How Being Single Is The Gift That Keeps Giving

[@EdgarsKitchen]

HERE'S A NEW WORD THAT WE (ME N) NEED TO KEEP IN MIND ALL DAY LONG ITS CALLED SELFULLNESS SELFULNESS IS LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE IN EVERYWAY.

[@john-griffin]

Great one

[@EightFrancs]

Solitude is one of life's greatest pleasures.

[@WildB06]

@@EightFrancs my last girlfriend said to me after the breakup "you live a very solitary life"... at first it made me feel worse, but then I realised just how much I love solitude. Total freedom and peace.

[@Earthhasnolove]

Don't get married, married 14 years here, there's nothing left of my soul

[@fanamlawuli6761]

Damn! Sorry to hear that, hope it gets better brother

[@Gavi-144]

Time to start living again bro. You've got 1 life to live, get out the house, get in the gym, get back to the things you love to do

[@Earthhasnolove]

@Gavi-144 that's false, life is eternal, I'm a well known near death experiencer with millions of views and been a guest everywhere..if you mean this one piece of shit life in particular..then yeah there's just one

[@Earthhasnolove]

@Gavi-144 I exercise daily hard cardio and I mountain bike too

[@Earthhasnolove]

@Gavi-144 I don't care about this life I hate this fucking life I hate everything here I'm absolutely miserable

[@lonwolf8245]

When people say "Marriage is WORK" they ain't kidding...

[@markwhittaker6866]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@MediatorInfp]

True 😂.. I work just for money ..but I have no reason to marry and spend this money and destroy my happiness 😂

[@mateor7302]

Peace, quiet, freedom

[@john-griffin]

The perfect gift

[@thealanshow25]

Grows on me every day.

[@redemissarium]

coach gang? thats cga moto 😁

[@DUNEATV]

John, I got divorced almost 2 years ago to the day and I’ve been on KZbin looking for some advice to help me get through this transition after being married for almost 25 years. I have spent hours on KZbin and have yet to find anybody even the so-called professionals who are able to articulate points like you do. You have a gift… you have found your calling! 🙏

[@davidglad]

John's great, but really expected that often the less "popular" people on the tube often have among the best wisdom. Often also best to convey ideas or persuade where we have gone wrong on some course of action

[@petermorton188]

Wow I'm sorry to hear that 25 years...God bless you

[@DUNEATV]

@@davidgladI agree sir! 🍻

[@john-griffin]

Thanks man. I really appreciate that. I guess firsthand knowledge is a lot more useful to people than I degree in psychology. Plus I think that doctors are limited by their scope of practice and they have a code of professional ethics that they need to follow. I don’t. I am just, a free agent out there speaking my mind. Because I’m not limited by a code or a scope of practice I can say whatever I want. I appreciate your feedback and your support. Thanks.

[@DUNEATV]

@@john-griffin I hope my comments and sharing your videos is helping you as you have certainly helped me.

[@Polemic-2525]

I got married at 33 and sabotaged my marriage at 38 got happily divorced no kids involved. I’m now 63 and have no regrets of being indefinitely single.

[@ARBets23]

going to the grave alone

[@sys9208]

Everyone goes alone ​@@ARBets23

[@SoloRenegade]

@@ARBets23 everyone dies alone

[@man_at_the_end_of_time]

@@ARBets23 Every one dies alone. Some had more misery, some less and some can feel they did the best they could.

[@theastraladepts]

@@ARBets23 do you know how many elderly never get visited by their children?

[@papj349]

Another good one John,whenever I feel like I am "missing out" I watch couples in the supermarket and notice the soulless eyes of the guys who are following their wives like a lap dog. Then I realise how fortunate I am to be single.

[@john-griffin]

I know, there is a couple an older couple that ride their bikes down the trails in the evenings in the summertime. She rides in front and he follows. I thought he was autistic at first because he had that lifeless looking in his eyes. it made me think that he obviously was dealing with a severe disability of some kind. Then one day I saw him walking by himself, and he was quite animated and even cheerful. Being in her presence changed him into what can only be described as the human version of the male ant drone.

[@olive0eyes0]

@@john-griffin a common sight in English countryside walks 😅 one woman had both her hands on her hips, a stern angry look talking down the poor work horse. I had to smile genuinely to her to break her stance she then smiled

[@michaelhallas6450]

See it all the time . Not living that life .

