blistering summer. It's just so... Like I get it. Lou deserved better

[@j.67]

how do you have the courage to get your hair cut? LOL, it's still a huge effort for me I have no idea where to look in the mirror when it's being cut. I always feel like the barber/stylist will get mad at me for judging their work, etc.

[@847pm]

@@j.67 I usually just zone out when getting mine done, saves the effort of worrying about it lol

[@user-zt4zr7eg6z]

​@@j.67just get yourself exposed.

[@TheMsr47gaming]

😂 I get that I feel like rolling around in a ball and not wanting to interact with anyone.

[@AnimeLoaderLP]

I'm just taking a moment to let this sink in. This beautiful human being went and is going through something this horrible, yet she is brave enough to talk in front of thousands of people and share her story so that not only she learns from it, but also us. For someone with social anxiety, that's mad impressive - it would be even without that, but this is just so inspiring.

[@perpsycholkq]

Love this comment

[@wadeking4054]

Aside from her bravery coming on and talking about, this, she also raised like 8K for suicide awareness and blew up balloons for those who donated. Amazing!

[@emilycraven881]

Dr. K: "What are you getting from my face?" Me: "He's looks bored." Lou: "Hmmm, you look a bit bored." Me: *googles counseling near me*

[@EmilyLovesLink]

ha yup he does though!!

[@azure1204]

It is helpful to realize that's a focus face, not an uninterested face. I don't know if you can fix every misinterpretation possible at counseling.

[@tigerbend1964]

@@azure1204 I was thinking the same. He looks half happy half focused cause looking 100% happy when talking about possible trauma is kinda fucked up 😂

[@disbelief3911]

Me reading Emily Cravens comment: Yay, I'm normal. Me reading Azures comment: Oh no.

[@kennylaysh2776]

While I know he's just thinking there, I said "bored" too lmao. But That's because I expected Lou to think that. It can be hard to read a 'straight' face, I know that one because my normal face looks bored, when I'm simply in my head thinking.

[@constellation3164]

im so so so thankful that dr. K let a girl with social anxiety come on stream. im a girl myself and i relate to poopernoodle so much that tears welled in my eye. i felt relieved that a girl on this earth is exactly like me. i have bad social anxiety like her where id spend days in my room avoiding to see my family and i dropped out a year of school because my social anxiety was that bad. i relate to her so much on the moving part, being in a different country with different languages other than your own. i moved to a foreign country when i was 5 (almost 18 now) and had a really hard time fitting in so i didnt really learn to speak the language and that prevented me from making lots of friends, even to this day i have a really hard time so id rather isolate myself because i feel no one wants anything to do with me as what poopernoodle feels. i know what its like to not fit in with other kids. moving places really can mess up a child. i feel relieved that im not the only one whos gross as a girl lmao or doesnt have any girl friends. i relate to her low self-esteem and the devaluing of oneself, i relate to the blaming oneself too. i deal with lots of self hate and guilt and i beat myself up for being weak or complaining. im only 45 minutes in so far so theres still a lot to hear and i hope the strategies and conclusions dr. K gives at the end helps. thank you so much, this has touched the deepest part of my sad heart ❤️ thank you so much poopernoodle for having the courage to come on stream and talk, i feel really happy to not be alone and to have dr. K touch on a subject/situation that i needed ❤️

[@kimioops]

Hoping things can turn around for you ❤️

[@darlantro]

If it wasn't clear the meditation practice at the end was Dr. K trying first to figure out a way Noodle could safely dip into anxiety, then view those thoughts and feel those feelings, and then pull back out without it being too difficult. The idea is 'gaining distance from thoughts', by experiencing in a controlled way the thoughts that are bothering you and pulling up the feelings and emotions they evoke precisely so you can study then and recognize them as thoughts and the feelings they cause. Doing this many times can give you power over the original thoughts that lead to the feelings by giving you distance or perspective. It may not be as easy as simply closing your eyes in your situation, you may need to imagine yourself in an anxiety provoking situation to then evoke the thoughts and their feelings to then study them and eventually gain distance. Much love!

[@hola_chelo]

@@darlantro Thanks for that dude, I figured that I might need to imagine myself in an anxiety provoking situation in order to feel those feelings, since my anxiety is not that extreme, and she was much more exposed on that situation than I would be in daily because she was on a stream and talking to another person. Also, very good explaination!

