GOING ON A DATE! get ready with me

[@sara61696]

I just want to say, when you meet the right person, all these arbitrary dating rules and pressure go out the window. Just relax into the process of getting to know someone and have FUN.

[@sara61696]

@@liramanda Lol same! My first date with my fiance was just going on a walk and grabbing a grilled cheese. Very no frills but we were instantly obsessed with each other. No rules necessary!

[@juliacallan5113]

Yes yes yes!

[@KyrasBeautyStation]

Same! My first date with my boyfriend of 2 years who I now live with lasted almost 7 hours. 6 hours of it was just us sitting on his porch chatting and we haven't stoppped since lol

[@fallbackin16]

definitely agree! originally met my husband on tinder, didn't end up replying and ran into him on the street on a night out. we grabbed thai food that night (it was like 2 am lol), couldn't stop laughing and being completely natural with each other, so we ended up forcing ourselves to leave and even stopped at a look out before he dropped me off back at home to spend more time together...and the rest was history.

[@maritrolljenta]

You radiate so much confidence and self love!! Love seeing how much you’ve grown!

[@Patriciameloc]

I definitely confirm all events i schedule with people. Dates, friends, family, work. If the person didn't text me to confirm, i would text, and if i don't get a reply I'm just not going.

[@AdelineTedesco]

I would never show up on a date without someone confirming! Normally, I really appreciate when men confirm. I have confirmed recently and he said yes and already had the reservations. I think it depends on the guy and your gut feeling. Additionally, men need to figure out how to properly "date" and a pursue a woman but that's a discussion for another day! :)

[@cesareyzaguirre5982]

Men dont date anymore only simps do that. Im 43 and I chill and just stay at my female friends house for the night. Thats it. Im not spending 1 penny on dating, Im a feminist, she can court me if she wants, wine and dine me.

[@sarah-od6ov]

The concept of “double texting” is ridiculous, we’re not in middle school. Text if you want to, don’t if you don’t want to. If someone judges you for texting twice in a row they aren’t worth your time imo

[@livinggg]

This 👌

[@felipessunshine]

Exactlyyyyy I don't even get what tf this is all about

[@shaistaali9802]

I'm so happy ur vlogging again. Ur vlogs are so natural, real and such a breath of fresh air from all the staged stuff on social media. UR REAL! People doing documentary style vlogs on youtube from around the world but ur not seeing the real person. We can see documentaries on discovery channel. U give ur thoughts and ur personality through these vlogs and that's what people enjoy

[@leahrowe2571]

My boyfriend and I matched on both Hitch and Tinder a year and a half ago and have been together ever since. I think you kind of know right off the bat if your compatible and all those rules don’t really matter as much as just enjoying the vibes.

[@aliza.beth.]

I watched this while also getting ready for a first date and it was really comforting, like chatting with a friend

[@laurenl5942]

Loved this video! You’re so good with words and such great dating advice! I hope it went well 😊

[@verybadminimalist8446]

I actually am more of a fan of dating through the apps. I feel like you go into those dates with more of an analytical eye, which is helpful. When it’s a set up through a friend or someone you met casually, you’re already biased to like them and overlook red flags… Met the love of my life on Jswipe, got married one year later 🎉

[@LainieB]

I'm a fan of the Sat. or Sun. late morning coffee date (like a break for both of us from errands). An hour or hour & a half of our time and only the cost of a cup of coffee for him/no feeling guilty or obligated to accept a 2nd date for me. And I'm a text the day before to confirm. 😊

[@JBLOVER131980]

keep these coming- you are such a fun gal!

[@JBLOVER131980]

if you listen to match made you know what is up ;)

[@laurageiendorfer7144]

I wouldn‘t even have crossed my mind to confirm the date again if we just made the plans three days ago. Maybe if the plan was made weeks ago, but only three days ago I‘d already consider it confirmed and would just go

[@juliekostas7322]

This makeup look is effortless but put-together! I hope you had a great time. I remember my single 20s/30s in NYC---it was fun and garnered so much material for great stories!