[@ActualSighs]

Yes. I hate shopping with anyone else. Especially my spouse. Too many questions. Always trying to sway you away from the things you already know you want or need. Asking, "Where are you going to put that?". The few times I have gone to a grocery store with my wife, I grab half the list, my own cart, and tell her that I will meet her at the checkout. Typically, I'll avoid that situation though.

[@NickVincent-w3e]

Yorkshire MGTOW has some good insight on this. And very funny.

[@dennisgriffin3069]

I’ve been single for 10 years now, after a 15 year sentence called a marriage. I enjoy the freedom every day I wake up. Merry Christmas and happy holidays to you and your dogs, John.

[@john-griffin]

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you too! I love having my dogs around, they keep me grounded.

[@RaiBontempo]

Haha happened today and I thought exactly that. Guy looked done. I bought my stuff and walked out. No looking longer than necessary, no drama.

[@BrucefromLondon]

15 Years single, the best decision of my life, I have travelled the World and had an amazing time! No drama, no bullsh-t , no feeling unloved , just peace!

[@njjj3338]

I think working for corporations is now also like marriage - always drama and people trying to control and manipulate you. They are quick to get rid of you if something better comes along. I got divorced 4 years ago, and my next goal is to leave my corporate bs job and become self-sufficient. Marriage and employment causes 99% of your stress when you are healthy.

[@Dan.50]

They hate the fact that we can actually be happy.

[@binkysteaver9880]

Yes, they do seem perplexed and confused by our ability to take better care of ourselves than they ever could 😂

[@jacksquat4140]

@@binkysteaver9880: Perhaps Miley Cyrus sang "Flowers" as an anthem for men who are going their own way.

[@barry5138]

​@@binkysteaver9880 it's like dealing with a toddler, only this toddler wants to make all the decisions!! Absolute chaos machines

[@richiwiwichi8657]

Is not that bro, they’re just doing the only thing they can with their resources, This is why as a dude if you hate on women you’re a bigger pussy than them, HATE THE GAME, NOT THE PLAYER

[@Tarsarian]

Since having my own place from my ex-covert narc wife, I started working out and lost 38lbs in the first month. Not having domestic violence is something that can't simply be described!

[@eric_linden]

Being alone is truly a gift.

[@john-griffin]

Yes it can be

[@mateor7302]

Being alone without loneliness is a true super power

[@LockBunn]

But who's that on your profile pic? 💀

[@AxxelX5]

@@LockBunn his ball and chain 😂

[@gunfugames7430]

Being alone for long time is hell

[@WildB06]

Great danger with inviting another woman into your life. I spent 5 years crafting the ultimate life of freedom, surfing and sailing... then I met the woman of my dreams and without any ability to stop it I was right back into a relationship only to have her leave 18 months later and put me right back to square one. If you can, stay single.

[@johnpichla9557]

They can sense when you are truly enjoying life and got everything together, they creap in and want to ruin your happiness. It's really diabolical, jealous and want to bring you down. Goodluck!

[@WildB06]

@@johnpichla9557 thanks, I've been burned too many times now, it's a repeating pattern, so I think that's a wrap for me. Peace, quiet and freedom for the rest of my time.

[@racebannon96]

You can go back doing the things you enjoy and probably appreciate it all much more.

[@davel7014]

Amen

[@johnpichla9557]

@WildB06 when you are on top of your game, enjoying life, you let your guard down because you expect others to enjoy and celebrate. No! No! No! They are jealous and want to destroy your happiness. You are truly looking for a 1% in life. You may never find one! Goodluck and enjoy the waves my friend!

[@easymoney1464]

I love being single! More freedom but also more money and peace of mind.

[@josephstorm6093]

Divorced 14 yrs ago after having a wife for 22 yrs and actually to this very day I still have a feeling of freedom and happiness I never had before with her. Sometimes while cutting grass, cooking or whatever I laugh out loud remembering why I feel so good, it's still so great and wish I'd made it happen sooner before wasting my life in those yrs.

[@vidiot9000]

I’m doing the same chuckle at my newfound freedom. I’m not yet through the divorce process, but I can see how my chuckle might turn into LOLs soon.

[@Bwahzehdezooner]

I appreciate what you are doing. I am almost legally done with a thirty-year marriage...finally making my exit after years of abuse.

[@john-griffin]

Congratulations

[@alkahulik1964]

Its hard to believe how subversively abusive women can be in a marriage.

[@ChrisDragotta]

Women may actually be evil. Seems like it. Christianity finally making sense.

