'HOW CAN YOU GIVE ME AWAY WHEN YOU NEVER HAD ME?' | KNOT ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP PODCAST | S1 EP.1

[@LILY-LYNNETTE]

The enemy doesn’t like marriage, he hates unity & will do anything & use anyone to destroy it! Love how God got you out this situation 💕

[@anne_chiem]

It’s so true! We thank God 🙏🏾🤍

[@Abbieead]

“A generational curse break type wedding” now that was a real explanation for everything that happened!!!! God bless you guys 🙏🏽🤍

[@anne_chiem]

Honestly!! Amennn🙏🏾

[@outroyall]

The transparency and vulnerability in this!! Litch cried through this. I’m sorry you went through this. I’m glad you’re both at peace. The devil and his mates we’re definitely trying you guys😢

[@anne_chiem]

😢 honestly he really tried us!! Thank you 🤍

[@jct4294]

It's very interesting how so many family members will get involved when your planning your wedding. For example for me calling my dad, inviting my mums sister who i have big issues etc. Those family members wanting to be nosey as heck as opposed to actually caring for your wellbeing.

[@priscillemalonga7762]

This really opened my eyes about marriage, marriage really isn't easy, the devil doesn't like love and unity. If no one has told you this, you guys will be blessed, God has watched yo go through it and your dedication, tears and hard work will not go unnoticed. it really got me broken down, you guys really don't deserve it all of that trouble, but it just shows you guys really love each other, may God continue to bless you both💞

[@anne_chiem]

Really appreciate this!🥹 thank you so much! Amen 🙏🏾🤍

[@anne_chiem]

Really appreciate this!🥹 thank you so much! Amen 🙏🏾🤍

[@tanavictoriaa]

😊

[@rojamillerover]

Chiem’s cousin should be ashamed of himself honestly

[@rojamillerover]

The father part l can relate 💯. And it’s a grey area that we never speak on as Africans with absent fathers. And people try and force you to let this man even take dowry when he was never there at all at all.

[@anne_chiem]

Honestly it’s such a grey area!😭

[@jct4294]

100% that dowry bit. Like i feel like this new generation we are moving away from all these unnecessary traditional things that shouldn't be done. If my dad was barely there when you were growing up, why is he taking dowry please and the rest of the family egging it on abeg use common sense.

[@alishadavies2990]

So sad that people closes to you can’t be supportive during one of the most important time in your life. It all comes down to envy and jealousy.

[@wonderlandwithali]

My brother and sis in law spoke about their trauma during their wedding planning time. They had to go for marriage counselling again and go to a marriage retreat to help heal the pain they went through due to extended family I’m sorry you had to go through this Chiem and Anne. I pray that we do better as a community so our young couples have a good start to their married life 😢❤

[@anne_chiem]

Wow 😢, hope they’re doing better now!🤍 we’re definitely better now thank you 🥰

[@belovedakua]

I’m so sorry yall had to endure those battles surrounding your marriage. Thankfully it showed y’all who will be for/against you ❤

[@anne_chiem]

Yeahh definitely! At least we now know who to move forward with 🤍

[@JustJumss]

Honestly this hurts me everytime I hear this. I’m glad you guys have healed now and to onwards and upwards ❤❤❤❤❤

[@anne_chiem]

😢 Thank you for all your support sis 🤍🤍

[@jct4294]

My wedding specifically the trad mentally affected me still suffering from it. I get very bad anxiety now, never used to be like this. The trad gave me PTSD not going to lie.

[@anne_chiem]

So sorry you went through this!😢 honestly wedding PTSD is so hard and needs to be spoken about more! Praying that you manage to heal from it 🤍

[@deueljay]

Loved this 💕 sometimes it’s really not personal the devil will just use people you love the most to hurt you

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you!🥰 that’s truee!

[@theebillionairess3377]

I agree with the father part, mine thinks he is giving me away... he is not. My mother is.

[@danielleennis3427]

WOW I couldn't have imagined the magnitude of what y'all went through last year. I'm so sorry your wedding was surrounded by so much negativity. I'm so glad you both had each other and that trauma only made your union stronger! Thanks for sharing with us. ❤

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you so much, really appreciate it 🥹🤍

[@Ehairstudios]

I love this!!! I pray that the sustaining power of the Grace of God will continue this podcast until its expected end! ❤️❤️

[@anne_chiem]

Amen!! Thank you so much 🤍

[@jct4294]

I agree about the sibling thing... Was fully dissapointed with one of them and opened my eyes at the time.

