Hoarding disorder - what’s the psychology behind it?

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Prof Jessica Grisham explains the psychology behind the hoarding disorder.
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@ivy_caine5302 11 ай бұрын

I can not deal with hoarding. I come from from a family of hoarders, it’s absolutely traumatizing for children!

@Rose-db6bx 6 ай бұрын

I can relate I hate it so much

@happychick94 6 ай бұрын

It's a stuff-addiction...... the hoarding will always have first priority in their life, they will always choose their hoarding over their child's well being and safety....... It's just like having a parent who is a drug addict, if they can't admit they have a problem then the best thing to do is steer clear of them as they will only drag you down with them........... It's so hard for psychologists to understand that, because they haven't lived it. They think hoarders are normal people with a little ocd, but they aren't they are full-blown addicts.

@kaiparker2658 5 ай бұрын

I am a hoarder...i doesn't like to let go of silly things like chocolate wrappers,covers, plastic bags,boxes, soft drink bottles,clothes, envelope, clothes etc... recently i realized this is a disorder...i have this habit of developing an emotional connection with things..I'm just 22 years old...what should i do...how will i cope up with this

@Mouli-sy8hd 3 ай бұрын

I can totally relate to you 🥺

@jsabri6324 Ай бұрын

@@kaiparker2658Sweetheart, I'm so sorry no one has answered you yet. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has been very successful for many who struggle with attachments to things. A good therapist can help you heal from this. I wish you every blessing ❤

@ErichRaeder Жыл бұрын

I’d argue hoarding is also connected to emotional abuse as well

@hauaus934 Жыл бұрын

I FEEL like this is true. My mu was emotionally abused her whole married life and and she hoards so badly 😢

@movingforwardfco1587 9 ай бұрын

It can be.

@LisaG442 5 ай бұрын

They never discuss this. It must be taboo or they’re over analyzing it to give themselves more self importance

@roseskyschmolesky Ай бұрын

I agree. I know two hoarders. Both suffered some level of emotional abuse from mothers. However one told me his father was a doctor and the home was kept clinically clean and tidy like a surgery, and I the he was unconsciously rebelling against that. He was sent to boarding school at an early age, perhaps to keep the house clean and tidy … lol

@marklimbrick 2 жыл бұрын

This is a bit of a muddle description. Basically, we all have attachment to our family photos. Old newspapers for hoarders generate the same emotions. Reasons could be displacement of loss in life and the rubbish is a substitute comfort. Hoarders understand this and want help because of the shame. But cure is combined therapy and learning skills to manage emotions.

@GirlJay67 Жыл бұрын

I don't even have family pictures. Where am i supposed to store them? 8 who even wants to look at them?

@user-bw2zt5jd9u 9 ай бұрын

@@GirlJay67Right. Somehow I ended up with all our family photos and they are taking up room in my shed. Too many possessions gives me anxiety!

@user-js6ch1mf8g Жыл бұрын

Everything is a memory they hoard. And have ptsd.

@kaiparker2658 5 ай бұрын

@user-rj1vj5wk9f 5 ай бұрын

same

@KenMalia-xr7jn 3 ай бұрын

Hi Kai, my disorder was triggered by a shock, my dear Uncle committed suicide when I was 21 years old, he was the father figure in my life, have you had a trauma in your life? I was married to a narcissist for 25 years , I felt very insecure with him, he lacked empathy, we eventually got divorced as he met a woman he wanted to be with, many years later I met a man who loves me for myself and we are now married, he helps me with my OCD hoarding.

@roseskyschmolesky Ай бұрын

I wonder if it’s a form of control… they have an inability to let go and surrender so they hold onto everything, in the same way an anorexic controls through not eating.

@gracereyes2857 20 күн бұрын

Watch Marie Condos show and walk around clean minimalist rooms and imagine yourself being free and how nice it is to be free from all the trash

@apotheticallyautistic73 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@biancaiyo6866 4 ай бұрын

I became a hoarder as I grew older and I think it has to do with me being neglected with material things as a child.

@BarrocoTarot 7 ай бұрын

I have lot of books and I can't let them go😭😭😭

@Rose-db6bx 6 ай бұрын

How many ? I have 20 and I already thing I'm going wild but my desire to have books is killing me

@BarrocoTarot 6 ай бұрын

@@Rose-db6bx I have more than 200 books and my apartment...

@Rose-db6bx 6 ай бұрын

@@BarrocoTarot you added a 0 to my number huh 😭 well if you have some books you didn't like and never opened them again maybe you can give them to a lybrary this way you can have more space and the books will be safe but it's just my suggestion but be careful if you don't have space even to walk that is a real problem if you can get a bigger place maybe you can have a whole ly bybrary that would be awesome!!!

@BarrocoTarot 6 ай бұрын

@@Rose-db6bx Yes, totally agree. I discovered I have a hoarder disorder and some of the books are rare and difficult to find I mean is not about the money is about te link but you are right I have to do something.

@Rose-db6bx 6 ай бұрын

@@BarrocoTarot rare books!!! Their like diamonds so I don't blame you i would do the same take care of them.

@LisaG442 5 ай бұрын

Why isn’t childhood trauma ever discussed in hoarding disorder? Especially sexual abuse and emotional abuse. Ppl who hoard are the same as alcoholics and drug abusers .. mentally damaged and seeking escape from their pain. Instead of over analyzing like you just did, why not ask the hoarder “what happened to you?”. Then get them the appropriate help.

