Why Men Die Before Their Wives?

[@jaycec8474]

Somewhere out there is a middle-aged female cat lady releasing KZbin videos about the benefits of living single without male companionship - and all while out walking her cats. A soulmate for John Griffin, perchance?

[@john-griffin]

🤣🤣 I love it! Hilarious

[@soydansogukcesme470]

most woman who are decent looking are not willingly single.. all men who are decent looking are single bye choice.

[@thunderresistant]

His dogs are cute, tho)

[@acornsucks2111]

Cats are great.

[@Andy-AJC72]

I’m sure there is. Bottom line: do the work to have a happy marriage. Most people DONT DO THE WORK to have a happy life WITH THEIR SPOUSE. Your choice is how you react to situations. You don’t have to be stressed. 😂

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

“Most men die at 25, we just bury them at 75” •Benjamin Franklin•

[@john-griffin]

Sad and hilarious 😂

[@wisl8122]

Wow , profound and informative.

[@Falconlibrary]

"9 out of 10 men is a suicide."--also Ben

[@taboovsknowledge1603]

That's a good one!

[@edimichaelchannel1162]

cool!😂😂😂

[@allseeingotto2912]

With the amount of stress relationships and marriage have caused me I’m surprised I’m still above ground .

[@RobertHunt-x8u]

Well your still here and that makes you a TMF.💪💪

[@allseeingotto2912]

@@RobertHunt-x8u thanks bro 🙏🏻

[@themick6586]

My first wife had me ready to end my own life, My second wife makes me want to live longer, so that she won't have to be without me. She tells me that if I die first , she's going to kill me ?

[@wread1982]

😂😂😂

[@DNA350ppm]

(I had to correct language errors, sorry 'bout that!) Me, too! I divorced, really unhappy to have failed to save the marriage. But it turned out divorce was for the best, a good thing to do, as it takes two to be happy in a marriage. But 20+ happy years later, I actully know, and I'd be happy to take care of my hubby to the best of my ability for the rest of my life, instead of struggling to keep my own nose above the water, as when I was constantly put down, earlier, for more than a dozen years. I'm grateful and optimistic, a problem-solver, to my nature, and that wasn't OK then, either. Now it is appreciated. And I have conflicts with nobody. Otto, take a closer look at your situation - what is really going on, and in what direction? You *deserve* to do your best for the result you hope for. The last word is not yet said! All the best!

[@jimreimers4213]

I was never so lonely while married. The most loneliest time ever. Now I'm alone and no longer lonely. Such a tremendous relief

[@princesslithium]

“I use to think that, the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It is not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel alone” R. Williams, Actor (1951-2014).

[@DNA350ppm]

True for both genders, and their kids, too!

[@ltcajh]

@@princesslithium Both are awful!

[@winoodlesnoodles1984]

@@ltcajh Nope! Being alone is freedom to do what you want, when you want. Where is the down side. If you need companionship, have friends or get a dog.

[@armyparrot9353]

True words. There are people everywhere you can make conversation.. we tend to stick with what is not good for us for too long. I read a book once called necessary ending..The faster we act on ending something and accept change or a mistake the faster we grow and learn.

[@christianriddler5063]

@@winoodlesnoodles1984 I have been alone for all of my life, I haven't touched another human being for a long time. Being alone is not good for you, even God says so in Genesis, "It's not good for man to be alone" - The Father.

[@stevend8785]

I made the decision this morning that I’m 50, and being married to my wife of 22 years is not how I want to spend the time I have left. (This is before I watched your video it’s been festering for years). It is exactly what you said. One moment I realized the longer this went on, the greater the toll on me and the higher the exit cost will be. If I wait to 60 or 65, I might never recover or the stress might kill me. I’ve never felt as lonely as I do in this marriage, including the time I spend physically alone. Sometimes we exchange 10 words in a day, eat a meal in silence, she’ll be mad for days. The little sex we have is unenthusiastic duty sex. I’m done. I don’t think you can make a woman happy. I think they’re inherently unhappy people, especially the attractive ones. Their entire identity is wrapped up in their beauty. They age out of it, it’s like they die twice, once when they’re not hot and again at the end. Tom fucking Brady couldn’t keep his women happy. What hope is there for us regular men?

[@plasmaarmelund]

Great point about them dying twice.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

Post divorce is Heaven

[@MrBBaron]

@@stevend8785 I got free from the ex spider’s web at the old age 65. Better late the never

[@bradz007]

I'm in my 50s been married 29 years , I treat it like I'm just living in the same house now , I have a few lady friends too , that helps with the thought of being trapped 😂

[@vincewhite5087]

As Marcus Aurelius said,no matter how good you live your life, when you are dying, there will be people happy you are dying.

[@racebannon96]

OUCH!

[@blobtv7444]

wow

[@Random-rt5ec]

LOL - for me that would be my mother in-law

[@artawhirler]

Yeah, especially if you're a Roman Emperor.

[@Spacekriek]

I do not really find that very disturbing. As long as the right people are concerned about my passing, I would not care. To put it another way, if you are into people pleasing and trying to make everyone happy, sell ice cream. :)

[@mikey92362]

A doctor told a man that he had a terminal illness and was going to die. The man asked the doctor if there's anything he could do to improve his situation. The doctor said he could get married. The man asked if getting married would keep him from dying. The doctor said no, but it would keep him from caring.

