Helping Your Child Cope With Separation And Divorce

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Live On Purpose TV

Live On Purpose TV

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@kristianenglish1253
@kristianenglish1253 4 жыл бұрын
It's been a week since my separation from my wife and I am struggling so much with not being with my kids everyday. It feels like it will never be ok in my head and I will never be able to deal with that fact
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
Kristian English, I am sorry to hear you are going through this.
@dkgnew
@dkgnew 4 жыл бұрын
Trust me, I Have had to resolve in my head- some battles are best fought from within. The internal battle you gotta win. Meaning telling myself- I cannot control the other person, and God will vindicate me and make things well sooner or later. Tough tho! One day at a time.
@volkoff6357
@volkoff6357 3 жыл бұрын
You're not alone. My ex-girlfriend took our son away from me when I broke up with her and is now spreading lies that I have been abusive and violent towards her and our 2 year old son. We've never even had a verbal fight. I was a victim of physical and emotional abuse in a marriage early in life. I could never bring myself to hard her or my son, nor would I ever keep our son away from his mother.
@marvinbugarin1870
@marvinbugarin1870 3 жыл бұрын
Im watching this to get my self and the kids ready of the worst thing can happen now.
@loganromero5089
@loganromero5089 3 жыл бұрын
How are you doing today?
@Anthony-yp1zp
@Anthony-yp1zp 2 жыл бұрын
KZbin recommended this for me the night I found out my wife is having an affair. Thank you for your wisdom. Please pray for my kids and family.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
Anthony, I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I wish your family the best.
@maryobbuyi4131
@maryobbuyi4131 2 жыл бұрын
Praying for you
@coutureleotards
@coutureleotards Жыл бұрын
Praying 1 year later ❤
@Unknownuser2u4u
@Unknownuser2u4u 9 ай бұрын
Self reflect a lonely woman is easier to fall victim to predatory men, in there sorrow n despair.
@psychicsag5685
@psychicsag5685 2 жыл бұрын
My little girl is having a hard time and all I want is to be able to take her pain away:( I feel like it’s just devastating that she is having to start her life having to go through this. Breaks my heart that so many kids are having to go through this
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
Help her to deal with her pain and she will come out stronger. Sounds like you will be there for her every step of the way.
@Lynetamimo
@Lynetamimo 9 ай бұрын
Am pained too seeing my son so sad 😢😢😢😢I cry everyday on his behalf because I don’t understand how I can help him
@LtDan82_3Inf
@LtDan82_3Inf 6 жыл бұрын
I am a therapist working with children and teens. Sadly, many of those kids I treat are experiencing divorce/separation, and all the baggage and difficulty that involves. I appreciate your insights, direct approach, and genuine style. I am officially a new subscriber. Thank you.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 6 жыл бұрын
Thanks for subscribing, Steve Barcanic. You have a tough job, glad you are there and helping families.
@dkgnew
@dkgnew 4 жыл бұрын
Wow. I would love to hear more from you on this. Going through it with my 11 year old son and his mom (and 2nd boyfriend). 😏😏
@shawnette1
@shawnette1 3 жыл бұрын
Even though no bad mouthing, parents should be honest. Cheating is wrong, abuse and violence is wrong. The kids do well with truth and intentional positive and firm direction. The person is not being judged, the behavior is.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Shawnette, thank you.
@shawnette1
@shawnette1 3 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV you’re welcome ❤️
@mqsack
@mqsack 3 жыл бұрын
This may be some of the most concise and helpful information I have come across. And the delivery is fun and lighthearted. Well done!!
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Matt Cusack, thank you! Honored to be on your team.
@melindagibson6358
@melindagibson6358 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this. I wish I’d discovered it years ago. Separated when our daughter was just 18 months - she’s now 10. I’ve made so many mistakes. I hope I can make up for them. Thanks for your channel - such important information for our beautiful kids.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Love her no matter what and even if...
@heretomakehimknown2183
@heretomakehimknown2183 Жыл бұрын
I promise my kids their dad and i will always love them and eachother no matter what! God bless you thank you for this information.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
You are welcome. Good luck.
