How Can a Good G d Allow Bad Things to Happen?

[@normajeanmcdaniel4491]

Hello, Rabbi! It's your new(er) fan, "McDanielstein."😊 I appreciate your wisdom. With this topic, everyone WANTS to give you a "why," but like Job's friends, they're probably wrong; to your point, we'll never know. Your message of, "I don't know why, but I'm willing to cry with you"? Powerful. I was told at 17 I'd die by 22 due to a rare disease. People tried to help - of all and no religions. I allowed people to pray for me, lay hands on me, try alternative medicine, and even once got into an Apache Medicine Woman's sweat lodge ceremony (non-Natives usually forbidden). Alongside chemo, steroids, working FT, and putting myself through university. All costs. I hid the disease for years. Once I "came out," I was able to be a Peer Support for others, and my greatest fear of losing my friends or being treated differently was unfounded. I tried to tell 'em "only the good die young." I'm turning 50 next month. 😉 The disease is still w me, but so is the strength, compassion for others, and something I couldn't have foreseen: The "why" never mattered, hasn't bothered me in decades, and left me open for the "what's next?" I'm starting Act III by moving next month. Let's see what's next... 💪- just me in Palm Springs 🌴 🫠

[@manuelasilveira2461]

Helping to heal broken hearts and heavy souls, thank you Rabbi!

[@danasandlin2435]

I have come full circle: when I was 23, I was reading Rabbi Harold Kuschner's When Bad Things Happen to Good People (his wisdom got me through a lot)--and now, here is your wisdom...thank you for reminding me of this very valid topic...as the Book of Job shows us--often, we really do not know why something has occurred--and often, something that we think may be horrible, is actually saving us from something far worse--so, we need to have patience and believe in the goodness and wisdom of a god that can see far ahead of what we can see...thank you, dts/usa

[@mariaashot5648]

Especially about the part about saving someone from something far worse. May I say a few words to those struggling to conceive, or diagnosed as "infertile." Recently I attended a talk for religious, practicing conservative/traditional Christians. The talk was led by esteemed scholars of monastic life, true scholars and ascetics who of course remembered their own growing up & in certain cases still had siblings & even parents; nieces, nephews, godchildren, etc. At the end of the lecture, a timid, extremely modestly dressed woman in her mid-thirties got up. With great embarrassment, she asked if they thought it was acceptable to rely on modern reproductive technology to conceive, if all else was failed. To their credit, the bishops were intelligent enough not to give any straight answer, saying each case is different and she should consult with a spiritual authority she knows well and trusts to discuss her situation. Myself having 3 grown children & 1 grandson (with unique health problems that are unlikely to ever improve), I did not want to say anything distressing or harsh in front of an audience of monastics and about 30 other people, most of whom did not know me from Adam. But I will say something here, that I could not say to this young lady (although of course I have prayed for her): Take a good look at the world around you. It is not easy to experience having one's beloved, intelligent, competent, prayerful child come to you, at any age, 13, 16, 18, 22, 26, 36...etc., to say, with full strength of feeling and not in any casual way: "I wish I had never been born. Why did you have us? I wish I were dead. My life is hell." Yet that is not at all rare, not anymore (if it ever was)... It is not easy at all to see terrible addictions take over the lives of your own flesh and blood, that nothing you ever said, did, tried, shielded them against was able to prevent from seizing them. It is not easy to see an adult child struggle with the depravity of "modern romance," where there are - regardless of what venerable clergy might hope - fewer and fewer healthy, rational, benevolent, unselfish, idealistic, reasonably honorable life partners to choose from (and even fewer if you believe, as my late brother did who died a bachelor and childless, that you only want to have a spouse from your own niche demographic, cultural affiliation and religious traditions, because your only purpose in procreation is to 'pass on what you were given' etc.) Life is certainly not improving, not on the macro- scale, even if more people are finding it easier to make more money and pay more bills or enjoy an upgraded lifestyle. There are certain situations where, if we are truly objective in assessing what we have and what we aspire to obtain or attain, what is most urgently needed is a Change in Attitude, rather than a change in circumstances. I know plenty of women, in the civilized, advanced world, where presumably modern medicine provides pretty great care, who have wound up with lifelong health impairment - that no one seems to know how to fix - just from giving birth. The child is healthy; the mother's health is permanently lost. And I know even worse cases (including my own daughter's), where the damage done to the baby who survived birth, by the medical team, through negligence (and sometimes worse) is profound... Be careful what you ask for. Seek the counseling and help you need to count the blessings that obviously are present, even in a childless life. And, if you truly feel you must have babies "to complete your family," don't turn your nose up at Adoption. Pray about it. Act wisely and prudently - don't "buy" trafficked babies, don't contract unscrupulous people to "provide an adorable baby at any cost" (especially if that baby is ripped away from someone else by force or deception, that also happens: we know there are entire "farms" in Nigeria, as well as other places no doubt, where women are kept locked away for breeding purposes, their babies sold as soon as they are born). In every city and community, there are situations in which it is possible to help rescue a child (as Steve Jobs was rescued, remember?) lawfully, safely, magnanimously and in an act of great holiness. But then you have to be prepared for the reality that life today is not especially sweet for children; there is bullying, hazing, sexual exploitation, sexual violence... Becoming a parent in the 21st century is an act of immense courage and dedication. But it can also be a foolish impulse, driven by vanity or even excessive, misguided piety. Confront your own psychological limitations, and ask God to help you discern: "What is it exactly that I am trying to accomplish by becoming a mother or a father?"

