How a Man Falls in Love with a Woman (Biblical Relationship Advice)

[@talonthorn]

That last one is a gem. When a woman is submissive (because she feels safe and trusts the man) and when she invites him to care for her, that can be very fulfilling to a man's heart. I believe a woman shows honor and respect for her man when she lets him care for her, and when she acknowledges that he is her provider above anyone else.

[@JaneSmith0709]

Enhance his joy. Respect his non-relational attributes. (things men respect in other men; hard worker, soldier, provider, etc.) If you are attracted to him physically. Accept his emotions without trying to change him. (often different than women's emotions) Responses to his good & bad behavior are reasonable. Allow yourself to need him. These are gold!

[@hollymarie84]

Well this explains why my boyfriend loves me so much lol. He said he's never been in a relationship before that was so close to his heart. Story time! I knew I loved him in January and that is when I chose to tell him so. I also told him that it was okay if he didn't feel ready to say that to me yet. I know there are different thoughts on who should say "I love you" first or when or whatever. I don't think those are hard and fast rules. It wasn't a matter of me pursuing him. Telling him that I loved him was in response to his pursuit and, in my opinion, was something he needed to both hear and see demonstrated without pressure or expectation. To know that I loved him helped him. He had been in several unequally yoked relationships before me, some of which were long-term but never ended in marriage. He experienced a lot of conditional love, where he was loved only if she felt good about what he did for her, but he was not loved for who he was. He experienced a lot of disrespect, being yelled at and being made to feel worthless if he made a mistake or didn't do what she wanted. As you can imagine, for him it was huge that when I told him I loved him that I then backed that up by treating him with love, kindness, grace and respect that was not conditional upon him being perfect or on him doing what I wanted. There were times that he did the opposite of what I wanted or disagreed with me entirely, and I allowed space for him to do that, I responded calmly, and I was cooperative without resentment or giving any guilt trips. The simple fact that I allowed him space to decide whether or not he was ready to tell me he loved me back was important to him. He didn't feel pressured to make me happy by saying something he wasn't ready to say. The first words out of him mouth after I told him I loved him were, "Are you sure?" 😂 Which made me laugh a little and I said yep lol. But I did not want him to say he loved me out of obligation because I had said I loved him. If and when he said it back I wanted it to be a genuine moment from his heart. I said, "I don't want you to say 'I love you, too' if you're not ready. It's okay if you're not there yet. If you don't say it back I will not be upset, offended or otherwise mad at you." He opted to not say it that night. True to my word, I was not angry or otherwise upset. We continued on having a wonderful date night that night in January. I did not feel awkward about it or allow my heart to be hurt from the lack of reciprocating words. I was secure in how I felt for him, and I knew my words were not simply expressing a feeling. It was saying that I cared for him in such a way that I would act loving toward him and make choices that would always factor in his best interests, not just my own. It wasn't until May when my offer was accepted for me to buy my house back in my hometown (where he was from, I was living in Illinois at the time) that he finally was ready to tell me he loved me too. His logic had to agree with his heart. It did not make sense for him to allow himself to admit he loved me until he knew I was for sure going to be in the same town as him because he was not going to be moving to Illinois. He also needed to see me being consistent with him, behaving in ways that aligned with my words of love for him, before he could say he loved me. All this to say, I didn't know about all these things on this list Mark made, and I don't think my boyfriend did either lol, but these were definitely the things he needed to sort out before he knew he was sure that he loved me. All I knew was that I needed to be patient with him, and that it was helpful to him to know that I was sure about how I felt about him, especially given his background in past relationship experiences.

[@danilaroche1156]

That's great. Are you getting married?

[@murakas2]

"He wants her to make him feel bad when he's bad". Piece of gold again - thank you Mark! 🙏

[@RobertRyan-q7b]

Great video! Sadly, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.

[@MaryRosent]

Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.

[@RobertRyan-q7b]

Wow, that’s incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?

[@MaryRosent]

His name is Fatherabulu, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their ex.

