How a Narcissist Disrespects You To Break You Down

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chapters
00:00 introduction
00: 46 THE ANNOUNCEMENT !
01:26 1. Light hearted humor and subtle remarks
03:02 2.Blatent demeaning & Belittiling
05:12 3.Disregard for your boundaries & individuality
06:44 4.Deceit & Crazy manipulation
08:17 5.They dehumanize you in every way possible

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@Cat-oj4oz]

I so appreciate you, Danish... I have recently had a major upheaval in my health that seems to have brought out the worst ugliness in my n-mom. I have come to realize that after all the abuse, I will never be "whole" with all these psychic scars as I have not yet attained indifference. The good news is that I think of myself in Japanese Kintsugi terms as a broken vessel put back together with gold in the cracks, making a beautiful new object. I love this concept. Thank you for all your kindness and wisdom.

[@jamesl2846]

When you realise that you were never in a relationship you were in a competition or a fight where they were only ever interested in proving their superiority over you.

[@RockyMoth]

So true, so true!

[@nirmalaprabhakaran3586]

It is a competition to prove you are worthless and they are much above you. To belittle they will go to great trouble

[@Sashathebully]

Straight up, no chaser! 🎯

[@leakypussy9813]

I’m just coming out this now after 7years.. i recognised it at year or two in and tried to make him see his ways and it just made it worse 😞 very defeated.

[@khoango2337]

*Also you're just a object to for them to manipulate for their own benefit .

[@izawaniek2568]

Spot on. The scope of disrespect in a narcisistic relationship is progressive exactly the way you have described it. Narcisistic abusers will kill your personality and break your spirit, they will annihilate your life force If you Let them so with the first sign of disrespect we should distance ourselves and seriously consider the future of that relationship. Thank you Danish.

[@dclarke1896]

Exactly, don't walk run!

[@narcabusecoach]

Thanks for your thoughtful comment! As a part of healing, It’s important to recognize the signs of a narcissistic relationship early on and take the necessary steps to protect yourself .

[@nate7629]

Now that you mention it my dad did mention to me one time "is your spirit broken yet" followed much later by some sort of justification for such a comment... Wtf??

[@user-kw5os5pv7s]

My mother whipped me with a horse quilt and when I asked her why , when I was a grown woman,she said : 'I had to break your spirit'.

[@riddhidharaiya5032]

" absence of empathy" means you are dealing with non human, soulless, zombies.. what else they can do expect destroying you in every possible ways...

[@courtneymeyers82]

They have demons fr

[@narcabusecoach]

It's like they don't have a soul.

[@ebubeemmanuel6231]

You are dealing with Jezebelics spirit

[@sanjmalik6282]

I got to stage 5 in my marriage and the insults and comments he made shook me to the core. I never knew anyone could be so cruel and mean and i realised that this was the person i married who i saw at the end. The one in beginning didnt exist. His behavior completely destroyed me as a person that i didnt sleep at night for 4 years and i was a nervous wreck during the day too afraid to step out of my own house as he shattered my confidence. I am at peace now and i have slowly started to build my life up again.

[@bhawnaarora6383]

Same happened to me, despite being a Doctor. The only thing which has kept me somewhat stable is my current job and spirituality

[@jeaninem4762]

​@@bhawnaarora6383 I think my brother does this to my sister in law. She is a doctor and continually is pregnant.. Unable to maintain a full time position. She does temporary work because every 1 1/2 years, she's on maternity leave. The last time I saw her, she had self chopped her black hair to her shoulders, was pregnant and she was wearing a dress she stitched herself. It was basic cotton mother's outfit...but she is no where the resemblance of who she was during marriage to my brother.

[@janedoe5229]

When I met my husband, many, many years ago, I had come out of a bad relationship, and he seemed to nice and wonderful (Looking back, he was always on stage and loved attention). When we started dating, I was so happy that he chose ME!! He seemed perfect, always adoring, but he always told little insulting jokes about me, and then playfully cover his mouth and laugh. Of course, if I complained, he said it was "just a joke". I thought if I broke up with him over these little jokes, I would be petty. After all, he was nice to me the rest of the time. I met him at church and we did not live together or have sex until we got married. It was a BIG church and we were very involved. Once we got married, and no longer around other people, he changed. He changed on our honeymoon. His attitude was, "I own you now". When people were not around, he treated me badly. And all those "jokes" became flat-out cutting insults. But at church, he still shined and dazzled everyone. I had to shine too, to make sure that he looked GOOD: The perfect Christian with the perfect wife. When I was unhappy, no one could believe that my charming, fun husband could be the problem. They all felt sorry for him being stuck with a depressed wife. We would go to church counseling, and I didn't DARE make him look bad in front of the pastor. The pastor said to me, "You are an enigma". Yes, I am an emotionally abused woman married to a charming, covert narcissist. I am a hostage. The pastor never got me alone to ask me what was REALLY going on. Well, that was decades ago. I left him, left that church, went through a lot of crap, and finally found healing. I am married to a good man now. Now if I meet someone and they make a joke at my expense and laugh it off as "just a joke", I see it as a MAJOR red flag and I cut them out of my life.

