Heated Debate: Should We Put Men First In Relationships? | Good Morning Britain

[@michaelwilkinson2928]

We should put our spouse first in any relationship.

[@wioi]

Thank you. I agree. Doesn't matter which way, man or woman.

[@CreamNall_]

Great answer.. i do find it funny that they got 2 single women to discuss relationships.. If anything at least ONE of them should have been married.. single people can NEVER understand the horror show that being married can be sometimes.. loving and hating the person you are with in equal measure is such a confusing place to be.. and im not talking about ur 4 or even 7 year marriages.. they are the golden years.. Me and my lovely charmingly generous wife are going on 26 years married now.. we have seen the very best and the oh so very very worst of each other.. but our philosophy is one along ur own lines.. love your partner more than anything in this universe and there is nothing that will pull u apart!!

[@Iazzaboyce]

A horse needs both hay and water to exist. Hay and water are not the same, but are of equal importance. Men and women are not the same, but are of equal importance. For a marriage to exist one spouse must give way or it's not a marriage. The only question is: _Do we want marriage to be the foundation of society - or should we work toward a different kind of society?_ If we want a society built on marriage, then we should respect marriage, not rubbish it.

[@stehardacre4549]

As a man I can tell you we don't like being told by women how we like our women to behave, some men like women to be dependent on them and some men like women to be more independent. It's not black and white.

[@jujutrini8412]

Exactly. Some men like doing the cooking and the wife does other stuff around the house. Men and women find the appropriate partner to suit their needs and find their own rhythm to make things work. I know so many men that are so much better than women at the traditional old fashioned things that women were put in charge of in the olden days and vice versa. A spouse should always try to make their partner happy and be happy to do so!

[@olgap411]

"how we like our women to behave"...

[@balance3201]

Most men respect women who bring up their kids we'll and look after the family. They couldn't care less if you were a CEO.

[@wioi]

I would actually love to know if you're a man or a woman? So yes, there certainly are men like that around but there are also men around that want a woman who has a awesome carrier. I don't think my man or any of my exes would have been with me if I (then) wasn't a hard learning university student and so where they, and now a carrier woman who stands with both feet on thr ground and also can support herself without his paycheck

[@kittys179]

Exactly! Everyone is different, so why should it matter if a man or a woman chooses to work a career or take care of the home or even both. From a woman's perspective here, I believe there is this emphasis that since women's rights have increased over the last 100 years, that as a woman you must work and be able to take care of the home. Be this big boss lady who can handle it all. I think there is this sense of guilt that is put onto women that to not use those rights gained from sacrifice, you are then wasting their sacrifice. That's how I see it anyway. I think it's contributed to the current ways of thinking, not being the only reason of course.

[@AnnaP-uh3mc]

😆 We’re not becoming CEOs to attract men.

[@BabyBytheBeach]

They miss dinner because they were out cheating

[@LuzdoSol00]

At least, these two women are having a civil conversation. If you put a Trans debate God forbidden the knifes are out.

[@wioi]

Oh yes I agree. That's why the comment section is off whenever there is a talk about Trans or gender

[@wioi]

By the way, I just learned from a previous debate I've watched here that there are around 70 genders now! And that a baby without a gender is now a theyby ...

[@jaytee8925]

This whole 'settling for' and 'what I deserve' in a partner... So ridiculous. You do not deserve anything. You earn trust and love.

[@hd-xc2lz]

Oh yes. Two phrases inescapable when talking to a person in their 30yrs or older, male or female, who has long been single.

[@FueledNexus]

2 single women talking about how to keep a man.........

[@minzy421]

One key point they keep forgetting is the class and status of man and woman that play a big part in finding someond and having a relationship

[@sophieparry8926]

Talia is completely right we haven't come this far to go backwards now and I want a man who'll share the jobs at home as do many women

[@balance3201]

Backwards was forward

[@luluah1198]

She never mentioned sharing though. In fact she clearly said she doesn’t want to Come home and cook and clean. So get yourself a chef and house cleaner then? Because if both partners work the load should be shared. She mentioned ying and Yang incorrectly btw lol, but I guess she meant things should be shared but her statements didn’t reflect sharing . She seams to link cleaning and cooking and lowly tasks she is “above “. But if it’s good engine for your husband for ying and Yang sakes it should be good enough for you also?