[@RobertRyan-q7b]

Thank you for sharing this valuable info! I just looked him up, and he seems impressive.

[@danilaroche1156]

​Sounds like witchcraft. You can't make someone return. Obey Christ and repent for sin.

[@KatherineAdolfo-i1t]

This help me navigate and anchor how godly marriage works. We all need respect not only a man.

[@danilaroche1156]

Yes but I think it's more important to men. I know men who up and deserted their wives because he felt disrespected.

[@danilaroche1156]

I think sex is incredibly important. I think my suitor is afraid to be alone with me. He's very attracted to me. I am VERY attracted. We are definitely not going to be kissing. Not till marriage!

[@VentiColdbrew_]

Loved the video mark please keep making these ❤ I cried during your video about praying for a spouse due to heartbreak after heartbreak and now I’ve been dating my godly man for over a year. Thanks to God and people like you

[@joshthesmith77]

Please pray for God to give me my wife.

[@ashleighb997]

I don’t know if there’s a way to speed up God’s will. I’ve been praying for a long time. I see His work of healing in my life, and how he’s changing me and giving me strength in areas where I was weak. I would say just explore in your heart and mind all the avenues and aspects of what marriage requires. That has helped me be a lot more considerate (and deliberate ) in my prayers. I’m divorced and have 3 children, I’m 43, so getting older and having kids ( and not wanting anymore!) makes it harder to find a good partner. I’ve dated.. maybe try online dating? Or at your church/work/school/gym, start talking and dating. Good bless

[@hadassahvictor7710]

Just hang in there.. You will find your mate in JESUS Name

[@joshthesmith77]

@@hadassahvictor7710 Thank you, Lord willing He brings us together soon. I want to seek God and live a righteous life but my struggle with pron and my endless “intimacy drive” makes me lonely and keeps pulling me to pron to fill the void. Please pray for me for God to either put my desires to sleep or to fulfill them with the wife He has for me that I’ve been praying for. May God bless you in Jesus name!

[@GetuppraisekindofgirlFm102.5ge]

Wait on god and do not rush him. He has to work on you both to heal and teach us how to love and put him first so we can learn from him before giving you your mate. be strong and hang o in there .

[@joshthesmith77]

@@GetuppraisekindofgirlFm102.5ge I’m trying to keep having faith and waiting on God but it almost feels like God doesn’t have anyone for me. I’ve never even dated or held a girls hand before but I’ve struggled with pron since childhood due to loneliness and I’m tired of not being able to do things the right way. Please pray for God to quickly get me ready and to give me my wife. I don’t want to live my life alone anymore. God bless! :)

[@Golf2foto]

All of this is 100% correct and happens when both are spiritually/emotionally ready.

[@danilaroche1156]

Bingo!

[@danilaroche1156]

Its imperative that a sister not press him for a relationship. Be welcoming & receptive. If he's serious & intentional to marry, he will convey that. Let God guide you both.

[@octaviaBoynton]

Yessss Father GOD thank you so much for getting me you know me so well that it's scary sometime and I love that about you. And you got everything I was trying to say, and this message and thank you for letting me see this and hear this. I love you more than words can ever say. And Father GOD, thank you for being the best father I could ever ask for and ever need, thank you for always being there for me. Too the moon and back twice. Amen, Amen too that one front and back in Jesus Christ name. Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@LiveWelll]

Marriage is not meant to bring happiness. It's meant to make one holy. The worst of each spouse will be exposed from each spouse as they journey through life together. Happiness will naturally flow once they learn to have a God centered marriage.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

I would say it’s meant for both. Ultimately it’s meant for God’s glory

[@Golf2foto]

This is deep!

[@marlyb176]

I disagree and think marriage can be both . Why does it have to be either or ? This is how you have a miserable married couples who think that they please and gorgeous by staying together, but there’s no joy. Anything that emulates good working through their marriage. And honestly, I do you think Maritha takes a level of practicality to work. Yes, they’re spiritual forces we need to fight against what the truth is, they’re unbelievers who have happy marriages and There are believers who don’t.

