Let People Miss Out on You

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Chad Lisonbee

Chad Lisonbee

Күн бұрын

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@richardtrammell7521
@richardtrammell7521 2 ай бұрын
We don’t walk away to teach people a lesson. We walk away because we have learned our lesson…. Ghost.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
I can 💯 get behind that! ✌🏻
@lifelessonswithnoma
@lifelessonswithnoma 2 ай бұрын
Wow i have never had someone articulate this so well. I swear im going to steal your quote😂
@hulululu5346
@hulululu5346 2 ай бұрын
Oh...I like that:)...thanks!
@reforma720
@reforma720 2 ай бұрын
Very well said! I never thought of it that way.
@GoWithDaFlowMo
@GoWithDaFlowMo 2 ай бұрын
Period... 👏
@jaybird2299
@jaybird2299 2 ай бұрын
"Being alone is not all that bad, being with people that make you feel alone is the worst" - Robin Williams
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching ✌🏻
@joe_7726
@joe_7726 2 ай бұрын
Who's gonna say it? 🤔
@davidcattin7006
@davidcattin7006 2 ай бұрын
Or, being with people you don't like or respect any more. What's the point? I'd rather have no friends at all.
@Gordan19758
@Gordan19758 Ай бұрын
Great man he was Robin Williams
@barbwengler
@barbwengler Ай бұрын
Why I divorced. (He treats me better now!)
@theyrekrnations8990
@theyrekrnations8990 2 ай бұрын
When I was 20 I was concerned about what others thought of me. When I was 40 I learned not to care what people were thinking about me. When I turn 60 I realized that no one was thinking about me in the first place.
@LelaHolliday
@LelaHolliday 2 ай бұрын
👏👏👏
@donnapaden
@donnapaden 2 ай бұрын
🎉
@sandravanpelt357
@sandravanpelt357 2 ай бұрын
🤣😂 Ain't that the truth
@Carl0sRoland0
@Carl0sRoland0 2 ай бұрын
Oooooh so true when I was in my 20s I feared about what others thought but in time that fear exhausted me to a point where I don’t care I’m 38 now so I passed that stage of fear along ass time ago now at this age I care less of what others think of me I don’t live in that fear thank God
@Khaled-wy1zy
@Khaled-wy1zy 2 ай бұрын
100%
@ArtLoverScotland
@ArtLoverScotland 25 күн бұрын
When people do not care about your presence, give them the gift of your absence!
@arkangelnorthman
@arkangelnorthman 2 ай бұрын
Don't make people a priority ... who make you an option...
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@arkangelnorthman absolutely!💯
@ObsidianGrp
@ObsidianGrp 2 ай бұрын
Perfect
@shapiro9640
@shapiro9640 2 ай бұрын
That is true.
@belindamarie3222
@belindamarie3222 2 ай бұрын
Say it loud❣️
@ofkgjsl
@ofkgjsl 2 ай бұрын
PREACH
@evalynchuran8684
@evalynchuran8684 2 ай бұрын
My hardest goodbye's were to people I loved. They drained me. I needed peace. I'm 60 now, and I have no time for their drama.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
It’s not easy. 🙏🏻
@latsnojokelee6434
@latsnojokelee6434 2 ай бұрын
I hear you. I’m heading into a Thanksgiving dinner in a couple days with family members who are so bullying and toxic. I wouldn’t normally go, but our mother will be there and she’s already getting dementia. I’ve told myself that I can always call an Uber and get back to the hotel if I need to. I Don’t have to sit and suffer through all the drama anymore
@mida8261
@mida8261 2 ай бұрын
My mom is the same age and I wish she was like this. I'm almost half her age and I had to cut her out of my life because she still needs to create drama to make life interesting for herself. Good on you for figuring that out and hope you get to live the best drama free life going forward.
@joe_blunts
@joe_blunts Ай бұрын
Same here the stress and anger doesn't go away for a long time. I'm still dealing with it many years later. Stay stong and sober everyone. There are people who care.
@ejames6431
@ejames6431 Ай бұрын
Hi - Evalyn, I am also 60. I agree with you. Unfortunately most of the people who drain me the most are family doing and saying the same old stuff from forty years ago. I try to put distance but boy do they push to get what they want from me.
@mikefigures5075
@mikefigures5075 2 ай бұрын
“I don’t know what the key to success is .. but the key to failure is trying to please everyone “
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@mikefigures5075 I can get behind that! ✌🏻
@rayc9899
@rayc9899 2 ай бұрын
WOW, that's profound, BRAVO to you for being smart.
@ajvf97
@ajvf97 2 ай бұрын
@mikefigures5075 A friend to all is a friend to none. Letting everyone into your life means you have no boundaries. Having no boundaries means standing for nothing.
@rubyruby7573
@rubyruby7573 2 ай бұрын
Anyone Who Knows The Key To Success Knows The Lock That Opens The Gate To Hell
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@ that sounds like a cope for lack of successes.
@EliteFightClubMMA
@EliteFightClubMMA Ай бұрын
"strong people forgive, intelligent people ignore" - Einstein (forgive & ignore)
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee Ай бұрын
Beautifully said! 💪🏻
@rsoxx74
@rsoxx74 2 ай бұрын
Most people don't really care about you in the first place. Walking away won't make them miss you, but it will show you who doesn't care.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you!✌🏻
@larrybradley3809
@larrybradley3809 2 ай бұрын
I walked away from people. They asked me what it was like not having any friends? I said every time my phone rings there is a friend on the other end.
@anne-liselarsen
@anne-liselarsen 2 ай бұрын
I think you’re right.
@privateconfidential4775
@privateconfidential4775 2 ай бұрын
It’s a cowardly hateful thing to do God sees
@viertekco
@viertekco 2 ай бұрын
I think he is referring to deeper personal relation ships..inner circle attachments. Friends family business partners, e.i attachments base connections. Professional or personal business relationships and family especially. Those are attachments by default those people will realize the absence of your presence in their life financial or emotional . One love hommie❤❤ good stuff.
@eddiemcloughlin3200
@eddiemcloughlin3200 2 ай бұрын
Less is more. The less you spend around toxic humans, the more you become
@Yourstruly4.0
@Yourstruly4.0 2 ай бұрын
Word!
@Defundthemasons
@Defundthemasons 2 ай бұрын
@JCLove5819 Answer: The Opposite of Toxic!
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@eddiemcloughlin3200 Thank you!✌🏻
@eddiemcloughlin3200
@eddiemcloughlin3200 2 ай бұрын
@JCLove5819 toxic people weigh you down, and when you let them go, setting boundaries, that's when you're free to become the best version of yourself, happy, peaceful, contentment and believe in yourself. Toxic people don't want that because it means they don't control you. They only control you because you don't believe in yourself, that's my slant on it anyway
@autumn-g1n
@autumn-g1n 2 ай бұрын
​@JCLove5819. Better: Happier, healthier, peaceful, calm, joyous, free, unburdened. That's what better means to me!
@Mithril170818
@Mithril170818 2 ай бұрын
When you do you, the right people show up.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Yes!🙌🏻
@moni2675
@moni2675 2 ай бұрын
This
@eltoro969
@eltoro969 2 ай бұрын
Yes and that makes me feel there's purpose in life
@DeenanTheKemon1
@DeenanTheKemon1 2 ай бұрын
No they don't.
