Her Boyfriend Left For A YOUNGER WOMAN! I Steve Harvey

[@magdabadrena2836]

Four months into dating my husband I asked him what his intentions were. I was 23 and he was 28. And I was willing to walk away if his intentions weren’t marriage. We spoke. Six months later he asked me to marry him and we have been married 39 years. He is a spectacular husband and father and I couldn’t ask for more.

[@9to5MillionaireMindset]

Being intentional matters!

[@travguru8]

Exactly. Too many women waste their youth waiting around on a man to decide if "he " wants to get married. There is a timeline and expiration date on everything. If you're dating someone and there's no conversation about taking things to the next level after 6 months, keep it movin. This poor lady was basically hanging around for 12 years for nothing, probably could've met a man when she was younger and gotten married to someone else, sad.

[@angelahall7147]

Congratulations 🎉❤🎉

[@PatriciaGrady-tl5qh]

That's awesome you are a great example for young women. ❤💯🙏

[@normathompson5743]

CONGRATULATIONS 🎊

[@MyWayWendy]

"Never assume that someone likes you by their sweetness, Sometimes you're just an option when they're bored" Quotes.

[@aliciastewart3037]

PREACH!

[@cprissy]

ouch but true.

[@zzzroxyzzz]

12 years though, that's a long time to be bored.

[@UrbanAfricano93]

Facts

[@GoldenLady1007]

He left, let him stay gone. The fact that he had the audacity to ask to come back tells the story. She doesn't need a man, she needs a therapist to help her love herself. 💛

[@centenoj85]

Doesn't matter the age of a person. Some people don't know how to set boundaries in their relationship. She wasted 12 years of her life.

[@finally97]

It's not about loving herself. It's about setting boundaries. She can absolutely love herself and still not know how to set and maintain boundaries. Accepting unwanted behavior does not equal not loving yourself. That's a myth.

[@GoldenLady1007]

@finally97 I disagree. IMHO, when you love YOU, certain behavior is simply unacceptable. Period. Self-love, a serious sense of self-worth sets the boundaries. I am 61 years old and I don't know a lot. However, I do know a little. I know, for me, because of how much I love and respect ME, certain behaviors are unacceptable. This is from my own experience and seeing other people over the years. May you and anyone else reading this ALWAYS be blessed with good health, happiness, love, peace and prosperity. ✨️😊💛

[@Jewels0007]

DO NOT SLEEP WITH THEM BEFORE MARRIAGE YOU'LL FIND OUT HIS INTENTIONS FASTER

[@ImOnAJourney]

Amen!!

[@OneWomanMan888]

How can she find out his intentions if she allowed him to.

[@hawaiianrussian1047]

…and take some accountability as well 😬😂

[@elizafelz]

Very true

[@PamBeesly9545]

@@hawaiianrussian1047 yall love throwing out that word when it’s not needed. Vocabulary is like 5 words and one of them is accountability but never applied to yourselves. Men 😂

[@nothgir]

💯 My wife certainly asked me 3 mos into dating, “What are we doing?” She held me accountable and protected her time. She still doesn’t like wasting time, money, and anything.

[@TheGoodnews7328]

Never double back.. NEVER!!

[@esau5530]

I used to work with a girl, her boyfriend didn’t respect her, treated her like a doormat, he had a bad temper, screamed at her, she was my kids age and she asked my advice what should she do, because he promised her marriage and he keeps making excuses, I told her to leave him, for one the way he treats her. I told her she will find the right guy and she did, he’s a teacher and she is a teacher assistant, god fearing man and she’s a real nice girl, they got married after 8 months.

[@Jewels0007]

A man wont stay unless he wants to PERIOD!

[@OneWomanMan888]

If you allowed him to have it, he will be back for more.

[@hawaiianrussian1047]

Maybe she gave him a reason to leave and not settle 🤷🏽‍♂️😏😬😂

[@teresaevans4840]

Absolutely!!!!

[@kornaxon3522]

'Listen' to actions, not to words.

[@msblessedIAM]

Dont allow him back, people will onlybdo what you allow. 12 years and he didnt marry you. Move on Queen, You deserve better. 12 yrs hes's not planning to marry you

[@lastdragonx]

@@msblessedIAM she aint no queen. She washed up.

[@msblessedIAM]

@@lastdragonx She definitely A Queen.

[@lastdragonx]

@@msblessedIAM Lol queen of what? Getting played?

