Heidi Reacts: Mansplaining Menstruation

[@thunderwx]

I'm a woman and this is very thought-provoking. I'm genuinely impressed.

[@hziebart]

Same. And again-good on Taylor for doing his best to understand his wife and not just feel ‘victim’ to her stage-changes. Many women will continue likely feeling jealous of Heidi because of this video. 😂

[@d0omslug]

Agreed!

[@kellyd6195]

Now, Heidi needs to do a similar video “Womansplaining” the cycles of men.

[@shieh.4743]

😂 Helping women in understanding the man's cycles of DIY renovations through the menstrual cycle.

[@d0omslug]

@@shieh.4743😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣😂

[@KS-un3pi]

Yes!!

[@researchotaku]

Yes, that image of the men's stages flashed by so quickly! Women aren't told about that! Teach us, Heidi!

[@mackenzieller2163]

Our emotions at certain times of the month aren't something you can just ignore, it's just that we're more willing to express them. Exactly Heidi!!

[@parkwood6334]

Getting annoyed is always under the surface, but period time is when patience with nonsense dwindles.

[@cryssstil]

Heidi put it in perfect words. It's just the days that we are more likely to actually say something!

[@tamikoanderson3076]

Taylor is a good husband for knowing this or trying to know to make his wife's life better. Awww! His is growing wise, more.

[@annmoore321]

The important thing to remember is that we women are not our cycle. Our cycle is a part of us. So those hormones will play a part in our mood and behavior, but it doesn’t define it. I could be having a fantastic, energetic day a few days before my period because my diet, exercise, and productivity have been consistent. I could be really down, and not open to intimacy during ovulation because something happened that makes it undesirable. So just keep in mind that Taylor’s cycle video (like he already mentioned) are just guidelines to help others get started. 👍

[@ember1713]

Your kids are so lucky to have such communicative parents that are willing to listen and try and understand each other. The teenage years are going to be full on in your house and communication is key from both Mum and Dad. Well done everyone.

[@landonyangfamily7952]

Bless Taylor for thinking he has a road map all figured out. 😂 Just as he thinks he figured it out perimenopause will throw that road map out the window, that’s for us ladies too.

[@lindaseel9986]

Oh, then he can watch Penn Holderness, explain perimenopause. He's got it all figured out. Oh yeah. 😂😂

[@pattifrye438]

Omfg I was going to say...lol just when the hubby figures it out. Bam! Curve ball! I'm not even sure who I am atm. I'm moody, non sociable even with the people I like but but also not putting up with crap I've always put up with. Like, I'm calling your arse out, be at work or at home. I'm NOT doing it anymore. I've called my husband out on behaviors recently that I would never have said boo about before. I think I found my balls lmao.

[@katieinhops5163]

Or a freaking fibroid that causes everything to go wacky and you bleed for two weeks at a time! For two and a half years I was told that's just you're new normal. I expelled two IUDs within a month of each other and actually got to talk to my OB, not just primary doc, and red alarms went off all over. Found a fist-sized fibroid, discovered I would never be able to carry another pregnancy to term if I even got pregnant to begin with. Having a hysterectomy at the age of 33, early February, so hopefully everything levels back out.

[@jenny_rice]

When I saw Taylor's video I thought it was spot on. Nice to see Heidi react to it. As Heidi said, a woman has to know her own body, too. It took me a long time to realize I had phases in my cycle like the feeling sad for a few days, feeling more quick to get angry for a few days, a day on non-stop eating, a few days of being really tired, and then usually a headache the day before. Well done video! 💜

[@moogsthewriter]

Heidi trying to explain the mental aspects of getting into the mood makes me feel SO SEEN. Literally have had this conversation a few times with my husband - baby 3 just turned a year and my cycle still isn't fully back to normal yet so that makes it even harder to figure out where we're at

[@allisonvanwert8209]

Yes, I was tracking with her the whole time! 😂

[@pamdowell9993]

Loved the fact that he is trying to help men and everyone else, really, what we go through all the time. I am thankfully, past this stage, so I don't worry about my cycles anymore. Great job! ❤🎉

[@amandaeverett642]

Honestly the content you guys put out (for years I've been watching) is top tier. I hope you hit the million, well earned!