[@kirkmorris4133]

Bars 😂😂😂😂

[@mjaybee]

A wife and husband are at the doctor’s office. The doctor finishes the check-up on the husband and looks concerned. “How’d I do, Doc?” the husband asks. “Sir,” the doctor says, “I’d like to ask if you would give me a few minutes to speak to your wife privately. Please have a seat in the waiting room and we’ll call you in just a minute.” The husband says sure, and he gets up and heads out of the exam room, closing the door behind him. His wife looks at the doctor. “What is it, doctor?” she asks. “Is … Is my husband going to die?” The doctor looks pained. He takes a deep breath. “Ma’am, I’m afraid I have very bad news for you. Your husband is terribly ill. It’s one of the worst cases I’ve ever seen. He’s … He’s on his way out.” The woman gasps; her hand flies to her mouth. “Is there anything to be done, Doctor??” An intense look comes over the doctor’s face and he takes the wife’s hand. Very gravely, he says, “Yes, ma’am. There is one thing you can do to save your husband.” “Tell me, please!” The doctor takes a deep breath and says, “You must treat him like a king among men.” The wife is confused. “What?” “You must cook and serve him his very favorite foods. Any movie he wants to see, any sporting event - grab the keys, get in the car. You drive. He gets to play on his phone. If he wants to golf, go with him. Buy him presents. If he wants sex, you must have sex with him. You must have more sex with your husband than you’ve had in the past 35 years of marriage! And if he wants you to read to him, rub his feet, or scratch his back, you must do it. If you do all this, ma’am, your husband can expect a full recovery.” The woman thanks the doctor and leaves the office to find her husband in the waiting room reading a magazine. “What’d he say?” the husband asks. “You’re gonna die.”

[@RealtyWebDesigners]

Pure gold 😂

[@lpsglitterpaws8536]

This is funny!

[@urbanart7325]

Are you telling my story ?

[@RS-ms1bz]

John, my parents were married for nearly 57 years before Dad passed away from colon cancer. They had a good relationship and loved each other. But, just like with every woman, Mom nagged and poked the bear so to speak throughout the marriage. Once Dad was diagnosed, he declined any treatment. He was 80 at the time, mom was 78. I could tell he just wanted peace, and rest, and the only way for him to get those two things he hadn't had for nearly 57 years was to just pass on. I truly believe men, just as the saying goes, will themselves to die before their wives to just get away from what they've been put through. They get tired, and don't want to struggle with the drama and barrage of emotional psychological warfare women inflict upon men. I saw it with my own dad, and the older I get, I can see exactly why men as they get on in age, would rather die than continue on in their marriage.

[@MrBBaron]

I believe what you described. Sometimes, we men just want to exit this shitty life .It gets more insane and depressing every day. As an old boomer. I only wish to stay around long enough to continue to be a caregiver to my handicapped brother across town. If he does go first, I would care less if i went shortly afterward. I tried to do the right thing all my life and be a good man, and I was. I was generous with my money and time for others. I had my time back in the day. Now, I am just running out the clock, trying to stay busy with hobbies until I go.

[@mth9267]

I enjoy my peace ,my cat my ability to run and my kids when I see Them. Was severely sick until we broke up. Ti the point I was afraid of dying . That went away after the break. Two years gone and found my purpose

[@mpclepto182]

What a sad life of quiet desperation. My wife's divorce with me was just finalized this morning because I held her accountable to her own immature actions. I wouldn't punish her, but when she would mistreat me (nag, silent treatment, deny responsibility, etc) I would stand my ground and explain that she really did do what she did and she wasn't changing my mind about it. Apparently being accountable for her own actions was the exact form of "abuse" she needed to justify leaving forever. I'm deeply saddened because I really do love her and she had great qualities, but my life is much more peaceful now without her mean behavior. For all her faults during marriage, she was honest enough with me prior that I should have noticed the red flags prior to marriage. Like a bear I don't think her intention was to cause me pain, just that she only knows to do what a bear does. And so when I tried to hug it, I got mauled, but not out of malice. I opened myself to get hurt by her and it happened. Unfortunately for her, she now has a bunch of money, a successful career, but is almost 40 with no children. She was adamant she didn't need me. She now has it all now, a bunch of money, a good education and a great career. But she's almost 40 now and divorced without kids. She might be feeling happy today, but her future has never looked more depressing. I didn't want this for her, but I can't stop her from leaving either. She told me early on while dating 8 years ago, that she "always wanted to be a mom with at least 2 kids". And seeing how good she was with children I believed she really meant it. But she kept pushing that date back further and further. She still says she wants kids, but I don't think she realizes she's out of time. Between her lack of free time and divorced status, the only guy she'll get to knock her up will be some guy who just wants to get his rocks off, probably a real low quality mate. Who knows? Who cares...

[@Quadster19]

It's incredible to me how aware and at the same time unaware many women are of their biological clock.

[@MrBrndin]

It's probably why you've never heard "most WOMEN live lives of quiet desperation."

[@michaelmarusic8499]

👍🏻my wife pasted away at age 48 from cancer 3 years ago, and the stuff I found out about after her death blow my mind. I lost all due respect for her, but never will share what I learned with my adult children. My stress level has decreased significantly since her passing, I no longer have to grind my teeth at night

[@Gavi-144]

Please share brother 🙏🏼

[@danielgibbs7134]

Sad to hear man. Chin up

[@GhostBuster-c9z]

Yes we would like to know

[@homebell4866]

Please share because you will be saving lives!

[@allykid4720]

Probably she knew you will suffer, thus she had incriminated herself in the end, so you can live happy life after her death? Same as Verdi's Traviata scenario. In this case, better pretend you believe she was bad, so her plan works well.

[@mth9267]

Went to 4 different heartspecialists with very servere symptoms regarding my heart. All went away after we broke up. 13 years. Do not underestimate bring trapped in a tonic relationsship

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing your story

[@racebannon96]

Amazing.

[@ma3stro681]

*toxic

[@arfermo853]

Toxic not tonic😂😂

[@scottblackburn2969]

He needed a tonic!

[@ChazEevee]

this made me think of that slogan "men sacrifice their lives for their marriage, women sacrifice their marriage for their lives"

[@MRindependentTHINK]

It's actually. A man will sacrifice their happiness for his family.. While a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness

[@kchall5]

@@MRindependentTHINK And usually she'll end up with neither.

[@ma3stro681]

Just crazy that so many men do this …

[@jimreimers4213]

​@MRindependentTHINK you don't understand, without happiness in your relationship, you ARE dead.

[@dky_1353]

So apt!

