How Can I Stay Sober When All My Friends Still Drink?

[@LeeF12347]

Been sober just over a year now and lost almost all my friends apart from 1 or 2, still haven't been able to make any news ones which kinda sucks but ive been embracing the loner life working out and doing big hiking and cycling trips, definitely feel much much better

[@TimothyWard]

Outdoor activities are great when it comes to staying sober and being alone. I know hiking has helped me so much!

[@LeeF12347]

@@TimothyWard Hiking is the ultimate anti depressant! ❤

[@SlainteSteve]

Hi Tim. Just found you and watched 3 of your vids. I find that I like them and I like your message, they help me. Thanks man

[@LeeF12347]

Damn seeing my own comment from 2 years ago saddens me because I've since slipped back into drinking and have been desperately trying to get out of it again and can't seem to stop

[@sunnylerae4277]

@@LeeF12347you’ve done it before, and you can do it again. Recovery isn’t always linear, and that’s okay. Just keep trying, I promise it’s worth it ❤️

[@AvonNabors]

Best background yet

[@kjahorski]

Sober almost 6 years and you’ll definitely find out who your friends are and who are/were your “drinking buddies”. I still hang out with some of my friends who still drink but lately have been slowly breaking away from them as well as they are basically functioning alcoholics. Hanging out at a bar with them and listening to the same old good ole day stories and watching them become loud and obnoxious is painful. I then think “damn. Was I such an asshole as well??” lol. I also am focused on working out and hiking. There is a good meetup group near me that has some good hikes. I am fine with the solitude of a road less traveled. I wish my drinking friends well but also know eventually all of that drinking is going to catch up with them.

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Be a man who is on his purpose , and cut off these fake friends

[@PeteBeHereNow]

I feel you Tim, been sober for a few months, it's a challenge. You're right, sober people have entered my life, and my real friends gave remained. Skipped an Xmas dinner because it seemed very centered on drinking, and i found myself thinking maybe it'd be okay if i had just a few. I stayed home instead with a supportive friend who has never been a drinker. It's a tough road, but life's a tough road. We can all make it without drinking and partying

[@bobbihoffman8452]

You are a big part of me getting sober 😊

[@TimothyWard]

I’m humbled to hear that Bobbi. I’m so glad sharing my story and my videos have been of value to you. Stay blessed!

[@patrickwalker-nolan7617]

My old old aunt Bess, who loved to drink, used to say that drinkers don’t have friends they have cronies. I had a friend whose father was a drinker. When the father died and none of the “friends” showed up to the funeral he went to see them they talked about failing to come to the dad’s last ceremony, but none could satisfy my friend with a reason for not showing. I’d go with Bess’ hypothesis that in the bar there are no friends only cronies. But that’s a call each of us must make. I’m sober for six weeks and I wish everyone in the same or similar position good luck.

[@italkgory99]

I’ve realized that I’ve got to embrace being lonely and separated from the rest. If that’s how it has to be, then so be it. It’s all mental ability from this point forward.

[@MorganDelphin]

The higher your standards, the less you will connect with the average person

[@JazzyArtKL]

Preach brother. Spitting facts. Sobriety rules.

[@dianeorr8937]

You are my cyber emotional support in my pace of determination. Love the background sounds.... soothes the soul and the minds focus.....💖

[@elijahdunmore7526]

Hi Tim still sober after 1year and 2 month you are going to loose some friends but if they were true friends they'll be there for you keep making those great youtube channels my brother GOD KEEP BLESSING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY 🙏

[@jackedkerouac4414]

Awhh shiet. Gotta turn off my morning jazz for this one. Tim talking sobriety's my jam!

[@clayryan1196]

I'm at 2 and a half months sober and weekends are the worst when I'm bored. I paint on canvas for a hobby but I've finished over 20 paintings in that time and kinda need a break from that. My friends are more acquaintances. Feeling more like a loaner every day.

[@warrenjoseph76]

How has it been 9 months later? Have you found a way to navigate the lonely times?

[@clayryan1196]

@warrenjoseph76 I have been off alcohol since June 22nd of 2022. I had Pancreatitis and Acute Withdrawal Syndrome then and put in the hospital for DTs due to alcohol. I'm sober off alcohol but not pot edibles. But pot isn't my issue. Alcohol was.

[@FernandoLopez-ev7xg]

I AM GOING ON 60 DAYS SOBER, FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE..AND THIS TOPIC REALLY HELPED ME..THANKS TIM..CORTEZ.

[@haliec496]

I found that I don't have much in common with the friends I drank with. Its true, when you say you want to hang out for a walk etc, it doesn't happen. So do you, you have work to do on yourself. That can take up a lot of time. So don't panic. It will all fall into place. 3 years sober. No regrets.

[@glenh4971]

If you are new to sobriety you need to take a semi-permanent break from your old friends that are getting wasted regularly. People that drink responsibly are fine to continue your friendship's with. The longer you are sober the easier this becomes. After a few years of sobriety you will no longer want to hang out with drunks. They no longer interest us. We know that most people drink but they drink the way we can't. Which is responsibly. Drinking isn't a bad thing. Normy's drink. It isn't a problem for them. I have been sober for almost 8 years. I don't care if anyone drinks. I just have no interest in drunks though. There is a difference. Those people are not ready to live a better life yet. Leave em be.

