Introverted Women Can Attract STRONG Godly Men LIKE THIS

[@amlco3942]

Mark, I'm tempted to believe you have some of us under surveillance now 🤣🤣🤣

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

LOL!

[@anacossa8437]

🤣🤣🤣🤣Holy Spirit

[@amlco3942]

@@anacossa8437 Indeed 😄👍

[@vmont626]

@amico3942 This video really touched my heart. I am in life changing moment now, I have been longing for godly relationship so long, but I struggled with such a low self esteem since I was a small kid. Thanks God he healed me from that and he also healed me from real sickness and wants me to live. It's rare that I shed a tear watching youtube video😂, but I just felt that I need to trust Lord and his timing and that he is always here for me and showing me love and mercy. 🙂

[@taylorpegues5871]

You definitely have us under surveillance. Someone prayed for me about this out of the blue lol

[@stavroulam7363]

The ending comment was hilarious but true!😊 Sending agape love to all introverted Christian women. I believe that when the holy spirit leads us to our God ordained spouse we will gather strength to step out of our introverted bubble & our energy levels will make a positive shift to make the human connection work! Amen ☦️💟🛐🕯️🕯️

[@katieakin1091]

I’m an introvert, but I’m also shy and quiet, so even when I am around people I’m comfortable with, I don’t always talk because I either don’t have anything to say (which is most of the time), or I feel like no one cares about what I have to say

[@dinomra7771]

Yeah I'm a guy and I can sort of relate, I'm pretty content hanging around my friends not talking and just listening. If you're hanging around people that you know don't care what you have to say, then don't hang around them. The best advice I ever heard was from Jordan Peterson and he said "If people don't listen to you then don't talk to them".

[@sakura1044]

Same with me...

[@rosegear3483]

Im the same way

[@jacquilinev]

Wow same

[@RedchairSher]

@katieAkin@dinomra you two just get together okay ! 🤣🤣

[@JillCee]

I am not so much introverted, but pretty messed up from some severe abuse growing up. Basically, just shut down to interaction due to PTSD issues. Recently, asked a guy some questions about his July 4th vacation and we are now dating. I am sitting here blown away because what I feared to do so much showed caring to the man I was talking with. It was drilled into me so hard through out my life to never ask questions about anything. So crazy how God works.

[@gb-db5gw]

I relate to you so much!!

[@themasterspiece5669]

As an introvert I can honestly say that I appreciate this message🙏🏾❤️

[@adoradoralen]

0:10 Develop the extroverted skills needed to be in a relationship 4:03 Don’t hide behind the introverted label & don’t blame the “passive men” 8:06 Stop waiting to be chosen and choose the man you want to pursue you 8:56 choose the man by being loving towards him

[@lisamcdonald359]

I wish I would have been given this advice 25 yes ago. I'm 50 now. I still desire that loving relationship I just regret the lost years.

[@tana5098]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm a 58 year old single woman and still haven't found an equally yoked Christian man to share a lifelong relationship. I always thought that God was supposed to bring a faithful man to me. Mark explains that even though men like pursuing a woman, it is up to us to give them thumbs up for doing the right things that give them encouragement to continue. I have had a couple unhappy relationships in the last few years, so it is hard for me to begin all over again. When you get older, being played with seems to hurt way more. At least this is how i see it. 😢💔

[@GodsSoldierGirl]

God restores all time lost so long as we seek Him and believe....I pray you don't regret one moment of your life but rather surrender it all to the Lord in trust that He has the perfect relationship in the making for you ❤ in His perfect time I pray you believe this and I am in agreement with you in Jesus name...amen 🙏

[@cynthiawoods4512]

I’m not afraid to talk to men, however I heard it was their job to pursue a woman in a dating/courtship relationship. Mind you I don’t have a degree in communication, however I believe it takes two people to communicate to make a relationship work.

[@vj9055]

Being an introvert doesnt mean someone is shy and insecure. It means they like spending time with themselves. They do have the ability to talk etc. and the confidence too. There are just too many wrong perceptions.