[@sabrinaluppino6487]

This is great you guys😂 I have been cycle tracking through a sympto-thermal method for 6 years and now teach others how to track their cycles. It is life changing information that we all should've learnt when we were teens. Love how you brought the humour in!

[@asdband888]

I can't wait for the perimenopause and menopause editions. There are no more rules and absolutely every symptom of everything is now normal and there is no rhyme or reason to anything! It's no joke. Buckle up! 😂😮😢😅

[@KM-lu7nh]

Thank you for the education! As a woman who is past all this, I never really researched what was happening during these cycles to understand what was going on with my body and emotions. It was what it was. Wish I had known then. Probably couldn't have gotten this information unless I'd went to the library, as there was no Internet. :) There's WAY more conversation about it now.

[@ruffrider2626]

Love it! You guys are hilarious. Keep it up! Thanks for putting all of this together. My wife and I got a real kick out of it.

[@debbaedke3170]

This is great, where was this 20 years ago?!? Great information!!

[@beththecatlover]

That was great❣️ 👍 I really got a kick out of your analogies 😂❤😅❣️🤣❣️

[@jmeA86]

"My hormones changed twice during this conversation"😂😂😂

[@PhSyCo-B-oCh]

I give 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟. Very well done, I enjoyed Dude Dad's explanation. Wish mine was that simple, now I've moved into the next stage. But I really enjoyed the casual humor in the explanation and Mrs. Dude Mom, you are a trooper. Love you guys 💛😎

[@kendratai]

I've been waiting for Heidi's reaction video 😂

[@shallynw9556]

Love this great and healthy conversation. Hedi loved this is the time we are more likely to say it out loud 😂

[@michelewilson6696]

Loved the mansplain video and the reaction video. Sending them both to my boys and my daughter. Agree with Heidi that men and women need to work together in understanding how the cycle affects their body and relationship. To add to her point about validating feelings - it helped when I explained to my husband that my feelings are real every day of the month, but during certain points in my cycle, I have less of an ability to be as patient as I normally would be. I also might have more of a hard time letting the emotion just pass. I want to deal with it. Waiting a couple of days is a great suggestion!

[@michelewilson6696]

A great addition to this video would be to suggest that women and their spouses follow a menstrual cycle tracking app together. I wish I had this for my husband when I was going through PMDD. You can both document moods (with caution, lol), symptoms, and more. It’s also been a lifesaver for me to better understand my daughter and to be a bit more patient with her. I wish there was something like this for men! I swear they have cyclical moods, too!

[@missouriprideusa6241]

When Heidi and Taylor's sons ask about where babies come from and all that, instead of explaining it to them, just show Taylor's clip. Also, please do another one of these with dealing with menopause and have Penn Holderness with you for the segment.

[@estelladahl8892]

All of the big white words on the screen around 5 mins killed me 🤣

[@BreezeCO]

I actually completely understood the libido part that he didn’t get at all. Thought Heidi’s explanation was EXCELLENT.

[@thunderwx]

This is really amazing. I really love you guys using your platform to launch this conversation. Kudos!

[@GraceHiniker]

The accuracy is hilariously impressive. Makes me reeeeeally not excited to get mine back after giving birth 4 months ago 😂😭

[@Starbuck2005]

I’m well past all this at my age but honestly I wish I had known this when I was going through it! I think Taylor deserves a HUGE round of applause and thanks from not just the men but also the women who are watching! Sorry Taylor but you do realize Pre-menopause (or para-menopause as they seem to call it now) and menopause are next right? Get to work researching those because they can be a messed up time for us women! I’m not kidding I’m 8 years into full on menopause and still have things happening that I didn’t expect! I wish there was an easy to understand AND funny description to help! 😂😂😂

[@jennifermarr9023]

I love that you researched all of this.

[@LBullockPW]

Ok at the end when she said the pillow was staying, he should have said “we’ll talk about it in a couple of days.” 😂 Great video! Every woman is different but it’s a good way to start a conversation.

