HOW BEING TRANS HAS MADE ME A BETTER PERSON: AMAB & TransAndrogynous

[@znswanderer]

It's great that you are so open about past behavior that you are not proud of. This alone shows that the transition is a development that also affects the soul. I too believe that I have grown over the last few years and now approach many things very differently and better than I did before, although I still have a good way to go. Transition can save one not only in a physical way!

[@brynavery]

I definitely believe that transition can save/help so many areas of someone’s life for sure! So many times we get wrapped up in the physical transformation we can forget about the emotional ones. It took me a while to be able to forgive myself for the way I treated people in my past. It’s definitely embarrassing and I’m not proud of the way I used to be, but I found it important to talk about because it’s part of my story, just as much as the good stuff. The fact that I used to be not that great of a person has helped me to be more understanding and forgiving of others who act the same, because I understand on a personal level where that kind of behavior stems from. My past has led me to my present, so I want to embrace it along with who I am now 💛

[@hazelsvlogs96]

I feel like being trans has made me a better person too. it made me understand that everyone is different and that it is ok to do what you have to do to make yourself happy even if it is seen as unusual.

[@brynavery]

That’s wonderful to hear. It’s perfectly ok to be different 💛

[@riverchampeimont]

Thank you for sharing this experience! (and for all the other amazing stories you share)💛🤍💜🖤

[@brynavery]

Of course. Thank you so much for your support 💛

[@brynavery]

Wanted to give you an extra big thank the tips attached to two of your comments. It seriously means so much 💛

[@riverchampeimont]

That's totally deserved, your videos helped so many people!

[@brynavery]

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[@mattdobbs-dr2rt]

What happened to the dong after they cut it off?

[@brynavery]

I sold it on eBay to the highest bidder

[@DrJaneLuciferian]

After watching a few of your videos you seem to have strong relational, intellectual, and natural grasp of being a human being. I would love to see more videos where you share your thoughts on the human condition from your very interesting perspective.

[@brynavery]

Omg thank you so much!! Honestly I plan on filming more frequently so hopefully you’ll enjoy the videos I post! 💛

[@tls7642]

I like your lip piercing! I've always wanted that type of piercing

[@brynavery]

Thank you!! I originally got it done straight through (so you’d only see the bottom part, not the top) but he did it crooked lol so I took it out and then got a side lip piercing but then decided I wanted the vertical labret instead of the regular. I don’t know many people with the same piercing so it makes me feel unique lol 😊

[@mrstudios010]

When you talked about friends, I felt attacked. My old friends were just like that. Now it's grown into deep meaningful friendships and wouldn't give it up for the world. Transition changes us in so many ways, and I'm a better person from it. Ty for sharing your thoughts and experiences so candidly.

[@brynavery]

I’m glad you were able to develop meaning friendships, that’s so incredibly healing. My friends are my biggest part of my world. Thank you for your support 💛

[@jimjones7912]

Yes I enjoy following your content! You are beautiful and I love your calm, soothing voice. You make so much sense! I'm about to start HRT, love to hear about issues surrounding that! ❤️

[@brynavery]

Thank you for the comment on my voice. I used to think it was so heavy and loud and blunt, I used to be so embarrassed by it. But I’ve gotten several comments from followers about my voice being calm and soothing, which has really helped me be confident with it. I’m planning more videos to hopefully film soon, so maybe I’ll make one about that! Honestly I didn’t have to many issues surrounding HRT (other than discomfort with breast growth). I have a video specifically on that but maybe I should make an updated one!

[@defaultusername9]

Great video! thanks for being so open and sharing your experiences :)

[@brynavery]

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[@davefitzgerald5334]

You are young at 26. You have a lot more life to live Bryn. We often go through many changes over the many decades. I tend to change every decade. It's a regular pattern with me . Maybe the " seven year itch. "

[@brynavery]

Oh I definitely agree. Honestly I’ll look back at myself even just 6 months or a year ago and I feel completely different. Changing/growing is one of my favorite parts about life!