[@BritTellstheTruth]

I needed to hear this. I thought I was extroverted when I was younger, mostly because I did thrive in communication in my work. However, as I have gotten older, I’m more introverted now. I definitely need alone time to recharge but I realize now that I have to socialize more if I want to make new friends and meet my husband. 😂🎉❤

[@VentiColdbrew_]

Mark this video is so sweet. What you said at the end I had to write in my notes app. It warmed my heart. “If he’s attracted to you and he senses you like him it’s almost a guarantee he’ll pursue you He may think he’s choosing you but deep down in your heart you can know you really chose him.”

[@dinomra7771]

I wouldn't say it's a guarantee that we we'll pursue, but it definitely will better your chances!

[@VentiColdbrew_]

@@dinomra7771 it already worked :)

[@dinomra7771]

@@VentiColdbrew_ Nice.

[@gratefulandblessed7194]

This is great timing! I feel like you really open up our eyes as women. Thank you Mark!

[@krystavi05]

THANK YOU Mark!!! I needed this. I met a man at my new job and I feel like there's a mutual attraction. He has a religious background but I don't know where his spiritual maturity is at. I was afraid that if I pursued the relationship myself without him making a move first that I wouldn't be allowing God to guide the relationship - that I'd be forcing it myself. I thought waiting on God meant that the man had to make the first move (dunno why) and I've been obvious to the man about my interest, but never asked him out outright. The problem is that there are other men at work who are more social than he is and they dominate conversations with me and I think the guy I like is getting discouraged because we never get the chance to talk just us. I thought maybe this was God telling me he wasn't the right choice for me and I was resigned to that. Your video made me realize my mistakes and I feel confident in just making the move myself - come what may - or else I'll never know because this guy does seem like the antisocial-introvert-passive type. So thank you! (I'm crying tears of relief and hope as I write this hahaha).

[@whitneybenton4755]

Awww, that is so sugar sweet Crystal🥰 Praying everything goes well for you both🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️ blessings

[@gracerules2423]

From a woman married 30 years. A couple questions: “Do you want an anti-social-introvert-passive man?” “Are you setting a precedence in the relationship of always having to take the lead, and is that healthy?” “As an introverted woman, will that type of man bring out the best in both of you if his mode of operation does not change?”

[@gracefulhumble7248]

Hi, I know you are not asking me for my opinion, and I do not want to be that annoying person giving unsolicited advice. But sister, please be so careful dating a man you work with, a man at work led me on years ago and it was one of the most painful experiences I have ever been through in my life, I wont give you the details of what happened but it effected me for years. Because if it ends badly you will have to see him which makes it so hard to heal your heart. And possibly quickly find a new job. Wishing you all the best

[@laolualuko9417]

Yayy! Please tell me how it goes.

[@evasccl7846]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 i loved it how you ended it sharing the secret 😉 The amazon and delivery guys being the only ones knocking on your door if that is how a woman waits... made me laugh SO much... Good sense of humour makes the lesson or teaching stick better! Thank you for making this video for introverted women like myself... you helped me realize we actually know how men feel and what they fear because we do too!

[@mserickab1]

Yep Yep I did my part... turndowns from men make me stronger. That lets me know I'm not the woman that's just sitting around waiting. 🙂I wisely pick.

[@thechelseachannel794]

Thank you for this! I’m definitely an introverted woman although I do enjoy socializing with others. I kinda like this guy at my Bible study, and I’m not sure if he’s interested in me or not, or whether he’s taken. I want to be in a Godly relationship and he is definitely a Godly man. I haven’t been able to make it to bible study recently but I hope to continue going. With this advice, I’m hoping to give him hints I like him.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

If he is not wearing a wedding ring, go for it!

[@theone7216]

I'm a introverted Christian man looking to find that good Christian woman one day.

[@DevineCyrus5]

Hi..hope I'm not a year late.