@justinvongmany7876
@justinvongmany7876 Жыл бұрын
This should have more views and likes. Really appreciate your help.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Share away, I appreciate it.
@user-Thevinylshow
@user-Thevinylshow Жыл бұрын
In the end, you love each other And it came to the point you disrespected each other. It's shouldn't have to be a battlefield. You still love each other. You're a part of each other forever because you have each Others Kid. No one could take that away from you and the anger is just pain. The blaming is just pain. Let him go without destroying each other is hard but has to be done.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
I wish you well.
@Mushroom321-
@Mushroom321- 5 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU FOR SHARING from your years of experience from working with families. So sad .. to hear the kids heavy burden of trying to figure it out. I've been there, trying to figure it out. I know the feeling as a little child .
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын
Wendi Watson, thanks.
@damienjdunne2504
@damienjdunne2504 4 жыл бұрын
Great points! Thank you. I am currently going through a separation/divorce.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
Damien J Dunne, sorry to hear that, glad the video is helpful for you.
@varshamohan7910
@varshamohan7910 4 жыл бұрын
After trying for 6 years to cover up for his anger issues and his family history of domestic violence, matters just went out of hand when he refused to hand over my son. I did not want a situation of conflict to affect my son but it has already happened.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
Varsha Mohan, you need to do what you need to do. I wish you the best.
@dkgnew
@dkgnew 4 жыл бұрын
Some things are JUST UNAVOIDABLE and unfortunate! It’s the consequence- never say anything bad, for example?!!!...thats not easy when the other parent is doing selfish things that affects the child- how do you sugarcoat that! I am very honest and straight forward. Kids see things- why lie to them. The parent doing bad needs to get his/her act together! Period!
@robertchu753
@robertchu753 Жыл бұрын
This is such a great video. Thank you so much for posting. This helped me a lot.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@DivorcedHedgehog
@DivorcedHedgehog Жыл бұрын
I have as of a month ago found out my wife is divorcing me. Yes, I am at a lot of fault but I recently have found out shes been texting other dudes. Now she has a kid who isn’t genetically mine but I love the little bugger more than life. He’s brought so much joy and comfort into my life and I don’t want to end a relationship with him. Storm is awesome, so was she. Wish I could’ve shaped up sooner. Thank you for this video.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
You are welcome, I wish you well.
@Colour.Purple
@Colour.Purple 7 ай бұрын
This is GOLD !
@Williamsugarcane
@Williamsugarcane Жыл бұрын
You are appreciated!! Thank you for The wisdom
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
You are so welcome, glad you are here.
@erroldapper
@erroldapper Жыл бұрын
That document was really helpful.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that!
@STR4444
@STR4444 2 жыл бұрын
I'm currently about to process the Divorce with my Husband. We are separated but only by words. We haven't slept in the same room for years. But we lived together do to financial reasons. I have a 10 yo and a 14 yo. Trying to have a convo about the agreement with my husband, he has made it difficult to come to an agreement. When I told him that we had to come together to tell the girls, he said that they already knew. Which they don't. Then he said ok well I'll agree to anything you want but only if when it comes down to it you tell them and tell them why. And I told him that's not a good idea. That we have to do it together. But I didn't know how to tell him. I will send him your videos which are also helpful for myself.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
Esther Carrera, you will discover that you can ask things of your husband, but he may not agree to them. Figure out what you control and then stay in that sphere, where it doesn't require his cooperation.
@STR4444
@STR4444 2 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV OK thank you for your reply, I appreciate it and your videos.
@Sebastiaaaaaannnnnnn10
@Sebastiaaaaaannnnnnn10 3 жыл бұрын
This was great snd so helpful! Thank you so much!
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@amalbahr4175
@amalbahr4175 3 жыл бұрын
Very helpful and informative. Thanks a lot.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@shirleywalton9274
@shirleywalton9274 Жыл бұрын
Great tips!!
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Shirley, I wish you well.