[@janeecegoldade1692]

The fact that you are almost exact on with what day of the cycle your wife is on is crazy cool!

[@hziebart]

And RARE for a man to truly care about, too!

[@Joy21090]

Hardly rocket science. It just takes an ability to count. 5 isn't a big number.

[@AutumnK]

​@Joy21090 Correct, it's not hard to count to 5. The point is, though, that most men would not be this in tune with their wife or care enough about it to count.

[@leahbarajas2082]

Finally, I’m not the only one where my husband and I are cycle sincing when to have certain conversations or when to exercise more patience on both parties! Lol! It’s a real thing and a great method to help deal with certain depressive and anxious moods in a healthy way. My husband likes to joke and poke fun when I’m ovulating because it’s his favorite time of the month as well as for me of course. Lol it’s probably the only time of the month where I feel normal and energized!

[@kalilangevin313]

Solid analogies! I think remembering that every woman is different is key and also resisting the temptation to blame the cycle for everything. Being “moody” might mean having a shorter fuse than usual but it doesn’t negate that something happened to trigger that feeling (For instance, if she’s annoyed and you were the annoying thing, you absolutely don’t get to say “she’s just on her period” and not think about the interaction any deeper than that.) As Heidi said, all the feelings are still valid!

[@Megan-gl4zz]

That was a favorite thing of my husbands to say for a long time. Anytime I was irritable or in a bad mood he would say "Oh here it comes" or "You must be on your period!" "Guess I won't talk to you for a week!" and it would make me so mad I'd go into a rage blackout. It was fun....

[@kellyklapp1232]

I told my husband to watch and take notes and that I won't be offended if he wants to keep a cheat sheet around 😂

[@sarah-phillips]

I found this to be funny and very sweet that men are looking at periods as just another fact of life and "how can I help my wife and daughters?" May I add to the renovation analogy? During the first couple of days, sometimes we really don't feel well and that is because of cramps - the uterus contracting to shed its lining. Think about that first day of demolition when you're really excited to get started but then accidentally shoot a nail gun through your hand. It's like that but nonstop for a couple days. Next, the week before our period, we can sometimes feel out of sorts because hormones, bloating, etc. and then get our period and say "oh, THAT'S why I felt crappy." It's like you have spent a career doing home renovations, but there are some times when you get a bunch of lumber and tile delivered to your house and you think "why is all this coming right now?!" And then you wake up one day and there's a crew already working to tear out the drywall and you think "oh that's right! That's today! Glad I bought that box of dropcloths from Costco."

[@AutumnK]

" Glad I bought that box of dropcloths from Costco." 😂 Great analogy!

[@elisabethsheppard7739]

😂😂😂

[@cd2290]

Heidi is right on. Taylor, rewatch this again. She’s right. When your head isn’t a crazy mess all day due to hormones, it is so much easier to be in the moment and have the energy for fun time.

[@nonnyena4267]

Two things: 1] Re: Taylor describing the menstrual cycle in terms of a construction project. Galileo said, _"You can never teach a man anything; You can only show it to him inside himself."_ Taylor put it in concepts he's familiar & comfortable with. Good on 'im! 2] Using the knowledge of where "she" [read: _"you both"]_ are in her cycle to anticipate or explain... _"situations"_ can be problematic if (A) you read something in that just isn't there because you were expecting it to be or (B) you dismiss a reaction as being due to the cycle. (A) She makes a simple, matter-of-fact declarative statement, like... _"I don't want pizza for supper"_ but because of "what day it is" & you are _anticipating_ "crabbiness", you hear a Declaration: _"I. Do. Not. Want. Pizza!"_ And possibly you react all wheedly & conciliatory with, _"That's okay, Baby. We can get something else,"_ in the manner you'd use if she'd just bitten off the head of your neighbor's goose. So where she wasn't either angry, irritated or frustrated before, she is now *_all_* those things -- not because of her period but because you've reacted like she's crazy. Or you say, _"O. Is that because your period's coming and you're craving chocolate?"_ Totally invalidating that there's Other Stuff that could be contributing -- like _~maybe~_ she just doesn't want pizza because she's had it for lunch the last three days. Which leads into (B) Using her cycle to _excuse_ a complaint. Let's say she tells you... i don't know... _she wishes you wouldn't leave your hair in the sink._ You decide that it's because it's a "crabby" day, so you clean it up for a few days, but after "those days" pass, you don't bother... I mean, she's gonna clean the bathroom in a couple hours _anyway,_ right? But it isn't rude, disgusting, & thoughtless because of her _period._ It's rude, disgusting & thoughtless across the board. But there were some good insights. You did a pretty good job. Thanks for the effort!

