The Second Emotional Battle : Logic v Emotional Thinking : The Narcissist

[@ekaterinabalderdash1274]

It’s grief. Stages of grief. The love and the life we thought we had and expected to have is dead. Easier to say goodbye to someone who actually died than someone who never existed.

[@Ikaros23]

This insight is important. That is that the person we loved, never existed. It was a pure fiction created by the narcissist. The person the acted under the lovebombing never existed. But the abuseiv asshole they where most of the time is their real self. To greif the loss of the illusion is healthy, just know that these monsters are out there. What`s important is that if a person has these redflags then next step is the " no contact regime". Not to talk to the narcissist. Or to Explain, excuse etc. Simply eraze them out of our life, like cancer or a poison. With zero guilt/shame/ or need to explain. The facts of their redflags and toxic actions is enough.

[@jamesrebbechi4471]

‘It is not time that heals, it is time away from us that does!’ The art is in making the complex simple - well said HG.

[@chrisscott6417]

Fuck that bullshit, it's Jesus Christ that heals. What exactly are narcs going to do to me like? Why would I go no contact. I'm enjoying watching the victory of my master. I'm going nowhere.

[@brendakauffman2222]

@@chrisscott6417 Jesus Christ does heal, but it's still a great idea to go Nc.

[@ophilliaophillia5918]

Oh dear- someone needs a hug

[@lauranordgren9760]

I remember sinking in the emotional sea...I fueled him for. 2 weeks and still didn't get any answers.. he brought the worst out of me...the battle I fight now is my own battle..getting better and stronger😊

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

Stay strong 💪. I left him in December. After my doctor warned me that he would eventually call the police because of our fights and by him being educated in psychology or social work I would not stand a chance of not being taken to jail or the nut house . After she warned me, I knew it was time to leave and abandon this painful relationship. I would not even stay after his future faking that he’d marry me . I warned him if I leave or move out there would be No Friend ship and I would move far far away and I did ! He had his Casablanca only I didn’t go back to my narcissistic ex husband which he threatened to take me back to him . No he didn’t get his way ! Hahaha I left him at the airport with crocodile tears 😭 and him whining “ I know this can’t be the end “ He made the mistake of thinking I would not leave, I warned him . Now he Hoover’s my doctor for appointments even after she told him that seeing him was not ethical because I had been her patient for 12 years, he continues to call my doctor and pester her for an appointment. I hope he goes to jail ,

[@simbathecat5789]

There has been no contact but ur right my emotional thinking is screaming at me to contact him today , like there is a pain in my heart and to see him will take this pain away ,

[@joannemcevoy4232]

The important thing is to maintain no contact. Use this time to learn about and understand what happened in terms of the narcissist and his/behavior and treatment of you. Logic will build and emotional thinking will be reduced. You will then see the situation for what it was/is in that you were involved in a dynamic with a narcissist.

[@madelinehodges9009]

We all need to achieve the Rhett Butler result: “Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn.”

[@elliemay7569]

I’m strong and smart! After 36 years of abuse... one day November 11 2016 i discovered the knowledge of what he was and what he was doing to me. After that day divorce judge made him leave our marital home and i went no contact forever. Done no matter what happens ( I WILL NEVER SPEAK TO HIM AGAIN)

[@KB-by3vl]

Like a Beast! 😎 Cool.

[@sunnydays9586]

Good for you! That is winning! No contact for the rest of your days! Keep winning! 😊

[@LoveLady-wn3eg]

Yes. This is an ongoing war. I dont know if I will win. He lives in my head and in my heart. He finds a way back in.

[@LoveLady-wn3eg]

HG, I am beginning to think that he might be neck and neck with you, as far as his strength. He is tenacious.

[@ajeff6480]

I'm getting a lot from these older videos. I'm a newbie here, about 3 weeks in but no going back to the devaluation and sitting on that shelf. I want off the roller coaster! Gonna keep digging into the information and applying it. Just purchased the books, No Contact, Fuel, and Chained and they came today. Yummy brain food! Got the results of my Empathic Evaluation back a few days ago and will work on knowing myself better and learning my weaknesses and my strengths. I have adopted a couple little ditty's from various sayings of H G's. One is what I call AL which means Apply Logic. The other ia ALI, which means Apply Logic Immediately! Thank you H G for helping to clear the fog! I guess I'm doing gray rock as I work out my escape. Trying to use silence and not kick the hornets nest since he twists and distorts most of what comes out of my mouth. I also think I have gone temporarily supernova because I've drawn that line in the sand. I feel numb most days and can't abide his shenanigans any more.