[@narcabusecoach]

It's great to hear that you have been able to find healing and are in a much better place now.

[@mercyz6252]

Same here. Our hope is Jesus not church. Church is blinded and obsessed with leadership not the Holy Spirit. Look up child of God, you are His 🙌🏽

[@ilovegod9008]

Wow!! You left! You got out and changed your life. . . Improved yourself! This gives spreads so much hope!! ❤❤❤

[@jeaninem4762]

Wow! Where we married to the same man???!!! I have that same story, word for word,just like you said, he changed the day we got married on the honey moon after 1 year of courting me...perfectly..he even went to Africa on a mission trip. He was the co- pastor ( I call it con-pastor). So I had to look pretty and perfect and he treated me perfect at church.. kisses, hugs, calling me out during a sermon as his dear wife etc...no one would believe that the minute we got into the car, put the key in the ignition..he turned into a different man, one who is angry at me.. Angry for embarrassing him by asking a question to the head pastor..I was all alone with this crazy man because church members want to respect newly married life...no one believed me.whilr I filed for domestic violence charges. the church applauded him when he walked in...I was just the disgruntled wife. He even " forgave me" in church and reconciled our marriage publicly a couple times during a call for prayer. No one knew that this monster was hurting me... Physically at home. ..denying me making me feel guilty for asking for finances for my needs.I filed for divorce and won domestic violence cases against him. Got custody of my daughter and the God of heaven...the REAL GOD... vindicated me financially and physically and helped me through healing . I mustered up the courage for divorce( because it's against the Bible I was told) but I had faith in the Real God who saw my pain. God..he SAVES!

[@dclarke1896]

This is spot on. My ex narcissist subtly mentioned my weight gain and how it makes me less attractive overall. He also stated that me being a single mom makes me far less valuable in the dating pool. When I had other men much younger pursue me, he would rage and / or treat me like trash and say I deserve to be treated like this. I am so glad that horrible man is gone! Be safe, everyone! 🙏

[@narcabusecoach]

Thank you for sharing your story. Your worth is not determined by what the narcissist says. I am glad to know he is gone forever. Good riddance!

[@joseenoel8093]

They dare not look at themselves, I only needed to be having a bad hair day, sprained ankle and worn out by Xmas to have covert mom try to throw me out after she requested I visit, I stayed, gave her hell and never returned, 8 yrs and counting, her will's made, she's in a nursing home and not being good enough works for me!

[@RandomUser-he3fr]

Its another type of crazy when you find that not your partner, but your parents are the narcissists trying to break you down every damn time you talk to them.

[@narcabusecoach]

Ugh, that's the worst! Have been through that hell myself

[@cherylberk4593]

I am so blown away by the correctness of this video. In all the therapy, youtube videos, seminars, etc. I have never heard anyone discuss this horrific narc tactic at all, much less with your clarity and acuracy. These people really are monsters, vampires. Thank you again❤️

[@jeaninem4762]

I agree!!!!

[@user-ky9tk5es4c]

Everything Danish says is spot on. My 15 year marriage ended when my Dr admitted me to the psych ward for severe depression. I left with just the clothes on my back. Therapy and living now the most amazing life... single!

[@gracegrace9567]

Another really compelling description of life as no one wants to know it...thank you for making me feel less alone .

[@narcabusecoach]

I'm so grateful that you felt less alone after watching this video.

[@RockyMoth]

I am 57 and just now am realizing the horrific psychological abuse my parents (primarily my narccisitic, always lying mother) is still pursuing against me (and my siblings). I am attempting no contact, which began about a month ago. I say attempt, becaseu I live next door to my parents. I am making plans to move as soon as possible. Danish, I thank you so much and wow I am astonished that at your young age you have come to see and realize this sooner than I. Again thank you for your commentaries and observasions. You are helping me in so many ways. I listen, take notes and re watch many of your videos. : )

[@terridillon3053]

Just realized this at 60 yrs old 3 years no contact Long journey back to self. Get away ASAP You will heal

[@narcabusecoach]

It means the world to me that my videos have been helpful to you. Thank you for your continued support and for sharing your story.

[@joseenoel8093]

I learned 4 yrs ago at 58, I'll take it! All those times I reached out to anyone trying to figure covert mom out to no avail, unbelivable and all her geared up fighting towards me golden child gone copper was seen as reg drama. I should never have wasted my time telling people what a weird situation I lived!

[@MegaRose1958]

My ex always critized the fact I have a degree and complained that if he couldn't understand why I chose a regular job constantly, he became worst like you mentioned disrespecting me as the relationship came to an end, constantly saying disrespectful things, hiding things, became very controlling, emotionally abusive and physical abusive. I knew I had to end the relationship as soon as I could!! I ended getting a PTO, filing a police report, going to the emergency room etc.

[@angelakeely5859]

They are horrible the way they behave, sub Human 🤔🚩🏃‍♀️

[@MegaRose1958]

@@jbrown2908 I'm free in one sense, but I have still had to experience him violating the PTO. My tires have been slashed bec. I had company six months into the PTO, I am afraid to have a man come over bec. I don't want my tires slashed or any harm to myself or anyone else.