[@tanvvir8996]

Tell yourself “I frankly don’t give a damn what you think about me, go to Hell”

[@darlantro]

@@hola_chelo A tricky thing about having to imagine an anxious situation to bring up anxious thoughts and study the thoughts themselves is it needs to be something you can quickly escape from and cut off, or else you could open your eyes and still feel pretty anxious. Note that Dr. K didn't seed her mind with some specific intense emotional experience from her past, but was instead asking her 'how does it feel if I tell you that you are terrible', and I suspect was planning on just trying different generally bad words to find ones that might trigger a bit of anxiety in her but not a ton,... then they realized just closing her eyes around people is very anxiety inducing and went with that. If you have a room or area in your home that is more anxiety provoking that you can enter and leave, that's another idea to just sit in there eye closed for about 30 seconds, then leave and then return and do it again a few times, each time studying your thoughts and trying to identify the feeling they are bringing up.

[@tritiumgaming4554]

When you said "Literally your brain has more processing power", she lit up. It was so nice to see that.

[@Itsgonnabeok4]

See if he said that to me I would think that he was only telling me that because he was trying to see and judge my reaction to figure out if I was narcissistic or not. 😅not because I think he does that but it’s my own struggle of feeling like i need to prove that I am not a bad person or being afraid being exposed as a bad person also maybe that accepting any praise is bad. Not sure what’s wrong with me I think paranoia.

[@rzr82]

Poopernoodle, that feeling you got at the end when K said "you are perfect just the way you are", hold on to that and reflect on it. I say this as a person who had terrible social anxiety from a very early age and throughout most of my adult years. I'm 37 now and I can say that I've gained the kind of perspective K is talking about. It takes time, it takes practice, but you can do it, and that feeling that made you cry at the end there is the proof that you have a sense of self-worth deep inside you that's been suppressed for so long. I legitimately teared up when he said that and I saw the look on your face, because I recognized myself in your struggle. You can do it! 🙂

[@PinkFaline]

It's like she's never heard a genuine compliment in her life and that's sad. As for what you say, there's something to be said about being in your 30's too. I'm 34 and just now realizing how much of my life I wasted on seeking validation from strangers. How many things I missed out on and didn't do because I was afraid of judgement. For example, dying my hair pink. I was afraid of being made fun of but ever since I did it 7 years ago, I've never felt more free. I'm learning who I am and I'm learning to be proud of that. Like Dr. K said (paraphrasing), you're going to be judged either way so you might as well be happy just being yourself. In that regard, other people don't matter. YOU matter.

[@reinux]

Yeah I'm 35, and that made me well up, even though I'm not even someone who suffers from much self-loathing or social anxiety. Guess that's one of the good things about growing old, you start noticing all the good things too.

[@Kirsten4260]

I cried for a full 10 minutes just from reading that. We really wish I had friends that said that to me. :/

[@A1MOSTADDICTEDMINECRAFT]

Man, what a great guy you are. Just found this channel, you are great. Great insight and just a genuinely nice person

[@realrebelli0n]

facts

[@tydusarandor]

Around 1:45:12 Lou takes some time to think of something wonderful about herself and comes up with "I really like dogs." That's really sweet, but I was casually checking out her Twitter while watching this and learned that all the balloons behind her were from when she and her community raised over $8000 for charity (!!) You have lots that's wonderful about you, Lou :)

[@poopernoodle]

thank you

[@AXharoth]

@@poopernoodle

[@ryanfrank1309]

​@@poopernoodle You are a wonderful person and you have the sweetest, kindest heart. I hope life is treating you well, you deserve it more than anyone on this planet. I hope you see this, but you probably won't and that's okay🙂. Thank you.

[@C8Canine]

@@ryanfrank1309 wow more than me thats mean

[@MilkCurd]

@@C8Canine yes more than you Zyren

[@spywriter007]

Poopernoodle is actually a really likeable person, I could see many people (myself included) who would want to be her friend.

[@jarrodhayne560]

I would want to be more than friends

[@bakicci]

"why do you call yourself pooper noodle again? "cause I shat in the sink" out of context but jesus this is great

[@bakicci]

45:04

[@canobenitez]

@@bakicci that's kinda hot

[@AD-cy4vj]

@@canobenitez 🧐

[@Kokorisu]

At 1:07:00 when Lou had that sudden change in her expression and decided to share her experience with SA made me actually gasp in real life. The courage! Her whole expression gets so much determination all at once. Thank you for sharing with us.

