Heresies Ep. 7 (with Ann Widdecombe) - MEN: Second-Class Citizens? The Attack on Men & Men's Rights

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[@lovejoypeace7288]

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[@ladyflibblesworth7282]

think women...real women...were never protected...just the appearence of it. And I always despised all the efforts to put us on pedastals because it was always clear that they tried to put us up high, ready for a big fall. And I am a feminist....in the traditional sence... and I am a tomb boy who was always jealous of how boys were treated in comparison and my having a vagina meant that I wasn't allowed to join in....I would have given anything as a child to be a boy. But as a woman I realize that there can be wisdom in having a womans body with male hormones. I am a loyal wife and mother and all this woke stuff came as a very obvious manipulative threat to the most beloved men in my life, I always worried that women would be blamed in general for the actions of a few vicious or ignorant woman that championed my cause against my will to put all the wrong words in our mouths.....they spoke for us, fought our battles for us, made us victims automatically by birth...how much more oppressed can we get? Check my internet history and find an endless barrage of scrutiny againt these women and their evil causes....me too had me furious and I'm a survivor of some trully horrible things....but we werent fighting the sick men that use suffering for entertainment....we were all too busy looking at poor rich womens arses that got pinched 20 years ago. If that's all they could come up with, then they don't know how lucky they are. While they cry about some rich old man propositioning those extremely attractive young women, we ignore girls chained to beds in basements. Besides woke women hate tomb boys unless we agree we need a penis :) and my husband is fairly open minded, as am I, but I don't think I even want to figure out who goes on top in this scenario :) Think it's safe to say that if your a stripper, you cant cry for 20 years every time a customer tried to squeeze your big naked boobes 2 inches from their nose. If you act like a whore then its safe to say that many men will assume that you are....thats why men in dresses are usually a lot more whorish than women...because these are no consiquences for them if they do....and that's why they don't desserve all the protections and curtesies offered to women...because they can't get made pregnant by every drunk a hole that might not stop when you resist.... and how much more likely this becomes depending on how you dress and conduct yourself in public.

[@ladyflibblesworth7282]

@@arnijulian6241 yep all my replies deleted...last try...drop that victim badge....its fake and it will doom us all! My husban empoweres me and I him, were a team, no room for victims here.

[@1990-t1j]

Courageous interview by Ann, but she has always been a courageous woman.

[@jamespretty7096]

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[@janieharrison3919]

As women do we really want our sons to grow up in a world where they are discriminated against? We must stand against this injustice too!!

[@misiasert1348]

Some of us have lost menfolk due to the dire discrimination & bleakness our society offers men.more so,if white & working class..

[@janieharrison3919]

I’m so sorry for your loss😞 I worry so much for my little man growing up today and just hope he finds someone with decency and a moral compass.

[@jonahtwhale1779]

Why wait until you have a son? Are the men who were abused before your son was born not as human as any woman?

[@sarahpiaggio2693]

@@jonahtwhale1779 Are you trying very hard to be outraged? All she's talking about is how we need to fight for our future and for those to come, and specifically women need to do the fighting too. To take that is demeaning to people who lived before is ridiculous

[@jonahtwhale1779]

My point is that women's attitudes change when they have a son to protect. Would you find a similar attitude acceptable in men? Can men without daughters ignore a woman who has been raped and not come to her aid? Can a man without daughters demand that women pay an equal share of taxation? No I suspect you would find such attitude abhorrent. So why is it acceptable for women to hold these divergent attitudes?

[@michaelhoulihan6476]

Fascinating and enlightening. This horrendous and disgusting unjustifiable attack on men has to be stopped. Thank you so much having the courage to make this. Please keep up the good work.

[@trainerdisability]

You check out the interviews Bettina Arndt does on this. Takes in the feminists

[@lmg7503]

Agree👍

[@hsmd4533]

Anyone with a young son should be concerned. My son is 17 and I’ve been preparing him to enter a world that vilifies males, especially white males.

[@martincoates2508]

@@hsmd4533 same with mine. There's a war going, we as a society just haven't realised it yet.

[@DieFlabbergast]

It will not be stopped. It may even get worse. Don't worry, Western Civilisation is on the verge of collapse. Normal service will be resumed when the successor civilisation has been established, either an indigenous successor or the Glorious Chinese Empire.

[@paulmaguire6045]

I recently lost access to my two children because my ex made a false allegation of rape against me. The family Court decided my guilt before any information or evidence was given. I now know why family court is held in privacy. It's grossly biased against men.

[@mjstow]

So sorry to hear. Good luck to you. As Anne points out, a woman only has to make an allegation and you're the "perpetrator", she the "victim". A lie or two from a woman and a man can be financially ruined, house lost, shunned in your community, falsely imprisoned, career over.... et bloody cetera.

[@richtea615]

Ann deserves much praise for doing this. She didn't have to, but she did. Thank you, Ann.

[@patriciagraham2287]

thanks a million Ann.

[@treck87]

What are you talking about? We ALL have to be doing this. It is everyone's duty.

[@bertrandrussell894]

I'd have to second that. I not agree with Widdecombe about religion, say, but this is so relevant. Men have *zero* chance when it comes to an argument with women. Other men will throw them under the bus, a great many women will do that and more besides. It is truly deplorable.

[@drstrangelove4998]

Thank God for people like Ann. Feminism has gone way beyond equality, which was achieved decades ago and has now become a quest for superiority, power and privilege.

[@boatfaceslim9005]

It always was

[@jonahtwhale1779]

Femunism has NEVER been about equality! Take couverture; women got to keep their property in marriage but men had to share their wealth with the family e.g. alimony. The vote; women won politic a l power but never had the obligation of defending the political system with military conscription. The workplace; women wanted equality and maternity leave. How much parental leave did men enjoy? None - not what women wanted. No demands for equality in the areas women do not want -prison, homelessness, early death, child alienation etc.

[@drstrangelove4998]

@@jonahtwhale1779 true, how many ‘all women’ short lists do we find for essential key workers such as the hazardous and arduous, even unpleasant occupations? There’s no call for it from women…

[@sticks5614]

Feminism was never about equality. It has always been about supremacy.

[@joansolomon1194]

...and we neglected to warn my grandson, who is gentle, hardworking, and hooked up to a certified narcissist. I fear for his life, and he is Such a valuable person....and I fear for his children, whose mother will do Anything for money.

[@anonnemo2504]

In 1990, I became a widower with an eight year old child. In those days and, so far as I am aware now, a widowed mother, no matter her circumstances, was entitled to far more state assistance than a widowed father, no matter his circumstances. I mention this to highlight yet another example of how various authorities discriminate against men in favour of women and how long this has been the case. Many thanks for this video. It is long overdue for society to take a long, hard look at the injustices handed out to men.

[@pinnertom]

Ann Widdecombe is a very special person, she is prepared to put herself out there when she sees injustice. I commend her for her strong moral compass. We need more people like her.

[@bettyprice6316]

My son was in the air force and his best friend ended up in a divorce case and accusations were made by the wife which were later found to be untrue. However; the settlement and maintenance awarded to the wife was so steep it made my son's friend personally bankrupt. I don't know about today, but back then it was illegal to be personally bankrupt in the military, so he lost the job he loved, and the air force lost a man they spent lots of money and time training. It upsets my son to this day and he has never married.

