Friendships in Adulthood // Season 4, Episode 4 | Honest Tea Talk

[@-God-Is1]

Such a powerful discussion. For me, I feel like female friendships are so tricky with trying to stay within the bounds of Islam. I’ve noticed so many women trying to bond via backbiting or exclusionary behavior or competition. Sometimes I think it’s easier to just be alone too

[@jewelssparks3648]

I have always wanted a muslim bestie 💕 . Unfortunately, that has yet to manifest. I'll keep my faith. InshaAllah, it will happen. I'm so glad Layinka mentioned having non-Muslim friends 🧡. My best friend is non-Muslim and has been an absolute blessing in my life.

[@aishahussain7437]

Inshallah Allah grant u a muslim bestie #currently team no friends here ❤

[@rehemahnakayima359]

I'm here😊

[@Princess_Zo]

Keep making dua, and keep an eye out. Be your best self because that’s how you can find her

[@rahmajallow2861]

You’ve hit the nail right on the head with the daily recitation of al-Baqara m’A! But the crazy thing is when you first start everybody you haven’t heard from in ages will start calling right before or around your recitation time so you can be distracted Subhan’Allah. Alhamdulilah 8 years of daily habit now and sometimes 3X in one sitting. Makes all the difference in the world. I would definitely recommend for everyone to make it a daily habit.

[@Afayanl]

I think as I get older, I think of friendship in terms of sisterhood than friendship. The nature of the relationship is one of wishing goodness for one another for the sake of Allah. I didn’t see things that way when I was younger, friendship was more for fun and a bit transactional.

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

Since there was too much wisdom on this episode, I want to share something I read today that can be appropriate for a show like honest tea talk and that is: "we mature by damage not by age". Lovely sharing that with you.

[@fatimaadamu6360]

Thank you for this❤

[@SS-cu8se]

Wow thanks for sharing this, it’s so true!

[@NusaybahP]

Y’a Rabbi, my soul is shooketh subhanAllah 😭 So beautifully delivered mashAllah 🥹

[@aasiyahryan-ali2473]

Assalaamu alaikum. I had to pause this for a moment and really digest what was being discussed, and I think I am going to re-listen. It is so healing to listen to what you all are saying, having gone through my own share of a broken friendship that I've had for years. The friendship will never be the same because I have seen behavior that really appalled me from muslim women. In addition to navigating these types of issues, the lack of accountability that comes with it as people usually cannot see their behaviors when they are emotionally charged. I could talk so about this topic, thank you for your discussion. May Allah bless you all soo much.

[@zainacassam585]

The way I relate to this is crazy. I think I'm in the stage of life where I'm transitioning out of the childhood friendships and into adulthood companionships with the people in my inner circle..and it's tough and confusing, but SubhanAllah, this has shed some light on the benefits of this shift and how it's ok...

[@aishahussain7437]

Such a stunning abayah, the one that is black with white design, 3 beautiful well spoken ladies enlightening us with this talk, as a 33 year woman with no friends, may Allah grant us all genuine, positive, like-minded friends that we enjoy each others company and accept us 100% for us with our flaws and imperfections ❤❤❤

[@Princess_Zo]

Assalamualaikum sister. May Allah grant you the beautiful pure friendship you desire

[@shakf7475]

Aameen

[@aishahussain7437]

@Princess_Zowa alaykum sister, ameen ❤ May Allah grant you the goodness you desire in this world and the hereafter ❤❤

[@PuloCham]

Maa Shaa Allah ladies this was a really great one. I can relate with all of you. Alhamdoulilah for getting to the level when you realize that Allah should be first before any human being ❤

[@yasmincheree]

Alhamduliah, this was a good episode!:) May الله bless us with good companions / friendships that constantly bring us closer to him!

[@Daniya7791]

Alhamdulillah! Allah knows what we need and when we need it. This discussion hit right on time.

[@aishahussain7437]

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[@saraharold3670]

I really think the lack of need for friendship comes from social media which fills the gap these days and doesn't require any effort from our part. Yet, Islam is built on relationships of the group, so really think we have to make the effort to cultivate our friendships and even acqaitainces for Allah. One of the best fields of friendships is within the family, siblings, aunts , cousins and of course good neighbours who are in your life all the time. Putting up with each others shortcomings is also a part of it and keeping Islamic boundaries in terms of respecting each others space and time.