[@midokan14]

Thanks Mark, at last a video about someone like me 😆 I'm an introvert and speaking in front of a crowd or congregation is not much of a problem for me. I think I also developed an assertive attitude over time (for work-related), that's why maybe some men might be attracted to me but they seem to be "intimidated" at me 😅 Idk, maybe I just speak my mind too much? 😂 Btw I love sharing my thoughts esp. about Bible reading.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, how you say things to a man is more important than what you say. A man doesn't want to be confronted or challenged but he should be happy to hear your thoughts. One way to do this is use "I" and "me" more than "you" when sharing things. Try to share rather than "teach" :)

[@katyb3606]

​@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallengerDo you have a video where you speak more about how we, as women, can learn to "share" rather than " teach" ? As a woman I have had that problem where I felt more of a "mother" than a "woman" in a relationship and it's not something I like or enjoy, but often ends up in that way...Sometimes I think I either attract this kind of men, either I do something wrong or have a wrong perspective on men and how are they made...definitely needing help 😣 I am 36 years old and loosing hope I will find the right man...

[@tomspriggs9478]

Men are not intimidated by you. More likely men find you wearying or constantly difficult. Your assertiveness is what men do NOT find attractive.

[@midokan14]

​@@tomspriggs9478 I did not say that some men were attracted to me BECAUSE of my assertiveness; and btw I disagree with you because I know some women who are assertive but that's what their partners found attractive about them. Being assertive has its own pros and cons, as all behaviors or attitudes do. And please don't say such judgments over people's comments online, you're not even Mark.

[@tomspriggs9478]

@@midokan14 I will respond to whatever I want. But you go do you.

[@karinafoster6974]

This totally speaks to me, as an introvert. I was wondering why some married men don’t wear wedding rings? I have seen a couple guys at church that I find attractive and would like to get to know better. They aren’t wearing a ring, so I think they are single. Then I see them with a woman and/or kids. Or I ask one of our Pastors and find out they are married. Makes it harder for Christian women to “invite” a man to pursue her. At least when the man wears a wedding ring, we know he is taken. After all when women wear rings, that lets men know they are taken. Them not wearing a ring, is a double standard to me. Though I realize some professions, make it challenging for them to wear them. It would make it so much easier if they did. I also go to a church where there is about 1,000 people over 3 services. So hard to know if there are single guys going to different services. I have asked a couple different Pastors at church as well as a couple friends, if they know any single men around my age. No such luck yet. So I will keep waiting

[@trippy9548]

Aww man. This is where I'm going to hit a wall. I am so shy and scared to talk to guys I like 😳

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Start small. Like anything else in life, it's a process that takes practice.

[@FierceLegendZ]

I usually have a line as a reference to talk to women I like, for me as a man, comedy is my go to in order to break the ice lol

[@trippy9548]

@@FierceLegendZ I love a funny guy lol

[@FierceLegendZ]

@@trippy9548 yes, that's good. Shows you have a sense of humor lol

[@dinomra7771]

@@trippy9548 Also every guy likes a girl with a sense of humor.

[@tiberarugambwa200]

This message also applies to some of us who are extroverted especially the extra loving part. Sometimes we tend to be all over the place, showing love and caring to everyone at the same intensity..So, we thank you so much for the tips..😊

[@luk6316]

Listening to this, I think core essence (especially the second part) can be equally applied to men. I appreciate the end comments. I've just pursued a girl a few dates and she decided it was a no go. Although the rejection was painful (and still is) its better to be rejected than regret not trying.

[@changeyourheart2921]

@@RevanKnight56 These are not godly women. Seek the kingdom of heaven and His righteousness and God will guaranteed give you a woman of God.

[@Joy_M507]

@@RevanKnight56 Hello. You’re right that there’s nothing guaranteed in life, but I encourage you to hold on to faith in God and don’t lose that desire to be in a godly relationship/marriage one day. His timing is perfect. I, myself, am a 34-year-old woman who has yet to be found by a man who truly desires me and will love me as Christ loves the church. I’ve never been married and have no children. Year after year of being single or meeting guys who later put me in the friend zone has made it easy to give up hope that marriage will ever happen for me. I have times of deep sadness over this and have questioned “what is wrong with me” or “why did my life pan out this way,” but I have to remain faithful in God’s will for my life. It’s not easy but know you’re not alone in your feelings. God truly does care for you and will withhold no good thing from you. Don’t lose hope. Continue to seek God, live your life and let Him know what you desire. He will help you! God bless.

[@dinomra7771]

@@RevanKnight56 Dude if you're being told that then it sounds to me like the Women you're pursuing definitely aren't Christian and you should be looking else where. It's either that or it's something that you're doing.