[@jct4294]

My dad asking for a goat whilst I'm doing my Nigerian introduction whilst i kindly put him on camera to introduce my husband's family to him because he was back home at the time (wouldn't have invited him to it anyway). Like what the heck. Then also having the audacity to bash my mum for the reason why he wasn't coming when she was actually expecting him and kept asking about his wellbeing ect. Anyway they barely give energy throughout you growing up and it's events like this they want to show face. BOUNDARIES !!!

[@valexusrobinson8280]

I love how honest and open this conversation was whilst keeping respect for other parties involved too. God bless your union

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you!🤍 Amen 🙏🏾

[@tamarabello]

Honestly, this reminds me of my wedding. It was horrible 😢. Thank you for being vulnerable and telling your story ❤.

[@abbietaiwo1924]

Such an open honest conversation. This episode was a good watch looking forward to more episodes 👏🏿 Well done guys 💕

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you so much!🥰

[@missmohamed6944]

It seems like the strength of your relationships’ foundation is the reason why you guys got through these trials and tribulations. May God always keep your union blessed and happy. ❤

[@anne_chiem]

Yeahhh 100%!😭 Amen!🙏🏾🤍

[@zinatagbaje2122]

Resonate with Anne so much🤦🏾‍♀️ regarding strained relationship feeling guarded 😅

[@anne_chiem]

Honestly it’s so hard😭

[@Audrey-Adunyah]

Loved this! Can’t wait for the next episode!🥰

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you!🥰

[@simthandilemanyathi2116]

Loved this episode, keep them coming and Love the transparency RESPECTFULLY lol

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you!🥰🫶🏾

[@lifewithkrissy1930]

Wow, I love this podcast, it's so relatable as well and can't believe what you guys went through but it makes you two stronger! May God bless you guys abundantly ❤️🙏🏽

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you so much! Amen 🙏🏾🤍

[@Tamarapreyeeee]

I’m glad mothers are getting the recognition they deserve after all the hard work and effort. This just healed a part of me because my absent father keeps singing of how I’d need him when I want to get married, man won’t even be in the crowd 😂😂

[@harietodion195]

I've heard many people mention that the dynamics of relationships shift during the wedding season. It's disheartening to hear, especially since it's supposed to be a time of joy, unity, and togetherness. I'm also grappling with the absence of my father, which brings me a lot of anxiety when I think about getting married. I can’t help but imagine my mom taking on his role, even though he’s here, he’s just not “here” enough for me to assign that role to on my big day. I can only hope my Nigerian family is understanding about this.

[@anne_chiem]

Honestly it is very disheartening! In terms of your father, honestly you have to do what you think is best and makes you happy, it’s your wedding day and your happiness on that day is so important 🤍

[@pamelajones2346]

So proud of you both. It's been a pleasure to have watched y'all journey til Now. I pray y'all Keep Excelling in every area of ur lives🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽💯

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you so much!🥰 Amen 🙏🏾

[@mazzolinaa]

love the vulnerability well done both❤️

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you!🤍

[@thelifeofcilla]

Loved this! Thank you for your transparency and congrats on the podcast 🎉🎉

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you so much 🥰

[@pearlflicks]

I really enjoyed this podcast cant wait for the nextttt. You guys ate this episode!

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you!🥰

[@cookwithdeedee_]

You both are so cute and beautiful - bless you both & wishing your marriage the very best IJN. So here's the thing, I've heard all different kind of stories from people who have gotten married. From the unnecessary input here and there to unhelpful behaviour et al. For both of you, with your cousin and your siblings the behaviour on both ends is sad to hear and just disappointing but people are humans and are fallible - excuse or not, people choose who they want to be to people. Like when people say there are happy for you and they're not cooperative etc, it's something I do not get but I have learnt in general to believe (no matter how upsetting) that their behaviour is a conscious choice. People have no shame lol...Can you imagine?! What I respect from both of you is your boundaries and you actually reaching out to respective parties to try and follow up etc but after everything important events will really teach you what and who are important! When people aren't able to put their pride aside for someone they claim to love, it's a shocking thing but sometimes it's a build up of resentment or other things known to them. But you said something so powerful as believers - breaking curses, making a stand and a change in your families and God sees that. Sending love x

