How Being "Nice" DESTROYS Your Confidence

[@JulienHimself]

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[@FaithResurge]

I literally feel moved to tears every time I watch one of these videos. Because I can feel I can see does subtle shift in facial muscles in energy that people are absolutely terrified just as much as they are excited to be chosen. It's such a weird conundrum to be in! Nobody wants to be put on the spot. Nobody wants to stand out for their low vibes. I can feel this year fear and embarrassment and not wanting to be put up there. But I'm currently trying to work through this myself! I absolutely enjoy singing and would love to be an Entertainer but I have huge stage fright which it just doesn't match. So I know that something has happened in my life to make me feel small or like playing small is safe or being too big is overwhelming for others

[@JulienHimself]

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[@gabrielleelisa5736]

@faithresurge when I startet to be a speaker at funerals, I was scared to stand in front of so many strange people. First I hide behind the green in the Mournig Hall - but it got better very fast. Just try and see how much you can do ✊✊

[@Timbo-u6x]

do it bro!

[@Timbo-u6x]

had tears in my eyes too 😮

[@jimmez]

Stage fright is easy to cure. If you actually enjoy being entertainer by yourself, next step is entertain one other person. Even if that feels cringe, just imagine that the person you are entertaining is yourself, and see if you can change the person with your set. Next step is doing several people. The trick is there only focus on one person at a time. Switch focusing on yourself, the voice in the room, and the reactions from the other person. When you do a crowd, just focus on one person at the time, but make it different parts of the room, so that you have covered points in every part of the room You can believe that something bad happened and that's why you suck. However, you can add a new way of being in the moment when you perform, and it's a skill, which is useful anywhere in life, both on stage and off stage

[@denischinese]

He transformed in seconds. From nice smiling sheep to scary dangerous lion. Love how his cute mask dropped seconds before the final roar and his powereful nature took over.

[@JulienHimself]

Oh, yeah! MASSIVE change in him! 🔥👊

[@andrewrice9383]

It’s just a different side of his personality

[@allure2049]

Watching Johnny go from a shy person to a roaring lion at the end made me tear up🥹❤. I'm overjoyed for him!!

[@onetoughsaiyan6946]

The fact that he truly embodied himself after almost thirty minutes of having a war within himself

[@Akshay-de3qk]

One thing i noticed about johnny is his body language... He didnt move his hands nor his body when he was on stage..... this shows how much internal fight is going on..... Really happy when he roared His body language and voice changed great 👍👍👍👍

[@salzkraut8176]

Jeah. He suppressed all his expressive motions.

[@leolair4684]

I really love how you really try to help him on this video, you don't even laugh when he's laughing you know it's because of the fear, you take that very seriously ad the talk about the pity, or the separation we can feel was really inspiring

[@natybar-yosef9931]

I was like him 10 years ago Wow beautiful soul, i can see the leader hiding inside him

[@trwn87]

12:45 This weakness talk reminds me a lot of my toxic parents. No wonder I unpurposefully beat myself up for not having reconnected with myself yet. I seriously need to stop! And I need more people who challenge me, I need to stop feeling like I was the best in my tribe. I need to stop to put myself into the role of looking down at others. I need to feel that I shouldn’t dominate, not just think it.

[@DeeloGoodquest]

You da King Johnny! Thanks for diving so deep within.

[@Gh0s7R1pp3R]

Bro can wear anything and look dope

[@JulienHimself]

🕺🙏

[@robertandersson3824]

Bro wearing a table cloth and cleaning gloves .. and that's not even half of it. I love it thou. Mad respect.

[@bennyblanco5896]

This year has been incredibly introspective already… i know the answers are there i will never stop seeking

[@meritaplestina9712]

Oh god!! When you immiated the powerful introvert i literally got shivers!

[@trwn87]

15:20 These pity claps… are just too relatable! This is how people treat my neurodivergence. Nonsense like “You can do it ANYWAY.” or “You can’t do it better ANYWAY.” is what holds me and many other people out there back from their true ability. An unfortunate truth about the world!

[@meritaplestina9712]

