High Self Esteem: How To 400% Increase Your Power, Beauty & Charisma - Inner Work Library [141/500]

[@jordanthornton]

*1-1 Mentorship Information: Price & Structure (Maximum Capacity = 20 Clients Per Year)* It's an absolute pleasure to film these KZbin videos, and I feel fortunate to receive an abundance of meaningful messages every week, but I am unfortunately faced with the disappointing reality of turning away the vast majority of people who want to work together. I have significantly limited availability and can only support twenty people per year because I do not offer one-off calls or drop-in consulting sessions. Twenty individuals might not sound like maximum capacity, but the last few years of teaching have taught me the importance of maintaining tight energetic boundaries if I want to keep uploading these free videos in addition to serving my current clients to the best of my ability in 2024. To minimise confusion and enhance transparency, I've spent several hours writing this ridiculously long comment to help you decide if my Inner Work Mentorship is the right choice for your development & what you could reasonably expect from working closely together. Please take the time to read this service description before contacting me on Instagram… or feel free to stop reading right now if you’re not interested in my fees, session structure, client expectations, etc. ... *READ BEFORE SCROLLING FURTHER:* I'm interested in long-term change and structural transformation, which is why I've never offered one-off sessions. Complex issues cannot be resolved in a few hours, but we likewise need to define an upper limit for containment and collaboration. I've learned that deep and enduring self-integration requires at least four months of immersive effort. Why four months? It's enough weekly contact for us to work through multiple complex issues and developmental possibilities, but short enough to mitigate against unconscious co-dependency and motivational stagnation. I'm currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month - message me after reading the following section to check my availability. ... *HOW I WORK & WHO I WORK WITH* Unlike other coaches and teachers who take an understandably more relaxed approach to healing and integration, my mentorships are characteristically intense. This is a highly-demanding, high-investment process which requires our consistent combined effort over a period of four months. If we were to start working together, I would reasonably expect you to be excited to show up for a minimum of 10+ hours of self-motivated transformative practice per week (daily reading, fitness routine, creative exercises, spiritual reflection, etc.) while also maintaining full-sobriety (no drink, no drugs, no cigarettes, no vapes). These strict standards of discipline and sobriety are plainly unsuitable for most people in most situations - even genuinely motivated individuals who resonate with my KZbin videos may not be the right match for four months of structured mentorship. If you want to get deeper, I've noticed that there's a certain type of ‘temperament' & 'timing’ to get the most out of me. I'm interested in alert, creative and purpose-driven individuals who aspire to exceptional standards of self-maturation and would enjoy the feeling of going through week-on-week of progressively stacked transformative experiences for a third of a year: my ideal client is somebody who is willing to bring forward their internal complexity with a sense of courage and transparency with the intention of nothing less than full-spectrum transformation & rapid acceleration on their personal path. I am yet to discover another supportive figure who offers something comparable to this mentorship: a four-month, structured yet flexible 1-1 container which is simultaneously therapeutic, academic and action-oriented; with primary focus placed on tangible improvements in your felt sense of self-knowledge and self-integration; in addition to making consistent and meaningful progress towards your unique goals and mentorship aspirations. I prioritise contact, compassion and accountability, which means that your work never really 'ends' at the end of your session. You can reasonably expect to be fed dozens of customised reading suggestions and follow-on perspectives outside of the formal sessions via friendly and informal messenger contact, where I am active and available four days per week to cultivate an intimate personal connection while likewise enhancing your positive momentum via accountability check-ins and additional support as required. By way of conclusion for what feels like an extraordinarily long comment and service description, I feel compelled to once more emphasise that working directly with me is unrealistic for most people in most situations. I often support people who are accustomed to wrestling with the emotional challenges associated with working through complex wounds in previous therapeutic relationships before we begin our coaching work together. Even individuals without 'hard trauma' can expect moments of pressurised darkness and heaviness during periods of shadow contact as you begin to restructure your personal unconscious. We will be exploring your psyche and soma at scale and depth, and it will be your responsibility to keep me informed about the emotional texture of your internal reality, especially if you encounter negatively charged experiences, and I will of course do everything in my power to support you through the hard times as we integrate the darkness and move forwards together. KZbin is a wonderful place for me to share free research resources and offer accessible inner work invitations; my private mentorships, however, are the place for collaborative partnership and emotional security as we identify, navigate and restructure oftentimes confronting and challenging conscious and unconscious physical, emotional and mental material. Ultimately, this is a highly-demanding but highly-rewarding process which requires the best of our shared intentions. ... *SESSION STRUCTURE & FEES:* The total fee for an Inner Work Mentorship (including 12 x 2 hr sessions) is £7,400 GBP or approximately $9,400 USD. This is my only coaching programme, and my mentorship pricing is liable to adjustment over time. Each private session lasts two hours, and is facilitated via Telegram video call at an ideal time for both of us. Your mentorship extends over a linear four-month period, with a total of twenty-four hours of structured session time, in addition to four days per week of unlimited messenger availability for accountability updates, voice note exchanges and informal calls upon occasion. I do not work on Mondays, Tuesdays or Wednesdays, but I am fully-available across all timezones for regular calls and messenger contact on Thursday - Sunday. If you’ve scrolled this far, and resonate with what I’m offering, I invite you to message me on Instagram. It would be my pleasure to start exploring your goals and intentions in real-time. IMPORTANT: I am an intentionally independent coach, and not a licensed therapist or associated with any professional bodies or coaching institutions, and therefore enjoy the freedom to collaborate with my clients across all areas of life in an intimate, direct and highly involved coaching style. I work with no more than twenty people per year, and am currently accepting a maximum of two new clients per month. I also manage my own inbox and do not use automated systems or employ people to pretend to be me on Instagram, which means that it usually takes four to six weeks for me to respond to new messages and begin the interview process. Although my approach takes time, I hope you ultimately appreciate my personal emphasis on authentic and confidential communication from the very beginning of our relationship. I once again encourage you to message me immediately if you want to start working together within the next two months - bump yourself to the top of my inbox, and I’ll send you some voice notes to get our conversation started.