[@lertub]

This man needs to be protected at all cost. I’m going through a divorce now and I have peace and quiet. I hope I don’t lose everything but my peace is priceless

[@ericjshipe]

I think we have to go through the hell of marriage and divorce to truly appreciate the gift of alone time & peace of mind.

[@ciscodlc7868]

So true.

[@alexlawrence3194]

This channel is exactly what I need at this point in my life. I’m 28 and single and I feel like I’m almost free from my cultural programming and finally discovering what I want in life. Keep the videos coming!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@user-akshay398]

I wish I had watched these videos when I was your age. Instead I was watching Jordan Peterson talking about how important marriage and children are. Not blaming him, I know it's my fault.

[@Heyemeyohsts]

Do you think we are living in a tyranny? Not from government, but from a culture that favors women

[@Chad.Tyrone4UNow]

Women need you to be their $$$$$$$$$$$$$ Marriage $lave, so you need to get married and get on the Misery Loves Company Plantation and age 15 years in the first 5 years of marriage to your "loving wife."

[@Cole97gt]

@@alexlawrence3194 bro I’m 27 and feel the same way. I’ve always felt something was wrong with the current women but still tried to dabble in dating, fortunately with no luck. Over the last 6 months I have finally got to the point that I am truly breaking free of the cultural programming and finally feel at peace with being single….forever. It used to sound so daunting and almost like I was a failure but I no longer have the same mental hurdles about it. I feel so free.

[@sonderman8079]

John, I don't like putting people on the pedestal. I don't think I am here, but your are a hell of a special man. Your ex-wife obviously didn't deserve you. This was a great talk. For the first time in 24 years my soon to be ex-wife is away on xmas. I am with my only son at home. The sense of freedom and joy is overwhelming.

[@tdgdbs1]

It will only get better from here. I've been divorce for 10 years after 20 years of marriage. Lost half of my military pension and everything else; somehow it feels like a win for me.

[@mitchd949]

Just as the old saying tells you: Why is divorce so expensive? Because it’s worth it!

[@Chad.Tyrone4UNow]

Your Ex-Wife wants all your $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$ and "loves you so much, too."

[@lpsglitterpaws8536]

John is a treasure and I am a woman who is going through a divorce (20+ years)now and his advice is serving me well.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@john-griffin]

Divorce is extremely difficult. I wish you the best.

[@lpsglitterpaws8536]

@ Thanks John. I’m grateful for the advice. We are cordial so that is a plus.

[@savapantic8735]

A supportive woman that brings peace into your life needs to be protected at all cost.

[@temisdisciple]

She will only be like that for a while...

[@eckhardt76]

Unfortunately I think you are talking about a unicorn

[@savapantic8735]

@ I guess some guys got lucky!

[@chebrubin]

The title is so important. For those of us who lived with the tyranny, the hell and torture of a companion wife or mother of your children. And the memories of those hours of cowhering in fear of her explosive depression, the hours of jumping in and out of moving cars. The crazy talk with neighbors and emberssaing behavior when out in public. And just the relief, the calm, the quiet when she no longer storms about the house terrfying you and the children at dawn. And the only peace you and your kids found once the monster took her meds and went to bed. To know that you can take a deep breath and not have to worry about running into the totrutured spirit in the kitchen or somewhere in the house. And the kids knowing today will be a good day cause the spirit of terror does not live with us anymore. Provides such a deep intrinsic sense of relief and peace.

[@robwille7376]

A man died in a heroic act saving a child, he meets God face to face... God says to him "I'll grant you one wish, anything you want and I'll send you back to earth for being a such a good man"... The man says, "well, I have a fear of flying and would like to drive my car from CA to Hawaii, so could you make me a bridge?"... God looked stunned, he said do you realize how much engineering, steel and concrete that would take... Its a near impossible thing, even for me to do, surely you have an easier wish... The man says, well "I've strugggled with this my whole life, but could you grant me the power to understand women"... God paused, appeared frustrated, he looked down at the ground and lowered his voice, he nearly whispers to the man "do you want two or four lanes"... Merry Christmas!

[@tiffgplu2590]

I am gobsmacked...even God can't help anyone in dealing with woman 😮

[@Badazvegan]

The joke is even a christian god simps to women

[@tiffgplu2590]

Yeah ​@@mavs2p2💯

[@Jesus_Saves_Believers]

LOL!!!🤣🤣

[@palindrome06]

Lol

[@petermorton188]

I love being alone saves time money no headaches i can what I want and thats to work on myself.

