Home Sweet Home - 1/3 - Raising Children

In this first part of 3 series, we explore a brief summary of the Islamic foundations of what a healthy family looks like, and by referring to the expert advice and research. We touch on the most important points of rights, obligations and healthy relationships within the family unit and relatives. Most of this information and advise is based on the Quranic principles and prophetic tradition applicable to the modern family.
0:00 Introduction
3:17 The concept of 'Rahim' (family ties) in Islam
9:46 Issues of control and ownership
21:20 Importance of extended family support
24:25 The dysfunctional family of 5 types
30:25 Rights of children
36:10 Prioritizing children over a career
39:27 Teaching children the Quran (www.quranera.com)
42:11 Treating your children equally
47:24 Importance of being a role model
55:12 Violating 5 human rights
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[@sstmmd6382]

@belal.assaad: Dear Sheikh, Please give us one talk of yours on the topic of Hijrah (kzbin.info/www/bejne/rpndZ4pvob9mmJY ). Do we have to leave Europe (born europeans, migrated to europe, revert europeans etc)? Because French ban the Abayah. Can you please give us Quran, Sunnah related one video, so that as not shcolar we can compare and take decision. Allahumma Barik.

[@uroojiqbal3194]

JazakAllah karann kaseerah 🤲🫡♥️💐🍀

[@mirtabish5997]

assalamualaikum

[@yh8985]

may Allah bless you sheikh😁i am only 15 years old and you have helped throughout my sadness and pain so may Allah grant you Jannah❤️

[@sabrinanawaz1845]

Ameen and for you also and for all the righteous Muslims striving to become better and better mumins.

[@yh8985]

@@sabrinanawaz1845 ameen☝️

[@shafaqathussain1676]

Ameen

[@ibtisamm2915]

May Allah strengthen your imaan and ease all your affairs, I'm a mother to a 15 year old and I know it's a tough world out there for you kids. Just hold onto the deen with pride and yes it is a struggle, but the Promise of Allah is eternal and khair awaits us. 😊

[@yh8985]

@@ibtisamm2915Jazakallahkhiran 😊 may Allah bless you and your child😁

[@marwaaltamimi8230]

Brother Belal, I check your channel so many times in the day for new uploads, I love listening to you, your topics are unique, your clarity is impeccable, your eloquence is impressive, and your delivery is on point every time! I don’t usually comment but I wanted to let you know how much we’ve benefiting from you, and I hope you keep creating amazing content, Jazak Allah Khair.

[@TaMiMS1]

Absolutely 💯 could not agree more 🤲🏼 beautifully said ♥️

[@shaikummesalma4077]

Totally agree

[@nahidabooko1446]

Mashalla , I made so many mistakes in parenting may Allah guide our young parents

[@Mbelinweseh]

Aameen Ya Allah

[@shaikummesalma4077]

I agree

[@sabrinanawaz1845]

Through our dysfunction..May we find clarity, , healing, enlightenment, compassion for others... a softer heart..and nearness and closeness to Allah swt... May we connect through our brokenness... and have a deeper, more meaningful soul journey back to our original state...before we return to our creator.... He swt ordained and His swt wisdom is such that if we accept it was the best for us...we can enjoy the journey through the wilderness into the light... into the mercy and compassion that is only with Allah swt... once we experience the love and compassion from Allah swt...that's a love story to take us beyond what we could have known or experienced without the hardships and circumstances that were chosen for us...

[@Lilli-London]

Ameen ❤

[@kip1622]

Alhamdulillah for this video, thank you, brother. I am 20 years old male, unmarried but this was very enlightening. But one main request I have for these videos is to share more sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (AWS), and maybe focus more on what TO do and less time on bad family dynamics. I am recently Muslim (as of June 2023) and love to hear hadith and how the Prophet Muhammad (AWS) treated children. Thank you and may Allah guide your tongue to True guidance. Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem. ❤

[@suzannajmeddine2087]

May Allah SWT Bless you with a righteous spouse and righteous children 🤲🏻

[@MysticYusha]

Yess this! What we learn from the sunnah is important!

[@Live20023]

listen to the entire video he said base on hadith

[@Girly_.]

I think the channel free quran education might help you check it out❤️

[@Lifewithsherifa-32]

Me as a mother of 3 and about to have another in just 2 weeks In Shaa Allah, I love this video so much, my children are young oldest is 8 years, and as a Matter of fact am so proud of me and my husband as we are doing well with most mentioned above, and we are going to continue with the puberty sides mentioned above to In Shaa Allah. Walahi am very happy and proud of us. May Allah help us parents to be able to take care of these amaanah( children)Allah has entrusted to us till Jannah. May Allah bless and protect our children ❤. Thank you Sheikh Allah bless you and your family Am addicted to this page and am glad I am. Alhamdulillah

[@lodiraisa]

Quran recitation timestamps: 2:30 Surah Ar-Ra’d verse 21 4:50 Surah Muhammad verses 22-23 15:00 Surah ‘Abasa verse 34-37 ☘🌼☘🌼☘

[@mtjfans]

May ALLAH(ﷻ) enlighten all mankind with the religion of Islam, Ameen 🤲 ❤🌹🕋 .... .... .....