[@spaceted3977]

Every Married Male Friend I have is just a Doormat to their Wives ! Where I live I am surrounded by old Widows ! Their Husbands died Twenty Years ago from Hard Work ! I have a Happy Retirement with my 2 Dogs ! No Stress ! Wonderful !

[@COSkywatch]

Wish it were true for me. My wife died at 58 and now single at 60. I had the one in a million wife so it's painful. Happy Holidays to you. 🎉

[@john-griffin]

Sorry to hear that. It’s a tough one when a wonderful person is taken too soon.

[@RonGlasgow-s7l]

Congrats on 1 in a million...you hit the lottery...be thankful

[@Gavi-144]

Keep your head up brother 🙏🏼

[@DNA350ppm]

I do feel for you! Hubby and me often talk about how to survive losing the other one, which is all an unpredictable lottery. It is hard to face alone. Try to live as she still were by your side - talk with her and take care of yourself, but also do what she did for your home, friendships, and relations. If you don't feel like it, accept that, and do it anyway. Honor her memory by living the best possible life, staying loving and caring. If there is advice that resonates even a little with your thinking, values, or feelings, try it out, even if it isn't "fun" and nothing can take your sorrow away - it might be meaningful to try to keep up what you had, and trying is good enough. Imagine that she nods and encourages you to go on! Imagine that you make her proud with your increasing survival skills. Do cry, but laugh, too - it is all a way to celebrate what you had in your wife! Happy holidays, do make them beautiful and heartfelt as much as you can! More than that is not demanded of you. Decide to look forward to healing, it does become more and more possible: constant pain can turn to something valuable that you will cherish for the rest of your life! May you be blessed!

[@ericaz1458]

Sorry she's gone but I'm glad you two loved a good happy life together

[@97MrStew]

I’m so glad I’m divorced now. We separated for a year. I made more money, slept great, and even got laid more. I don’t stress over anything now. Hopefully I’m getting my years of living back!

[@racebannon96]

I could have written your post. Been divorced for 27 years. She gave me the gift that keeps giving. When she left, she didn’t consider that she was taking her miserable self with her.

[@97MrStew]

@ big facts! My ex wife has a new dude. She thought that would make me jealous. Little did she know, he was doing me a favor

[@automedontas-xu1id]

Yeap, well said!!!

[@edwardgeezil3318]

I have a military friend of mine and his second marriage from a very young girl from the Ukraine he brought to the United States. He is living in a nightmare.

[@ibberman]

Haven't had sex in over 10 years, every night when I go to bed I look at her and hope I don't wake up in the morning. The marriage destroyed me, but oddly enough it doesn't bother her at all.

[@rodrigo100kk]

"Now you are dependent on her to take care of you in your final days" - If she doesn't care about you now or in the past years, why would she care then? She won't...

[@ActualSighs]

My parents were married for 58 years I think. My dad was a year older than my mother and a lot healthier. My mom was "on" my dad as long as they were married. She died at 87 with major health issues. My dad, for years was kind of mopey. He lived another 4 or 5 years. It was soooo obvious that he felt free those last years. He actually started smiling again. That was a long haul for him. He was a saint.

[@Mnil52]

Wow that's a long time

[@nunuvyurbiz123]

This is why Social Security is a massive wealth transfer from men to women. First, men contribute more because they seek higher paying careers, so they pay more in taxes. Second, women get more because (i) the benefits are regressive (benefits increase but at lower and lower rates, so high earners subsidize lower earners, i.e.. women) and (ii) women live longer but start social security on the same schedule as men (so shorter living people i.e. men subsidize longer living people i.e. women). And, to top it off, there are survivor benefits, for both current spouses and ex-spouses, which almost always are women. So without even paying into it, they get benefits - from people who did pay into it, which are disproportionately men.

[@duhg6059]

Brilliant explanation.. I never thought of that.. very true

[@mikey92362]

It's also racist. Black men die the earliest and rarely collect much from social security. White women live the longest and generally receive far more than they paid in.

[@Thor-o1v]

Thats why idc about getting VA disability in my 30’s as a man. Everyone else gonna get their check, well so the hell am I.

[@OziBlokeTimG]

Great conversation, pure genius. It's a joke.... almost. 😅.

[@PhoenixwayNet]

Not to mention that women get to collect at 62 if they were married to a man for 10 years or more even if they are no longer married.

[@jasonsherwood7539]

They die to freaking ESCAPE

[@KC-lg8qf]

this is correct!😂

[@4literv6]

Another channel said its why we don't feel any pity watching cows pigs chicken etc being bought to a slaughtering. We men the disposable gender who sacrifices everything for any society since time immemorial, know the animals are about to be free of it all!

[@WilliamCGiose]

Amazing truth. One must walk away or out of this toxic prison.

[@johnbelyk7542]

@@jasonsherwood7539 It is better to be dead than tortured.Probably war veterans could testify to this.

[@mikejames9642]

I can’t guarantee that my wonderful divorce is going to extend my life, but my marriage was definitely going to take years off it!!

[@MichaelBrown-zp1sf]

Years ago, I had an older couple that lived behind my house that I was pretty good friends with. The man treated her well and was always good and kind to her and her grown children from a previous marriage. His health began to fade, and he was no longer able to make as much money as before, but they were still comfortable. As soon as she had to take care of a lot of his basic needs, she confided in me one day that she just wished he would "go on and die." This really opened my eyes to female nature.

[@john-griffin]

Yep

[@gfxmaniac]

My dad would rather be in a bar than at home. I understand him now.

[@92pavelow]

Same here 😅

[@carlosr6597]

“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” Robin Williams

[@Falconlibrary]

My health was terrible when I was married and improved greatly, both mentally and physically, after my divorce thirty years ago. My wife created an environment of constant drama and stress for me, and was also quick to let me know at least once a day that I wasn't "making her happy". Every old guy I know who looks and acts younger than his years, like me, is either long-ago divorced or a lifelong bachelor. The longtime married men look beaten down and miserable. "Every woman should marry, and no man."--Oscar Wilde

[@Sheldonna-cg8lm]

It goes both ways

[@regismedeiros1141]

Great video. Marriage was making me sick. I didnt know and could realised i should leave. I was falling sick, back pain, high blood pressure... thay was a result of high levels of stress. Leaving in a house with an unhappy woman destroyed me emotionally and my health. Only those who went through know that feeling.. Focus on you, your happiness, find your peace and leave for you and your kids Your longevity, health and peace means more than a happy woman Another video full of wisdom. Thank you

[@ibberman]

I hear you my friend, same thing here. I waited too long, 50 years, so now half a cripple from the stress of no sex/love not sure how it's going to turn out.