[@T33ma]

I am pretty sure someone said this before but I absolutely love your voice. It’s like you’re speaking into my soul

[@jordanthornton]

Wishing you my best with the videos and conversations 🌲

[@ArthursAtman]

"Hope" is something I seriously struggle with. Schopenhauer said it is the mere confusion of desire for probability, which is a savage and mostly-true statement--I've seen so many people in my family make terrible decisions out of mere "hope", which amounts to "cope" or wishful thinking, rather often. Yet, I can't simply dispense with this hope thing so cavalierly, b/c I need it, and however much it may chafe against my intellect, I need to find a way to use it as a tool, a vital instrument

[@jordanthornton]

The hope vs cope argument is actually a great perspective to explore further… I’ll keep this in mind, thanks for adding this.

[@ArthursAtman]

@@jordanthorntonHere is my solution to Schopenhauer's challenge, which should not be underestimated: "resolve". I don't have "hope"; I have "resolve". I can't think of anything better to do than more physical therapy, maybe another surgery, and resolve myself to work for the better. That is not coming from hope, but shear freakin resolve. I need no "maybe it will get better," I just need the grit to try despite zero hope

[@helenaartbook]

For me, it all starts with acceptance. Accepting your imperfections and accepting that you’re going to stumble is confidence in the best form. Also, I admire your ability to speak so well without editing! I couldn’t even talk properly to a camera for 10 seconds straight 🙈, but it would definitely be a fun thing to work on if I ever record talking head videos again. Love your videos!

[@jordanthornton]

Beautifully said - acceptance is the one, and then developing from a compassionate place. I used to only be able to speak to camera for 60 secs at a time back in 2020. Skill can be learned!

[@dylanlawrenceholland3295]

lots of gems in this. ill have to rewatch a couple of times. learned the hard way about inauthenticity, low self worth, external validation etc.

[@jengriffy01]

Love self love being broken into self respect and self compassion. I’ve always leaned too far one way or the other and this is a beautiful frame for self love. ❤️

[@jordanthornton]

It’s one of my classics, and it seems to hold up in most situations - happy to have helped 🌲

[@reicem3840]

I've been a subscriber for a few months now and loving it! It seems your expertise is in psychoanalytic psychology but I imagine you have also read your fair share of ancient philosophy/psychology as well. Would love to see a video on the Stoics, Confucius, or other schools of self development. I appreciate the work you do!

[@jordanthornton]

Yes, I was big into philosophy and history before starting this psychology library project. Will look to integrate more of these schools in the future where possible - great suggestion 🌲

[@nielsebbesen7821]

This turned out to be just what was needed at this point in my life. Thank you!

[@jordanthornton]

Happy to have shown up on time! 🌲

[@BrittanyAMorrow]

Jordan great conversation and so good to hear you on film again! Thank you for this 🐝

[@jordanthornton]

Great to see you here, fun topic too.