@anglosaxondlzar9093
@anglosaxondlzar9093 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your advice
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
You are welcome.
@Knojeal
@Knojeal 2 жыл бұрын
thank you for your content.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
My pleasure!
@MisterBrewer
@MisterBrewer Жыл бұрын
This seems like some solid advice.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@AntcesRivasMaestra
@AntcesRivasMaestra 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!!!! It is very helpful!!!
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@f.4588
@f.4588 4 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@ruthcardoz23
@ruthcardoz23 Жыл бұрын
Thank you very much
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
You are welcome, our pleasure.
@ideyforyoufullyfunded
@ideyforyoufullyfunded 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Study Abroad with Bisola-Mariam, you are very welcome.
@bottomlessinkwell
@bottomlessinkwell 5 жыл бұрын
So good, excellent perspective. A lot of kindness for our sons and daughters to be found here. Choose love! This is another must share video from Live On Purpose TV.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын
Love it - thanks Bottomless Inkwell!
@MarsMan2482
@MarsMan2482 3 жыл бұрын
I really wish my parents did some of these things, maybe things would be different right now.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Tyler Fanuele, perhaps you could watch the video with them and discuss.
@MonikaParedes
@MonikaParedes 3 жыл бұрын
Its so hard for me not take personal the situations with my kid during the divorce. My ex never had time for her, never cared much and as soon as I left him he decided to care and need his girl. It was hard for my girl to be separated from me but now that her dad wants her, she doesn't;t want to be with me. She's getting the attention she always tried to get from him and suddenly she doesn't want me. I feel like shit for feeling that way, but I can handle her rejection! Also, how do I get away form not feeling horrible about her dad, when he was always abusive and manipulative with me?
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Try to separate his actions from his person. Not easy and it will take some maturity. Stay positive and let your child you will be there for him or her, loving them no matter what and even if...
@singerjo5791
@singerjo5791 2 жыл бұрын
@user-tq7jn5pg4lYou don’t just fix an abusive relationship. There are deep issues with abuse. Sometimes you have to leave to stay alive!
@positivelybeautiful1
@positivelybeautiful1 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. Jenkins!
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
You are welcome!
@thumoore9918
@thumoore9918 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your videos
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
Glad you like them!
@themagicalcapricorn
@themagicalcapricorn 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. I'm going to do everything I can to make this easier for my kids. 🙏🏻💙
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome! Unknown Zone, you are the parent your child needs.
@aylex1974
@aylex1974 2 жыл бұрын
Expended all your time with the kid and talk about everything with them and always reassure them that is not the end of their relationship and you as a parent will always love you and no matter what you will always be able to understand and support and always remember them that is not their fault. Relationships could break but you never break up with your kids. Some people don't understand this unfortunately
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
Love this comment. AFrs.
@somerandomguy495
@somerandomguy495 3 жыл бұрын
I like the nobody knows thing, that's really awesome. If the case involves physical abuse of a child is using nobody knows glossing over the abuse that the child experienced? Yes I understand that both glossing over abuse or vilification of the other parent is particularly helpful when working with a child experiencing the trauma of divorce and I want some guidance on how to navigate that scenario?
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Some random guy, number one is safety. It should not be glossed over, the child must be safe. After that, we let the law take over and get the child the help they need to heal. You can schedule a call with one of our coaches at www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.
@bjtolbert2499
@bjtolbert2499 3 жыл бұрын
I share joint custody with my ex. My ex likes to tell me how much our son wants to stay with her. However my son tells me that he like to stay with me. My ex continues to petition that I spend less time with our son because she says that he wants to stay with her. My question is do I give up my time?
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
I don't see why if your son wants to be with you.