@cutiepi3_patti
@cutiepi3_patti 2 ай бұрын
Always hope ❤
@Argyll9846
@Argyll9846 Ай бұрын
Walk away from any friendship where you always give, but never receive. I did and have no regrets.
@tm_3057
@tm_3057 2 ай бұрын
Letting go of people who you love with all your heart but who are toxic is one of the most courageous acts we can do in the name of self-love and self-preservation.
@jdrei5080
@jdrei5080 2 ай бұрын
Sounds like my life about my toxic relatives. I left them at 14 when my mother told me after she moved there was no room in the home for me regardless of the spare room at the back of the house. I've don't get invited to anything significant like my mother's wedding. I used to ring on Xmas day but got told everyone is too busy to talk to me. No real loss though with narcissistic people. I reconnected with one member but I don't say what I really think about the others so I don't upset her. My beautiful life still goes on with my own family and wonderful support right here. And this is where it's at, not unproductive memories.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏻
@ERIN478
@ERIN478 2 ай бұрын
Yes!
@buscando03
@buscando03 2 ай бұрын
It’s true… but for me it’s been so hard and painful in my heart. To the point that physically hurts!😢 I missed so much my ex husband… more than I never thought I would… but then I make my self think in all of the heartbreak and problems he put me through 😢😢😢
@tm_3057
@tm_3057 2 ай бұрын
@ Healing the grief of your loss will come in waves. Some days will be better than others but eventualy, as time passes, you will have learned to process what happened, and hopefully learned the lesson and released the pain.
@izzypacker
@izzypacker 2 ай бұрын
The comments are just as good as this video .
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Amazing people showing up!
@francescaali8782
@francescaali8782 2 ай бұрын
We are changing the algorithm and finding our peace online ❤
@emilywilson7308
@emilywilson7308 2 ай бұрын
These people are angels on this earth!❤
@ChelseaValentine
@ChelseaValentine 2 ай бұрын
Facts❤
@codychickadee5095
@codychickadee5095 2 ай бұрын
The comments sections on these kinds of videos are very therapeutic. I've learned a LOT about myself from listening to other's experiences. I can't speak to how much it's helped me. Even got me to see a counsellor.
@mamabear71234
@mamabear71234 2 ай бұрын
I came to realization that nobody cared about me and accepted it. It lifted the weight off my shoulders.
@melasmontanayogahomestead7818
@melasmontanayogahomestead7818 2 ай бұрын
I am coming to that realization now. I think some care but not enough to invest very much into the relationship. I way over invest. I'm learning, and sloppily, how to not invest so much and sometimes nothing. Cheers to developing care for ourselves.
@MS413-gs
@MS413-gs 2 ай бұрын
I, too, come to the realization that nobody cares about me. I surrender it all to God.🙏
@Kchula
@Kchula 2 ай бұрын
I felt the same
@lawrencecreech9640
@lawrencecreech9640 2 ай бұрын
Amen brother. I feel the same way been that way all my life finally at 73 years old I realized people really don’t care.
@LanaRegister
@LanaRegister 2 ай бұрын
That’s sad. You are a lovable person. You just haven’t found your person.
@TensionalityEFex
@TensionalityEFex Ай бұрын
Its better to stand alone with truth and strength than to stand with many who do not know your essence.
@honeypot4358
@honeypot4358 Ай бұрын
This!!!!
@m998hmmwv7
@m998hmmwv7 2 ай бұрын
Buy the time they realize they want you back. You dont want to come back..
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
That can happen too. ✌🏻
@JoannaCubana
@JoannaCubana 2 ай бұрын
Amén ❤
@support-o1n
@support-o1n 2 ай бұрын
I’m know I’m not
@support-o1n
@support-o1n 2 ай бұрын
I’m know I’m not
@CMilla69
@CMilla69 2 ай бұрын
That is so true 👍. You already walked away, why would you want to go back to what you left?
@audrablue515
@audrablue515 Ай бұрын
The best things I did for myself was stop being a people pleaser, stick to my boundaries and go quiet. I don’t talk much any more, only when it’s required. I also don’t share anything about myself, especially with family. I like having things just to myself because it’s always a surprise to me how judgmental people can be and the silly things they’ll be judgmental about. I’m comfortable with silence and turning all the attention I used to give to others back to myself. I’ve blossomed and thrived in ways I could never have imagined. I don’t socialize with others much but I’m not lonely. I value my own time and life is peaceful because I’m not around others who drain every bit of energy out of me.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee Ай бұрын
I'm glad you've found a path that brings you peace and joy.
@tiwanaloves
@tiwanaloves Ай бұрын
Wow I want to be like you!!! 2025 goals ❤
@elizabethmchenry3102
@elizabethmchenry3102 Ай бұрын
@@tiwanalovesme, too!
@NaomiLouellis
@NaomiLouellis Ай бұрын
YEAH THAT'S THE WAY I AM NOW TOO, AT FIRST I FELT SELFISH ABOUT IT , BUT NOW I SEE IT'S HOW I STAY IN PEACE !*
@evezazzle5974
@evezazzle5974 Ай бұрын
Love this comment so much. Wishing you all the best. Really proud of you ❤🙏☀️🎁🥳🥳
@monikamona6844
@monikamona6844 Ай бұрын
Good reminder before Christmas. We don't owe our time to people who don't appreciate our presence
@marcusmarshall9468
@marcusmarshall9468 Ай бұрын
AMEN!!!
@dorarolfzen4132
@dorarolfzen4132 24 күн бұрын
@@monikamona6844 Or gift.
@Joet1bp
@Joet1bp 14 күн бұрын
Boundaries saves lives ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@Lifeisshortby
@Lifeisshortby 2 ай бұрын
They hate when you leave because they don’t a punching bag.
@phoenixrising2231
@phoenixrising2231 2 ай бұрын
Facts - whether, mentally, emotionally, spiritual, relationally so.
@Mrs.Kathleen.Ritchie7771
@Mrs.Kathleen.Ritchie7771 2 ай бұрын
Frfr
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@Lifeisshortby Thank you!✌🏻
@mesalouis8976
@mesalouis8976 2 ай бұрын
Almost 3 months of no contact with my family. I just couldn’t anymore. The last straw was my mom called me on the phone, shouting out nasty names she even called me an alcoholic. I literally never drink alcohol and I’m 40. Ugh. I changed my number and was done.
@what.you.allowyou.permit2030
@what.you.allowyou.permit2030 2 ай бұрын
​@@mesalouis8976 ❤😓🙏🩷🫥😵‍💫❤️💔💦🤲❤️‍🔥
@godwinsboom
@godwinsboom Ай бұрын
The hard part is when we know they don't care, even when we still do, and when letting them miss out on us, feels like we are the ones missing out.
@missbell1634
@missbell1634 Ай бұрын
Agreed💔
@BrandonAlexanderWalks
@BrandonAlexanderWalks 2 ай бұрын
Too many times with too many people. My best life began when I quit being a people pleaser. Enough was enough. Edit: How great is it to see you aren't alone in your thinking?!
@jonward8261
@jonward8261 2 ай бұрын
Yes, exactly! Had to let family say what they want about me and do my own thing. Gift is to respect yourself enough to know who deserves your time.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you brother!✌🏻
@itzajdmting
@itzajdmting 2 ай бұрын
Good for you man. I'm walking the same path due to toxic behaviour and I just had enough. A disrespectful, aggressive, beligerent brother in law, a liar/gaslighter sister that has never apologized in her life..... Sometimes you've just got to draw a line in the sand. It's hurting my mother but I am not the family therapist, I'm an honest, decent man and I deserve to be treated with respect.