[@adinasauranbay4529]

Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatuLlahi wa barakatuh! Jazakallahu khair ustaz! May Allah bless you for your gentle and kind way of teaching, which is so important, but rare nowadays

[@hawwaahmed772]

Hope to one day visit Australia with my children, so they can interact and be impacted by your wisdom.

[@sasl5047]

JazaakhAllah sheikh Belal …domestic issues lectures are much much needed nowadays JazaakhAllah

[@shaziarashid15]

Asalaamu alikum Family is a beautiful bond Unfortunately today issues like disputes,, divorces r common nowadays which hampers healthy environment and has lasting impact on the ones who got affected.

[@moonface79247]

SubhanAllah! What a wonderful lecture. جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرًا

[@sabrinanawaz1845]

SubhanAllah... Alhamdulillah.. A few months ago just as you began your own channel... your video was constantly coming infront of my eyes...I started listening and benefiting...and have continuously been gaining answers and enlightenment to help me navigate through life. Your delivery is beautiful and you helped me during a difficult time.. Alhamdulillah.. Your talks are very well structured, the way you explain everything and connect it back to Quran and sunnah and the prophets is inspiring and relevant. The way you connect with your audience is the perfect balance of empathy and understanding the needs of your audience and you councell in the manner of a concerned, compassionate humanitarian that truly wants goodness for each and everyone of us. The gentleness and kindness is appreciated and necessary. May Allah increase you in goodness in every aspect of your life and akhirah ...Ameen

[@Lilli-London]

Ameen❤

[@temilolaolatunji5703]

AAMIN

[@mss4346]

Jazakum Allah kheyran cheikh Belal. It's because you have such valuable experience with children and in the western society that I always get back to your lectures listening to each tipp or advice you might give for the children education. I have even used some of them with my own allhamdellah and it helps a lot. May Allah bless you for all your efforts and generosity and bless all your beloved ones. Please do not stop these lectures, our Ummah needs that in the western society more than ever

[@lodiraisa]

Agreed!

[@viateurniragira3633]

ALLAH bless our loved Shekh Bilal Assad.

[@tamqass7786]

May Allah SWT shower his blessings on you and your family and loved ones InshaAllah. Thank you for all the amazing work you are doing. May Allah SWT keep you safe, healthy and successful InshaAllah in this world and the hereafter ❤

[@moniaabukhadra9884]

I appreciate your lectures. “The End” series is very informative, my favourite! It’s pleasing how you put parents especially mothers at ease when placing their children on top of their priorities list (if there’s no pressing needs not to) and not being seen as an alien or a Stone Age mom with her backwards thinking! Bless your thoughts!

[@fallenvolt]

May Allah reward you abundantly brother Assad. Please never stop sharing these lectures with us 🤲🏼 ❤

[@uroojiqbal3194]

Assaalamoalykum luv to listen to you 😇 Allah make it easy for all of us to follow the path of Islam Ameen jazakumullah khair 🫡🍀♥️

[@uroojiqbal3194]

SUBHANALLAH BEAUTIFUL QIRAAT 😇👌🤲♥️ Feels like I’m hearing in Jannat InshaALlah hu wataala 🤲

[@amirahchuu]

This is a very informative lecture! Very useful for future parents as well. Jazakallah khair Sheikh. Looking forward for the part 2 insya Allāh😊

[@SumaiyaSultana00]

Note to Myself: 1. Please Your Parents the way you have made them cry. 2.When they reach their old age, Don't say Uff to them (Uff- Least form of irritation. Don't ever let them know you are irritated by them) 3. Never disrespect them 4. Continue to be "KIND" to them. 5. Show IHSAN with them (Ihsan- being nice without expecting anything at all in return) 6. Be Extra Generous to them. 7. Fulfill their needs and nourish them the way they nourished you.

[@smhzenis2417]

Whatever said over here are so true. My parents are toxic. They prefer my sister over me and she abuses me. They listen to her and oppresses me. I have mental trauma and I have low self esteem, constant depression. My age is around 40. It's always a struggle to deal with outside cutthroat world. My parents always talks negative to my relatives and they share my private everything. Relatives always misbehaves. They use religious texts and whenever I mention the right things, they completely ignores. My father has money and he deprived us from the assets. The cycle of oppression is continuing. I am not married and I don't want this cycle to continue in my next generation.

