How Big Tech Addicts: Adult Content, ADHD, & Addiction, with Dr. Kanojia

[@HealthyGamerFamilies]

Thank you for having us and for the opportunity to spread awareness on tech & porn addiction, parenting, and so much more. Hope y'all enjoy the talk too! 💜

[@Kelinda6]

Woah! These two together on a podcast AND I’m early! What a treat!!!! ❤

[@Kelinda6]

*three, sorry Jonathan

[@Anna.Maria.Muller]

Me too, I couldn’t believe my eyes! These 2 are amazing.

[@KHBogWitch]

I have never clicked “watch later” faster in my life-gonna listen to this during my downtime at work today! I’m so excited to see this host/guest combo!

[@jonathancohen4774]

Let us know what you think!

[@nicolewilliams2468]

This guy is amazing. I honestly can’t believe how much knowledge he spits out so quickly, knowing there was so much more y’all didn’t even get to talk with him about. WOW! 😲

[@jonathancohen4774]

There’s so much to cover!

[@zb2363]

I think we need a whole other episode with Dr. K on parenting. Also, I feel your pain on parenting and it’s nice to hear others who are trying to figure it all out. One tip, talking to kids while you are in the car or engaged in doing something (like taking leaves or yard work or cooking) I’ve found is the best way to get them to talk - they no like the face to face sit down staring at each other talking, hope this helps!Great episode, thank you.

[@SavageScientist]

I love how the Docc explained the satisfaction of applications with videogames App designers really do get this

[@tiptapkey]

Dr K helped me realize that because I was raised by very critical parents, I struggle with feeling much of a sense of accomplishment or pride in myself--I have trouble living for myself because I so thoroughly lived for my parents expectations during my entire childhood and into adulthood. Even now that my parents have no power in my life, I still kind of create imaginary authoritarians in my head unconsciously that attempt to tell me what I should do. So for example, any time I think of a fun thing to do, that part of me tells me I should do something responsible instead. But because I don't want to do the responsible thing, many times I will just end up binging TV, or smoking weed, or just anything except the fun thing OR the responsible thing, so it's hard for me to enjoy life. I also downplay my accomplishments. I have two degrees, and I simply cannot truly feel proud of that no matter what I do. Just understanding this helped my mental health because I am slowly working toward what I actually want and not what I think I should do. And more importantly I've begun to stop the destructive behaviors I used as a way to run from those imaginary expectations.

[@MayimBialik]

This is fascinating. Thank you so much for sharing!! 🧠🫶

[@CharlotteMarshall-h6l]

I had to come and tell you this, last night I had my daughters (age 9) parents evening at school, and the teacher said Indie keeps singing about a breakdown and she asked my daughter to sing it to me, it was only the theme tune to your podcast 😂 she's been singing it in lessons and she has taught it to her friends too, I literally peed myself I ended up telling her teacher all about it 😊 We listen to your podcast on the drive to school and back. Lots of love from the UK 🇬🇧

[@jonathancohen4774]

What? That's too funny. Thanks so much for listening.

[@binhnguyenthanh9260]

woah 2 of my favorite ytber doing a collab

[@Anna.Maria.Muller]

What???? I can’t believe Dr. K is here? 🥰 2hr+ 😂 That Aloc’s style. 👌

[@jonathancohen4774]

Powerful ep!

[@wade8130]

The idea of people killing themselves after so much rejection is one of the saddest things I can think of. Could part of what exacerbates it be that there are just so many people now? If there were fewer people in the world, would we care about each other, strangers included, enough not to be so willing to reject one another?

[@elissa3188]

I've been thinking about that a lot lately. I looked at population growth recently and how it has really exploded- and how I have felt that even through my lifetime. It's crazy. I definitely think the sheer number of people in certain areas, the swipe right/left culture, ghosting culture, have made people feel less connected and more alone and definitely contributed to these feelings.

[@dogsfromthecity]

It is night, I am in bed and as much as I wanted to continue watching, I will go to sleep and continue tomorrow. Thank you for your help, Dr. K. Good night, everyone.

[@Cnith]

With regards to "quick fix" vs. a thing like exercise, I personally got a breakthrough with an experiential approach, when I felt like crap both physically and mentally, but when I went on small walks, sometimes through feeling poorly physically, I would feel way better afterwards. It turned out that me feeling poorly, very often, was a side effect of diabetes (2) or at least being in the danger zone of getting it. My brain connecting physical exercise with feeling physically and mentally better was so important, since my self discipline is generally pretty crap. I'm still battling with it though, since the longer I feel fairly alright physically, the more I'm coming up with excuses of skipping a day, more than I usually do. Like my brain is testing what the minimum amount of effort is that I can do to stave off diabetes symptoms. At least I can say that I've been doing this exercise regularly for about 3 years now, doing longer and longer distances, so that's a reluctant pat on the back for this self-critical person.