[@888ssss]

having gone through extremes of good and bad i think i can vouch that even in the darkest or most glorious moments, there is always the equal opposite within. it may be broken into smaller curses or blessings, but its completeness is equal. every thing or event has to re-arrange back into balance. nothing can disappear, it can only move.

[@Infinite-DivineLite]

There is a beginning and an end in everything. Growth while on our journey many lessons are learned from all kinds of experiences. All things have a purpose.

[@dorothyhendrix1610]

Oh my GD! If someone would actually hold my hand and cry with me or just cry with me is what I need so badly. Someone who will help me and not want me on my knees. My father died in 2017 on his way to work. I lost everything last March and SOOOOOOO MUCH MORE! It’s probably too much for anyone to hold is why… My husband set himself on fire in front of me and after surviving. 19% skin graft and a month in ICU and he wasn’t out for 3 full weeks and he died. He almost killed me 7 times and I almost died from suicide twice in 6 years. I wonder if I will ever be okay again… I do admit Hashem is holding me as much as HE does anybody and I’m so grateful that HE hears me and sends angels.

[@jacintalashley4354]

What an experience, and lo, you are still on this side. Have you ever gotten your life chart done? Maybe that can help you understand why and what you must do to balance out your path in this reincarnation. In my experiences, I have experienced that aromatherapy, prayers, reorganizing my life, and positive choices helped immensely. Trust me, you made it through all the snares, and many didn't. You are not alone. Be blessed with peace during the evening of your days. 💛

[@expose770]

i have the upmost compassion for you ❤ first off i'd like to say you're very strong to overcome every obstacle you've been through and even though you weren't physically getting your hand held hashem was holding your hand in the background like it's purim 🎉🎉🎉 i'd say don't stop whatever you're doing hashem must be pleased to bring you through such difficult times unharmed your faith is so inspiring thanks for inspiring me today ❤

[@dorothyhendrix1610]

@@expose770 I don’t doubt that for a second… My husband died on Erev Purim, hours before the sunset… 11:30am March 16th 2022 … It was also his father’s birthday, who was in America visiting from Germany. So I had him about a week after his death. And I know Hashem has a plan. I just don’t know what…

[@dorothyhendrix1610]

@@jacintalashley4354 thank you. I’m having trouble with intrusive thoughts and I am living with my mother that doesn’t want me here. I began attempting suicide at 11 because of the way she treats me. Peace at night, amen. Thank you. Does those things offend Hashem ? A life chart ?

