How ADHD Ignites Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is an extreme emotional sensitivity and emotional pain triggered by the perception - not necessarily the reality - that a person has been rejected, teased, or criticized by important people in their life. Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) may also be triggered by a sense of failure, or falling short - failing to meet either their own high standards or others’ expectations.
The extreme emotional pain of perceived rejection is a feeling unique to people with ADHD, and it can be debilitating. Learn how Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria may be impacting you or a loved one, and what you can do to move forward.
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[@foodforinsomnia7026]

I hate when I try to explain how I feel to other people and they just dismiss it. It’s like get over yourself, tell yourself some affirmations. It’s so much deeper than that.

[@derosa195]

I gave up sharing with my successful sister. .she will also. Invalidate. By saying oh I have that. .never mind

[@danny-li6io]

At 48 years old, I have always just thought I was chronically insecure, even though I have tremendous confidence in most social situations. This brought tears to my eyes when my therapist told me about it. It’s pretty easy for me to feel like I am so incredibly inadequate, that no one should like me, even though so much evidence does not support these feelings of self hatred. I think we are they ones who really reject ourselves the most?

[@rmorph33]

Yes sir, I agree. I just turned 30 and am almost exactly the way you described yourself. This makes everyday life so difficult, and I have always crumbled when the feeling comes. I do work on myself each day but the pain is suffocating in a sense. How do you get through life? Thank you

[@gloriadarty6150]

I'm 25 going on 26 and I feel like I'm a failure because this this morning at my sister was telling me to clean up and I'm telling her I know how to to clean up and and she say I taught you better than that and I will start getting mad and started crying cuz she was criticizing me I keep telling her I've been doing this for years and it gets annoying and I'm also suffering from mild retardation

[@kellyshelley1427]

I was told it was depression

[@kellyshelley1427]

….and later was misdiagnosed with bipolar.

[@1midnightfish]

@@gloriadarty6150 Big hug!

[@dailyflash]

I’m constantly afraid of criticism, failure, rejection, and disappointing others. It’s like I’m shell-shocked and I can’t shake it. It really is hell.

[@sugansugan56]

:( sorry - I feel this way often and I can’t take medication which use to help - I have too many side effects now - can u get medicated. ?

[@itsNevi]

I'm 28 now and I was diagnosed with ADD at the age of 16. I never understood where my emotional instability and intense pain around rejection came from and spent years thinking I was broken. I came across this concept 3 weeks ago and my perception on my life has taken a complete 180. Keep spreading awareness and destigmatize

[@Polyfire]

I’m also 28 now and was just diagnosed with adhd this year. Thank you for sharing this because I struggle with the same thing. I am mortified at the thought of rejection and would rather tear myself away from relationships than risk the deep cuts of rejection. Most of it is made up in my head. Godspeed!

[@Seasonal-Shadow_4674]

@Jeremy Cooke are there any good research studies that focus around this symptom? We could use that to spread awareness?

[@thecalmingspace7242]

Is there a cure for it?

[@Rollwithit699]

Yes, agree. I am severely hurt by rejection, others ask why I just don't "get over it." Also dealing with loss related to passing of loved ones. My dear mother passed in 2002 and I'm just now able to briefly talk about her without sobbing. It's almost debilitating.

[@cody3504]

I’m 27 we’re finally on the right track!

[@Stella-vc7fb]

I’ve had so many experiences with this, Once my science teacher told me to pay attention in class and I went home and cried for like 45 minutes. I felt like a failure and like I lost value because someone else was disappointed with me. I am so relieved that other people with ADHD experience this as well and that there’s a community of people who understand how I feel :)

[@user-pv8zy4sf1i]

yea it’s with every small thing like that, it’s sad how people have to deal with this seriously :(

[@jaSama02]

I've been diagnosed with social phobia and depression and held that diagnosis for years but recently I've been diagnosed with ADHD and it all suddenly starts to make sense

[@cynthializardi5858]

That last sentence, saying you are not broken...tears nearly came out...Its just what I've felt as normal all these years. I'm glad I'm not alone.

