Home Sweet Home - 3/3 - Spouses & In-laws

In this third part of 3 series, we look at the rights and duties of spouses between each other and the in-laws, and how we can all live in harmony.
0:00 Introduction
0:37 The importance of marriage
17:20 Rights and duties between spouses
36:46 Things a wife loves in a husband
39:36 Things a husband loves in a wife
43:23 What makes a woman unattractive to her husband?
44:35 What makes a man unattractive to his wife?
45:46 Mutual rights between spouses
52:41 Rights of the wife
1:05:40 Rights of the husband
1:06:54 The in-laws
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[@belal.assaad]

Those asking for reference to Hadiths about the prohibition of forced marriages: Bukhari (6968) and Muslim (1419) - ‘that the virgin and woman cannot be made to marry a until they are asked for their consent first’ Ibn Majah (1874) - story of the woman ‘Barirah’ forced to marry and complained the prophet pbuh.

[@zk321]

bilal i love you for the sake of allah , inshallah may allah preserve and guide us to be like the righteous predeccesors

[@c.cammilli8825]

The prophet.

[@taslimabano1536]

Plz Pray for me and my sister to get a married is this year because we are going already to old and we are belong from poor family we don't have any family support 😢امين

[@Maryam-xc7ww]

اللهم رزقهما زوجا صالحا يا رب العالمين

[@Idowu_Balogun]

May Allah ease your affairs and bless you both with the best of men. Ameen

[@juma821]

May ALLAH SUBHANNAHU WATAALA ACCEPT UR DUA INSHA ALLAH...ALLAHUMA AAMEEN

[@amatullah1510]

Ameen May الله grant you both and all the Muslims with a righteous spouse and children who will be the coolness of the eyes. Allahuma Ameen

[@bymaci]

Allah wil help u😊

[@LilLion1818]

Things everyone should know and learn from a very young age… Alhamdullilah. May Allah bless you for helping and informing us, Sheikh, to become better humans. 🌷

[@ibraheemjawneh8530]

Hello assalamualaikum dear if you interested can we share number but I’m 26

[@Mbelinweseh]

Ya Allah please make it easy on all married couples and guide singles to find their perfect match Aameen🙏

[@yasin48845]

Absolutely fantastic speech, I watched it because I felt some injustice in my marriage but now realise that I also have faults and I am man enough to rectify the most important relationship in my life. It’s literally the most important speech I’ve heard that impacts on our lives that respects everyone but puts them in there place.

[@dieynabadiallo5371]

Extremely important to know your rights and duty before getting married, it can avoid many regrets… Great series, jazakallahu khairan

[@kalungiasma1102]

Oh sheikh first of all may Allah's protection and guidance be upon you. I'm Asma from Uganda and you mentioning Uganda today really overwhelmed me that's why I decided to comment and thank you for dedicating your time here feeding us with just the best the world could ever give. May Allah bless you and I pray and hope I attend one or more of your sessions in person. Asalaam aleikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh

[@makashaddaad297]

Wa alaikum salaam warahmatu Llahi wabarakaatuh,

[@makashaddaad297]

Wow, nange nkawulidde. Hahahahaaaa,oba ani yasaba amahare gempanga namagi. Hahahaha

[@mohammedsalifu3523]

we would like to go with you...wa alaykum salaam

[@kalungiasma1102]

Naye Maka 😂😂😂

[@kalungiasma1102]

Muhammad salafi when do you hope to go?

[@shereelaasif2551]

Such a beautiful speech!! Allahumma barik Sheikh . I always look forward to listen to your speech !! May Allah reward u and ur family !! Ameen ya rabbal aalameen

[@purerred]

This was so informative!! Thank you Belal! 🤞🏾🙏🏾🤍

[@Topshood]

May Allah reward you for this lecture. Has a Nigeria🇳🇬 ,this is what Nigeria men should listen to.

[@shirazmohammed6132]

salam. this was a beautiful series. thank you Brother Belal

[@emiliehemamda8941]

Thank you for your videos they are such a big help, looking forward for more

[@hussainsharmin661]

They share everything on social media and later they will regret

[@etacel41uran98]

What a beautiful explanations! I love to listen to you all the time. May Allah bless you and your family! And May Allah gives you more health so you can continue to teach us more.

[@amirdiabe]

Thank you brother Belal, a very well articulated guide of marriage in Islam. Problem is a lot of people conflate cultural practices with reIslam did not make marriage black and white, but unfortunately we have some people who treat it that way, unfortunately we even have people with a platform propagating the wrong understanding of marriage, or people cherry picking certain teachings to forward their agenda of control or to put down men/women. This is one of the best guides to marriage I have come across, because it captures the true essence and form of marriage in Islam. Marriage is not about women running men dry and extorting them, nor is marriage about subjugating, controlling and abusing women. Allah has made marriage, that it can be beautiful, but that’s only if we love for the sake of Allah and follow the guide given to us in the Qur’an and by the prophet Muhammad (SAW).

