How to INVITE a Man to Pursue You

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

If you’re interested in my new book and this bonus course, here’s the steps to take: Step 1: Before 2/17/2023 (11:59pm), purchase Christ-Centered Dating on Amazon in any format (paperback, eBook, audiobook) by clicking here: amzn.to/3Hc50Mv Step 2: Email your proof of purchase to here: [e-mail] (You can simply forward your Amazon receipt/confirmation email to the above email. Or you can also take a screenshot of the receipt/confirmation and send it to the above email.) Step 3: Within 24 hours, once your proof of purchase has been verified, you will receive an email with the 100% off scholarship code for the free bonus course (along with the link to enroll in the course). Step 4: Enroll in the course, 10 Steps to Meet The One. At check out, use your scholarship code. The course can also be found here: agwuniversity.teachable.com/p/10-steps-to-meet-the-one Step 5: Enjoy the book and free bonus course! And if you find the book helpful, it would be a big blessing to me if you could leave a review on Amazon. This helps other people feel more comfortable purchasing the book and learning the important truths inside of it. God bless! Mark

[@Joe-ew7vv]

1. Understand the difference between pursuing and inviting 2. Give him your attention 3. Respond positively when he does pursue you 4. Appreciate his strength and masculine qualities 5. Showing him what you could be in his life

[@shellyp6451]

And how do you show him what you can do for his life? Relationships are so complicated, how can one expect to know how they work? There is no manual to help anyone master relationships.

[@blondielocks9642]

For starters, a woman can show that she can be an asset and not a liability.

[@BB-ch9km]

@@shellyp6451 I showed my male friend that if I made him a hot supper and have it ready when he arrives home tired from a long day at work, I just saved him 30 mins of supper preparing and he could eat as soon as he walked in the door. That left him extra time in the evening to accomplish his evening routine and work notes he had to finish on the computer. I also offered to help him with food prep on weekends and while I made my breakfasts for the week ahead, it was easy for me to make a double batch of it and split it with him. Him not having to cook breakfast in the morning saved him 30 mins and he can just heat it up in the microwave and head off to work. I hope to be a stay at home wife & mom someday (I run my own business from my home already) and this would be one thing that I could offer my future husband. My friend was amazed at how much this has helped his schedule already. 😄 And he is suddenly interested in what other qualities I might be able to offer him. 😉😅🥰 Time will tell what becomes of it!!!🤷😊

[@danilaroche1156]

@@shellyp6451 Bible = manual of life

[@danilaroche1156]

@@shellyp6451 I have found that most men hate drama. I know I have a strong personality. Very emotional at times. It's imperative to be led by the Spirit .Allow the Spirit to regulate emotions and feelings. Dating is hard these days. People are confused. Be led by the Spirit and of course, save sex 4 marriage. It only brings chaos.

[@martinmartin6300]

"When you give him more attention, then he gives you more attention, too ..." As a man: Oh that is really true. Sometimes the interest of the man may even be started by the invitation. When a man begins to pay more attention to a specific woman, he often begins to see her inner beauty which he would have missed, otherwise.

[@dubaimary9202]

Helpful 😊

[@hawaiigirl8089]

Inviting isn’t assertive or, aggressive. It’s SMILING at the guy, strike up a chat while waiting in line …..give him a chance to respond & be interested

[@maryjflanagan1922]

Thanks

[@dubaimary9202]

Helpful 😊

[@kre8504]

Amen2That!!

[@tedschmitt178]

Mark, as a man, this information is solid gold. If the woman is doing her part as a woman should, it makes it easier on for the man to do his part, and it goes both ways. Women, take note here.

[@aalyyy.]

God showed me who my husband is, thank u for this video!!! i don’t want to be throwing myself at him or do anything out of my emotions. Lord guide me 😭

[@pierced4u636]

How did he show you he is the one?

[@aalyyy.]

@@pierced4u636 His sheep know His voice. God also comfirms his word with peace and comfirmations so we never stumble or mislead ourselves, He loves us and would never lead us astray or give us a broken promise. when i was having doubt God told me “if it brings you closer to me, it’s from me, if it pulls you away from me, it’s not from me” ❤️❤️❤️❤️ i dont want to get into any details but God gave me way more confirmation than i needed because of all my doubts.. 😂😂

[@danilaroche1156]

Just be warm. Kind. Don't get too anxious, honey.

[@rebeccainman44]

Praying for guidance for you.❤ Hope you are doing well saw this was 11 months ago. As a current 33 year old single. I am hoping the best for you my fellow Sister-in-Christ.

[@shellyp6451]

I have found men are turned off by women who pursue a man. Some see it as aggressive behavior and a sign of desperation.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

true, pursuing and inviting are really different

[@jasoncrowder9106]

Exactly. Men are natural born hunters. Don't know too many who like to be hunted.

[@Dj.D25]

I don’t mind being perused too much, as long as it’s not desperate or love bombing. One girl in the past dreamed I proposed to her and she thought that was a message from God we would be together. We were just normal friends at the time, she didn’t seem that into me. After that dream, she looked determined to make that dream come true. But she was bipolar, very clingy, constantly wanted to call and talk all day, got jealous of me being with friends and there was plenty of other issues.