@robynedward125
@robynedward125 4 жыл бұрын
I've nothing it does effect my kids now It's their grades focus in school behavior keeping secrets there's been different things I've noticed I feel bad for my kids unfortunately I'm in high conflict divorce and custody battle I wish we weren't going through this. When I have them I do as best as I can for them and they know I love them and do everything to make sure they know that. I love your tips I think you should cover conjugal abuse and high conflict divorce It's very tough to co parent with the other party. I've become proactive done all the court required parenting classes once the other parent Finally consented. I feel for the kids It's not the Childress fault It's not for kids to be in the middle I find it sad. He's got some great points you should've done our evulation I didn't write anything bad about their father I didn't want to point fingers. I wrote he's punctual that was true I didn't write anything else I had help on it wasn't an easy task saying nothing about the other parent. I wanted to focus on our kids
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
Robyn Edward, I am glad you are staying focused on the kids throughout this ordeal and thinking long term. Stay strong for them.
@fatimahasanzaidi31
@fatimahasanzaidi31 10 ай бұрын
How do I convey it to my 4 years old and he comes back from father's place his brain is filled with that mum is wrong, does not love u, I don't want my baby to b used in this all
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 10 ай бұрын
Establish some calm routines when your son comes back. Have a safe space for him so he knows where it is safe to him to unwind or transition to your home.
@zachhutchins892
@zachhutchins892 Жыл бұрын
Thank u boss
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Welcome
@tintina2753
@tintina2753 11 ай бұрын
Dr Paul , you’ve helped me so much with healthy parenting approach even when I was still in an abusive relationship. My question is what if your 9 &10 year olds are smart enough to figure out what the main issue is and they ask you what happened. Do you pretend not to know or do you validate their insight? ( I’ve been surprised at their observation even though I tried hard to protect them once I knew the relationship was abusive )
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 11 ай бұрын
I would ask them what they think and see what they say. You can let them know if they are right or hedge a bit and say there are other things that happened and you would be happy to speak with them about it when they are a little older. I am glad you are trying to keep them out of it. Stick to the facts and don't put blame anywhere.
@brandonleroux6059
@brandonleroux6059 Жыл бұрын
That's nice advice but as a child of divorce I can assure you that nothing you do will ever fix what you have broken inside your child/children. You can cover that with as much love and care you want but that hole wont heal.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
I am sorry. Thank you for sharing.
@MacM15
@MacM15 Жыл бұрын
My parents literally did the complete opposite of what you suggested by a long shot 😢
@dwwilliams21
@dwwilliams21 2 жыл бұрын
Any book or video references for learning how to help self-blaming child. My 9yr old daughter blames herself I think. We are 7 months into separation/divorce.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
David Wiliams, not off the top of my head. Sounds like your daughter could use some help so you might try a counselor or therapist.
@waynebeebe8828
@waynebeebe8828 10 ай бұрын
I would like this transcript but it will not download?
@Peter-cb8xr
@Peter-cb8xr 5 жыл бұрын
I like the part about creating a loving environment in your own world BUT what do you do when a 18 year old child wants both parents at her birthday celebration? Both parents have been actively avoiding each other to keep the peace and avoid conflict in front of the kids (creating a loving environment in there own world) AGAIN, what is a devorced parent to do when there 18, year old child wants both parents at her B/day celebration?
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын
Give them their birthday wish, it is only a few hours and mature adults can do this for their child, John Doe. You don't have to sit next to one another, just be present and focused on your child who is becoming an adult.
@Peter-cb8xr
@Peter-cb8xr 5 жыл бұрын
@live On Purpose TV. I am happy to report that I was able to pluck up the courage to attend our daughters birthday. It was not easy and required both parents to put aside there differences for the sake of our children (as awkward as our circumstances are). Her mother and I got along really well and were respectful toward each other as mature adults should be. Her mothers fears and concerns were exactly the same as mine prior to attending but we both love our children that much, we knew we had to change our attitudes towards each other. Much to the delight our children, the night went really well. It was not as bad as I was thought. I am glad to say that this step (as hard as it may seem) was a positive step in the right direction moving forward respectfully as divorced parents. I am happy to say that both parents are now on the same page. We both feel a huge weight has been lifted off our shoulders and to see the joy on our children's faces is absolutely priceless. thank you for your advice on this matter. much appreciated.
