Help! I'm In A Sexless Marriage | Pure Desire Podcast | Episode 324

[@SankoLinbin]

It's as simple as you can't change your partner no matter what you do. Sex shouldn't be a result of any physical deed [like a reward]. If your spouse is genuinely for it, they won't require any prior checklist. Count your costs and if you decide to stay, don't do so expecting any changes. The available data is extremely discouraging

[@mi8345]

You almost make it sound as if it's always the wife that doesn't want sex. What about the PA husband that never wanted sex with his wife before discovery and are nowhere interested to change that even after discovery? It's been two years and my husband seems to be zero interested in me....

[@PureDesireMinistries]

Have you listened to the entire episode? A number of questions were intended to address both spouses involved in the marriage...

[@xdxdxdxd4575]

Yes!!! And now it is more often, that the husband is a witholder...

[@franciscooliveira8585]

Thanks. Can you lower the music at the end please?

[@volia-louisecoetzee733]

I hope you can answer me please? What if when the wife has been totally damaged after childbirth? The husband has had Prostate problems and more. Haven't had sex in years feels like an important part of our marriage is gone. Thank you..

[@PureDesireMinistries]

Our recommendation is to see a doctor for each of the issues. Exploring physical healing and the medical options available would be a great place to start.

[@Shane46587]

The sexless “season” is for when there are babies, when there are adolescents/teens, and then menopause? What part of the marriage is not part of the season besides like 5 intermittent years?

[@SankoLinbin]

Good question. Most of that talk is hypothetical I think

[@sylvesterjohns7968]

What is the answer for a marital separation. Here's my ho est question: When it comes to self-pleasuring, is it permissable during a marital separation? I'm not talking about porn usage, I'm simply talking about what should one do when there is an urge? Thanks for your helpful advice.

[@PureDesireMinistries]

Hey there, we have a great podcast episode on 'therapeutic separation' here is the link for that - kzbin.info/www/bejne/gpbNh55jnrqMqckfeature=shared And here is another episode talking about adjacent issues to what you are describing - kzbin.info/www/bejne/hYfahWR7ltp8rqcfeature=shared Hope these help!

[@Mr.Lateralus]

I appreciate your video. It seems like most couples just don’t want to put in any effort regarding their marital intimacy… and they don’t regard what the apostle Paul said when he says, don’t deprive one another. The more you work on yourself as far as diet and exercise, the more you are going to be attracted to each other and the more you’re gonna have awesome levels of libido… but people have desk jobs nowadays and people don’t look at the symptoms, they just look at the problem…. You guys need to speak more about this.

[@VillageAlive]

Couples should consider non demand pleasuring. For the aged, 60-90 it may be the only way to have sexual intamacy.

[@jaketokarczyk4509]

The problem is that we are all selfish sinful people. Until we are free from our bodies will we ever be free from the fleshly desires. As a husband, my job is to love my wife, even if she doesn’t fulfill my sexual desire. Period.

[@juliusmoore2176]

As a Christian man, I’m trying to have that same attitude. However, what I’m getting from you is that the husband should just accept the fact that his wife isn’t fulfilling him sexually? How is that okay?

[@jaketokarczyk4509]

@@juliusmoore2176 what else can we do brother? As a Christian we must pick up our cross daily. God gave us this difficult task to love our wives, despite the lack of sex. It’s not easy. But i encourage you to keep fighting the good fight.

[@Rainer125]

Well at least you guyses wifes get sex just from other guys.

[@SankoLinbin]

I want to agree, brother but I find it quite unsettling. Why stay married if the very basic aspect of it isn't on the table? Are we mere roommates or married? What's the point? Isn't that hypocrisy on my end?

[@jaketokarczyk4509]

@@SankoLinbin I hear you. Trust me. But God asks us to do difficult things. I’ve learned patience and selfcontrol through this journey. I’m not 100% there yet, but I can see why God is allowing it. Divorce is not an answer for it. So I endure. I suggest you pray for wisdom on this.

[@michaelsiegel9200]

Answer: There’s really nothing you can do about it that the church will accept, but continue to suffer.

[@s1n4m1n]

Yep. Just live with it is all they got.

[@SH-vj2ce]

Honestly folks if youre here looking at this content. You already KNOW the answer.... leave. For your sanity. For your health. For your peace of mind. Anytime I see these "christian response" to these types of questions, the speakers hem and haw for 45 min to an hour saying NOTHING. If youve prayed and begged and cried for years.... dry your eyes, pack and bag and chuck the dueces. You can still love them but its time to move on.

[@SankoLinbin]

Agreed!

[@JerryCass-i6v]

You guys help me appreciate secular psychologist