[@mxmauxi]

So grateful to have 7 years of an emotional trigger in my life explained away in 1:18 haha great content

[@noneofyourbusiness4616]

Try 45 years.

[@user-dh4sx9rx1r]

A lot of people told me that RSD is just ptsd but rejection sensitivity is not really caused by trauma. One time I had RSD attack from a person, and when I got angry and blamed her for the pain I’m having. other people got angry at me and told me to stop blaming everyone and that I was hiding behind my disorders. So based on what they said to me, I have learned that staying stuck of what happened in the past and only focusing on the pain will only just ruin your future, and whoever criticizes me because of something I did that could have been wrong to take it as a advice to become a better person, despite how much that will trigger my RSD. And to be honest it actually changed the way I feel about being insulted and criticized and it doesn’t really hurt as much as it used to anymore.

[@jewhisperer]

Same experience

[@HeyMJ.]

Knowledge is Power! I didn’t know that RSD existed until I stumbled upon this video. (6mo after your comment!) It seems like it’s often incorrectly Dx’d as some other behavior or non-ADD issue /challenge.

[@mag6521]

A coworker who trained me rejected my follow request on linkedin and I went as far as making fake accounts on linkedin, checking periodically if she followed back, checking if she had posted anything etc., if she had followed other people in the group (she had) just to be able to determine whether she had in fact denied my request, I didn’t want to believe it bc it was too painful to accept. I already feel “different” and am afraid of people “discovering” me and not liking me so this was so painful. I literally felt debilitated for days, ruminating about where I went wrong when I had been so nice and tried to act so normal. I was so distraught and even had suicidal thoughts. I don’t know if anyone else has been through this to this extent but omg it’s hard to live life like this 😢😭

[@avarast]

Idk if it went to this extent, but i have had similar thought when I realised i had different treatment from others than my friend or group did or etc. But failed to realised it happened the other way around multiple times too. Sometimes I have gutfeeling about someone (probably wrong) and never actually try to talk to them or was distant. Or i was favored in a situation where my friend/group didn't. Its something that can happen for multiple reasons. It just sucks that we take it harder and/or more personally because it happens to everyone. most people (i think) just learn to brush it off pretty early in life.

[@Hallieweenqueen]

Woah thats soooo relatable! I’m going through something very similar right now. Happy to know I’m not alone with these dark feelings about myself

[@christianmontesino171]

​@@Hallieweenqueensame 😢

[@akatzurah303]

Once i forgot to tell my ex psychiatrist that i have ADHD and he diagnosed me with BPD, later on with my new psychiatrist, he said "you don't fear of abandonment, you don't have black and withe thinking..." And i said "i forgot to tell you, i have ADHD" ande he was like "THAT'S IT! you should've told me before, you're misdiagnosed with BPD when actually you have ADHD" i felt so blessed when he said that

[@D3XTerSvK]

Is there possibility of BPD coming in hand in hand with ADHD? I feel like my brain sometimes fluctuates even beyond ADHD, its sometimes unbearable. My brain functions and moods somtimes change within a seconds and sometimes it doesn't change for couple of hours. Really unpredictable. And when I'm emotionally overwhelmed, the emotions just stack up inside me and then I become toxic to the loved ones but they don't understand

[@KL-bc1eg]

@@D3XTerSvK Ya, it's not uncommon for ADHD to have co-existing mood disorder or personality disorder.

[@annetteboettner3435]

I just sat and cried through this very short video, still shaky from becoming angry two days ago.

[@GL1TCHG4MING]

For me, RSD shows up immediately if I think someone else is concluding I'm dumb or incompetent. Happened a couple times this week- really makes me wanna resign all obligations for the rest of the night, call out of work, and stew/lick my wounds. Really hard, in moments like this, to think objectively and not let it consume me, and go on and tackle my night.

[@spaghetto9836]

Sameee. 🎯🎯🎯

[@Shkunk1]

"You are not damaged." Funny. It doesn't feel that way.

[@samuelcoughlin9165]

Hope youre doing better. Just know youre loved, both by me and others, and if you need a friend i can be there for you

[@maillemacanaugh1841]

Crippling. I describe the feelings as crippling. Walking on eggshells, terrified that if you misstep, you’ll lose a friend, but not only that, you’ll trigger an avalanche, and everyone who is even remotely related to the situation will probably walk away too.