@BrandonAlexanderWalks
@BrandonAlexanderWalks 2 ай бұрын
@itzajdmting I'll tell you what, it's amazing how someone else can share something and you stop and think, wow this person is dealing with the EXACT SAME situation as me. We aren't alone in seeing these boundaries, they're certainly necessary. Good for you on finding that clarity. It hurts in the beginning, but it's so damn worth it. I wish you the best on your journey!
@itzajdmting
@itzajdmting 2 ай бұрын
​@@BrandonAlexanderWalksWow, no way!? Sorry you're in this frustrating situation too. Absolutely it's important to stay the course no matter what BS gets aimed at you from the other parties. Your peace is everything.... Protect it. ... All the best 👍🏽
@Luke-q2t
@Luke-q2t 26 күн бұрын
"Don't cast pearls before swine." Silence is a powerful tool. I'm happy your friend saw the light! That's rare, good for you
@lizscott6911
@lizscott6911 2 ай бұрын
I agree. I am 72 and over the last 20 years I have just quietly turned and walk away. Both with friends and relatives. I hate drama and people invent it just for thier own entertainment. So peacefull without them.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you!✌🏻
@janesurmi4688
@janesurmi4688 2 ай бұрын
Gift. When it first happened I was devastated. But after some time I saw the value for both of us. He was right in leaving. I have found the person i used to and am welcoming her home.
@emilywilson7308
@emilywilson7308 2 ай бұрын
@@janesurmi4688Sweet!
@ERIN478
@ERIN478 2 ай бұрын
May you live to be 100 and enjoy every year of it as a free person.
@GoldenOldies-007
@GoldenOldies-007 2 ай бұрын
Sad but true. I'm 62 and have quietly quit all social crap. i work my "gig" job twice a week, see my daughter/grandkids twice a month and I'm good. Dont need anything else... no gossip, no drama, no emotional upheaval.
@jstncheney
@jstncheney 2 ай бұрын
90% of my family. It's pretty sad, but, it is what it is.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you!✌🏻
@stephenlayton4635
@stephenlayton4635 2 ай бұрын
Gift
@zkkzkk-pj9uj
@zkkzkk-pj9uj 2 ай бұрын
I think its unavoidable it is human nature
@privateconfidential4775
@privateconfidential4775 2 ай бұрын
It’s a cowardly hateful thing to do God sees
@jstncheney
@jstncheney 2 ай бұрын
@@privateconfidential4775 What are you even talking about?
@taWay21
@taWay21 2 ай бұрын
No more people pleasing!
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Let’s go!!💪🏻
@macaroll
@macaroll Ай бұрын
I'm with you there!!!
@galochusan
@galochusan Ай бұрын
As someone who abruptly stopped drinking and doing drugs due to a certain comeuppance, I acknowledged my mistakes while my back was against the wall and I managed to pull through for the good. I am flying to my sixth Continent in November twenty-five. I volunteer as a peer support worker while listening and encouraging fellow addicts that there is life after addiction. The people close to me still think I am a pathetic loser and that will be their conviction of me, nobody likes to see change and that is a given. To all: Peace, love, respect, happiness, good fortune, stay healthy, remain in tip top shape and Never give up.
@Artielectric
@Artielectric 21 күн бұрын
Thank You!
@GonzoJohnny
@GonzoJohnny 14 күн бұрын
That last one is the best, never ever give up.
@michellesaward6561
@michellesaward6561 2 ай бұрын
Let them miss you - is a gift you give yourself.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you!✌🏻
@joleenlinks7513
@joleenlinks7513 2 ай бұрын
True story. My terrible headaches stopped when i walked away from toxic family and friends. It was spiritual. It was needed. Not easy but do it FOR YOU❤
@kipp1231
@kipp1231 2 ай бұрын
Wow this comment hit me. Just last year i had to go to hospital for a cat scan after pounding headache over my right eye. I had also blood tests and biopsy and they found nothing wrong. It's strange how stress and toxic people can affect your health in such a way. I'm in a better place now and the headaches have gone. I hope you have managed to purge those problems as well. Onwards and upwards 💪
@Wellness_Rose
@Wellness_Rose 2 ай бұрын
Ephesians 6:12. 🙏🏽
@Wellness_Rose
@Wellness_Rose 2 ай бұрын
I went no contact with my entire family last year & it was one of the best decisions I made for my mental & physical health.
@Mimi-8888-m5c
@Mimi-8888-m5c 2 ай бұрын
Omg 6 years ago i left my ex husband and moved 1600 miles away and my terrible migraines went away and I haven't had one since 🎉❤
@joleenlinks7513
@joleenlinks7513 2 ай бұрын
@kipp1231 congratulations. Yes way better now. Thanks
@raydavies5249
@raydavies5249 2 ай бұрын
Silence is Golden
@isaidwtfover
@isaidwtfover 2 ай бұрын
Well said.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@raydavies5249 Thank you!✌🏻
@sunnievictoria9917
@sunnievictoria9917 2 ай бұрын
silence is not the way. It's cowardly and hurtful.
@raydavies5249
@raydavies5249 2 ай бұрын
@@sunnievictoria9917 You can't heal toxic...just go your own way...Silence is Beautiful !!!
@gloriadenning3860
@gloriadenning3860 Ай бұрын
Silence is what I get. So painful when you don't even understand why.
@62harleyboy66
@62harleyboy66 28 күн бұрын
I had to walk away from a family relationship last year. Yeh it was sad but he is a narcissist I'd been trying to love for 40 years. No, he had no love for me. His toxicity and negativity were draining and I'm so much more at peace now. 😊
@bobinthewest8559
@bobinthewest8559 2 ай бұрын
If you aren’t setting boundaries because you’re afraid that might cause conflict… you’ve already lost.
@lavenderrose786
@lavenderrose786 2 ай бұрын
Boundaries are good only when the person you are dealing with respects boundaries. Most people don't care about others boundaries. If someone is angered motivated they don't care about your boundaries and are only interested in their prime aims is to hurt you...imo...
@EmpoweredChristianGirl
@EmpoweredChristianGirl 2 ай бұрын
Amen
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@bobinthewest8559 Thank you!✌🏻
@Earthling470
@Earthling470 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏽
@ERIN478
@ERIN478 2 ай бұрын
Oh my gosh. That's the truth.
@bryguysays2948
@bryguysays2948 2 ай бұрын
If you see someone as a priority and they see you as an option, let them go. My inner circle is small because of this, but stronger relationships with those that matter.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
💯Thank you!✌🏻
@NerdyScubaDiver
@NerdyScubaDiver 2 ай бұрын
Absolutely.
@mechelesee4875
@mechelesee4875 Ай бұрын
My son stopped talking to me. When he wouldn't answer the door, I chose to accept how he feels. I have not tried to contact him or bother him. My daughter died almost 9 years ago, so he is my only living child. (Their father also passed, 18 years ago.) It was very difficult at first, to let go of someone who I loved so deeply. One thing I have learned, you cannot make someone love you and ,often people do not love you as much as you love them. I have accepted he does not wish to be a part of my life. I have more peace now. His problems do not become my problems. I believe this was a gift to me from GOD.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee Ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏻
@elizabethmchenry3102
@elizabethmchenry3102 Ай бұрын
I heartily agree with you.
