How Chinese marriage markets help parents find a love match for their child - BBC

[@thomascampbell350]

This is basically tinder but everyone actually wants a relationship

[@42ouncesofPAIN]

So if Tinder were actually worth using.

[@JayJay-kb4dq]

I mean they want financial security Lmao

[@fffff2521]

And more of that: those parents have brain in their heads, not in their crotch

[@salcollazo5831]

Who's here because of daily dose of internet?

[@justpassingby8616]

Yeah i got freakin curious

[@styleslv8800]

I already saw a video about it but didn't research but because of daily dose I got interested

[@noahkidega123]

Hell yeah!!!

[@kostatrivic9094]

🙋

[@sadedx]

Me

[@DillerDallerDuller]

That one child policy really worked out great

[@dtango8345]

That one child policy, stop China from becoming india. Made sure we survived, when China was over populated with no food. You don't understand, just soaking up that americans hate propaganda.

[@jhunt5578]

@@dtango8345 Yeah even though you've got more males than women, and have a massive aging population now because the next few generations are of single children. That's why the policy has changed to two kids.

[@markb1170]

D Tango you sure about that mate? Because you know, it wasn‘t sustainable so that‘s why China abolished the one child policy recently and switched to two children (which is still bonkers imho). Sure, let‘s say this measure curbed overpopulation. But they must’ve known that it was a short-sighted solution, and one cannot deny that this caused problems in the long run.

[@zuboy4272]

As Indian i 100% disagree , One child policy or not , it changes nothing , we don't have one child policy but still women are less because in poor nations like India 2K GDP per capita and China 10K , more poor people have sons rather than daughter to support their families and get out of poverty by having a son as investment

[@gotfan7743]

@@dtango8345 That's odd India doesn't have a one child policy yet India's population is less than China.

[@ibelieve8911]

Why is it completely normal to advertise yourself on dating website (selling yourself) and not in the way portrayed in the video? They're practically the same. Just because someone isn't westernised in the way they go about life, they're weird and mortifying?

[@cognocere]

FaCts, this is essentially offline Tinder

[@ibelieve8911]

@@cognocere pretty much. However, this is better. Since this is not just for casual hookup

[@jinbiezel683]

I literally just wrote the same comment. When he said he would be mortified I was like now That's a dumbass thing to say. Ever heard of Match jackass?!

[@amberj3816]

My guess is because a Tinder profile is set up by the young individual themselves and they're the one doing the "shopping" as well (as opposed to parents doing it for you) but I'm neither Chinese nor have been on Tinder so 🤷‍♀️

[@larrysizemore3783]

Because it's someone's parents doing it for them and not the person themselves....

[@RDM123]

So Basically The Chinese Tinder :P

[@johnpatrickjuni945]

@moomoomoomoo .moomoomoo 😂 nice one

[@hks2512]

Probably better, at least it have lower chance of spreading STD

[@jehoons2001]

daily dose of internet

[@nayem6386]

haha . same

[@lunariumaqua3033]

Yeah

[@johnpatrickjuni945]

Yes

[@abiodunakande158]

Yes

[@winston280]

small world

[@sralvez5150]

They have an offline Tinder, its mindblowing OMG

[@Shedgie]

I feel like if these types of markets were in the US my grandma would be dragging me there

[@gepliprl8558]

Haahha. That's nice.

[@TheMeloettaful]

Same for me as well! Except it would be my dad 😒. He really wants grandchildren. Luckily my mom could care less, and doesn't bother me at all about it. She's definitely happier NOT having to babysit the grandchildren they do have (they live in another state)! Including me lol 😂!

[@shaeelmohammed7388]

Bruh I feel bad for the financial unstable short chinese guy :(

[@abigailshiruchan5257]

Bear in mind that Chinese parents will usually buy 婚房 (marriage home) only for their son. Many of them wont give daughter a penny so it automatically made young women have an overall worse financial situation compares to same age men. And the consequence is that poorer man will be less competitive in terms of finding a partner. So basically it's the price of the "male first" ideology.

[@abigailshiruchan5257]

Imagine if those parents would buy a mariage home also for their daughter - just the same way they did to their son. There will be way less women looking for only rich men.

[@42ouncesofPAIN]

@@abigailshiruchan5257 Stop shilling feminism. Nobody cares.

[@abigailshiruchan5257]

@@42ouncesofPAIN well obviously you cared. Otherwise you would've ignored my comment and call it a day.