[@MsAlison]

i love this, it’s like chatting with a friend

[@itssydneybrah]

Know I'm a bit late to this.... but in my opinion (and after learning this in my own relationship of 8 years but even in my friendships as well) - texting sucks. It's a weird mind game that causes more stress and complications than there really needs to be. Personally, I am also a planner, so in this scenario, I would double text to make sure we are still on and not care if I'm doing so! Everyone communicates differently (it may be totally normal for somebody else to make a plan days in advance and not feel the need to communicate beforehand), and while we may learn overtime our friend's communication styles via text, we do not know that of somebody we are meeting for the first time. So no need to stress or have this affect your opinions of them going into a date!

[@sso2183]

I think it's personal preference. It's very good he confirmed but if I was feeling nervous with no text the day of I might send out a text saying "looking forward to seeing you later!" As a way to remind the other if they forgot or also to just confirm 😉 but I also believe since we are all adults what we have scheduled is what all will follow so that's always my expectation.

[@sukhs20]

This was such a lovely sit down - as some one navigating the dating world, its really nice to hear from someone on the same boat, even if i'm 5 years ahead 😅 Hope the 2 hours were well spent!

[@MaKaye55]

Based on how you staged the question towards the end, I would confirm before showing up because anything could have transpired in the last 72-hr period since that communication you both had. And frankly, I could care less about double-texting etc, because clarity is the objective here and I need to know. I agree, he, being the one who’s planning this date, should have the foresight to do a confirmation the day of. If he doesn’t and you end up confirming, it’s not a ‘deal-breaker’ for me but I’m noting that mentally in how he handles things because how a man communicates is important to me since I’m big on *clear* communication (e.g. how he expresses himself, how he articulates his feelings, etc.).

[@LexTravels]

I always start with giving someone a compliment too!! Also i would definitely text and still confirm the day of

[@K19-b6z]

Gosh how funny life is!! I’ve been seen your videos since you were in college and now I’m in NYC where you live!! How mad it’s omg!!! I’ve been around Manhattan but I haven’t seen you at all 😫 Love your videos and all the chatting and all positive and chic chats you do, keep it up and hope you had a proper 2 hour date haha 🥳 btw any cool and fun spots you recommend me apart from the all basic touristic places? Also any stylish/unique restaurants or bars over the downtown? Keep the hard work and the most energetic vibe!! From your longtime fan Katy❤

[@caryntonh1037]

The lighting near the end gave me such nostalgia for your last NYC apartment

[@safaritaylor]

I’m all about the coffee dates personally, sorry to hear about the ghosting part though. We’ve all been there and he’s def missing out 🧡 I think just showing up without confirmation shows a level of confidence idk just my experience dating in LA. As long as all details are set then I would go, no confirmation needed!

[@Bebecakes2025]

This was a very helpful KZbin video. There are a lot of helpful tips that you have giving me that I would have never thought to ask or do

[@ownyourbold]

This is all sooooooooooo relateable and I love it so much

[@shaistaali9802]

Love this vlog. So helpful. I hope u had an amazing date

[@christinem7711]

I would def confirm the day of! Not too early in the AM but early afternoon lol

[@lovemakeupvideos]

I definitely appreciate a confirmation day-of date, but I wouldn’t just not show up if we already have a plan 😅 that’s kinda rude…. Some people just aren’t texters, and if you two already made a plan, I think you can assume that both will show up for the date

[@xjolie]

I giggled at the severance package comment- you really went all in w that metaphor 🤣

[@jackiegarcia9828]

loved the dating tips!

[@jamiesmith516]

Your too cute. Hope you enjoyed your evening (date). I also liked how you explained that by going on dates your learning about yourself.

[@BronwynAlexandriaa]

Fun video! Loved it. I don’t know how someone can kiss someone else only after one date (I mean how much do you really know this guy? LOL) I’m a kiss on the third date kinda girl because so many ppl really just think physical attraction is soul attraction. Not true!

[@safaritaylor]

I’m the same way, total slow burner over here!