[@Davidwantstodeportaliens]

I heard of RSD for the first time today and it makes so much sense. I’ve been diagnosed with adhd since age 4 and been rejected constantly throughout childhood(mostly romantically) and have low self esteem issues as an adult.

[@tlevyvideosmasher]

20 years old and had no idea until today that’s why I felt that way

[@zarastuart8601]

Hazy Bishh Im 46 and saaaaame

[@aarya1467]

I thought everyone feels like that and I was the one who couldn't handle it

[@Smackedup100]

It helps so much watching this. I don’t feel like such a freak.

[@skylerwilliams9379]

Something I find to be a big issue is the fact that not very often in these videos do they talk about why RSD happens. It is not something a person is just born with and it's not simply stemmed from ADHD or ASD. RSD is a product of long-term rejection throughout childhood because of the way ADHD traits manifest in a person's personality. It happens when a child is asked if they took their meds that day after they do something energetic or bubbly. Or when the executive function impairments are misunderstood as laziness or a personality flaw. There are thousands of examples of ways people with ADHD or ASD are rejected every day of their lives by neurotypicals. No wonder we are sensitive to rejection. It's not dysphoria it's a reasonable reaction to something that happens very unfairly and very often because of the stigma and lack of understanding of the conditions. I find the labels and boxes that are given to people who are different by the people who are rejecting them in the first place to be very problematic. Why can't we see it as a reasonable reaction to an upsetting reoccurring situation? I'm not hating on these videos, I just wish they would include this validating tidbit.

[@spotterofgold]

Do you make and post videos? I hope you'll make one with the content of your comment. It sounds like a voice that should be heard in the general discussion around this topic. Thanks for this input and good luck !

[@matthewneillmusic]

Great comment.

[@spaghetto9836]

I'm sort of self-diagnosed until I have access to a screening, & I thought of this just yesterday. The self-doubting question of "Maybe everyone feels that way & you just wanna put a disorder on anything?" is constant in my mind. "Don't guys feel this way when their crushes reject them, for example?" But I thought, no. RSD cannot be just about romantic rejection. It's *social* rejection. The instinctual feeling of being outcast by your group, heightened tenfold due to all the times your peers rejected you, sensing your difference, since kindergarten. If it's social, then it isn't exactly a condition that you're also born with if you have ASD or ADHD. Rather, the difference that these disorders give you leads to you being hypervigilant about other peers rejecting you, in whatever functional area of your life. You want to protect yourself from that pain. The feeling of anger you get is remembrance of how your brain is different & wasn't accepted since your earliest memories. So I'm not crazy when I cannot stand people correcting me on something they're wrong about _when there are others present to laugh at me,_ making me feel like I stand out for nothing. I'm not creepy for itching to squeeze harder when I notice someone isn't reciprocating my hug. I'm not a pushover for becoming serious when someone laughs at how I speak, even if they just found it cute. I in fact wasn't overreacting when I (the "gifted kid" verging on burnout) had a panic attack during an exam, not bc I feared I'd fail the year, but bc I feared my mom would reject me. Or when she confirmed my fears by saying she was disappointed in me/doesn't see me the same way as before, & I lashed out as a response. RSD _can_ be related to love, but it's broader than that and cuts deeper for supposedly "lesser" reasons. I think is yet another confirmation that I'm on the right track to figuring myself out... Thank you 😊.

[@r3dsnapper]

I can't count the times "what's wrong with you" was thrown around during my childhood...

[@quijybojanklebits8750]

I can describe it; Its a pain felt under the ribs and in the chest with no discernable true locations, it hurts behind the eyes and at time in the temples. It causes loss of apatite therfore causing hunger pangs. The pain is all over but centered on various levels of the body mind convergence. It hurts without abject proof and is a source of other negative feelings like shame and inadequacy. It hurts in ways only a sufferer can understand, I hate it but with out it I'd be lost. During elementary school I was a peaceful hyper kid that only wanted to play and be nice to people. I got bullied pretty bad being I was from a poor single parent home. I was always small cuz of picky eating, and looked like a pushover. I've taken my fair share of beatings and won a decent amount of fights. I fear rejection so it limits my ability to be truly honest with even my most closest friends of family. I hate my life because of this at times. I understand and can describe this horrible feeling do any of you relate?