[@LN-pm5yl]

They love to criticize your having a stable job bc it affords you independence and they know they could never do it

[@narcabusecoach]

So glad you got out of that situation. You're an inspiration.

[@user-ky9tk5es4c]

Can relate exactly

[@djw8504]

My ex asshole started picking at me for loving to go hiking or biking. I mean God forbid that I didn’t join him for his hobby in drinking every single day until drunk. Shane on me!! He can do much better!! Lol!! Thank you and many prayers for any and everyone going through a tough time. 🙏💪❤️

[@clintonnagy1662]

My ex hated my hobbies. Sculpture work and Roller skating. She would make me feel so guilty I would stop or question if I should do them at all? She told me relationships are sacrifice and that if I wanted to be with her I had to give that stuff up. Keep in mind I didn't spend alot of time doing those things and she was first of my priorities because I truly loved her. It's a shame so much time wasted arguing over jealously towards my passions.

[@djw8504]

I get it!! Same way I felt! I loved him so much that I only did things he wanted to do, which was sitting at his favorite local sports bar just to keep him happy. I feel so stupid now that I am healing and learning how to love myself first. Many Blessings 🙏💪😁

[@donnadurden7621]

Thank you, Danish, for your videos. I'm 70 and a widow for 2 years. . My husband was a good man and I miss him very much. I want another man in my life and I got involved with a narcissist. I had never known a narcissist, but I knew something was wrong. He flip-flopped. He gave me "homework" that was nonsense. He withheld affection. He kept going over things that he didn't like even though I would explain, in detail, why I wouldn't conform to his wishes. I was very confused because during thus period, he was love bombing me.. Then one night, after 3 months, he exploded and verbally abused me for everything he didn't like about me. Everything he couldn't control. I was so hurt and confused because I had never seen such behavior. I was obsessing over him, trying to understand, and I hated where I was. Then I ran across your videos. This guy checked every box! I was able to stop worrying about him and trust my reality again. I'm amazed at how much damage he did in 3 months. So I thank you, Danish, for your solid and helpful information.

[@Charmainecharmainecharmaine]

I wish KZbin was accessible like this in the 90s.. would’ve saved my mom’s life a lifetime of pain

[@pauljones5066]

disrespectful is the word. thanks man

[@Gator777]

You nailed it. Disrespect my whole life. No wonder I left and never looked back. Still don’t understand why?

[@tarey05]

Perfect examples beautifully expressed here for victims who feel lost, belittled confused, traumatized! Ur compassion and empathy is a healing elixir for so many who are physically and psychologically afflicted with the deep pain endured while in a narcissistically abusive relationship. No one can tell the story like you, Danish! Thank you again! ❤

[@narcabusecoach]

Thanks so much for your continued support! It means a lot to me :)

[@arthurian9085]

It's amazing ... you know every little detail and every little strategy of these satanic beasts. You should teach classes at school.

[@bdale8102]

Probably one of the best and most accurate videos on how they break you down to control you and keep you in their little box of manageable objects’! Loved how you described the things they say as they peer into your accomplishments to render them as ‘nothing’. Side note: they delight in dragging out your accomplishments in front of others and ridiculing them and saying things that make anything you’ve ever done to improve yourself as being worthless. They are experts in engaging in key conversations with others to label your accomplishments as ‘bragging’. This is effective in making sure that anything you have done or will do future to advance your life will be viewed as something negative, unnecessary, and that you “think too highly of yourself “. If the narcissist can convince enough others of this false narrative about you they can control some very important aspects of your life. Eventually it’s about what you believe about yourself that is key to your survival. Don’t let them in your head.

[@MacyLuv]

Yall. I did the one no no. I called him out, by name. He's threatening slander. I hope he sues. So I can take it to the Supreme Court and explain that we should be able to call them out by name. If rape victims can, why can't we? We are being emotionally abused. Psychologically abused. Mentally abused. Emotionally abused. The human body is the human body no matter WHAT KIND OF ABUSE. If I end up dead, you're ALL WORTH THE FREEDOM. I LOVE YALL ❤️ This page has been a game changer for me. Stay safe!

[@helenlesleysmith7559]

You stay safe girl you are strong and a better person than him. Look how beautiful you are. Don't get to my age 65 & be put down,go now & fly!

[@natural3362]

​@@helenlesleysmith7559aww God bless you

[@alouise3557]

Stop! Everything he is threatening is for *power and control.* He's not going to sue you for "slander" because it'll cost him money and standing in court would force him to be cross examined and expose himself and his manipulation and lies in front of everyone. At their core, they're fkn bullies with no b@lls. I have one of my own and he threatened me that he "has an ace in his back pocket" that he will try to ruin me for. I told him he better get after it then because I will meet his threats with force, and he will see what it's like to bring a knife to a gun fight. In fact in one phone call, I can ruin half his life. In another phone call, I can ruin the *rest* of his life. Always be ready to outsmart them and *never live in fear of them.* That is what they lust for. Control. I am not telling you to go to his house and ask for a punch in the face. I'm telling you to outsmart him, don't stand down, and do not doubt yourself at any turn. Make him wonder if you're really worth playing games with.