[@john-griffin]

Me too. In fact, the more time I spend on my own the more I enjoy spending time on my own!

[@kokoalaska9888]

One of my gf’s are getting married next year because she’s “tired of being alone”, her bf has already cheated before the engagement but she feels she’s getting old and needs to “ settle down”. Some people refuse to do introspection and self-care. You can be lonely in a whole marriage!!!!😢

[@jsb9317]

It can be lonelier being married than single sometimes.

[@wilfridjoseph6172]

Damn

[@73ryan]

​@jsb9317 that's 100 percent fact

[@WildB06]

"I'm not going to have that thought right now" is pure gold for dealing with breakup trauma

[@john-griffin]

@@WildB06 thanks

[@stevescuba1978]

The Bible commands us to wrestle our own thoughts under control For every nugget of wisdom I find, I find it has been in the Good Book all along

[@RG-cz1tc]

Yes it really is, I am going to use it. We have to be our own policeman of our thoughts.

[@WildB06]

Didn't realise it was in the bible that's great... our own mind can run havoc if we don't control it, especially when dealing with something awful like the woman you loved leaving and setting up with another man. This technique gives you something practical you can do to actively override those pervasive thoughts.

[@LarryWilliamsArtist]

Then there’s all of the hatred, misogyny, violence, primitive mandates, contradictions, guilt mongering inaccuracies and garbage that you ignore.

[@TheMiraleah]

That hit home john , i needed to hear, i m 62, was in a bad relationship over 20 years, just love my freedom now, more videos please

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@wmhhealth2018]

I can attest to this. I rode my motorcycle regularly and improved my piano playing exponentially in 2024 by remaining single 9 out of 12 months. One toxic relationship during the spring notwithstanding 😅

[@john-griffin]

My story is very similar! Thanks

[@olive0eyes0]

I heard riding 🏍️ is zen meditation for most trouble souls

[@papj349]

Great comment. We have similar interests. I bought a Royal Enfield about a year ago and love it. Also, a pianist. Since our split I am finding that I really can play some of the Bill Evans stuff as I can focus a lot more. All the best

[@wmhhealth2018]

@papj349 Cool. I love Bill Evans but it would be disingenuous for me to say I'm steeped in his genius. Blue In Green is one of the standards I love to play and though attributed to Mile s Davis everyone recognizes Bill Evans signature. I'm currently focused on Herbie Hancock's 60's modal compositions including Maiden Voyage and Dolphin Dance. They provide a fantastic template with limitless possibilities. I ride a BMW motorcycle with an 1100 CC boxer twin. Smooth quiet and very torquey. Unique riding experience much like a Royal Enfield which I am also a fan of. Merry Christmas

[@louislamonte334]

Holidays can be rough for single men for many reasons. What made the difference for me in life was a true realization what self-confidence, self-esteem and self-love really means and all it entails. Society, churches, social institutions, mainstream media and certainly commercial and retail companies all look down on single men and try and force their view that it's wrong to be a contented, happy and fulfilled single man. Guys, you really have a lot of power over yourself, if you will use and have the world at your feet! I've lived, really, the most happy, fulfilled and prosperous years of my life as a single man. Bravo, John, for all your wisdom, care and goodness, my friend! Happiest of Holidays, my friends!!

[@landyli7813]

Woman here feels the same! I love living alone. I enjoy going out with men, but not living with any. I feel so creative and get more energy when i live alone.❤

[@TuerlingsTim]

Totally agree. Yes life is a challenge but when single you don’t spend your energy towards negative people who only suck and never will be happy or give anything positive in return

[@rodrigomarenco79]

For men in their 20s feeling down about being single during the holidays, remember: the grass isn’t always greener, no matter what your mind tells you. I used to be single and depressed, but at least I had my freedom. Now, after years in a relationship, that depression hasn’t disappeared-it’s worsened, fueled by a lack of personal freedom. Being with someone isn’t a magic solution. Instead, value yourself: your time, your health, your finances, your ideas. Use this time to grow and improve. I wish I had focused on these things instead of stepping into the trap I’m in now.

[@30AndAWakeUp]

I got a gift this morning…i woke up when I wanted, i ate what i wanted, I watched what i wanted, I exercised when I wanted, i did what I wanted. Wouldn’t want it any other way.