[@MayimBialik]

A big pat on the back in our books, for sure! 🙌

[@Cnith]

With regards to gaming being a very addictive stimulation: I already experienced that as a kid in the late 80's/early 90's. Whenever me and a new friend started going down the "We're bored. Let's play computer games"-road, that became the go-to solution 90% of the time. It's just such an easy source of entertainment. Perhaps you could even say that it dampens anxiety because it occupies the focus, rather than other activities that would require you to activate your social skills (or in my case, when I started to develop social anxiety in those years, at least perceived, a lack of them).

[@jonathancohen4774]

It totally occupies focus and can block everything else out.

[@garrethopwood8178]

I started my mental health journey a bit over 3 years ago and this channel and Dr. K's have been my favorites. This episode is a gift, thank you ❤! I actually really like that you covered so much ground. One challenge I've encountered is that I've learned so much that it can be hard to maintain all that knowledge. This seems like an episode I'll return to to refresh and motivate me. I also really liked the idea of spirituality/meditation as something that moves you from 0 to 100. That distinction from medicine is not one that I've heard before.

[@MayimBialik]

🙌🙌🙌

[@Dobermanmomma]

Very nice Dr. K. I am an old lady cannot understand anything but joy from watching KZbin, but I see the addiction amongst the youth.

[@louisbonilla6780]

Great conversation - these subjects need exposure - I will run these modalities in a daily basis - awareness is power - Super episode Mayim and Jonathan ❤

[@orland0110]

Thank you so much for this interesting conversation with Dr. Alok Kanojia! I enjoy watching this podcast so much, Mayim! ❤

[@rosalee1624]

I am glad that Dr K said that most people want to get healthier and don't want a pill to solve their problems. Nobody wants to cut their life short.....however work and family life can make sensible interventions difficult.

[@jonathancohen4774]

Juggle the demands of life can be complicated.

[@gustavoarnaldo8534]

Thank you... I need this in brazilian portuguese.. to show to my friends.... Very nice PodCast

[@RavenMaddox1]

I feel called out after watching this podcast. Feeling numbness, not depressed. I have for the past two to three months been undergoing a full psych eval to help me find out exactly what's wrong with me and help direct me to get better. I don't want a pharmacology treatment, I want a healthy resolution.

[@MayimBialik]

Sending you all the best in your recovery journey. The hardest step is getting started, and you've conquered that part! 🧠🫶

[@mysocalledjourneywithdanie5813]

Thank you so much for discussing such important and often thought of as "taboo" topic(s)

[@jonathancohen4774]

We have to better understand how our tools and tech are impacting us.

[@miliesomethingdo4379]

Looooooove this episode so much! I love how he reframes things!

[@HollyLiana]

@26:30 is my life. It is my whole life. I have no friends cause they hurt, I plan on cleaning or going to an event and all of my neuro-divergent needs are so overwhelming I just scroll from waking to sleeping.

[@HannahRainbow88]

Being on our phones is a socially acceptable stim. You don't get stared at like if we start screaming or rocking to self-soothe. As long as our devices are SERVING us (not controlling us) I think it's ok. 🤷‍♀️ (I'm a ND wife&mum, Hubby&kiddo are also ND, so lots of needs and devices to juggle here!)

[@MayimBialik]

🫶🫶

[@Authentistic-ism]

i would LOVE to hear specifically how the kids react to being introduced to Dr. K by their parents! Let us know! I'm a strange middle aged fan of his. He talks their language.

[@DavePuhrrez]

OMG Mayim! again haven't even started watching and I know it's gonna be good! Shout out to Dr. K

[@marisamartinezolivera]

Such interesting topics! I do hope to listen to this video at some point. Serious health problems in my family prevent this to happen for the moment. But if necessary I will take hours off my sleep..Luckily I’m subscribed, so I’ll have this episode always available.

[@MayimBialik]

Sending healing wishes to your family! 🫶

[@marisamartinezolivera]

@@MayimBialik Thank you dear Mayim! 🫶🏽

[@zachengle5959]

Great conversation, i enjoyed the questions asked of Dr K. This is the first episode I've seen of your channel. I'm not going to fault you guys for taking sponsors, everyone should get paid. However the frequency of ads during the conversation was distracting.