[@smizmi5467]

“You’re living life like the speed runners” holy shit accurate won’t cut it

[@theomniscientvoid9553]

Kinda late to this, but she honestly really seems like an extremely precious soul. It's so sad the most sensitive people often endure the most harsh treatments, both internally and externally.

[@TheKebabFTW]

She seems so sweet and caring. Wishing her all the best

[@pix3lle375]

"Blaming the victim is the last refuge of assholes" I love this. Pooper if by any chance you are reading this looking for the bad comments, I suggest for today you stop at this one instead. You showed your authentic self on this stream and I am convinced the overwhelming majority of the community thought you would be a blast to hang out with, and deserved much more than half a box of donuts for your birthday. We see you, we hear you and we believe you. Being naive and not seeing the red flags isn't a crime, it's the result of having faith in humanity and empathy, which others did not have for you. YOU are the better person, even if you think you were dumb for having these valuable qualities at the wrong time. I'm just a stranger on the Internet, so I'm not writing this to be nice, I just think you deserve to sit with something good for a little while. I hope you're well.

[@arypthex5713]

Thank you for this comment

[@SunriseAlchemist]

This is a beautiful comment

[@IsiahTomas]

@@SunriseAlchemist I'll fourth this OP as well.

[@EarthmanJim]

"You're perfect the way you are. You don't need to change, you just need perspective on who you are" holy shit

[@voicedbilabialtrill2514]

As a person also being very sensitive to facial expressions, I confirm: I also thought that Dr K looked bored 😂

[@pikkuliskoart]

Daamn, that's so interesting! Maybe a year or two ago I would've said the same but now I saw him being calm, peaceful, or just neutral. Maybe it's also because I've watched so much of his content I know he wouldn't get bored by these interviews, he loves doing these.

[@DazzlingUp]

Me too 😂

[@arthurcallahan4735]

Sometimes when you drown for long enough you just grow gills, then it can become impossible to breath again on land.

[@wombat7961]

Why are you such a great poet? I'm writing your words down in my journal, such a beautiful quote

[@flyingskyward2153]

She seems super nice, I hope she's in a better place now two years later.

[@coal.sparks]

It's so hard to watch this interview because it's so close to my own experience. Pre-teen/teenage girls are horrifying to each other a surprising amount of the time. I'd forgotten it until my own daughter got to that age. And then I'd forgotten it until I watched this. It's like we don't want to admit it to ourselves.

[@coal.sparks]

Also the "I want people to believe me more than I want to be happy" just shot me in the damn heart.

[@unknown_truck]

Yes pre teen or teen or some women are fucking miserable in general They also try to make you cringe like themselves mostly They won't let you be you.

[@ReptillianStrike]

I hear constantly that women, especially young women are very catty, passive aggressive, and fucking cut throat. Far more hostile between each other than men are. I'm inclined to believe it at this point, but I never repeat it because it wasn't and isn't something I could ever experience first hand, so I couldn't truly know.

[@bufficliff8978]

It's not a secret; people just aren't culturally allowed to acknowledge it

[@bellagarzia9653]

@@ReptillianStrikeit is true.

[@BetterDays_Now]

She's absolutely precious. I hope she feels better and more self confident. ❤

[@TheGabrielPT]

I see sooo much of me in her as a socially anxious person. I've literally had exactly the SAME experiences, especially that whole 'being stuck in my room and avoiding roommates in college' situation in the beginning, as well as the alcohol stuff, later on. Also dr.k is a g at describing our brain in social situations, absolutely spot on

[@Keithnicity]

I wish Dr. K had asked the simple question “Why did you get into streaming and social media?” I would be really interested to hear her honest answer. Because it seems to me that a person with crippling social anxiety would shy away from anything putting themselves in the public eye. It’s amazing that she can even function during a stream. I need a minute to think...

[@adambriest5257]

well i can only theorise, as a person who has regular panic attacks for no apparent reason when interacting with "real people" out in the day i can very well understand why lou doesnt want to engage in an activity that makes her feel uncomfortable to the point where it is not only being nervous. being nervous is a "normal" reaction but anxiety can manifest tiself in many nasty ways...heavy breathing, increased heartbeat rate, a felling everyone is staring at you,getting a tremor,being short fused and so on. at least that is my experience. however interacting in the online world is an entire different cup of tea. i can play games and talk on TS,discord what have you without any issues. no nervousness,sudden shaking hand and raised heart rate at all. i cannot tell you why that is because iam not an expert but perhaps for her it is similar, she did mention that streaming wasnt a big deal because its "only a chat" she has to interact with. no idea how it is "on the socials" so to speak because i dont use any of it,probably for the better :) my 2 cents

[@domjfp]

Good question, I wonder how she overcame her anxiety to stream. Something ive never been able to try cause of anxiety

[@saraalnuaimi9422]

He did when he was adressing her alcoholism, you weren't paying attention. People with social anxiety tend to self torture when going on social media/platforms to see what normal people are like. Basically, Dr K's response was: don't compare yourself to others, give yourself value and be yourself.