@StephaniRoberts
@StephaniRoberts 5 жыл бұрын
Peter Rabbit Bravo to you both for putting your kids FIRST and setting aside your feelings for a few hours. What a positive statement you made to your kids in doing so!! 🙌🏼💯
@sarahhumphreys3980
@sarahhumphreys3980 4 жыл бұрын
Peter Rabbit. Understandably making that decision to go to your daughter's birthday would have taken some courage especially when you knew your daughter's mother would have been there also. But you made the right decision. I'm glad things turned out well for you.Well done 🙂🙂🙂
@winalways957
@winalways957 Жыл бұрын
This book is very useful "Separation and Divorce Surviving with Your Children-by Bridget Michaels
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the suggestion.
@natalianakoriakova8084
@natalianakoriakova8084 Жыл бұрын
Minimizing the conflict is IMPOSSIBLE in high conflict divorces. From what I see in the family court system, high conflict divorces are not an exception these days. It's now a norm, sadly. Do you have any videos about teenagers in a high conflict divorce situation and how to help them if one parent (as per a lawyer) is not negotiable?
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
I would get them counseling.
@natalianakoriakova8084
@natalianakoriakova8084 Жыл бұрын
@LiveOnPurposeTV been there, done that. Not working. The child is 12, pre-teen with pre-teenism, the other parent is a nuts case. As per the lawyer, the parent is "not negotiable", "my way or the highway" type. The child is brainwashed and bribed. $300 boots - here. $100 backpack, voila. Gucci, Uggs, latest iPhone ($1.500) - here you go honey, adding "your (other parent) is a cheap shit".
@meshandalopez4715
@meshandalopez4715 Жыл бұрын
Do you have any video recommendations that speaks to a parent who is practicing positive parenting but the co-parent is being manipulative to the kids and talking bad about the parent’s new girlfriend? When one parent isn’t being mature and making things difficult after divorce, how does one deal with that?
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
It is difficult to be sure. One thing to help you from going crazy is to figure out what you have control over and what you don't. Stay in the lane of control and understand you can't change someone else's behavior. Don't bad talk the other parent and girlfriend, just be positive. The kids will figure things out.
@meshandalopez4715
@meshandalopez4715 Жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTVThank you very much!
@sportsport1654
@sportsport1654 5 жыл бұрын
Do video what when parents diverced when you are 1 year old and less
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын
Sport Sport, I can add the topic to the list.
@sportsport1654
@sportsport1654 5 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Great 😃
@rbolen8460
@rbolen8460 4 жыл бұрын
I've only gotten to spend one Christmas with my son . I'm not ok with that . The day he was born is the only birthday of his is that I have gotten to see. I've been asking and begging for help. Twelve years we don't get back . I need help from somewhere outside of this county. Court here doesn't care about the facts I have given.money talks n that's a b.s. problem with life .
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
Ronald Bolen, I am sorry. I hope you can celebrate with your son even though it isn't on Christmas. Many families celebrate at other times. I know it is probably lonely for you.
@rbolen8460
@rbolen8460 4 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for replying. But it isn't just Christmas .I'm saying I haven't gotten to share any holladay s or birthdays with him.she got full custody then left him and his brother with people that already have 5 foster children liveing in California vally. There is no police,hospital,stores or drinkable water.its not ileagle for them to keep him because they own the property. The sheriff's said they don't have to go out there and they aren't going out there without a court order.ive been going to court for over a year and the judge still hasn't done anything .we need to be back home with family in West Virginia. I'm not going back without him and I'll be here as long as it takes.wich at this rate I'll probably die here. I really need help from out side of San Luis obispo.these are all facts. I haven't given up. I'm still here . I've lived at the same address and work almost 8 years. Again,thank you for your videos
@rbolen8460
@rbolen8460 4 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV and don't be sorry . Sorry people steel from their grandma's .
@anom138
@anom138 8 ай бұрын
Could an older sibling also comfort and support their youngest siblings through divorce with these methods? I’m a teenager with three younger siblings, two of which under ten years old. I want to support them the best I can while my parents are getting divorced. Is there anything more I can do for them?