[@Aiziafay]

This.

[@BringthatDawn]

Thank you so much for making this! Love you guys ❤I learned something too

[@theresamcclure7333]

Loved the part 2… Heidi’s reaction , great job regardless Taylor! You guys are just hilarious regardless ❤😂 thank you.. from Australia 😊

[@kplusr1596]

"It's just the time that we'd be willing to say it out loud". YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSS!!! LISTEN!

[@kplusr1596]

Period tracking apps have helped me understand myself in so many ways. Also, libido in women is hindered by obstacles. You want a beautifully manicured lawn then you gotta nurture it. You can't just but a land full of bush and expect it to be lawn. You gotta do the work too. Lawn with lawn, and I'd you really want it you better be ready to work just as hard

[@DistanceTraveled]

I love this. I sent the original video to my boyfriend because we have an ongoing communication on this very cycle. My ovulation phase has middle cramps (Mittelschmerz) which also comes with pms. So a mini period right in the middle of the cycle. After ovulation, I would also add I feel very I'm free and independent and I don't really want to touch a week right before the sad and PMS comes. But to fight the sad PMS before either my middle pain or period, I have found cinnamon to help (boosts the estrogen) by evening out the systems to be less extreme. During PMS, my brain sometimes ends up feeling like a 4 year old and I get extra simple, cuddly, and emotional. So maybe make a batch of cinnamon rolls and I'll cry because I feel loved. Do your own research, talk to a doctor, and pay attention, because YMMV (your milage may vary).

[@laurawhite8563]

Thank you so much for the public service you're amazing!

[@JaylaBee]

"The time where we're gunna be willing to say it out loud" well said Heidi!! And also we're less willing to let yall get away with things

[@BookReviewsWithBecky]

I love the pink Christmas tree! I have always wanted one! Totally accurate on the ovulating! That's when I'm in the mood!

[@GrammaTink615]

This is why marriage is a PARTNERSHIP!

[@kirkygirl]

Thanks for the video! This is going to be immensely helpful for everyone who lives with someone who has a uterus. As for the pillow, Taylor, please don't give your wife's pillow away. Instead, Heidi, please tell us all where you got it, because that is adorable!

[@jessicabones]

❤ love this couple. Don’t take things too seriously people.

[@heatherrussell6271]

I love this and now I have to try and get my husband to even watch it!

[@rhiannon8363]

Love you both so much 💗

[@mz_sullii]

Great work sir!!!

[@gemstorm16]

As someone who has been a woman her whole life, I can't say enough good things about this video or the original. I'm honestly surprised, but I learned some things I hadn't realized: like the frantic anger-pressure I feel on those last couple of days is because my body is in "hosting mode." It's like nesting, but your anxiety level is ramped up to 10. I honestly tell my kids "I'm not mad at you, I'm just STRESSED," and when they ask me why, I just say, "BECAUSE." 🤣. And the whole motivation starting on day 3! YES! I LOVE IT! THANK YOU, for being a man who is willing to normalize having real conversations about women's cycles and our needs. The world needs more of this, and more really strong, masculine, loving, relationship-oriented men like you, Taylor.

[@maryhandy7963]

I’ve asked a few friends and none of them have this. But the day before the dreaded period, I clean and organize EVERYTHING! I ignore all aspects of life and go at 100% all day and don’t even realize it’s happening until the blood shows up the next day an my energy plummets. My husband now knows what’s happening and that I’m in the zone and he allows it to happen and facilitates it because he knows that 1 day a month our house will go from generally family clean environment to 5 star hotel and all the broken things have a chance to be fixed. It’s the most reliable indicator that my inconsistent cycle is around the corner, but somehow I’m blind to it every time.