[@user-bu6nq1ve6m]

@@adambriest5257 it is maybe because it is not to personal

[@christpierre]

@@adambriest5257 money

[@restinginn9906]

"The only way to show up the next day is to have been perfect the day before"...Damn. No wonder I hate going to work. Some part of me is ashamed that I'm not perfect and I can't tell if it's a lack of self confidence or arrogance.

[@Kissaki0]

If you feel like you are failing I don’t think that’s [called] arrogance. It’s also not necessarily about self confidence, although a lack thereof obviously strengthens the issue. It’s mainly a matter of expectation and assessment of self, and specifically differently towards others which we obviously perceive differently to ourselves - if at all. A common related concept is 'imposter syndrome'. Could be interesting to read up on for you as well. Perfectionism can really suck and be detrimental.

[@Coogi999]

This Interviews feels like he is talking about me.... Good on Noodle for doing this!

[@ZippyZipTV]

Do you poop in a bag?

[@darlantro]

@@ZippyZipTV better in a bag than on my lawn

[@Vivivofi]

@@darlantro, better out there just chillin’ in the grass than ground up in here, in the evil lair, that is my ass. Fax

[@rushbcykablyat1792]

If you come to my house I'll have to barricade all my sinks.

[@TheIrishBosnian]

@@ZippyZipTV ❤

[@rulinggodsidly3217]

This girl makes me smile. She's just delightful.

[@EyeconicLaura]

I don’t think I’ve ever felt so connected to someone in these interviews. So many similar things happened to me and my mind works almost identically to hers in terms of anxiety. I mean god, I did the exact same thing with not going to classes in college, I had shitty friends just like that that made me feel less than everyone else but also “overdramatic,” I refuse to ask a nail tech to change what they’re doing because I feel guilty... it’s scary how much I identify with her experiences.

[@mashable8759]

sameeeeee

[@awawa5594]

same but i want a solution

[@sami2503]

I relate to her so much, I'm the same as her with the 'they haven't seen me in 4 days so I cant just go in the kitchen now' I've literally starved myself to avoid people.

[@osku2290]

Same if im about to go to the kitchen or the bathroom, I make sure that no ones on the way when i go and speedrun everything and just go back to my room being depressed.

[@helmsword9716]

the amount of strength/courage it takes to do this and be as real as she was, is incredible.

[@randomshots2023]

Dr k is truly empathetic and his consideration is truly sth i can take away as a therapist

[@st4ylitt91]

This happends to me at work. Ill call off one day and just feel like an asshole and eventually not show up at all cause i feel everyone hates me. I hate it

[@delneus]

Exactly This!

[@Str8xGunner]

Do you guys still have jobs after the second day of not showing up or something ?? If so, where do you work please

[@st4ylitt91]

@@Str8xGunner i wouldnt recommend working at fedex. And the only reason i wouldnt get fired was cause i have paid time off

[@delneus]

@@Str8xGunner Amazon, at first it was allowed time off, but recently it's lots of doctor's notes. I'm actually in the hospital right now It's gotten so bad.

[@smam7667]

God damn this is relatable

[@FantabulousVideos]

This was amazing! It’s obvious it helped her dig deep to see the why. It has also helped me so, so much. Thank you for having the courage to put this out!

[@chickenspy1854]

"Yeah. Cuz my eyes are closed!" I feel that. I was in a yoga class once and we did meditation. The teacher said to close all of our eyes. My surface level thoughts were that I was the only one with my eyes closed and everyone else was judging everyone who had their eyes closed, me. What an odd way to think.

[@amanlal1000]

After watching Dr. K for the last month, I am convinced he is a good man trying to help others. Mad respect for him, good luck sir.