[@yasmines.k.n9058]

i'm so sorry to hear you're going through this, may allah bless you with ease and peace of mind and guide you to the right path. Amen

[@zeynepazman9785]

Elhamdülillah beautiful informative teachings Islam elhamdülillah ❤

[@Maryam-xc7ww]

جزاك الله ألف خير يا شيخ.

[@jabinislam8624]

Assalamu alaikum Shaykh...jazak allah fod this much needed series. Family life has become so disrupted and remote from the teachings of Islam. This series is something vital for us to watch and learn from, i will forward this to my sons to watch...may Allah guide us all on the right path. Ameen

[@AzaliyaSan]

Barakallah for your wisdom and reminders ❤

[@allhealingcomesfromallaah]

Jazak Allaahu Khayran Allaahumma Aameen to all the Duas!

[@thebecomingher]

This was beautiful

[@ImanIslam01]

I’ve been raising my 3 kids all on my own for about ten years Alhamdulillah their all grown up now but let me tell you it’s the hardest thing to do in life… I look at it as a test from Allah (swt)…😊

[@zahaidahannif3662]

As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barkatuhu, Jazak Allaah Khairan

[@hasoonai7124]

Jazak Allahu khairan Sheikh Very much needed series

[@LilLion1818]

Yayyy, new video 🎉 alhamdullilah. You help me so much, Mr. Assad. May Allah bless you.

[@jowadahmed732]

Jazakallah brother !

[@ns9217]

Thank you so much for all your amazing lectures! I have listened to every single one of your videos and have learned so much! I think you are one of the most genuine, sheikhs; ustaad . I love the connections that you make and do not deviate from the Quran and Hadith; and keep it practical and relevant . May you be rewarded for teaching us and continue to be blessed with knowledge and good health to continue to share with us ! 🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲

[@mejganm05]

Such a great topic. Thank you dear brother 🤲🏻🙏🏼

[@blivixn6063]

wallah his channel is so helpful. May Allah bless you brother ❤

[@user-se8qb9ck3i]

Jezzakum ALLAH kulu khair jezza

[@sadiasaghir2965]

Jazak Allah Khair

[@rukhsanapatel7695]

As a foster parent to many Muslim children it’s sad to see how much this generation has deteriorated…

[@asiyahmuhammad9084]

Masha Allah jazakallah khair

[@nirmala5682]

Mashallah brother

[@AmatulKareemSameena]

JazakAllah Sheikh for your content, this helps us a lot! Great reminder & lessons of how to bring barakah in our lives/ homes. May Allah swt reward you for your efforts and looking forward to more of such topics from you.

[@SAFAWUSEIDU-ld8ju]

Jazakallahu khair Sheikh am grateful

[@CC-hx7lj]

Very beneficial Tabark Allah ya sheikh. Allahouma bareek.

[@nbukvic]

Wonderful advice Sheikh

[@rayinwiji5574]

Thanks syeik 😢

[@YATE0]

Shekh Selamu Aleykum, we need a full Quran rezitation with your voice please

[@rosanagulzar]

Brother, only Allāh knows how much you are benefitting us. Jazāk Allāhu khairān. A request please, please also speak about taking care of elderly parents and the fitnahs associated with that. Some of us are tested through our parents. Would love to hear words of advice on how to navigate our ways and still take care of them despite the challenges. Jazāk Allāhu khairān again.

[@unpredictablecreature2459]

Lots of love from Kashmir

[@sabrinanawaz1845]

Thankyou...Allah bless you too much.. This helped so much..

[@user-hm8zf7cu3v]

Salamu alaikum. Can we suggest topics? Cymatics and its connection on why Allah (swt) had decreeded that music is Haram. Your knowledge and ability to articulate and tie eveything back to Islam (Quran and Hadiths) are immaculate 🤲 thank you

[@handinurpalah4986]

Assalamu'alaikum Warohmatullohi Wabarokaatuh.. Thank you for the lectures Ustadz Asaad. Brothers and Sisters please make du'a for me and my wife to have children 😇🤲 Wassalamu'alaikum Warohmatullohi Wabarokaatuh

[@Lifeisbutanillusion]

Mashallah there is something so tranquil and father-figure-like about you, I could listen to you all day. Jazak Allah Khair for all your efforts and sharing your knowledge. Do you do any Qur'an recitations online that we can listen to? Your recitation style is so beautiful mashallah.

[@bibisalarbux6357]

Assalam walikum May AAllah Bless for your wonderful speech 🤲❤❤❤

[@faheemGood.]