[@negeto2460]

Well said John. You nailed it when you said: "Emotions are like women. If you don't control them (emotions), they will control you"

[@riaad8589]

Rather be at peace with yourself and at war with the world than at peace with everything else but at war with yourself

[@john-griffin]

Well said

[@davegayaldo]

i’m jaded, & will never put myself in that position again!!! ( after 32 year of marriage)Learning to be selfish is something i need to apply, it’s me fist know . women don’t have any problem saying that . i lift all the time , it’s something i enjoy. we are witnessing a evolution, and not by choice but it does benefit us. as u said , money is FREEDOM, don’t ever give your financial control to your spouse ever again! you constantly nail it . meditation of happiness and positive thought , sounds silly but works

[@stevef7814]

A joyful and positive Christmas to all single men with no family. Exercise, eat well, and know it's just one of 365 days to choose how we live.

[@78JCarter]

So much wisdom. After a 20 year marriage then being single for 4. Freedom feels like a drug. It seems like every video you put out is what I would tell my 16 year old self. I appreciate you getting the message out and saving people from potential pitfalls in life.

[@john-griffin]

@@78JCarter thanks

[@WeeklyHealthShow]

Freedom is truly a great gift to ourselves!

[@mateor7302]

I reclaimed mine 5 years ago and will never give it up again

[@john-griffin]

Yes it is

[@TarpeianRock]

To add my (64) experience that could be helpful : I’ve travelled all over the world, a lot alone and some travel with different girlfriends. They’re both fun (if she’s not a whiner of course) and both modes of travel have their own advantages. I can tell you that the travelling alone has these advantages : you absorb more of everything that country has to offer because you’re focused on the sounds, smells, colours instead of chattering to your partner, you’re much more likely to come in contact with locals and have friendships and exchanges, you choose exactly what you find fun to do, it stimulates your resourcefulness and strengthens your character, alone on these voyages I tend to reflect and use this time to delve deeper into my own life and discover things about myself. So go ahead travel the world alone you’ll come back a richer man. Do it.

[@edwardgeezil3318]

It reminds me of the Mike Tyson quote “do everything you hate like you love it“

[@SuperDurv]

I take it back. I'm lonely but it's better to be alone than wishing you were

[@jimreimers4213]

I was married and then, the most lonely I have EVER been. Now I'm divorced, alone and not one but lonely. There is nothing more painful then lying beside someone you love that doesn't love you. That's lonely.

[@Paul-oe9sy]

Timely video. A lot of men are single or even completely alone for Christmas but it's a small price to pay for freedom on the other 364 days of the year.

[@paulballinger8754]

Yep definitely it's 1 day lol

[@billparker174]

I was in a men's support group once, and the number one reason why new men were joining was because women were wreaking havoc in their lives and ending the relationship. Being alone is brutal during the holidays because there is no escape. Church is useless, because it is oriented towards, and talks only about, families. John's talks are useful in providing a starting point of changing your attitude and perspective first, to a single life as normal instead of as with a woman.

[@TroyDeFrates-jh8fc]

Debt removes choices in your life. Living debt free is the fastest path to freedom I have found. Folks live way too large for their income. Amazing what you can do when you outright never pay a mortgage or car payment again.

[@kjp9647]

On a watching marathon right now

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!!

[@Peter_Parker69]

Dude, spot on. It gets lonely at times, usually just short bursts. But I couldn't trade away my freedom again regardless. It's a way better deal the majority of the time, and I'm comparing it to a functional relationship of course.

[@anupamtripathifinance]

Being solo by choice is a place where onky the top 1 percent of the men can ever get to. Its Unbelievably blissful 😇 and powerful. ❤❤

[@redpilllense7125]

Absolutely agree with this message of freedom being a gift that keeps on giving. This Christmas, I'll be home with my kids. I'll cook them a Christmas dinner, we'll open presents and enjoy our evening. No woman to ruin my peace and quiet. Oh yeah, I'm saving time and money by not having to buy her some expensive gift either.

[@EdgarsKitchen]

One way to help yourself deal with negative emotions is to learn to play an instrument like the piano. It's very soothing. It's also a way to express and unload internal stress.

[@TruGamer128]

Being single is addictive. Once you realize the peace of mind you have and the freedom to do what you want when you want. You’ll be quite happy being single ❤❤❤

[@ricknelsonduke]

Thank you all for sharing. Society makes me feel badly about being alone this time of year, and sometimes they get in my head. I’m glad we have a group of like minded dudes here, and I’m grateful for that at Christmas.