[@marshalls951]

she is honestly adoreable and very brave to do this

[@solemnsausage5514]

Old vid but WOW I've got huge respect for you Lou! Despite having social anxiety you were willing to share some intense yet relatable, helpful and powerful stories with others. I hope you find a way to love yourself again and get to meet some friends that will truly value you 😊

[@randomname4726]

I wish I had a friend like her. She is such a sweet person and I've had terrible social anxiety my whole life too. It was great to hear you talk about alcohol. I used to drink a lot but I can't anymore. It just makes everything worse and gives me anxiety attacks when I sober up.

[@taylerrenee9710]

Wow, I thought I was the only one with these thoughts and feelings. I thought something was wrong with me and I was embarrassed to speak on this. Thank you for being so brave, you definitely are an inspiration to me!

[@D4rkDust]

I usually don't comment on videos, but i want to really really really appreciate the courage Lou had to talk about all these things and also thank her for sharing her story. I think a lot of us can relate to the stories that have been told and the feelings that have been shared. Breaking up those toxic and devaluing thoughts is such a tough challenge and i hope this conversation laid the foundation for a healtier mindset in a lot of us. And if you read this Lou i just want to say that you are such a lovely person and i loved listening to your stories. My thoughts go out to you and i wish you nothing but the best. Even if you are not, i for one am certain that you are tougher than you think and that you will be able to beat those toxic thoughts and learn to appreciate the value you have.

[@joppekim]

That goodbye ending was so sweet. I've never seen a streamer or youtuber respond to a shoutout with: GOD NO; GOODBYE! She was funny and has a sense of humor as well. Loved this interview!

[@beryllien]

"Do you want to just tell us about your channel before you go?" "uh! no, no, god no! bye!!" "...so I guess, don't check her out?" 2:00:00 LMAO

[@gino9094]

The funniest outro xD But yeah sweet and interesting interview.

[@xxBreakxxAwayxx3]

Omg love it. She doesnt need to drink, i laughed out loud so many times. What a sweet & endearing person!

[@ShengFink]

@@justanothertinypartofthisi4651 I’d stay away from words like always, especially when talking about something as complicated as human behavior.

[@traywor]

I'm really sad for her. She seemed to have an social anxiety attack at the end.

[@user-dj9iu2et3r]

@@traywor well she absolutely will gain a ton of insight from this interview so I believe she will believe it was worth it.

[@hyuqoh]

I'm SO glad they had this interview, I've been waiting for a social anxiety one and a female interviewee for a while now, and this was remarkably helpful. Thanks for being so strong Lou!

[@mechadonkykong]

can't believe im watching this 4 years from the upload, What a coincidence.

[@gabrielfrechette4911]

Circumstance in her life make her doubt about herself so much, I hope it gets better and that she goes seek for help! I'm glad I've watched this, I did learn about social anxiety and even a little bit about myself in the process! Thank you

[@GM-yb5yg]

Pure, as in naive and traumatised? We need to get real and see things the way they are if we wany actual improvement. This girl needs massive therapy and awareness about her truly messed up sense of self. Thinking about how she's a great.person and amazing does jack shit to her situation. Right now, she is naive and lacks awareness and integriity. It starts by waking up and seeing yourself the way you are instead of this idealization.

[@gabrielfrechette4911]

@@GM-yb5yg I agree with you, don't get me wrong. I just found this "therapy session" being very intriguing for people with social anxiety. Introspection is the key, obviously. And psychologist are there to help people through it. I don't think making compliment should be seen as idealization, but I agree that in this situation she obviously need to get real about it and seek help instead of being pet by those who have pity of her. Thanks for sharing your thoughts * I'll adjust my comment, if you don't mind * ;)

[@a_sartplace]

I resonate with her so much. Been similar stuff through in my earlier years in life. I never thought I would learn this much about my social anxiety, but this video changed a lot. Big respect to you, Poopernoodle! Thank you so much for this.

[@L1Q]

this interview is something special to me. Lou is very relatable, I want to thank her for coming. I knew I have some level of social anxiety, this helps a lot to learn and talk about it. the being late to class and deciding to skip the rest of it, prioritizing other people over my inconvenience, feeling guilt for leaving when other people can just do it, phone call anxiety. I'm growing out if it partially, and there is still way to go. thank you again

[@parkerriggs3861]

I absolutely love this conversation. I think it's amazing that Dr. K uses silence so well. I remember s therapist that did the same with me we would sit there for like 10 minutes in silence as we both processed and thought about certain things that were said.

[@marssmith64]

I love the ending so much. It was heart-warming and hilarious at the same time. Poopernoodle is such a wonderful character.

[@dm6370]

This was an incredibly powerful interview and my favorite so far to have listened to. Thank you for the insight this video has given me.