[@pickyourswitchoriginal]

My anger turns inward...I rage at myself. The internal dialogue is horrific.

[@driftgmd]

My social life explained. I've never cried so hard.

[@annetteboettner3435]

You and me....., I am 63.

[@joannajamerson35]

I keep thinking about the emotional pain I feel in my heart that feels like real pain.

[@jeskoog]

I spent five years every week in therapy for adhd, childhood trauma disorder and mindfulness. I've had a great successful career because I landed in the right company. Knew never to burn a bridge even if my brain was firing off in every direction because it would cost me too much time to clean it up. Had to walk away from my family to survive and I've now reunited with one and at the age of sixty-eight, I just had an episode of rejection dysphoria syndrome that was worse than any episode of suicide ideation, anxiety, panic attacks, depression or maybe it was a combination of all of those. That's when I go to my 176 KZbin subscriptions to remember what I forgot that I knew. You have to dig out but there's a process and there's no way around getting around the anger process other than maybe CBT but I like to acknowledge my real emotions at least to myself. I would rather live alone and die alone then subject myself to such another intense two weeks. The great part is + as usual it's a caregiver or an advocate that is triggering it - because they themselves are under enormous stress.

[@hypnomaster12345678]

I think I'm in the situation where... No matter how good I think I am at writing, I just don't write. I have this dread... This... Unexplainable sensation that I should be doing anything else. I think it's such a strong fear of rejection that... It's easier to not even try...

[@laurenwatkins8739]

I’m so glad I’ve discovered what this is... there really aren’t words to describe the feeling

[@Frank020]

As if struggling with work and getting stuff done wasn't enough.😐

[@TqueenInfinity]

Man RSD sucks. I feel like I'm getting punched in the chest and feel like a failure. I hope we can still live normal lives

[@Darkspiracy]

Wow, I had no idea.....this helps much make sense thank you!

[@additudemag]

We're so happy it helps!! You can learn more about RSD here: www.additudemag.com/category/understand-conditions/related-conditions/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria/

[@cringmemes7584]

My tutor was super upset with me because I didn’t finish my homework in time. And I felt this extreme mental pain and I was near a mental breakdown and I was near punching a wall. I think I have this and adhd. But I feel no one understands me. I feel like a failure.

[@danny-li6io]

Right there with you my friend! ❤️

[@sbgonzalez167]

I feel for the people on the receiving end of these attacks: trying to communicate an issue shouldn’t get you yelled at/dismissed/abused. ADD or not, everyone deserves respect and shouldn’t be subjected to tantrums because of *perceived* rejection. Getting negative feedback is a part of life. You have to learn coping skills. Having to walk on eggshells to avoid fights is the first sign of a deteriorating relationship.

[@gypsypath1]

In order to learn coping skills, you have to realize that your reactions are different enough from those of others (and are not based on an abusive family growing up) to seek help and get a correct diagnosis.

[@RSY873]

Thank YOU! So sick and tired of ADHD people using their condition as an excuse for lashing out on people! One day, this behaviour will backfire so badly on these people that it will instantly cure them of their unwillingness to develop better coping skills. They'd better remember that no one has a monopoly over anger outbursts! I, honestly, have no compassion whatsoever for ADHD people.

[@r3dsnapper]

I have navigated these turbulent seas...forever, only recently diagnosed with ADHD, I did everything I could to kill that feeling....led me down may dark paths. I thought I was broken. Now I know what it is! And that I am not alone!

[@rijd2304]

Three things that helped me with RSD have been journaling, elminating strong caffeine, and mindfulness combined with CBT, there are some good exercises in the book "30 Days to Overcome Rejection" by Harper Daniels.

[@colinnolan2212]

RSD is like the part of a Disney movie where the villain sings his evil song and your just one of the minions getting stomped on scrambling to follow orders.