[@TheRealZmanzee]

Oh he’s going be accountable for everything he has done god got him!

[@sawdustadikt979]

This whole cycle starts right at the beginning. They give you little tests to see IF and HOW you react in the very first conversation they have with you. Like they are gauging distance and if they see no response, they keep closing distance with no reason to hesitate.

[@narcabusecoach]

Yeah, they're like little chess pieces moving around to see what kind of reaction they can get from you. Keep your guard up!

[@sawdustadikt979]

@@narcabusecoach exactly. Stay in the moment, don’t gave anyone the benefit of the doubt.

[@reneeboehm558]

Wow, dehumanization and disrespect checks all the boxes, this narcissist

[@gemmy1151]

Such a helpful video. The narc just left the house to go to the gym and do some more bodybuidling. I was feeling good and having a ncie relazing Saturday. I try to hide any happiness because he jumps on me and verbally attacks me when he senses my good vibes. He told me I am terrible at my job, was hot 12 years ago and now look horrible, that I have a horrible voice, and that in spsite of my high iq I am very dumb. I had to keep myself from laughing at his absurd remarks. At this point I've learned to just agree and shrug and act sad to get him to shut up and leave me alone for a bit. Now if I can just figure out HOW to get my own money stored away and then leave since he takes all my money and energy.

[@ebubeemmanuel6231]

This people envy and jealousy is at the highest degree

[@clintonnagy1662]

She was jealous of my dog for being sick. Told me it was only dog and not a human. Dogs don't deserve to be saved so why take it to the vet? I was appalled hearing that from the person I thought loved me??

[@michelledimora5891]

Thank you for breaking it down like this. It truly helps keep me sane for the sadistic narcissistic "ex" (who claims that we have been together for the last 3 years when i ended it 3 years ago but I could never get him to leave). He has gone through all 5 stages with me and entered stage 5 a few months ago and I have never ever ever experienced this level of cruelty and torture. I don't know what to do but am surviving it the best I can. I don't know how to do simple things anymore like searching for help to get out of this but will do it on days that he leaves me alone long enough that I think clearly again. He's scaring me and makes me believe he knows everything I am doing and when I say things like " Please stop being so cruel to me. you can't do what you are doing to me (screw me over with no disregard to me financially or puts me in dangerous situations). This is criminal and you should have consequences for what you are doing to me"- He immediately tells me that sounds like a threat Michelle! You better be careful what you say. Then he will disappear /ghost me / block me and leave me to clean up the messes he has made...which only triggers my fear more & debilitates me . I know it sounds pathetic, This isn't how I normally act and have always been able to leave, end, and get out of abusive or toxic relationships, but he was so covert, so completely manipulative and always so so calm to the very end. He was even calm as I was on the ground begging for mercy to stop hurting me & telling him I don't want to even live (which when I met him, I was in a good place, loved life, had amazing friends, travelled, was starting my own business)- I just turned 50 and fighting for my life back. So THANK YOU for putting together all these videos, I truly am grateful to have found you and others doing what you do. The lessons from this experience will never be forgotten and will be used in service to others and myself if I can just escape his grip on me and stay safe!

[@aditijaine]

This is so true!! Leave them and run away before they destroy you!

[@Spock_Rogers]

Good advice! 🕊️

[@DwyaneWadeCounty]

Narcs LOVE, LOVE, LOVE bad mouthing you behind your back to your friends. They WILL turn your friends against you and they WILL ruin your reputation if you don't try to stop them. "Law 5: So Much Depends On Reputation Guard It With Your Life" from The 48 Laws Of Power.

[@clintonnagy1662]

After the break up I know her and her mother hate me. I went from the hero to the villian ( in 18 months ) because I disagreed with her Mom. Her mom made a rude statement about my sick father, I defended myself on why I visit him so often for being in the nursing home. I typed an apology but it wasn't excepted. 2 weeks after the break up my ex GF was on date with her new supply with birthday tickets ( for me to see a local concert pre- break up) and she brought someone else. I went to snoop around there and long and behold, she was on a date. I was angry, hurt and demoralized but I confronted her before leaving because I wasn't leaving without letting her know she was exposed and I see it now.

[@reneeboehm558]

The amount of disrespect he showed me was unbelievable

[@MotorcyclePhaedrus]

You just keep up the good work danish, you give people the words and the language they need to get through that dark night of the soul.

[@narcabusecoach]

Thank you for the kind words and for watching the video!

[@dezzab8926]

Yes great way to put it! Thank you Danish for giving us the words and descriptions and truths ❤

[@caitlinterranova3032]

Bless you for clearly and simply identifying everything you go through when your in a relationship with a narcissist. It helps so much to be able to identify and understand the craziness and trauma that was my life. Thank you 🙏

[@narcabusecoach]

Thanks so much! It's always awesome to hear when my work has been useful.