[@sonderman8079]

Enjoy your freedom. I am. It's wonderful.

[@RG-cz1tc]

I used to think that, but most people are just into themselves, it is not deliberate. So I decided I just won't allow it.When I used to get that feeling at our local "community" church, that couples exclusion feeling, I just stopped going to the church and feel much better. I get more out of these videos, and personal direct prayer. It is amazing, I pray at night and then immediately fall asleep with no worries. I pray for friends, and family living and gone, and somehow that settles things for the night.

[@mareksozolins6347]

Freedom has a value.

[@SamuelLee-kc3rh]

Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosy, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.

[@linamoon-mi7wd]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.

[@SamuelLee-kc3rh]

I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.

[@linamoon-mi7wd]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?

[@SamuelLee-kc3rh]

Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@linamoon-mi7wd]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

I like the concept of actively, consciously appreciating freedom.

[@Florida_Joe75]

John never misses.

[@troyk1111]

John you have gotten me out of pain from a 14 year old relationship!!! Can’t wait for my 2.0 babyyyy!!!!!

[@elwar5]

Your videos are very thoughtful. Relationships with women are dying fast in America.

[@RG-cz1tc]

It is the result of the feminist movement and lack of traditional values. I admire Melania Trump, she was in the fast world of modeling, she is smart and beautiful, but she has the family values and grounding of her upbringing in Slovenia. American women have lost that.

[@RG-hf4et]

68 y.o.female here....Single & loving the peace & quiet & no bs from any guys.

[@vinconssier4224]

Totally agree, I cherish my single life and my absolute freedom. Including my mental freedom, not feeling guilt or lack of shame, for being single and loving it. I have come to different conclusions regarding health. I eat pretty much only meat and fish, and I don’t do intense work outs anymore, and I feel way better. I maintain my strength and physique with my diet and low stress life. But that’s okay, if your way works for you, god bless ye sir. Thanks for your work, you’re helping a LOT of guys.

[@cei1948]

Society is getting better at this every day I feel, but don’t let anyone make you feel weird or down for putting yourself first and putting yourself first means being single, then good!

[@WatanabeFred]

John, thank you for all the experiences and knowledge shared this year, its been very valuable. My kids are here and their friends spent the night. Being a single dad was a gift i never thought I'd ever receive. Life is going to be amazing from 2025 and onwards. Stay healthy men and don't dwell on them or allow them back in when they leave. Happy holidays to you all.

[@albert2395]

When I did the usual thing that people say, "work hard!", it got me nowhere!!! But, when I used my grey matter, everything changed! I went from being a council tenant to owning my own house!!😊

[@erikvalkman9640]

The appreciation of freedom, in this sense, is new to me. Appreciation as opposed to depreciation, in other words to increase the value of your freedom. Great idea, thank you sir!

[@Mdykstra769]

I smile to myself often and remind myself that I can only do / afford this because I'm single. I only buy assets that I need. Never liabilities. I turned my dopamine pleasure from physical to excitement about the growth of my business. I've never lost women chasing money but I've lost money chasing women. I've also found that by not telling everybody my plans and waiting until the reveal when it's completed keeps me focused and I'm not losing that energy by seeking approval and others along the way. It 10 x's my results.

[@Justsomeguysomewhere]

''When you value your freedom, you are less likely to give it up, even to someone who seems perfect'' Very true, and the modern woman will not appreciate it!

[@RG-cz1tc]

John, this is the best! As a multi degreed professional who has these challenges, I am always amazed how you distill the thoughts. Each sentence strikes a chord. I am never married, and by choice, as I voluntarily slipped out of relationships when I sensed the controls being applied. There is nothing like the freedom of being single, if you want it. I wanted marriage I thought, I wanted a great woman, but the price I could see was going to be too high. This morning I awoke at 4 am, lay in bed and all the regrets and thoughts started, and after an hour I got up, drove to the gym and did an intense hour of treadmill and free weights, came home and cooked a great breakfast,and watched your video. Every day is a challenge and I will take your advice to stop the bad thoughts when they occur, and go do something! I wish you a great Christmas time with a good walk of the dogs and maybe a great meal, and perhaps plans for a great road trip in the New Year, to places like Montana and the Rockies, which always lifts my spirit! Thanks for what you do for us.