[@blondielocks9642]

Love bombing is a sure sign that the relationship is fake and only a matter of time before it sours.

[@lykan337]

@@Dj.D25 Its clear to me that dream wasn't God's message for her

[@mailbericht5718]

We never talked 2 each other Just "Hi". I noticed him because I was deeply touched by the way he loves God (we stood next to each other in church and I heared him worhipping and praying. After that I have seen him worhipping God many times). He has this raydiant glow and a peaceful energy. God's love definitely shines through him. We didn't cross each others path the last 6 months in church although the both of us were there. Just a week ago, our paths crossed a few times. He had a smile when he saw me. We smile, we say "Hi"... That's it... Invite him??? I don't even know how. Being in church I want to focus on God and I want a connection to grow in a God given way... So I let Go and let God.... And trust that, if God has any plants with this, it will all fall in to place. It always does.

[@danilaroche1156]

If he isn't initiating a conversation after all this time, I'd leave it alone.

[@mailbericht5718]

@@danilaroche1156 Thank you for your message! Your respons has a perfect timing! We never where in a setting to even start a conversation. I was surrounded by people or he was. I didn't even see how the setting would change to start a conversation. I let it Go and for a few months I wasn't really thinking about it or give it any of my attention. But because of the few "Hi's" the last few weeks I told God this week " I know if you want us to meet/ know each other You will make a way (whatever this is, friendship, motivating each other in our walk with God, Love potential...I trust You will show it). I am not focust on this being "My person". I do noticed parts that are beautiful and touched me... But I give it 2 God, He knows. Just a few days a go, we left church, both walking a different direction but ending up at the same parking lot, just the 2 of us (Never saw him there). I had conversations that could have taken longer, I even wanted to do something @Church and I forgot about it. That's why I was there at that momenten. And again, I asked God that Question this week!!! 9 out of 10 times if I pray God to show me, guide me, show peoples true faces (real or fake)... God does show me. We had a very nice/ good conversation!!! God's love, did shine through him again! Our conversation was connected and whatever this is, for now.... It is inspiring to see a man loveing God so deeply! And whichever man God has in mind for me, Thank You God that this will be a huge part of that person (being connected with You and loving You deeply). I do agree to Let Go and Let God! Focus on God, on developing yourself and Love everything and everybody around you. God will connect you 2 the souls you need 2 know❤️

[@mailbericht5718]

@@danilaroche1156 I wrote a very long respons and I don't see it here!!! Long story short: Told God this week "if You wants to connect us and wants us to know each other, it is Your will to make a way." I see his love for God, it is beautiful! It touch me, and that is it, I let God and let Go. This week we ended up at the same time same parking lot (that was very rare because of a lot of stuff during that morning). Ended up having a very nice and connected conversation. Beautiful and inspiring Son of God!!! By the way, our church has somewhere between 500 people going there (or more). And we never where in a situation that gave us the moment to connect (I was with my people or he was with his....not knowing each other can feel akward walking up to someone and you don't want to force things, God's way .... he will arrange it).. That's it in a NutShell. Thanks for your message!!!

[@mailbericht5718]

@@danilaroche1156 It was not really a matter of leaving it alone. I enjoyed seeing his love and passion for God. We have a big church, filled with more than 500 people a week. The last few weeks we saw each other more often, but he was interacting with people and so was I. I myself never went to him because I didn't feel that I should do that (even after prayer). But there is more to this story, 2 weeks ago we did have a conversation in a way only God can arrange🤗 It was connected and nice. Again he had this LoveGodEnergy around him. Clearly he enjoyed our conversation and so did I. God connects people in His timing. I told God "I love the way he loves You, it touch me and I see we notice each other...Only If You want us 2 meet or to connect we will, by Your arrangement." And He did... God will reveal what the purpose is of connecting us.

[@mailbericht5718]

@@danilaroche1156 It was not really a matter of leaving it alone. I enjoyed seeing his love and passion for God. We have a big church, filled with more than 500 people a week. The last few weeks we saw each other more often, but he was interacting with people and so was I. I myself never went to him because I didn't feel that I should do that (even after prayer). But there is more to this story, 2 weeks ago we did have a conversation in a way only God can arrange🤗 It was connected and nice. Again he had this LoveGodEnergy around him. Clearly he enjoyed our conversation and so did I. God connects people in His timing. I told God "I love the way he loves You, it touch me and I see we notice each other...Only If You want us 2 meet or to connect we will, by Your arrangement." And He did... God shall reveal what the purpose is of connecting us.

[@anneyoung2310]

Men love it when the woman invites him to pursue. I figured this out, as a new Christian, in my late teens. If you are interested, you can and should let him know. As a mature woman, when/if I am interested, it is evident. When I am not, I try to make that equally clear. We treat men we are interested in (romantically) differently than men we are not interested in.