[@YoRHa_Eri]

She has a lovely accent. I struggle with social anxiety myself and admire her courage to openly discuss these private and embarassing situations to overcome the daily struggle. I think she's come quite some way since her experiences in university and I hope she can further improve her situation. I havn't come this far yet but it's inspiring to listen to her story.

[@couchmanl]

Dam this whole missing the window thing is exactly how I feel. Even over stupid simple things like saying hello to friends, sometimes just put my head down and pretend I didn't see them to avoid needing to say hello. It is crippling.

[@JupiterSlim]

Incredible how much this video and channel is helping ppl. It makes me emotional. Hearing that someone like Dr. k has “messed up” or failed at normal things is relieving and reassuring

[@Valentino016]

I related this so much. I stop going to highschool irl and I couldnt go back because everyone will talk about me if I went back. Now im on online highschool and I havent socialized for a long time. I only went out three times this year and im having anxiety rn because im going out somewhere and I have no idea how to act in public. What makes it worse is that I have bad sensory issues and im really sensitive to noise and light. Even if I go outside id feel like vomitting. My social anxiety really made me miss out on alot of things. I never really talked to anyone about the issues I have because it makes me feel like im seeking for attention so I just stay quiet and try to figure out how to get rid of it myself. Im really glad you went in depth with social anxiety this really helped me put things together.

[@petsh0pgirl]

I relate to this a lot, I went to online school too because of my anxiety. Do you know that moment when you spent so much time isolated that you start feeling like you don't have anxiety anymore, but only until you leave your house? Anyway, I wish you the best, your comment made me feel understood.

[@Mienarrr]

hope you get better ❤

[@iaprawitasari3028]

i hope you can overcome your social anxiety, i know its very hard, we can do it

[@HY-dd6sc]

lmaoo this thumbnail. dr K looks so chill like The Chill God in his hoodie and then Poopernoodle looks a bit anxious on the side

[@s.t1482]

Is he a real doctor ?

[@5udimax]

@@s.t1482 Yes, he's a Harvard trained psychiatrist .

[@abyss1997]

@@5udimax but he just said he failed?

[@5udimax]

@@abyss1997 I think it would be best if you googled about dr alok kanojia (dr K). Here's what I found "As an Instructor in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, Dr. Kanojia works alongside leading clinicians, researchers and academics who are on the cutting edge of integrative psychiatric care. He is a leading voice for alternative methods within the psychiatric community at the world’s best psychiatric institutions including McLean Hospital and Massachusetts General Hospital."

[@IllIlllI]

K has this special way of asking, it’s a structure going in a circle with interchangeable key points in each question. What amazes me is how he articulates his interest and his ability to pinpoint reason! (I also noticed that he does some kind of “trauma therapy without having to know the whole background of the individual which seems to have quiet the effect with young adults, again incredible combination of zeitgeist and ability to deduct(and years of study))

[@IllIlllI]

Things to take from this vid: - if responded to with “I feel like x” always ask for raw emotion - ask them about logical fallacies if you notice them in their talk (if they are negative for ego) - transitions in conversation themselves can be questioned - allow break for emotions - question behavior or decisions which have negative consequences - it’s the (thought of (theoretical)) Change in your dominance hierarchy that scares you, not the actual position - it’s not a problem with recognition of reaction in other people, it’s a problem with realization of said reactions in oneself(which can easily be conditioned)

[@mohamedkamara8225]

Thank you for this I want to be a psychiatrist so the way he does therapy really interests me. I wish he expanded more on his method in videos to up and coming psychiatrists

[@randomshots2023]

Can you explain this in an easier way? I am studying to be a therapist

[@_mayankr]

One of my favorite episodes.

[@tiggerknowsbest6817]

Same. Unexpected aswell, just goes to prove (once again) that life is so utterly complex and all of us are so uniquely different, yet the feelings we share are so similar :)

[@mcosmos-h2w]

lou is so brave and endearing, much appreciation and respect to her for doing this. i teared up several times

[@jin6000]

Ooofff, I cried watching this. Holy shit. Respect to Lou for sharing her story and being so open. The importance of this channel can not be overstated. SO much respect for your Dr K and whoever else manages this channel. Thank you.

[@idontcare9041]

Thanks for doing this to you and everyone that's been on the show. These streams have helped me immensely. I've been in and out of therapy, on and off medication for the past years and these few months watching the streams or VODs have taught me more about myself and human nature than I would have hoped for meeting a new therapist. It probably says more about me but I really appreciate it.