[@Cjwilkins1989]

From my experience, most Married Men have a deep resentment towards Single Men. They despise the fact that they are chained to a sinking ship and you are able to sail freely. John is correct for the 12,234,321st time this year. SINGLE IS A GIFT!!! #DontHandcuff YourselfToSimpHood

[@tennbones]

This is my second Christmas as a single man, after a 12 year marriage. I am so happy I can’t express it accurately. As cousin Eddie would say…..It’s the gift that keeps on giving 😂.

[@justincool6355]

Thanks for all this advice I'm 43 and I've never been married never even had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl

[@GigaChad_169]

2 years, this month since my divorce finalized. If I can sum up the school of hard knocks that I learned over the past 2 years, your video would be my experience. Being alone is an opportunity. Live your life for you. The right person will stick around, let the ones who are not right for you drift away.

[@arsenalboy4ever]

As a man, serve yourself. I love this

[@Oldrockrules]

I’m so thankful that you make these videos and spread the wisdom you gained from your experience. You don’t know how much you’re helping some of us guys that are early in this process. This will be my first Christmas without my wife since we got engaged on Christmas Eve 1992. Your advice is a roadmap in the wilderness to us that don’t know the way and I’m truly grateful for your content.

[@scorpionvibe4842]

Good to get such wisdom at such young age! Im only 26 but I've always liked philosophy (stoicism, eastern philosophy etc.) The one thing I've noticed is that the lesson of "Nothing outside of Yourself can make You happy" applies to everything including women. If You don't understand this and try to pursue relationships with the need for someone to make You happy instead of You making Yourself happy it will be Your downfall because that person now owns You. Thanks for the video, as always it was great and Your channel only confirms to me that I need to just focus on myself and be content on my own.

[@john-griffin]

That’s exactly right. Happiness is an intrinsic experience.

[@kchall5]

Almost 65 and in great aerobic shape due to years of running and later cycling (when running became too painful). What you said about resistance training hits home to me, and is something I need to focus on more intently.

[@malcolmhayward4431]

I’m 65 too and have lifted weights since 17 and it’s hugely beneficial and also is reasonably aerobic too 😊

[@JasonStone-m5i]

Yeah man. Ever since the split there's also been a continuous stream of Amazon packages coming to me. It's great. Knife collection is awesome now and all the fishing gear too. Plus the bank account getting alot bigger. Like no stress. They say happy wife happy life but I believe happy husband happy wife or no wife happy life.

[@john-griffin]

I get a lot of packages delivered too.

[@ChrisBaker-iz2no]

I agree to no wife happy life!

[@DonJam-m7f]

I am glad she showed me her true face pretty much instantly after marriage and I was able to walk away from the marriage. Just after 6 months. Don’t think would want another marriage

[@joeyzacher9296]

My man spitting facts

[@cj548]

Emotions are the furthest thing from reality a person can experience. If you have emotions then immediately understand you are lying to yourself no matter what the emotion is or the situation

[@JHavaJoe2-m1z]

Thanks for the reminder. All that playing to society's " Normal" for nothing. When I had no partner, I felt inadequate ( on society's stage). When I had the most "beautiful ( not inwardly)" partner, nothing but games and dark manipulation. I'll take the lesser of "2 evils" or none at all. Previously, one "evil" was just believing being single was lacking. Not so "evil," now- Just freekin' Great Luck. Happy Holidays!

[@rostamr4096]

Thank you, John. I am glad I came across your channel.

[@RPCAFF]

Good video... As a slightly younger guy, it's useful to watch, and also read the comments of others. I've been single for 5 years... Only had one real relationship and prior to that single my entire life... Was cheated on and that was that... I did really enjoy being in a relationship, and would like to again, but it'll be on my terms. And for now, I'm stacking up cash, not taking on any debts or responsibilities, living a free life enjoying hobbies, and will probably only be working 6 months a year moving forward as I'm self employed/ have my own business. The other 6 months, playing golf, travelling, surfing, skiing, cycling, and riding motorcycles ✌️ Merry Christmas all

[@goombah226]

Merry Christmas, John. You're a good man.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks, you too!

[@GSK4EVER]

Divorced 14 years ago. 2 expensive legal battles to maintain my parenting rights. After asking for a divorce from a woman who was never happy, I had to deal with all the brutal challenges you’d expect from the vindictive ex who replaced me overnight with a short, ugly trust funder. She was on her third marriage before age 40!! My son is now almost 17 and since he started driving I feel like I’m retired. I’m not opposed to a woman in my life but I no longer put any energy into making that happen. I love my work - work from home with who I want, when I want and get paid well to do it. I have plenty of time to focus on my fitness and hobbies. I practice gratitude every day. I love peace, solitude and drama-free lifestyle. Cheers!