[@rachelLadyD]

i'm sorry you are suffering this pain, I feel the same, the same need for someone to hold my hand, but also I don't want fake or deceit or insincerity to hold my hand, I don't want people who judge my process or sadness to hold my hand and suggest things that are not helpful, I want to process and see what happened so I can not repeat the same mistakes, find people who are not well behaved or abusive again, because I only trusted abusive people because I was a stranger to kindness. I feel we are lonely because deep down it is what we want, we are in a place of healing, and not everyone can understand because they did not work in our shoes, and they project 'cliches' that are not relevant to our situation. We are lonely but we are not alone, Hashem sees you, He knows you, He understands you, and He loves you. He never turns His back on those who love Him. I hope you find a way to feel healed enough so you can achieve your healing, and that your deepest aspirations come true. That you remember the hopes and dreams you had when you were little girl, before all the harsh things happened and find comfort and joy in your life.

[@srceleste53]

I enjoy Rabbi Jacobson immensely. I often start my day with his helpful words.

[@shannon2003]

This is so important to understand. Thank you❤.

[@LuisRoblesPlaza]

Thank you, Rabbi, for sharing your wisdom with us.

[@rachelLadyD]

Thank you Hashem for sending the light to us through the kind and thoughtful presence of Rabbi Simon Jacobson. I understand that you are the best example of a parent, who gave us free will, you took away paradise so we could grow. Thank you for the good , bad and ugly in my life, and for being there step by step in unison with us, even if we forgot and did not notice you.

[@jjtrades7186]

Ive always felt I was too dumb to be helpful in any meaningful way, so that it was best that I just stay out of the way of smart ppl. As a child, all I knew how to do was make ppl laugh by being goofy, and that had its benefits until I became an adult and real problems started to arise, both life in general and political, and my ability to make ppl laugh diminished. Today I just keep to myself which in a way feels like its own punishment but I really do feel like staying out of the way is the more helpful solution at this point. *shrug* Wish I could be more helpful but I dont want to lie to myself. A doctor once told me "man must be aware of his own limitations". Im grateful for ppl like you Rabbi who do the work that I cant do

[@expose770]

wow truly inspiring im going through difficult times right now and scrolling through these comments makes me feel so involved with my community... why don't we share deep moments like this anymore? first off thanks for helping ME today a SAHM who is currently homeless with 4 kids in a hotel room with my husband ... im grateful to have my very hard working husband and truly the same way you inspired me today was to keep people laughing no matter what even if I'm going through a lot of pain just to see someone experiencing joy is enough and btw youre not dumb it's actually genius to put your emotions last to make pll laugh

[@nicolecarnevale3226]

Thank you for your words making sense of suffering, empathy and transformation.

[@magicalhealerclairvoyant521]

There is never a silence when talking to God, there is a knowing when nothing else needs to be said, in my humble experience. Thank you for a word of wisdom, it’s embraced. Unconditional love with boundaries... ✨💖✨

[@rachael-777]

B"H So profound, thank you Rabbi! I get it.

[@Chadh9322]

sometimes i wanna comment ..but then i realize i shouldn't.. i just need to listen

[@mckayla5435]

I feel this! 😂 😊

[@X11bl]

In the house of God there is many rooms, the room we have to evolve isn’t a happy room, there is a purpose to it. Much love to you Rabi. ❤❤❤

[@eliphaslevizahed5820]

Thank you Rabbi. Your teachings are so helpfull and wise. 🌺

[@FeralCoot]

Beautiful! Thank you

[@playpaltalk]

Satan do bad things to good people hoping that the good people blame God for it.