[@shantelmurray8872]

I am at this stage with your kind! Living in the same home in different rooms. Baaaaaby I had to separate from that 😈 demon. I pay him absolutely no mind!!! He tries to constantly get a reaction out of me and all I do is smile and say... NOT TODAY SATAN!!!!!

[@msdemeanour]

👏👏👏👏

[@anghays123]

Since Narcissist doesn’t want me to be content, and he wants me to feel his pain, he treats me in ways to provoke my narcissistic traits and emotional thinking. Realizing this has been helpful in maintenance of my no contact regimen. Thanks, HG! Your ultra information got me here, and I appreciate it.

[@lauranordgren9760]

I remember the second emotional battle. This one lasted 6 weeks..you talk about some craziness..I went off the Fing chart. HG spot on about the heart against narc logic. The second battle involved triangleation and flying monkey's.. Of course at this time I did not have any knowledge of the flying monkey's and triangleation. IT WAS A FREAKING KNIGHTMARE...Never got any results .all the sudden he started writing about her script..I'm still boiling and yeah he's starting on a new page..When this emotional battle ended I told myself never again..it literally destroyed me.. so a few months later he wanted to play the narc game again.. Fortunately for me i was already ahead of the game..3 days into the overwhelming and dynamics of what was happening. It so happened that one of the narc videos was about how narcs write there own script...I took that info and flipped the switch on him..instead of engaging in his sea of battle...I wrote my own script..NO CONTACT... HG is wright...NO CONTACT ain't no joke...But is necessary. When I went no contact I had to put myself in a mental facility..I mean wow I was a wreck..but 2 years later I'm still writing my own script...😊..if I can do anyone can do it...don't be afraid to wright your own script.. mine is turning out beautifully,😊

[@msdemeanour]

👏👏👏

[@dalenjurgens6751]

I'm so happy to see your victory! No contact is the only way to go, and it pulls hard at the heart strings, trying to figure out what you "should" do. It's a difficult mindset to achieve. I will always care about my person and her pain, but I can't engage with that ever again.

[@sidneyssempala982]

HG, a pity you "don't" feel what we feel, cause this video and your work is helping so many and the gratitude you deserve can never be measured in fuel. Thank You!

[@joycemarie1097]

Once we reach a higher level of personal healing it gets easier ….we can become an observer and understand every lesson can be mastered!! ….a day comes when we can all say to the Narc ….”Thank You for Helping Me!” (Under our breathe of course) …And have no animosity for them….still No Contact and No looking back!! ✨💖✨

[@alkaisha]

Yes even knowing this I kept falling in the traps and every time I found myself in the nonsense when I didn’t even want a relationship, I finally could understand the lack of empathy when my dad was very ill and died.... his reactions during that time were truly incredible and not normal at all, as I was in a deeper emotional battle that it didn’t have to do with him I could see everything different and understand how unworthy is to keep someone like that in your life.

[@666happygirl2]

Out of Site, Out of Mind. The Strong Will Survive. Mind Over Matter. No one really wants to be bothered with the BS, From a Narcissist, unless they are a Weak person. Drop the Zero, and get it over with. HG Tudor thank you for your information. Well informed.

[@adriennegallotta2890]

Like I am not allowed to eat meat . Like I am not allowed to use drugs I am not allowed contact with the abuser . Now to live a simple pure rest of time on this Earth before this age is done. Today I am ok. This is forever. I realize that. You are a great teacher whoever you are. You saved my life. Altho God lead me to this information. So ultimately God is the Savior but this information is priceless . There is no better teacher than you HG Tudor

[@KB-by3vl]

Your gratitude is beautiful. But, the devil is in the details. This man unabashedly says he's a narcissist. I have seen no evidence that he shares his knowledge for the betterment of anyone. Maybe he is. But our fuel warms him, so, maybe you don't need to thank him. His payment was received.