[@pleasantsville]

I left my narc but they keep coming into my life. This was my former boss. I left that job with no regrets when all of these tactics became obvious to me.

[@jagrutidurani7395]

My Narc is so jealous , he stands behind me with stern face , while I talk to people - so that those people watch his stern , cold face , which gives a very unfriendly signal , and decide to cut the conversation and leave - this is how he isolates me . Earlier I would not understand ( also I would not suspect him to do such things, Gradually , i had begun to see myself as unimportant, but then I figured out that this was a strategy , deliberately he would stand behind me and not along side ..- so now I immediately turn around nonchalantly and catch him in the act such that he is exposed ( he KNOWS I have caught him. ),

[@pameladavis9939]

There is NO healing from a narcissistic parent if you end marrying a narcissist and don't realize it until years later! I never knew this evilness ever existed! Now I'm SO damaged I couldn't find my way out of a wet paper bag! I'm SO damaged even if I did leave I wouldn't know who I could trust? Having a relationship with another man is impossible now, I'm old and broken! There is nothing left of the me that I used to be!

[@serene9636]

You are worth it as long as you breathe. Tell yourself everyday that you have a spine of steel and determination of a mountain and eternal faith of creator. Embrace and hold on to yourself. One step at a time. You are already on the journey as you know what it is that ails you. Take next step. Disengage your mind from his. Look at his words actions as his. Have a different narrative for yourself. Stop reacting. It will be a roller coaster ride. But you have to keep moving. Find yourself places people mental space to distance from him. Love yourself enough to not to blame yourself. You may be old but you owe this to your younger self. You will soon start seeing the light and a way that it lit. Remember you have already started this journey, along with so many of us.

[@courtneymeyers82]

Sweetheart you aren't ever too old to start living again. I believe we live many different lives during our time here on Earth. This is your chance at a new life for you. You can be happy single. In fact you might love being single

[@narcabusecoach]

I'm glad you found the courage to reach out and share your story. I understand it can be a difficult journey, but you can find the strength to make it through.

[@pameladavis9939]

@@narcabusecoach 🙋☺️💗

[@katenkaren6692]

​@serene9636 at your core you are still alive.. It takes time to heal the emotional wounds . Be kind to yourself.. Keep strong boundries.. Anyone that triggers you with hurtful comments ..stay away from them.. Do positive things for yourself. You are worth it❤

[@undercoverbird8592]

Yeah- I just realized this week that I was/ am a single parent for the last 13 years and never in a marriage for 18 years. I had a total mental and emotional breakdown and couldn’t go to work. I have no emotional support. My kids try but it’s too much for their minds- the things their father put me through…. I can’t even tell them. 😢❤

[@narcabusecoach]

I'm so sorry to hear about what you have gone through. It's never easy to be in a narcissistic relationship especially when you have kids with them.

[@undercoverbird8592]

@@narcabusecoach thank you danish. I just found your channel about 2 weeks ago and though I have been watching many channels the trauma bubbles up with out warning sometimes. It’s not always possible to be strong and happy ALL the time for my kids and work. I am responsible for my feelings and well being and I just could not go to work for a day. I cried the whole day binge watching your videos. I feel better. Thank you! 🙏🦋🌻💕 still more work to do though. 😂

[@trishflorida4250]

​@undercoverbird8592 Jesus healed me and God my Father gave me his peace. My name is written in the Lambs book of life. I will spend Eternity with God my Father and Jesus my Lord and Savior and the Holy Spirit. Call on Jesus.

[@sssttt2211]

It's so true. After a while they use your and their network to disrespect you further.

[@elleng4876]

I went through all those stages, in that order, as you described. In my case, the most dangerous stage was #4. I had been brought so low thinking that it was my fault I'd lost his regard and love. I came dangerously close to joining him in some of his nefarious business dealings as a way to prove my worth and regain what we had at the beginning of our relationship. .

[@narcabusecoach]

You dodged a bullet there! It's always best to stay away from any kind of business dealings with a narcissist.

[@VoxLesPaul]

10:45 Typo: "...because respect is the foundation of any form of relationship."

[@ebolivar3605]

Fellow survivors: after watching this video from dear Danish yesterday I cried and cried, but afterwards I experienced an incredible healing. I was shown that, even though we are all in different stages of our healing, we will in the future see the narcissist as small and meaningless, we will be able to distinguish them to protect ourselves, and it will be as simple as we see in the film the Matrix when the character Neo extends his hand and blocks the bullets of the evil ones. It will happen. Have faith and don't go back. A wonderful future awaits you and you will be stronger and more beautiful inside. Much love.💕💕💕

[@awe124]

Brother hear me out, you are speaking wisdom and truth. I watch your videos and many experts like yourself should create content with workplace narcissist abuse. In other words, these helpful techniques are tricky to do in work situations. It’s literally every corporate job on this planet. I’ve watched a ton of videos here and sure some techniques work up to a point where as others are near next to impossible to do when working situations arise. Quitting a job or going to HR is absolutely not going to help and in my experience on a new job most people go from bad to worse. Stay strong if you are going through this. You find yourself thinking about which strategy to use even on weekends lol. Anyhow I think I made my point. Final thought, it’s simply tough to do this week in and week out in any type of situation when dealing with these sinister evil people. The game is mentally exhausting and seeking Thearpy sucks as the best therapist are right here on KZbin, facts. Keep up the great work man.