[@LiveWelll]

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Feelings change, they come and go. However 'Holiness', living a God centered life, will bring in the joy and happiness when true mature love flows within the marriage. Both spouses must be committed and connected to Jesus Christ first. Then the Holy Spirit will do the work in the hearts of the couple rooting out selfishness, un-forgiveness, pride, jealousy, resentment, lust, and so on...all the sinfulness that lives in the human heart.

[@Pheonix1111]

Mark, I truly appreciate this video content. You have an excellent channel that everyone should watch and listen to regularly/daily. You help to reveal and explain the priceless wealth of information contained in the Bible and make it come alive. You help to save relationships and marriages according to God’s holy will. This is why God obviously blesses your effort and hard work. I am sincerely grateful to you for your helping people throughout the world. May God bless you Mark.

[@bonangrens9145]

❤

[@Clauds71]

Thanks Mark, this is so good. I’ve never thought about this from this angle before 😀🙏

[@JesseOaks-ef9xn]

What you described is emotional maturity. God wants us to mature spiritually and emotionally. We need to immerse ourselves in Bible study and prayer.

[@AuntieSenSen]

Spiritual and emotional maturity are linked together. You can’t have one without the other

[@evah.5361]

And taking time to heal

[@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz]

Accurate. If I hurt your feelings address it respectfully. I love women and don't want to mistreat someone if I'm being too harsh and I'm not aware of it because I'm frustrated because I love you and you're not listening because I can say some pretty shocking things that are unfortunately true and people can turn around and be like this guy's an idiot or you just this guy is a nut when the reality is I'm telling you how to not get yourself killed. And also pains me to be with someone who is so strong and independent that they don't need no man. I want to show my love by taking care of someone.

[@AshleyHume-bz2id]

I respect that as a strong woman but I do love a man who can provide for and take care of me and someday our family. That's how I think God made it to be originally. Basically in summary I think when we love Christ more than anyone or anything we'll show His love to each other a whole lot better.

[@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz]

@@AshleyHume-bz2id I loooove taking care of a woman and some babies. I'm focused on building a 10,000 ft² or more house that is off grid and away from society so that not even society collapsing will effect a wife and kids.

[@AshleyHume-bz2id]

@@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz Sounds like it's a lot. It'll be worth it in the end the way you describe it. Please tell me more about it.

[@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz]

@@AshleyHume-bz2id I can't tell if your being sarcastic after some other guy essentially told me I'm full of myself.

[@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz]

@@AshleyHume-bz2id I don't know if you're being facetious or being for real but I've never been more in need of a woman who would give up her career for being a stay at home mom/house wife because when I'm at work working this new job I'm not going to be able to focus on anything else during the shift. Having a woman there to coordinate would be great. She can still have like a nutrition business if she is into that but a woman who can juggle housewife stuff and her own business is what I need. There's a reason I'm into the woman that I'm into. Hopefully the Lord provides soon.

[@aprilgeorge4978]

Thank you for this word. It has really shed some light in different aspects of a man. My thr Lord continue to bless you and your family. ❤

[@itsnygeria]

Mark, you did your thing with this one. 😌👏🏾

[@Golf2foto]

This is deep!!!

[@zmcfadgen]

I love your videos! So full of wisdom and balance. Thank you!

[@Kevin-Valentin]

Good content

[@angelica24sp]

A beautiful reminder🙏

[@DioniWise87]

Mark, thanks so much for sharing your perspective. 😊 Your tips confirm what I’ve been reading in “Fascinating Womanhood” by Helen Andelin about how to treat men. I HIGHLY recommend my fellow sisters read this book ASAP. It’s probably the No. 2 book in my life right now after the Bible. As a woman raised in feminist culture, I needed this book to better understand men and recalibrate my system. I’m single. I tried Mrs. Andelin’s assignment to express my appreciation for a man’s masculine qualities on my father (Mark’s points 2 and 5) and he literally cried tears of joy. Ladies, the power of the tongue really is powerful and can do wonders on the men in our lives when wielded positively and in a God-honoring way.