[@Double_Vision]

That's dire. I am a child of similar circumstance. It took me until almost 40 to find the love of my life, but now children are well out of the picture. I feel that I would want them, but even if it were possible, I feel fear about how to raise a child, because I never saw how to do it well. Coherent and lasting families are a skill.

[@the.parks.of.no.return]

The best friend needs to leave Britain and find another country to live in that welcomes productive mouths. Let the system collapse.

[@zenden6564]

Any wonder marriage rates amongst Caucassians is in steady decline. It's not just those gross egregious cases that Widdecombe covers here. Indeed underneath this layer there is the general cultural hostility towards men.

[@joansolomon1194]

He is wise. The only way for men to fight back is to never father a child and have iron-clad pre-nups . About 15 years of this, and watch the changes.....

[@zenden6564]

@@joansolomon1194 - well yes up to a point, but the main political response is to up the ante with immigration from 3rd world countries, that just happen culture's with a less Feminist driven agenda. In Australia before covid we had 1 million a year immigration rate on a 22 million population base, in 3 years, we "achieved" a population of 25 million. Over 40% of Australians were "born overseas". The net effect of female empowerment has been a collapse of motherhood with the Caucassians. Indeed a lot of young men from broken homes genuinely fear making a family commitment, so the sarcastic Feminist msg becomes: a bidding of the geldings to go forth and multiply. The patterns of tradition have been demonised and now a few generations later we see the result.

[@BLane-xr1ic]

This woman is brilliant. I will NEVER forget her standing in the EU Parliament, giving a speech on behalf of us all against Tyrants. One of the best we have.

[@drstrangelove4998]

Indeed, she is a national treasure for sure.

[@taranscott155]

Ann Widdecombe is a legend, one of the very few people I would follow into a dragon's den. Men are leaving traditional roles in droves because, frankly, any benefits are massively outweighed by today's risks. Single motherhood has become so financially incentivised and a whole raft of industries have sprung up to support that. Men are considered guilty, regardless of any supporting evidence, and a few choice words can ruin a man for life. The trouble today is the ongoing competition to be the biggest victim - by definition you are either oppressed, or an oppressor... Raising a generation of weak men will be disastrous for all, especially for women.

[@johnthedespicabledutchman7406]

Many men,from different age groups are now in western society are going down the road of the MGTOW philosophy...I am one of them

[@chrishooper8260]

And weak men is what they'll get with just a women as the parent. Society has been decaying for a long time. The systems are broken and almost completely in the woman's favour.

[@smsheard]

She will be a legend and people that think like her too, Thank fuck the dinosaurs will die the world will get better and better. Gives me a warm feeling inside.

[@carrie4558]

Well said 👍

[@threethrushes]

I left the UK because the corporate world is not meritocratic. Having emigrated in 2015, I started a publishing business in Central Europe.

[@David-uf8ex]

Hi time we now addressed Toxic feminism

[@MHLivestreams]

It's a sign of civilisation collapsing.

[@datprawn4850]

Don't bother, the Woke Trans Activists are already doing that.

[@Slarti]

It's always been like this. I remember an incident when I was at boarding school back in 1978 as an 8 year-old when one of the girls punched me at a dinner table because I refused to engage her in an argument she wanted. A teacher saw this and punished both of us, I explained to the teacher that it was her who hit me - he agreed and said "But I will look stupid if I only punish her". The next day in assembly the minus points were read out in which I was given some minus points. I had to work off the points by sweeping the courtyard. This is just a small example showing that this is not a new phenomenon.

[@mickey1299]

I had a similar incident , strangely at a similar age , when a girl at school started bullying me . I told my dad , who promptly told me to hit them , so i did . She ran away crying , and the next thing i knew , i was in the headmasters office . My dad was summoned , and he stood up for me . He was pleased that i had done it , but a bit miffed it was a girl , i hadn't told him that bit . We laugh about now , but i never had anymore problems , from anyone after that . That would have been back in the late 60's .

[@Slarti]

@@mickey1299 Interesting story, in some ways it's good to learn these lessons at a young age. I also learnt at school that giving the bully a good hard punch stopped them from bullying me again - ha ha .

[@ghostdog4330]

"But I will look stupid if I only punish her" - It's choices like this that have led us to this point. I remember some girl started punching me once when I was in primary school. I didn't respond in kind because she was a girl and I was the boy. After it the incident was stopped by teachers I distinctly recall them remarking with some surprise that she had 'won the fight'. Perhaps they would have prefered me to give her a beating?

[@adventussaxonum448]

@@ghostdog4330 At primary schooI, I did respond in kind, after lengthy provocation (hair pulling, scratching, kicking and punching). One good punch and it was sorted. Of course, I was suitably punished but I didn't give a toss about it. She never tried to bully again. I have never regretted it.

[@peterfrance7489]

Those types of things leave deep deep scars. You learn how unjust the system is and you learn that authority is not to be trusted.

[@gwynjames2077]

Social workers and midwives are taught the " The best place for a child is with the mother regardless". This came from my sister who was high up in midwifery management and fought with my mother and ex wife to ensure that. The father has no rights even if married to the mother! The result 30 years later the child an adult now spends half the time in mental institutions with 3 illegitimate children by 3 different fathers. So well done social workers and the legal system.

[@lewis123417]

Disgraceful how this society treats hard working men. No wonder so many young men are dropping out of society not wanting a family or a job. Where is the thanks men get for going out and working hard so that this society functions?

[@deryckevans8877]

I went to court with an ex-partner, who at the end of the first hearing lied directly to the judge's face, at the second hearing I presented irrefutable proof of the lie, the judge was furious with me and refused to include my evidence. I can only conclude that I was the victim of CONSCIOUS BIAS.

[@brianwareham2933]

If he was furious with you report his conduct to the JCIO. If he ranted and shouted etc...should be treated fairly and with respect at all times. Maybe you breached protocol, even then he should have been understanding a courtroom is not your place of work, it's his and you're there for the service.

[@deryckevans8877]

I was treated unfairly from start to finish, more importantly, two children were knowingly left in harm's way and got hurt, North wales police and Conwy so-called services excelled at being lazy stupid and corrupt.

[@brianwareham2933]

@@deryckevans8877 judges are curt. Don't confuse their succinctness not wanting to hear irrelevant yarns with unfair. Even presenting your evidence requires permission at the right time. A lot of the time they aren't interested anyway. I think the courts inflict more harm nowadays than what they are purportedly supposed to prevent.

[@deryckevans8877]

@@brianwareham2933 I took a barista with me, it was all done properly but meant nothing in the end.

[@johnrhodes3350]

@@deryckevans8877*Barrister ☕

[@ginabisaillon2894]

My mother deprived me of a relationship with my father - I never forgave her while she was alive and I still don’t.

[@B123-s4j]

Forgive her, not for her. For you.

[@ramsa01Yt]

So what are you doing to prevent this from repeating?

[@darrenpat182]

It is about time that the misandry in modern society is brought to light

[@dianablackman4528]

AMEN.

[@philodonoghue3062]

Read Paul Nathanson and Katherine K Young’s 4 volume books on misandry

[@freddymarcel-marcum6831]

This is why men don't get married anymore.