[@joaniedabalsky6539]

I find it very interesting learning about how a woman's femininity brings out a man's masculinity and vice versa. A beautiful song that really explains that concept well in the lyrics is "The Woman in Me needs the Man in You" by Shania Twain, y'all should give it a listen :)

[@blondielocks9642]

Just watched. That song is trash 🤮

[@mringer9129]

That song is very much like come to my country I make you a princess 😂

[@Espina907]

Love Shania❤

[@georgiana7857]

It is truly incredible how I learned and applied all of these principles intuitively when I started Salsa social dancing. I never verbally ask men to dance, but I invite them nonverbally to ask me. It feels so much more natural this way, and we are starting off with the right energy. He feels like the man and I feel like the woman. He sees me smiling and making eye contact, but I let him take the lead, come to me, invite and initiate the dance - which later, of course, translates and continues in the act of the dance itself. I keep saying to everyone that dancing is the microexpression of relationships in real life:)) And it also amazes me how you have such a clear way of explaining something I figured out on my own and thought I was one of the few people knowing😂 And the fact that it is all literally rooted in God's word... How blessed we are and how perfectly God created us, only if we learn to see and understand that!

[@CC-mc9dw]

What other non verbals do you use?

[@itsnygeria]

Yes!! This just happened to me last Sunday while a church. Story time!!! If you care 😄: A guy that I’ve thought was cute for almost a year but never PURSUED approached me. I never approached him #1 because to me personally it felt like pursuing him instead of giving him the chance to do so & simply letting him know (inviting him 😉) it was okay to do so in my body language. But, side note, this has taken so long & never happened before because I was getting ready to move to a new state since my family is church planting so I thought there was no point & he knew I was moving & didn’t think there was a point either.. (until he approached me for the first time last Sunday & told me he’s coming & that’s he’s gonna be doing an pastoral apprenticeship under my dad & on our core team 😅😭). So, at first after the send off service while I was talking to a friend at our seats, he walked from his chair across the room & past us & just looked at me & said “hey!” for the first time (which I already thought was strange considering we always just smiled awkwardly at one another but never spoke 😭🤣).. so I said hey back & he just kept walking so I continued to talk to my friend & tell her I’ve always thought he was super cute, but I turned around a couple minutes after he walked away & he was standing at the end of my row looking at me 😭😭 at first I wasn’t sure if he was wanting to talk to me or not because there were other people standing around him including my dad & he was looking around as well so I assumed he was waiting around to talk to him or someone else.. anyway, I got super nervous, so I just smiled at him so as to acknowledge him & invite him to speak if he wanted, but he didn’t approach me so I turned back to my friend & just kept talking.. 🤷🏾‍♀️ (that’s how you ladies, lure him in & make him approach you 😉😂) after about another few minutes at the end of another conversation with my friend, I turned around & he was still there so I looked around his area for a couple seconds & then he looked at me again so I made eye contact/smiled at him once me & he immediately got the hint after just a couple seconds, & he approached me 😌

[@georgiana7857]

@@itsnygeria yes, exactly, it is literally this simple. Although, when we are very attracted to that person and also a bit shy, it is very difficult to even make that eye contact and smile😅 But I can relate so much to this, personal story time incoming:))) There was this guy that caught my attention around my dorm, we were always seeing each other but never saying hi or smiling to each other, until one day when we met twice in the same day, very little time apart. Right then, I had to fight every inch of shyness and awkwardness in my body, I looked deeply into his eyes and kept smiling, almost laughing even - he knew why, so he started cracking a big smile and he finally said hi to me. We didn't speak more yet, because we didn't really see each other that much from that moment on, or actually we were never in the right context to do so - somehow we are always on the move, with somewhere to go, no time to stop, when we see each other. But now, when we do, we keep smiling and saying hi to each other, at least😄 Regardless, I will continue to do my best and do my deepest cutest inviting smiling face everytime I see him, and maybe also stop a little in my feet. I trust that one day he will truly start that proper conversation:))) This chemistry and this unspoken bond has been happening for months between us, and the school year is almost ending so he'd better start that conversation soon, I hope😅, praying for it🙏 From then on we'll see if he is a good guy or not, but I am really hoping so🥺🙏

[@itsnygeria]

@@georgiana7857 this is so cute!!! I also haven’t had another conversation with my crush since our first one besides exchanging prayer requests once over text, but hopefully when he gets here in a few weeks we’ll be able to talk & connect more in person! 🤞🏾 Wishing you the best of luck & would ask the same for myself!! 😅 but either way, God is good & He has a plan for us!!! 🤍

[@Unveiledtheblog]

You just explained this video in a creative analogy/ practical experience I love that

[@luk6316]

Mark, your one of the few people I've heard that are able to explain so clearly where you see the application from biblical principles. A real gift. Also, really appreciate you've done an audio book version of the book - me being dyslexic. Looking forward to reading it.

[@shellyp6451]

Do you find it difficult dating when you have dyslexia?