[@CIslas-im1um]

The ex narc was getting to another level of control. While i was pregnant, he told me not to eat so as not to gain weight. I was doing everything. He was at home all the time, and he didn't lift a finger to help. Summers was him spending time at his brothers house 4 hours away in Las Vegas. This time apart gave me a clear view of his complete disrespect of us, his family. He came back and I said we were going to visit family my children never met and I'd not seen for years. He told me he would change the locks, and I could not be at his home again. I left, saw the family, and we came back home, key not working to open the door lock. I made a u turn back to my family I had just visited. I filed Ro/Divorce against him. My children and I didn't receive his support and we floated around. Now we live in a very small trailer home. I struggle, but the peace is incomparable! 😊

[@alouise3557]

He did it to you and it was ok. You did it to him and he lost his shit and had a tantrum. That is a classic example of who they really are. He's a COWARD.

[@wisegentle7859]

the greatest "high" a narcissist gets is to force you to deny your reality/pain/hurt/feelings... etc. I broke my arm when I was 8 years old...it literally formed an S shape....I was crying from the pain...my mother was furious because I had interrupted her...she said angrily wiggle your fingers...I could manage to move them slightly and though my arm, between my elbow and wrist was in the form of an "S"" she told me you are lying pick up your bicycle and go away. I was terrified of my mother and her violence so as I picked up my bike using my broken arm the weight of the bicycle snaped my arm back straight...Thank God ! The pain I dealt with, rather than crying or asking for help from my mother. Decades of abuse but the worst was people who didn't know, who enabled her because she was a very good actress. I forgive her and the subsequent narcissists, some very dangerous, that crossed my path through the years and I DO NOT deny my reality because that is what a narcissist wants most.

[@Anunes7777]

Yes .. very true of all you shared about narc attitudes and behaviours... thank you Danish for your details explanations.. I can relate to all those what you shared .. it is very exhausting to be with them..

[@narcabusecoach]

It is definitely an exhausting experience to be around a narcissist and I'm glad that my video was able to provide some clarity.

[@nvrt728]

He cheated openly didn’t care about hurting, disrespecting me and his children. He humiliated me so many times even in front of the woman when I caught them the first time. I have gone through hell and back.

[@JasminAhmed-xd7ls]

10yrs of marriage and it was at stage 3 that I finally worked up the courage to tell him we needed change for our relationship to stand any chance of working out. He refused. Stage 4 convinced me there was no way things were going to get better. Now I'm at stage 5 (9 months after that initial conversation) and trying survive the overwhelming emotions that comes with his hostility and attempting to heal... Thank you for all your videos. They've been a godsend.

[@nikkinoo3034]

Wow! Every point is spot on. I ended up in the bedroom alienated from my children, even the dog would be taken out of the room. 3 yrs post narc, and i am building a new future. Never give up, you are loved. ❤

[@vickileverton2732]

This was my experience in the exacted order you've said. I've been in no contact for 9 weeks now. Thank you for doing your videos. They're helping me to make sense of his behaviour and all the abuse I suffered. 6 months ago I literally looked at him and thought to myself ( and almost said to him) who the f..k are you ? I'm so grateful that I didn't say it out loud.

[@aqdassyed6572]

Thankyou Danish you open my eyes and provide me words i am looking for ages ❤️ I've been through and its still on going abuse covert and insidious narcissist, having nobody to turn to it's really hard to gain your self worth and i am working on shining internally once again , hope I find a healthy circle to laugh who won't abuse me like I am used to , i am abused by mother and sister

[@narcabusecoach]

I am beyond happy that I have been able to help you find your voice. Indeed, you find your circle. Sending a lot of love and healing

[@aqdassyed6572]

@@narcabusecoach may Allah bless ❤️

[@gajananjoshi404]

Thanks for the informative video, Danish ..... I have been a hopeless and helpless victim of narcissistic abuse from my parents especially my mother and very much recently I fell a victim to narcissistic abuse from a superior and another girl ..... I'm 53 now and I feel that this narcissistic abuse in my life may never end ...... My life will end but till I am alive I fear that I will easily fall as prey to these narcissistic abusers .......

[@maryharris7828]

Although,I've been a very strong person,it's been Extremely very challenging,when work ing alone,gang stalked ,tires,slit 5x, dismantled auto tie rod by these people,etc. Previous boyfriend was in on it,but I didn't know it.They break you financially to KEEP you trapped. I can't imagine weaker,or uninformed people dealing with narc alone. Like minds must come together to spread the word EVERY DAY during our daily lives.

[@cindybriden372]

You are so right on!!!! Not just in this video, but also in your other videos. It's healing to listen to you!! Thank you so much!!