[@grahambrown6168]

She's fucking delusional, her account is constantly complaining about being single hahaha

[@j86485]

Not all women think like you so don't say many women. Each women is different and some want their husband to do different roles or some want men to do the same roles as them. It depends on a variety of things like your personal values, societal values, religious values, etc

[@andriedemetriou3113]

What is so hard that women do, that men can’t do in the house. Share chores in the nest is not such a big deal.

[@CR-ce5lf]

Men can’t even wash their butts properly or even mop a floor, clearly they can’t do things without women

[@teoleno4019]

The only reason your granny was married for whole life is because she accepted him cheating on her.

[@dannya4931]

This debate needed Andrew tate

[@CA-qw7qk]

Sorry but no ….I’ve been married for as long as I can remember and I can tell you that what keeps a man is not cooking dinners and cleaning and scrubbing floors….what keeps a man is respect, loyalty, compromise, calmness and just all in all a good home just as what keeps a wife. Cooking and cleaning are the bare minimum from BOTH partners as long as I they can afford the time to do it. It’s not less valuable of a man to get dinner ready and it’s not degrading for a woman to clean up after dinner, it’s just not, it’s the bare minimum not a gendered chore, if I have time I do it, if he does then he does it period anything less than that is a scam. Relationships are about coexisting with love, respect and everything else. If that lady with the turban wants to do all that “traditional” stuff she should do it and tell us all about it after she does it not before and the blonde lady should do her independent woman thing as well but don’t come out here lecturing anyone about “I would do x and y” cause you ain’t doin it love.

[@Niamh-l3p]

best comment

[@hd-xc2lz]

Was kind of silly in the first place to invite two single, never married women to debate long term relationship ideals.

[@EGGYOLKFTW]

It's funny, a modern women wants a traditional man but she won't be traditional. All women think they're above average and will settle for nothing less than 6 ft tall plus, great job, rich, assets, home owner, ambitious, fitness model physique, but when a man says he doesn't want an obese woman and someone who's been through 100s of men it's body shaming and promiscuity shaming, madness! What are they offering? An earache, no thanks! I read a stat the other day that 50% of males are not pursuing any forms of relationships with women whether that be a legitimate relationship or just casual sex etc, I wonder why? Just to clarify I am not saying women shouldn't strive for more, but be realistic in what you are, what you're offering.

[@wioi]

I wholeheartedly agree with everything you've written!!

[@chriswayneevans]

I tend to agree. The majority of women seem to be chasing the same archetype you mention, tall, dark and handsome, wealthy etc etc, and many men don’t measure up. These are the disenfranchised men that might feed into your stats. I bet a lot of those single men are actually struggling to find anyone. I don’t buy that they just aren’t bothering, nearly ALL straight men would like to find a woman, to deny that is to deny evolution, but they just don’t want to admit it because of male pride.

[@HA-qt8vo]

Why does it concern you that women wont settle?

[@EGGYOLKFTW]

@H A single parent household statistics is one issue of many. Have you ever researched them? If not I suggest you do, it's awfully bad for the innocent infants. My question to you would be why aren't you concerned?

[@HA-qt8vo]

@@EGGYOLKFTW you didnt answer my question. I mean i think women being older makes them more mature and more likely to pick better partners? Is that ur point cuz im tryna connect the dots

[@celebibi4360]

Huh I wonder why the comments are suddenly open? Either way I would gladly stay at home cook, clean and raise the kids if it meant that I didn't have to work. Nowadays women are trying to hard to fill both roles and that is why divorce is so high

[@agathaamara8449]

True, causing alot of stress on families. Less attention to kids. Broken societies.

[@kittys179]

My partner recently changed jobs and he is more in demand to which he has such low energy when he comes home. Since I've taken over the housewife duties, our relationship has become so much more connected. I feel there is truth to this and I think we have to remind ourselves that what we are doing now is not what we were evolved to do. As a female, I take care of the home. It's what my DNA tells me feels right and since doing it more I feel better in myself.

[@steph6109]

So despite him being male and therefore the strongest of the two of you. You do 100% of the house work and 50 % of the workplace work? Of course he'll feel more connected if you're carrying his share of the work load.

[@Slipstream_merchant]

@@steph6109 Men do far more labour intensive jobs and more dangerous jobs, the man is highly more likely to be more physically tired than a woman is.