[@luk6316]

@shellyp6451 no, only reading books. I'm a slow reader so I'm grateful for audio books especially when read by the writer

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

My pleasure Luke! God is good!

[@nicolelang3109]

Haven’t stopped listening for 3 days thank you for sharing your gift

[@evelyndoughan8643]

@@luk6316 😊 they all come together for our good. Bless you

[@alabanzasporjen]

Awesome video. I did this without knowing it was biblical. Now he is pursuing me.

[@JoannA-sweetly]

Also be clear with someone who you are not interested in. One man, I finally had to say, if you keep hanging around, how will I find my husband?

[@danilaroche1156]

Your husband finds you. You sound kinda pushy. Too direct and masculine. Hone in on your femininity & gentleness, booboo.

[@danilaroche1156]

I'm in love with Mark but he's married. Just kidding!

[@OhioGalReads]

Give a man your phone number. Then he decides if he wants to call. That's how I did it. I waited and he pursued.😊

[@danilaroche1156]

Are you engaged?

[@OhioGalReads]

We are getting married in June.​@danilaroche1156

[@TiffanyTurquoise]

​@@OhioGalReadsGOD IS GOOD! Much Happiness To You.

[@JeNJeN-mk4dv]

​@@danilaroche1156 I'm about to do this today. I'm putting it in a little cute envelope 😊

[@phalynwilliams4119]

If he asks for your number and you agree to give it to him that is okay. However, if you initiate the exchange then you are in pursuit and are being masculine and aggressive.

[@faradara5310]

🙋🏾‍♀️ if you scrolled to all the way through the end for the book once he said “the details are in the book chapter 7”👀 Mark your a blessing from God!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless Fara Dara!

[@GeniaHall-qb2ie]

It’s a man’s job to pursue .. it’s too Masculine to pursue a guy . I like my femininity. 😊❤️. If he isn’t in pursuing he isn’t into you . Who wants to be with someone who doesn’t desire you enough to pursue you .. ick!

[@GabyDee7]

Just got my book “Christ Centered Dating”. Looking forward to reading the book and to the chapter that discusses the difference in “pursuing” and “inviting”. Thank you for your dedication in relationship/marriage preparation.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Awesome! Let me know what you think once you read it :)

[@debrablack5173]

Hello Mark, thank you for your videos. I am 65 and I have never heard the advice that you give. I wish I had. I will look for your book at my Christian book store. Many thanks and God bless you.

[@BlessedbyGrace-rn8hl]

*Through your KZbin channel, you are sowing seeds of faith and hope. May God's presence be with you always, guiding you to impact the lives of countless individuals.*

[@ashwlove321]

Thanks for this perspective Mark

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

My pleasure!

[@Kim-yz3wi]

Mark, your videos are so informative. It's such blessing to hear your talks and walk threw God's word for application.

[@raeh8479]

I am currently reading your book on Christian Dating. I will be 39 this year, I am divorced (happened before returning to the Lord). I am slowly reading through the book and taking in each sentence and paragraph. Wow, I never thought of dating this way. There have been a few “hard” things to process BUT it was needed and very healing. Thank you, for this book. Regardless, in singleness or marriage, I’m learning so much that has/will benefit and bless me through out life.

[@disaj7460]

Amén! Mark does have a real gift & he shares it with us selflessly. Praise the Lord!🕊

[@hdskl2150]

I relate so much! I'm in the same situation! ❤

[@tamaramichelle4326]

He who finds a wife shall receive favor from the lord!

[@user-bd9uo8dw3j]

Hi Brother Mark, I purchased the new book. Excited to read it. Thank you for sharing your wisdom for all of us. God bless you and your family!

[@bcrowder4958]

It also says he who finds a wife finds a good thing.

[@dianaaavula4306]

Thank you Lord, I will be waiting for you Master still.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, God is good!

[@forerunness]

Wisdom🙏❤ thank you Mark! God bless you for blessing us in writing your book, it is definitely a manual for Christ centered life.

[@maryl9180]

I have gone on dates with at least a dozen men since I healed from 18 year marriage to a narcisist (divorced) a couple of years ago. Every single man showed up for the date with the foregone conclusion that the date would end with sex. Most of them talked about their sexual experience & expectations within the first hour after meeting. I have zero interest in sex with a stranger or any man I am not in a monogamous relationship with. Most of them claimed to be christians wanting a longterm relationship. I am seriously questioning if there is any single man out there with self control. Has dating become a meat market for recreational sex?

[@anneiconex1473]

@maryl9180 So true. Questions about sex, sex frequency, and even more private questions. From men that are Christians too.

[@danilaroche1156]

Unfortunately most modern men these days think dating is about sex. I do know men who value sex and these are men who genuinely love the Lord. They do exist. I encourage you not to date. Focus on your relationship with Jesus. Only be with a man who follows Jesus wholeheartedly. In addition, sex is not for exclusive relationship it's for MARRIAGE. You will get hurt if you have premarital sex.

[@obsidian3406]

I damaged the relationship between me and my future husband bc of unresolved trauma but he led me back to God.