[@dinomra7771]

@@RevanKnight56 No dude, if you beat yourself to a pulp no Woman is gonna be interested in you.

[@yvettejones6196]

Dear Mark! With today’s teaching, as always, you nailed it and knocked the ball out of the park!! This is one-up for all introverts. As a Social Services worker I am an extremely introverted person. However, for over 30 years I interview people in distress and feel awkward at times at work. But I plan to use this timely, amazing advice from you by faith. Thank you kindly.😊❤🙏🏾

[@ruanim509]

The #3 comes so strong, that only the 'healed [for the ones who had past trauma] and healthy [matured]' ladies could get forward to.👍💫

[@JerusalemSullivan-qe8dk]

This was very encouraging and i don't feel that this advice will have me looking and acting wordly than you for helping us find love in a biblical way .

[@nappyfries]

I love how you say that he can think he did the pursuing but you know you’re the one who did. If that doesn’t describe how a lot of decisions in marriage are made then idk what does lol

[@rosemarybrewington8250]

I needed to hear this.....Amen🙏

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad! God is good!

[@agnesr.4664]

That is a gem again. I am extrovert and this does not apply to me at all - but so much insight!

[@vj9055]

The video is correct I agree!! However introverts should spend or take a risk being more out there and working on their presence.

[@Idontgothatway]

6:46 LOL 😂 dang. You called me out 1000%

[@vmont626]

I'm an introvert man who likes introvert women. But I'm not introvert in sense that I'm shy or don't know/want how to talk with women. I'm really eloquent but it's just that I don't like to interupt someone's personal space or mind. But if I know the person then I'm talkative with them but I also like my time alone, so Idk. hahaha 😂🙂

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

I get that, I talk about that in point 1. Some women prefer a guy like you :)

[@vmont626]

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Thanks a lot. I appreciate your work 🙂

[@davajohnson9764]

I appreciate this as my fight or flight kicks when I'm approached in public, specifically when my space/thoughts are interrupted. But if it's a natural, organic, non-threatening conversation/approach, I'll talk all day!

[@whitneybenton4755]

This is so GOOD and timely 😆😆AMEN Actively waiting not ,passively waiting ❤️

[@vickylamb2482]

Thanks Mark you made some good points . Lord Bless

[@Daily_Christian_Motivation]

I know it can be tricky for introverted Christian women to put themselves out there, but it's so worth it! I'll be praying for you as you take this journey.

[@markfornefeld299]

You should do one on introverted men And how to pursue A godly women

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

This video relates to that: kzbin.info/www/bejne/q36kiWmnZ9anrdk But yes, down the line I will try to do that topic!

[@eabbcc642]

🍃 keep faith 🍃

[@bobtomato1568]

Wow Mark, thank you! I've been learning about this and I think it's time to start doing and stop overthinking.

[@jenniferclemente1516]

This was for me! I'm an abuse survivor who was almost killed and now don't trust anyone. Thanks for your spiritual work, love and God bless 🙏😁

[@Psalm_27.4]

@Jennifer Clemente My Deepest Sympathy for the abuse you suffered. Personally, I think that the man should always make the first move. I think a man needs to make the first move for his own self-respect sake. If you’re not ready for a relationship yet. But when you are, he BETTER be very sincere, kind and protective of you!

[@franceshaggitt3104]

You ok

[@LSV-Walking]

Very awesome message.

[@alastrionaseger8571]

This is so helpful. Thank you!

[@aishanusoul]

I do totally day that & do all this.. I guess dad is instructing me through you right now lol. Cause time is running out as a 36 year old lol

[@_heyimbritt]

So what’s the balance between waiting on the Lord and doing some of the suggestions you mentioned. I’m 33 turning 34 soon and I desire marriage and want to meet a godly man

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Great question. I talk about that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e2HbpYxrm6drabc

[@sakura1044]

When you think about it, Ruth made the first move with Boaz. Never thought about it that way.

[@healedforpurpose1793]

Thank you! 😊 Who knew I needed to hear it so plainly. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️❤️

[@akisiimireisabella4132]

Me too❤😂

[@ivanav6697]

Thank you so much Mark! God bless you🙏☺️

[@Savannah-c3c]

The UPS guy had me dying 😂🤣

[@van-liem1695]

This video is so helpful ! God bless you 🙏 Thanks 🎉

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Glad it was helpful! God bless you too!