[@wioi]

Kitty S just wait for the day he finds a young fresh carrier woman and you're the housewife without a paycheck

[@kittys179]

@@steph6109 i could understand the assumption because most women work full time nowadays and funnily enough, I'm in the process of going part time. My parents health is starting to go down and he knew he needed to higher paying job than mine, and he got one. I will have more time to help my parents when they need me. Me reducing my hours will certainly help me focus on on what really matters to me, my family. I would rather work myself to the bone for the ones I love than a business or body to work myself to the bone under someone who only cares about profit. To us, our priorities changed as we hit our thirties and we've realised life is too short to be unhappy. Sure he works a few more hours a week, however he loves me having dinner ready when he gets home, his smile and thanks everytime is worth more to me than a years pay. Hope this can help explain it. I'm not saying that all women shouldn't work and look after their man. Far from it but I do believe that naturally some women wish to take care of their home than to take care of someone else's business.

[@kittys179]

@@wioi I get what your saying but he isn't that kind of guy thankfully. He's too shy to go off flirting with another gal and he's thankfully not dumb enough to break up a relationship knowing that basically I own the majority of everything because I was the higher earner for a good 8 years of our relationship. He wanted more responsibility in his role, better pay to help cover me going part time and of course he wants a clean home with food at the ready. Basic wants which I can help him meet. When I have food ready for when he is home and he give me his big smile and thanks, that becomes worthwhile to me 🤣 if I put the effort in then so does he. We are 10 years into our relationship and getting married next year, I like to think we will be one of the lucky ones in our generation to love someone for their entire life

[@reeling-in]

Anything on Phil Schofield today!?😂😂😂😂

[@blakrumba]

Why do we have to "keep" a man? That's such bizarre phrasing. There's no shortage of men out here.😂😂😂 There's actuallllyyyy a global shortage of women. The human population won't even out until 2050.

[@llvlletal3oy]

It is unlikely that there is a global shortage of men or women as a whole, as the global sex ratio at birth is generally close to 1:1.

[@Slipstream_merchant]

“There are plenty of men out there” yeah, and none are interested, that’s why there’s so many single women now 🤣

[@ivanamicimici]

KEEP A MAN!?!?!?!?!

[@wioi]

3:49 lmao, this girl Sadia is an absolute hypocrite 😂 she litteraly said in the beginning of the video that she's absolutely desperate to find a man and not even 4 minutes later she is saying that she's not desperate 😂😂😂 which one is it now?

[@steph6109]

So woman with the head scarf is a pickme and can't understand the other women. I love how the guy is looking down at the table, saying nothing of substance in case he gets in trouble.

[@Nash0303]

Pickme is a stupid term. Grow up.

[@thehaffytaffy]

Yeah or labelled as a “misogynist”

[@AJ-nd4nk]

Pick me vs skip me

[@djruffy6374]

😂 yep he wants to go back to a happy home..

[@natsdaley9615]

You can do anything- You just can't do everything ❤

[@drkarenbukharibukhari9931]

i love it when you praised me publicly thanks alot to your show as well

[@soxthedog068]

My wife works hard in her job and so do i. We have 3 children and they are all adults. Me and my wife are a team she dont need me but she chooses to be with me and that is what makes a difference. Any man that feels a women should be doing everything at home is a waster. Joint effort all the way

[@hearmeoutbro]

Should be 50/50. No one is more superior to the other.

[@adamgentry6239]

Short answer: no. Long answer: no.

[@sammohan1996]

6:46 There. That brief moment of silence afterwards was enjoyable.

[@Darkangel-hy8ev]

Totally agree with the blonde lady! I always tell men, i'm no domesticated goddess, and have no wish to be! I see it as if you both work full time you simply just share the housework and the cooking, or if I am not working full time and he is i will do all the housework, still share the cooking, sometimes take out etc etc Don't have kids, and won't be now, so very simple way to run things! However i do give 100% of myself to someone if i am really into them, and they will defiantly have no complaints in the bedroom area or need to go anywhere else, i am a very passionate person, and expect that in a man, not usually a problem lol The other lady to desperate, most men do not like that, in my experience!!

[@ryancooper1144]

Do u think men only care about sex in a relationship? Grow up and think about it? If women standards are high, so men standards are equally high. Are u working on that?

[@llvlletal3oy]

We want a domesticated goddess. It's as simple as that. Fight it.

[@Darkangel-hy8ev]

@@ryancooper1144 Seriously mate not sure how old you think i am, but i can assure you i am a grown ass woman, and i am just going to say i know men very well, and i am quite aware of what keeps men happy, and it is a mixture of things, but most women in my opinion forget about the intimate side big time, after awhile, and men don't!! That needs to be kept alive and kicking, and not let go boring and get forgotten about! My standard is very high thanks very much, and i have never had any problem in attracting men, and keeping them!! But a relationship without passion is pointless, and will soon turn onto a failure! If your OK with not a lot of intimacy or boring sex once a week, good for you, that is not for me, and i can assure you it is not for most men either!! But you do you, you shiny diamond!