[@Growninfaith]

Thank you brother Mark!! What a wonderful offering with the purchase of your new book "Christ Centered Dating," the course "The 10 Biblical Steps to Dating" was one of my favorite courses. I can't wait to purchase your new book!!

[@belovedalicevasquez5522]

Very clear instruction for a feminine Christian woman. Thank you and God bless you more.

[@jennhawkins5356]

This is fantastic and very, very sound! Thank you for sharing this!

[@blessedsoul949]

Very educative....have learnt a lot from this. God bless you Mark for sharing this insight!

[@juliegonzales258]

Question. If men represent Christ in a relationship and the woman, the church. When will men begin to bring peace, heal, provide, die to themselves for the woman? Because these videos (like so many others) sound like the women having even more work and we are not hearing about what the men ought to do. Tbh I am tired (of especially men of God) always requiring more and more and more from women, especially in this day and age when women are already doing so much. Its time to shine the light more on men to be Christ-like, please make some more videos like that!

[@danilaroche1156]

Mark makes lots of videos about how men should honor & respect women.

[@sagenosnibor9173]

Even when I politely decline a guy's offer to take me out. I let him know that I know it took courage and I appreciate it. Rejection is scary for both sexes, I get it.

[@MargaretEibl]

U think wow! You love what you see then God drops it in your heart.

[@DaughterDesiree]

Yesss. Very Good stuff. Thank you!!!!

[@michelleward1173]

It's teaching me. When know one else teaches me. I'm going to do some studying.

[@jasminealexia]

Definitely getting your new book! Yayy! 🎉

[@Kari_Michele]

You explained it perfectly, thank you 🥰🙏🏾💗

[@mirtadumancic3956]

Thank you Mark for this bonus course!

[@danilaroche1156]

Mark is the MAN.

[@alexben6211]

😂😂😂😂 funny story?/ On February 17, I dated my twin Flame at 17:00 in the afternoon in an unforgetable matching Event. 😂😂😂 funny right?/well one way or another, that led me into searching and discovering more about the relationships and I am today confirning to buy this Book. Keep up with the great work. God bless - stay humble. ✝🙏😎

[@danilaroche1156]

Twin flame sounds new agey. Be careful.

[@michelleward1173]

Thank you!!! I need this. 🥰🥰🥰

[@daft_j]

I’m scared of inviting a man because my last bf walked away out of the blue and I haven’t seen him since then. Regardless who’s right for me, maybe I need to work on being more secure in myself. My last boyfriend wasn’t, so I gotta be more secure for God and to be inviting to whoever is right for me

[@danilaroche1156]

You need some healing. You have rejection & abandonment issues that only the Lord can heal. I encourage you in next relationship to be friends first. Mark and his wife began as friends. Their focus was Jesus. That's the way to do it. Put romance on back burner and get to know each other in Christ. Trust God to help you.

[@daft_j]

@@danilaroche1156 Been healing, but still hurting sometimes tbh. There are still times I want a relationship, but aware that I get anxious easily, have abandonment wounds, and gonna do what I can to heal in solitude. My heart can still sink sometimes. I still feel fear towards vulnerability. At this point, I've come to realize that I want to continue seeking peace in the Lord more than anything else.

[@sarahmoorman6936]

‘Complementarian contrast’ lol - I like it

[@jihyepark9473]

The whole video is about differentiating inviting from pursuing. It's interesting to see how some viewers think otherwise. If we women are too anxious even to "invite" the least we could do is to be kind to those men that interest us. Ideally, however, let us be kind to everyone including those who pursue us but whom we don't like in return.

[@CBReal1290]

This is a really nice presentation of what pursuit means v showing interest biblically yet it’s hard to find a good Older (45plus age)Christian man that hasn’t healed in other ways and not overly zealously Christian to the point of how domineering he presents himself.

[@ruthc184]

Very good and solid advice! Thanks a lot!

[@arthurwilliams5220]

Thank God Almighty for So Supernatural in power from on high God Anointed shall be Blessed Exceeding in the Future with their Holy God Ordained Spiritual Spouses. Sealed by God. praise God Iam Excited for the Future Amen Amen Amen

[@semolinasemolina8327]

😂❤🎉oh thank god 😂 i just thought ... oh, i honestly dont have the energy to be 'ripe fruit' and imagine the effort of looking nice 😂😂❤🎉 and then you said "im not talking about physical attractiveness here" - phew 😂❤ *carries on with hobbies*

[@ElenakairosArt]

This is helpful

[@robertnutting4123]

Men and women only become equal scripturally when both are in Christ.

[@lindazeisky3845]

Thank you! I'm understanding the main concept of your points.

[@heavenandbrokenthings]

Thanks Mark, this is something I've been trying to implement but it's really hard when one is super shy and the guy is very attractive and also shy. I seem to attract shy guys but the problem is two shy people means a lot of strange silence and tension haha. If the guy is confident I generally don't have a problem. And I'm afraid men (shy men who I find very attractive) think I'm playing hard to get when actually I'm just having a heart attack 😅😂. And when I have been confident with shy guys and say hello or start a conversation, the guy completely shut off and never talks to me 🤷🏼‍♀️ and when EVERY Christian single man is shy and passive, there's just no winning. What do I do?