[@KB-by3vl]

If you haven't already had the chance, the Words of Christ are immensely knowledgeable. And His ways are truly good. He is the one to teach us what is noble. He longs for us to be drawn to Him. For our well-being, not for his ego.

[@carolynwilson7736]

I went no contact - left the country, blocked him on all communications. He then targeted my mother, convincing her of his sincerity and she convinced me to give him another chance. In addition working on my mother, he sent flowers to my new job, flew over to where I lived and waited outside my new place of work. Needless to say once I gave him a second chance, I was discarded again. Devastating experience and it took years to get over. Then his mother reached out to me. Brought all the misery back but I stayed out of contact with him. Now I’ve blocked him and all his family completely and hidden all my professional details. Some people are too dangerous.

[@passion8princess261]

H.G. The Spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. I know that your information will help me , so a big thank you to you for providing these materials.

[@lovingod4ever33]

I have days where I literally go back and forth in this sea ALL day long! I am so annoyed and impatient with myself! I just went a whole year where I utilized my logical thinking 90% of time everyday, in regards to this person. Now, I feel flipped the other way! I can't get my heart to shut up and let my brain drive the boat!! I have never been more bothered about being an empath, as I have this last month, since finding you HG. Your information is priceless to me, I shudder to think how far down the emotional sea I would have sank, had I not come across your channel. I left him but have continual interactions with him because of our kids, divorce proceedings, and obviously my rock solid addiction,,,, SIGH,,,, 15 years gave room for deep trauma bonding that I feel like is embedded in my DNA. I guess my next video I watch should be the one you named addiction.

[@jeremyo849]

Thanks again HG! You have definitely helped me out through this storm. I believe God lead me to your channel just at the right time in my life.🙏

[@Thecuriousoptimist]

Dear HG, the first time I actually felt a glimpse of hope, it was while listening to your words in this video. It made me feel empowered, and I hadn't felt like that in many, many months. Which is a bit odd considering the pain and despair you must have inflicted to other people, for whom I do feel sorry. But as far as logic is concerned, it makes sense that you're able to gain and give such an insightful perspective, and for that I'm thankful. The time you devote to provide such knowledge and the depth of your analysis are appreciated. Thank you for your matter-of-fact, no-nonsense approach to this subject, it really made a difference in the way I face my life now.

[@reemhussain3630]

So proud of myself..I noticed and I did not like things in the relationship..so I escape , hoovering or no hoover ...I know exactly who is he ,how he thinks ..and how I react no emotional thinking feels great

[@edgreen8140]

Thank you H.G. , you give me a greater understanding. No or reduced emotional thinking.

[@hgtudor-theultra]

You are welcome.

[@dawnklug6986]

Certainly wish I had heard /known your awesome knowledge back in 1975..........I would have not married my late ex husband. Everything you have spoken about in this series actually occurred.

[@besetfree0473]

Such thorough, spot on and important info. I appreciate you sharing and your work. I only appreciate one Narcissist and that is you HG but since you are a Narcissist I hate you too. It is the battle.

[@divinefeminine8703]

In spite of how superb your knowledge of subconscious programming that empaths as well as people with Cluster B personality disorders have, superb explanations of the harsh realities of someone that flawlessly pretended to be capable of love will only resonate with people who have completed the most revolutionary shadow work (inner child work) that has never been exposed to any licensed therapist or psychiatrist in the Western World of mental health. After completing an insane amount of hours of heavy shadow work, I officially have achieved a decent amount of self love and am for a fact repelled by and resonate with zero tolerance of abuse of any kind. Once most of if not the darkest aspects of childhood trauma (especially narcissistic abuse throughout childhood have been purged), I wholeheartedly resonate with any expressed truths about people who are truly incapable of emotional empathy and even rational thought (while feels feel factual). Teal Swans completion process has certainly prepared me to absorb and adhere to your material.

[@donnaholton1981]

Thank you HG my unknown friend have contributed so much to my healing process in escaping my ex narc.

[@calicomcgee]

Much respect Dear HG, I have dared to enter the waters, I have returned for exactly your defined reasons. I am trying to build a stronger vessel. I so appreciate your honesty and even the tears I shed as I listen seem to be filling a somewhat shallow water to one that may carry me. My curiosity into why you so earnestly offer us these words of wisdom and guidance queaks. I Thank You.