[@terridillon3053]

EVIL! Pure evil

[@BlueSunBeam]

Although it seems bleak, the story is not fiction. I live it everyday. Currently riding out Stage 4. Praying that he will allow his heart to stay open to receive the Holy Spirit and that he may accept Jesus Christ as his Lord and Savior. I truly believe that it is only He who will heal the traumas and deep emotional scars that have caused this pain for him to be so wretched to those who love him so much. ✨🤍✨🕊️ ✨ 1 Corinthians 13:1 LOVE bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. ✨🤍🕊️

[@stephaniehall6309]

I used to say that too and almost got killed😢 some men you just can’t reach

[@simjam1980]

Don't wait. You will only suffer more.

[@karenk2409]

He won't receive any Holy Spirit. Please run as far as you can. You have become a doormat.

[@KristaBear]

Narcs dont change. Get out while you can and love at a distance.

[@alouise3557]

Do you want to see a flock of narcissists who are "men of God" and believe they're being led by God? Look at the Governing Body of Jehovah's Witnesses. They are the biggest narcissists on earth, believing that God talks to them and that they are leading millions of people, yet they're destroying lives by the thousands. If JWs dare to object to their teachings, they will be shunned & cut off for life. Families are destroyed as JWs themselves, are unknowingly taught to carry narc traits, including love bombing, devaluing and final elimination, albeit they do it in a way that is of the belief that "if you want my love back, prove it and rejoin, and I'll talk to you again. By me not showing you love and affection, you will suffer until you can't stand it anymore and prove yourself." These people believe they're the only "true Christians" on earth. They're a cult led by Satan. I'm not saying the Holy Spirit can't cleanse them and I better start praying for the same, but it's highly unlikely my Narc will receive a "new heart". This is a way of life they've *grown into* and they prey (not *pray* ) upon weak people. Pray for wisdom and strength to withstand the hissing of the serpent, because that's who we're dealing with. I'm convinced that anyone who recognizes their salvation in Christ may change their behaviors for a time, but be careful, as God can allow them to be handed over to Satan, and none of us are above having our hearts crushed. I was a studious Christian for well over 20 years of my adult life and I taught scripture to a lot of my followers on a website, in a group, and on a KZbin channel years ago. I was the type who could debate almost anyone who spoke against the Bible, and I spent the better portion of my adult life in the study of Christian theology. I dedicated my life to the Lord and I ended up years later in life with the man of my dreams, who I would later uncover to be what I now believe is a Covert Narcissist. He was in such a miserable state of alcoholism and a dead loveless marriage that I sought to save him and pull him out of drowning & grief. Indeed, I fell in love him with all of my heart and he's now getting separated. He's meanwhile entering "phase 5" of attempting to degrade & utterly dehumanize me. I don't know what's happening to him but it's as if the devil has a chokehold on him, destroying him from the inside out. Literally. His life is being overtaken and he's losing everything as he sinks even deeper. My spiritual relationship with the Lord has been annihilated, and I've had no desire to pray. I'll pray tonight after seeing your comment but I think it's worth noting that the Lord may, in fact, be working behind the scenes to get them out of our lives for a reason. Faith is knowing we can't change the will of God, but rather praying for the strength to get through whatever He allows to be putvbefore us. May He answer your prayers.

[@Spock_Rogers]

I'm so over being treated like an unintelligent child. This is by someone who watches TV all day, never doing anything productive.

[@nandini2999]

You have all the answers. Now I am relieved, I took right decision. I feel amazing. After watching your videos.

[@justmemother2]

They are shameless, evil, selfish demons who care only for themselves. Get out safely while you can.

[@maggiesalle2256]

This is all my narc parents did as I was growing up. This happens in religious groups too.

[@courtneymeyers82]

Thank you Danish, you are wise beyond your years 🎉

[@narcabusecoach]

I really appreciate your kind words. It means a lot to me.

[@melaniebeaudette9309]

This is me now I am totally empty

[@calvarez519]

At the very end of his fabulous video, he may have meant to say that "respect" is necessary for a good relationship. (not "disrespect") Don't mean to be picky, but Narcs listening to the video would be clapping and hi-fiveing. Loved this video, though. Thank you. 😊

[@Withallyourfaults]

All this has happened to me and is still happening. There is no way out, I am 77 years old with ill health . I got the wisdom too late I hope people see this, and get out whilst they can. Thank you

[@PaintingandExercise]

It took me years to determine that a friend is a covert narc. It was so very, very subtle. All of the slights, disrespect, and put downs seemed small but overall were quite large. Finally, I was on the receiving end of narc rage over what was not a big deal. Rather than apologize the narc became a profane, insulting, rage filled monster who let me know what they really thought of me which was not much. The subtle signs were: I learned to draw and paint pretty well. When I would send photos of my art the narc never responded. Never. The narc would make plans and cancel at the last minute. When we would meet for lunch the narc acted like they couldn't get out of there fast enough. I realize now what an idiot I was for ignoring the knots in my stomach and the low grade depression that grew when I let this person near me. I have gone No Contact for 1 month and feel fantastic.

[@pashaazeem1]

Eerily accurate.