[@abooga8]

Maybe give the situation some more time, and the man a few mor opportunities to act?

[@pamelamckenzie5167]

This is good stuff

[@GodsDaughter_89]

This guy I met online is very attractive but he's shy and introverted just like I am. I'm starting to really like him. He has a great sense of humor and I love laughing with him. I told him that I'm interested in getting to know him. I told him he's attractive and I want to get to know him better. Did I overstep our friendship boundary? He's in North Carolina while I'm in Illinois but I'd still like to see if we could have a relationship one day. Right now, our conversations are light, witty banter and jokes back and forth but one day I'd like to see if we could actually have a relationship with each other. I'm trying to make sure we build up a solid friendship first. We haven't even video chatted yet but I'd love to do that soon.

[@murahkami]

@@GodsDaughter_89Its a good idea to video chat soon and make sure he's not a catfish. There are SO many of those! 🙈

[@kokoskokso]

​@@GodsDaughter_89 have we met the same guy? 😂 NC as well 😅

[@DarkArmedDaddy1]

I appreciate you Mark.

[@servantofchrist5085]

I really like the number 5 💯👍🏾

[@agnesr.4664]

16:30 truth bomb right there.

[@selenapequeno5399]

This is really good as a woman to know

[@roxineus]

Doh! It’s 2/23/23….missed the offer DOH!

[@lindaedeh]

Thank you so much Sir

[@gequitaroper1531]

Great video

[@karinafoster6974]

I have shown interest and was going to invite a few different men to pursue me at church. But when i asked around about each man, I found out they were all married or engaged. So I have given up on inviting a man to pursue me. All weren't wearing a wedding ring. So is so frustrating. God is going to have to bless him with the courage to talk to me

[@kgoropanemokgohloa3205]

I first met this guy late last year and took a liking in him but I didn't think too much about it. I then met him again earlier this month and I think l really like him for real. We normally meet in groups because we have mutual friends and sometimes when he visits my church. I don't know how I can show him that I like him and I hope he likes me too. We hardly talk for a long time because we are always around people so it's hard for me to tell. He invited me to his church I'm not sure if he was just being friendly or what but I told him I'll go one day. I woul love to visit his church however, since he frequent our church we might cross paths. I told some of my friends that I like him and they encouraged I initiate group outings and invite him but I'm scared.

@@kgoropanemokgohloa3205how’s it been going??

[@danilaroche1156]

No. Go to his church and say hello or smile. That's it. If he's interested he should start a conversation. If he doesn't, I'd let it alone. He should initiate things. Not you. A smile is enough of an invitation.

[@evelyndoughan8643]

God bless you

[@crescent3107]

I feel so sorry about the man like I almost regret that I didnt do my part to inviting him to pursue me, due to complex or toxic environment we had. I literally ignore him and I do none communication verbal towards him and maybe he thinks that im not interested to him or he thinks that i dont like him but i do. Now he got someone and I cant forget him but i really want to move on and i dont know why im still thinking about him its unfair in part. I hoping and praying that I could find someone that he will tell me his intentions with a healthy environment.

[@maryakinbami1627]

Love this topick

[@OracleOfGOD_PHD]

There is Scripture that instructs a man to pursue! "He who finds a good thing...." The Hebrew word for "find" is #masa which means; "To come forth to, appear, exist, to attain, find, acquire, to occur, meet, be present"

[@OracleOfGOD_PHD]

Ladies don't invite, we only reciprocate when being pursued

[@johndel2697]

I want this younger woman to be inviting . She shows all the signs she is attracted to me

[@danilaroche1156]

Ask her out then! What are you waiting for?

[@sarahmoorman6936]

Good job!

[@tracyoguntokun4284]

Amen 🙏❤️🙏✝️

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@chaneza]

is calling pursuing? or is it better to text and invite them to call you? how do you know if you're overthinking it?

[@danilaroche1156]

Yes. It's chasing. Let HIM get things going. Just be warm. Don't initiate a relationship. He won't respect you.

[@loicen1635]

Hi Mark! I have a question about praying. Should we still pray even if we feel that God might not answer the prayer? I really need an answer because for the past 2 days I felt like I need to pray about something but deep down I feel like God would say 'no' to the prayer/my question so I haven't prayed. Please help, anyone can feel free to answer as well!

[@donnasmith1403]

You never go wrong asking for God to reveal His will. But, you do have to be ready to hear something you want isn't His will for you. It really comes down to how submitted to God do you want to be. Being worried He'll say no is a sign you're hesitant about giving up your choice and pursuing God's choice instead.

[@AmandaLaticia12]

Is that even a question? You should put this in your mind that every God’s plan is the best for you.. whether its a "no" or a "yes".. If it’s a no maybe at first you couldn’t even accept His answers but I’m very sure that in the future you’ll understand that it’s the right thing for you.. God bless !