[@joelhall5124]

My friend Matt was wrongly convicted. (His ex accused him when she found out he had a new girlfriend). He was also falsely accused after he got out of prison (by his own step sister) and hanged himself out of fear of going back to prison. He never knew the police weren't going to charge him.

[@festusbojangles7027]

RIP matt

[@dasparado]

I am sorry man, that is terrible.

[@williamwimbourne856]

I'm sorry for your loss my friend. 🙏

[@joelhall5124]

@@williamwimbourne856 thanks. He was only 34. Within a year his ex killed herself as well over guilt. His two little girls are now orphans. Very tragic.

[@festusbojangles7027]

@@joelhall5124 its heartwarming that she croaked. she was unusually compassionate for a woman and did the right thing

[@joanr3189]

The radical feminist agenda in Australian family disputes squeezed my brother so hard that he could not continue to live in Oz. He had no choice but to leave the country, and do what he could to maintain his relationship with his boys, whom he adored.. he has been a good father to them, but from a distance. It boiled down to custodial time and financial support in which the mom held all the cards. “Children need their mother” the feminist-dominant court ruled. the father? Expendable.

[@landoremick7422]

Courts arendull of vile, feminist judges and barristers. We must over turn this madness.

[@theblytonian3906]

@@landoremick7422 Funny how women want all the clean high paying glam jobs and use quotas along with discriminatory affirmative action legislation to become airline pilots, media moguls, judges, university -propagandists- lecturers, etc, but bricklaying, plumbing, and menial unskilled jobs like tyre fitting seem beyond them.

[@johnthedespicabledutchman7406]

Add New Zealand to list of embracing, for the last twenty years of Radical Feminism.

[@crabsta]

@@theblytonian3906 we'll never have equality until we have 50% workplace deaths

[@chriswatson1698]

Marriage was eliminated in Australia by the 1975 Family Law Act. If either spouse can break down the marriage on no grounds whatsoever, against the other spouse's wishes, halving his or her living standard, without penalty or the requirement to compensate the spouse, then marriage does not exist. Since 1975, weddings in Australia have been nothing but parties, and marriage certificates aren't worth the paper that they are printed on.

[@Mike-br8zt]

As a lawyer in Australia, I can tell you that it is no different in Australia. Any interaction with females (however defined) is very risky for males.

[@kenlydon1395]

As an Australian lawyer what are you doing to change this blatantly unfair system? I say that as a fellow Aussie , if things are going to improve its the people working in the justice system who must act.

[@ramsa01Yt]

@@kenlydon1395Action means fixing. But the system is beyond repair.

[@goldjellyfish2452]

I will help 🔜 ​@@kenlydon1395

[@RedroomStudios]

how great is Ann Widdecombe? a based woman who operates with logic and common sense!

[@tormundwolfsbaine3606]

I am an Ex-soldier, women are advised to put sexual assault charges in against father because they then get everything paid for through legal aid, especially if they get an injunction order against you which a judge will approve form just an e-mail... I know this from experience. A father then has to pay for everything, this system will not change as it generates money and pays wages for all involved. It will never change. Money is the key here. My ex-wife and her solicitors put 38 charges of sexual assault into family court against me to stop me seeing my son, including drugging and gang raping her... all proven UNTRUE in a fact finding hearing which was a farce as it stopped nothing and changed nothing. 4 years since I last saw my son.

[@patriciagraham2287]

Good gracious me! The system stinks - Who started this nonsense? A big overhaul needed I think. My sympathies to the people who suffer so much at the hands of this unjust system.

[@gwynjames2077]

Same thing happened to me! Lost my daughter was suspended from voluntary youth work for 8 years till I proved my innocence. Asked would perjury charges taken out against the ex ? No of course not it's what women do when their emotionally upset said the judge and their emotional state must be taken in too consideration. Never the man who lost everything and had to pay for it although innocent of all charges. How about this and I quote the judge exactly " Due to your wifes' unreasonable behaviour I cannot make a joint custody order to work and award her complete custody and control." The state see the fathers as just money providers and have no rights to their children!

[@tormundwolfsbaine3606]

Been to hell and back Gwyn as I'm sure you have also.

[@johnthedespicabledutchman7406]

@@patriciagraham2287 Who started this...I will tell you in no uncertain terms ..The Feminist movement.

[@patriciagraham2287]

@@johnthedespicabledutchman7406 Mr. despicable dutchman you are absolutely right, when I wrote some people I meant all breathing adults - both men and women do horrid wicked things. Both can create a lot of heartache - but I agreee the femanists have gotten way out of hand - have you heard Whoopi on her show? I can't listen to her ranting, and the other women on her show sound equally bad!

[@mincedumplings7450]

Been through all this ,, my result , 40mg citalopram a day . I'll never be the same again . But I see my child thankfully . Never ever give up , your child deserves you .

[@williammillard687]

Me too...and the citalopram too...had a stroke in 2017....stopped paying solicitors, barristers etc and give the dosh to my ex-wife instead....looking very much forward to seeing my daughter tomorrow! Shame I'm now half paralysed and stuck in a wheelchair...but hey ho!

[@azza4044]

Why are the women involved in these false allegation cases not put on trial and jailed? Pretty sure that would stem this problem.

[@jacobmojapelo2448]

RealTalk

[@otterspocket2826]

They are the reason genuine victims go through such a harrowing ordeal making statements, and again in court. You'd think organisations claiming to support women would be calling for the harshest sentencing possible for them, but apparently they aren't responsible for their actions - that would be 'toxic men' driving them to it by being... well, men.

[@AlexShaw]

That's why there are so many allegations as either way they stand to lose nothing. It's like being able to get a free lottery ticket

[@catherinerobilliard7662]

The trial comes long after the assault, when women are piecing their life back together. It’s not many can face reliving the rape, or brutal harassment from interrogation, so they drop their charge. That counts as false allegation, even though a rape took place.

[@otterspocket2826]

@@catherinerobilliard7662 - Yes Catherine, we know all that, but just this once we're talking about men - men who are wrongly sent to prison where THEY will be raped (and the rest) repeatedly for years, with no sanctuary, no counselling and nobody to turn to. Almost as bad as being raped once, some might say. What is your opinion of the women who DELIBERATELY consign innocent men to that, and should we stop treating them - even serial offenders - as 'victims whose case failed' (bless 'em)?

[@janepreston1876]

Really interesting topic. Anne is so good at tackling and shining a light on difficult topics that MSM shy away from to push the accepted narrative. I wish Anne was Prime Minister.

[@patriciagraham2287]

So do I !!

[@markie1aa]

I HEARTILY AGREE!

[@janepreston1876]

@@HydraulicJack neither is Boris Johnson!

[@janepreston1876]

@@HydraulicJack And Boris to his Globalist puppet masters and fake science (not to mention his hypocrisy). Atleast Anne is not weak or a traitor.

[@festusbojangles7027]

my partner abandoned my newborn son and left him with me, then 2 weeks later she got the police/lawyers involved to blackmail him off me. this was 2018 and ive seen him maybe 4 times. it destroyed my mental health and i was close to suicide at several points. i eventually emmigrated away from the UK to save myself. i recommend men to not bother with the unfair system in the UK and just leave the country with all assets. i chose not to play the rigged game.