[@regismedeiros1141]

@ibberman i hear you. Sometimes looking back we can see how much we tolerated... and how much we let ourselves down. But you gotta trust the process and embrace the challenges. You are going to adjust and slowly recover Do the work. Focus on you. To start all over is hard but with time it will be the best thing Watch positive content like this and go make you happy and put yourself first for a change

[@sonderman8079]

Probably like many, I have had horrible experiences in life. Lost my father when I was 14, lost some close friends in war, didn't see any member of my family for 20 years, etc. But, in terms of stress and emotional impact none of them come close to my bad marriage. Soon to be free though.

[@Gavi-144]

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life but getting married won't be one of them

[@jfnuyen]

After my wife passed away 18 years ago, I've been living on my own. I do have a daughter, and I make it a point to enjoy dinners and outings with my male friends. Honestly, I don’t feel very lonely. My hobbies keep me engaged, and I spend a lot of time walking on trails, much like John does in his videos. It’s those things that really make a difference.

[@Horatio1886build]

I agree, I have never understood people that say they are bored or lonely. There is so much to do out there and so many new people to meet, places to go. If someone is bored or lonely the problem is with one’s self. Being free of a burdensome annoying wife opens the world to you.

[@Horatio1886build]

Not saying your wife was burdensome or annoying. May she rest in peace.

[@Horatio1886build]

I’m widowed too. I don’t want create any problems with our wives, at Christmas time, or channel “Christmas Carol type dreams😳Sorry

[@realmccoy1001]

Absolutly true what John says! I (niceguy) was in a relationship with a neurotic woman for 20 years. A month after I managed to get out of it I got a heart attack. I was 47 then. After that I changed my lifestyle and avoid toxic people to minimize my stresslevel. I´m 58 now and I´m doing fine

[@siamakgarmroudi4779]

At first I wanted to leave a comment but then I realized that there’s nothing really I could add to what you’re saying, I just pray to God that if there’s a guy right now listening to you and it’s TRAPPED in a sad hopeless marriage to take your advice and salvage the remaining years of his life, God bless you my friend and thank you for your wonderful program 🙏💕

[@Random-rt5ec]

My mother in-law sent my wife’s father to an early grave with financial stress. She forced him to refinance the house to buy stuff they couldn’t afford & boom he was laid off and 3 years later diagnosed with cancer & gone within a year.

[@plasmaarmelund]

If I had stayed in my marriage, I'm quite sure I would have gotten a heart attack sooner or later. I remember waking up in the middle of the night in cold sweat, heart pounding like a hammer on my chest from the inside. I finally realized that it was my body telling me that I needed to end the marriage. The next 3-4 years that followed, with soul-sucking divorce proceedings, breaking a family apart, and an ego-death, were the most painful and challenging of my life. But coming out of it on the other side was like a rebirth. A rediscovery of myself and I'm now able to live life on my terms. Has the stress that I endured during my marriage negatively impacted my health and shorten my lifespan? Possibly. But at least I'm free now and can focus on getting as healthy as possible in all aspects of life.

[@arth.3899]

I had a toxic job and a money draining fiancée. I got rid of both of them. I rock to Iron Maiden and hit the gym or cook my dinner in peace. Rock and Roll peace.

[@paulballinger8754]

Ha ha good job

[@devilsoffspring5519]

I haven't listened to Iron Maiden in decades, I used to dig them as a kid! Don't they have a new album?

[@arth.3899]

@@devilsoffspring5519 Yes, they came out with a new album in 2021 I believe. The album is called Senjutsu. It's a great album. Hell on Earth an awesome song!

[@freeagent8225]

Listening to your favourite tunes is a God send.😅

[@devilsoffspring5519]

@@freeagent8225 Making music, if you ask me, is the redeeming feature of humanity. No idea what the point of being human is without it. Nothing wrong with the other stuff we do, humans do other cool things too but making music seems fundamentally and inescapably human for me.

[@tomz1daful]

I've been married and then widowed twice... both women, although not perfect, were wonderful. I will admit that being the husband and father with these women was hard work. But, because of who they were AND HOW THEY TREATED ME, it was totally worth the hard work.

[@john-griffin]

Nice to hear that. Thanks

[@capitalt348]

​@@john-griffin rare case

[@weightysubjects]

Another great vid John. Spot on about stress. I never had health issues until i was in my marriages/divorces. The divorce is just as, if not more stressful, and your body is in a constant fight or flight state. But you're paralyzed by the dreaded family court industrial complex. As you say, stay healthy and if you can, stay single!

[@RobertHunt-x8u]

All the old boys i know are single and have been either divorced or not bothered with marriage and they are in there 80's and still live active lives. All the old people's homes I deliver too are full of women, no men. Single is longevity especially for men.💪💪💪💪

[@john-griffin]

Great point

[@hoedemakerbart]

True lol. I know a guy in town who is a good friend he is approaching 90 still wrenching and enjoying beers. He never had a wife in his life.. only in his early years

[@darrenleejones3516]

Someone gets it

[@outtahere321]

This is the kind of talk every man needs ro have with his son just as he is becoming a man. It would save young men from years of disappointment and grief. I am glad this message is going out to men. Thank you, sir, for a really good message to all men.

