Helicopter Parenting - Where Gen X Went Wrong Raising Gen Z

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@TheMadLeprechaun Жыл бұрын

What I find funny, is that if you bring up legitimate criticisms about Generation X, they get angry because they've convinced themselves that they're blameless.

@ShawnSJames Жыл бұрын

But we were raised the most screwed up.

@TheMadLeprechaun Жыл бұрын

@@ShawnSJames That would explain a great deal.

@mommabird2813 10 ай бұрын

SAHM here, GenX too. Have a millennial son and a GenZ daughter and pretty much told them to figure out their problems once they got out of elementary school. They did. We’d always have their back and sure they made mistakes like we all do and they’d solve them. Now I have a helicopter sil and have watched her mess up her GenZ son to the point that she codependent and can see him cutting contact once of age.

@gabrielbenitez9257 9 ай бұрын

My Boomer mom use to be a stay at home mom too, last time me and my parents were together was March 1999. Since then, they had to work separately and both became self-absorbed in their work and of course she also a pro-Helicopter Parenting and always watches me a like an Owl. Last time I had a good bond with my pops was 2001, by 2002 he became self-absorbed and that was end of the relationship and I was only 10 when that happened but it was truly liberating for me. I got to spend more time by myself and learn to hone and develop m social skills once I started spending with other relatives.

@RocketmanRockyMatrix Жыл бұрын

When I saw Gen Z selling candy, cookies for fund raising purposes, Gen X parents would do it for them, not helping the kid develop social skills or negotiating skills.

@gabrielbenitez9257 Жыл бұрын

Just sad, not giving them the time to do it and learn by themselves, is gonna give them a hard time later when they enter adulthood.

@zken1856 Жыл бұрын

Many in my generation have not been disciplined growing up and now we have monsters in their 20s and 30s even the teens are out of control.

@TheQueeniehill 5 ай бұрын

I was not a helicopter parent, I knew that my job was to get my son ready to go to the real world. I know other Gen X parents and they are not helicopter parents. Today my sons are good men and they are raising good men

@gabrielbenitez9257 Жыл бұрын

Helicopter Parenting is literally basic Micromanaging. And parents becoming overprotective like Boomers of some Gen Xers, they did damage as well. That's why Gen Z is also having a hard time navigating in the real world.

@itsrelativ3967 8 ай бұрын

My father let me fight bullies and rivals in elementary school. My mother let girls come over on the weekends when i was in junior high. The only things they did not condone were drugs, pornography and guns. Unlike younger millennials and Gen Z, i was not overprotected and sheltered by technology.

@phillipwatson1102 Жыл бұрын

This is a situation where codependency is firm. In many instances this is a single parent household, where the mother is not facing a reality that she'll end up alone. She can be attached at the hip, or damn near mentally abusive.

@gabrielbenitez9257 Жыл бұрын

This is what the tails end of the Silent Generation and early Boomers created, a hostile environment and ignoring their kids with the "Children Should Be Seen But Not Heard". And other Boomers also did the same with their Millennials kids.

@phillipwatson1102 Жыл бұрын

@@gabrielbenitez9257 AGREED!!

@gabrielbenitez9257 Жыл бұрын

Exactly. That Helicopter Parenting didn't help either.

@burgundyskinned Жыл бұрын

I’ve seen it with 2 parent homes too.

@phillipwatson1102 Жыл бұрын

@@burgundyskinned The apocalypse is ahead of schedule.

@xftbllplyr2091 Жыл бұрын

Gen Xer here. I remember that when My mother and father weren’t around, I got into so much trouble, lacerations, burns, lost virginity pre teen. I’m not going to lie, I loved some of those experiences but other experiences, I wished I had someone to guide me. When I saw my friend’s dad getting off work and doing things with his son, I was very envious so of course, I made sure that my kid was going to have Dad doing fun stuff and hover over them a bit. Also, we had some media sensationalism but not at this point. We knew certain rules like don’t talk to strangers, but then we also grew up with that Adam kid whose father started Americas most Wanted and Wayne Williams from the Atlanta child murders. And we started getting inundated with these stories over time.

@dwood78part23 Жыл бұрын

When I think of "helicopter parenting", I think of parents obsessed with their kids' educations to the point that their involvement actually hurts- rather than help their kids. There are times when the parents have to get out of way & let the kids learn from things on their own.

@gabrielbenitez9257 Жыл бұрын

Yup, Boomers did followed by some Gen Xers, kids we see are having a hard time with navigating the world.

@DavidWadleigh 3 ай бұрын

My brother's wife helicoptered her kids like crazy, but in every way other than with their kids' educations, unfortunately. They were hovered over with their every social interaction and hyper-attention to their sports activities...but on the flip side were totally accepting of low effort and poor performance academically from their kids, and them having no future career ambitions. Their flight plans apparently considered THAT kind of stuff, essential for their kids' timely launching, were totally forbidden airspace for helicopters.

@FutoXar Ай бұрын

😊 one helicopter parent here I am ashamed of myself, but the society is not what it used to be is my defence I am alone in this 😮 I need a job or project for my anxiety then

@computerrobots Жыл бұрын

A an example of this is the soap opera gen x female character who was a helicopter parent would be Phyllis Summers from Young and the Restless. Because she was trying to get the attention of her parents both of whom paid more attention to her sister when she was younger. She would also have to fend for herself got pregnant by an ex boyfriend and also lost custody of her son when lying to her first husband of his paternity. Her son eventually came back into her life when he was in his teens and we'll try to make up for lost time. However the way how she was with her daughter like spoiling her and fighting her battles. For example her daughter was working for somebody couldn't stand dealing with the co-worker so she find dirt on the coworker and the co-worker fought. But in the end Phyllis had to fight her daughter's battles.

@yuukisama2001 Жыл бұрын

In my days my gym teacher was the type that would show you that the choice wasn't as bad as you thought it was by using an example. This is why Gen X is why Gen X was the strongest minded after Boomer generation. When done right. Sadly I see many Gen Z and Millennials lost once the conditions changed. When parents started making bad decisions it was going to effect those generations. It also effected ours. But it almost seems like some parents wanted to shelter their children due to how they might have been treated. This is why now you started seeing so many institutions putting in these measures to keep the child "safe".

@yuukisama2001 Жыл бұрын

@DoughnationCreative That all depends on what aspect you're talking about. Because the ones who are left are trying to correct some of the issues. But some are beyond help. Gen X isn't without it's problems. But those that held on to the values that were taught to us by previous generation made us a little stronger at handling things. We never really had a chance plus we also had to fend for ourselves because of the situations made by previous generations. But yes, I too saw many of the issues that were coming with the next generation. And there will be Gen Xer's that will falling into the same hole as the previous generation, not that some haven't done it already.