[@bullishx.r.p.blacc23merriw53]

Thank you RABBI

[@UnrelatedAntonym]

The heat and the pressure, it is painful and dreadful. But heat and pressure turns carbon into diamond. I'm still struggling to keep positive. I appreciate this video, rabbi. I'm not jewish, but christian. Been watching your channel for a while, I appreciate your wisdom and insights. Shalom.

[@garyfrancis6193]

Or plastic

[@SimonJanoSessions]

This topic has been going around in my head for quite a while, and after so much thinking and reading, I realized the same as you said: "there is a deep mystery behind one's suffering"; there is no argument that can't have a counterargument in this respect. Yes, we can rationalize it as a way for learning, a way for growing, but when you are going through the pain, there is little to rationalize about. There is no room for that nor an explanation. So the only way is to have faith in the Divine and ask for strength to go through it. Going through it can shed a light at the end of the tunnel, at the end of suffering. Then, only "a posteriori" is when one's can assess and understand the value of the experience.

[@mariaashot5648]

Excellent video!

[@daliasmith9557]

Bless your heart for helping so many of us tank your very much 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@DebbieRichhill-kj5op]

Sometimes there is only so much someone can take

[@rachael-777]

G-D knows how much one can handle.....don't underestimate yourself, moreover, our Creator. Take care!

[@007MegaRoll]

​Genesis 6:6 The LORD regretted that he had made human beings on the earth, and his heart was deeply troubled. How could that be if God is all knowing

[@StarLight-sl9ok]

Because a book that was written by men over 2000 yrs ago isn’t really going to make a whole lot of sense.

[@tonymallet2776]

Merci🤝human have a chance to knowledge with you on our lives. This is how goods internet and those new technology can be helpful

[@johnmann8659]

Why do humans commit acts of evil against their fellow humans is a better question. God is great! ✝️🇮🇱🕎❤️🙏🏻

[@alanyesilipek7959]

I don't know rabbi. If you think properly there is love to live for. Love for people friends and fammly but everything you love dies horrible deaths. Everything eats everything and the eaten screams a horrid painful death. A world built on death and greed, If you think about it hell couldn't have been designed better. Feel like LUCIFER or a Black Wolf that only has one purpose that is to be a better person to get out of this hell. You are a very good man. Giving good lessons to anyone that wants to listen.

[@rewschreijewschreier]

I think you have been an unbelievable amazing source of knowledge sir. I went to the University of Iowa for Philosophy. I dreamed of becoming someone like you. God has other plans for me and that's ok. I am blessed to be a fantastic emotional and financial support for a wonderful woman who had very traumatic things happen to her in her life. If God had not put me on path to be with her? Not just her, but I also! Was in deep need of rescue emotionally. And we got the chance to Save Eachoter. Sometimes I just get nervous about.. Well is she going to want me into Eternity on New Earth!?!? Well. If trauma bonding is a thing. Then technically maybe this was the perfect life for us to be bonded to eachother Forever

[@robertbokke]

The same question I ask Hashem every night.....

[@garyfrancis6193]

Good kvestion.

[@dannycassinellibarac9993]

just take away the good and bad, then everything is.

[@rosvaz6795]

I asked this questions many times.Some loss brings alot angry.Many topics descussed vary.I have Jews friends,and friends of different Nationaties.

[@baronarcanus9111]

Wanted to clarify: Due to a KZbin glitch, I posted some comments here intended for another video/channel where I was arguing with an anti-semite. Sorry for any confusion caused by that.

[@drivewithbishop4426]

I ask this constantly. The barbaric events in Mexico, all around the world.

[@lawrencetendler7747]

Job, 5 : 01 Job was seeking the truth... he was a Job seeker .

[@danasandlin2435]

sound is not strong on this video--you may need a new mic (it isn't my hearing nor my computer)...dts/usa

[@israelorun]

Bless you Rabbi.

[@aaronjennings8385]

Explaining prophecy, fate is inevitable. Super-determinatism is unavoidable. Why blame God for your fate? Thank him for your eternal life.