[@ArmyWolves]

I am actually surprised this isn't normally told to young men... Wom∆n are told even by men not to move around at night alone or believe the sweet words of a boy confessing his love as he may just want the pleasure of her body but wom∆n around us don't even MENTION that some of the seemingly kindest, sweetest , innocent looking wom∆n we may encounter can be some of the most ruthless , selfish human beings that have ever lived and will rob you of your life , dreams , legacy just to finance and build the life she wants

[@danbev9313]

No. They will not understand nor listen to such advice. It's just the way it is. They need to discover these things for themselves. I've had this talk with both of mine. They looked at me like I was nuts

[@mjaybee]

A wife and husband are at the doctor’s office. The doctor finishes the check-up on the husband and looks concerned. “How’d I do, Doc?” the husband asks. “Sir,” the doctor says, “I’d like to ask if you would give me a few minutes to speak to your wife privately. Please have a seat in the waiting room and we’ll call you in just a minute.” The husband says sure, and he gets up and heads out of the exam room, closing the door behind him. His wife looks at the doctor. “What is it, doctor?” she asks. “Is … Is my husband going to die?” The doctor looks pained. He takes a deep breath. “Ma’am, I’m afraid I have very bad news for you. Your husband is terribly ill. It’s one of the worst cases I’ve ever seen. He’s … He’s on his way out.” The woman gasps; her hand flies to her mouth. “Is there anything to be done, Doctor??” An intense look comes over the doctor’s face and he takes the wife’s hand. Very gravely, he says, “Yes, ma’am. There is one thing you can do to save your husband.” “Tell me, please!” The doctor takes a deep breath and says, “You must treat him like a king among men.” The wife is confused. “What?” “You must cook and serve him his very favorite foods. Any movie he wants to see, any sporting event - grab the keys, get in the car. You drive. He gets to play on his phone. If he wants to golf, go with him. Buy him presents. If he wants sex, you must have sex with him. You must have more sex with your husband than you’ve had in the past 35 years of marriage! And if he wants you to read to him, rub his feet, or scratch his back, you must do it. If you do all this, ma’am, your husband can expect a full recovery.” The woman thanks the doctor and leaves the office to find her husband in the waiting room reading a magazine. “What’d he say?” the husband asks. “You’re gonna die.”

[@saxonsteve]

Freakin Sad 😞!

[@Godinchamp_digitals]

Meaning she wasn't ready to do what would prolong her husband's life. Imagine?!

[@allseeingotto2912]

@@mjaybee 😆

[@peasantlaborer6084]

LOL

[@marksargent2440]

Brutal

[@joziewales1965]

Like you I’ve been divorced for 10+ years and never feel alone. In fact the best 10 years of my life.

[@byroncummings2952]

Sharing your experiences to help other men is honorable. A lot of us are alone but not lonely. Sometimes when I come home and as I'm unlocking the front door, I briefly imagine having a nagging wife waiting for me on the other side. I literally get a feeling of nauseousness in my gut. Luckily, that's not the case and I consider myself lucky. Thank you, John, for taking time to help others.

[@Horatio1886build]

I’m widowed so it is a little different for us widowers as we hesitate to speak ill of the departed, bad karma and all that but , enough said. I get it. I have no desire to have another relationship. I ‘m enjoying my freedom. Took care of her till the end at home. My conscience is clear. I did my duty, served my time.

[@lakecityransom]

KZbin is becoming the father for untold men, if they are wise enough to seek the information that is.

[@ArmyWolves]

Marrying especially for men is like playing the lottery... If you win you get a million dollars but if you lose you have to work for the lottery company for minimum wage for the rest of your life.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

The internet is helping men spread the word. Most marriages are miserable for men.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

@@lakecityransomBeen like this for at least last 10 years. Lots of guys have the same story.

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

I had a job that I hated, I was in a toxic marriage, I was sleeping on the damn couch. I hated the job, but at least I didn't have to be around her. I delayed going home as long as I could..I didn't want to see her, but I wanted to see my kids. This was my groundhog day. I started smoking and drinking again, if she found out..why care? I had a one night stand, I got satisfaction. She had her affair and none of her family condemned her. Now it was my turn. The thing about her was that no matter what I did or where I went, she had to know..every sound and squeak...I was convinced she on another level of paranoia. I was tired of being blamed for her unhappiness. She made a big show of having a fun, new life without me. I didn't let on just how ridiculous I thought it was. No second marriage for me.

[@devilsoffspring5519]

Hope you're well man, did you ever kick smoking & drinking again? Both are a booger to quit. At least you weren't getting into fentanyl or some such shit :)

[@MrBBaron]

@williamj.dovejr.8613 i hope you quit your bad habits . You have a new chapter to write about in your life's journey. Wish you well and a happy life.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

Amazing how many times I have heard this story.

[@TalioMirishaTV]

Your channel is filled with life saving advice… thank you, from all men. God bless!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! I appreciate that.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

@@john-griffinLove your attitude and approach. Would love to know. What is a happy marriage? and how many are there? In 59 I say maybe 10% happy.

[@derpderpington5433]

I will die happy. My bish revealed herself to be unworthy 10 years into the marriage. The first 11 years after divorce were bad, child support, court antics, legal bills. The moment the judge released me from child support hell, 28% pay raise and I could pay my bills, stop using the credit cards and live a little. I know I will die happy on my feet a free man. I hope my dying words will be Freedom!

[@RonGlasgow-s7l]

Like MLK said, free..free..thank God I am free at last..

[@robertjohnson4401]

Yes. After the child support is done, you can have nothing to do with her. Such a feeling of freedom. She wasn't even using the child support on the children. I had to pay extra for their basic needs.

[@ShAlove22]

John, your words are priceless. I feel so blessed that I found you at the right time.

[@ewwtv7553]

Seems true to me. The fun stops usually around 25.

[@princesslithium]

“Even when I was in a crowd, I was always alone”. (NOIR, Mireille Bouquet). Words by E. Hemingway.

[@josephskowronski]

It's interesting how my brother-in-law died at 54 but my sister is still around at 71!

[@princesslithium]

I read an article about a man who provided a lavish life style for his wife. He was dumped immediately once he got cancer because she couldn't care for him, too stressful she said. Go read about the case of "Yana Fry".