[@festusbojangles7027]

oh by the way im married now and have a wonderful baby boy and ive never been happier.

[@festusbojangles7027]

i urge all british men to divest from the UK. invest in cryptocurrency, sell all UK assets and move abroad. get residency elsewhere and another passport. the UK is a lost cause. the system is set up to make you fail.

[@evolassunglasses4673]

@@festusbojangles7027 the system will eventually collapse, we will not be able to vote ourselves out of this nightmare but constantly running is how we got into this mess. When the centre Right wake up to the reality that voting is a sham history shows the earth can be moved.

[@Piratebreadstick]

@@festusbojangles7027 That makes me happy.

[@kiwikeith7633]

@@festusbojangles7027 Oh friend. But where can a man move to, that JUSTICE will indeed be EQUAL and reality based as opposed to activist based? Do not apply to New Zealand. And I hear similar stories from all other Western nations. After our own experiences, I do not believe in JUSTICE or the MORALITY my mother taught me to believe guides our JUSTICE and communities. All that said, if I could move, my hopes would be tried in RUSSIA, they are not working from the same book as our Western places.

[@markfahey3921]

My friends marriage broke down, no other people involved. His wife demanded an extra £20,000 settlement money or she would accuse him of violence. She did the same to a previous partner.

[@design7054]

'The fairer sex'.

[@MrGarrett]

They do it because they can get away with it

[@superktmduke]

Much respect Anne, would have loved to have seen this kind of support during my shock ejection from the family home.

[@douglas7000]

Ann has been part of the feminist problem creating the very mess that she is now exposing as bad. She still is a feminist and until she renounces that religion, she should not be trusted.

[@superktmduke]

@@douglas7000 don't really care, what's important is what's being said right now.

[@user-vb3gc5se9k]

@@douglas7000 Not true!

[@BaggyTrouser]

Me too

[@kiwikeith7633]

First up, I thank you Ann Widdecombe for doing this item exposing the injustice. Our child services had to pay my side some compensation because of innuendo. Innuendo sounds insignificant, any yet in today’s world an innuendo equals an assertive allegation in effect and result. I will also add that between us guys and the compensation payer, are lawyers, and no funds get past lawyers. Our case was one where mother was violently abusing the children. First I tried bringing help into the family, but found that mothers violence is not recognised by authorities. I could not leave and save the children, and so I stayed - at least I could get emergency medical for the kids when I get home from work. It came to a head one morning eight years later when mum almost killed one daughter (8yrs old). I called police, and the constable shamed me for calling him, after all, women spend so long with the kids and so kids will annoy mothers enough to justify the violence. The government funded my wife’s side of the case, and broke my life in many ways, not just financially. Like your interviewee, I watched as my ?FRIENDS? Ran for the hills never to be seen again. Our private medical and other files were all betrayed despite privacy assurances. Although my wife had a record of 8 years harming the children, all was blamed on my “Unusual manner of domination, POWER and CONTROL” check out the Duluth wheel of Power and control, under which males cannot ever be victim. Feminists love that bit of tripe. The state took my family away into 24/7 parenting supervision and support, while the male crunching activists tightened their lies against me. My daughter’s did not crack during “(so called) Evidential interviews” - they recount being bullied by social-workers to say what would be assured to put me in prison as a sex offender. My daughter’s words “Come on your Dad did this . . . didn’t he - admit it” she recounts that was over and over for long enough that some women had time to leave and return smelling of tobacco smoke. State are child abusers. And despite my wife's record of harm and my record of taking the kids to hospital, I lost (lies won) every court application up until my wife demonstrated her harm to the children while remote from me and under state care. So much so the state returned the case to court, a fresh judge, a judge who bothered to read the file, a judge who reversed custody in my (the kids) favour. However as everybody knows (wink) men are not good nurturers and so to get custody I had to agree to walk out on my job, and not work. For the kids sake I agreed, but I never was earning again. I lost the house and all assets. Grandma (my mum) died upon hearing the false allegations - never saw me exonerated. We survived on welfare out of op-shops. The war cry of these hypocritical lying state and NGO employees is “we only have the children’s best interests at heart!” nothing could be further from reality in fact. They are disgraceful and deserving of utter condemnation, and also imprisonment themselves. After all their attacks on family are also attacks on our culture, our communities, and our futures.

[@rohroh6256]

Sorry to hear that Keith!

[@kiwikeith7633]

@@rohroh6256 Thanks - but our case is long over. I talk candidly about it in a faint hope I can wake some folks up to reality and hopefully make a positive difference by exposing it. You see, I am so lucky. I could not win the case even though all the facts and reality were in my favour - LUCKY that my wife shot herself down. Lucky also that my wife did not support the sexual false allegation, those were feminist inventions. I say - be careful. But both my kids are female and I got to raise them on my own. As such I have followed their development and problems - including when their femininity is rejected by feminism on account that they dare mention that women are also violent. They become "non-women" in feminism's view. For my part I understand how hard it is for males. And through my girls I get to see the confused and feminised condition of the males they encounter. Boys are raised to defend and help their mothers, and not their fathers. And then there are the mother's new partners, and many of those are a threat to the kids safety.

[@Baldnesz]

@@kiwikeith7633 Sorry to hear all that.

[@sophiecoulomb2092]

We , women, have to defend men ! Ann is very courageous !

[@misiasert1348]

Well done Anne 👏 Highlighting real issues... It's appalling they way our men folk are treated in this society. Truly awful.

[@paulhincks5156]

I know of an instance whereby a woman made false allegations of serious sexual assault against a men. His life was literally put on hold and ruined as he was put through hell during the investigation. He was eventually cleared of all allegations, and no action was taken against the woman who made the false allegations. Some time later, she then falsely accused yet another man of sexual assault and even with her previous record of false accusations, no actions were taken against her. How can this be right?

[@justiceforall8574]

Two of my friends in the last 7 years have lost the will to live & ended there life because of very similar situations.Hounded for money they never had and accused of wrong doing that they never did.My tears for them & the children soak my pillow every night.

[@patriciagraham2287]

So very sad, I am so sorry to hear that. - What ever happened to " whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, whatever is praise-worthy' Philippians 4: 8 ? Time for all of us to get back to that kind of example. May the God of peace be with us all.

[@Baldnesz]

When you live in a country whose legal system stops you and your family seeing your children simply because the mother refuses access it is a wonder there are not more suicides.

[@ramsa01Yt]

One sex is winning, so this will never change.

[@donningarmour2873]

I was kidnapped at age 5 by my Mother and flown to a place my Father couldn't get to me. There was no punishment for my Mother. I eventually managed to escape her when I was 11. It is sick what is being done to men in the legal system.

[@jonahtwhale1779]

Go and thank her for theyears of abuse. I will leave it up to you what implement you use. She should not be allowed to get away with her criminal actions. They are prosecuting men e.g priests for historic abuse. Sounds like your mother deserves some too!

[@ramsa01Yt]

KZbin is censoring your comment.

[@philipswain4122]

Great work Ann. I’m so happy there is someone speaking up and exposing corruption

[@johnydangerous4597]

Been involved in a horror story and heard plenty of horror story's thats why for 20 years i opted out of modern day society as much as possible always wondering why but have learnt what the problem is over the last 10 years or so. The system is rigged .