[@cay820]

You better preach, Mark!

[@floydblack7696]

Great ministry ,Mark press on!! 👏 hooray!!!!!

[@crearyapril4362]

When you non purposefully start engaging with people to build personal development social skills they call you fake. Highly extroverted men tend to be extremely intimidating it takes a lot of yourself to pour into his life. But you know for introverts this is a agonizing process especially if it isn't well received. Mark thanks for the commentary I'm renewed in my Spirit to get up and start doing life . I want to engage with successful relationships and social groups on a sincere personal level. As an introvert we are uncomfortable with casual relationships. Due to our nature not to socialize with everyone we only want that one someone because we are guarded. But it's time to build relationships in every area of my life and this was a step. I didn't know Ruth pursued Boaz I thought he left grain offering to let her know he was interested and she got counsel to lay at his feet by Naomi. So it wasn't Ruth idea however it eventually worked out and that's neither here or there in my situation. But it does bring back a time I kind of regressed because people misread highly functioning introverts. They often think because you don't fight to be seen that you're incompetent so when you do open up they are not accommodated to you and feel you think you know it all. As oppose to learned it all God Bless you.

[@dimaryriveraguerrerasnatio709]

Blessings this can also cause inequality in the relationship, you need reciprocity, did this an unfortunately got hurt.

[@ezabreeza3223]

Thank you so much for this video!❤ everything that you talked about being wrong I was taught. I see now why only negative man approached me. Maybe it's not too late for me to get a husband😅

[@theantifeministwoman7567]

That first skill. Ahaha. It's a fast way for this introvert to go, "nope." Brother..

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

lol, yeah, no magic spells here :) Like anything else good in life, it takes work!

[@dsymonkey]

you give the BEST advice!!!! THANK YOU MARK!!!

[@ksenijadavid2082]

You are right in all you said😊👍 Thx for the video.

[@PrettyIndependent1]

😫😬😬😬Hard to hear. I was cringing the whole time knowing He’s so RIGHT. Yikes! I need to be a lot more active in my own love life. He’s especially right in waiting for a guy that I’m am also a stranger to, since I am not showing him who I truly am, yet excepting him to pursue me. That’s actually saying I’m looking for a shallow relationship if I’m expecting a man simply to look at me and come over and ask me out when I’ve shown no interest. I’m so so guilty of doing all these things and I didn’t realize how it looks and what I was truly expecting. Thank you Mark. This was helpful. 😅 The irony is I’m so fun and natural around men I’m not interested in, and not meaning to show interest, but because I’m so relaxed those are the men that end up begging me to go out with them. 😳🫣🫠

[@ringrinka]

am introvert. i can socialize with men and women. but am too shy in front of men i potentially like. i will blank mind, tensed, stutter, i cant talk properly or look him in the eyes... please pray for me. i want to change this trait. i think its because in the past, all my female friend who likes (n show/pursue) men first got manipulated. and i dont want to make/initiate man to pursue me but then i need to reject him after know him more. i will feel guilt if that happen. thats why i only wait in quiet and respond to whom come to me.

[@dinomra7771]

So a good way to get the ball rolling with us guys is to ask us about something that we show interest in, say if you see a guy who like sports ask him what sports he likes. The thing is that part of dating is finding out what's best for you, and rejection is gonna be part of that I'm afraid. But don't sell yourself short and just date a guy because you're afraid to say no and hurt his feelings.

[@ringrinka]

@@dinomra7771 thank u. i really want to try it without have attachment hope. need to manage my motive and shyness first.

[@dinomra7771]

@@ringrinka Yeah just, don't think to hard. lol

[@ringrinka]

@@dinomra7771 ah yes u right. am overthinker. sometimes i feel like i need to shut my mind forcefully. coz i make many scenarios of some event/plan/conversation before/after do it.