@Shredneck92
@Shredneck92 Ай бұрын
I stopped talking to my mother cause she was a violent alcoholic who blamed the whole family for her issues.
@jerusalemspeaks
@jerusalemspeaks Ай бұрын
Same. Happier, richer, too.
@SonyaHudson
@SonyaHudson Ай бұрын
You are absolutely right. You have to take care of you and if it's meant for your paths to cross again, you will. But in the meantime you have to take care if the most important person who you see in the 🪞 mirror and it's okay. 🙋🏾‍♀️💜🙇🏾‍♀️
@blacksun967
@blacksun967 Ай бұрын
this is why I go to where I feel celebrated and welcome, not tolerated
@danielsiminski5878
@danielsiminski5878 2 ай бұрын
I "broke up" with a fairly large group of "friends" 2 years ago. BEST DECISION I ever MADE! The negativity, the using, the lack of empathy, the unawareness of what they were doing wrong, and how hurtful and blind they were to myself and others around me. I have NEVER been happier.😊😊😊
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you✌🏻
@erincoulter8103
@erincoulter8103 Ай бұрын
I can totally relate. I had a group of friends that I grew up with. We hung out almost every weekend for 35 years! That turned toxic, eventually...I left that group 3 years ago. We see each other on different occasions but I no longer go out of my way to spend time or energy on them. I've never felt more liberated. Now I can truly see how much of my life was wasted on people that weren't worth it. Lessons learned.
@charlotteeslava1291
@charlotteeslava1291 Ай бұрын
Gift
@thecriticalnous
@thecriticalnous Ай бұрын
Me too !!! I can’t be with people that betray me
@casperinsight3524
@casperinsight3524 2 ай бұрын
When you respect yourself more than tolerating their crap ❣️
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@casperinsight3524 Thank you!✌🏻
@casperinsight3524
@casperinsight3524 2 ай бұрын
​@@ChadLisonbee 🕊️
@yvonnethomas2505
@yvonnethomas2505 2 ай бұрын
Beautiful and true statement!
@eisvogel8099
@eisvogel8099 2 ай бұрын
"They better hate me for what I am than love me for what I am not."
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Yes! 🙌🏻
@TheQueensWish
@TheQueensWish 2 ай бұрын
I think you meant to say they’d “rather” hate me …
@joyluv4982
@joyluv4982 Ай бұрын
Wowwwww, that part: WE DON'T OWE NO ONE OUR CONSENT TIME, AND AVAILABILITY ❤❤❤
@horizonmediamanagement5225
@horizonmediamanagement5225 26 күн бұрын
Same.
@YarnKilla54
@YarnKilla54 2 ай бұрын
My southern grandmother would put it in these terms, “ when your belly gets full you’ll leave the table.”
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
I love that!✌🏻
@bizstrategistsandy
@bizstrategistsandy 2 ай бұрын
Love it❤
@starseed1014
@starseed1014 2 ай бұрын
My last relationship taught me to always put myself first. Sorry, not sorry
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
We can’t control another persons actions!
@glenhicks8483
@glenhicks8483 2 ай бұрын
In my marriage, I put myself last for 7 years and became fat, weak, unhealthy, broke, and depressed. Never again. It has been four years since my divorce, and self-improvement and self-care are my top 2 priorities.
@0ijm3409fiwrekj
@0ijm3409fiwrekj 2 ай бұрын
I'm not even giving people a sorry loool
@ob4485
@ob4485 Ай бұрын
Kicked sorry out of my fucking vocabulary
@staciehulm4595
@staciehulm4595 2 ай бұрын
Social media sites prolong relationships which were never meant to last forever and make otherwise good friendships superficial.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
I don’t disagree. Thank you!✌🏻
@lc7169
@lc7169 2 ай бұрын
Very True! 🎯
@vanessak7069
@vanessak7069 2 ай бұрын
Truth be told
@MsValeriaHeart
@MsValeriaHeart 2 ай бұрын
You’re right on target. I got rid of all my accounts.
@libraryfairie
@libraryfairie Ай бұрын
Yes!
@TheThaiLife
@TheThaiLife 14 күн бұрын
That example of your friend calling to apologize and admitting his wrong is literally one and 1 billion but I’m glad you had that experience. But the point still stands, great video.
@Jets228
@Jets228 2 ай бұрын
Nobody respected my boundaries or growth. I used to be a little surprised (or maybe angered) that some of those people didn't congratulate or at least acknowledge my (fairly obvious) growth, but rather seemed to resent it! And now it's just me and my peace.
@ciaran82359
@ciaran82359 2 ай бұрын
same here...
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Finding peace within yourself is really all that matters!!✌🏻
@tamzilla
@tamzilla 2 ай бұрын
Same here. I found out that people want you to do good, but never better than them. Even your family and best friends.
@johncorson6599
@johncorson6599 2 ай бұрын
Yep .. same
@Jets228
@Jets228 2 ай бұрын
​@@tamzillaexactly that. Once they perceive or believe that you're "doing better" than them (even if you aren't overall, but maybe considerably in one aspect), then they start the snarky and sarcastic comments. It's very strange. First, we push back and try to explain. They continue. We maybe try one more time to explain. They continue. We silently listen and accept it. They continue. We don't respond. They continue. Now we're gone, without a word.
@MissMotshabi
@MissMotshabi 2 ай бұрын
Yes holding on to people who don't honour us destroys us.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏻
@tulipsontheorgan
@tulipsontheorgan 2 ай бұрын
🌟🌟🌟🌟
@nobertstanel9428
@nobertstanel9428 2 ай бұрын
,, Just because you're thirsty, doesn't mean that you have to drink poison ''
@gloriadenning3860
@gloriadenning3860 Ай бұрын
That makes a lot of sense 😢
@thegroovypatriot
@thegroovypatriot 2 ай бұрын
Having healthy boundaries is the most important lesson I've ever learned.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
It’s necessary. ✌🏻
@MissyQ12345
@MissyQ12345 2 ай бұрын
@@ChadLisonbee I don’t think I know how, or they never let me. They get angry and act like I’m not doing my job - “just have her do it.”
@blackburned
@blackburned 2 ай бұрын
​@MissyQ12345 if you can, just don't do the thing
@MissyQ12345
@MissyQ12345 2 ай бұрын
@@blackburned Thanks. I always seem to do it wrong, but I am trying.
@dsjn712
@dsjn712 21 күн бұрын
People will notice the change in your attitude towards them But will not notice their behaviour that made you change... A quote I have seen that is so absolutely 💯 true.
@SchecterMongoose
@SchecterMongoose 2 ай бұрын
My wife has decided to move out. At first I was angry. Then I was sad. Then I decided, for myself, it was for the best. I have a reason to quit drugs, get healthy, and focus more at work; and I need to do those things alone. No more arguments. No more stress.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
You’re worth it dude!!!