[@emmysherman6587]

Poopernoodle if you are reading this you are wonderful!!!

[@texhnolyze03]

second!!!

[@MyMusiclifestyle]

I wanted to comment this aswell! :) Shes can brighten up a room and I hope she can see how awesome she is herself

[@fractal_mind562]

@George Sander interesting first thought, do you know the type of guys who go for vulnerable girls ? I hope youre not left alone with too many people dude

[@calacestar]

@George Sander I reported your comment, yall feel free to do the same. Learn to have respect for people, or else you won't receive none as well

[@hafeezytaughtme]

@George Sander your name is George sander you can't say ting you poser

[@qp4fg855]

I'm a HSP and find myself struggling with certain social situations a lot. I was never able to enjoy spending time with my family because I get so overwhelmed after 2-3 hours I could just burst into tears for no reason and storm off. I feel like it's getting worse the older I'm getting. So there is always this situation of me sitting there and it's hard for me the whole time, and when my social barometer is finally done after 3 hours and I go home, everybody tells me how disappointed they are after that I always have to go so soon. For me it feels like fucking ages and it hurts to feel like not doing good enough when I really try hard.

[@nano7586]

You're probably overwhelmed by your family cause you're not being yourself and not talking about what you want to talk about. If you're the HSP in the family then you can act like one. When serious conversations come up you talk more deeply about them. You're the person who can talk more deeply and personally about things while everybody else only talks about it on the surface. Groups need people like you and it only benefits everybody if you show this side of yourself. Embrace that trait of yours and don't see it as weakness. People actually feel lots of empathy for persons who show their true feelings and not hide them, because that makes them suspicious and as if they were hiding something. The phrase "be yourself" is stupid because it's hard to know who you are, but if you feel like a conversation is too boring or overwhelming then show that you don't like it. Try to initiate a change of topic, tell them what you feel about it so that people also adapt to you and not just you to them. I noticed this immediately draws positive attention to myself and people feel interested.

[@Bibbzter666]

Sounds somewhat abusive.

[@Kissaki0]

Does the setting where you are have many sensory inputs? If there is a lot of other stuff going on live music or TV or many people, maybe you can reduce some of those? That could improve your situation and how long you can stay.

[@qp4fg855]

No I don't really get sensory overload that often. But I get it with people a lot. I am the only introvert in a family of extroverts. I wouldn't call it abuse but they definitely don't understand at all where I'm coming from. My mom started laughing when I said I think I'm highly sensitive ... She thought it was funny. I don't think she will ever really understand how much I hate situations like that and that I will always avoid them if I can.

[@qp4fg855]

It's not like my family is abusive but they are just so different from me that they can't understand my issues. I think it's just bad luck honestly 😂 but of course that affects me and that's why I reserve so much alone time for myself because I know WHEN I go out it's going to be exhausting.

[@kimutone2970]

I have listened to this more than once but never commented. Your story really broke something inside of me, it touched fibers that few things have... but it has made me a better person. Thank you Lou, I wish you very well, now and forever.

[@PifchoBG]

This is the most anxious person I have ever seen, it was fascinating to listen and watch her. At her age I had anxiety too, not as bad as hers, but if she's a 10/10 I was a 3/10 and it still felt so painful I can't imagine being a 10/10 . Wish her the best

[@TheGagabou]

Thank you for your dedication to us Dr. K, these episodes are informative and give us the chance to explore ourselves especially when we can relate. And thank you Lou; for what you did for yourself here, will certainly help many people over the years!

[@nascentwings]

This interview was very emotional for me. Poopernoodle's story was very relatable and I couldn't help but feel for her, especially during the story about her birthday.

[@ayayronald]

49:20 This point absolutely resonated with me in the sense that I am afraid to be happy because I’m afraid of the depressing episodes that follow. Anyone else?

[@Timetravel1979]

This video is fascinating. I feel like I've learned more of an ability to empathize with things that I have no personal experience with. I wasn't familiar with Lu before this video, but I have complete respect for her courage in being able to do something like this. If I had these intuitions about the world around me, I couldn't imagine that I'd have the bravery to put it on display for others. I hope the best for her, she totally deserves it.

[@vit.budina]

Lou seems like an extremely nice person to be around, and I felt really bad for her when she told her stories about past friends and her childhood because I knew exactly how she felt. I used to have similar friends back in elementary school and I spent most of my childhood playing on my own, too. I have issues with social anxiety and loneliness and a slight fear of women since a group of girls bullied me in elementary school. I hope to meet someone like her someday, knowing the shit she went through.