[@defenderofdecency7218]

12 years? Wow. Hope the 53 year old woman heeds to Steve's advice and makes changes in moving forward with her love life. Good luck

[@tamitatangoto5134]

If you ask me she gave him her BEST YEAR'S. MY best years of my entire life so far was my 40s. I looked the best ever, I felt the best ever. I tell you she gave that away to him and when he felt like she was starting to get old he left her for someone younger. If they had at least been married it might have been a little bit harder for him to walk away, MAYBE.😮

[@defenderofdecency7218]

​@@tamitatangoto5134 Yeah, you are right. I feel sad for her. She looked good for a 53 years old woman though. Guess Blacks don't crack (don't age/wrinkle as fast) as the saying goes. Anyhow, I hope she finds a man who would treat her better.

[@DeliveranceHealingMiracles222]

I AINT SLEEPING WITH NOBODY BEFORE MARRIAGE BEEN THERE DONE THAT COME CORRECT OR DONT COME AT ALL

[@tjaspire]

Right. If you're not sleeping with him, ain't no "girlfriend of 12 years." He'll make his mind up REAL quick if wants to be with you, or just waste your time.

[@darnellrhodes6174]

Unfortunately, many women give their virginity/wombs away prior to marriage and expect good quality men to accept that!! Nope!! 👎🏾

[@msblessedIAM]

Social media will ruin your relationship / marriage.

[@UrbanAfricano93]

No it won't

[@TraciGoodskyP]

Sure do frfr uughhh 😢

[@koolsmoothfan]

preach, and jealous friends lol

[@MerelynMontheith]

Women we need to value our selves people will treat you the way you allowed them to.

[@hawaiianrussian1047]

…huh? We live in the generation with the most conceited ass women walking round whatchu talking about ? You mean women need to take accountability and stop blaming every other adult but themselves 😬😂

[@OneWomanMan888]

If the man wants you, he will do what a man suppose to do, married to you and you should have grown up kids by now.

[@PurePosey44]

Don’t wait on him! Move on with your life! Why are you allowing him to decide for you how your life is going to go??!!

[@DeliveranceHealingMiracles222]

I have no desire at 47 to be a girlfriend at this age

[@BlessedToATee]

Whew Chile, Tell me about it!

[@kfmeighty9]

How about a 54 year old living in a house but sleeping in different rooms for 10 years with a man as a girlfriend and step mom of his kid.

[@darnellrhodes6174]

40+ year old women who are seeking serious relationships are not desirable for marriage and motherhood for virtually ALL good quality men!!

[@fashion1198]

😂 because you know every man. I am African American and got married to a black Cardiologist at the age of 44. Oh and let me add that I was a single mom to a young adult. Btw this woman never said she wanted to get married. A lot of women are opting out of marriage and dating all together. And before I sign off stats show that you all don’t marry women at any age hence the reason most women in our community no matter the socioeconomic status have babies out of wedlock…I forgot to add moms of biracial kids are quickly joining this group…….

[@darnellrhodes6174]

@@fashion1198 You speaking as though old middle aged women have leverage when it comes to relationships with men. WRONG 😑 old women are broken, tainted, many come with baggage, damage, drama and trauma from failed relationships and life experiences. So, good quality men aren’t checking for those women anyway!!

[@teresakelton8286]

Run! Don’t take him back!

[@Qvotes]

I remember I told my partner (cause we've been good friends before we got attracted to each other) that we'll date temporarily for a year to see if our feelings are fleeting; if there are differences too great to say it won't work then after that, we decide if we'll continue or not. Bless his heart, it wasn't even on 10th month, he proposed.

[@redgurl60]

Don't ever let someone occupy that much of your time without getting what you want out of the deal.

[@ForMySoulSistas]

↪️Not only did you leave once after 12 years for a younger woman but you came back and had the same inconsistent behavior ↪️Set the standards in the very beginning ↪️It sounds like she's still hopeful for that relationship...When ppl show us who they are: believe them.

[@rashardstallworth9240]

You have no idea why he left. You can’t just assume that he’s the problem.

[@palmiduby1561]

I Would have never left him back in heck nah.

[@ForMySoulSistas]

@@palmiduby1561 💯

[@Roda45Crossfit]

I see fear, doubt and low self esteem…love yourself more than you romanticize the idea of being in love. Make room for the one who will love you the way you deserve to be loved.

[@flutterbyenthusia]

That's what I did. I told my (then) boyfriend "if we are not engaged in one year from now, I'm moving out of this town." I had moved TO the town for school, met him, and didn't like the town or the school, but I loved HIM. 1 year later we were married. We've been married 13 years now, and will always be.

[@zinachristie8052]

Amen if a man loves you. Great answer!