[@tamaratanzt79]

Listened to this after my audio consultation today, I seem to understand even deeper!

[@caitlindavies1278]

Your body of work is amazing trully impressive and so helpful

[@memarie9373]

It's strange that people experience these feelings of pain from being departed from the narc, because 9 times outta 10 it isn't real love for the empath that they are experiencing. It's almost always superficial and only there due to the chemicals in your brain, that only last up to 18 months and then dies out, regardless of any other thing except for real true love.

[@msantulova]

It"s that nasty thing called mirroring - s/he makes as if they were the real soul mate - a strange illusion that they understand you as no one else and share irreservedly. Strange that thay could be so skillfull at that but i have seen and experienced it - they really are that skilled and it is an illusion. One thing they cannot fake is tenderness - the real thing - they are uncapable of delivering the real taste of it. They fake it but I can sense the lack of the real taste of it.

[@LoveLady-wn3eg]

The tears started again. He knows how to get at my "feels".

[@jennifermccoy3460]

I have conquered the emotional sea! You have to set your mind and keep it set regardless of emotions. Along the way I have educated myself with knowledge from your channel! I will use this knowledge for my future. Thanks so much. The work you have done is amazing!

[@dalenjurgens6751]

Thank you, HG, I always love your videos. Very informative. I love your presentation, too, very authoritative! This is a very interesting personality disorder, and there are many roots to it, so much to learn. I have never been a strongly logical person, but this experience in the last year's time has really helped me. Thanks for being a part of this, HG.

[@ericgeorge6564]

HG...you are really a gem and a gem with more than a touch of the poet in you! I have listened to many videos on Narcissism, some quite good actually but none as articulate as you and none with the insight to truly guide us across the stormy seas both with interacting with the Narcissist and with interacting with ourselves. You will have your legacy, and it will be in this life, not the afterlife

[@terriwhalen3618]

Yes. Unfortunately for us that have encountered the narcissistic individual, mo matter what type, in a way at least we can learn this valuable knowledge in order to not allow ourselves to get involved again. As painful as it was, how would we even understand it? This is a complex disorder and so much wrong information is out there. Thank you HG. We must become resilient, narc repellant, unless we enjoy this type of lifestyle. I read about the inverted narc, not sure if this is true, but according, they are the ones who have to be in a narcissist relationship and through them they survive. They are the ones who feel they are nothing. Crazy!

[@shonjohnson6258]

You are spot on. Exactly what I am thinking.

[@TruthSeekingElf]

So very very helpful thank you so much!! This information is truly priceless!!

[@firebirdhc]

The first emotional battle video was uncanny and insightful but this video was a revelation. The analogy used perfectly describes the confusion of what happens after disengaging with a narcissist for an Empath. Thank you HG for this dose of logic and insight.

[@TacticalNuke321]

Video suggestion: Empaths & learned helplessness

[@allaroundme5429]

This would be a good un

[@msdemeanour]

Brilliant! You are a clever narc HG. This gave me goosebumps. Merry Xmas! 🍺

[@petralee574]

The last few sentences made me cry - but they do give hope. Thanks. The hole in my vessel is so large, it can't even float ...

[@danitaoliver264]

Thank You, H G!!!!♡

[@cazhickling8151]

Hi H.G I remember a poem you told. I can't remember the actual words. But it went a bit like this. The first time the empath did flea She wasn't taken in the second time By the narc oh sly grin. No see no see. no see. no see stops the Misery. This video brought back memories of that poem.👤

[@edgreen8140]

Learn the observe don’t absorb technique and don’t take the bait. You lack of response is helpful.

[@candirayne470]

@Ed Green You are right😊

[@lehuananichai3947]

Great video and Great comment. Thank you.

[@MasterAlchemist11]

Great info, helps reinforce the infamous infj door slam. Thank you🧱🛑🧱😆

[@aztecwarrior1468]

This is EXACTLY what I am going thru right now! Her the female Narcissist, causes me to push and pull all the logic and emotion. To contact or not. Like you say HG, the desire for one more night with her. That's the emotional. Logic says GOSO. I know she paraded around other dudes in front of me a few months ago, ai did not know what she was doing. Now i do. I was being devalued. The confusion and bewilderment started. She the took of for a out of state trip. Stated She wouldn't have cell service, Bollocks! I called her out on that and she didnt like that too well the devaluation continued and I still didnt understand what was going on Thank you So very much HG!