[@aliceashlyn3135]

Thank you ... I am so lonely after losing all my friends because I was the first one to get married and have kids. Sometimes I felt it was unfair that they were bonding and hanging out and growing thicker as friends whereas I was stuck at home changing diapers and never having an adult conversations or connection with female friends!

[@friyaivy3818]

I am lonely too. I moved to a new country after marriage and here I am completely alone. And nothing to do all day. Just feel like I have no purpose anymore. Just eat, cook, and sleep. All days are the same, and it feels like living the same day over and over. My husband doesn't talk to me either. He's always too busy and occupied

[@AmatuAllah_777]

Ladies this is the best time to get closer to Allah and get to know our deen! I have been learning so much and reading so much that I can’t put the Quran or books down Alhamdulillah and I would have never started if I didn’t get married and have all this alone time. May Allah make it easy on All of us

[@JemimahD]

Insha'Allah doors to new friendships will start to open as your children get older, and you'll meet people in a similar phase of life as you. You're exactly where Allah wants you to be, and this phase will pass, Insha'Allah. Enjoy your time with your kids when they're small. You'll miss them being small, and the friendships you're missing out on won't matter.

[@ibtisaamsheekh1588]

@@friyaivy3818 Assalamu Aleykum I know this feeling. I was there many years ago as a newlywed. My advice would be see it as something positive. Allah swt has given you so much time to reflect and to better yourself. Learn the Quran and memorise it. Learn the Arabic Language and understand the Quran through Tafsir. Work on your relationship with Allah and I promise you things will become so much better . ❤

[@Princess_Zo]

@@JemimahDlovely advice sis jzk

[@aishad21]

MaashaAllah; I resonated deeply with this episode however, I really appreciated Sumayah's insights on this topic. Jazak Allah Khairan.

[@Yasmin-pj2ek]

Love your Chanel and missed you guys. The more closer am getting to closer Allah the more am loosing interest in meeting my friends and socialising and even stop talking to a few which is odd for me as I love engaging is this a sighn from Allah? Allah knows best ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@hyrunnisa997]

If you really want to make friends bumble BFF has been a god send for me. I have met 3 lovely ladies on there and one has become one of my best friends and she is so caring and kind and we have so much in common. She is not Muslim but she has faith and we connect on so many levels. Sometimes we have to proactive when cultivating relationships in our lives.

[@ikramibrahim535]

I 100% agree with you.. we have to be proactive too, great reminder and may Allah swt strengthen your drive to succeed in this dunya and the hereafter ameen! ❤

[@HA-vc5dl]

Loved this episode, thank you sisters. May Allah swt give us what we need, and enable us to love moderately.

[@aishahussain7437]

Ameen sis ❤

[@Princess_Zo]

Ameen

[@aishad21]

Love moderately, indeed. Allahumma Ameen

[@museaweys8825]

I live with myself and I enjoy it

[@xhevrijebeluli4565]

I would say that choose friends who allow you to be yourself around Around 30s is when you find your people ❤ And some friends are supposed to end Allah is our best friend & may Allah bring us people who we are good for me and I am good for them I am at a point now that I am not shocked when friendships need to end because I know that in jannah we will reunited with them all inshallah

[@aishahussain7437]

Yes currently team no friends, May Allah grant us genuine, positive, kind, like-minded souls that accept us with our imperfections and genuinely enjoy each others company ❤

[@aisham1057]

SubhanAllah! 🤍 Friends come/ friends go, keep the ones that reminds you of الله and staying on the straight path. 🖤 لا اله الا الله

[@amanysal2678]

Powerful discussion, with so much to reflect on. Thank you.

[@mehakkhan4758]

A beautiful discussion indeed ....i always wanted a muslimah to be "my person" but was surrounded by non-Muslims friends ....at every stage in life we evolve and so do friendships and its true as we grow old the lesser people we need

[@aishahussain7437]

Agree 100% ❤

[@Weekend845]

Wow I couldn’t even tell you guys have children over 20!! Masha’ Allah! I hope I look as young as you guys when I have kids that age

[@GinjaFajr]

This isn't spoken about enough. Long term/deep friendships when ended sometimes require grieving. Ive been lonely since giving birth... it's like 1 by 1 all of my so called friends just dropped out. It was insane. Its been a few years and I'm at a point where i know that Allah is deliberate in what He does subhanahu so i know this isolation im feeling has been orchestrated to turn to Him. Friendships are so fickle these days sadly.