[@minimalista12]

i was just listening to Dr. Kanojia on Steven Bartlett podcast, he's such an interesting and cool guest👏👏 Everything he says makes so much sense and leaves you thinking in the really important things in life 😮

[@jonathancohen4774]

Totally agree

[@christieervey]

🤩 😅 I am soooo excited to see my 2 most favorite mental health pods coming together. You guys could’ve gone on for days. Thank you all so much for bringing all this crucial information to the public. My family and friends are in a whirlwind of different mental issues, it’s so overwhelming and listening to you guys has really helped me put the pieces together and understand our different perspectives and challenges. ❤❤❤

[@MayimBialik]

🙌🙌🙌

[@craigmorris5525]

As a former social worker, he speaks a language I've heard before. But social workers aren't paid like doctors, so...

[@nicolaray2816]

I love Jonathan's Canadian corner lol

[@jonathancohen4774]

🍁

[@patriciagallant8133]

Excellent podcast. Very enlightening. I remember my girls playing video games every day together. And they got so heavily involved in sports, more than one, and they haven't touched a video game in years.

[@christinakoch2738]

Great episode, Mayim! ❤

[@kathleenquilausing3165]

Fabulous as usual. I hope to see another episode with Dr. K. Social media has changed our society. I so grateful I’m not attached to my phone anymore. Covid put me in that loop. Meditation is a necessity for me. PTSD is a beast without that tool. Grateful for your podcast and the knowledge

[@matiaspereira9382]

Yesterday I found out you'll reunite with Bernadette (Melissa Rauch) on Night Court. I'm pretty sure it will be nice to see both of you again. You're some of my favorite actresses ever

[@bat-elmarziano4255]

This is the crossover episode I needed.

[@4787fhjjk]

Love love love Dr. K. He is THE BEST.

[@Lenkopenko]

Don't push, create space - that's something to dwell on❤

[@gabrieljackson7375]

I usually really like this show. Past couple have been tough. 1:50:00 is a master class in missing the point…

[@jonathancohen4774]

Think it was for comedic effect lol

[@tomlichnofsky.7048]

Another Fantastic Episode! 👌😊😆👍 Thank You 👋🎃👋 🍊🍁🍊

[@ximenacpm]

Dr K is in da house!

[@arsenalo1115]

The amount of ads is wild

[@ExecutiveZombie]

Kaiser has a well known nickname among the public, “Killer Kaiser.” Fact. That’s what we say about Kaiser including Nurses, Physicians who no longer work there…

[@paper183]

I wonder if "Mental Dysphormia" exist kind of like a distorted image of my mental abilities like people who have body dysmorphia. Because for a while I was bashing myself like, my knowledge is not good enough, my memory is not good enough, my attention is not good enough. But I'm comparing myself to the internet as if it was someone. To the best little parts of people that they allow to show online in their clever comments or piece they write on their best known subjects. But if you speak with one person you can see they have flaws and knowledge gaps and they don't remember everything either. Once I realized that, I was able to slowly realign what I thought of my mental abilities, capacities and problems.

[@Mr59J]

This is awesome

[@lisacraze1]

I'm a huge fan of your podcast and listen on my Apple podcast platform. Couldn't comment there but I wanted to drop you guys a note, because if you only listen and don't watch this one, I think your guest came across as angry and "Shamy". But if you watch it, you get a completely different vibe.

[@meladeenoble]

Wow…this was awesome!

[@zb2363]

Be careful not to peg ADHD as only the hyperactive type. Inattentive type can present quite differently. Thanks! 😊

[@jonathancohen4774]

Absolutely

[@terencecampbell4770]

"its all psychobabble rap to me"-Alan Parsons

[@NguyenVinhHang]

Yay, collab from both channel are very educational 😊 The Couch Potato by Jory John, Pete Oswald (Illustrator)

[@vicricciuti4690]

Fantastic conversation.

[@krazycow413]

Too many ads, and too many interruptions of dr k

[@starduck8014]

Eastern and Western doctrines coming together as use for preventative healing is where it's at

[@jwb52z9]

If you asked me, I would say it's essentially futile to expect or encourage the vast majority of Americans to modify behavior because we want a solution to enable us to keep doing what we want and still be healthy and live basically forever.

[@joywade5085]

To be clear we now know that self-touch/massage, dancing both release oxytocin within the body.