[@simbathecat5789]

It’s been 6 mths of no contact and had the worst day today, my emotional state is so torn , I miss him so much yet he was toxic, I want to go back so badly to that toxic r ship where he just used me, I’ve been doing to well up to today , I’m listening to this u tube to try and save myself , I’ve listened to all ur vids , my heart and brain are in 2 disconnects ,

[@achirichello1208]

Logic vs Emotional thinking. The first time I heard this flipped a switch. Head over heart always sounded "sewn on a pillow" to me.

[@lilianmoshi583]

Thank you HG

[@sadielou4258]

The narc becomes attached to things you love like songs, your fave perfume, certaim films etc how do we enjoy those things again without thinking of The narc? I remember your everpresence video and its true how they get so so imprinted there in our heads its sick

[@christianone6611]

I found it easiest to utterly start over. It sucks when you've let someone hurt you so much that it's easier to start a whole new life in a foreign country than keep your old life intact with all your friends, business, career, land, home, and family. I sold everything and moved to Fiji. I let him hoover me 😱 and moved AGAIN to the US but a different state across the country from where I was before. Ridiculous that I lost everything TWICE over that jerk but it helped me to heal to just start over. If I had it to do over, knowing what I know now... I could have kept everything and kicked him out when he began the first devalue period and been fine within a week. But I was ignorant of what narcissism was back then and so he had me all twisted up and confused. Better to get out alive no matter what gets lost. I have found it a somewhat pleasant experience to meet all new friends, start a whole new and different career, experiment with new hobbies. It's nice not carrying anything of the past with me except a few decaying emotional thinking memories of his golden period (remaining wounds that are still healing).

[@CarterSams]

I decided not to let her ruin anything for me. Not my memories, not my favorite songs, not the shows we watched together. Nothing. And I do it by exposing myself to it when I feel good so that I can associate new memories with it. Do what you did together with other people - make a new imprint. SO MANY THINGS remind me of my narcissist - we were together 10 years. I gave her my twenties, I'm not giving her everything I like too. Just make a choice to keep it and make it yours. Good luck & all the best, love. ❤️

[@miawhite136]

Thank U for giving US “ THE TOOLS! “ ☮️♥️😀

[@danitaoliver264]

Of Course it's You, H G!!!!♡

[@adriennegallotta2890]

No contact period

[@littad7128]

Thank you HG. 👍

[@safaeradi-358]

Thank you hg ❤

[@RenataLocutora]

I envy you in the certain way . I want to feel less and less , and care less and less . I am tired to feel . I don’t want to feel nothing at all anymore.

[@JJ-iq8mi]

You mean you don't want to feel anything. You want to feel nothing.

[@sonjamaag1860]

I know this feeling of just wanted to be knocked out and to be a roboter. Exhausted by feeling - can't take no more...Now it is better. Hope you get here too

[@PerrySkyePhoenix]

I used to feel like I was treading water in the middle of the ocean with no land in sight. I was so tired... drowning seemed like a relief. Yes, I miss the most recent narcissist. I still care about him. My head and heart have been in battle over him for a long time. He accused me of playing games (projection) I can see how it might appear that way... but logically I know it's the cognitive dissonance that causes me to act in certain ways. I have gone no contact the proper way this time. He is blocked everywhere. (Just prior to me going NC) He told me that he fell deeply in love with someone else (she ghosted him). He's very clever. He stabbed me in the heart and tried to elicit my sympathy at the same time. I responded by feeling hurt and angry (negative supply) That was a turning point for me. He's been in and out of my life for 3 years. He's kept me on a shelf for most of that time. I suspect that I was his DLS because I was never really a part of his life. We hardly ever went out in public together. It was more like a fwb situationship with some future faking and "I love you's" whenever I started to pull away. There is a large age gap between us, and I did enjoy mothering him. I am reading your book: "Sitting Target" He is of the "victim narcissist" school. I am an empath who behaved like a SuperEmpath for awhile... for him. After a time of this solely focusing on him and his needs, I got tired. I wanted a little something in return... specifically, his time, attention and affection. This didn't sit well with him. He devalued/punished me through triangulation (with his phone during sex!) criticizing my sexual performance, and generally acting cold and aloof the last time that I saw him. This reduced me to tears, and when he saw me crying... he responded by saying: "I didn't do anything wrong" When I moved towards him, seeking comfort... He put his hands up as if to push me away and stepped back. He let me give him a peck on the lips, and then he left my apartment. Text communication went on as per usual after that incident... but of course, nothing was resolved. It was all my fault. I became a defective appliance. We did make plans to get together once more, but he was a "no show" He didn't respond to any of my texts that day. I didn't see it coming. I guess I wanted to believe that we had gotten past his flaking out on me. This has been an exhausting cycle with us. I didn't mean to write this much, but putting it in words helps keep me on track.