Julien..this video inspired me..!! And when i look at your face on this video..! I SEE THE LION!!! Your face, the way you express! You know, i met some people who were less expressive, and then..the people who are way more expressive. For me i am not 100% stiffled outside, i know to be expressive, i know to be annoying. And i know to be nice. I know to piss people off. But i also know what a people pleasar i find myself being. When i see people who i didnt see much off and who lie to me. (I am a mangaka future, i like manga and characters) i never EVER found myself putting those people inside my character's souls. It can be anyone if they are unique..special..and have their own silly weird, beautiful and interesting way of living this resonates with stories in my mind. It excites me~ Now i thought today..i find myself very interesting, but also lost. I make character of myself in my story but if was every any less expressive or like those people i never find in my stories that would't be complete. How do you expect your characters to grow merita? How do you expect to have a great story? Your character Black, your two frustrating siblings (not real siblings) and the monsters and snowy village covered ij field of sunflowers, these all characters are not made of air..its made of passion and want to build a story that is..couragaous! From every pespective, every failure and every success. When i realised i never put any uninzeresting character to present my fictional friends, i was thinking... Also i had a thought. What if i looked back at my days and saw how every day i was trying for sky? How i was trying TO FREAKING REACH THE TOP SO QUICKLY? How i wanted to every minute of life...? And what if i instead lookee back and i didnt feel so good but after days days i regained trust and care? Its like when you talk to soneone and this is something i put on this perspective..i was talking to someone, and i thought..how would i feel third perspective in future every time i came to talk to this person? I knew it, i told my voice "i would try to be as nice as i can, and i would try to get a good response out of them!! Oh oh, especially the one that will be juicy and that will connect us and that we will have fun with " "But..isnt that a bit boring" "You think, why?" "..you enjoy it?" "No...i hate..it actually" "So why do you do it?" .. "I guess...cuz i wanna make them feel good" "But you dont care-" "I do!" . "Hey, just imagine this with me. What if we in future kinda sticked to how we feel and oh oh imagine a juicy and fun buildup where you get more comfortable with person as longer as you talk to me. You gain trust you dont try to make them like you. It happens" "Oh." "Hmm..? Interesting..right?" "I am scared" "Just do it" "..you always come with something like that..let me try.." ..*few minutes passed..i heard the same in my head..it sounded a bit scared and paranoid so i asked it* .."soo? How was it?" .. "Great.. I had fun. A bit more than before. I kinda feel you know happy to talk to them more now!" "I feel better too" "Okay.. Now listen! We always try so many things..and i know we lost many of our battles..but i like this one especially! You are smart, merita, arent you? And a stubborn ass. But you got me always by my back. You stab that shit in my face every time i feel like shit.if you know what i mean? You like to wait...but its like you never actually will leave me alone ever" "I got you, i'm gonna stick to you like a bug.." ... *(voice in his mind ...(maaaannnnnn)* Nice lil roleplay lolii AHAHAH I'M SMILING Lol

[@emacopek9508]

This is sooooo soooooo underrated. I literally everytime almost tear up from happiness and inspiration. I even kinda wanna try roaring in that stage but im 18 years old. But one day Im going to try it

[@europeansocialdynamics]

Mind opening every single video on this channel, requires the journey of truth one eventually must do

[@HPYB]

You are an amazing teacher Julien

[@TheCameronBrothers]

This is the most powerful thing I’ve ever seen. Just triggers me watching it.

[@rockodonnie]

Amazing Knowledge Julian Thank You ! 🙏

[@tebatsobecomingatrader]

28:44 I really felt that scream 😊

[@Poopdog312]

this video is the one I resonate with the most

[@user-ct3ml6iu4n]

Gooo Johnny go go Johnny be good! Very inspiring thank you 💪

[@ricj9594]

hello Julien!!!! happy 2025 !!

[@JulienHimself]

Happy 2025! 🔥👊

[@gabrielleelisa5736]

Very good, dear Johnny ❤ best wishes from Germany

[@JulienHimself]

He CRUSHED it! Massive respect to him! 🔥👊

[@Isaac-ye4mm]

Goosebumps

[@SunofGod13]

Ppl that are honest with themselves and their coach have quicker results

[@manuellayburr382]

I'm 80 next birthday. I don't have a walking stick! - Maybe when I'm 90 I'll need one!

[@FLYREAPER]

Hello Julien 🙂

[@JulienHimself]

👋

[@robertandersson3824]

I heard / saw paiiin in that final roar. The real him wants to come out with a vengeance. I cant find the word to describe how awesome it is.

[@Timbo-u6x]

Just WOW! ❤

[@Diogenes-96]

HOLY SHIT HE ROARED

[@eternallearner5395]

Julien reviving peacocking.

[@MUSA1K_]

grateful for you bro

[@pragatipathak8458]

Love you Julien ❤ thank you ❤

[@seigerodero420]

This is awesome. I don't even have to smoke weed anymore😂

[@zmanthevegan]

I find your identification with being a lion offensive, lol jk Thank you for creating this, this was triggering for me to watch because I also have a nice guy front and when you told the crowd not to clap that was very inspirational to me because I felt anxiety at the thought of standing up to a crowd and saying what's right at the risk of breaking the nice guy character. Thank you for helping me understand this inside myself.

[@octane2344]

SCREAM SO LOUD THAT IT EXPRESSES ALL THE RAGE, SADNESS, & FEAR OF YOUR SOUL!!!

[@_pep_.]

How to make it permanent? Is it letting go of the reason behind what made him so.?