[@___melanie]

Is there an episode that introduces Jonathan?

[@XAirForcedotcom]

I can spend the entire waking time in front of technology and still be OK because I have been trained as government. I’m out here telling the truth to the world about things that most people don’t really think about too much or have just accepted as a normal part of life to include the fact that your government are actually criminals. I wouldn’t be here if there were any normal relationships in the world, but it’s all fallen apart. Unfortunately, I was helping exacerbate this because I’m a technologist who loves all of this up until a point. I knew it was hurting us. Part of it is is that everybody are using things like the Internet to manipulate the public and this is their fault more so than it being the public’s fault because we’re being advertised to, and they purposely put up information to manipulate us. Your government could stop this, but they don’t. It’s done on purpose to generate money. They want you to feel uncomfortable. They want you looking at this all the time and that’s one of the reasons why TV such became so incredibly cheap because they use that as a window into your house to sell you information and junk that you don’t need. You were being manipulated in every way to include religions, which are completely fake, but kill millions of people. You’re being manipulated in every way to include things like the NFL boxing and MMA are absolutely against the law except the rich people wrote around those laws and said well we can do this anytime we want to add in public because our friends work in government and will make this look legitimate, even though it isn’t an absolutely harmed people. No, you’re being lied to in every way. Your entire life is being manipulated and you don’t even know it.

[@worldwidechubbyguy2.018]

Wait is this a reupload? Felt like i have seen this before

[@MayimBialik]

Somehow our first time chatting with Dr. K, if you can believe it! 🤯

[@worldwidechubbyguy2.018]

​@@MayimBialikaha thank you! always love to hear and watch your podcast!

[@randyholloway920]

I didn’t realize for sure that Mayim and Johnathon were a couple until I saw the Helix mattress ad. Am I the on,y clueless one? 🙃

[@aidanjepps7563]

I know this is going to be great.. haven't started watching yet, but yeah 👍

[@omribo69]

חג סוכות שמח❤

[@bluesandmore786]

How about a quick fix because you're older and time is limited?

[@ycl8697]

dr.k is the best

[@lauraricci611]

Struggling means you care.

[@drendelous]

mayim and ari graynor have something in common 🙂‍↔️ 32:30

[@slimsonite2111]

56:36 💯

[@OceanMomma10]

Like if you have Mediaid you can afford health care and get free rides but if you arent poor enough then you just cant afford health care

[@AndiAlexander1]

I can teach sleep. It’s kinda my superpower.

[@AlexxWoodwick]

Saying porn fill the empty with in someone can you say the same for masterbation without any porn or any adult content.

[@verkanntoderverwunschen]

there were some semiunretracable gotchas in this but i'm returning on a singsong of: needle me like family

[@questionmark9819]

Forgive me for the skepticism but if someone has been turned down to medical school 120 times, maybe I should listen to the advice of someone else.

[@drendelous]

1:33:11 excuse me this part 😶

[@infinidimensionalinfinitie5021]

too many assumptions for me; if that's your judgment, that's fine; but claiming certainty is a fools game;

[@Golgibaby]

💪🤜🤛✊👍

[@commander2805]

Request to invite Sadhguru...

[@MayimBialik]

Hi there! We've actually spoken with him, and you can find that here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sGrRfppsqMmhf7sfeature=shared Hope you enjoy! 🧠🫶

[@newpilgrim]

See Buddhism.

[@danieleleda1807]

A ma zing

[@AlienLeadership]

AVP 👽 Some , but / I'm really so done talking /

[@mat41174]

Apophis could take us out tomorrow like the dinosaurs extinction and I couldnt care less. Camus flies in your idealist forthright face. :D

[@ashilling9283]

Best guest ever. I could listen to you both ask questions and discuss with Dr. Alok Kanojia for hours. More, please. Does watching Dr. Kanojia on Breakdown count as screen time for me today? Just one note… I am wondering if some of the suggested activities for individuals who are wanting to fill time with connecting experiences in lieu of their preferred addiction are helpful for extroverted leaning people, but not welcomed by people who feel pleasure being alone, introverted? Dr. Kanojia cited an example of people who drink socially, but finding social connection is not welcomed or enjoyable for people who are more introverted. Maybe hiking, running, surfing, museums, bookstores, classes, art, you know, long list, but ways to feel connected without the pressure of social interaction?

[@ashilling9283]

Oops. More… Connection, I mean, does not have to come from humans, yes? Connection can be with nature or the presence of energy around us and the interaction or connection with that.