☪️🌎ALHAMDULILLAH❤️

[@LilLion1818]

Please more parenting videos for parents-to-be 🙏🙏🙏

[@user-bw6si1gl5h]

Salam alaikum

[@adinasauranbay4529]

Assalamu aleikum! To which email address we can send questions to ustaz?

[@n.mounir]

Shaykh please do a lecture on Tawheed and Shirk!

[@lisamohammed-irvine5733]

Assalamu alaykom wa rahma'tullah wa barakatuh, it can be very difficult for reverts to islam, we can try to keep good ties, but with non-muslim family can be so averse to our embracing of islam and become distant and deny our relationship. I still try, and still buy gifts and send shopping to my mother and brothers, but really, I am very distant, it can be incredibly difficult, brothers walk out of the back door as i walk in the front door, have grief intermittent contact, and on top of that, being treated as a 'pretend' muslim by other muslims, can leave us feeling so very isolated. It can be incredible to realise that Alhamdulillah I have Allah, but Alhamdulillah ala kulli hal, there is no deep menaingful relationship with another adult.

[@mjakabir]

🤲

[@lisal440]

Dang, my family is dysfunctional on all possible categories…..

[@user-up9rf3nw2i]

You're not alone. It's more common than you think.

[@sabrinanawaz1845]

It's very common and needed addressing. Healing is beautiful... Ask Allah swt for healing... It would be so good to have a follow up lecture on healing beyond the dysfunctional family traumas.

[@KafiaSara]

Salaam Shaykh, is there a way I can contact you regarding a highly confidential and urgent matter?

[@newlife-newlook]

part 2 where can i found?

[@LilLion1818]

Not uploaded yet :)

[@achaudhry5252]

This does not apply to those people who destroy their own children or siblings - i would like to know more about that

[@ikhan3601]

Maashaallah very good podcast.. Just curious as to how you navigate keeping children safe from the influences of non Muslim grandparents and aunts. Also, what do do you do if you find your wife has mental disorder and is almost always screaming at kids and for you to say anything you risk being called a control freak or losing your wife and kids whom will move into a non Muslim family in a village where their are no Muslims or masjids

[@razamughal9095]

Shouldnt have been dumb enough to not marry a pakistani.

[@user-lx7zb2kk6e]

What about if you always study and pray you always read your Quran and at the end you feel your exam your parents will be mad at you what are you going to do

[@asmak8180]

What do you do as an adult, when those things were done to you as a child, and it affects your adult life?

[@textbox6648]

Belal assaad

[@maxmorris4562]

5:20

[@baybeefaat]

Not every mother can afford to stay home. In many western countries, 2 salaries are needed to survive.

[@aishaamore7295]

I want to ask sheikh if u can please do a topic on muslim men marrying non muslim women and the rulings of that....there has been a social media trend going around of some people wont mention their names stating >> its halaal for muslim men to marry non muslim women but its haraam for a muslim woman to marry non muslim men......i really need closure on thos precisely the reason being in this very lecture your stating that islamic upbringing begins at home with the mother basicly right?.....how can a Christian woman teach her children about islam if she doesnt believe or follow even though the father is muslim himself.....please coz i and im sure alot of misguided men need closure

[@biglockjoker6259]

Ok. I have a question. Abrahim was married to his half-sister, was his marriage haraam?

[@mariamhaffejee7584]

Assalamu Alaikum Sheikh, i wanted some advice. What does a girl do if her mother and brothers gets her son in law arrested on false accusations of rape, of daughters child from her first marriage. Does she still keep in contact with her family members? Her husband who was cleared of all chargers insisted on her family and daughter never visiting their home, though she is welcomed to go visit her family alone without his kids that they had together. The granddaughter has said it was not the stepfather who raped her but it was consensual between her and her cousin brother. The son in law was locked up for 2 weeks and released. He says hes been through a very traumatic experience and he cant accept them anymore. Please advice how does the girl move on from this, does she still keep in contact or should she respect her husband's wishes ? The mother in law is also living with the ex husband of the daughter so basically her ex son in law and the granddaughter are living together so the girl doesnt want to go there because of the ex husband who wasnt even apart of the childs life for 9 years and it was the stepfather who raised the child for 9 years.

[@tasneemkauser]

How to survive with a narcissist mother specially when she reached 100 and making my life miserable 😢

[@hedaya-br6dd]

10:22 parents don't own their children 25:50 disorders, Bipolar ,borderline personality histronic

[@RudyAbdullah-ey1eg]

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[@RudyAbdullah-ey1eg]

Losyen mustajab maghrib jadi suami something from namamu know everything in baby pram imam Ghazali isu and innovation Dr Zubaidi Sudin don't understand international