[@anne-mariewillingham698]

Thank you Ann, with this open discussion of the issue the unfair systems of absent parents rights , they should both be treated equally, , unless evidence is been treated equally , it’s not a fair system.

[@victimofabusebyliam781]

I want to pay homage to Ian who lost his son through injustices via the CMS, noel who fought for our country and got treated like dirt, now doesn't see his daughter, due to Alienation amongst other things, dear Vincent who as you can see fought tooth and nail to see his 3 kids. These are just a small minority of men that suffer daily. It's time other women and men stood up and really started to pay attention. Our sons aren't safe. The Duluth model needs to be discussed too but I guess for another time. Anne Widdecombe asked some good questions. I feel this should really have gone mainstream.

[@ebikescrapper3925]

Ann is wrong in her assumption that all men can defend themselves against a violent woman. Some men have a lean build and non violent nature, this combination does not enable men to defend themselves against a more muscular / violent woman. This scenario also shows itself in same sex relationships.

[@drstrangelove4998]

We’ve all heard of women who have been released from prison or even found innocent of stabbing their male partners to death. They have been supported by groups of activist women lobbying fiercely on their behalf regardless of the obvious facts of the case.

[@jonahtwhale1779]

Any man who defends himself is gambling with his freedom. If she breaks a nail while hitting him then he will be charged with assault! He is guilty unless proven innocent. She is innocent even when proven guilty.

[@sarahdickson1724]

I worked in emergency housing, there were more than a few men who'd been housed with us, miles from their home towns, some with their children, due to violence perpetrated against them, and their kids, by their female partner, the majority of those kids were boys, this isn't as rare as people want to believe

[@sarahpiaggio2693]

She was just talking generally, and as an interviewer getting the interviewee to explain why she was wrong. It's still true that most men are stronger than most women. That's all she was saying

[@jrd33]

@@sarahpiaggio2693 No argument, but in a fight, aggression and the willingness to inflict damage are more important than brute strength.

[@andrewjohnston407]

"Now it's men who are the second class citizens". Exactly the words I wanted to hear Ann. If only more had sad been said about discrimination against men and boys in healthcare, education and bodily integrity, then that statement could have been rammed home even further.

[@rebeccadonaldson1464]

"If the woman is being violent then the man can grab her hands" at 30:52 is such a Load of Crap. I met a family where the wife had broken her husband's skull by hitting him over the head with a Cast Iron Skillet, WHILE HE WAS ASLEEP.

[@bennichols561]

He talks about physical violence when stats show the most violent relationships are 1 female female 2 female male 3 male male. In that order. Basically the more females you add to the equation the more violent it gets.

[@azmo1985]

Only we can make a change. I’m so proud of the men who have stood up and out. Justice for Gavin xxx

[@Baldnesz]

Thank you but we are effectively standing up and being shot in the back of the head.

[@azmo1985]

@@Baldnesz this is an issue that we can’t ignore. My dad isn’t here anymore. He drank himself to death. Hounded all his life and haunted. I wish he could see this now. For all the kids who’s dads aren’t here. I will never stop. These women need to be held accountable for their vindictive actions and the CMS need disbanding ASAP. Thoughts are with you Richard.x

[@afifahhamilton8843]

Thank you, NCF, for doing this, and thank you Ann Widdicombe for your excellent work. The treatment of men in our society is appalling. As a result they are opting out of marriage and growing a family in larger and larger numbers, and the result will be a failed society. It's catastrophic.

[@nickjung7394]

Anne is decidedly no fool. Perceptive, objective and sensible!

[@RS-xo7rd]

Yes. Although sometimes ridiculed there is a very sharp brain there. Thanks to Ann for having the courage to put herself on the line and be the face of such a frightening and insightful documentary. Wouldn't advise any man to get married, let alone have children.

[@douglas7000]

And a feminist still, who still supports feminist policies that are damaging to society. Yes, she is doing a good job here but I won't trust her.

[@krushagrape786]

This is the most important video this channel has ever put out. Bravo! 👋

[@itsmeitsme99]

Well done Anne Widdecome. The myth of male privilege needs to be unpacked in a reasoned and factual manner.......this will benefit women as much as men.

[@evo5349]

Been there and the CSA hounded me for years so much so had to go bankrupt. Wife cut my face open but didn't report it as the children would have suffered, went to meet my kids but they where never there and then I would be reported that 'I didn't turn up'. The CSA wouldn't let me have a TV as the they wanted the £14 /month rental. I give up work for 5 years but they would still ring for money, I started doing stupid things on a motorbike and got done for failure to stop and lost my licence and a big fine but the police officer dropped the speed from 155mph to 100mph as I told him my divorce was destroying me as I lost my house car job, so no prison as I am a Type1 diabetic so getting very bad. In the end left England and went back to N/Ireland. I am still out of work now after working for the NHS as a ex-service man as jobs are hard to get because off the 'Troubles'. I could write a book of how biased it is against men.

[@smellthecoffee5314]

Sorry but your story evokes no sympathy whatsoever from me. You sound like the type of father who caused the CSA to be created in the first place. 155mph ? - maybe you actually belong in prison.

[@rosemaryhowes8047]

I'm 73 years old now and I spent years speaking out for the rights of woman and girls because in my youth we did not have equal opportunity in work and education but I wanted equality for everyone, male and female. I did not want to have more than my brothers just the same. Now it has definitely not what I spoke out for. The narrative now is disgraceful. I now find myself speaking out for the young boys in education, who have now been left behind.

[@billburr5881]

Women have always had more opportunities than men. Men had access to the opportunities created by other men and shared some of these with women e.g. women had jobs in male owned factories in the 1800s. However, what opportunities for women or men were created by women? Name an industry, major company, science, major institution etc created and developed by women? Take sport as an example - all the major sports were created and developed by men. When they became successful women demanded, and were given, access. Now we have women's tennis, women's soccer, women's basketball etc. Odd women have never demanded access to the unpopular sports e.g. tiddly winks! Name a sport created and developed by women, offering opportunities for men? What has stopped women creating and developing sports? Nothing. Even Netball probably the nearest thing is just an offshoot of the male game of basketball. It has near zero participation by men. Indeed in a recent competition in Australia the 1 team of men were booed off the pitch by the female crowds! No the reason women have had a lower share of opportunities is they did little to create any of the opportunities. In my country mining is a big, male dominated industry. It was founded by men going into the desert with a shovel and an donkey load of supplies. No women risked their lives in this dangerous occupation. The women were happy to sit back and demand an equal share of the profits though, never the losses!

[@chris-mg5ui]

@@billburr5881 Not so sure women will be the winners in sports any more,

[@brianwareham2933]

Well providing the left perpetuate the myth of gender inequality, it's only going to get worse. Women have their true equality now, they can spill their blood in an infantry battalion next to a bloke in close quarter battle with a bayonet if unfortunate to be in such a scenario. How much more equality do you want? It's gone so woke the opportunity had to be opened up, but I guarantee very few women will take it up knowing the physical intensity of close quarter war fighting knowing that in reality, women are not physical equipped for the role which demands it! Few will, but yes, equality is not the goal, it's superiority, and I say mission accomplished.