@chrish-4142
@chrish-4142 Ай бұрын
Better to live apart as friends...then live together as enemies
@konstantine_c
@konstantine_c 2 ай бұрын
Good advice. More people need to become unafraid to detach from toxic relationships.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching ✌🏻
@cherylrush2443
@cherylrush2443 Ай бұрын
So true
@snuggleb100
@snuggleb100 2 ай бұрын
Gift! Last year my brother died. I had taken care of him all by myself for four years. I had to do the funeral all by myself. But my other brother, he’s very toxic and narcissistic. Dictated who was allowed to come to the funeral and who wasn’t. But I chose not to follow his bullying tactics.. he screamed and yelled at me and I hung up on him, and I have not spoken to him since. My toxic brother has always been a bully, and he uses his voice to abuse. I’m choosing not to ever step back into that relationship unless he changes. My life has been much more peaceful without him. Thanks for this encouragement.
@gayledaniels4556
@gayledaniels4556 2 ай бұрын
I had the same problem; my older brother that I no longer speak to him as well. My parents now deceased allowed him to bully me since I was a toddler to my adult years. I cut him off in 1998 after 33 years of bullying by him after I went counseling about him. Like I said, He was a bully towards me; a narcissistic and manipulative person; aggressive and a physical bully with his loud condescending voice to sap my energy, putting me down front of everyone, never letting me have my voice heard, etc -I won’t tolerate it from him again. I am glad I did cut him off years ago and he was so angry and hated me during my mother’s funeral years later. I know he will never change. I tried to work it out with him through my counselor’s advice at that time years ago. Now I have my peace and am happier without him; He’s dead to me. I hope your peace without him is better for you. We both don’t deserve it period! I wish you all the peace and I am sorry for your brother. May he rest in peace. ❤
@tanyawellington1604
@tanyawellington1604 2 ай бұрын
What if u come from a toxic narcissistic family & how am I the only one who's not, matter a fact I'm an empath. Now that I'm an adult I stay away from most, because all I seem 2 attracted is narcissistic people especially men. Soooo,so grateful I'm not a lonely person cuz it'll b all bad. Just kinda sucks cuz I been hurt so much, I rather no new friends or meet new people if they end up as narcissist. How is it possible not to attract them?
@lc7169
@lc7169 2 ай бұрын
@@tanyawellington1604 You have to do inner child work. You keep attracting these people because you’re subconscious mind attracts them into your life. When you were a child you were taking in loads of information and the adults around you is what imprinted on your subconscious. You took this into your adult life and now can only seem to attract toxic and narcissistic people. The only way to stop it is to change those imprints. It’s not easy because they were so ingrained from our formative years - but it is possible. I work with a Neuropsychologist who helps me do this and it’s been incredible how all my relationships and people in general that appear in my life have changed from being toxic to being supportive and healthy. I also feel better about myself too. It’s pretty amazing. But anyways I’ll just bet that’s what going on with your life too.
@Mrs.Kathleen.Ritchie7771
@Mrs.Kathleen.Ritchie7771 2 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry for your loss ❤ hugs 🫂 to you .
@snuggleb100
@snuggleb100 2 ай бұрын
@@gayledaniels4556 it sounds like you and I went through the same thing. I am happy for you that you found your peace. It’s a shame that they ruined lives and then have the audacity to blame us. But we are their loss. And I’m happier without them and it sounds like you’re too. God bless.
@MrSheltonTV
@MrSheltonTV 12 күн бұрын
Gift - This sums up a lot ATM. Thanks, Chad 🙏👍
@erikaellis8513
@erikaellis8513 2 ай бұрын
I finally let go of my toxic family relationships at 57 and my life has never been better - I’m polite and kind but they don’t get to use me as a sponge to absorb their inferior feelings anymore Life changing
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
It can be extremely freeing. 🙏🏻
@barbarat5729
@barbarat5729 2 ай бұрын
I did this at 58 as well. It was profoundly freeing. May you find wonderful friends (should you choose) and have continued peace. This was a great reminder to have stumbled upon this morning. Thank you so much.
@LevelUp1111
@LevelUp1111 2 ай бұрын
I did this too! Best decision ever. Too bad it was family, but it was necessary for my mental health.
@grahamhgt6468
@grahamhgt6468 2 ай бұрын
100% WITH YOU ❤
@ob4485
@ob4485 Ай бұрын
What family members are you referring to?
@suzy7773
@suzy7773 2 ай бұрын
I am in the process of removing people from my life who aren’t healthy for me. It is beginning to get lonely but I can fill that space with self care and things I enjoy. My whole entire life I’ve been surrounded by the wrong people. At 47 I am finally doing this.
@adrieneanders0n998
@adrieneanders0n998 2 ай бұрын
Great! Good for you
@SassyO100
@SassyO100 2 ай бұрын
Yas 👏🏽
@Raquel-v2o4e
@Raquel-v2o4e 2 ай бұрын
I feel ya_ I'm 42, my family I haven't seen in a whole year_ they've committed a negative action towards me that made me distance myself from them__ I always feel lonely without friends, it's not like before, having all source of clusterIzed group of known individuals, before of course, versus to zilcho of companionships_ it can get extremely lonely _ since I'm unemployed it doesn't assist me in a well manner either _ but it's important to also
@abrahamlincoln6619
@abrahamlincoln6619 2 ай бұрын
You need to replace then with jesus or you will just find more of the same.
@jdrei5080
@jdrei5080 2 ай бұрын
Stay strong ❤
@kellir.747
@kellir.747 2 ай бұрын
I’m in my 60’s and I have a brother I love dearly. We live several hours away from each other, and I was always the one driving to see him. After he verbally attacked me, seemingly out of nowhere, I understood the level of resentment that had been building up in him. While he never overtly objected to or discouraged my visits, it became clear he was hosting me out of feelings of obligation, and over time, the resentment built up until he just one day exploded. I was shocked and hurt, to say the least, but it was a wake up call. I came to realize I was putting more energy into maintaining our relationship than he was. I decided I needed to “care less” and step back. When he reaches out, I engage with him, but I am no longer the one driving engagement. I think this arrangement is much healthier for both of us.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you! ✌🏻
@ERIN478
@ERIN478 2 ай бұрын
Hurrah! Enjoy the fresh air and newly relaxed muscles!
@shapiro9640
@shapiro9640 2 ай бұрын
You are intelligent. 😊
@kellir.747
@kellir.747 2 ай бұрын
@@fefetegs8994I’m so sorry that happened. I wish you peace.
@Barbara-li5yb
@Barbara-li5yb 2 ай бұрын
I used to touch base with my brother monthly or so on the phone. Twenty years ago I decided to let him be the one who called me. He never has. So now he knows 1/100th of what he used to about my life, and we communicate largely via email.
@bobdavis1168
@bobdavis1168 Ай бұрын
Outstanding presentation !!❤
@blessedhope2019
@blessedhope2019 2 ай бұрын
Walking away = peace and self respect.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏻
@Thesincereservant
@Thesincereservant 2 ай бұрын
Free yourself from the opinions and expectations of others 🥇
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you!✌🏻
@emilywilson7308
@emilywilson7308 2 ай бұрын
This is easier said than done!
@judithwalker5681
@judithwalker5681 2 ай бұрын
The prodigal father never chased the prodigal son. He waited.
@lauracarpenter927
@lauracarpenter927 2 ай бұрын
This right HERE should be the TOP COMMENT!
@michaellemmen
@michaellemmen 2 ай бұрын
What do you mean by this?
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@judithwalker5681 Thank you!✌🏻
@gracerules2423
@gracerules2423 2 ай бұрын
@judithwalker5681. Yes. And something that I noticed recently about that passage is that the prodigal son returned because he was hungry. It never says that he returned because he loved his father and was remorseful for how he treated him. We humans are so broken. Still praying for my prodigals.