[@TheOne-uc9rz]

Not sure about your schedule or if you’re still continuing stories of the companions, but please do a Umar ibn Abdelaziz RA episode. I have been eagerly awaiting that one 😊

[@AmatulKareemSameena]

JazakAllah sheikh for this series, for putting it out so well. This is very beneficial for us and our children iA

[@aissatasall2]

Machallah shayk I listened to all three parts and it was so enlightening, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with us. May Allah reward u ameen ❤❤

[@quranchannal5893]

Mashallah,, very beautiful and speech im soo glad for coming across this aazing vedio and I've been learned alot,, asa single gril that was a very helpful ,,,thank you very much, and plese keep it up doing amazing vedios,,

[@Muslimshelpingmuslims]

Asalamu Alaikum Sh. Belal! This was such a great series ,so beneficial. I truly wish there were sheikhs with your way of speaking in America. Your lectures are always ma shaa Allah so intriguing . May Allah SWT keep increasing your outreach to the ummah and May you and your family always be blessed.

[@barakahboutique2706]

Barak Allah May Allah swt reward u for ur time n beautiful efforts. MashAllah

[@Lifewithsherifa-32]

I love this series ❤❤❤Thanks Sheikh Allahuma Barik😊

[@ibrahimadrammeh3237]

Alhamdulliah I really love this episode thank you brother bilal.

[@mtjfans]

May ALLAH(ﷻ), grant us all the guidance to walk on the straight path.Ameen 🤲🌹❤🕋 ..... ..... .......

[@RaydaJ]

Subhanallah, May Allah grant you a special place in Jannah. Allah knew I needed to hear this lecture. Alhamdulliah.

[@fatimabouhajaessahli9775]

What the husband loves in his wife: 1. When she shows respect: she respects his leadership, respects that he's her protector and respects that he's her provider 2. When she looks good for him 3. When she appreciates his efforts and abilities 4. When she talks good of him to her family and his family 5. When she gives physical touches What the wife loves in his husband: 1. When he protects, defends and supports her. 2. When he listens to her and he talks to her 3. When he gives tender physical touches and he is gentle in general 4. When he compliments her and shows that he's interested in her 5. When he makes her feel secure and safe that he won't leave her and look for another woman

[@TheMunirah001]

Unfortunately in this age of phones, the listening and talking is no more. Before everyone attacks me, I experience it daily and my female associates also feel the same. I pray we are all guided and Allah protects our marriage. And trust me when I say I have a smile for him, fulfil his every need, look good for him and want to spend time with him. Allah protect us from the shaytaan.

[@jannatulmawameem3933]

Assalamu'alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh wahayatuhu wamaghfiratuh waridhwanuh wari'ayatuh wa'inayatuh. You are a gifted servant of Allah and a follower of Rasoolullah (S.A.W) with a very beautiful voice. As a muslim i am requesting to u please recite full Quran with your beautiful voice and upload in your channel so that we can hear it and learn from it. It's a request to a Muslim to another Muslim. .. .please don't say no. . PLEASE don't say no. .. please upload that before I die. I will wait for all the videos. Salam.

[@skbahati5233]

Jazakah Allah brother. Much 🤝🤝🤝🤍

[@dessy844]

... 58:17 lol it's okay Mr Belal... You can drop the F bomb 😂 i am joking,.. JazakAllah khair for the knowledge, i am here listening at work and thought of send few dollars for you or your digital team to buy a cup of coffee . Have a blessed Jumaah in down under- may Allah continues to bless us all ❤

[@learnerstv5839]

Nice ❤️

[@nimoahmedhassan3124]

Allahuma barik sheikh....i lov u for the sake of Allah swt from Somalia 💞❤💞

[@amirahchuu]

Alhamdulillah. I truly love listening to lectures like this. I, too, insya Allāh will be a future wife to someone🤲 i am very-very nervous hehe

[@bashirsani3810]

Really?

[@faiza2237]

Mashallah good speech

[@rosanagulzar]

Salaam Shaykh, Jazāk Allāhu khairān. So how do we deal with 'users' or I presume, you mean here, narcissists? By Islām. Useful knowledge in a world which glorifies individual needs.

[@lainie0715]

Alhamdulillah my husband is a righteous man. May Allah blessed all singles to have a righteous spouse❤

[@justworship0570]

Greetings from Dagestan ❤❤❤

[@LilLion1818]

I feel like Belal Assad is the answers to my duas 🥹🙏🏼 Thank you for helping us to understand our religion better!

[@Finefella]

👍🏾

[@nasraissaabdi2401]

Salam alaykum sheik, is there a marriage course you recommend? I think me and my husband would benefit from one. Thank you.

[@76naaz]

Search 5 pillars of Marriage by sister Haleh Banani. She has videos on KZbin too.

[@nasraissaabdi2401]

@@76naaz thanks

[@mohammedsalifu3523]

maashaa'Allaah, you are fortunate for you to have a husband. we are here struggling to finding one.

[@666happygirl2]

My husband said I had to be a Secret, he didn't want his family in Mauritania (AFRICA), to now he had married me, and then ASK me to put his name on my house. Then he wanted to meet ALL of my friends & family. He didn't want me to meet any of his family or friends. What does that sound like ? Well, I found out, oh yes.