[@EvilEdd69]

​@billburr5881 brilliant mate, spot on evaluation. I wish your mindset was the majority and not the uber rarity as it is.

[@exbritishforcespatriotscha7723]

A policeman accused and found guilty of this though innocent would have a very hard time in prison.

[@pascalbercker7487]

I spent 5 years in an American prison. I myself was guilty of what I was charged with. It's mostly a myth that other inmates have this judgmental attitude. Being "found guilty" means next to nothing for inmates, since they know full well that the system is often wrong and that the judicial system is significantly flawed. A truly innocent man is often recognizably innocent when they tell their own story. I've met a few of them over my 5 years in prison. They are treated with great respect.

[@happydog4862]

Love that Irish fella. Could relate so much to his experience. The best interests of children are not the priority of agencies involved...it's money. 💯

[@jumblestiltskin1365]

Yes he was very succinct with a gentle intelligence.

[@markwilson7788]

Thank heavens for Ann Widdecombe

[@ottosump3356]

I'm going through this disgusting biased situation right now , it's shocking how I've been treated by the system, my kids have been stolen from me .

[@B123-s4j]

I'm so sorry for your loss, life is long have hope. Write don't forget a birthday and please God you will get them back.

[@robsta1980]

Any update on how you're getting on 9 months later?

[@rogerh3642]

This lady is a national treasure. Strong, forthright and courageous, the antithesis of the modern political class.

[@krisbutler6362]

And this is why I stopped bothering with women in terms of relationships. There are no consequences for women's bad behavior and they know it so they abuse it. It's well known that men are essential to a child's life and yet nothing is done about it. If your a man, no one care's. just remember that.

[@theuncannyx-man7882]

Thank you so much for highlighting some of these issues, but there is so much more that wasnt even mentioned... The VAWG strategy, that labels male victims of abuse as "victims of violence against women and girls"; the Victims Commissioner and Domestic Abuse Commissioner, who actively fight against the recognition of male victims; the fact that men get far longer sentences for the same crimes compared with women; the fact that homeless women are being treated preferentially, even though men are 80% of rough sleepers; the fact that male victims of domesric abuse only receive 1% of funding, while they are over 35% of victims; boys are taught to ask for consent but girls are not; female perpetrated sexual violence is almost completely ignored; this list could go on forever. We live in a system of gender apartheid upheld by the positions of power.

[@robertmac9057]

I think it was the men's issues researcher William Collins who found out that women's campaigners were actually adding the Violence Against Men figures to the VAWG figures and using this falsely inflated statistic to lobby for more women-only funding.

[@Baldnesz]

There is also the issue of Parental Alienation .. it was only recognised in the Family Court system a few years ago, Prior to that you were penalised for suggesting that mum and her family and friends could turn a child against the dad. Something no right minded person would deny given what is commonly known about hoe easy it is to manipulate adults never mind children.

[@Waywind420]

I have definitely lost work to a female applicant before, i've probably lost work to a handful of women without knowing it. In my case I applied for a maintenance role that I was well suited for, they chose a woman with no experience instead. I got offered the same job about 6 months after initially applying when they fired her not turning up to work (her role being essential for the functioning of the business), they even went as far as to suggest she could rest her head and relax on the job and just deal with technical issues whenever they emerged (as opposed to performing the hard labour of preventative maintenance). When I took up the job the co-workers had nothing nice to say about her. I'm a pretty strong guy in my young twenties at the time, but that job was physically exhausting (try climbing up and down a ladder with a 40kg motor that is as hot as a kettle). there's just no way she was going to be able to do that.

[@ricksta8839]

'Why haven't men fought back ?' because we can't Ann, the system is heavily weighted towards women.

[@rebellion2054]

Yes, it’s funny how the women who complained their needs were dismissed by men are so incredibly keen on creating an architecture that dismisses and discriminates against men. Apparently equality is a statutorily encouraged framework of endlessly criticising absolutely everything about men and pretending all these faults are unique to men.

[@williamwimbourne856]

Thank you Anna Widdecombe for recognizing the inequality and calling it out. 👏 🙏 I'm so sorry for Gavin's family.

[@TheBushmanmike]

A wonderful human being who is always for the truth, love you Ann.

[@bettytyrrell940]

We used to have the best law system in the world, now, corruption and knee-jerk judgements are the norm and the lawyers and social services work hand in hand to keep honesty and unbiased judgement from being carried out.

[@Baldnesz]

These judgements are not knee jerk. The system is rotten to the core. They take their time and torture the children and dad and his family over years. Once the decisions are made they dont enforce them and the merry go round continues. The system has created a huge cohort of damaged children and young adults that should be the bedrock of the country's future. It is almost as thought those in the Family Court system have engineered outcomes to benefit their children and their families because they have effectively nullified a huge percent of the competition for better paid opportunities.

[@carolisherwood493]

I’m so enthusiastic about this document. I could see this happening a long time ago. I was turned against my Dad by my mother and we didn’t see much of him for many years. I just wish I had 5 minutes with him now.

[@jossfitzsimons]

Thankfully as a man, I avoided marriage and children.

[@jossfitzsimons]

@@Christian-ut5um No I just feel I escaped.

[@jossfitzsimons]

And I live in a fine city centre house with financial comfort and a great social life. Yes I would like to have had children, but how much of them would I really have once the legal profession had me plucked and cleaned out.

[@robsta1980]

@@jossfitzsimons Aww thats an awful way to live. I really feel sorry for you. I best not have this or do that in case something bad happens. Having kids is the best feeling ever, but because of your fear of the women and courts, you've missed out on mans number 1 objective.

[@bernardwallace4165]

Ann Widdecombe is so insightful and straightforward. Excellent MP and very good presenter.

[@PolishPerspective]

Let's finally start calling it what it is. It's a PRODUCTIVITY gap. Women's productivity is 70% of what men do.

[@brite1sky951]

Thank you Anne for bringing this to a public forum. Heard about these injustices time and time again. Please keep talking about this.

[@alanwilton6806]

A WASPI woman told me to crawl back under my stone on Facebook the other day, simply for pointing out that when she started work, the Equal Pay Act was already law. I got my state pension earlier this year at the age of 66, and this “lady” felt that she should have had her pension at the age of 60, despite having the same rights and opportunities that I had.

[@thagreatadante]

And women question why men are adverse to commitment ? A man can break a woman's heart but once. But women can break a man's heart several times over with every child he has raised being ripped from his life by a heartless women who then uses the tools of the justice system to prolong the misery upon him (and the kids who often are left traumatized) and gain from it financially for years .

[@eyesofisabelofficial]

I lost my brother to suicide. As his marriage failed, she said he would never see the children again, it was too much for him to bare. As a man he knew he had no chance in court. This was back in the early 1990's, it would appear things have not improved at all.

[@philipswain4122]

This is outrageous. The system is utterly broken as a result of cowardly “top level” people bending to a noisy minority.

[@peterp7063]

It's not just on this issue that minority interest groups rule the roost. Many other major issues in Britain, and the rest of the Anglo Saxon world it seems, are dictated by tiny unelected pressure groups. This has happened because we now have so many incompetent clone career politicians who will not think for themselves and that is the result of the two main parties now pre-selecting parliamentary candidates from which constituency parties then have to choose. They are invariably selected because of their 'correct' views, reinforcing the centralised control of the parties, and candidates' perceived maleability. Add to that the first-past-the-post system of election and you have the political stagnation we now endure, where important issues like the corruption and unfairness of the family courts, and many other equally important issues, aren't even discussed let alone addressed.