[@bernice_ike]

so excited for this, happy for you lot 💞

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you so much!🥰

[@ShantelPlummer]

Made a new account just to comment 😂 congrats guys!! This was great to listen to and sorry all this was going on. Ive been seeing alot of videos where people had similar experiences as you guys. This has just solidified my decision to elope once Dee proposes 😅 not worth the stress or deteriorating our mental. Can't wait for the next episode!!! Love you both ❤️❤️

[@angelastridee]

Loveddd this! Thank you for your transparency 🤍🤍

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you so much babe!🤍

[@JetLagRecords]

Anne & Chiem, You're the best! I subscribed because I love your content!

[@anne_chiem]

Thank you for your support!🤍

[@jeadinsilu6684]

It’s a shame that those who have been personally selected, by the bride and groom (lead roles), to play a significant part (supporting roles) in their wedding not grasp the importance of making the dream work. Yes, the wedding is the bride and groom’s dream, but it still takes a team (of family and friends) to make the dream work. Like, if you personally feel that you cannot play a significant role in the beautiful movie, then that’s okay. No bride or groom wants to pressurise anyone into doing anything they’re uncomfortable with or simply unable to do. The worst thing people can do is not Communicate that. You may not be comfortable playing the supporting role (bridesmaid, etc) but just having your presence at the wedding (cameos/extras) is still just as important. They only realise when it’s their turn because they’re experiencing what they put you through now happening to them. Just hearing your conversation, as a single man, is really inspiring. I’m very intentional about the contents I consume, and consuming contents which align with my growth (marriage, self-development, etc) is refreshing. Proud of you, guys. God bless your marriage. Thank you for sharing your experience and how you’ve handled it. 🙏🏾

[@jct4294]

I definitely don't feel like you should have gone above and beyond for your sister to attend your wedding. She clearly did not care enough to put her pride aside. I can be extremely cross with my sis but will come even if I'm fighting her even if i don't speak to her afterwards but will still attend. I feel like it was an intentional dig which is sad 🙁

[@anne_chiem]

She did end up coming to both weddings x

[@jct4294]

@@anne_chiem ahh we Thank God 🙏🏾🤗

[@_maria98]

The only podcast I’ll happily sit down and watch 🥹

[@anne_chiem]

Aww thank you!🫶🏾🥰

[@ShantelPlummer]

Made a new account just to comment 😂 congrats guys!! This was great to listen to and sorry all this was going on. Ive been seeing alot of videos where people had similar experiences as you guys. This has just solidified my decision to elope once Dee proposes 😅 not worth the stress or deteriorating our mental. Can't wait for the next episode!!! Love you both ❤️❤️

[@ShantelPlummer]

Made a new account just to comment 😂 congrats guys!! This was great to listen to and sorry all this was going on. Ive been seeing alot of videos where people had similar experiences as you guys. This has just solidified my decision to elope once Dee proposes 😅 not worth the stress or deteriorating our mental. Can't wait for the next episode!!! Love you both ❤️❤️

[@ShantelPlummer]

Made a new account just to comment 😂 congrats guys!! This was great to listen to and sorry all this was going on. Ive been seeing alot of videos where people had similar experiences as you guys. This has just solidified my decision to elope once Dee proposes 😅 not worth the stress or deteriorating our mental. Can't wait for the next episode!!! Love you both ❤️❤️

[@ShantelPlummer]

Made a new account just to comment 😂 congrats guys!! This was great to listen to and sorry all this was going on. Ive been seeing alot of videos where people had similar experiences as you guys. This has just solidified my decision to elope once Dee proposes 😅 not worth the stress or deteriorating our mental. Can't wait for the next episode!!! Love you both ❤️❤️

[@anne_chiem]

Appreciate you sis!😂🫶🏾 - honestly it’s hard! But there are some positive stories, you never know you could have an amazing experience 😂🥰 - we love you toooo🤍🤍