Helping an Unhappy Friend: Julie Hanks, LCSW on KSL TV's Studio 5

Offering help to a friend who is unhappy with life, their marriage, or work can be a struggle. How can you help? What can you say? Studio 5 Contributor and owner of Wasatch Family Therapy, Julie Hanks, LCSW shares how you can help a friend in need.
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[@charlieoverseaz]

Julie Hanks is so great!

[@caleuxx9108]

Love this video. However it makes me realize how many people take my empathy but, when I need it, I receive non except terrible advice from people who haven't bothered to ask questions or who act like they know everything about my situation. My mother has very severe chronic schizofrenia. When I rarely talk to friends about it, they usually don't say anything which for me is so NOT helpful. I need to talk about it and I need to know that the other person is actually interested in hearing me, I need to see that they actually care.

[@alcudiababe1]

see the thing is, im actually getting better with this but a comon mistake i would do was take on my friends problem like it was my own and id get overwhelmed and bogged down with it. i dont know what happened whether it was a flip moment where i told myself i couldnt do it anymore but i care when someone tells me a struggle or a problem they've been having and i can say something like - i dont know what to say, let me know if you need to talk - because some people arent talkative at that time but if they know u care and u r checking in with them and they know that they can, and when they do talk and u can pull back and not get so involved because some people dont apprieciate that depending on what it motivates you to do like shout at someone and they might not have wanted you to do that but you're so rilled - or another thing is u feel sprititually fustrated and sad by the time u get off the phone you feel you need a therapist. They will work it and figure something out and the burden doesnt fall on u.

[@HiHi-rc7eo]

I'm a 12 year old girl and I want to go to therapy, how do I ask my parents? Please help!!

[@alcudiababe1]

it depends on your parents. Some parents might be concerned with the finincal side of it like how much is this going to cost a session? Other parents dont believe in getting therapy because all you need to hear is some tough love from them, but i think it comes down to the connection you have with them, go to Mom if she is the more lenient understanding parent. Id advice not to go underhand and behind their backs which is something i probably would have done but dont forget she is your mom and she is going to want to help you first before sending you off to a counciler or therapist - usually parents do that when they are at their wits end. Explaining why you need this might help the situation without kicking off. And you can book a appoitment with your Doctor to get refered to a therapist. I guess some older generations dont always think that you know what you want its im your mother i know whats best and then if you get one what might you be telling your therapist that might give them a wrong impression or image. Talk to your parents or your Mom be as open as you can be. Use i statements i feel when this was said.... it depends on your situation or why you feel you want a therapist. Good luck. I hope you get what you want xx