[@dinomra7771]

@@ringrinka Man you sound just like me lol. The best advice I got was from a Navy SEAL and he would say "Don't think, just do" which if you're a very logical person like I am that can be hard to do. lol

[@NoName-zb1gm]

I'm trying to attract a woman who seems shy and introverted. We go to the same Church and I see her at Mass if we happen to go to the same Mass. The thing that bothers me is even she thinks I'm just physically attracted to her. What has society done to women? I wish she would appreciate that I like her also because she seems like a person with high morals and values and based on some of our conversations I think we have a lot in common. I keep trying to win her over but I'd rather wait longer until she sees perhaps God has brought us together.

[@gb-db5gw]

What ended up happening?

[@NoName-zb1gm]

@@gb-db5gw Nothing. I asked her out and she said no so I gave up on her. I still see her at Church and I say hello just to be friendly and she acts like she doesn't even want to talk to me. Her loss.

[@eleanorjordan3404]

This is very insightful and helpful in that it offers avenues in which to move forward in growth-inducing ways. 🙏🏻TY!

[@asia9548]

I needed to hear this

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad it was timely Asia!

[@faradara5310]

I understand what you mean Mark, but what about in Song of Solomon where the verse” Daughter’s of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelle of the field do not awaken or arouse love until it so desires. It’s mentioned three times in this book

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

It also implies there is a time to awaken love. It states there is a time love will be ready :)

[@DanielaaLovessYouu]

Mark love this video! What happens if I'm the extrovert and he's the introvert?? I flirt with him and he flirts back but he's really shy and nervous around me.

[@indigo_dreamz]

9:30 I would like to make a signal and pursue a guy but what happens if we talk and then realize we are different, was it like leading them on? And now need to step away and that might hurt the person? Any advice? I like how you said the female loving energy ⚡, but sometimes guys take that and run with it so much and become obsessed and rush, when you are just being kind and cautious too

[@katwoman1413]

@dragondude That woman will call you, I guarantee the reason why you have not heard back in weeks from her is because she is pretending to be busy so she can appear like she is more important than she really is and to have you thinking there might be someone else so you can chase her 😂

[@maurine3553]

"I am resting in the peace of knowing I did my best". I confessed my feelings almost 3 months ago and he hasn't responded yet. I watched another video about how good men take their time but how much time should be the question. If it starts weighing you down emotionally and physically, I think you should move on, heal and open up your options. It's was already hard being vulnerable like that and waiting for their feedback. As you said, wait but don't sit and wait for him forever. And yes, women should pursue the men they want

[@HowlingCoyoteToot]

It’s too long.

[@justpeachy2692]

I think it all depends on the man you're dealing with. Some men would welcome a woman taking the initiative and some men would be turned off. Knowing which type of man who appreciates what approach is needed. Just my two cents.

[@hopeabraham7162]

Am really learning alot here

[@forerunness]

Amen! beautiful message! 🙏❤🔥

[@Daily_Christian_Motivation]

God has someone special for each of us, and that He will help us to be open and available when the time is right. I'll be praying for you as you continue to seek God's will for your life.

[@Sofia-wl5pt]

I did all 3 points and didnt work with the man I chose and wanted to pursue me 😅😅 (hope to be wiser next time) 💜

[@Clauds71]

Awesome 👏 ❤

[@shesnaturallydope6298]

I’m introverted and dated a extrovert he didn’t make me feel loved and he didn’t want to work it’s like he didn’t want to be a man or a husband and I’m almost 31 on the 14th and he’s 24 years okdso I know it wasn’t going to last. Mark I been following you for a while now no relationship worked so now I’m focusing on God and I don’t want a relationship anymore. Also I pursued him not him pursue me.

[@LightBeingsBE]

Where are some places that soley Christians go outside of church? I wish I can go to only those places because the places I go aren’t the best at all. Random restaurants, the mall…I’m over 40…and African American so some believe this position is an invisible situation.

[@chill6863]

Another great video, Mark. I asked this question in another video and no one responded but I’d really like to know the passages of scripture that suggest men should be the “pursuer”?

[@dinomra7771]

Well Jacob literally walked up to Rachel and kissed her so, there's that lol.

[@chill6863]

Thanks for the reply! Yes! Jacob’s servitude toward Laban for a total of 14 years (even after being tricked by Laban) is certainly a great demonstration of love and patience for Rachel but I’m not sure that particular story can be used to say that God instituted that the Christian male should always be the pursuer. In other words, I’m looking for that clear directive from God in His word! I’m very open to finding such a directive but I’m yet to find it.