[@555solarsystem2]

does anyone on here know why now on on youtube my comments wont post half the time iv been noticing idk if youtube is deleting my comments or its getting marked as spam or what i never use to have this problem but now even when i really want to comment it wont stay or post anymore :/

[@angelefarrugia9901]

where did you get that frame of the women eating pasta in the sea fromm?!

[@K-wx6ki]

It’s totally a numbers game! I agree 100%. It’s definitely hard if you keep doing it and get disappointed but that’s the name of the game I guess.

[@stephaniemelendez6561]

Definitely double texting! And I’d probably send maybe a photo of a dish on the menu and say something like “just took a peek at the menu and everything looks so good” if I don’t want to specifically double confirm but if they respond I know that we’re still on lol

[@felipessunshine]

This is really smart and lowkey, love it

[@Katerina2020]

Good luck! hope the date went well. Also I think that first dates should be in neutral zone, that is convenient for both. Choosing a bar across the street is just lazy lol.

[@misspinkbowxo]

love this!!! i totally feel you katy - i hope that by going on more dates increases my probability too haha

[@kathleenmartin357]

More GRWM!!

[@carlottar7337]

I understand listening to match made why you've made this two hour rule, but as someone who met their long-term boyfriend on a dating app my advice is ditch your rules!! It can be so exciting to accidentally end up on a 6 hour date with someone, and even if a longer date goes nowhere you haven't wasted your time- it's a new experience and you've met an interesting person. Obviously if you're not vibing then end it early but don't feel you need to cut it arbitrarily short

[@staycute1]

Answer: B BUT I would text them when I left with my ETA, they might reply and I'd be relived and if they didn't I'd be prepared for being stood up

[@Toematetoe95]

I feel like showing up without confirmation that day only happens in movies lmao

[@HelloKatyxo]

SO TRUE

[@hayl97]

I had a guy make a date with me but he didn’t give me a location or time. I didn’t text the day of cause I had no details. I never heard from him again 😂

[@safaritaylor]

Been there too haha 🥲

[@caryntonh1037]

Definitely option A just like you would with friends

[@alexismaynard9767]

I met my boyfriend of four years through a friend!! Honestly it’s the best way to meet somebody ☺️

[@backbaybaby1]

I met my husband on hinge after a few years of dating. Keep it fun and light until the right guy comes along :)

[@jenice7592]

This was fun

[@savannahcranford9389]

I would double text just because I don't want to waste time getting ready

[@jillian.jm09]

I hope the date was nice ☺️

[@PEACELOVEMUSICA]

He loses major points for not confirming, but I’d hate to get there and waste my time so I confirm a few hours before. Best case is when they check in in the morning, let you know they’re on their way, and tell you where they are at the bar so you’re not awkwardly walking in.

[@mollyosw]

I would confirm with them, but wait until like a couple hours before the date is supposed to be!

[@katieheit7577]

I would hope that I hear from him first, but if I hadn't heard from him by like 1pm for a 6pm date i'd text

[@girlyshannon101]

Personally, I would go with option a. Due to my interest in the guy and the date, I would follow up with the guy and see what’s going on even if I double text idc lol :) hope your date went well!

[@amandarodzko]

Someone has to reach out to confirm

[@carolinenead]

Being from a big city I would confirm. And if I didn’t get a text back then the date isn’t happening

[@chi2om]

Lol I’m 24 and never been on a date. Sigh, I’m wondering when I’ll bite the bullet and meet one of the guys I talk to on the apps. I just prefer going out with people I have seen in real life before even trying to date.

[@rachelcriss32]

I would text to confirm, however, I’d prefer they would confirm day of. I wouldn’t want to just show up because I could be stood up. and I wouldn’t want to just not go because I would feel bad standing someone else up.

[@jenk4142]

B. You’re an independent women. Get dressed, go to the location, if he doesn’t show - then have a date yourself night. Now, if a friend contacted me that day and asked me to do something fun that night….then I would confirm with my date that we are still on because if we’re not, I’m hanging with my friends.