[@karenmaher4928]

Same story I had

[@Jezzicar]

Me too , have exactly the same situation , just quite not there yet. Biggest battle is with yourself and I really admire you and I hope you are ok 👍

[@adamgosh2017]

exactly how it happened. thank you.

[@hombre5431]

Very well said Sir. Thank you for all you do for us!

[@micheleshively8557]

Once I got away for a significant amount of time, I was immediately happy. Lol. It's crazy. No more strife, no more fights, no crying except for joy, no more money gone right away, I was rich in one month lol. You won't want to be in it any more with the narc. Peace is so so lovely and sweet

[@simbathecat5789]

I am doing exactly what your saying in the 10 justifications

[@richellescott4308]

This was very helpful information. Thank you HG

[@hgtudor-theultra]

You are most welcome.

[@LilithLiberated]

I do not know if this information will be of assistance but in my emotional battle I ultimately had to choose between two different aspects of being empathic. Love Devotie, and truth seeker. I chose truth seeker and that led me to reason and away from emotional thinking.

[@dragonclaws9367]

I love all your graphics you use. Just saying. You are helping me a LOT. I feel much better this disengagement.

[@g.e.george1483]

You understand, seems odd for there to be a grand canyon between us.

[@cjk7063]

OMG this video is tough Sir HG Tudor.

[@ezequielgarza5535]

Brilliant! Love the way you put it.

[@BubblegumCreepydoll]

“Preferably that I have provided you” spoken from a true narcissist 😆

[@dullbrass]

That sounded almost empathic :)

[@ophilliaophillia5918]

When finally I was disengaged from one of the Narcissists I grew up with- all I wanted to know was- that he was suffering as bad- or worse than I was.... Time passed- no contact brought sense back- and a realisation that I no longer care- barely think about him- he is nothing

[@keltait]

I'm on 8 months from the start of N.C and I've been hovered back 2 or 3 times. The last time was THE LAST time. Sadly, as a truth seeker that's been my main reason to keep allowing this to happen. Something clicked recently in my head and I no longer care. I think the narcissistic has sensed this... even from the other side of the country

[@sonjamaag1860]

Sounds like beeing pregnant🙂, but I understand

[@adriennegallotta2890]

I've been waiting for this. Thank u alot

[@scoutpaquette1678]

Thank you Sir. I can identify with your words. My application

[@sumbals]

Yes learning from you made me better stronger thanks😊

[@jaredvaughan1665]

A brilliant video.

[@karenmaher4928]

Yes that was the hardest emotional thinking I won I got out total NC realized it was a pit of hell I stopped thinking with my head not my heart so evan if he lurkes around I could care less if was a lie and illusion

[@snooksmalloy7594]

I’m very appreciative of you sharing your knowledge. I was hoovered when covid hit, but I’ve been engaging off and on for a decade. My husband died and I’ve been terrified of that loss again, so I’ve been engaging with my ex prior to the second husband bc he’s about as emotionally available as I am, sadly. I’m very, very lonely, so there you go. I know I should end this before he destroys my already fragile sense of worth, yet I cling... is any contact better than loneliness? I already know the answer and it breaks my heart. I ordered the narc detector. I’ve not received it yet, but will the minute I do. What other tools should I start with? I’m a tad overwhelmed at present. Sidebar: I played a video for my mom, who was married to my late father who was not dissimilar to our jackass president. She said, “He sounds like God.” I laughed so hard. She said, “He’s your type. He’s smart, clearly has swagger, probably looks like a movie star, is British (I do have a weakness there not unlike many Americans), and totally unavailable.” Again, I laughed. What can I say? She’s right. It’s an innocent enough crush, and I’m positive I’m not alone. A morsel of fuel in exchange for your wisdom? Hardly a fair exchange, but it’s all I have. Blessings to you, HG.