[@TheSombody457]

Tim seems like your videos always pop up at the right times. Much love! 110 days sober today.

[@origin6229]

Great video man. You’ve inspired me to take up full sobriety again. Not this half ass work I was doing before.

[@combatxhoop7069]

this the toughest, I have most of my friends depend on me when drinking like the hit me up for a drink often bro it's hard they might think I'm being rude and I can't really explain it to them in a relatable manner coz we been doing it for years

[@scottkelly6117]

Just over 8 months sober

[@dianeorr8937]

A rippling brook. Thank you Tim.... So perpetual of living the dream.....

[@Truthtoat]

Great Man 👍👍👍

[@crestfallenwarrior6996]

That hiking spot looks awesome

[@Slaytounge]

You're helping me a lot. Currently in the middle of a pretty bad binge and I'm barely keeping it together at work. Hangover anxiety is hell, so are the night sweats and shivering. I can tell I'm almost done though, this way of living is just too much.

[@SmokingKills1993]

How are you now?

[@Slaytounge]

@@SmokingKills1993 a year and a half sober, very grateful.

[@SmokingKills1993]

Love it 🙏

[@tarasgarden1]

Great message Tim and I love the river in the background, so looking forward to being near the water again.

[@TimothyWard]

Thanks Tara! Yeah it feels great to be able to get back outside again in decent weather lol

[@startedavolcano369]

What, is this phone listening in on my thoughts now? Really man, thank you! It’s nice to meet you. No idea what else you’re about but I needed this ..tonight. I gotta believe I can do this. The world’s too sideways right now to have me drunk every night. It’s all divine timing and I deem the time to be NOW. Time to heal what’s hurting. Time to warrior up. Bless

[@Craneman1]

Awesome video man I’ve been sober since December last year and I love watching your videos, always look forward to seeing what you’ll post next 👍

[@TimothyWard]

Thanks Jason! And congrats on the continued sobriety!

[@reptilerevival]

Always great to see your name pop up!

[@TimothyWard]

Thanks! 😁

[@priscillacordova4221]

Hi Tim!!! I love the setting!!! Fresh air, the woods, water, all good for your health!!!

[@TimothyWard]

Exactly Priscilla! It feels great to be outdoors in good weather ☀️🏞🚶‍♂️

[@belle6643]

Thanks so much for this one Tim, I really needed to hear it. Sober but feel friendless just now since I quit drinking. Such a contrast to how I usually feel. The pandemic doesn't help obviously. You're great.

[@Larry-iv2zf]

Maaan you are AWESOME! You speak out of my soul and my thoughts and my heart. You geht everything here. Applouse!! So many more people have to see and listen to you. I am sooo glad i found you. You chill me down and i am feeling good, just the way i am. Thank you. Love from germany 💕 Keep up your work 👏🏻🤗

[@HomemakerDaze]

Why does everyone drink 😑 13 days sober! NA helps! Had AA and NA issues lol but kicked out my ex who bought drugs into my life out and going forward with the positive life! Drugs and alch make me less shy but ohwell just a quiet life for now until I gain my own sober confidence! Thanks for the wisdom Tim x this video was so helpful today as I feel lonely!

[@MBFModernHomesteading]

Good vid bro.

[@koffeewithkuda6177]

I really missed your nature walks. Thanks a lot man. And thank you for sharing this, this topic has come up a lot in our interviews; and it's tough for people to let go off negative influences. But those who conquer, do Conquer addiction. Thank you again

[@SimplyNaturalBlack]

Great video Mr. Timothy. Blessed message 👍🏿👍🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🌏💞

[@crystalmontoya6539]

Exactly, the best for us in recovery.. nature walks help me stay sober too. Not like this, but even walking down the block.. to keep busy.❤️✌️😎

[@dozwrh]

So thankful I found your channel and for this video! I have 13 months sober and it feels great and I'm very excited. I'm lucky to have some close friends who are super supportive of me, but as the world starts opening back up, I'm worried about how I will fit back in without drinking when it was such a staple for me for any and all social interactions. I understand and am ready for the transition you talk about and I would love to open up my life to some folks who are more like-minded in terms of sobriety and health/fitness. I appreciate your message that it takes time, I needed to hear that! I'm going to keep doing my thing and taking care of myself and put my faith into the process. Thank you Tim!

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I am willing to lose alcoholic friends

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

What friends I have made before and how much money I lost there , I could not count it ....

[@jakeschuetzle7848]

Somebody just got attacked and killed by a bear not far from Big Sky the other day. The grizzly population is getting out of control in MT. If you use bear spray make sure to aim low because bears charge with their head down Get yourself a Glock 10mm pistol; and a chest or hip holster Tim. I want you to live so I can continue to watch your videos. Much love my guy.