[@sthiel126]

My two cents to your honest question are- 1- Trust. If the answer does end up being 'no' then trust God is expressing his love by saying the hard thing. 2- Love. Love God regardless, a big way we build trust and affection is by communicating. The way we do this with God is through prayer and revelation. The more of it we do the more this tends to grow. Like Mark says in this videon give your attention. ;)

[@fuzakali9083]

If you feel deep down God would say no, this is probably your intuition and God is already letting you know the answer. But pray on it and do not deceive yourself

[@karinafoster6974]

Prayer is important. If His answer is no, then He has a reason and is protecting you. If you go and do/say something and you know God wouldn't agree with it, then to me it means you don't trust God. His timing is perfect. He has a plan for all of us. Just because you want Him to say yes and think He will say no, are you really trusting Him or just wanting Him to agree with you?

[@ItsSoarTime]

i was taught NOT to be "an invitational Queen." IF God is leading...HE will point out who i am to the man whom He wants to pursue me OR whom He is allowing to pursue me.... i can only think of one biblical example, but i'm going to assume there are more to support my point, that it is GOD who invites the man to pursue the woman HE has pointed out to him. He is the inviter. The story of Boaz... Ruth was minding her own business, NOT inviting Boaz in any way, shape, or form to begin his pursuit of her by approaching her. the approach, in my opinion, is the start of the pursuit. once approached, the female either makes it clear that she is not interested OR she ENCOURAGES the pursuit. no invitation to pursue. ENCOURAGEMENT to continue the pursuit.... what about allllll the other stories in the Bible where so-and-so SAW AND APPROACHED so-and-so while she was minding her own business?? Jacob saw Rachel, approached her and kissed her, right? she did NOT invite him to do that. on the contrary, I WILL WAIT TO BE FOUND BY THE MAN WHOM GOD HAS APPOINTED FOR ME. I WILL WAIT ON THE LORD ... my opinion.

[@danilaroche1156]

I agree with you 100%.

[@sarahkennedy1481]

Please do talks re online dating and why mwn chase then go cold and if a woman should ring to enquire why and why Christian men do this.

[@danilaroche1156]

Oftentimes because the woman is A. too eager. B. He senses she has expectations or C. She's chasing by calling or texting first or pushing for commitment.

[@johnnahj343]

Question?...What if a man shows you he is attracted to you and likes you...but does not pursue...how should that be viewed...how should that be responded to? Seeking an answer.

[@sufficientsostrive]

Yes, or how do you invite a man who is “friendly” towards all (sometimes seems like he’s into you but the other girls are thinking the same)?

[@kto1574]

Ehh, I got the impression that men like to cast a wide net to see who’s attracted to stroke their ego. If they don’t pursue, then you weren’t their no. 1 choice.. I’ve been told by male friends they don’t do subtle, and they’re pretty simple-minded. So I wouldn’t overthink anything you think they’re saying or doing if it’s not a straight out pursuit. Anyone of the male inclination, feel free to chime in!

[@danilaroche1156]

If he doesn't ask for a date say after 2 months ..let it alone.

[@misslinda772]

I had a really good looking guy at the office and at my church wink at me. And in all all honesty I didnt know what to do. I just froze!

[@eileenstasczak6606]

🙄

[@portallama]

All you had to do was smile

[@misslinda772]

@@portallama Thank you!

[@danilaroche1156]

It doesn't mean too much. They think your cute. Unless he asks for a date...don't read too much into it.

[@danilaroche1156]

If you like the man...smile!

[@Butterfly07949]

I have noticed how different unsaved none toxic woman pursue as apposed to the way Christian woman pursue. Christian are on the whole devoid of their unconscious body language for example or pre occupied with their friends that a man is intimidated to approach!

[@Manglor824]

I've been burned by Christian women everyone I pursue them. They like me, them I pursue them and then they're gone. I think I need to find a nice atheist women.

[@rstroh5391]

So, if I met a guy at an event and we were cordial and I smiled etc., but he did not follow up with the basic Facebook friend request after the event - do I request him? Or do I assume he would have already done that if he were interested?

[@nappyfries]

What are examples of inviting to pursue? I’m friendly, smile a lot, generally warm & welcoming. Is that it? lol

[@Shukke1992]

Might be,I have a crush at my workplace she always smiles,seems friendly and all but she is like that with everyone,and my workplace is full of men,she is pretty and gets probably a ton of attention so I don't even bother approaching.

[@Fiona_la22]

But in my opinion it is a good sign that she is friendly with everyone. That means she is not faking it just to get your attention and being rude to others. Being friendly seems to be in here essence. You should approach her. Maybe every guy things the same way as you and at the end nobody is approaching her actually. Give it a try. ☺️

[@gloriaharris8712]

Bro. Mark, If one person is married with a family, he or she is not marriage material. God said what He put together let no man put asunder. I find that something happened to me, it has to be witchcraft, I’m a godly woman not lustful, but holy unto the Lord. I must stay before I hear from The Lord, The Spirit Of Truth. It’s the truth we know that makes us free. Would you please address this situation. Thanks 📖⛪️😇🙏

[@withinofwhat1083]

Take a grain of salt. Some man doesn’t approach cause they might be shy

[@danilaroche1156]

True dis. Men these days have anxiety. The devil is behind this so pray for the men.