[@jonathancauldwell9822]

Problem is, men don't complain. On numerous occasions I've single-handedly stopped misandristic advertising campaigns with a single email complaint. Advertisers and sponsors are our way of evening up the media bias and by threatening to boycott their products we can fight back. Next time you see a sexist TV programme don't complain to the broadcaster, complain by email to the advertisers and sponsors.

[@exbritishforcespatriotscha7723]

Well done Anne,caused quite a debate on live chat,more please.

[@davidyoung8683]

Excellent, to the point and real. Thank you Ann another high point in your remarkable career.

[@gerardk51]

Yet another reminder of why I love Ann Widdecombe.

[@thecentreformalepsychology8489]

Excellent documentary on a very important topic. Why can't the BBC make documentaries like this?

[@jimdavis8391]

'Multiculturalism' is a cunning device used to divide ordinary working people and keep the elites in power.

[@jumblestiltskin1365]

@@jimdavis8391 indeed. It's a "target" shifting" exercise. Bring in "the other" in numbers and they become the target.

[@stuartmacdonald9299]

Ann you are a angel in the true sense ❤ We will come out on top with our soldiers of God and only then will we have 1000 years of peace again. People will soon start going home to billd back there city's with love and peace. God's children matter and are 10 of 1000s years old it's up to the awake to help them down the paths of freedom. "We are and will " win the spiritual battle it's been going on for to long. God's children matter .77th prime minister and the last. I stand with God's grace 🙏 🙌🏼

[@TheChickenLine]

I caught my ex wife, three days into developing an affair on facebook. I decided to leave her, even though she hadn't slept with him. I couldn't trust her anymore, because she refused to accept what she was up to, preventing a basis for any reconciliation. She systematically destroyed my life, she made up elaborate stories based only on a single fibre of truth...very insidious and manipulative behaviour. After driving a wedge between me and my children, she would whisper to me in private "I'm too clever for you".

[@jumblestiltskin1365]

Except it's not about being clever. Its about having all the cards stacked in her hand against you.

[@warmasterhorus]

British people - second class citizens. That's the biggest heresy and the one we need to talk about most urgently. And it's literally true, as established by the Equality Acts, which the Tories voted for in opposition and proudly keep in place in government.

[@RichardEnglander]

Ah, the asymmetric reality of multiculturalism and 'hate' laws. They need to scrap them, they never go the other way when white people are racially attacked by others.

[@evolassunglasses4673]

The Conservatives have been the bulwark for so much of this madness. They must be destroyed.

[@RichardEnglander]

@@evolassunglasses4673 SDP

[@warmasterhorus]

@@evolassunglasses4673 Amen.

[@warmasterhorus]

@@RichardEnglander They won't scrap them, though. We have to scrap them.

[@gniffer5595]

Why aren't women who make proven false allegations, brought to justice and charged!

[@chrishooper8260]

That makes to much sense. Won't happen.

[@johnthedespicabledutchman7406]

Because ' it's not in the puplic interest.'

[@francosuarez]

Very few women dare to speak against institutionalized misandry. I keep asking, where are the decent mothers fighting for their children, instead of using them as tools of emotional and financial abuse?

[@pauljackson2409]

Some will pay lip service to men's rights, but very few will lift a finger to try to affect change. Even those who make sympathetic noises, will use their legal and social advantages to the detriment of men, when it suits them.

[@ramsa01Yt]

One sex collects all the benefits and therefore nothing will change in this corrupt female dominated society.

[@Hickalum]

If you are a male doctor, or nurse, accused of interfering with a female patient then you are finished … career gone. Whether you did it, or not, is totally irrelevant … you’re finished.

[@stuartmenziesfarrant]

Men will become women to benefit from these leal protections.

[@lmg7503]

Quality documentary, reality of facts, and the explanation that shows we need to get back to common sense, and thrash out the problems of child access to bring in balance for the parents involved.

[@edwardenglishonline]

Apalled to see what a backwards turn has Great Britain taken: Nothing is Great about Britain today (alas, it is the same for Europe and the whole of the Western World). Sad and horribly depressing. Thank you for informing so brilliantly.

[@nw8000]

These women are DESPICABLE! They should do time for their LIES!!!!

[@rebellion2054]

I agree. These lies are their manifestation of violence. Female aggression goes unpunished time and time again. In fact it is very often rewarded with homes, money, punishment of men.....

[@JWS1968]

I've been saying for years now, we do not live in a patriarchy we now live in a matriarchy.

[@johncronin3105]

The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.

[@christopherevans6428]

God bless You Ann Thank you for this it really needs to be revealed more.

[@rexel666]

I've always liked Anne Widdecombe. After watching this, now I understand why.

[@chrisbingley]

There are seven laws in the UK that actively discriminate against men. There are none that discriminate against women. We need laws written in neutral language, so that everybody is equally protected by and subject to every aspect of British law.

[@jonahtwhale1779]

No it is the implementation of laws that is most gendered. Most are gender neutral but always implemented to the woman's advantage e.g. family court.

[@chrisdavie8163]

Professionally made. Looks fit for television. But we all know this will never be played on mainstream television. It's not the mainstream narrative as it asks too many important questions.

[@Pedroo1952]

Yes, that's the tragedy.

[@Baldnesz]

Indeed. Years ago they successfully squashed/jailed/silenced the dads in superhero outfits.

[@timothysmcnamara5925]

This woman is so much wiser than Lady Hale, so much more balanced than Boris Johnson. I am sorry to say this but we now have terribly weak, manipulative and opportunistic leaders.

[@gernaneering]

Well done Ann Widdecombe i never thought i would be saying that .

[@ybwen7071]

Thank-you Ann. I am really grateful an ‘ex’? Conservative MP (?) and the NCF have taken the time and effort to raise these issues. Why this seems to be going against the ‘flow’ and does not get reported in ‘the media’ I just cannot understand. As one of the guys being interviewed said men are just beaten by the system and don’t generally feel capable of joining or creating movements that would highlight this or help support other guys affected by these injustices. The main stream media and a lot of politicians generally (Anne Widdecombe aside) are just …….. I can’t think of a word - just awful.