@MaleOrderBride 8 күн бұрын

Uh, we are not professional therapists?! We don't know how to ask those tough questions! Ugh, every Hoarder I know is a massive narcissist like this: blaming everyone around them for "not asking the right question"...when the hoarders clutter is impacting the lives of their loved ones around them!?😢

@susanneashton1340 Жыл бұрын

Hoarding bags of household rubbish, second hand clothing, broken chairs and laundry baskets. There is no emotional attachment, but an inability to dispose-of. They don't like or enjoy the smelly clutter, from sll appearances.

@MintuDebbarma-nu1po 2 ай бұрын

I quit my father because of severe hoarder...

@gems8582 Жыл бұрын

Also hoarding disorder is closely related to ocd.

@francyl4pin 11 ай бұрын

Fact

@JensBrobergNr 8 ай бұрын

The difference is that most people with ocd know they have a disorder. Most hoaders don't

@Ell-Zan 16 күн бұрын

Yg kesini gara2 ibu kos👌

@rosie6 29 күн бұрын

I wanna leave

@altpotus6913 6 ай бұрын

Billionaires are hoarders...

@Not-Ap 2 ай бұрын

Yes but hoarding and multiplying money has few downsides. In fact it's really one of the few things worth hoarding that help you and rest of your family live. A truckload of unopened toilet paper rolls (as a example) comparatively has less value or ability to help you or your loved ones survive.

@altpotus6913 2 ай бұрын

@@Not-Ap Sure, but it doesn't help humanity in general.

@WendyJones-zx7is 2 ай бұрын

This is a disorder or better put a DIS EASE ? These sad people are not at ease ? Its all junk or rubbisn to us ! To them its an extention of them ! Who they are ? Its theirs , they own it ! Its a mess ypto us ? But the hoarder knows exactly where everything is kept

@richardswartz296 3 жыл бұрын

So what if you collect from your life are you a hoarder???? I think they make hoarding serious because people want other people's things

@butterblixplayz5311 Жыл бұрын

I have it and its not just collecting i cant get myself to even throw away stuff like broken pens and get very bad anxiety when sharing things

@richardswartz296 Жыл бұрын

@@butterblixplayz5311 then dont throw it away then. There is no law that says you half to throw things away. If it has meaning to you keep it if you wish too.

@butterblixplayz5311 Жыл бұрын

@@richardswartz296 my room look like junk yard

@richardswartz296 Жыл бұрын

@@butterblixplayz5311 its your room it can look how ever you want it to look & doesn't matter what anyone thinks

@butterblixplayz5311 Жыл бұрын

@@richardswartz296 i dont like room lokkin like junk yard and cant help it plus family thinks im selfish for not donating these things

@gijose83 3 ай бұрын

It's a selfish disorder

@Not-Ap 2 ай бұрын

Yes but it's driven by fear of extreme loss. When you've nearly loose everything and I mean EVERYTHING especially at a young it can frighten you to the core.

@WendyJones-zx7is 2 ай бұрын

No not so much selfish ? That's because you can't understand the psychology of the DIS EASE ? That's just your own opinion ? Rubbish to us ! Important to the holder though its an extention of their emotions ! Like an hamster buried in its cage because it feels safe ? Things are not as black and white in life ? Look deeper

@rosebud1493 Ай бұрын

Mostly hoarders stuff is crap no one else would want.

@kookamunga2458 10 ай бұрын

I think the best thing to do is invite the hoarder somewhere away for a day or so and have the cleanup team sneak in while they're out and remove the entire contents of the house and send it all too the dump .

@RadCenter 10 ай бұрын

That's actually the worst thing you could do for a hoarder. Not only would it traumatize them; they would never trust you again and they would re-hoard the space faster than you emptied it.

@kookamunga2458 10 ай бұрын

@@RadCenter You are right but removing one or two items per day won't work either . My previous landlord was a hoarder and they had hoarded for years . My landlord ran out of room to store stuff in her house and started storing things in the apartment I was renting from her . She died and her stuff required eight 30 foot dumpsters plus a month long estate sale and her house was still crammed with things like peanut butter from 1963 and a years worth of canned food and booze which was given to me . Some good came out of it .

@phillipamchugh7455 9 ай бұрын

It's to do with control. A way of controlling your life and other people. Obsessive behaviour can manifest in many ways. Eating, drinking, gambling, and so on.

@rodenreyes6320 8 ай бұрын

Where do they lump money hoarders, a.k.a. multimillionaires and billionaires? ...money cannot be spent in several lifetimes.

@peach495 7 ай бұрын

This is very important to me. I may have a use for it one day, so I'm going to throw it on a pile of shit and continue to throw shit on top of it.

@flaggermillions-tg3ti Жыл бұрын

No excuse for for REFUSING to wash even one dish or throw used food in the trash. These people weren't disciplined as kids.

@jamesspalten5977 3 ай бұрын

So wrong....

@Stoviecakes 9 ай бұрын

This wasn’t useful so I’ll sum it up. Not all Narcissists Hoard, but every Hoarder is a Narcissist.

@TR-ru7tb 7 ай бұрын

I don't think so..people who have been financially depraved from their spouses and not allowed to have any controll over their paychecks become hoarders..id argue the ones abused may be hoarders most the ones i know are very loving people who were neglected

@happychick94 6 ай бұрын

Yes 100% correct, could not agree more!!! The narcissism is a huge part of the disorder!!!

@kaiparker2658 5 ай бұрын

@@happychick94how?

@Not-Ap 2 ай бұрын

That's not fair. Alotta people who hoard can be highly empathetic but so much of their own emotions.