[@amandajoyeuse]

Am sp grateful for this i think GOD is talking to me..let me start to celebrate my man is coming in JESUS'S name,soon i will come back to testify his goodness.📢💯

[@helperg-kt8gw]

Thank you, very helpful!

[@jacquelinephillipstaylor5212]

I love these! Thank you!

[@nadiakleynhans4067]

Thank you for your guidance means so much🙏🏻✝️❤

[@angieb8679]

Great video as always Mark 👍

[@Michael-vc2cs]

Pretty good video! Physical attraction comes first but I will never fall in love with or marry a woman who doesn’t respect me. So respect is often paramount. If a woman can do this for a man, a lot of other issues which could arise will actually take care of themselves. The sad thing is, there will probably be a plethora of people showing the feminist infection which has run rampant through the church in this comments section. In almost every domain women have been programmed to disrespect men, especially family men.

[@Antonio-n8c]

specially in church most young ladies dont respect men

[@debbiebramwell]

Respect is so important. 🙏🏽🫶 There's plenty of nice respectful woman out there. God has a special lady for you.

[@Michael-vc2cs]

@@debbiebramwell Thank you Debbie! I will keep trusting God either way!

[@danilaroche1156]

Feminism has wreaked havoc and disrespecting men has become normalized. Keep in mind, that alot of women have been abused, molested or raped. The disrespect is often unconscious so be wise and dig deeper .

[@marlyb176]

@@danilaroche1156 The problem I have is so many focus on feminism, but they don’t focus on the cause of feminism. How have men treated women historically and how do you men treat women all around the world? Right now we have increasing Femicide rates, sexual violence against women, but yet everyone is focused on feminism. In general, I feel like the church has done a poor job in addressing these issues, but they blame the evils of the world on women

[@pamelav.5699]

🌈🌟ThankYou!!!!!

[@BrainneLewis-d1x]

Hi love this video nice one bcro

[@AnnaT2133]

Thank you for this Mark.

[@bennymathew7761]

Need your daily intercessary prayers: * Abba God/ JESUS through the Holy Spirit helps me find true, trustworthy, godly guy friends whom I can confide with, fellowship with, commune with, and serve with... I need friends whom connect with, engage with, and grow with...

[@Golf2foto]

Thank you for these words!!

[@tinag8774]

Amen 🙏🙌🙏

[@tiffany64871]

5:51 When you meet someone when you’re in your 40’s I feel like this is a bit silly. We’re getting older and men my age all LOOK 40 and I’m FINE with that. I don’t want someone who looks younger than me. I’m 40, I look 35 tops, my body looks better than most young women, maybe an 8. I don’t get this. I don’t agree but I’d appreciate men’s responses here.

[@danilaroche1156]

20, 40 or 70. These principles apply.

[@danilaroche1156]

Mark is THE MAN. El hombre!

[@EbonySoldier77]

If I can trust my future husband fully and he helps me feel secure and reassured then yes I would submit to him. I don't need a man to complete me. That's what Jesus Christ is for.Treat my future husband the way I want to be treated.

[@brianwhite3428]

I'd like your take on Andy Stanley video Love and Sex video

[@FernGray]

Mark this was really illuminating and spot on..Thank you for the scripture based guidance 🙏

[@user87410]

Some ppl here in the comments need to chill

[@hadassahvictor7710]

Thank you brother

[@Godwidsuj]

If u have some time could u perhaps answer my question? What could it possibly mean if a guy says he will continue to pray for me cuz i am still a sister in christ? is he just saying that he will pray for me cuz we are good friends? And last time he said i think you are an amazing girl and I think any guy would be lucky to have you. Is this just a polite way of him turning me down?