[@ryancooper1144]

@@Darkangel-hy8ev U completely missed my point. Let me rephrase it. Yes Sex is important to keep the relationship alive but it is not necessarily the only attribute men expect from their partner. I am sure u have experienced a lot of relationships and given ur all in the bedroom but that alone isnt enough to keep a partner happy. Men will always have high standards and expectations from thier partner like contribution to household, showered with love & affection, loyalty, intimate surprises. I am sure u take care of ur partner and equally receive what u deserve unlike some women who think the world owe them for existing.

[@boogalooinvestigator]

The less people adhere to social norms, the better, because social norms are just a construct

[@hd-xc2lz]

Except we are not born blank slates, we are born into a language, we are born into families/towns/cultures with expectations regarding what a successful and honest life looks like, and these expectations shape our life goals (even when we rebel). These background practices are far richer and influential than your "social norms are just a construct" cynicism allows. If your understanding of a culture is a collection of social choices made, it's a too shallow one.

[@ruthhadfield9726]

so if feels like the blonde woman is saying that being a stay at home mum is worthless and not be proud of

[@crownmode1018]

I’m Asian. Fuck no my white wife talks like this to me but same time I make sure I keep her happy and she worth it

[@alisafeist5791]

There is no cure for love. It all depends on a particular man and a particular woman

[@karlaboi3896]

Comments are allowed now ? Might start watching again, wheres Susannah?

[@RedVelvet090]

The blonde will stay single

[@drkarenbukharibukhari9931]

i am single but i dont need again a serial killer to marry me after being divorced in uk despite being loyal beautiful and true as mulan myself

[@operationbroomstick]

Root cause marriages- if anything at all, it only favours women.

[@drkarenbukharibukhari9931]

i am getting mcr permanent home in uk sooner this year madam amanda housing officer had told me 1 bed room flat in newton heath 2023

[@michaelenglish2066]

thats why women have smaller feet get closer to the sink for washing up lol

[@MrAky4]

My ex used to tell me what to wear 😂 eat 😂 etc etc and I'm the control freak 🤣😂

[@manikroy7768]

So work has a class / caste? If yes, why do West ask hypocrite questions on Indian caste system?

[@deryk2002au]

One word... Shallow

[@pushinglimits3285]

I actually do all the housework and go to work... I'm a single male 😂

[@agathaamara8449]

This mordern feminism is making the ladies end up with the short end of the stick. Realistically, you have to submit to your husband to make it work.. God's way is best. Also, how come they have now opened up the comments section

[@djruffy6374]

It will never be the same... back in the days women had respect and manners and class and men had hard work mouth shut and drive to work hard and bring home the money so that was a balance & made marriages last for decades but now it's fighting for equality now so ladies want to be in men roles now which make men feel to step back and let them continue... remember " happy wife, happy life" when men just say " yes to everything she said to keep piece in household" 😂 if you ask men & women who was born in the 60's and 70's they will educate most ladies right now. Just in my opinion peeps 👍

[@aprioriontoast704]

Back in the days gender roles where forced on people. If you want a happy marriage you find the right partner who you can compliment in a give and take relationship, but no this does not mean as a man you have to be a bread winner and as a women a housewife , the issue is not we need to go back to sexist pushy gender roles the issue is we need to be decent , rational and compassionate human beings. Forcing human beings into roles just so they fit is not right, women and men should not be pressured into gender roles, you do not need to fit into a gender role to be a good human being or have a good relationship and family life. What matters is you and your partner both give your all and both balance each other out. Don't force women to be the people you want in a mate, remember women are human beings with their own unique dreams and personalities and they can still be lovely decent human beings without being trad housewives. You have to let human beings find themselves as long as they are decent human beings let them be, and for them to raise a happy family that can be done without them acting like they are from the 50s. Children need love, boundaries and security there is no reason they can't get that from a couple who don't obey the law of gender roles not if they offer their children what really matters,

[@SG-rs9oo]

Lady red next to Ben should go to pet store for her dog or cat and prepare to die alone. What man with options would choose to deal with that for the rest of his life?