[@TheTiffiny777]

I’ve been diagnosed with having bipolar ii disorder and this makes so much sense.

[@spooks2086]

I have this. Being left on seen or not even having your DM even opened is tough

[@anthonyfox4090]

Even if it’s not my fault, having this still means I’m damaged

[@arnoboy96]

It's so fucking horrible how out of this world angry I get at my closest friends. I don't recognise myself after an episode... :(

[@Breakthrough9]

Needed this so bad. Thank u

[@myishenhaines1706]

I was in AP history class when I was 15. I never once picked up that textbook. Then I would cry for hours because I had an F in the class and was a “failure”.

[@gypsypath1]

Good explanation. I wish the end cards weren’t blocking the words in the presentation. (Also, my dad used to tease me and call me “fragile” when I was a little kid. Turned out he was just being an a$$hole but wouldn’t realize it until he was in therapy when I was almost 20 - years after my beliefs about myself and how men should treat me were set.)

[@jordancantrell6598]

Well frick me my entire year and a half episode with that girl makes total freaking sense now.

[@Maykay1312]

Jordan Cantrell well if this is what im thinking it is then i had this all my life so yea, i was diagnosed with adhd and dyslexia but not this even dough i feal the same as it said in this video i can be super fing angry at one moment and then happy and smiling the next sometimes its normal but some times its unususal like this

[@Sir.AdamsVIII]

Xpert_Destroyer 4 likewise I just was diagnosed 3. Month's ago and I'm 30 years old with 2 kids from 2 very toxic relationships...so you can imagine the anxiety of the thinking I was a horrible parent or why breakups was so hard for me .. but once I found out that I can suffer from multiple disorders at the same time!!! (Fuck man) now I'm back getting more evaltions I'm also going for a nero psych evalution to see how bad the damage really is smh my life won't start intill I can get all the facts...good luck bro.

[@goodnessgracious2325]

I don’t know if ADHD symptoms can worsen but all those symptoms are happening ironically when I stopped procrastinating and started working more or just trying to stick to one hobby. I don’t need a break but it’s getting hard.

[@aarya1467]

But how did you do that?

[@ChuckieIllinois]

Good short video offering an explanation and hope! So why was such gloomy music chosen?

[@randaburaideh4905]

Thank you for describing the indescribable

[@sabserab]

When you search for a professional to diagnose you with possible add, but even your GP rejects you, your shrink ghosts you. Irony. The downward spiral is real.

[@user-pv8zy4sf1i]

its hard to explain to people what this is :(

[@Caramel1806]

This describes me perfectly.

[@derosa195]

Its from constant trauma when you have already been severely abandoned over n over. No support

[@ryfr6711]

People being dismissive is a big trigger I also find

[@skylark4736]

I was browsing the web for Dyscalculia test and I've took it fro your site and then there recommendation to take ADHD test... I'm sure now I have Dyscalculia but even though I have a high score in ADHD for some reason I was just not convinced then I saw the test for RSD and it totally make sense... but I'm still a bit unsure with ADHD maybe because I always thought they were those hyper active people which I am not.

[@johnnasmith5574]

I have ADHD and I am not hyperactive. Think of it more as giving tasks 110% getting sidetracked with other tasks 10 times and wearing out so fast that you don’t get the original task done and then being mad at yourself.

[@garnakthegreat892]

Its alll starting to come together now

[@Sir.AdamsVIII]

Why only 1k views? Ughh!!!!

[@ErikAdalbertvanNagel]

shit, another tick on the checklist. why is this happening to me that I have all of these shitty things like ADHD and this?

[@msrt8]

thanks

[@sash8099]

How do you fix it?

[@constanzacontreras8359]

It can be mistaken by borderline personality disorder?

[@guillaumeb6698]

I don't know if mistaken is the right word as it's not defined as a disorder, it's more a "trait" that can be found in AD(H)D, ASD, BPD, maybe PTSD as well. Maybe it can have different origins ? Maybe it can be a reaction to the feeling of being unvalidated when you have ASD and/or ADHD, but maybe it can also be innate ? I don't think anyone knows for sure so far.

[@joannajamerson35]

How do I fix this?