[@ChantelWhitley-rs3uu]

The first lady in the red blouse and the weave is a beautiful dark lady I hope you find someone who is genuine..

[@BigDaddy_BHJ1977]

Maybe she needs to ask herself am I the problem.

[@BlaqueRose23]

Doing so will DEFINITELY help!

[@hawaiianrussian1047]

Exactly!!!

[@ayalibra]

I agree. And heal herself before she moves onto another relationship

[@josp7502]

Many people in general & women in particular don't know this question.

[@tamitatangoto5134]

I'm a woman, but I'm getting older, a little bit wiser and more mature, and I have to agree with you, A woman has to ask herself, with all sincerity, AM I THE PROBLEM? Oftentimes the answer will be YES; YES SHE IS!!

[@arlenelovelace18]

I am in a new dating relationship with a chivalrous man. He makes sure I am not walking close to the street, opening car doors, building doors, always having me enter first, etc… and I make sure to acknowledge this. A soft stroke of my hand against his cheek, a sugar smack on the lips, a smile, a wink, a squeeze of his hand, a blown kiss or I tell him how sweet he is. It is so simple to express gratitude to him for who he is and how he treats me. After a few toads, I think I’ve finally found my Prince. Ladies, if you have a gem like this, please express your appreciation. For the ladies still looking; don’t give up, chivalry is not dead, but it is a rare gem. He and I are both 63 yrs old, but we act like teenagers. And for the younger ladies with kids at home, it’s never too late to teach your sons this gift, and never too late to teach your daughters to expect it and appreciate it.

[@tiffanywarfield9375]

"What 53 yr old woman needs a boyfriend?" 😮😢

[@tyecampbell1762]

Some people dont want to get married and age has nothing to do with it!

[@OneWomanMan888]

​@@tyecampbell1762Did you watch the video.

[@shema02]

@@OneWomanMan888 😂😂

[@tiffanywarfield9375]

@@tyecampbell1762 I posted that "particular" quote for a purpose and reason.... Did you watch the entire MESSAGE ?

[@reahleneroberts7791]

@@tyecampbell1762 my uncle did when he died left her looking with a lot money but she only want him back

[@CherylJackson-yo5qu]

He doesn't want her.12years, !!.

[@CrystalSicily]

20. 30. But after 40. NO TIME TO WASTE!! ❤

[@Jewels0007]

My ex husband promised me a to go on a Cruize Ship. My So called Best Friend stole him away from me and now they broke up he been through a bunch of woman since I been staying by myself. Heck with men. Im Happy

[@Apocol]

Should of paid a visit to your “friend “

[@reahleneroberts7791]

She wasn’t no friend only why hanging around with you let have him she see gonna do same to her

[@kimhunter2532]

Your so-called Best Friend did you a favor.

[@kimhunter2532]

53? I was dumb like that. Then I smartened up. Wake up ladies

[@billspike2723]

Why didn't you to depend the cruise

[@lisaanneaster3095]

He didn't marry you in 12 years??? You should have left LOOOOOOOONG ago

[@travguru8]

Thank you! She should've been left if after 6 months or a year, they weren't married. Wasted over a decade of her life!!

[@bradleycampbell245]

She needs to hold herself accountable and let that man go. 12 years of being a girlfriend while not having any requirements is insane

[@msblessedIAM]

Men love calling womwn insecure when they tell them about liking others women pictures.

[@StanTheBrand]

6 months is not a long time. Get to know a person, go through some cycles(holidays, birthdays, etc.) and get to know a person. Quit going to celebrities for advice on life.

[@sinavaitululeupolu1455]

Girl u deserve better. Let him go

[@DeliveranceHealingMiracles222]

Chivalry is not dead

[@debbieechiribel1860]

I was w my ex 24 years, took him back 3 times, the same story as this woman in the red dress. Like Steve Harvey has said "never look back thru your rear view mirror"

[@deborahwilliamson5655]

You should NOT have let him back into your life!!! He showed you that he had zero respect for you the first time. Mind you, I had to learn many lessons the hard way also. Highly-educated about men now!!!

[@delmahnori1582]

Man always love the look of woman. Some may look for true love. Never marry a man you don't know his going out and his coming in. Know a man background before taking another step. Sometime love can blind a woman to make wrong decision without realising it. True love is all about honest, trust, patient, kindness, never jealous, never envy, never agressive. That is true love.

[@JamesGreenier]

Women in this situation passed on 99% of the men who wanted them because they were too “nice” and marriage-minded. Don’t make that mistake.