[@brittanywilcox7377]

This is completely untrue. I stopped believing in a purpose years ago and I have never felt more free. Life doesn't have a point, and that's beautiful to think about. Nothing matters, and my stress levels and anxiety Plummeted when I accepted that fact.

[@CherylBerryl]

Sorry, but you're sadly delusional! But, if it makes you happy, then so be it.

[@bsr-kc1td]

Finding freedom in accepting that life has no inherent meaning can reduce stress, but meaning is something we create for ourselves. Even without a grand purpose, it's the connections and passions we pursue that give life depth.

[@blackthornep8115]

100% agree and it makes a huge difference knowing that.

[@brittanywilcox7377]

@@blackthornep8115 I love that you get it! Usually I get a lot of pushback. But I'm just like "okay stay stressed AF then" lmao

[@bsr-kc1td]

@@brittanywilcox7377 Once you've realised that life doesn't inherently mean anything, the natural next step is to add depth to it yourself. Having a passion for something is fullfilling. It simply adds more depth to life. That's all it is..

[@mara4787]

I don't agree with the Doctor. I'm 8 hours every day in front of a screen and watch things on my phone all day and my life has purpose. I don't have depression, body dismorphia, etc. Humans keep evolving and will keep adapting to these circumstances.

[@HannahRainbow88]

I think it depends more on HOW/WHY we use tech... It can be a brilliant servant, but a bad master. Eg. I love learning stuff on youtube and watching comedy on here too, but my real life stuff still takes priority. Yes it's escapism, but a small dose can be healthy, while living on/for it is detrimental. I also have online friends around the world, but we all say real life comes first, and understand if someone in the groups needs to put them on the back-burner for a while. We all hang out and jam when we have the free time to dedicate to it, AFTER we get our real life stuff sorted out.

[@HollyLiana]

So you've no neuro issues and have never suffered trauma... Good for you Mara.

[@christieervey]

You are a rarity. These issues are real. I see it everywhere.

[@BuckeBoo]

Not a fan of this guy. He does not do thorough research before firing up live streams and does more harm than good pretending he is an expert when he hasn't kept up with research... or terminology for that matter. Not impressed.

[@rici-1858]

May I ask what makes you think that way? I'm genuinely curious- can you elaborate or do you have a specific example in mind that doesn't sit right with you?

[@kasiaperkowska1471]

What else I love with @healthygamergg and dr.K? There's no ads on his canals😅

[@cwalker6911]

Meh some of his commentary is not well researched. Marijuana being a gateway drug? Lol that’s not been heard since the 80s and what with pornography filling every void yet not acknowledging some are born with the dopamine deficits motivating said impulsive behaviors. Also no real highlighting of inattentiveness presenting in adhd

[@brittanywilcox7377]

Shame is NOT and never has been a motivator to fix your life! It only causes you to spiral. These half truths are driving me insane. What a shitty episode this is turning out to be.

[@elissa3188]

false. You can't say that with any certainty either. Some cultures use shame very regularly and it is a natural part of their way. It HAS been a motivator for some and toxic for others. So it's time to check your own bias here.

[@brittanywilcox7377]

@@elissa3188 oh no you are very, very wrong about this. If I can remember the Ted talk I would share it with you. There is actual research into the toxicity of shame. Just because it's prevalent in a culture doesn't make it okay

[@brittanywilcox7377]

@@elissa3188 Brene Brown! Watch her Ted talk about shame! It's fantastic

[@pschoeman6957]

I 100% agree with what you are saying, but I think it is kinda missing the point of what he is trying to say. You will see later in the episode he talks about detachment and when you feel shame your attached to others' perception of you (so not really detachment in my eyes). So the way I look at what he is trying to say, is that we feel shame for a reason and while it is not necessarily a good thing, the entire point of it is that we are not fully happy with ourselves and it CAN therefore sometimes be a strong motivator to change for the better/imrpove ourselves. I do agree with you that his wording made it sound like it is always a good thing which I don't agree with.

[@beanboi789]

Shame is a natural human emotion. It exists within us regardless of our culture and society and we need at least some of it to function.

[@shaunwatson6354]

Second

[@Xpuujh]

First

[@bluesandmore786]

Dr. K. very smart but a bit preachy.

[@BelArtist]

What makes you see it that way?

[@Akash_158]

that comes with him being an Indian....😅

[@Anna.Maria.Muller]

He’s smart and funny. Check out his show at Healthy Gamer.

[@saram217]

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[@saram217]

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