[@polyfawn]

I used to hate your face and the way you dress but I respect you

[@soultaker991]

I would love if you did a video on attachment styles

[@DualityOfficialTV]

This content should have more eyes.

[@NarcyzaMalfoy]

I love you 😂🎉❤ thank you very much for what youre doing.

[@1Vision2Verity]

thinking back to a moment like that REAL ROAR for me would definitely bring my confidence back later on in life.. or even stand in front of the mirror and do it again!! Thank you @julienhimself for helping us see from a better perspective!!

[@bebeserio6072]

Hey Julien, why people are angry at me when I'm trying to be confident? I feel like I'm annoying to them. But they are happy and proud when other people like my friends are getting confident. I feel like I'm a bad person but I'm not doing anything bad I'm just trying to make myself better.

[@JulienHimself]

When you have value, people will test you... Watch this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/q3WliYl3eZmMd5I

[@gismosfinalform2031]

They must think you're a bug eater 😱

[@TheJonazas]

They are trying to hold you back brother.

[@letaykeshy7666]

Keep doing then they accept u

[@flowerchasethesunshine9063]

They are friends with your old self. When you become authentic and confident and change you may realize that you are not a match with them after all.

[@DrSiech]

Dude i cha nümme, dini Outfits, wie de spielsch mit däm ganze 😂 geiler typ

[@IonutMaluma]

Hey Julien,so if we know how we are on the other side should we try to be like that every day or we should focus on inner work???

[@andrewrice9383]

I mean, if you enjoy it, you can aim to be like that every day, it can certainly be fun. They feed into each other, although inner work is usually what you should prioritize, it doesn’t mean you have to ignore the outer

[@flowerchasethesunshine9063]

He has talked about affirmations and such that faking til you make it is better than nothing but it's bullshitting yourself at worst and the better way to do it is to do inner work and make it real from there

[@LuisVazSarafanaBonilla]

Amazing 👏

[@mattijs20]

Does this also work the other way around, with someone who is always loud and never keeps his mouth shut?

[@flowerchasethesunshine9063]

I think there has been times where Julien had to say to the guy on stage to drop the front and be serious for once or something like that.

[@JonRojas-n7f]

JUUUUUUULIEEEENNNN

[@SaiSai-ol2qk]

Love from india . How to get to you

[@_iam1533]

I wanna know too😢

[@JulienHimself]

Hey! You can either make it out to a live event or apply for online coaching... 👉 www.julienhimself.com

[@neldora1766]

Where are u from in india we can help each other to be authentic

[@ChethanaSwarnagiri]

Telugu aa

[@NekoKatty]

It’s beautiful

[@Kevineumesmo]

FUCKING AWESOME I LOVED IT❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@OriSnori]

You, sir, are a curious fellow.

[@JulienHimself]

Thanks! 🕺

[@Clipsbyunc]

8:34 did you really have to call him a good boy😭😭

[@b.w.6152]

i see myself in this guy easily, bit older was good i think

[@spike200a]

I want to come to Munich!

[@JulienHimself]

Do it! 👌

[@Edwo1]

what a guy

[@WhoKnowzTBH]

I wish I felt more okay with investing money into myself rather than just investing in stocks and stuff because I feel like that’s more valuable to my future. If I didn’t feel like that I would totally join your coaching stuff, but also I’ve watched enough of your videos anyway that I have all the information already I just am not putting it to work how I should.

[@zarinsubahpriana]

Love ya

[@LouisLuzuka]

Hello friends ❤

[@Hehe-xy5ew]

27:30 28:44

[@doctorkamraan]

I too am so tired of wearing this mask of "nice guy" 24x7

[@ravereviews6853]

That's crazy, I thought that's gonna offend some vegans just as you said that part 😂

[@OriSnori]

Is that a fax machine?

[@kurokigensai7]

If you try to become someone else, then who will be you?

[@andrewrice9383]

You will still be you, although you may be stuck in this persona that is acting a certain way and think that’s you instead.

[@clementekpo7606]

❤🔥

[@TheSilverMeridian]

😮 👏 👏 👏

[@Potatoscaryasf]

Fisting of a scream

[@little_red-k2q]

L

[@woodallfinance]

Wtf is this lmao

[@UtilityMaximus]

Is this a joke?

[@UtilityMaximus]

This guy is so comically arrogant.

[@enola_6871]

why saying that?

[@doctorkamraan]

I think you are confusing confidence and his helping nature to arrogance. I understand some people may feel exactly like you but he necessarily has to assume the dominant role inorder to teach people to fight their own ego. And ultimately free them and make them comfortable in their own bodies and feel complete on their own without depending on external factors.

[@JulienHimself]

Watch his transformation at the end... 😉

[@johnnyrodrigo]

Which guy are you referring to as arrogant? Julian or Johnny?

[@UtilityMaximus]

@ Isn’t obvious ?