[@jimpalmer4916]

I think I got this but I kind of just have become a huge ass to people that mess with me. I always feel bad afterwards tho :/

[@diepiriye]

How do these folks maintain any sort of relationship? It would seem exhausting to just be around people if you have RSD.

[@xemmyQ]

the best way i can ever describe it to others is like you're choking on a raw potato

[@miscellaneousmoon327]

Between this and executive dysfunction, I wonder how I function at all. It's nice to know that it has a name, though, because, yeah, it's rough.

[@killzoltar]

Can someone explain how RSD is NOT just emotional dysregulation? It seems to me that this perceived rejection is just an inability to regulate and monitor rejection. This is a genuine question; I'm not looking to debate.

[@killzoltar]

I think I'm having trouble understanding whether or not RSD causes too much emotion to be generated or if it's just more difficult for individuals with ADHD (like myself) to regulate the feelings of guilt/rejection.

[@ad5772]

make that 24 years. I'm 38 now

[@ChaiLatte13]

I'm trying to understand my husband who has ADHD more and strangely I think I have something similar to RSD. Interestingly I have the reaction part but not the feeling part. I react but don't even know why or what I'm feeling. I also don't have ADHD. I think mine is from trauma when I was a teenager.

[@2times347]

Can someone with adhd find happiness than?

[@aarya1467]

Yes.....At least I hope so

[@Dagucc10]

Change the way you look at your self do anything to find how you can do that and it slowly gets better and better. That is working for me rn

[@Saintly2]

Is it possible to remove YT’s stuff at the end of this video? They cover up the words & ruin the vid.

[@Maykay1312]

Well woud you look at that every simptom i have and i have adhd and dyslexia i wann die

[@rrg2248]

There are brilliant people living with ADD and dyslexia -- you need and deserve lots of support to help you manage the symptoms but you certainly can succeed in many ways with them. Promise to get some help? (I'm an adult who got diagnosed at midlife and it was SO helpful to find out why I had the characteristics I did.)

[@minakoa7178]

i’m crying

[@aarya1467]

It's hard not to

[@juliejanesmith57]

Everything I see is about ADHD and RSD, but I’m the furthest you can get from ADHD, but I have suffered with C-PTSD and the depression and anxiety that goes with it or years, and definitely have RSD and I can clearly connect it to my PTSD. But I can’t find anything about how it may appear in people unrelated to ADHD. I hope this doesn’t wind up limiting the DX just to people with adhd by doctors who think you have to have one to have the other. Or worse- doctors seeing n RSD dx and assuming you have adhd. Also, I’d describe it as burning alive.

[@guillaumeb6698]

Yeah I see it's mostly linked to ADHD, but may also happen for people with ASD or no ASD/ADHD. So that raises questions : -If it happens with ASD, is it someone who has ASD but also ADD ? -If it can also happen with ASD without ADD, would it be the consequence of constant rejection (at least perceived) of being different to the world ? -If so, would RSD happen in case of constant rejection (real or perceived) whatever the reason ? Or even not rejection, but lack of emotionnal dialogue ? -Can it also happen on its own, for no particular reason ? (bad brain connexions)

[@felixontheinternet4784]

This is a lovely and needed video - but it's not at all what the title promised...

[@RealMACGamer]

I had no idea this was a thing

[@rollox1519]

On Snapchat my friend posted on his story the top 5 girls who were his friends and he didn't post me and I started balling crying and hyperventilating and snapping pencils and crying and shaking for like an hour

[@Breakthrough9]

You have friends, what's that like?

[@MHaffiezMNazri]

So I hit my KPI, but was extended for something that only weighs 30% out of that 100%. I mean I hit the 70% and being reprimanded for shits that only carry 30% value? I feel fucked. Like badly fucked. Time to get treated.

[@bezoznaught5261]

yeah, it sucks, but regardless of what it says, we are, in fact, damaged, that part of our brain doesn't process these emotions correctly, and by default, we are permanently damaged. We can still get better with exercise and a good diet and maintaining consistency with those, but it'll never be like a normal person's brain and we should never really drink alcohol or use substances, because it will make it worse and many of us do use those, me included. If it's too extreme, obviously we need therapy and meds. I'd rather chose to accept that I'm damaged than to lie to myself and say nothing is wrong with me. We have to take responsibility for it even though it's not our fault, and we have to use positive coping like exercise and diet, even meditation can have insanely good results. Gotta suck it up and do, because the alternative is a shitty life and possible suicide.