[@Kevin-ts7hf]

This interview was extremely healing for me, and this woman deserves the world. Thank you Dr. K and Poopernoodle!

[@Iusethisnameok]

Very enlightening and relatable, maybe almost a little to relatable, to the point that I felt I could predict 90% of what was going to be said and felt. I feel out of mana and I wasn’t even interviewed. Big up for noodle for having the courage to talk about it and even stream to begin with and but her self out their. She is just adorable!

[@DutchieDopa]

I wish I could positively value social anxiety more. My social anxiety is been isolating me for so long, I cannot even function in my life. It's so frustrating...

[@yazandana7030]

Same here man, we’ll break through it sometime, someday ❤️❤️

[@SLisaPizza]

Are you seeing a therapist about this? I know it seems impossible but it's definitely possible when someone is in your corner.

[@vinny5638]

Sadly in the same place:(

[@DutchieDopa]

@@SLisaPizza Yes I have cognitive behavioural therapy. Also for 2 year I used to use benzodiazepines. Please people don't use those things to suppress your emotions if your suffering from this condition! It than gets 10 times more worse because of the GABA withdrawal neurotransmitter. The best advise I can give is to see it for what it is and its only trying to alert you.

[@mistermigi9119]

@@DutchieDopa I hope you can find a solution that works. For me it is a mixture of gradual exposure and learning to allow the anxiety to exist instead of suppressing it. The app unwinding anxiety by judd brewer helped me a lot! And no, I am not sponsored. Just a suggestion if you look for something.

[@theeviljames]

Been up all night watching your videos, 19 hours so far (to be clear, I would have been up all night anyway). Absolutely love them. I'm currently in therapy and it has inspired a lot of introspection to bring to my coming sessions cheers, Dr K.

[@theeviljames]

OMG, Poopernoodle, kind of breaking my brain to hear someone else describe - through analogous anecdotes - my entire childhood

[@theeviljames]

OK. Commented a little early. I feel very angry about the assault you had to endure. I sincerely hope you've been able to move past the incident. Thank you for speaking out

[@lastjager4108]

Thank you Dr. K for the free therapy and Poopernoodle for expressing yourself. Both of you have helped me understand and improve my anxiety.

[@SleepyRPGman]

I know my social anxiety once I started preschool/first grade. I was an outgoing toddler and then a switch flipped and I’ve been socially anxious ever since.

[@Ahmed-ii7up]

Outgoing toddler? Lol. Sorry i just found it funny.

[@jayb555-r9k]

This has been absolutely brilliant, I don't have social anxiety but my ex-partner did and I recognized so many of the issues and thought-patterns she was describing. Massive massive massive respect to her for coming on and being that open.

[@libbyt3550]

lou thank so much for doing this, as someone who also has social anxiety i cannot describe how helpful it was to see someone talking about what I am going through and getting context for my feelings from dr k, i literally appreciate it so much thank you!!!

[@abject_fail]

Many thanks to this girl for sharing this with everyone. It was very validating, even for a man. The experiences are different but similar

[@patdus11]

damn this guy is a real professional its impressive

[@b.szymanska9227]

he got further with her in 30 minutes than I did with my therapist in 13 hours lol

[@JoeNerdShow]

you got riped off and had a fake or the wrong type.

[@b.szymanska9227]

@@JoeNerdShow well 5$ pills from psychiatrist did more than any of her advice 🙃🙃🙃

[@musclemommyenjoyer]

lol you got milked

[@b.szymanska9227]

@@musclemommyenjoyer life do be like that sometimes, the approach that the therapist chose was not suitable for me and I was really bad at communicating my concerns, either way something was off, but I don’t believe she did that on purpose 🤷‍♀️

[@kilroymoa]

​@@musclemommyenjoyer no compassion, jeez

[@WaltRBuck]

These videos are SO rich. There is more treasure than can be taken in one go.

[@BubblegumDog_]

Poopernoodle, if you're reading this, thank you so much for sharing. Really makes me feel less alone.

[@BloodyScythe666]

man that was so adorable and heartwarming :D as someone myself who suffered from social anxiety for like two decades or even longer, I can tell you that there's always a way to conquer it!

[@TonyMaynard-SD]

fantastic video. i learned so much! thank you lou for having this conversation to help yourself and others i hope youre doing better now!