[@aishahussain7437]

May Allah grant you kind-hearted genuine friends that stay with you till the end inshallah #33 and no friends

[@fatoumataouattara2059]

SoubhanAllah, Allah knows how much I needed to ear this talk. Alhamdoulilah it's like you prepare this talk just for me. very great talk. Thank you Ya Allah I found answers to many questions I had. May Allah bless you sisters.

[@samarelsilmani]

MashaALLAH ! Such a perfect episode :)) I really enjoyed watching this and it touched my heart deeply! Jakaum Allahu Khairan Ya Akhawat :))

[@HeartandSabrPodcast]

I loved this episode ❤ I really relate to the idea that friendships change over time and how quality in your friendships becomes more important as you get older😊 and as always I love the imaan boosting conversation ❤

[@Shabzana]

I've never needed anyone in my life alhamdulillah, but as ive gotten older ive realized i want a MAN, some of us want that companionship from the opposite sex, becuase were busy grinding, we go so hard for others and just wish someone would say im yours. single mum, this podcasts hit had.

[@Majeedigital]

Amazing 🤩 amazing wallah great episode. Masha Allah

[@SadieYaz]

Thank you ladies for this episode. May allah reward you. Ameen ya rabbi. May allah give us righteouscompanions .

[@farhiya5943]

Well done masha'allah, just I what I wanted to hear as I was wondering about friendship myself. Jazakallah khair.

[@aishahussain7437]

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[@user-sl7fj8zi6e]

Thank you @honestteatalk for discussing the topic of adult friendships. I find that this topic seems to be oversaturated in the non-Muslim spaces on TikTok and KZbin. But not many talk about it from an Islamic perspective. I loved Aaliyah’s point on wanting companionship more than a friend ship as she gets older; closely tying in with Sumayah’s point that there needs to be depth and safety for a close meaningful friendship. I absolutely loved Layinka’s point that unfortunately some people do not have this privilege of having a good friendship which meets one’s emotional needs, especially if they are already lacking this in other platonic or romantic relationships. However, I do have one constructive criticism though (I pray I don’t cause offence and speak out of turn). I find that when Layinka and Sumaya share their opinion, Aaliyah might interject and disagree. I know this is a discussion and we can agree and disagree. But I find this may be dismissive of their contribution. I don’t know if this is me reading too much into it. Maybe asking follow-up questions or adding your opinion to show a different perspective and interpretation may be more effective. Apologies if this causes any offence. ❤

[@FamaJobe-t3s]

Jazak Allah khair ❤❤❤

[@aishahussain7437]

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[@chicmama8109]

I love you sisters fisabilillah❤ May Allah guide and protect you

[@ikramibrahim535]

Jazakallah khair, this was beautiful. ❤

[@saadaelmi6634]

I’m so excited for this episode well done girls ❤

[@aishahussain7437]

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[@user-cg1my7zm7n]

I think this is a very healthy and beneficial topic for Muslimahs! Jazk khair for the wisdoms❤

[@aishahussain7437]

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[@aminaali3773]

Ma shaa Allah Allahumma barik another wonderful episode. May Allah preserve you sisters. I am super excited to watch next week's episode. In shaa Allah.

[@ellaina3207]

19.20 Onwards, thank you! JazakomAllahu khairan!

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

Even before fully watching the episode; thank you so so much for who you are, for what you present, and for the beautiful presence and ambiance that you provide for the Ummah. Jazākumullahu khayran!

[@Princess_Zo]

Jazakumullah khayran ❤ This made me think of my best friend who introduced me to you all ❤

[@shankaronmohammed6182]

Thank you all sisters for sharing with us lovely ideas mashaallah

[@zuhuraabdi8989]

Much love sisters for Allah's sake

[@xhevrijebeluli4565]

😢 would be so much better longer ❤

[@samiraelyahiaoui2918]

Thank you my sisters❤

[@aishahussain7437]

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[@hanumfadli6084]

10:37 I don’t agree with the notion that there is no such thing as friends for life! If we look at the seerah, the Prophet ﷺ developed a lifelong friendship with Abu Bakr RA, Ali RA, Uthman RA and many other famous companions. The key to lifelong friendship imo growth in the values you keep.