[@aarya1467]

Please don't say that we are damaged because we aren't. We just don't usually fit in with the rest. Imagine if there was a world of people like us and 20% of the population there is "normal" they would be called people with CDID (Creativity Deficit Inactivity Disorder). These people would feel totally out of place they would have difficulties in school, lose jobs because that society would be made for people who are creative people or people who are more empathetic towards others, people who always come up with great ideas. They would feel the same way we do now You see everyone feels out of place when they are in a world which isn't made for them We can't live a "normal" life because our normal is different from other's. And yes as we live in there society where education system and jobs are designed for them we have to try to be able to fit inside their normal but if we manage that (which is sometimes really really hard) we can do better than the normals. I know it does get very difficult sometimes infact if I'm writing this out because I was feeling just the way you were (2weeks ago now I guess) but I have learnt to overcome it. Writing, watching Ted talks from people like us, and good and inspiring documentaries and KZbin videos about it sometimes helps sometimes it doesn't. I don't like feeling out of place but we ultimately are out of place. But I can tell you one thing for sure I never would trade my brain with an average brain I really hope you are having a good day today : )

[@Breakthrough9]

Omg you hit me hard with this comment. Well said.

[@TanvirSingh500]

0:50 - When my ex broke up with me, I told her I was Suicidal, She replied saying that I was threatening her

[@pcat9699]

Well yeah.. that's very manipulative and emotionally abusive to threaten suicidal when someone's trying to break up with you regardless if you have this issue or not. Tell a doctor, hotline, or loved one.

[@TanvirSingh500]

@@pcat9699 Have some Empathy, and You'll Acknowledge what it means. Your Honestly Pathetic.

[@londonsounds6212]

Good video but you didn't address the whole point of the video! I still don't know "How does Adhd ignite RSD"?!

[@bushka087]

can you read it to me? i have adhd

[@andreachristian6976]

Bingo!! That's what I have. Calling a Dr tomorrow. I am in so much pain rn.. and it's all linked witb adhd. I feel reject lonely worthless and the worst person on earth

[@madisonwickens6892]

This sounds like my life holy shit

[@RetroMaticGamer]

Just remember, having this disorder does NOT mean you have a right to expect people never to reject you or say "no." My own wife, who is NOT ADHD has berated me for refusing to let her spend crippling amounts of money or shirk chores and projects she's promised to complete, and God forbid I get upset about it - "it's a real disability," so I'm always the asshole. So I'm expected to just do whatever these people want to me, because "it's a disability and I could have it." But I won't. I don't care. I have rights and feelings, too; RSD is not an "abuse whoever you want and get away with it" card. Would you be okay with a judge siding with rapists because they claimed they have this disorder? If they get an RSD diagnosis and say you're insensitive and shouldn't refuse them, should men be allowed to rape you and go unpunished? No, that's ridiculous, right? REAL mental disorders are the responsibility of the person who has them to learn to cope with them. But there are too many people who would rather try to cash in on the opportunity to abuse others and escape repercussions for their actions. I'm suddenly surrounded by them.

[@for281]

Whinging About your wife's budget And then reinvest in a red herring type of rant means Lame

[@someonewithsomename]

Those videos are so not adhd friendly

[@BeLikeNexus]

Damn a lot of people in the comments self diagnosing over a 1 minute video

[@aarya1467]

I get your point but it might be hard for them not to when what they have been feeling overwhelming, intense and awful feelings but can't express and no one else seems to go through it and they feel that there is something wrong with them and then exactly what you have been feeling is presented in front of you and your told that it's not you it's something out of your control and that you might need help and you might get it

[@Tnowion]

very misleading title. there is not one word about the neurological mechanisms in here

[@samanthamonaghan7579]

More rejection for you, I watch videos to see and hear a message not to read them.