@lauracarpenter927
@lauracarpenter927 2 ай бұрын
@@gracerules2423 it’s true his hunger and the realization of how trashed his life had become is what sent him back home but the scripture does say that when the som apologized to the father, he did not make any excuses for his behavior. He completely owned up to it and did not set any expectations of how the father “should” treat him in response to his repentance.
@jamaimusic6867
@jamaimusic6867 23 күн бұрын
I Love this. it is truly proven that we dont live life, we learn it. As a empath, this has been to date my biggest struggle. I am naturally more comfortable helping others feel safe or encouraged or validated over my own comforts and boundaries. I am now aware and working on this because it has cost me a lot up until this point in my life. It is a daily struggle learning to be selfish and learning that it is indeed not a bad thing at all to let people miss out on you. It is the only way I will ever accomplish my goals in life. I am grateful to have found this video..
@LRaine73
@LRaine73 2 ай бұрын
Zero guilt for setting boundaries. I choose who stays and who goes. I’m over games. The best part is I’m totally comfortable walking my own path. Not many people are. I have peace, and that is everything.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Beautifully said! Thank you ✌🏻
@legacy7585
@legacy7585 2 ай бұрын
well said
@shapiro9640
@shapiro9640 2 ай бұрын
I agree 💯
@arlenelovelace18
@arlenelovelace18 2 ай бұрын
Agreed.
@MissMotshabi
@MissMotshabi 2 ай бұрын
The games are harmful
@Stolat79
@Stolat79 2 ай бұрын
Since I hit my 40’s I have been shedding old friends and family. Everyone is allowed their choices and me and mine are allowed to choose to walk away from those who keep choosing chaos. Choose peace.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you!✌🏻
@AndieeGrl
@AndieeGrl 2 ай бұрын
Amen
@emilywilson7308
@emilywilson7308 2 ай бұрын
Amen!
@Francis-px2oc
@Francis-px2oc 2 ай бұрын
Must be the golden Age of Enlightenment. I’m also in my early 40s and letting go of empty relationships and time and energy wasted .
@What_did_u_say
@What_did_u_say Ай бұрын
I have left so many people behind because they just take my time and it’s not what I want anymore. “Gift”
@laurierichardson1208
@laurierichardson1208 15 күн бұрын
I Am A Gift! I Am grateful God is opening, expanding my awareness, my Heart He placed wirhin me... to love more. Thankyou Chad for helping this unfolding along. Learning this LOVE starts within me, so to be able to share it outwards. 😌💜🤲🙏
@NemoandStitchthecats
@NemoandStitchthecats 2 ай бұрын
I got so much power after I isolate myself its getting better and better.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you!✌🏻
@tommychappell6359
@tommychappell6359 2 ай бұрын
Good for you mate.
@brucefrans3955
@brucefrans3955 2 ай бұрын
I am 56 and I have had my 2 true friends for 40 years. We went through the Marines together back in the 80's. We may not speak as much as we used to but we are always there for each other no matter what. True friends
@Amelia-v2p
@Amelia-v2p 2 ай бұрын
You're right
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
I call them shovel ready. ✌🏻
@g.j.schreuder7152
@g.j.schreuder7152 2 ай бұрын
Sounds wonderful. Enjoy it as long as you can
@jessdee3617
@jessdee3617 2 ай бұрын
@@ChadLisonbee yup my friend was not shovel ready.
@justintuttle137
@justintuttle137 2 ай бұрын
Semper Fi
@evoshandor11
@evoshandor11 Ай бұрын
Lord Jesus help us all to be more like you. Your grace is a gift. Love and peace.
@viaja3569
@viaja3569 Ай бұрын
Amen 🙏🏼
@milesfann33
@milesfann33 Ай бұрын
Jesus is the reason I choose to keep going in Life! Jesus Christ has opened so many doors for me because I worship Him! By choosing to follow Christ, I have learned the true value of Life itself and what God wants for us. Jesus is always there, helping us achieve the best. So many turn away from God and are left in darkness. Jesus brings us to Light! May our Lord bless and protect you for eternity! AMEN!
@abrahamhaddish5875
@abrahamhaddish5875 14 күн бұрын
Truly a GIFT! Thank you
@melissamoore5275
@melissamoore5275 2 ай бұрын
We walk away because we're done. And that is the explanation. oxoxooxo
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Yes!🙌🏻
@gracegrace1896
@gracegrace1896 2 ай бұрын
I’m done. Taking steps.
@Apollo_Blaze
@Apollo_Blaze Ай бұрын
I learned a very long time ago how to cut people out of my life when it became obvious I was being drained of my energy, or when they showed they did not live up to my standards of who I associate with. Some types of people do not deserve your time and energy. Not sorry.
@Flashahol
@Flashahol 2 ай бұрын
I understood this when I realized that all my "friends" often needed my help but were never available when I needed help. Went my own way and started doing things for me only. Best decision ever!
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Yup. Thank you ✌🏻
@MuiscbyNEs
@MuiscbyNEs 2 ай бұрын
“When you let those people miss out on you you're standing up for yourself to not allow others bring me down”
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Exactly! Thank you for watching ✌🏻
@jayanthkumar7964
@jayanthkumar7964 2 ай бұрын
It hurts when you realize that they didn't fully see you as the human that you are. Ever. And that you were just degrading yourself for crumbs of attention or their time. Thanks, Chad. I will find strength in my solitude.
@wealthyspaces1131
@wealthyspaces1131 2 ай бұрын
Crumbs 😮
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you! ✌🏻
@JanHickling-v6x
@JanHickling-v6x 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for your message. I left my home town , family and friends 5 yrs ago. I moved 3000 miles away. I'm 62 living on my own with my 2 dogs and 2 cats. I am free to be me! ❤❤
@lc7169
@lc7169 2 ай бұрын
What made you move so far away?
@whowearereally6494
@whowearereally6494 2 ай бұрын
@@JanHickling-v6x same here
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@JanHickling-v6x Thank you!✌🏻
@nowaynottoday
@nowaynottoday 2 ай бұрын
may I join?
@bfrank88
@bfrank88 9 күн бұрын
I left 2016 ...my life is peaceful, financially stable...drama free 😂😂
@cruxy666
@cruxy666 11 күн бұрын
This took me years to understand. I made every excuse to stay until I couldn't find one. I thought it was better to be alone than with them.
@AspirationalLyfe
@AspirationalLyfe 2 ай бұрын
Wow. This one really hit home. I’m a bit of a rolling stone which gathers no moss when it comes to friends and people. The best human experiences are often with those you may never meet again, for you don’t judge them from their history but see them as they are in that moment. If they stick to you, great, if they don’t you have served each other and rolled away. Gift.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Beautifully said brother!!
@KC-lg8qf
@KC-lg8qf 2 ай бұрын
Very well said!
@jas_bataille
@jas_bataille 2 ай бұрын
Beautifully said!
@WhiteWolfBlackStar
@WhiteWolfBlackStar 2 ай бұрын
You meet them where they’re at. It makes all the difference. ✌️
@toliveischrist950
@toliveischrist950 2 ай бұрын
This is why I love being a nurse. It’s an opportunity to meet people and help them right where they are. So satisfying for us all.