[@eimanm4676]

Wow, that's amazing how you are so transparent about your traumatic childhood and able to speak about it, I experienced the religious trauma and can relate to your story, having no way of feeling your feelings and try to cognize it just to avoid the pain is very complicated and difficult to explain

[@jdthompson01]

Bryn another insightful video. I am glad you have recognized the growth being trans has given you and I understand your need to forgive yourself. I feel that you don’t need to forgive yourself for anything. Trauma and the feeling of not being yourself is reason enough to not be a (nice) person. People have no idea how we feel not having the peace and acceptance of ourselves. It’s all farce or the hiding of ourselves to protect ourselves from people’s rejection or judgement. We can’t escape it even behind closed doors. I have anger too. I hate that about myself. Surgery is Wednesday and although I sat all day at the airport and my flight was rescheduled to in the morning I didn’t get upset. My journey is going to be long and it is only going to get harder but again the beautiful person you are and your work here brings me comfort. Did I freak a little yesterday when my coordinator sent a email saying it had been pushed back to the 18th. Yes I did. It was a typo. Once I got confirmation that I am good for the 11th then I could breathe. It’s just I didn’t want to sit in Philly a extra week and it being pushed back for no reason. So I do have some growth to do myself but you help me. My family help me and even my job. So you and I aren’t perfect but we are better being trans. Thank you again for being so honest.

[@brynavery]

I’m so excited for your surgery tomorrow!! That is absolutely wonderful and I hope everything runs smoothly! 💛 I definitely agree that the impact of being trans can be so traumatic and can definitely end up having negative effects to your relationships and your well being. For a long time I did beat myself up about how I used to be and how I projected my pain onto others without looking at the big picture for myself, but as of recently I’ve really been learning to accept the way that I was, and instead of looking at that version of me with resentment of embarrassment or shame, I look at that version of me with compassion. I did what I thought was best with the resources I have, even if it wasn’t “enough” or where/who I would’ve liked to have been. That is a part of my history and has helped shape who I am today. And having that experience also reminds me why I keep moving forward. I’m really glad transitioning has been able to help you as well. We all have things to work on because no one is ever perfect, but that’s really wonderful to hear that you feel more proud of yourself since transitioning. Good luck with surgery tomorrow, and if you don’t mind me asking, what hospital will you be at? And also what’s your name/what do you go by? I really hope everything goes well for you 💛💛💛

[@jdthompson01]

@@brynavery Oh my gosh. Thank you for remembering. That touches me so. Yes I am laying here thinking about everything that has brought me to this moment. Bryn, like I have told you, your videos have brought me so much comfort and although I may not have the exact experience, it does help me a lot. I am having my surgery in Philly at Delaware County hospital. I go by Johnny at this time. I am definitely looking to being more androgynous after this. I meet with my endocrinologist on July 1 and I am so looking forward to exploring my options. I have not been on hormones for 30 years so my maleness is just something I have learned to live with but tomorrow is going to open options beyond my belief. You are a beautiful person and I feel like the universe lead me to your channel and lead you to share your experiences with others. We all have told you what you mean to us and you have told us what we mean to you but to have you remember my date is mind blowing. Thank you so much. 🌹🌹🌹

[@brynavery]

@@jdthompson01 I hope your surgery went well and that you’re recovering well also! I know exactly how you feel, to feel like you’ll have so many doors opened up because of this. Starting HRT (or figuring out what you want to do in regards to hormones) will be so exciting. To have control of your body is so powerful, and to have a body that feels like home is indescribable. I wish you the best with your recovery and with your journey all in all. 💛

[@jdthompson01]

@@brynavery thank you so much. We did it!!!!

[@brynavery]

@@jdthompson01 yay 💛

[@eimanm4676]

I'm proud of you ❤

[@DarthRayj]

This is really relatable. I've been kind of musing on similar subjects lately, especially just looking at how much I've changed and how much more I like myself these days? It's strange how much of a difference it makes, but really, liking myself has led me to be a way healthier person in so many ways it's kind of unbelievable. I'm better to myself, which lets me be better to the people I care about, it's made it easier to recognize that I don't like engaging with certain types of people and just avoid them, it's made me definitely way more attractive (even beyond physically because that's subjective) in that I'm more comfortable being confident about things, I know myself, I'm able to actually tell what I like and dislike, I'm still working on boundaries at times but I'm getting much better at setting them, etc.

[@brynavery]

That’s absolutely wonderful to hear. It’s amazing what inner peace can do for you. Even just the fact that you like yourself more is so big and so important, and I’m really glad you’ve been able to be more self aware and let your inner self shine. Boundaries can be super hard to make, but it’s so worth it. That’s something I’ve struggled with (and still struggle with) too. I’m glad you’re making progress. Congrats on everything and keep being the wonderful person you are! 💛

[@harmony9341]

Thanks Bryn, I'm really thankful for your videos!

[@brynavery]

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