[@abigailshiruchan5257]

@@42ouncesofPAIN you know its funny that people use "nobody cares" as the alternative phrasing of "stfu". 😅If they truly dont care, why acting like being bothered then?😅

[@YoriichiTsugikuni-999]

3:55 She really want to be your wife ! Love at first sight ! 👁👄👁

[@zsofi_cs9536]

I can understand, he looks genuinely kind, he is tall, handsome and dressed fancy. His smile is the cherry on the top. Btw have you seen the last season of Attack on Titan?🤭

[@Rimonds]

Instead of swiping left or right, you walk left or right, I see no issues with that.

[@davidcentocomedy]

This is no different than if our parents ran our tinder accounts

[@hyderhussain7123]

Funny when their talking and you just gotta nod when you have no idea what they're saying

[@Gothicc_senpai]

i wouldnt mind something like this in western society, like canada. but instead of our parents meeting all the people who are single should meet up, like one big meet and greet. would be a good way to know some people in general, as society focuses more on internet socializing, we dont get to see people anymore in real life.

[@lightschen1644]

Places like that are called bars, clubs, events, and workshops. Thankfully usually parent-free.

[@lightschen1644]

igeto12 good luck approaching someone out of the blue, asking for their records and proposing on the spot lmao That is if you don’t get serial murdered after the courthouse wedding.

[@azazel166]

Over here in Greece we did have something akin to it, but without the advertising, as it was more like parents selling their daughters(in a ceremonial manner) to their future husbands.

[@Gothicc_senpai]

@@lightschen1644 well bars and clubs are not good for everyone, we need places for those who dont like those places but still want to meet other singles. western society is very limited and most people here have narrow minded view, and so are not so accepting of those who are different from the mainstream. otherwise if you have no other generic answers i understand this is a rough topic

[@lightschen1644]

@@Gothicc_senpai Agreed! These markets exist because China is still an extremely conservative country that places more value on nuclear families than love. There's social pressure to marry young without "dirtying" yourself, and marriage is seen as a family decision. Taking your time and meeting other singles in less traditional environments is a long process, and these markets want to eliminate them. But with that, you can never be sure if the person you're marrying is really the person advertised. And it's extremely offputting to imagine that your "credentials" posted by your parents are the driving force behind your future.

[@mrdacusthenavigator4989]

All the older women smiling at Reggie sending him choosing signals

[@funnymafiya798]

He is able to understand his questions in English but he gives answers in Chinese. Good 👍

[@angellaUlevi]

Im sure there’s a translator for both of them, they just edit that out. It’s highly unlikely that all the Chinese people he interviewed understood English. I’ve been to Shanghai, it isn’t very common even today

[@iooooo_eythere5220]

Although it is pretty much like an offline tinder or any other dating site, it's just uncomfortable how the parents are the ones trying to look for someone for their children. I'm not against the parents helping their child, that's one of the ways that they show they care, its just the market-like setting as if the children were objects that I find a bit uncomfortable. If it's the people themselves, sure because that's their life but for some parents there, they don't care about personality or if they like each other. If you don't have this then you don't get a chance and I find it a very efficient way of making someone lose their self-esteem. I apologize if I offended someone with my remarks or if my thoughts do not match someone else's but this is just my opinion.

[@heinhtet2234]

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[@peppermintmoonlight675]

Y U P

[@rexkenley]

What's mind boggling is that there are women here. One might think they would have their pick of the litter being so outnumbered.

[@Tactical-Black]

Maybe there is something about the women where your at that's deterring men from suiting them, or maybe it's not that big or an issue, probably a few guys looking for something different or can't get females there to like them

[@rexkenley]

@@Tactical-Black Possibly, but it is just so strange to me.

[@jhunt5578]

@@Tactical-Black Because of the one child policy couples were giving up or aborting females because China prize males more culturally and men earn more money to pay for their parents retirements. There are 33.5 million more men than women, that's half the population of my country. That's some serious blue balls for the men left on the shelf. Apparently some Chinese men are resorting to buying in brides from south east Asia.

[@jinbiezel683]

He says he'd be mortified by a public forum where all you information is out there in order for you to find a potential partners. Hmmm. What does That sound like?

[@jptol3248]

was brought here because of daily dose of internet

[@WJen8]

My cousin got married this way lol let's see how it turns out 😂

[@bionic_yt9911]

Lol can you update me?

[@farzanaakhtar9604]

update??? o_o

[@natalienguyen6205]

Any update?🤣

[@jemimmarahma681]

Is he happy? Hahaha

[@andreaong5067]

Update!!

[@shesanerinafan]

Fine I'll marry you Reggie 💖💗💓😍

[@Dacite6]

Why do i remember Watching the Same video as this one? Sometimes I Just see Things that I Dont think of and then Happens To me in the Future, Does it happen to you?

[@j.m.s_3285]

Sometimes when I see an envelope with a certain color stamp, I think of a girl I knew in elementary school. It's strange because I never knew her well and also because she died young, like when we were twenty. I don't understand the significance of the letter with that stamp.