[@palmiduby1561]

oop- lol

[@PamBeesly9545]

You don’t know anything about this women or 99% of women😂 you must get rejected a lot

[@Josie3387]

How would you know if you're not a nice guy yourself?

[@Ali.electra]

@@Josie3387these types of guys are always the ones that end up being the scariest bc they have a vendetta against women 😭

[@Josie3387]

@@Ali.electraYou're right. Self proclaimed nice guys are unhinged and worst than the bad boys they cry women chase after.

[@realmommee8093]

Hope she’s in better place. She seems so sweet and pitiful at same time. Love self first.

[@Ghostbusters341]

Focus on yourself, hun, and watch your life bloom like a field of 🌼 #SelfLoveIsKey #MeMyselfAndI #LivingMyBestLife #SelfCareSunday #FulfillmentGoals #HappinessIsKey #LoveYourselfFirst .

[@annpinheiro2918]

Please let him go you could have dodged a bullet...only God knows you not you

[@caseynoel2202]

Lady at Beginning: I’m 53 Me: Woman, no you not. You 33. 🥰

[@African.Diaspora.InLondonUK]

😮 She been a placeholder 4 12 years. its a woman job to set the standard from Day 1.

[@darnellrhodes6174]

No, its the man who sets the standards for relationships!

[@thewise2443]

I needed this… don’t even get me started on this ! Some guys just want you for convenience, let him go !!

[@TheRichardMorse]

She was with him for 12 years and they never got married says it all

[@shan9479]

I just received an engagement ring 1 year and 0 days in my current relationship.

[@MightwonamofGod123]

That man came dancing down them steps like ELLEN 😂😂😂

[@gloriabaylor882]

They will lie when they need to... 😮

[@rainacherienne1010]

I don’t agree that women should be asking. Just don’t sleep with them and THEY will be asking you very quickly.

[@travguru8]

Yep, don't play house, don't move in, don't have sex, don't cook for him, none of that, you are Not his wife until after you're married.

[@jonathanfactor6688]

Great video thanks

[@tjaspire]

Steve that is not good advice. ATP, there are no more "requirements." He already walked out twice. That's like making a deal with the devil. We don't negotiate with demons. If he leaves, tell him to stay over there and don't come back. Even YOU told us years ago that if a man leaves, he's leaving to be with another woman. There's nothing appealing about Community D. A man like that will lead a woman to poverty, AND hell. He has no self-control.

[@rossanalombardo6271]

She dodged a bullet....Break up's are easier than a divorce...............

[@Athenaforever2308]

A lot of these comments make sense....hope this lovely lady reads them. And never dates a guy for 12 years ...with no ring on her fingers!

[@nightlady2001]

I say, sounds like the trash done took itself out. Good

[@Favoritedahmi]

The true of the matter is once a man meet you, he already knows what he want. But if he said nothing from 6 months till 1 years, sis ask him what are his intentions if he is not sure, let him go sbd move on. 12 years for what?

[@hellosunshine3304]

Don't give wife benefits to a "boyfriend".

[@luganoessom1464]

"She probably watching" 😂😂 we understand you bro, yeah we got you!😂

[@A_Notes]

One thing I disagreed with red pill and manosphere sectors on Steve Harvey was he never held women accountable and always painted to their feelings. I used to watch his talk show and he did Pander at times to women, there was also times he called women out on their BS. This video was one of many instances in which he told women the problem is not the man it's you

[@PamBeesly9545]

It’s wrong to use someone, waste their time, cheat, and try to come back to use them. If you don’t wanna call that a bad person just because it’s a man that does it, then that says a lot about you

[@Latifahgarba]

You have to look within sometimes…. The issue is not with the man but with you

[@KimberlyEder-uw7te]

Steve is giving good advice that their parents should teach them.

[@emmahwonder9161]

Love yourself first..

[@almaidajohn4594]

Steve i thought you were a spiritual man, why at six months you're sleeping together? Fornication as well as adultery is sinning (not my words).

[@tjaspire]

Right. That advice will lead people straight to the lake of fire. This is not a game!

[@tjaspire]

People need to read their Bible. It's all in there. Especially those who claim to be "Christians," but never read the Word.

[@bskillshare808]

Exactly Steve. I am not sitting down in any children relationship for so long and talking about boyfriend.. big women don't do boyfriend.

[@jasminehouston-burns1691]

It's hard ro stop "liking" pictures?

[@veeli626]

I dont Usually agree with Steve but he's 100% Correct, men will do what you allow them to do.