@rokokire9588
@rokokire9588 3 жыл бұрын
I wonder how many of my classmates are really watching this video because of PCC. 😀
@aphreiihuozha3820
@aphreiihuozha3820 3 жыл бұрын
💃💃
@rokokire9588
@rokokire9588 3 жыл бұрын
Awo bacha awo. 😀
@aphreiihuozha3820
@aphreiihuozha3820 3 жыл бұрын
@@rokokire9588 Hai hai 👯👯
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
A few, I guess.
@chara3968
@chara3968 5 жыл бұрын
QwQ my mom never thinks about how it will change mine my dads and sisters life
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын
Avrey The gacha wolf, sounds like she is focused on herself. Have her watch some videos.
@chara3968
@chara3968 5 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV i don like talking about this with her for some reason
@kalynnedees
@kalynnedees 4 жыл бұрын
Remember, she's only human and may need help to see what she may be missing. Go to her with your feelings. Just be honest without trying to tell her what you or others think she should do. Tell her how what she's doing makes you feel and give her time to sort it out. My heart goes out to you, dear. May you find peace.
@Vu.student310
@Vu.student310 Жыл бұрын
My daughter usually ask about her father he is in abroad we are not in contact with each other... He came in my country but don't bother to visit us... How can i reply my daughter about her father?
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Depending on her age, tell her the facts, leave out the judgment and emotion. Just the facts and she can make her interpretation as she grows older.
@Keeponflowing6238
@Keeponflowing6238 2 жыл бұрын
It’s not that you know that you are right…it’s that you ‘think’ you know you are right! Your partner ‘thinks’ they know they are right too. The marriage didn’t work out due to incompatibility. And the reasons you ‘think’ you know about why?! You don’t know about ‘why?’ So yeah, it’s true when you tell your child - “nobody knows why the marriage didn’t work out?”
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
Martin Vanasky, yet we always want to have an answer for the question. Glad you are there and love your child no matter what and even if.
@eh4235
@eh4235 4 жыл бұрын
Please i need help. I need to find a family therapist in Las Vegas Nevada who knows what kids are going through, a high conflict custody case. I need help. I have insurance also, but I can't find a qualified therapists and the kids are left with a charged sex offender. Someone please please help. All I need is a therapist to take them and I can have them with me due to severe parental aliniation and false alligations.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
E H, call your insurance company for a list of providers. Good Luck, I hope someone else can help suggest someone.
@johnc5713
@johnc5713 Жыл бұрын
What do you when I want to minimize the conflict and my ex doesn’t? It’s not my 2 kids fault at all. I want peace but she doesn’t and my kids are suffering
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
You can't control another person and their actions, stay centered where you have control - over yourself.
@johnc5713
@johnc5713 Жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I am definitely trying to but it’s hard dealing with an irrational and obviously mentally sick person
@rodeticogarcia7156
@rodeticogarcia7156 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks to post well just wsnt to know what legal to dp in seperation i all reafy move on and pnly want to aecurw my children which best thing to decide well.. Thank you and godbless all
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
Best of luck to you and your family
@DoctorRobert2009
@DoctorRobert2009 3 жыл бұрын
Yes but I want them to know the truth about the situation
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Andrew Gamboa, why? Because it will help them? It might not, depending on the age.
@dkgnew
@dkgnew 4 жыл бұрын
Some things are JUST UNAVOIDABLE and unfortunate! It’s the consequence- never say anything bad, for example?!!!...thats not easy when the other parent is doing selfish things that affects the child- how do you sugarcoat that! I am very honest and straight forward. Kids see things- why lie to them. The parent doing bad needs to get his/her act together! Period! When my son asks - why aren’t you Mom’s boyfriend, I explain as simple as I can. He wants his family together- I can’t just tell him “we’re not together anymore!” - so now imma teach my kid shallow relationships?!?! You just up one day and “not together anymore!!?!” Kids are not dumb. They understand consequences. I say- dad did something wrong that hurt Mom, and she doesn’t believe she can forgive him, and that’s why she (not US) doesn’t want to be together anymore. Own your crap! 💩 and move it along. Better they hear it from you- they are gonna. As long as they can feel loved! Some ppl are narcissistic and takers, and unrepentant.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
dale green, I don't think it is about sugar coating or hiding. It is about stating facts and let them lie where they land. The kids figure things out. Use words on their level and they know what is going on.