[@Horatio1886build]

My wife passed away from cancer about two years ago. I took care of her at home till the end. It was a difficult relationship , after we married it became apparent she had serious issues emotionally and physically and I literally almost worked and stressed my self to death. I hate to admit it but it was almost a relief like a reprieve from an unjust sentence. I feel a little guilty feeling that way. But I have let it go now. We have one life to live. Live it.

[@fritzthecat0815]

@@Horatio1886build You don't have to feel guilty for your feeling of relief. Many people with very ill family members feel this way. It's okay.

[@princesslithium]

@@Horatio1886build Please Sr. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY. At the end you honored the “in sickness and adversity” part. God willing after a long and happy life, when in the presence of God al mighty you will hold your face up because you fulfilled the commitment in spite everything. My respects.

[@blobtv7444]

I know men in their late 60s still working FT just to get away from their wives, I thought they were isolated situations but it doesn't look like it

[@ma3stro681]

Very hard to respect these weak men … 😵

[@smartpowerelectronics8779]

1:47 "men have something worse than cancer" hilarious 🤣

[@kkenny70]

"Why do men die before their wives?" Because God takes pitty and mercy on us. "Until death do us part..."

[@PointWithin]

God is Merciful and Benevolent

[@johnvencill1511]

Because they want to

[@Zachw2007]

I’m 40 in July 2025. I have never had a serious girlfriend, or had the desire to get married or be a father. I really believe it’s the smartest decision I’ve made in life because I’ve never had extra stress, nagging, etc.

[@billreddy7593]

I'm 20 years your senior. Dated arnd but never got married. Went "monk mode" abt 10 yrs ago and don't regret the decision. Zero drama. No expectations or women being mad at me every 28 days. Have excess money on the bank and drive a luxury sedan and high end convertible sports car. What's not to like? Keep fit and hang out with my friends and look ten years younger than my age. My married friends are trapped with miserable (or crazy) women. Others got fleeced through divorce.

[@OziBlokeTimG]

Excellent work John, nailed it. Don't rely on other humans female or male to make you happy. Or bring you peace.

[@drumsnbass]

The greatest truth my ex-wife ever said to me, near the end, was “we’re not good for each other”. She was partially true. I had been good for her. Made her a multimillionaire. In return I’d gotten a life of stress. Now my stress is all gone. On the end it was worth it.

[@sk3ffingtonai]

Men need to learn something vitally important from Psychology 101. No one can 'make you happy' but yourself, and by extension, no one can 'make her happy, but her." Happiness is an inside job. Happiness is each individual's moral duty and imperative to themselves. No one else can do it. I will never allow a woman or any other person to 'blame me' or 'scapegoat me' for their unhappiness.

[@john-griffin]

So true

[@arturmassa3600]

Despite that a woman can be a big obstacle to happyness.

[@billyliar1614]

So true. Blame is very much a female thing, in my view.

[@JaceHerrod-wp1tk]

❤️‍🔥🕊Use the setback for God's setup, a new beginning.🇮🇱✡️🕎✝️🦅🇺🇲🛐☦️Buying a fixer upper ranch, to continue serving the Lord Jesus Christ a witness grateful and thankful allowing me to steward his property. A simple life, acre🏠with a barn🏕. My🐎American Paint Horse, full tack and training. Ranch hand, farm hand enjoy and bless God's creations before he calls me there yonder. God Bless America, God Bless You🐕‍🦺🐾

[@stevef7814]

I had a cousin who left his wife and 4 young children to become a skid row drunk in San Francisco. He died in a homeless shelter about 10 years ago. Always wondered what drove him to give up, and if he was satisfied with his choice.

[@BarfingGerbil]

His wife was more dangerous, misery inducing, and toxic than living on skid row. What an awful woman.

[@ChrisKettle-j6w]

Absolutely love the snow falling in the background. Really put me a piece today thanks, John.

[@CGTraderX]

I’ve been single for something like 8 years, and I rarely feel lonely. Sometimes I think I’ll be single forever because I’m totally content being alone.

[@PointWithin]

Likewise

[@threatlevlmidnight]

Same.

[@LarryWilliamsArtist]

Yep.

[@AE-yp4kc]

Woman used to live longer because they were homemakers. Men "enjoyed " the stress of work and finances for many decades. Hence, men died younger. Now, women are statistically dying younger than years ago. Why? Women are now "blessed by feminism" with the stress of work and finances for many decades.

[@BarfingGerbil]

A few women are dying at their desks. In our inverted world, "women's liberation" liberated men, not women. Also, philosophies like MGTOW (the genuine MGTOW philosophy that is, the individual zen-like one) are educating men into longer, better, happier, more stable, and self-controlled lives.

[@GhostBuster-c9z]

I never thinked of it like this could be true lol

[@DD-xw6uw]

This is so true 😂 Feminism told women they have to enjoy all the problems men have. Many women have forgotten how much easier it is to be a housewife than work in many of those back breaking jobs men have. This is especially true today when there’s all this technology taking away the difficulties from life at home

[@akosreke8963]

Old man dies and is trying to enter heaven where two angels guard the door. They are trying to find his name in the books but can't seem to find it. "Are you 75?" "Yes!" "Lived in Newport?" "Yes!" "Worked as a mechanic, right?" "Well, indeed!" "Uh, the name is still not here... Oh! Wait, were you married?" "Yesss," says the old man sighing. "Ah, everything is alright," says one angel to the other. "Just look his name up in the Book of Martyrs."

[@vasilisgkerats]

Hhh great sense of humour. 😂

[@jackdeniston6150]

More and more acceptable for Men Flying solo. So, Lifespan for us will increase.

[@JackLopez-e9k]

If you are going to die anyway, does it really matter if you die alone?

[@ma3stro681]

We all die alone …

[@benscott6826]

Prostate cancer- sexless marriage Heart Disease- Stress Nagging, Narcissism

[@PlumbBob-FGX]

John Griffin is like a modern day Apostle. Words of Wisdom for all men. A Western Confucius. No hype, just telling the way it is, in many instances. A Light on the Hill for many a young man.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@rammohan1991]

Lol looks like a failed bitter journeyman .