[@Andrey-ey1mb]

Hello. Jordan, kinda off topic question, about Integral Theory. I remember Wilber's "Integral Meditation" book, and the practice of integral meditation itself proposed in it, but I would like to expand one compex topic. The practice is to be aware of some specific stage in ourselves, due to the fact that we know its qualities, and therefore we can determine it. Otherwise, we simply could not realize and transcend in ourselves what we do not know. What helps with this is that in the book Wilber talks about each of the stages (red - a sense of power, dominance and strength). But still, sometimes it feels like this is not enough to notice in yourself the entire spectrum of how a particular stage manifests itself. For greater completeness of understanding, it would be great if each specific stage were accompanied by links to books that would allow it to be better revealed and tracked more deeply within oneself. For example, as was the case in the book “No Boundary”, where books were offered for each level for a deeper study of the topic. What do you think about this? Perhaps you can suggest some books to study each of the stages?

[@jordanthornton]

That's a nuanced conversation for sure - the simplest approach would be physical, emotional, mental and spiritual layer healing. Wilber's sophistication is far more accurate, but it would likely be too dense for a KZbin audience who didn't know the theory!

[@kq8373]

This is gold! Thank you!

[@jordanthornton]

More on the way - yes, enjoy!

[@Heart-Core]

♥Well-founded topics, comprehensibly explained with a beautiful voice♥

[@jordanthornton]

I appreciate your enthusiasm for the conversation, but please don’t comment like this again calling me eye-candy. I don’t want to see comments like this here. Wishing you well nonetheless.

[@Heart-Core]

​@@jordanthorntonOk. I actually hesitated while writing it, so I already felt that it was not appropriate.

[@KundaliniKing42]

Proud of you little brother. Did we meet at one of Neil Kramers Seminars at the Omega Institute in New York State?

[@jordanthornton]

Never been to New York, but I’m sure that man must’ve been very powerful and charismatic 🤣

[@KundaliniKing42]

@@jordanthornton He was at about 400%. He's a British fella like yourself. Wife and I reading His and Her. We ordered every book we could find and afford from your reading list. Knights of the round table do a lot of reading. 😇

[@jordanthornton]

@@KundaliniKing42 Absolutely inspiring - love couples doing the work together, wishing you both the best. Thanks for taking this work seriously.

[@KundaliniKing42]

@@jordanthorntonI'm 43, Married 28 yrs. High School Sweetheart. My oldest son is 25. Raised 3 children. Soonsored, Mentored hundteds of men. All with a 7th grade education. Lots of experience. Experience requires education. Im an autodidact. Lack of knowledge caught up to me. Thank you young man for keeping on track. Read the books. Powerful message. So I am. Because transitioning into the second half of life is like being born again. And to really enjoy it. Tequires a well balanced individual. If you have Humility, Gratitude, Experience, Knowledge and Wisdom. Your 40's will be friggin awesome!

[@gailaltschwager7377]

Thank you, Jordan!

[@jordanthornton]

My pleasure!

[@theo8261]

great value video ❤

[@mohacherish9643]

Hi Jordan ❤ topic in the best time

[@jordanthornton]

Happy to be here in good timing - wishing you my best this week.

[@CupNoodleKitty]

For me everything seems pointless because I‘m not young anymore but not really old (late 30‘s).. so I live in a state where everything (health, looks, strength) is only downhill from now. I really don’t know where my motivation should come anymore

[@jordanthornton]

Check out my latest community post on retirement, there is plenty left to look forwards to.

[@sphblr3767]

thank you!

[@jordanthornton]

You are most welcome!

[@maciejsiedziako680]

Clickbait title, but thanks for self-respect + self-compassion talk, and the gap concept explained.

[@jordanthornton]

Seems to be doing nicely - bait the click and deliver the deeper value in the video itself. Likewise wish I could give more nuanced titles but KZbin aint the place for that game, sadly. Hope you appreciated it.

[@rshicks256]

❤

[@jordanthornton]

🌲✌🏻

[@dovidschwartzberg475]

First 😉

[@jordanthornton]

That’s 200% increase to self esteem right there 🏆

[@cassetterelics]

The title screams after the last one video, 'Dark Side of KZbin Therapy.' Still, content is very helpful, despite the title's contribution to a four-hundred-percent increase in views. I appreciate the plot twist and dark humor. satire on KZbin, joy as resistance.

[@jordanthornton]

This whole space is an endless joke with moments of tragedy and hopefully healing too. Appreciate you noticing.