[@john-griffin]

Sounds like you’ve got it figured out.

[@GSK4EVER]

@@john-griffin It took a lot of work to get here. If only men’s channels like yours existed in my 20s or even when I was going through my divorce… I appreciate the content you provide. Most of your advice rings true for me.

[@JediDarkForce]

I'm a single person and my family is so happy as I got plenty of time to spend with their kids during this Xmas lol 😊

[@Jdin74]

I’m almost a year removed from a toxic woman who was beyond my ability to “fix”. Traumatized and unhealed and of course later revealed that she’s bipolar as well. What an absolute nightmare. The more I watch these videos the more I’ve learned to reset, establish new boundaries and create that “I don’t give a fuck” path for myself that doesn’t need the approval of anyone else. And with the more I watch these videos the more I will be able to communicate those boundaries with any future potential partner should I decide to date again. The biggest boundary and unflinching line I will not cross is dating an extreme feminist. I understand that feminism centuries ago and even as recently as the 1970s was necessary to create equality. With that I’m not into the oppressive patriarchy either. It’s either a potential partner and I come together as equals or not at all. Once the sex becomes nonexistent and I’m jumping through hoops to maintain, placate and soothe her ever changing mood swings it’s time for me to jet. I’m out. I’m 50. It’s that big powerful number you spoke of. We only have so much time left and I only have so much left in the tank. It’s mine. I’m making it count. After two marriages and more failed relationships with women, your videos have also taught me about the women I need to steer clear of. Mainly the ones who are a nearly irresistible sexual attraction. Because yeah, that does indeed cloud judgement. Women weaponize sex as well. Fine tuned vision over here. Thanks for what you do.

[@wread1982]

You’re spot on 😊 I’m a growth stock swing trader, always stick to high volume momentum stocks and always use a stop order so you can quickly move on to the next trade to compound on steriods

[@danmorehead5816]

Great stuff. I'm great at being single but now I feel the freedom to feel grateful for my singleness.

[@Brian17-l4i]

It's the latter part of this video is the most essential. Once you've built-up/created what you want out of life and always defend/value it. Then there's less chance that people, including women can control you. Great message, Happy Christmas John. ⛄🎄🤗

[@dionmclaughlin3669]

We are here on Earth to be together.

[@LockBunn]

Love your videos, they anchor me at the right time when my mind/feelings starts to drift into the wrong direction . God bless you and Happy holidays Mr Griffin.

[@john-griffin]

Thank you

[@marcocannon87]

John, thank you for the wonderful insights.We must work 10 times harder than our grandfathers to get a woman 10 times worse than our grandmother. It makes no sense! Definitely not worth it today. Focus on yourselves, have a passion, the world is our oyster

[@bbb8182]

I feel in 3 ways 1) Full of regret & blame myself 2) heart broken Don't assign blame. 3) hate her enraged

[@vidiot9000]

Exercise is crucial for mobility as you age. We all do it differently-the key is to do it. Day 1 I do 30 minutes hard on the peloton bike. Day 2 I lift. Day 3 I stretch. Rinse and repeat.

[@andyjohnson5484]

Lot of truth spoken. Merry Christmas.

[@Radioman7788]

I love this gift. Nice job John.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@Ajax-t1q]

Yes agree, 👍

[@john-griffin]

@ thanks

[@HughGrunt]

Ive been working from home for 4 years, single for 5, son wants to live with his mom full time, constant depression and suicidal thoughts. I just want inner peace

[@IAMVICTORIUS777]

Prayers for you my man. Happiness is a choice! I would suggest with a couple quick steps. 1. Decide if happiness is what you want 2. If the answer is yes, remind yourself everyday that you're in control and you choose to be happy! It will feel weird at 1st but keep doing it. 3. When you start feeling urges to do positive things, do them!

[@vincezetti7216]

work out at least 5 days a week. go out and talk to ppl at bar, gym, fitness clubs. bein alone at home can drive u crazy. we’re meant to be social. fast daily. i only eat dinner usually. time heals all wounds. be grateful u have a son. many ppl have no kids. pray and ask God for help. for a miracle. for peace.

[@duhg6059]

Dont do that it gets better believe me.. be strong

[@James-dt7ky]

Merry Christmas guys.