[@irenewatson]

I find that if I am preoccupied with something else,I fail to see what is coming.I thought things were going well with no contact 3months and we decided to update the back garden by clearing the shed and it's contents.Precision planning did not allow for the Muppet who blocked in the van that was to take it away.We had to wait til next day.I noticed the narcississts,I get 2 for the price of 1 at weekends staring at me over the low wall. I'm good at staring back and saying nothing but the daughter's gaze was full of rage,jealousy and hatred while the mother was smiling.All my senses should have told me something was brewing but I ignored my warnings.They are very repetitive and destructive at the same time.Neighbours nearby who were only renting found themselves with multiple fictitious complaints which nearly had them moved.Now it's my turn,they had brought the land agent down while the garden was full of the shed and contents and led them to believe we were not taking care.A letter arrived today reminding us of their agreement over the land.As I am a home owner and normally do not have the shed and contents stacked in the garden,I was annoyed how the pair had taken advantage of the timing.Still now is not the time to get emotional,that's what they want and I'm not inclined to oblige them.I cannot put my finger on it but I know something else is brewing.

[@sandrastrausbaugh6050]

Please do a video on twin-flames and how that's a dynamic for narcissistic ensnarement. You answered a question (as offered on your website) for me a year or two ago and it made so much sense.

[@lindasharpe7039]

That's how I found my way to these sites, & understanding my main relationship. Eye opening.

[@runwiththewind3281]

Thank you for helping me understand me

[@aNnAkt1qw]

Thank you 💜

[@sofiami5385]

Thank you.

[@candirayne470]

The crazy part is during most of my emotional thinking I told myself I was using logic when I believed maybe he really did see the cow jump over the moon🐄🤾‍♀️🌚 Crazy emotional thinking🤯

[@kerryparsons6138]

Thank you!!

[@joannelewis8038]

Thank you

[@sanchitatrivedi2926]

nice content 😃

[@elocat2511]

Perfect analogy because that is how the abuse feels…like drowning in an ocean being tossed around by the waves, struggling to keep head above water and hoping to stay alive, panicking and searching for the rescue boat.

[@uyoebyik]

I am no contact with my narc adult daughter and my confidence is gradually coming back

[@Nicholas_Shaw.]

Bitter sweet pills of solutions, hard to stomach but worth it in the long while. Sheep in the midst of wolves.. TY HG.

[@BillijeanS442]

You are so talented.

[@hgtudor-theultra]

I agree.

[@ScurvyRascal]

@@hgtudor-theultra Hahaha! Ultra indeed!

[@One-Goth]

Number 13. So true.

[@nancyfeke9585]

MARVELOUS!!!!

[@HatBilly2008]

I agree,

[@adriennegallotta2890]

I don't know how to use the internet very well . I don't know if you get these comments. Can u do another video/audio regarding how the greater feels after an escape and no contact from the primary source. I know this is not a game for me. I have listened to every single audio you have made at least on utube because it's all I know how to access. I know u have plenty of info on this I want more .I don't know if it's ok or annoying for me to request but I listen to u alot so I would like that if u could please and thank u

[@heatherjackson8840]

Very relatable analogy, Mr. Tudor. Thank you. I'm wondering if you think a person can be addicted to the emotional thinking instead of the actual narcissist causing it? And if so ....couldn't that be construed as one gaining some sort of fuel from the narcissist? thus rendering the resentment aimed at the fueling narc hypocritical thinking? asking for a friend , lol

[@mrmegachonks3581]

"Sea of Sorrows" by Alice in Chains.

[@adriennegallotta2890]

Thank u

[@danitaoliver264]

YESSSSSSSS!!!!!!♡