[@Godwidsuj]

I actually a bit confused about this...if i am an unbeliever I understand.. But i dont get why he said he will pray for me cuz i already told him I am a christian.. Although i did say i am going through a hard time in life... But i dont think i have ever prayed for a guy who is going through a hard time unless i was a bit interested in him.. I am confused could u perhaps maybe make a video about this if u are okay with that?? Or maybe either just a message on youtube. I think that would really help ... Thank you

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

If I had to guess I think he was just being polite and saying he’s not interested in a relationship with you. But I don’t know as the details matter. I bet you have a hunch one way or the other, so pray about that and trust your own assessment :)

[@Godwidsuj]

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger really thanks a lot for the reply it really helped me a lot. I definitely felt that God was telling me that he was not my future spouse cuz he told me so but i guess i am just worried about ever finding a devoted christian of someone like him in my community cuz i have never really met someone who tries to live a life pleasing to the lord so far like him. But i will still keep praying that God leads me to the spouse he wants me to be with one day. Again thank you a lot!! I really appreciate the videos that u make on your channel! Wish u all the best in everything that u do and hope that God always leads u to the right path ☺☺

[@danilaroche1156]

I'd say he isn't interested in pursuing you. At least not now.

[@Godwidsuj]

@@danilaroche1156 thanks i thought so too

[@WillFull_Truth]

That’s not true at all my love language is giving gifts and I do not like to receive them nor do I want to receive them from my partner

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

I’m speaking generally. There are always individuals who can not be defined by the general :)

[@laurachandler]

I only want to be dependent on God. And both of us be independent but see how we could be a good help mates serving the Lord together for His glory.

[@deepakdutt4771]

The Bible says that men and women are not exactly independent of each other.

[@holisticmindbodyhealth3477]

That sounds like avoidant attachment.

[@AshleyHume-bz2id]

This helps me out a lot. We women can't read a guy's mind, so thanks for explaining how he feels and shows his love for us. Could you explain us to them too? Still looking for my kingdom husband.

[@danilaroche1156]

He has. Stop looking for your spouse. You must allow the Lord to do it. Just ask God to prepare you.

[@tracyoguntokun4284]

Amen 🙏🕊️🙏💜🔥

[@Zeahappy]

1st

[@bobhines4017]

Seems like a lot on a woman

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

There’s a lot on both the man and woman, this was just the topic of this video

[@Nirvanaty4J]

I don't think it's a lot on a woman (Aren't we the other half of the relationship...?)

[@Michael-vc2cs]

Men are called to be willing to give their very lives for their wife and family. Yet, women seem to think the lowest standards are too much…

[@Golf2foto]

All of this happens automatically once a woman is spiritually/emotionally ready. 🙏❤️

[@bobhines4017]

@@Michael-vc2cs well actually the topic is about a man so I guess that's why it seems like that

[@VaradiAttila]

Too much ex cathedra statements. This is how religion and the pharisees work. What about dying to self both and allowing God to bring the woman to the man? God can give grace only where we stopped our own efforts.

[@wgw808]

Thanks for the opinion based, non biblical advice. You have your opinion then put a scripture under it, that does not biblical.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

It’s called application :) hence the KZbin name :)

[@wgw808]

I see biblical relationship advice in title.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

"biblical" and "exegetical" are different. If you're looking for a passage of Scripture unpacked through exegesis, this is not the channel. I'm not preaching sermons and I openly tell people that. I'm offering biblical counsel, which means advice governed by principles in Scripture. The Scriptures don't talk about dating, social media, and other moderns issues in a direct way. But the Scriptures can be applied to any issue or question. Your view of how to learn from the Bible is too narrow. If you are looking for a direct verse about every question, you will have a lot of unanswered questions. The Bible is not an encyclopedia on every topic known to man. But it has all the wisdom needed for any topic. So I disagree with you. God bless :)

[@wgw808]

Eisegesis

[@wgw808]

Eisegesis (not biblical) vs Exegesis. And pretty liberal eisgesis at that. Just in my opinion. Look I realized your trying to help people but at the expense of scripture for monetary gain is where people need to be more responsible.