[@who4259]

Amen! 👏👏🙏🙏

[@nataliaw.1371]

It’s about balance, but I had no idea bible supports games like this. I believed people have own natural responses on how to behave in certain situations.

[@wendyhall1449]

What if you find out that the guy doesn’t believe things the way you do and he continues to pursue you even when you have repeatedly told him you’re not interested. I have gone no contact and that should be obvious to him that I’m no longer interested in a relationship with him.

[@M.M.49]

Had an encounter while I was in the hospital, how can I give attention without chasing now?

[@leigholding1397]

I don't pursue cause I have no women in my life. Most at church want sin. And the word of faith movement church doesn't teach about sin. So I'm single, actually coming back home to a nice Baptist church, middle sensible scripture teaching church. I'm 44 and out of the sexual market. So I just shrug 🤷‍♂️ my shoulders at women because all they want is to lye down with me.

[@catherineidenyi783]

Not all women want to lie with you. There'd be a woman who genuinely loves you without wanting to lie with you before marriage.

[@danilaroche1156]

Your generalizing. I'm abstinent. Not all women want to lie with you. Your trippin booboo.

[@ellaaa4480]

This humbled me so much.... I feel so incredibly convicted by the Holy Spirit right now. Thank you so much for this video

[@ceesevenhundred]

Number five is the pivotal point. All I hear as an American multiethnic man is how a woman can do bad all by herself and she doesn’t need a man. What makes women think they are needed also? I can change my fire alarm batteries, change the oil in my 750Li, change my tires, lift over three hundred pounds, shoot any target with any of my guns and not miss, work hard for my dollars (C.R.E.A.M.), remain true to the faith and work out my salvation with fear and trembling, and cook and clean for myself. This world system, empowered by Lucifer, has lied to the American woman.

[@Mint-kj9kw]

When women say they don't need a man....they are specifically talking about finances. I make 6 figures....a lot of my friends do as well. We don't need a man to financially support us. Men need women though more than women need men.

[@cheryljohnson380]

As a woman I completely agree. Teaching women that a career is better than marriage and children is an outright lie. Especially if it involves sacrificing your unborn to baal. I never bought into feminism or abortion back in the day or even now. To me it's anti feminism.

[@acs1602]

​​@@Mint-kj9kwthat is completely unbiblical and wordly thinking,a son of God cant think like that,we yave different roles,one serves the other and help esch other equally,neither woman or man needs each other more,but all of us NEED THE LORD first,then man and women should be the ideal helper with each other

[@servantofchrist5085]

What if the dating relationship failed or didn’t work out.. is it the woman’s job too to restore the relationship if she was the one ended up rejected?

[@Ivyyyyx22]

There’s a difference between inviting and pursuing ppl. The point of the video.

[@mimap275]

I think men and women r confused on this depends on personality beliefs upbringing

[@db4419]

Do we get the course if we buy on kindle too??

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Yes!

[@damnchilly]

Hi mark, I'm wondering if its wise to invite someone i don't know of whether he is a follower of christ or not. Any advice? Thank you 🙏

[@BBFLY_RISEN]

Or, more simply put… Adam did NOT pursue Eve. He was ASLEEP. God brought her to him, he liked what had been presented to him and he chose to keep her. So ladies present yourselves to someone you’re interested in. 🤷🏿‍♀️. And YES show him your physical best. The Bible says GOD considers the heart but MANKInD looks on the flesh.

[@MerlynGraham-w6z]

Interesting

[@maknae4120]

3:11

[@isabellaabigailow1478]

The description of how to provide attention to a man was quite complicated. I couldn't qt visualise it. I think the explanation for that part could have been simplified. :)

[@Strongbear2013]

Should you pursue a woman you like if she never invites you or shows no discernible sign of doing so? Or should you just let that go and forget about her? And what if no woman ever invites you to pursue her? Does that mean you pursue no-one?

[@kimcarr3741]

If a woman shows no discernible sign of inviting you, I think you should not pursue her. Here's a secret. When you are not getting any encouragement from a woman that means she is not interested. Examples of that would be going out of her way to avoid you, looking the other way etc... When a woman is interested she will put herself in your way and find ways to be around you try to talk to you and she may even get downright silly/flirty if she likes you already to give you some encouragement. In answer to your last two questions keep trying because since you desire to be in a relationship there IS someone out there who would love to be with someone like you.

[@donnaspitler9911]

I would continue to smile with eye contact and say hi !! She may be slow to realize you notice her. I noticed a guy around my neighborhood and he would do this and it took awhile for me to catch on even though I was already attracted to him since I seen him this summer. I hope he will stop and talk with me. Good luck if this is still relevant or for in the future 😇💞

[@seekingforoo930]

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