[@dinomra7771]

@@chill6863 I mean I don't think it's necessary that a guy always has to make the first move.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

It's a principle taken from a husbands role as leader in the marriage and applied to the dating context (Ephesians 5:22-33)

[@hooballoolify]

I'm trying to change careers because my job leaves me exhausted as an introvert. I had a career that I enjoyed, and a guy friend who finally expressed his affection for me. Unfortunately, I was laid off and had to move back home in a different state. My ISTJ personality doesn't pick up "love signals." Men have to be direct with me. I've left a narcissistic guy behind and don't want to go through another mess like that. 😪

[@dinomra7771]

INFJ guy here, usually the way I pick up on anything is I compare how someone acts around their friends and then compare that to how the act around me. Also if a guy likes you, he will probably be intent to find opportunities to hang around you and find ways to communicate with you, at least that's how I do it. Hope this helps!

[@Psalm_27.4]

@@dinomra7771 I think that’s a great way to pursue a woman. Just make sure you also SAY that you’re interested, so that it’s CLEAR to her. BTW I’m and INFJ woman. However, I’m not looking for you to pursue me! Just letting you know that I’m in the same Meyers-Briggs boat as you!! 😁

[@dinomra7771]

@@Psalm_27.4 Thanks for the advice.

[@dianaaavula4306]

Waiting for you master.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@janetlee191]

I really don't like small talk.. I can't stay focused and find myself drifting in my thoughts when people are small talking.

[@vania698]

Тhank you!

[@victoriagauthier2008]

I think you have that a little confused the story of the talent refers to taking our resources are blessings, Blessing others to increase God's kingdom and return to him tenfold which he has offered us. I don't think it all, that it was intended to use as a way to attract men. And sometimes the Lord wants us single for now, And so yes, we must wait patiently.. As christians there are many things that the Lord wants to teach us and if we draw close to him, he reveals himself in a miraculous ways to us. I have seen the miracles of God work in my family, and in my life. So I will wait on the Lord. Even if I must wait forever, as he is the love of our life, Too many christians are on the fence, They claim to love God and praise God and they go to church, But then the concerns of this world... And the expectations of others draw them back into their sins.. I don't believe in living by the world standards andpleasing others but to please the Lord our God, Whose laws are righteous and true they are love and peace and faithfulness. And daily when I am out in society tempted by satan, And put to the test. But as the saying goes *what would Jesus do.* 🤔 You must use that, and stand behind it. And in this way your light will shine before rest of the world. It is not a matter of, As Paul would say boasting... But rather as Jesus would do and set the example. And remember to praise God each and every day, for all things are by his *will* through his *power* and *strength* and *for his glory now and forever Amen*

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Principles in the Bible should be used in all areas of our life, including in relationships :) Nothing in the Bible talks about dating directly. But clearly God wants us to date in a biblical way, so the only way to do that is to apply princeps in a wise way. Yes, many are called to singleness but more are called to marriage, so you need to be careful you are not miscategorizing people from your personal desires for yourself :)

[@voice4thevoicelessones]

What if the man you choose is a celebrity? I even messaged his mother whom he is very close to; and she also has an Instagram. I have never been as attracted to a man as I have to him. He is a singer and songwriter, and so am I. We actually have many things in common.

[@tylerhewlett4124]

Amen! ✝️😇❤️

[@Daily_Christian_Motivation]

I know how difficult it can be to feel like you're being seen and heard in a world that often feels like it's designed for extroverts. But it's so important to remember that we are seen and heard by the One who created us and knows us best.