@surelyyoujokemeinfailure7531
@surelyyoujokemeinfailure7531 2 ай бұрын
Losing my toxic, abusive, culty parents was the single best thing I ever did for myself.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏻
@KD-nk3ht
@KD-nk3ht 2 ай бұрын
What cult thay jurnt? Them Jehova Winisses? My suster an her huzbun jurnt um to but I tolt her I aint havin no Satan up in my hause.
@joebob9354
@joebob9354 2 ай бұрын
​@@KD-nk3ht typing in down syndrome 😂
@bwnco
@bwnco 2 ай бұрын
Going on Year 3 of almost entirely by myself. Weekend Mass or occasional resturant. But stopped Drinking an no one respects that. No one respects your beliefs.. Ones that did died... You make a few more friends but more just hellos. As you get older no college, work, retired the people you meet are very little.. So um ya... respect yourself an although Im a bit lonely now an then, I can say I am extremly happy, fullfilled, an learned a ton about myself.. Its actually very comforting, but most of all Peaceful! so Peaceful.. No booze now 677 days, an many other changes they dont understand.. Yoga, Mass, Meditation... understand im a total blue collar, oil field, Cowboy, outdoorsy wild ass ( well former) Non of my friends see it or respect it.. 1 has said .. Good Job. thats it.. Embrace alone!
@JustBelieveInChrist
@JustBelieveInChrist 2 ай бұрын
Take time and get to know the Lord as well. He wants you to know Him.
@timsilva1944
@timsilva1944 2 ай бұрын
Congratulations. You're doing what's best for you, despite the influence of others. Carry on.
@bwnco
@bwnco 2 ай бұрын
@@JustBelieveInChrist He is the Top of my list. Thank you.
@Smarterthanyou-mthrfkr
@Smarterthanyou-mthrfkr 2 ай бұрын
Booze is for mainstream normies. I quit a year ago
@marypoppins9380
@marypoppins9380 2 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@yameshiaholden6561
@yameshiaholden6561 15 күн бұрын
I really needed this video today. I may have to walk away from 5years of what I thought was meaningful. Thanks for the gift
@wmh1626
@wmh1626 2 ай бұрын
Perfection 💖💖💖! I've had to let my entire family and friend circles go. I've also checked out of my marriage but my husband hasn't even noticed 😅! I live a quiet life with my dogs, horses and wildlife including crows and ravens. I have hobbies and meet all kinds of similar-minded 2:47 people through book clubs, music lessons, etc. I'm so much happier than I've ever been at age fifty-seven 💖💖
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
You got this!
@cherylreiter2107
@cherylreiter2107 2 ай бұрын
Me too!
@shapiro9640
@shapiro9640 2 ай бұрын
You sound like me, I live with all my beautiful dogs and horses and I see people when I go grocery shopping! 😅
@tishachristopher2854
@tishachristopher2854 14 күн бұрын
Same here. I'm happier than I've ever been.
@normnastoski7010
@normnastoski7010 Ай бұрын
After 20 or so years of trying to connect with my Dad I finally give up… he constantly ignored me or told me what I was doing wrong. It’s time to focus on my own family now. I’m a 49 year old man I don’t need to be told what to do like a child. I let go of this dis functional relationship that has bought me nothing but pain. All the best Dad no hard feelings. I treat this like a gift from God that makes me a better father 🙏
@thomasqqcouperji4491
@thomasqqcouperji4491 Ай бұрын
We know who’s toxic give them nothing
@floridalife6347
@floridalife6347 Ай бұрын
I was always popular and had a bunch of “friends” growing up. I then became a popular musician in Hollywood. Here I am now at 51. I don’t talk to anyone from my past, I spend most of my time with my dog…. I realize all those so called friends were just passer bys who wouldn’t be there if I needed them. I have peace of mind now and I choose this life. I’m close to God and feel complete.
@vickigonzalez1714
@vickigonzalez1714 Ай бұрын
In 2019 I realized i was codependent. I started working on myself because it was literally chipping away at me day by day. I went to CoDA. I created boundaries. I started sticking up for myself and not giving two effs about anyone elses feelings concerning my life. Once I created boundaries, i lost EVERYONE in my life. That is how toxic things were for me. I was the scapegoat of my immediate family up into late 40's. I am now extremely authentic. If you dont like it, move along because I LOVE MY PEACE!! ❤ The painful part now is healing and forgiving.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee Ай бұрын
Keep it up! Thank you for watching🙏🏻
@chillbro2275
@chillbro2275 Ай бұрын
Dang that’s tough living for so many years. I like to hear that you made that kind of change. Congratulations!
@poohaminor
@poohaminor Ай бұрын
💛💛💛
@FGF-om6nm
@FGF-om6nm 2 ай бұрын
Most people don't care about most people. I can say the same about most family members, too. I am a 45 year old divorced man with a son & daughter. 99% of my free time(outside of work) is dedicated to us & I wouldn't have it any other way.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
I actually did a video on that. I totally agree. 👍🏻
@bornwin-sx9oz
@bornwin-sx9oz 2 ай бұрын
Until they grow up get married and move away. Hopefully that won’t be the case with you.
@lc7169
@lc7169 2 ай бұрын
@@bornwin-sx9oz yep. Speak from experience 💯!!
@privateprivate8366
@privateprivate8366 2 ай бұрын
GIFT! Yes, I left my narcissistically-abusive family, set boundaries for neighbors, told a narcissistic friend to “bounce”. I am alone. But I have me. I know there will be some regrets. But, being abused won’t be one and reactive abuse won’t be one either.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏻
@lukasmakarios4998
@lukasmakarios4998 2 ай бұрын
Reactive abuse. Yeah. It sets me off on a tirade when she pushes my buttons. I feel bad after, but it's self-defense.
@privateprivate8366
@privateprivate8366 2 ай бұрын
@ well, keep in mind, we’re responsible for our own actions, legally, no matter what buttons someone else presses. It important to stand back and look at the dynamic, in slo mo. Also important to understand whether you’re dealing with a narcissist, who very readily, doesn’t seem to care if they get positive or negative supply, with negative supply meaning that they may not care if you beat the living crap out of them. That was what I felt like I was dealing with, in my mother. That she didn’t quite care, if I shoved her down a flight of stairs, as long as my life was ruined, in the process. This is just one of the many reasons why I left. I didn’t want to become frustrated, triggered, manipulated and end up paying for what she might’ve actually deserved, on some level. I gave her no more to work with. As she did not want any professional help and as my sister was blocking it anyway, there was nothing left to do, but exit. Perfect, as no one, not even the authorities, could ask me anything.
@joannhigginbotham3391
@joannhigginbotham3391 20 күн бұрын
We are all a gift. Iron sharpens iron.🕊️❤️🙏🏼
@actionisincorporated5361
@actionisincorporated5361 2 ай бұрын
Discernment is a Virtue
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏻
@emilywilson7308
@emilywilson7308 2 ай бұрын
Very few people have this ability to discern.😢
@maxthomas8126
@maxthomas8126 2 ай бұрын
I had a falling out with a very close friend of 8 years over a simple misunderstanding. It wreaked havoc on me that something so stupid ruined a friendship I thought to be bulletproof. And then I heard the quote "stop losing your mind over people that don't mind losing you." They are now, unfortunately, part of my past. Thanks for the vid
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏻
@hanginlaundry360
@hanginlaundry360 Ай бұрын
Same here. She initiated the falling out over a silly error I made, forgetting I was by her side in the hospital, helped her grandkids, etc .... I was devastated. I sent an "I am sorry" and think I am going to move on. . Love that quote, thanks.