[@jakem112]

Both ladies are in red

[@Slipstream_merchant]

@@jakem112 That’s why “next to Ben” was mentioned…

[@emily17xo]

a man who isn’t insecure and likes empowered women

[@SG-rs9oo]

​@@emily17xo this type of thinking is why society is broken; relationships don't work anymore and marriages are no longer worth the paper they're written on. I can assure you the majority of men do not want to be with combative, masculine women that are devoid of feminity. Your comment is literally to shame men for choosing cooperative submissive women that will cater to their needs... It's interesting that you feel its acceptable to do that as an auto response to being triggered. I don't blame you society is programming women and men to think the way you do but the statistics show that it is not working in relationships and women in 2023 have the most "power" and rights they've ever whilst simultaneously being the most unhappy and single they've ever been.

[@j86485]

@@emily17xo Lmao empowered can mean anything and not just work related. Most men likes a woman who's EMPOWERED with raising kids, taking care of the house, etc and many women love doing that too. If a woman wants to work then cool find a man who wants that. Everyone is different so find someone who relates to you. If a man doesn't want a woman who works then he's not insecure which is a big assumption to make, he just wants the relationship to have different roles and that's fine if both agree

[@zeem8311]

SAD Sadia... confused or what???

[@gregory_grey]

Ben hasn't got an opinion in his head

[@CreamNall_]

Happy wife, happy life.. Married 26 years.. BECAUSE of that phrase. Its a 50 50 thing.. Me and my wife are as annoying as each other, the difference is.. WE KNOW IT!!! So we make allowances for each other.. its when we DONT do this that the fights start... I do sometimes let it slip.. and my life instantly goes down hill.. so that generally puts me back on track.. i will make my wife that coffee she asked for 3 days ago.. (see . i go the extra mile) 50 50 is the key.. and knowing how annoying u help also... having said all this.. i have OFTEN wondered how gay men get along.. they have the best of all worlds.. I feel it would be like living with your best mate forever.. and the sex is thrown in as a bonus!!!! Damn GOD for making me a straight white asshole!!!!

[@jaughnekow]

That blonde though 😑😑😑

[@al1792]

Well I would still rather the blondie so....

[@lastdays8500]

Get Andrew Tate-or-tots in to debate against them!

[@operationbroomstick]

Male CEO’s watching take notes

[@Del-27]

Oh no just when I thought the Aliens may have taken miss narcissistic, arrogant, self-centred tallia storm away she pops up on tv !! I did wonder if it was a Martha or a Arthur 😂

[@lyndonkent4659]

Your Martha mate!!!! Sounds like your missing your Scouser boyfriend and gay John T,👍😂🤣😂😂😂🤣😂

[@waynegodwin426]

Woman come out of divorces in a lot better place ,why is this?I have two friends who r divorced and got taken to the cleaners by there ex wifes

[@sheilahendrix5935]

May ❤️God 💙Be 💚With💚 Everyone❤️ Always 💜Much 💚Love💛 Blessings 💙Always ☺️ ☺️🌐🌈✌️💯💚💜💙💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

[@corruptdbynurture2818]

Poor Ben 😂

[@Slipstream_merchant]

Women control sex, men control relationships. The blonde will be lonely for a long time until she changes (if she changes) no man will wife her up with her attitude.

[@1991-present]

Maybe she doesn’t care about being married.

[@Slipstream_merchant]

@@1991-present So she doesn’t want commitment from a man? 🤣

[@1991-present]

@@Slipstream_merchant I don’t know. I don’t know her.

[@kingeatking]

You're 100% correct 👍

[@insertname2035]

Men control relationships? Is that why most divorces are initiated by women 😂

[@maryduffy2036]

Keep a man ?

[@luluah1198]

I found it ironic the lady on the left saw cooking and cleaning as demeaning, yet her own parents had a more traditional relationship . Her father couldn’t function without her mother . I’m sure he could but we understand what she means by this. Yet she had to go on to qualify that statement “but my mum was a power woman too she was working “. Well that statement displays her ignorance and arrogance . So your mother is powerful and strong because she works outside the home. However if she had chosen not to work outside the home she would become weak and feeble? A load of crock 😂 The number one disease in modern western society is a lack of one very important ingredient for success in life . Schools and parents cannot teach it, you cannot find it next to the Walkers, on a supermarket shelf. You either have it , or you don’t . It’s called “Common Sense .”

[@amyclarke41]

both of us in relationship ax

[@ultimatemagic2125]

"Are you single?" "Yes" Haha, women you better get fucking cooking!