[@MaryRodgers-v4d]

If a man leaves you for a younger woman after 12 years. He is a man you do not want. I do not believe she took him back. He was going to leave again. Steve was just being nice. He could tell her what he really thought. He was just there for the convenience. I hope she find someone. We must respect ourselves. ❤❤

[@patriciagurwitz509]

First woman…She’s too old to be settling for these losers. She lacks confidence 🥴

[@MrBeautiful2908]

I asked my wife to marry me six months after we met. We married six months later.

[@beckykaye7414]

Don't answer don't take them back

[@angelus0975]

I learnt GCC Gentlemen Code of Conduct long before I was married. Married 15 years now. I still practice it.

[@nyd2021]

ACTIONS.

[@positivevibe7346]

Love her top

[@bobbiejackson732]

Thank u Steve

[@AkireMaru]

Tale as old as time, true as it can be…

[@debbieechiribel1860]

Right! Asked for certain demands, altimadem

[@Observer100-cn7gv]

Your problem. You gave him a second chance.

[@esintial]

12 years??😮

[@cwhite8860]

Let him go! He's not for you because if he wanted to, he would be a man, not a grown male

[@sheldonsmith3680]

Steve has all the answers. When he's hen picked my his 3rd wife. Did all his other wives wrong...but he's blessed he says

[@MSG515]

I assume that he’s learnt lessons from his past relationships.

[@christine8203]

Did she say she was 53? Wow!!! She looks 28, 29! Beautiful lady.

[@intentionalgreatness]

12 years boyfriend?!

[@seritawilkins1058]

Ayeeee Jonesboro Ga!!!

[@BillWilton]

I really want to meet this man his a man of advices

[@FourSeasons04]

Wowza...twelve years and she was still a "girlfriend" and she let him back in only to boot her again. Tell me you don't value yourself without telling me you don't value yourself. Poor thing reeks of desperation.

[@hillieduvalier]

Played like a boss , Kyron

[@kashmirirose3733]

As soon as I hear healing proce.....

[@yogib8]

We teach people how to treat us. You have 6 months, especially at a certain age to know what your plans are with me. And you are lucky if I even give you 6 months , you don’t get to live with me either, you must have a place as a man to bring me to…

[@Mr_UAE.Official]

😂😂😂😂 12 years GF 1:35

[@ImOnAJourney]

My sister waited longer than that. They dated for 14 years before he finally asked her to marry him. In my book, no man is worth waiting that long for. But they had a really good marriage for over 40 years until she passed a year ago.

[@PamBeesly9545]

Some women don’t want marriage and there’s nothing wrong with that. Married so men live shorter while married men live longer, make more money and benefit from being married.

[@danielalovejesus7912]

I like the question on the first date: Are you looking for somebody to marry or is a long-lasting relationship enough? I am looking for sb to marry. Full stop.

[@SaggiesWorld]

The had a trauma bond. She doesn't know her worth. She TAUGHT that man that she will always be waiting for him. He only came back at this point because he looking for a "nurse /purse"....He found out quick these young women got requirements too, and taking care of an elderly guy is NOT one of them😂. She needs to heal inner child trauma first of abandonment issues and self love... After she does that, I PROMISE you, she won't want him back. We attract people based on our psychological wounds... We finally LEAVE when one decides to heal and thus repel each other because you are no longer a vibrational match to that person. You can only love someone to the extent that you love yourself.

[@SaggiesWorld]

@clearsky4003 She should've left 11.5 years ago... Women gotta stop allowing men to determine when it's time for a commitment... She overstayed

[@Moiselle555]

Old School Love does still work but chivalry is outdated. Chivalry doesn't work for me

[@ezarra6347]

Love is deep... the sacrifices is the tests... the one success is truely blessed and the one failure just assume God has the better than that for you... whatever it is, dont put yourself into negative alchohol, drugs, suicides etc, all u need is allow the time to prepare u for the new version of you to go front, to prove that u are valuable on its own...

[@bvp4575]

Ladies, stay celibate! Do *not* sleep with a man until *after* he commits to you! If he isn’t willing to date you and get to know you for you without sex, that’s a red flag. Walk away. But if he’s willing to date you without sex but won’t commit, guess what? You haven’t invested in him in a deep, emotional way. You’ve learned he is not the one, while protecting your heart.

[@IamWorthy_Rita]

U crazy 12 years no marriage,girl he did u a favor,wasted time,energy and years! Wow gave him ur best years and now ur looking for love,unbelievable! shame on you for allowing him to string u along!

[@crystal9626]

Women wake up!

[@AliciaSade-uu3xz]

How can you require any man to do anything. He knows when. I hate when he says that.

[@seritawilkins1058]

This was real. Fr