@om.balance
@om.balance 2 ай бұрын
Boundaries are so important. It lets others know that you should be treated as a gift not the wrapping. Thanks for this reminder brother
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
You are so welcome
@owlpowell136
@owlpowell136 2 ай бұрын
Great analogy!
@robg2657
@robg2657 5 күн бұрын
It’s no accident that I came across this today. Literally just went through this with a “friend”. 2024 was a drag for me. I went through a depression and identity crisis after losing my job. I thought I would have his support but more and more we talked less and less. I reached out around the holidays but to no avail. It’s his loss. I will move forward and make a better life for myself.
@MatMcCrudden
@MatMcCrudden 2 ай бұрын
I walked away from a lot of friends and family after a bad case of encephalitis. It did teach me that people who matter will fight to keep you in their life.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you! ✌🏻
@NadinePanici-zh4tp
@NadinePanici-zh4tp 2 ай бұрын
I am a 72 year old woman, married and childless by choice. I do rescue dogs and that is where my joy is. With the exception of my husband and dogs I am alone. I am the only living member of my birth family on both my mother's and father's side. When mom died in 2018 I chose this. You could say I have my husband's family but the good died and the bad still remained. I have been villified in his family because of this. With more days behind me than in front of me I chose peace instead of toxicity. My husband remains connected they are his family afterall. The first few major holidays were hard. I no longer celebrate xmas, Thanksgiving or any other holiday. Just an average day on the calendar. Thru my algorithms I came across your channel and am so grateful I did. I have listened to all of them but THIS ONE felt like you were reading my mind. Thank You for making it make sense for me.❤
@caseybaird310
@caseybaird310 2 ай бұрын
You're not alone sugar! The good ones always go it's true. My dad just passed and I also have no family. From one soul to another, stay awesome sugar! Your life is exactly that! ❤
@jazzyjeff019
@jazzyjeff019 2 ай бұрын
You are going to have many regrets on your deathbed 💯💯
@caseybaird310
@caseybaird310 2 ай бұрын
@@jazzyjeff019 nope. I wouldn't want to cause that pain for someone else.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@NadinePanici-zh4tp Thank you!✌🏻
@TiffanyG8675309
@TiffanyG8675309 Ай бұрын
I'm 43 and I'm also childfree. People always say well who is gonna take care of you when you're old? Someone else's kid that went to school for it, I guess! Having children is not a retirement plan. My dad died last year and where is my stepmom? With me. She has a whole biological daughter, but she's with me.
@BAsed_AFro
@BAsed_AFro 2 ай бұрын
“If you love someone, set them free. If they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were” - Richard Bach
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
I love that! Thank you!✌🏻
@jenbodhi1133
@jenbodhi1133 2 ай бұрын
Toxic people will keep coming back
@loisaustin6200
@loisaustin6200 2 ай бұрын
I remember this quote from a movie. Not sure, but think it may have been the Robert Redford/Demi Moore one "Indecent Proposal". That quote made an impression on me and I have always remembered it.
@ianstuart5660
@ianstuart5660 2 ай бұрын
Excellent expression, but it's not foolproof or absolute!
@pipers-lildogadventures5360
@pipers-lildogadventures5360 2 ай бұрын
​@jenbodhi1133 exactly, never accept a #hoover or you re-enter the npd cycle of abuse. #nocontact for life.❤🎉😊
@alyssamaze5812
@alyssamaze5812 22 күн бұрын
There's a sense of relief and freedom within- it really is reclaiming yourself.
@jpii8468
@jpii8468 2 ай бұрын
I'm an extroverted introvert. I prefer my solitude, but I also do extremely well in social settings. Unfortunately, I find most people a net drain over time. I'm the one people tend to come to with their problems because I'm a good listener and I've been through more than most (mom shot and killed dad, foster care, drug abuse etc). What I've overcome has given me much perspective, but I don't find exchanges equitable. I have 100s of acquaintances but a very small circle of true friends.
@Miss_an100
@Miss_an100 2 ай бұрын
I feel you. I truly believe the outside can be trained - we can mimic our environment if we're in it long enough. My parents were both respectable people who taught me how to be polite and interact with others as it was forced through our large eastern european religious community and a rather large family on both sides. But I always felt safest when I retreated. I am now 39 and I realize introversion just means we have learned we do not want or need to depend on people pleasing for our validation and worth and can feel very unsafe doing so. Extroversion may be needed for 'survival' in certain scenarios but it's not going to cut it for for depth and connection, especially as it takes time away from slowing down and spending more time connecting with ourselves. At this point in my life I've left all my family of origin to deal with their lifestyles, dramas and expectations, I'm here for me and my kids in the healthiest way I can be. Husband checked out and is on the brink of divorce. I'm standing up for myself once again.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@jpii8468 same here! Thank you!✌🏻
@traceylennon1204
@traceylennon1204 2 ай бұрын
@jpii8468 You sound like me!!
@janehusted9570
@janehusted9570 2 ай бұрын
Ÿou are a GIFT!!!!! My son married a very toxic girl & it tore our family apart. I miss my 3 grandsons. This video was a band-aid for my heart. ❤❤❤❤❤
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
I’m glad it was helpful. Thank you!✌🏻
@MissShellBayleaf44
@MissShellBayleaf44 2 ай бұрын
🎉I am building a❤ fortress with a beautiful gate. Only a few keys have been forged thus far. Thank you for the affirmations.
@AndieeGrl
@AndieeGrl 2 ай бұрын
Nicely said. Best to that future you are building. 😊​@@MissShellBayleaf44
@lc7169
@lc7169 2 ай бұрын
My son did too. It’s been hell trying to see my granddaughter.
@janehusted9570
@janehusted9570 2 ай бұрын
@lc7169 My son eventually divorced her. He struggled with drugs & gained 100 lbs. 3 yrs ago, he was found dead. His heart gave out. His daughter called me after ghosting me for a year. She wanted to know if my Condo was paid for........not cool. We no longer talk. Life is Hard. Get Strong.
@dianetyra1792
@dianetyra1792 2 ай бұрын
This made me cry. So spot on. Over the past ten years or so I've had to separate myself from many people. Our values didn't align. Some were family. I wish they would wake up and come back like your friend did, but I will NEVER sacrifice our freedom, democracy, humanity, or anything else just to hang on to a person. This applies to way more than politics.
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
@@dianetyra1792 it absolutely does!! Thank you!✌🏻
@tommychappell6359
@tommychappell6359 2 ай бұрын
Some people will never understand you. And use that as excuse to mistreat you. we focus on values, but rarely focus on the person sitting in front. That's the issue with humans. by the time they care. It's too late.
@magdhamorgart6963
@magdhamorgart6963 22 күн бұрын
I had to move 7 hours away from where I was born so that I could grow. It is a good thing :D I learned who my "real" people are, some truly surprised me. It's a good thing
@kiwimcdaniels8562
@kiwimcdaniels8562 2 ай бұрын
I feel strongly that my broken realtionships in this life was Gods way of showing me that what I needed most in this life was not material things or people, but HIM. ❤ Jesus saved me feom feeling alone, and empty, angry and resentful. ❤
@ChadLisonbee
@ChadLisonbee 2 ай бұрын
Thank you ✌🏻
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