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

I started to make much better friends and meet much better girls step by step

[@saudigold50]

Picturesque scenery. 💨💨💨💨

[@enzo_barbell]

I just see on the title, this is going to be a very helpfull video:) Much Love from Germany

[@DustyJ_2]

Dab on em

[@macfeoffensivemacflatearth9887]

Good show brother! Thank you!

[@hettybl]

You are cool as fk ....fairplay to u dude !!! When I grow up, I wanna be you!

[@gazellegonzales7950]

Thank you ❤… you really helped me…i’m just starting my sobriety journey…

[@NintenDub]

I wish friendship transcended addiction. A great friend of mine got hard into pills and after he stopped paying rent he went to rehab and he stopped talking to me after that.i get it. And we did drugs together, but it wasnt that bad of a problem for me and his mom basicly looked at me as the fuckup when really it wasnt that way

[@beyuwallace]

Thankfully even tho I made decision to stop using and drinking my friends still do and they support me and I want to be the example for them to want to change also. We also do things and I can remain sober. But the places I used to go discos and stuff I’m just not interested, I really don’t like seeing people drunk. And yes you run into people sober, sometimes I feel lonely on the bike but then I’ll see pretty women and on the trail and it just reminds me those are the type of women that are more interesting not the club women.

[@ritabritton4605]

Thank you for this video! I really needed to here what to do about that situation.

[@timothyslaughter476]

If you go to a barbershop every day eventually you will get a haircut. If you go to a barbershop with your friends every day eventually you will all get a haircut.

[@baldersn4474]

Yes it is hard tbh...im 2 months sober and the hardest part is friends who drink..Some of them take it personally , or they thinn yoir weird of your brain tells you that you havent reallg got a problem and they are right, as they cant all be wrong, and it wasnt that bad etc..

[@Peteandnyja]

Great content!

[@tonyastorer7007]

Love this thank u so much 🙏🏻

[@samella35]

Great info. Truth. Sober 5 months.😊

[@katiep5158]

Love these videos

[@ericforearm3700]

I'm glad I found this vid

[@leesmith9653]

Looks nice 👍

[@markredfield6664]

I stop talking with almost all of my friends because i want to stop drinking shit i dont even go out of my house anymore because every time i go out is for drink i dont know if im doing good or bad And some of my friends get mad because im not talking to then enymore

[@kronictonic]

I've been desperate to get sober as I've been a fully blown alcoholic for a few years now non stop. my fears the physical withdrawal which unassisted is the worst part. I agree all of my friends drink too but they haven't got the issue I have and they don't drink in the mornings like me. I think i can get there with medical assesses detox. just waiting to find out if the clinic will fund it for me. cheers for video

[@davidparnell3241]

Awesome

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Nothing value exchange , I got super bored when I around them .

[@JustActNormal]

Guess I don't have true friends

[@kondojunagaraju8899]

How to alcohol remove fast from body when we drunk?

[@URHUCKLEBEARER]

thank you

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

There are none of them willing to have a walk have a talk have cup of coffee or picnic in the park , there are none of them willing to support what I want to achieve in my life , all boring all wasted

[@tinadarealmilliondollarbaby]

Niiiice

[@NintenDub]

Hey tim

[@rik-keymusic160]

Sorry but I don’t find anyone sober in this world. I always bumb into people who drink or do other stuff. Even in the gym, some guys too. I don’t know where to go to find or meet people who are likeminded. That 80% isn’t what I experience. Mostly people have work and ob weekends they go out and have fun at the club or bar .

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Cutted off

[@johnnybarrera9612]

Idunno if I'm doing this right .. but I have periods when I stop drinking and then I drink maybe three days up to even a week and i stop again for like 2-4 weeks... but I had to work on it... At first i was drinking a lot up to 2months constantly... Then I'll stop a 3day up to a week.... And I'll drink again.... so I had to build to. The most recent i drank for about a week...and right now i haven't had drink an almost 1month... And i don't feel like drinking at all... I'm going for 2-3mnths this time without a drink... And maybe 2 days of drinks after that time and stop drinking again... I still don't know my final goal :'( but I do know alcohol can ruin ur life that's why I started getting my shit together.... Because I was drinking a lot ! Once again idunno if I'm doing it right but its working for me ! And i feel super happy !

[@jtooley6554]

I always forget how awful I feel after a drunk. Got to be good to yourself

[@jackedkerouac4414]

Not pushing anything on you but buddy it sounds like you're a sober person who relapses. It's obvious you're not a full blown alcoholic but you can go either way

[@johnnybarrera9612]

@@jackedkerouac4414 i actually agree... That's why I don't know what my end goal is.... Like idunno if I want to quite completely or just moderate my drinking... It was super bad for me in the passed ... Drinking every day and really early... I tried quiting cold turkey but it really didn't help much... I tried programs and all failed until I decided to try it this way... And hey it's helped me a lot ! Haha that's why I say i don't know if I'm right by doing this but it's helped a lot! I truly believe i was full blown addicted to this crap... But now i feel great ! I do have those drinks but the time i spend not drinking is getting longer and the time i spend drinking is getting shorter..

[@kristenmarie9248]

7:35

[@CVB_1111]

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