[@AlliesBeautyTips]

I would jus text "see you later!" on the day of the date

[@chelseamedders4636]

I would not have double texted to confirm unless we had been having really interesting previous text conversations. I def wouldn’t have gone to the date spot without some sort of confirmation

[@arodordie]

I wish you showed the outfit !

[@dreamcatcherrs]

A - confirm with him and never be afraid of double texting these dating rules are immature

[@uniquehandle1133]

Katy, you look beautiful. As someone who is now married with a child, I would say, ladies, go ahead and double text to confirm. Double texting is not a sin. :)

[@the_gibsterr]

I'd probably double text but not to confirm, probably say something about the location and how I'm getting there or saying that I'll let him know when I'm heading out--like logistic things to let him know I'm thinking about it, and it gives him an opp to cancel if needed instead of just ghosting

[@the_gibsterr]

also if it's drinks then instead of those things sometimes I'll ask them like what the vibe is, so I know before hand and can dress accordingly and know what to order/expect there

[@kimmychangas]

Option A: I would text to confirm!

[@geneandshay]

REALLY appreciate the excerpt about pronouns and sexual preferences! such a small thing for you to add, but such a nice gesture for others :)

[@ednaaapricio9293]

Good luck on your date!!! ❤

[@sabsoritaXo3]

I would confirm with him

[@amehnh]

I wouldn’t like it either, but I would also text to check in with the guy if he didn’t do so already 🙃

[@juliacallan5113]

It wouldn’t be bad at all to text again to confirm! You’re not being annoying by making sure he’s still free. If the guy thinks so then you don’t want to date someone like that 🤷🏻‍♀️ side note love your makeup!

[@laurenhotchkiss8249]

I would double text (anxiety), and one time I didn’t have the time right and I almost didn’t show up 😂 literally powerwalked to the date because I was so late.

[@laurennoel91]

I don’t care who texted last, I’ll double text if I have to (never triple). I would confirm late morning because I don’t like the unknown and I don’t like for my time to be wasted. I’d make other plans if he doesn’t answer and if he texted me later, too late. And if he wants to make it up to you another time, sure. If he wants to he will. If not, it’s not for you.

[@heyem810]

Loved this

[@jellybeansies]

Def text to confirm. I don’t count that as a double text

[@fallbackin16]

missed these chatty videos!

[@EmLove2013]

Not higher probability but higher expected yield! 🤓

[@HelloKatyxo]

AHA! That's it!!! Thank you lolol

[@ownyourbold]

Love the note about pronouns

[@madisonrhyder3776]

I would not confirm. I would not show up. If i did confirm and they said sure, then I’d show up in a bad mood anyways so what’s the point at the point in my eyes at least.

[@HeyitsDeirdre]

nive video

[@thalya1315]

Ghost hahahah

[@irismeeow]

false awakenings are the worst, i have them more or less on a regular basis

[@09mjeternity]

Never in a trillion years double text during dating ever. A man won’t let a women he really likes stay on read, he’s rather die. If there’s no time and place no date. Never plan a date, merely suggest where’s you’d like to go. Never text him after the date until he texts you. Never compliment a man on the first date. It shows low self esteem. Only give useless compliments after a couple of dates if you must. The only validation should be phrased like “that makes sense” “great idea for this bar” “thank you so much” etc.

[@sarah-od6ov]

This is so toxic

[@09mjeternity]

@@sarah-od6ov precisely. And this world is toxic. No playing fair because other people aren’t playing by fair rules. Gotta pick up that shank girl. 😇

[@laurageiendorfer7144]

That seems so unreasonably stressful, but you do you girl, I guess 😅

[@sandymcsansan]

lol not you, single, getting ghosted, giving dating advice? 🥴

[@missmg888]

Not show up at all

[@jjforshort]

🤮🤮🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭

[@09mjeternity]

Have you ever considered hiring a dating coach? Dalexis P. Aka Mindful Attraction on YT changed everything for me a couple of years ago. He’s absolutely life changing, I feel like us women sometimes need a male/father cover over us during the dating process.