[@atreyuprincipalh4043]

I agree With You thank You for all the sense you make .im taking notes!!! Merry Christmas

[@john-griffin]

Merry Christmas! I appreciate that.

[@rastajzlik]

The key sentence: "There is a way out." 💯

[@libo6368]

Some marriages turned toxic for years ..marriage is over and people stay togther out of fear slowly dying

[@Michael_Skinner]

I like you said we are just lazy, this is why we are lonely. Because it is our fault, since we are not talking control of out lives. Even in a bad marriage you must preserve your peace and good quality connections to other people.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

I have perfected controlling my thoughts. You must accept you cant control anyone else. The mind is like a muscle it gets stronger when we use it.

[@cei1948]

When you die, you are going to that light or whatever you believe in on your own, it doesn’t matter if you’re married or not. I would suggest stay in single.

[@brncrvr]

Very true! I was in a very stressful relationship for 2 years. One year in and I became chronically sick for an entire year until I left her. A few months later and my health is great again but I do look and feel like I aged 5+ years in that short time. Staying single!

[@michaelpedersen2307]

Maybe she poisoned you… There are women that put stuff in a man’s food… Things that make you feel bad, but not dying…

[@Jubal.Harshaw]

AS a RETIRED internal medicine MALE nurse, let me tell you what is happening... When women get an itch, or a paper cut the response of society is, "Oh, gosh!! Go to a doctor RIGHT NOW! Maybe you need to just go STRAIGHT on to the HOSPITAL!" Now, a man gets a broken leg or a smashed nose and the societal response typically is, "SUCK IT UP! WHAT ARE YOU - A WUSS?? Go to a DOCTOR???? WHAT FOR?? Get back to WORK!" THIS is a problem. Trust me, when women comes into the office complaining about the dreaded "chest pain" we asked a myriad of questions from a cough to GERD to depression. When a MAN comes into the office and complains about chest pain, I get the crash cart and the EKG machine and put the hospital on alert. WHY the difference? When a woman complains about something - it MAY be that she just needs someone to listen to her. But when a MAN develops the actual fortitude to come into the office and complain - it is usually quite SERIOUS. THIS is the difference and WHY men do not live as long as women.

[@BarbaraA.MertzRN-CCRN]

As a FEMALE hospital nurse, I concur. Many times, women present with complaints which may or may not be of a complicated or serious nature. When men finally show up with something potentially serious - it usually is. When I ask them why they waited so long to come in, they usually come up with, 'well the kids had an exam they couldn't miss' or 'there was this thing my wife had to do'. Like you said, if a man comes with a problem - it is often already too late. Men often place other's needs before their own whereas women are just basically narcissistic and don't ignore any complaints of their own by catastrophizing and personalizing everything.

[@adamselene5957]

Well, I definitely agree totally. It is called stoic to a fault. This is the intrinsic nature of (individuals with an XY chromosome) to place the needs of themselves last and how society survives - on the backs of stoic XY chromosomal individuals. The XX chromosome individuals seem to lack this trait altogether. Calling it narcissism is kind of a bust.

[@PatriciaSavage-1930]

Yea. This is another really good example of how the 'other half' puts society above that of themselves. Males have the natural tendency by nature to be the ones who take the riskier jobs, more dangerous positions and put themselves out there on a limb. This alone has got to effect the statistical values of survival. The females who say, "I don't need no..." are actually the ones less likely to put themselves out there for the benefit of society and others in general. We need males to "step-up to the plate" so to speak. No one else is likely to on this side of the gender gap! This is for certain.

[@PatriciaSavage-1930]

Yeah. This is another really good example of how the 'other half' puts society above that of themselves.

[@PatriciaSavage-1930]

Men tend to be the ones who take the riskier jobs, more dangerous positions and put themselves out there on a limb.

[@davidmann4533]

My parents fought with each other for over 60 years both lived to 96 😂

[@handfloboxingreview1673]

Be alive and live well is a good mindset for longevity. Minimizing stress is a key.

[@rafalsz1272]

This is so true, and this was my life. I think my divorce prolonged and saved my life! I'm not kidding.

[@DrGHomer]

I've got a feeling this channel will explode in the near future.

[@Arnie-t6l7r]

EXCELLENT! This video had to be done! So very important. Been waiting for this topic. Health was always perfect, marriage to a monster caused extreme anxiety, panic attacks, heart palpitations, blood pressure rising, sleep issues, had to move to another part of my house and baracde my door every night or she'd come in and hit me during the night for absolutely no other reason except since she's unhappy and can't sleep, why should I get a good night's sleep? I'm still stuck in a 5 year brutal litigation and custody battle, cost a million in legal fees, corrupt courts, greedy nasty attorneys on all sides. I'm away from her, enjoying peace and quiet on my days without my kids, 50-50 custody, I am primary parent because of her parental alienation tactics, courts don't like that guys. The quietness, my music, my hobbies, my convertible, my bike, the gym, the good friends who stuck by, they are all divorced too or wish they were. I'm slowly starting to feel relief. I can't even imagine being involved with another woman ever but hopefully, I will address that logical fear in time as I somewhat miss being under the covers with a soft sweet smelling woman. Life is long, why stay stuck in jail for 50 years? I wanna live to be 90 or 100 but not with that evil thing! Best to all of you struggling with women.

[@lochnessmunster1189]

She sounds, even by the standards of horrible woman, a total nightmare.

[@stevenclarke-q7h]

John Griffin i like how you put things in proper context without over generalizing about life in general it really helps me as an individual.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@geraldtabu-or2jr]

Stress, normal lifecycle, health issues like prostate cancer in my country and also homicide mostly linked to love triangles.