[@fizarao6002]

I will rise my son like you inshaAllah. A fair man in relationship with Allah💛

[@scarpelli9114]

Quick question how is this channel growing so fast????? Is money behind that speed or perhaps knowledge???

[@TheOne-uc9rz]

First of all day say AllahumaBarek. Secondly this brother has been well known for a decade plus now and never had his own channel. So now that he finally has one in great quality with new episodes weekly, people want to benefit. He’s been doing this since I was a kid, you better recognise 💯

[@AllPraisebetoAllah60]

@@TheOne-uc9rzJazakAllahu khairan! Our ummah needs more people like you

[@AllPraisebetoAllah60]

@scarpelli114 It’s knowledge. We have been waiting for his channel for a while now

[@AA-co9oo]

Brother has also been on other channels which introduced us to him.. especially when he spoke of his loss of son and brother and how to survive that ordeal in good faith.. many people can relate to that pain.. MashAllah he is so eloquent and knowledgeable that people come and stay for more..

[@aira5829]

it's just the Sheikh's wisdom and the simplicity and passion with which he delivers the message.Alhamdulillah.

[@abdullahassaffah]

Fatima radiallahuanha the daughter of prophet salallahualayuwasallam lived with her husband and mother in law and they got along perfectly with each other living with in laws is not everyone's cup of tea some can handle others can't others don't have the ability to do so its not a blanket opinion thing

[@solacinglight7788]

Could you please provide reference to when Fatima ra lived with her mother in law?

[@abdullahassaffah]

@@solacinglight7788 It was narrated by Ali; “I said to my mother: Take care of bringing water and other errands for Fatimah, and she will take care of grinding flour and making dough for you.” [Majma az-Zawa’id] Ibn Hajar narrated in al-Isabah that ‘Ali said: A suit of brocade was given to the Messenger of Allah salallahualayuwasallam, and he said: “No, rather make them into veils and give them to the Fatimahs.” It was cut into four pieces: a headcovering for Fatimah the daughter of the Messenger of Allah salallahualayuwasallam, a headcovering for Fatimah bint Asad, a headcovering for Fatimah bint Hamzah and he did not mention the fourth These can be found with other references from the book ali ibn abi Talib by as Sallabi Unfortunately this isn't working for me now but you can find this online

[@Sas-rf9sy]

Brother, respectfully, the references no where mention they lived together under one roof. That is your personal interpretation of them. The first part simply talks about sharing some chores. That doesnt mean they live together. It could be more effecient that way and distributed among both houses later. The second is about gifting a suit which is then divided into pieces for all the ladies. Again does not prove them all living together. I have also never once seen these brought up in support of living together with inlaws in islamic fatwas or fiqh which is longstanding. It would be strange that the 1400 years of ihma'ah has somehow missed out on these references and forgotten to include them in their works and rulings. According to the authentic hadith collections like Bukhari, Muslim, Trimizi etc Ali was mainly raised by the prophet and his first wife and lived with them. Also we know that Fatima and Ali lived in a single room house. That is why, when one night the prophet came by, he did not step inside so to not interrupt Ali and Fatima being intimate or undressed etc but instead made them aware that he was outside waiting. Outside. It would be highly strange for ones bedroom to open put into the street unless that was the bedroom was the entire house. When Ali was due to marry Fatima, we know his home consisted of one room which was then decorated with the dowry the women had bought for him with Ali's money. The prophet had many daughters, and they all lived separately including Fatima. It's important to distinguish between culture and Deen instead of trying to fit cultural norms into Islam, even if unwittingly.

[@ImanIslam01]

I think u have answered everything.. Although it is obligatory for a women to be married some have circumstances that don’t allow us to be married as you said kids come first these days it’s very hard to let a man in when you have adults esp girls in your household. These circumstances make it extremely hard to have a public Marriage. As for social media this is 💯wrong. May Allah swt guide us all.

[@Sas-rf9sy]

Marriage is not obligatory in islam. It is recommended and Sunnah. That said if you have kids, you can always remarry with a man who also has kids. Similar circumstances can alleviate some of the issues you speak of. I know this is an issue particular to you sisters but you can still be a good parent while also having your own companion.If Allah wills it, don't deny yourself his blessings. But I understand your predicament and my advice is to always be vigilant and guard your children with hawks eye. May Allah make it easy for you.

[@yaseminarslan7190]

Can you please give the Hadith about forced marriages.

[@belal.assaad]

Bukhari (6968) and Muslim (1419) - ‘that the virgin and woman cannot be made to marry a until they are asked for their consent first’ Ibn Majah (1874) - story of the woman ‘Barirah’ with the prophet pbuh.

[@asiyahmuhammad9084]

​@@belal.assaadjazakallah khair

[@mulkiali7548]

Jazakallah brother

[@fathimanaz98]

Assalamu alaikum i have been goiing through this problem now and it's going to be in divorce so i need a clear clarity and need a solution so can u give councelling sir how can i contact you