[@happyhealthyblessed]

I believe this to 💯 true

[@clarymatos4607]

God Bless You. You sir have gained yourself a special sure place in heaven . I’m rooting for ya!!

[@herbgarden496]

Thanks for the help!

[@TheGarnetObsidian]

Thank you for stating this so plainly. Namaste

[@roseperozzi6730]

You are the best!!❤

[@shivkumarcm]

Thank you for running this channel! Your content is a life saver!

[@joannefernie8982]

Thank you Danish ❤❤❤ You're a light in the darkness ✨️ 🙏🙏🙏

[@czernykins]

Danish every time I see your episodes I can't have enough gratitude. You explain everything very clearly and a lot of that stuff has taken us so much time and effort and pain to realize. Wish you the very best and thank you so much for helping us all. Lots of good luck, stay cool!!!

[@rapstar4575]

We love the vids danish. You doing great buddy.

[@marwabahgat1330]

My life story in brief ..thank you so much

[@metavio7]

Great video!!!

[@catchofthedayvideonews769]

This video is especially to the point. Great. Thank you for your videos shorts etc. I am impressed.

[@ginaalesha2]

I appreciate all your knowledge on this subject of narcissism and abuse! In your own time, I’d like to hear more of your story ❤

[@Indrani_Mukherjee19]

Your content is so powerful.

[@helentaylor6375]

Thank you Danish.

[@SamanthaNoelle]

Great video! ❤

[@gracegwozdz8185]

Danish, you are so precious! Thanks so much for your awesome work.

[@narcabusecoach]

Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad you're finding value in my work!

[@messpilo]

Thank you. Very useful, ❤️

[@lenaleong4894]

Thank you

[@t_nels]

Great explanation of what happened. Makes me wonder does this come natural to them or are they doing it like setting a trap? Then they put you in your place with your spouse and children and take your whole life.

[@scleo1959]

EXCELLENT video. You tell my life story, unfortunately.

[@gregmanvel]

Thank you Danish

[@rachelbrough8160]

Hi Danish, I am a new subscriber to your channel but I am finding it extremely beneficial and you certainly know what you're talking about. I was in a narcissistic relationship five years ago with someone who I genuinely loved and it was incredibly hard for me to leave but I have now been free of it for just over 2 years. I had to go no contact with him. However just afew days ago he got back in touch with me and it really threw me. I would put him in the 'Vulnerable' narcissistic category which I feel is even harder to deal with and he always found a way to appeal to my compassionate/empathetic nature and manipulated me through that. He was such a Jekyll & Hyde character and was capable of being so cruel and cold and he'd have me in tears at times, then he would be the very opposite. It was an absolute emotional rollercoaster. It took a massive toll on me but I did learn a lot about narcissistic personalities from research and listening to videos from experts such as yourself - this has helped very much. I have now had to block him from a certain app which I had forgotten about, that's why he was able to contact me. He actually asked me for closure! And made it out to be mutual mistreatment which couldn't be further from the truth. The sad thing is I still have feelings for him but I know I cannot go there hence my blocking him. Sorry for the long text. I'm glad I have found your channel. x

[@SarahRejsa-oi6bq]

Thank you.

[@hopeinhumanity.]

Accurate.

[@lemone2316]

In 8 years of being together, we are finally in stage 5 😢 He even asked me to marry him but I HAVE to be okay with him having affairs in the future otherwise he won’t marry me.😂 Everything that has been said in this video happened to me and my narc ex up until the stage 5. I refused to believe that he is who he truly is, a pure evil. I was truly hopeful that one day he will change but now he openly tells me that i’m mentally ill and have no self-respect. Without even considering his actions that made me into the person I am now. I thought somehow there was a chance for people like him to become a better person but I am sure now that there isn’t and I feel bad for the person he will be with in the future. Thank u for your eye-opening videos. Because of you I finally gained the courage to run away and never look back.

[@arthurkian6331]

This is exactly right

[@7_earths]

i wonder what or how narcs feel when they watch these vidoes that expose them to the core?? 😅

[@geetapriyabhat7783]

Congratulations for 100k sub. Keep the good work on..ur videos have given me an insight to heal from narcissistic abuse. Many need this knowledge.

[@alouise3557]

He's at 256K subs now. Doubled over 4 months? What does that tell you about the world we live in, considering the nature of this channel? Are you sure he only had 100K subs 4 months ago when you wrote that?

[@jenni303]

So true!!

[@dee0731]

Well said

[@leeanntan9030]

Happened to me recently. Now I’m on vacation, healing.

[@cutewiz90]

I remember the narc would call me “fat cute doll”. First I thought oh he means I am cute … but after it fell upon me he means I am fat. He would be subtle in referring to my weight. He would show me pics of other women from adult sites saying he likes these kinds of women 🤦🏽‍♀️. They are sick and they themselves might not look good or anything but want to show themselves as the best and superior.

[@mariehalsey8892]

Thank you for this video I really needed to hear all of that! Learning about narcissistic abuse is never in vain.

[@sangeetanair3643]

I have heard people say anything nonsense and later say that " they don't care"