[@cindys.9688]

You two are so cute & so awesome!❤️ Really, this was perfect. Using renovating as a metaphor was nice because that's what our lady bodies do every month. Build, tear down, clean up, build... etc, repeat. You get bonus points, Taylor, for the additional emotional blueprint as well. The "Emo Stage"! Haha! I went thru menopause at 50🥳 and I was seriously amazed at the difference it made, especially the "Emo Stage". I had horrible Emo Stages. It's been 13 yrs and not once have I felt like seriously injuring someone. Not once! Yay me!🎉 (I used to, tho!) Great Job, Taylor!!! A+++!📝🏆🥇

[@yvettebennett6170]

Heidi! Men need visual aids. The Shining reference was perfect!😂 Had to come back amd say I think he did a great job with this one. He did great research and really tried to understand what is going on inside your body. So sweet.

[@MelissaLong1979]

I view my husband as a happy dog ready to play at anytime. As women grow older (can’t wait for a future peri-menopause/menopause skit) the hormones get worse and the brain never shuts off. I feel like I hardly sleep well anymore which adds to being tired more. This was a great video, executed very well!! 👍👏👏

[@kplusr1596]

He got the mid-period change right! Not many men at all get that.

[@taniahummelgard2290]

Can’t wait for the perimenopause man-splaining episode

[@karibear909]

That's going to need to be a multi part series 🤣

[@NightingaleSpica]

I love the humor and honesty that was shown. This was great. I would love to see a similar vibe for fathers dealing with their daughters who are experiencing the cycle for the first time/early go at it. Cause clearly 😅 men can be a bit off sometimes especially fathers when they try to be supportive or are clueless that its finally happening. Let's say my loving father had two really dumb moments.😂😅

[@DarkVikita]

Hope you hit that 1M! Definitely love watching your videos. They're great and hilarious. Im a film & video editor, so i do have to say, whoever edits your videos, needs a big pat on the back and i definitely would love to meet them 🤣 because BRAVA to them! They make ALL your videos look funny and amazing. 😂

[@AutumnK]

1:05 I just want to say that I am a woman and found this visual aid hilarious!! (And very accurate for days 1-2 for someone with adenomyosis.)

[@LifeInTheLoveZone]

You guys are the best!

[@katiestiver2998]

I LOVE THE PINK TREE!! 😍😍

[@elisabethsheppard7739]

I thought this was very accurate. It sure feels like it’s demo day inside me on those first few days! My husband comes home and I just say “I haven’t felt well today…” Also, I feel very cold on those days. Like all the insulation has been pulled out. So hard to get warm enough! So yes to the baths, heated blankets, turning up the thermostat!

[@valerie4912]

Wait ‘til perimenopause Taylor 😂😂 Buckle up!

[@sarahsvoboda8481]

Really loved the video and loved that Heidi gave it an A+ rating. I will say that as a 38 year old with no kids, the weirdest things I can do is burst full water eye cry 😭 maybe around day 18-20 and I get nerve mad up until the next beginning and the weirdest or unusual thing that I do in the indecisive moment is I will go shopping way too much 🤣 doesn’t every female.

[@happyandblessed5640]

Very good video. ❤

[@shellegriffin]

Great video and I like the research that was put into this. A great source is Dr. Christiana Northrop author of Women’s bodies. Can’t wait to see what you do with peri menopause.😂

[@KS-un3pi]

My sons even notice the period portion of my cycle or the week leading up to it. I get grouchy and they mention 'mama being crazy. 'My temper is short and I'm less patient to repeat myself. Lol

[@MrsRight1122]

I’ve never in my life given this much thought to my own period

[@CcC864_20]

This is so accurate!

[@celestepiccolo6586]

This is just as informative as the video she is watching 👏👏👏

[@laurabaylessjohnson6749]

I'm exact same reaction as Heidi to the "visual aid" from "The Shining"

[@peggyconway2900]

Great video, thank you.