[@Princess_Zo]

One of the things I love most from the seerah is the friendship of our beloved prophet SAW and Hazrat Abubakr RA

[@HazraAya-vh2ul]

exactly, it is a rizq granted to us like any other rizq, some have a friend for like and some don't. May Allah grant us righteous companions and let us be righteous companions to others , Ameen

[@shakf7475]

Ameen

[@yourstrulyKayxx]

I resonate with this one so much ladies!!!!! SubhaanAllah!!!!

[@عيوش-ض7ي]

Interesting episode ❤

[@aishahussain7437]

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[@Amar_ami812]

Nice talk mashallah, jazakallah sisters

[@aishahussain7437]

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[@gulerdenir70]

please make an epispde on hijab

[@sarahloves9186]

Friendship evolves with age Because we evolve as human Beings … our faith evolves and so we question who we are spending time with

[@T-GAFT]

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[@ma53-m4c]

Salam sisters, may Allah swt reward you for sharing this discourse. I'm not sure if you will see this comment, but would you consider doing an episode on family (toxic) and cutting off ties when that is not necessarily the most halal approach so to speak

[@LaYinkaSanni]

Wa alaikum salaam. Have a look at episode 5 from season 3 where we speak about toxic relationships.

[@OukhtiStudio]

I'm glad I'm not broken. Sighhh

[@nadirajames4267]

SubhanaAllah!!!! My beautiful Ukhti’s Ma shaa Allah this was so inspiring and a eye opening very beneficial my companion returned back to Allah beautiful Sister and I’m making Dua Allah puts another beautiful Sister back in my life Ameen🤲🏾🤲🏾♥️🫶🏾🌹

[@yasminemohamed7831]

May Allah bless you

[@ismaelmoufida2650]

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[@not_mybrother7705]

I haven't listened yet but this is a nice break from all the childfree horrid videos that have been gunking up my feed.

[@muhammadalfazazi8396]

Thank you so very much. There is just too much wisdom here ALLAHUMMA BĀRIK like a Bombarda Maxima Harry Potter spell may ALLAH forgive me hh. And for me to find that the next episode is about the Qur'an, that's a boom for me. Alhamdulillahi Rabbi Al Ālameen. I'm feeling that ALLAH is giving me better than what I want. P.s: Thank you sister Āliyah for sending Salawāt upon the Prophet Salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam. That makes the sitting acceptable in the sight of Allah along with mentioning ALLAH otherwise the result is terrible (as if standing on a corpse of a dead donkey wal Iyadhu biLLAH). Thanks a lot! Jazākumullahu khayran.

[@Muslimah18]

My beautiful sisters🥰 please stop showing your beautiful faces on the internet. A women’s beauty is supposed to be hidden from the world. Only non-mahram should see your beauty. It’s okay for women to show their faces off camera as long as they are not free mixing.But if women show faces on camera to the world. Men can pause and take pictures or stare at the beautiful faces which causes fitnah for the ummah. This is my understanding from Quran and Sunnah, if anyone thinks I’m wrong, please feel free to share your opinions. May Allah bless you all❤️❤️❤️ Allah knows best🤍

[@hafsayahya1168]

Although I don’t agree with you. I appreciate the way you advise sis

[@aishahussain7437]

Thank you for the advice. I think they are dressed very modestly. There are always differences of opinion in our religion, every single matter is not so black and white. I think women need to be seen and heard so they can contribute to society as long as they are being modest. What about the half naked ladies on tv? They are even worser test for men. Women are everywhere, men and women just need to learn to interact within limits. I was kept very segregated from men and as a 33 year old, I dont know how to interact normally with men. So I do not think one or another extreme is best approach. Allah knows best

[@aishahussain7437]

Allah forgive me if I am wrong ❤

[@MaymoonahAbbass-pk3ho]

Exactly my point. I dont think there's anything wrong with how these women have dressed. After all the issue of women covering the face scholars have differ, some say is a mandatory where are others say its mot mandatory and if covering the face draws attention to people then it should totally be avoided as its not part of hijab. Hijab for women is covering the whole nody except the face and hands. Just as they have dressed. I follow the second option. And your right ccta women have the right to be heared and teach the society, and also they have the right to contribute to thewell being of society for as long as they observe their modesty and they do not cross their limits. May Allah swt forgive me where am wrong. Jazakumullah Khairah. Wasalaam. ​@@aishahussain7437

[@NamiEnami6]

Just avoid Moroccan women when it comes to friendships

[@Princess_Zo]

Hey this is such an over generalisation.

[@sophynyanzi2153]

The episode we needed to listen to today! #Depth🫂💚