[@motinuppi]

Reporting from the multiple time mentioned exemplar of equality, Finland: Men are denied help starting right with emergency services. If you call the emergency number due to being abused by your spouse, they won’t dispatch help. Instead they’ll direct you to leave the premises, which will allow the abuser to take over the home and the children. You’ll be directed to a safe-house for women, manned by women. The safe house, after explaining the cycle of abuse to you, expects you to just leave and begin renting a new apartment. All along the way everyone will be concerned with if you may have been violent in return, even once. Childcare services or social services aren’t interested in acting if you’re a male victim of abuse, instead they will find that the children are safe with their mother after she claims she is getting help for her mental problems. Even as she uses the children as a way of getting to you when she can’t directly harm you. As a male, you’ll be paying for all expenses for both households _and_ taking care of the children practically full time while your spouse collects all government support and expects to keep your home while demanding alimony also. Alimony in Finland does not require a court order. After being shuffled from one county lawyer to the next three times (each will begin their task without any preceding knowledge of what the previous lawyer did), after becoming exhausted and broke, you finally cave in desperation and take up your last county lawyer’s suggestion that in order to have a chance of negotiating for a fairer situation with the children (one where you’re recognized as a co-parent, even though the children live with you practically full time and not the mother), you should give in to the mother’s demands to keep all your property while taking on some of the debt for your shared home. After dealing this fatal blow to equitably sharing what was built together over a number of years, your wife now owns everything and is officially the children’s primary custodian. Your lawyer then says they will go on leave, and you’ll end up waiting for months before you see yet another lawyer, who like their predecessors is completely clueless about your situation. You are broke and in debt, and your wife moves to another city with the children. Now you can see them when she deems it ok, and the childcare services and county officials say a biweekly living arrangement probably isn’t tenable any more due to the distance. Any people who may have begun to clue in on what your abusive spouse was doing lack jurisdiction, because she got away to a new county and in Finland the county line is where your responsibilities end. This concludes my report. It has been six years now.

[@rodsimmons9337]

Great programme. Truly upsetting though.

[@Rockhopper1]

thank you for this its like someone has finally listened.

[@sarahpiaggio2693]

Speaking as someone who ACTUALLY experienced a violent relationship (and am happy NOT to receive any child support from the father), I'm not consoled by knowing that many women are actually rewarded for making it all up just so that they can get a better financial deal and make sure the father can't see his child. In fact, apart from being an injustice to the father, it's an added insult to people like me because it belittles real abuse, real rape, real discrimination etc. When will those in charge of society start realising that you don't undo one injustice by perpetrating the opposite one. All you do is create more injustice.

[@msmushroom1]

Absolutely spot on, far too many women use and abuse the system and I know from personal experience through my son. The system are useless and believed everything the ex wife told them and even after I had gathered the truth backed up by CCTV they still did nothing against her...she was allowed to lie her way through the entire fiasco with zero consequences.!

[@brianwareham2933]

Your contribution does make a poignant point, apart from migrating the issue away from men and make it female and victim centric, (Which ironically is part of the problem). What adds to the injustice is, yes real victims. It is an insult with such manipulations. It is offensive to observe. Yet onlookers of it say and do nothing. Men don't identity with other men as a group, the only group who are going to change the perpetuating victimhood of women are women like Anne Whitacombe, since women generally "feel" so hard done by in a patriarchy and white male privilege, abused etc...it's never going to happen, even when we talk about it, it soon gets switched in conversation...."enough talk of men being being victims, us women are the REAL victims!" Watch women when it does. It's like a pack of hyenas taking down their prey when someone starts speak pro men! I'm employing grotesque levels of hyperbole to make a point, but it reminds me of conversations with military pilots "Enough of talking about you, let's talk about me!" Would be the remark we'd often mock them for! I'll be accused of bullying a woman now, I'm not. I'm trying to make a point in principle. I do empathise and sympathise with anyone who has suffered abuse. It does destroy you as a person. You have my sympathy for the abuse you have suffered, equally so, so does EVERY woman and man who has too, but the men who suffer it often have their voices drowned out by the laughter for doing so or the shouts of...."Us women get the real abuse"....distraction from the issue.

[@sarahpiaggio2693]

@@brianwareham2933 I don't consider myself to be a victim because doing so is unhealthy. I do get slightly uncomfortable when specific groups of people such a "women", "trans", "ethnic minorities", "people on the autism spectrum" and even "men" begin to talk in a "them-and-us" way with "us" being the victims and "them" being everyone who's not in the right tribe. This focus on one group being the victim of another is only divisive and completely counter-productive. It's what pressure groups have been doing for the last few decades, and we can see the end result in society now. We CANNOT solve this problem by using the same victim tactics that got us here. I mentioned my own background not to change the subject or "(God forbid) to make myself out as a victim. My point was that we are ALL worse of when ANY group of people are discriminated against.

[@brianwareham2933]

@@sarahpiaggio2693 Sounds like it when you use words such as "not consoled" and "added insult". Appears grievance like language to me. I do not want to devalue your experience, nor do I disagree with your view on false claimers devaluing your claims, because I find it an insult and an injustice to real victims too. The question is, what are you going going to do about it? My brother has been in and out of the family courts for 7 years now, I assist my brother for representing himself in court and we're providing the anecdotal evidence to support the case this video makes, who's gonna do something about it? We're fighting the fight on the front line, who's gonna take up the issue and make politicians listen, or does someone have to go on a rampage and kill people or throw purple powder in the house of commons for things to change? It's only when people resort to such measures do the wankers in Westminster pay any attention. Until then, they're too busy paying off their mates with tax payers money and their own snouts are too deep in the trough.

[@williammillard687]

@@sarahpiaggio2693 unfortunately there are nutters of both genders...and good people of both genders too!....I can vouch for that...being wronged or hurt is terrible no matter how anybody tries to excuse it.

[@iainrae6159]

Hugh respect for Ann highlighting the injustices for many men. A subject rarely discussed.

[@kiwikeith7633]

Now hearing Vincent McGovern, his experiences of a system which denies access to allegations and evidence, along with the presumption of guilt are so familiar to me also. I liked his mention in relation to the children's relationships with extended families on both sides. I identify so much with his experiences, but will add that children are damaged in so many ways by these processes and biases. Our children have never recovered physically, emotionally or relationship wise. Sadly its not just the effect on us and the kids, but I observe that the extended families could be described as going to war against each other with the kids interests left abandoned between. My wife's family blames me, and my family blames her and hers - while both forget the tender hearts of the children trying to negotiate between. They puff on about the "Children's best interests!" but in fact have zero regard for the children's interests, other than a weapon to exploit. My daughters are now adult - one profoundly damaged and disabled for life, the other (was a rag-doll compliant baby) is now a wealthy professional - and they hardly talk together. That is another consequential dynamic that never gets realised, because compliant blames the spirited adventurous one for mothers disorder and the family destruction. Family violence prejudice / activism is a curse that just keeps on giving and giving. Oddly enough these are not uncommon stories, yet like car crashes, most folks think it only happens to other folks. Yet from my position, you all are vulnerable. You might not empathise until you wake up in this nightmare yourself, and then you too will be alarmed, abandoned, find yourself a suspect non-entity. We never understand how that can happen in a civilised Just world. As a bonus, I ask this provoking question: "What becomes of profoundly damaged children when they turn seventeen?" Well I know. Those new graduates into late teens, cease to have exploitation value to the anti-family, anti-male gender activists and the STATE ministries they control. From that point on they are abandoned, no assistance to help them get by in life, to heal the damaged skeletons, their brain injuries, their psychological wounds. No!, they are deemed dysfunctional adults who have no excuse for whatever problem they are left with. The systems and those driving these policies disgust me.

[@moneypenny1267]

I’m beginning to really like Ann … she’s willing to apply common sense unlike the hysterical woke lot we have to deal with .

[@mat9516]

All too common these days - thanks in part to our increasingly dysfunctional culture and the 'slow march' through our corrupted institutions. It's not easy, but decent hard working men need to protect themselves and be very careful who they associate with