[@jmb2202]

Very well done

[@firstcolton]

When she said A+ I heard the airborns *doo doo doo doooo*

[@kplusr1596]

7:10 FACTS!!!

[@ambersimerly1803]

I'll just pick one up. Thank you, Taylor. Where'd you get the pillow, Heidi? ❤

[@shieh.4743]

Going to jump in to say that while this may apply to some women, it also may not. Aside from the day before my cycle where I feel noticeably different mood wise, I have never really noticed my cycle. During the years we started trying to conceive, I carefully monitored my cycle but the app where you are supposed to record how you feel was a complete crapshoot. There were no patterns emotionally or physically (bloating etc) other than a higher.. erm...drive...closer to go time. 🙈 Perimenopause though. Fuuuuuuuuuuudge that is some stuff.

[@D.R._Iris]

I came here - over watching the original - cause i wanted to know if Heidi could provide some answers. Cause he was telling me things i didn't even know, and I'm a woman XD So, i needed another woman to guide me on if he was right, wrong, close, etc, lol This is a guide for us women too 🤣

[@maritimeus]

It’s like the Shining in the toilet!

[@AutumnK]

It really can be!

[@jennifercresap5667]

I love this guys. Heidi, You should do one for women. I know I need more understanding of things. Personally I've spent most of my life being irregular and finally getting to a more regular cycle.

[@celestepiccolo6586]

New subscriber ❤

[@maritimeus]

Bears can smell it!

[@alorastewart7091]

Lol ovulation is wild. For me it's more like insatiable lol there is no keeping up. I imagine it's pretty similar to being a teenage boy nothing could stop me from being interested lol and it lasts 3 days and then I go back to damn near 0 interest for the rest of the month

[@bettyruth9142]

Y’all make the cutest couple !! 😀😀

[@douglasmeyer1707]

I like this one even better than his original video. Commentary!

[@kemmow25]

As a Husband this is something we do try to be aware of. We really do try.

[@Jacques_Merde]

Damn Taylor! You're a Woman! 🤣 Seriously though... Entertaining as 'ell! Good job!

[@rhodabuker8736]

Yes. This needs to be in Spanish ❤ I would also add, please be kind about a woman being extra forgetful or just struggling in every way during the bad days. Those hormones literally hijack our brains and make them feel like they are full of jam. I’ve also found so much help in the idea of honoring the place I’m at in my cycle-planning my life accordingly when possible, planning some needed down time on those awful days. ❤

[@lauraplant9911]

Can’t wait til he does one of these videos on perimenopause

[@kplusr1596]

6:55 BOMBASTIC SIDE EYE

[@Jens_the_Viking]

Taylor, what model is your Sony DSLR? ( @DudeDad )

[@Jens_the_Viking]

Is it the A7 III?

[@cecestover3332]

6:45 I get sad but I also get angry

[@sarahschroeder4739]

Hide oreos 😂

[@vbottoni]

hey now you can use NFP

[@DudeDad]

natural family planning?

[@Joy21090]

​@@DudeDadYES! I wish you would have used this instead of sterilization, but you forgot to consult me. When we started using NFP, hubby and I took classes together about the female cycle. The classes were very useful as I had highly irregular cycles. Hubby knew just as much about my biology as I did. Hubby would never have needed this video.

[@vvrr6757]

Havaing this information is crucial for couples. When couples know whats going on with a females body, mind, and emotions, its easier for men to understand why women are being the way they are. Its important for men to know that were not mad or sad at them. That were just feeling that way in general. Its also good for women to know these things because then we women can try to take control of our feelings and emotions! I'm not saying hide them or get rid of them. But its easier to navigate your emotions when you know why youre having those emotions. Beautifuly said and done by a beautiful couple 💜❤️💜❤️💜

[@mebyrne]

Gorgeous rose pillow next to Heidi BTW

[@DudeDad]

her and Juno found it at Target

[@prairie2gem]

that pillow 🤣

[@AP-lv1eo]

Don't 4 get dark chocolate and ice cream and fuzzy socks!!!!