Strong Boundaries Improve Relationships: The Assertiveness Guide for Women by Dr. Julie Hanks

www.assertivenessguide.com My new book The Assertiveness Guide for Women: How to Communicate Your Need, Set Healthy Boundaries just published! In this KSL TV's Studio 5 interview I share my comprehensive definition of assertiveness, how strong boundaries help (not hurt) relationships, and can even make them stronger.

[@princesspinkblue]

"The stronger we are as individuals, the more deeply we can connect with others"

[@yveqeshy]

Your book is amazing, I enjoy reading it because it is so well structured, the way you broke down the 5 S's and how bring you the 5 C's when working on assertiveness is truly wonderful. This is one of those books I keep going back to whenever I am struggling with assertive communication

[@Bamboos2011]

i think confronting has to be done in a proper manner. Most times the culprit will get angry and start mistreating you afterwards. It has to be done in a firm yet polite manner. I have to confront someone who has made me so miserable for the past two years that ive stopped all contact with them. Its very tough with family situations because we've already build up a pattern of how we behave towards them.

[@boundariesforwomen1310]

Love Julie Hanks. She's such a great teacher.

[@ashaahmed1597]

I love these videos, can you please do a video about codependency especially in regards to parents?

[@gwendolynburns1456]

Lovey conversation

[@sues0801]

There’s a difference between boundaries and control.

[@alcudiababe1]

I am fully agreeing that boundaries are key for you and the other person you are setting it with but I think it depends if you feel comfortable doing it. Just over a week ago a friend did that with me over something to which I didn't realise was a problem, I apologised and just remember to not do that again but if she wasn't comfortable with me and doing it she wouldn't have and she is one of those people that is nervous about doing anything. The biggest problem with setting boundaries is that from certain people it invites a lot of anger which I'm surprised this isn't discussed, I'm hearing how it's a good thing and it will benefit me and people around but you never hear Julie talk about the angry responses you get from unwilling people and how to deal with that, to which my advice would be act don't react because when you react you loose the nature of the conversation that you were talking about and to expect how certain people can and will react like, and when you expect it you can be a little more than a sitting target, like setting a boundary with your boss, like your boss is your boss and you wouldn't dare answer them back but it's trying to not to please them, so don't get me wrong but if your boss wanted to, he or she could trample over you and use their position of power to make you do things, so, for me I'd say be careful when you asset yourself with people like your boss who are of a challenging nature and you don't want to get in a power struggle with them because let's face it they can make your life difficult at work based on what they think of you, so talking to them, saying what you mean about your problem without sounding like you are taking them on, will help your life at work

[@sherry4696]

Wanna Have more information about it?

[@alcudiababe1]

@@sherry4696 it's about who's in power and what your relationship is with them is already like. It's all in your speach and how you talk, I mean, if you get anxious easily and you are prone to angry out bursts when things aren't fair they will come down harder on you. If you want a bit of understanding tell them before hand you suffer with anxiety and depending who it is you are talking to they can gain a better way of handling you. I have seen too many people take management on, and they don't come out well. It can't hurt to get on their good side and when they want to pull out favours for people they aren't going to do it for someone who argues or challenges everything they say. Occasionally standing firm on a personal boundary is fine but it's how you do that or even offer an alternative as to what you can do to help them because at some point in your job your going to need their help

[@alisadunn5443]

What do you do with parents who resist all boundaries you set.. even calling you a martyr...

[@larsholdgaard4284]

VIOLENT soundlevel - too much speed, noise and almost screaming soundlevels....YIKES

[@georgeyoung7523]

Um....controlers love pulling this.