[@tracyoguntokun4284]

Amen 🙏✝️🙏♥️

[@jeffreycorrections3500]

You help me bro . Ima be engaged soon

[@journeywithjesus8375]

Can you do a video on extroverted women? :)

[@marcierfcc]

I do live in a place where, culturally and geographically, the female demographic isn't well served of single men. 11 years without practice, plus having dealt with chemo and b.c. treatment less than 5 years ago, I jumped a few hurdles life threw at me, surrounded by already married couples, or divorced female leaders in ministry. Whatever little social skills I got back in Europe, 11 years of South China former Portuguese region, I'm afraid I didn't even think about it and totally feel like I wouldn't know what to do if a single man was to pop up in such a setting I described. Well, mind you, we're getting new missionaries and I could be getting caught in disbelief and total unpreparedness. I'm one of the few edging close to 40, moved around the world a little more than usual, and options are becoming few. And now I panic at the thought that my emotions could trick me, so I've been fasting and praying. People around me seem clueless this is going on within me, and most advice I get is, as I'm doing now: from western side of the world, via this channel. Where I live, christians tend to think the single christian men have to be imported from other countries, but working visa is a whole set of struggles for those few guys who tried. It's a busy city that's geographically in South China but it's not even legally China because it's one of the Special Regions under autonomous government. It's just demographically crazy. Even the city seems to be "on a limbo", politically. I think I would and could get emotionally tricked easily as is something "too good to be true". It's like those airports where a small plane lands and it's like a jet has landed. People usually move to this city where I live already as a family, and work long shifts. Singles struggle to even meet. The few men missionaries spend so much time working long shifts to provide for families they barely see men to invite, they usually work with kids & local families who get married very early in life because locals get most job benefits. It's kinda complex to be applying general principles, but seems like trusting the Lord is what I can do. There has been someone new in town and in church serving us, and it's one of these cases of waiting for a working visa, with limited job options, but has been somehow sent to serve our city. Has been always around me calling my name while I hyperfocus serving, and I feel kinda caught off-guard. Lord help me 😂😂😂 Most of the time the introvert in me wants to be recharged from oral meds I'm still taking - it's personal and it's not at the same time!

[@taylorpegues5871]

Definitely

[@pattypatty1484]

I think you're asking the wrong questions. Ask yourself how you are being treated by others. Nothing wrong with a high and bye. God tells us to love others, he did not tell us to continue to allow ourselves to be abused by others. If you are not received, God says to shake the dust off our feet and go to another town where you will be received. Says nothing about forcing love onto others.

[@JuliaJJ63432]

🙏😊

[@linafigz8375]

Chiiiile... Where ARE the godly single men?? THATS the problem. We push ourselves to attend "singles events" at church, seminars... etc... and you know what we find?? MORE single women!!!! Lol. It's not needing practice for me... it's these parched and dry lands my friend! We Elijah out here in the desert😩 lol

[@maryl9180]

Same here. Everywhere I go trying to meet new people, seems there are only single women available, no single men.

[@itzdatgalblessbygodsuperwo1694]

😳 how God help Man to Stand🤦🤴🙏

[@trippy9548]

And I'm almost 30 😭

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

You need to face your fears. Things won't change with age :) If you don't learn a lesson you just keep going forward in life without that lesson. God bless!

[@jenx8119]

Over 50% of the population are introverts. We are not less valuable or lovable than extroverts. Both personality types possess both positive and negative qualities. Society must stop making introverts seem as if we are "weird", "too boring", "too quiet" than extroverts. Personally, I am quite over this stigma.

[@aishanusoul]

Yea basically...lol. intj here

[@franceshaggitt3104]

You don't choose mark. God chooses.

[@ludivinahahn-santiago1687]

Me,me,me....😂

[@Psalm_27.4]

Sir, I’m not this is good advice. I think that the man should ALWAYS take the initiative of having interest. Too many men play with women and show half-baked attention. In my opinion, this is sneaky and cowardly. Boaz made it CRYSTAL CLEAR that he loved Ruth BEFORE she lay at her feet. She also had the go ahead from Naomi, who knew a few things!!! I say, I want to KNOW FOR SURE that my husband didn’t need my help to know what he wanted. Adam knew immediately how to see Eve! I believe that the man has more self-respect and confidence about the relationship, if he knows he took the risk first. An interested lady will joyfully respond. Just sayin!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@marthagonzalez2879]

so where is this guy want me to go to find a husband? lol.

[@forlord8946]

😂😂😂 🤍💜💛🙏

[@willferguson2935]

❤BRILLIANT ❤

[@janetlee191]

in·tro·vert /ˈintrəˌvərt/ noun a shy, reticent person. "I'm an introvert and don't like public speaking" adjective