[@MuhammadYousaf-qq3xb]

Rabbi... I do not see how a mother that has lost a newborn may grow through that experience. Or how a person who has become paralysed by some sickness may become better through that. Sorrow and pain, by their very nature, tend to break us down and make us vulnerable. Disease impedes us biologically and psychologically. You say it is supposed to allow us to grow. I simply find that some bad things are just that...bad things. Nothing more. And if all of creation must have its share of such bad things, then that makes you question the true nature and intentions of an Omnipotent Creator.

[@waltershumer4211]

What does this have to do with the bad things that happen to animals?

[@susiewheeler8197]

Where do we go from here?

[@Tom_Emody]

Your audio recording level is too low for me to hear you on this video. I am hearing impaired, so it not your fault. Usually I’m able to get enough volume from your recordings.

[@six1free]

Contrary to popular opinion, and because of time, for every action there is in fact infinite and counter opposing reactions. We cannot do good without some seeing it as bad - nor can we do bad without God ultimately making it for good (don't test it, that only delays world peace). "all sufferings are result of a misunderstood concealment" - exactly, well said. Furthermore God understands, and keeps giving us ways to understand, though they may be painful to us or others. God only judges in two ways, for nothing was made in error - it was good, or it yet needs more time to become good. (thus the good often die young, needing no further understanding and time in this world would only corrupt it) But my good news is that there is also a balance in time, and upon the center we just past the difference between good and bad is obvious - one need only look toward the past to define what is not good, and the future to see its inevitable conversion. We cannot even begin to perceive the glory of God's plan until we think of millennia as days. All bad things teach (though sometimes only distant future), but only good things understand. We can't build a lasting peace, without fully understanding war, while before having war there is no understanding of peace. Someday our descendants will need to return to these pasts to understand the peace they enjoy - build from all of our loss. But as a Christian, to a Jew... which of your leaders died for your enemies to have more time to understand? We understand why you had to kill him, why do you still not understand why he died? - or at least what will you do about it?

[@DJ343]

You remind me of my grandpa

[@garyfrancis6193]

You have to consider why a perfect God created a world where there is imperfection? There is an answer.

[@snowwhie-rm9dl]

សូមសរសេរជាភាសារ អង្គគេសផង ខ្ញង់ស្តាប់ និងចង់ដឹង អំពីអ្នកលើកបង្ហាញ ខ្ញុំនាការចាប់អារម្មណ៏ សូមអគុណ ។

[@separatista]

That intro is too loud

[@alnadi3211]

i think you deviated from your topic you are talking about the meaning of pain i still did not hear why god is allowing pain to happen in your opinion……

[@rachelLadyD]

it helps us to grow, like in the story of Job who was a good person, also because He gave freewill to all, and we live in a world with many not just ourselves, like the lotus that grows out of the dirt, we have to sometimes turn all the toxic lead and poison we are handed and turn it into gold, by not becoming that, even if we fall, to realise why we fell, to understand our selves and the reason, we have to resolve the traumas to forgive ourselves. Some children grew up in circumstances of cruelty and pain, where their teachers taught them wrong not right, but still they found truth and light and gravitated to that instead.

[@GeeZeusJnrGTBond63]

Is it God, or Mother nature.

[@AnaRanja]

God nu i dictator si nu controleaza daca vrei sa faci lucruri rele le faci din propriu tau liber arbitru

[@coinkydink]

Why did you put G-D instead of GOD?

[@michaeleloudermilk1107]

The true name of the Creator is so sacred that it cannot be written or spoken by unclean human lips. The Hebrew letters Yod He Vav He are as close an approximation of a name that we are allowed to verbalize.

[@bullishx.r.p.blacc23merriw53]

❤

[@lindacrist6736]

Look at job.

[@BrianMorrisPhoto]

LOOPHOLES for loopies to loop