[@amgis5218]

What a profound video. I wish more guys watch this clip and learn from it. I've seen most of the marriages in my family being dominated by brutal women, who destroy their husbands daily through shocking and constant verbal attacks, psychological games, and emotional manipulation. When I was a boy growing up, I thought that was normal, and that was simply the nature of life. But then in my 20s, I challenged that theory; I now understand that is not normal and that is not the way life should be. I am almost 50, been single all my life, and been celibate most of my life. I'm in the best shape of all the men I know who are my age and all married. In fact, I do look in my thirties, and my blood tests are all perfect, with low to no inflammation markers. I also don't get sick, and I'm extremely muscular and lean, as I go to the gym every day. And all that's because I've lived a stress-free life. John is absolutely correct: chronic stress caused by toxic relationships is worse than cancer.

[@JohnFRambo]

Bravo John! You saved us, This video is really an eye opener, a great Reality Check for guys caught in love fantasy or false thinking that they are missing something without being married! Thank you from bottom of my heart!

[@ricvanwinkle1665]

33 years married and I’m 4 months into the divorce process. I’m feeling better than I ever felt before and even with prostate cancer ♋️ I can’t wait to cross the country on my Harley. It’s great being single as I have no one to answer to. Like you she filed for divorce and people are asking me if I’d go back together down the road 😂😂😂 😂😂😂 I rather walk off a bridge 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂and I love my Harley as it never says no to me. Great video boss and can’t wait to GTFOH 😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉. Thanks for sharing

[@johnvlahos2530]

Thank you for those insights. Very helpful.

[@john-griffin]

Thank you! Glad you liked it

[@michaelsawyer158]

Amen. The last 5 years of my 36 year marriage I awakened to the fact I was ALREADY alone. Sleeping next to a woman in a bed where the chasm between us could have been the Grand Canyon. When she decided she wanted me to leave "for 30 days or more" (for about the 5th time in our marriage, I knew I wasn't coming back. That night I slept better than I had in years. I filed for divorce 8 months later. I have lost 46 lbs since 12/19/22, light weight workouts, walking and feeling better than I have in 40 years.

[@pugsymalone6539]

I'm happy for you, Brother, but always confused when wives tell the husband to leave. How about "no." You leave, woman.

[@john-griffin]

That sounds rough but I’m glad you’re at peace now.

[@wanderingwarrior5626]

Modern women dump all their problems, stress on men that are already burdened with that from work, finances, etc.

[@wanderingwarrior5626]

Stress kills!!!

[@barry5138]

😂 and they don't want to hear any solutions either!!

[@jonathansgilman]

I had married relatives who were born-again, but unofficially separated. He had a series of strokes and mini-strokes, and was moved back into their (her) house. He was helpless. It was really disturbing and the family was kept away. He did not last too long and it was complicated to change the situation. Social services did nothing, and all the signs were there. Not a great ending- she was not doing anything for him, and basically made everything worse.

[@nieuweabnormaal5869]

I also told a colleague to stop earlier than his official pension age. I told him I would stop very much earlier than that age. I told him because he was stressing everyday intensily because of the work. But he kept on working because he said that he would lose a lot of pension money by stopping earlier. He is just 2 years before the official pensione age and had to go to hospital due to tiredness. And after 4 weeks of hospital, finding out problems with heart and other organs, he probably does not come back to work. Pretty sure stress is a big part of it, stress will put you in a fight or flight response constantly. The body changes while on stress, the normal process stop until stress disappears. Forget to mention he also drinks and smokes, does not help either.

[@skiz2031]

Thanks for being you John, you’re awesome

[@mamoruhamaguchi1053]

One of the most important insights I've heard in this channel. Thank you John for going the extra mile in this respect.

[@harkamelrandhawa7125]

Wow this is the most important video I've seen. Thank you my friend.

[@donaldcummings6439]

You have verbalized what I always thought and what I see about the topic of various stress factors. Thank you for making this video presentation. Good job.

[@michaelpedersen2307]

I was in a relationship that made me so profoundly sad, that I started smoking and drinking… I never did that before…

[@ColinNew-pf5ix]

John you're the king

[@chickenwhisperer687]

I'm sorry your marriage didn't work out, but it put you in a good position to give us who have been fried, dryed and laid to the side some common sense.

[@thinkandrepent3175]

Great advice John, most Men don't realize how serious the mind body connection is. There is a reason placebos are often as effective as the medication being tested.

[@john-griffin]

Well said!

[@fritzthecat0815]

The funny thing is, placebos work even if the patient knows he is taking a placebo. This in turn means to me, even if you know your wife might be dragging down your spirits or only is trying to you cannot let this roll off your back. You need to get away from the situation asap.

[@dionysus1016]

I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. Robin Williams

[@derchiongster8068]

John. I've watched your videos since summer and I just simply love how the seasons change. Again. I loved your commentary through summer and the autumn, and now the winter just looks so dang beautiful.

[@john-griffin]

I appreciate that. The change of seasons is a gift, it’s like a free new world every few months.

[@albert2395]

John! You lucky sod! You've got snow!!! All we ever get in London, is rain and cloud!!!😢

[@john-griffin]

It was supposed to be drizzling rain today, but we got lucky with some snow flurries. They only lasted for about an hour.

[@Falconlibrary]

Not so lucky. Major snowstorm moving into the eastern US that is going to be a nightmare for Christmas travel.

[@albert2395]

@@Falconlibrary Motorists always moan about things! Snow, potholes, etc.

[@fritzthecat0815]

@@Falconlibrary Trains, planes and automobiles... lol.

[@JVTechMusic]

I concur 100% with your analysis. I have been going through the various stages of liberation for the last 12 years since i decided to leave my marriage of 26 years; always trying to fill in my emptinesses with somebody now understanding the values of seeing my life from a different perspective

[@MeshaunLabrone]

I needed this one.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks

[@MeshaunLabrone]

@@john-griffin No, thank you. It's scary to leave and lose your finances. It's even scary to lose your life. Ironically, i had this discussion of health with my wife,. She said women have a reason to have a hard time losing weight. Age, stress and hormones. But she said men have no excuse. She said its just age and stress. I said to myself, "Yes, and you are the stress that kills us.!"

[@yeroc5033]

The brighter stars burn out faster