@dkgnew
@dkgnew 4 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV true. Agreed 👏🏿👏🏿
@joeofcourse
@joeofcourse 3 жыл бұрын
Is it ever alright to separate siblings during a divorce? I'm not throwing stones, my ex is a legitimate narcissist. She treats our oldest like a golden child, she won't allow me to discipline him even if he's caught red handed, but she genuinely treats my other son like a problem child. She tells people he's a liar to protect her image and says things like "he's acting like a little shit". My oldest is in his teens and wants to stay with her, I think because she let's him do whatever he wants. But my younger son calls me everyday and has me FaceTime in his room because he says he misses it. The boys get along really well, they love each other. The older one stands up for the little one. They need each other. I don't know what to do.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 3 жыл бұрын
Each case needs to be handled individually. It might be right, there are a lot of things to look at. The kids would still need to have access to one another.
@anilbalram7768
@anilbalram7768 Жыл бұрын
What if these things came about through abuse? Cause the kids were already exposed to her abusing me.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
There are so many things I don't know about your situation that it is impossible to comment sensibly. Seek advice from someone who knows the system where you are located.
@Mushroom321-
@Mushroom321- 5 жыл бұрын
Nice!! 👏 I wish I could give this a million likes.. 🤤🐴👏❤😼
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын
Wendi Watson, I do too, thanks!
@blueduck8876
@blueduck8876 5 ай бұрын
Never EVER!!!! NOBODY knows why this has happened!! 😅
@satriani19751
@satriani19751 9 ай бұрын
wgat if your kids are the reason you are not able to move on and have a life. bcs rgey attach you tobyour ex wife after 7 years after my divorce i am about to leave them behind and have a life.
@sabrinamimouni8306
@sabrinamimouni8306 2 жыл бұрын
What if one the parents is a narcissist, tells lies and a deformed reality?
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 2 жыл бұрын
I hope the parent can get some help so the children are allowed to see both parents.
@shockdojo6414
@shockdojo6414 6 жыл бұрын
Well that's showing me that any relationship can be faulty, fake, fictional and brittle.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 6 жыл бұрын
Can be - yes. They can also be full, genuine, rich, and strong - its all about what principles are applied. DrPaul
@winalways957
@winalways957 Жыл бұрын
This book is a must Read: Separation and Divorce-Surviving with your Children
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
I hope it helps others. Thanks for sharing.
@Mushroom321-
@Mushroom321- 5 жыл бұрын
"Liked" 🐴 bingin.. on the videos...
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын
Wendi Watson, binge away and please share if you think someone else can benefit.
@dkgnew
@dkgnew 4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it is very challenging to not say anything, especially when it is very obvious the other parent has put the “new” Love interest’s needs Above our child!! 😤😤😤😤😤
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
dale green, It is super difficult. So sad.
@saw727
@saw727 Жыл бұрын
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Florida.
@shockdojo6414
@shockdojo6414 6 жыл бұрын
Sigh.☹️😒
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching.
@suerenfrow5091
@suerenfrow5091 4 жыл бұрын
What if it’s two Mom’s or two Dad’s? Unfortunate that you have good information but leave out so many families.
@LiveOnPurposeTV
@LiveOnPurposeTV 4 жыл бұрын
It is not my intention to leave out certain types of families, Sue Renfrow. We base our titles off of frequently searched questions in the search engines. I believe the tips could be applied to more than just an ex-husband-and-wife situation. Thank you for watching Live On Purpose TV.
@singerjo5791
@singerjo5791 2 жыл бұрын
That’s sick
@Computernerd1200
@Computernerd1200 5 ай бұрын
Thank you 😊
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