[@Darshan_2000]

Dont worry man it happens to everyone its called deja vu even i felt like i wan weird or something i did a bit searching on google and its called deja vu

[@aloneandthinking]

I love the part were he asks a question in english and he answers he mandarin.

[@junont340]

Hello everyone and this is your daily dose of internet

[@vietnammg]

"so how did you meet Mom?"

[@will-da-mac1505]

That daily does of interest got me looking up some crazy stuff lol

[@modzfordayz7657]

Daily dose of internet get it right

[@Panacea9]

"you are not a(our) achievement." They wanted me as a trophy and just the ask to hand me over was an act of domination. Though they wanted that for themselves, I wasn't them and couldn't be trusted long-term. It wasn't from them.

[@Panacea9]

Even time in response is a win."

[@corie5867]

I want to find that cute short guy a wife SO BAD!!

[@chenzenzo]

It doesn't mean leftover. It means unkept.

[@henkymizella6421]

*That is One Example of the Impact of the Existence of the Country, where too many people live!

[@nin10ndosmash1]

The saddest thing I took from this was the sheer difference in male vs female population. This is why sex-preferences don't work for any society. Feel bad for all those lonely dudes :(

[@terminallove3531]

Imagine being single all your life because of the decisions of the previous generations.

[@TheMeloettaful]

Especially for that one forty year old dude. Said himself he's not in a good place financially AND is too short to boot. So that's already two strikes against him according to the marriage market apparently. So crazy how all this happened because of that insane 1 child policy. Not to mention them favoring the males more than females. Hope that guy finds love somehow.

[@khalidaziz1262]

How are you You are right A man is good if he is true A working woman works very hard But men should be respected If a woman finds the right man, she will give you lots of love In reality, a man is a man Who respects all women I look at women with respect. A woman is a mother A woman is a sister A woman is a daughter The woman's wife A woman is a friend A woman is a flower I am looking for a foreign disabled woman Whom I marry to tell people Disabled women also have rights Talk about disabled women Accept this advice my sister You made a great video May Allah bless you always

[@xiatian2826]

As one of Chinese women, the way of parents helped us to match the marriage is the most stupid thing I had ever seen. Parents can't decided our marriage and lives. Women's marriage should in their own hands.

[@joeljohn1217]

The decision is for both boy and girl to decide whether their preferences & interest match, however if parents help you to make a better decision, then I don't see anything wrong in that.

[@kingkim5831]

who is single and ready to mingle?

[@godforgive_me9798]

Now Women in America dont get married until they 40 plus nowadays

[@thasaucegod7577]

Here from TikTok

[@yikes3576]

Very honest ppl

[@natalienguyen6205]

Omg, his accent melting me🥵

[@ZataMachi]

It's interesting to see how such a large population is handling and how it's affected by economic growth and modern culture :o

[@mdfardinkhan9447]

At 4.00 a women was checking out on Reggie 😂😂😂😂😂

[@ElectrickSoundz]

Talents of teachers we started at 7th grade in Chicago at Lincoln Park elementary in my resume

[@marquisdehoto1638]

I'm asking for a friend xD

[@nickyoung630]

while It is kinda sweet that these parents care for their children enough to want to see them find someone to be with......I might me a little pissed if my parents plastered ads about me all over town.

[@parrotcracker6629]

It's more like they want grandchildren to secure the line and when they get brittle and old they have an insurance policy to take care of them. In China there's actually a law where children are supposed to provide $$$ for their elderly parent's care, physically, emotionally, and financially.

[@rogercabo5545]

Would love someone has the ability to develop a universal translator like star treck have

[@arondaoscar]

Man you are so tall, all Chinese around you are like kids

[@tywilliam3225]

Marriage is not everything but love is. Do you know that people married for money and status? That’s why Marriage suck. People are not married for love. It’s for making babies and that it. The Chinese youth nowadays doesn’t want to get married because they know their parents forced them to having babies. There was a news in China that the Chinese women divorce her husband because the husband family had her family wanting her to get pregnant fast. And the husband agreed with her. Then his family and her family are all in court about to tell the judge not to divorce him. But the judge divorce them anyway. The ex husband mom and ex mom have a nerve breakdown over their divorce. I’m like ”These Chinese mom need to back up with their children love life. You raise them well for them to choose their lovers.” Marriage market is a bad idea anyway.

[@0121-x2j]

Was you raised by a single mom.. You sound broken..

[@tywilliam3225]

0121 Your parent divorce? Like I said Marriage is nothing but a business for making babies. There is no love in marriage.

[@tywilliam3225]

Maeu Daou don’t live in fantasy world. Most Asian marriage are arranged marriage. Even some of them are unhappy. Look at the fact nowadays! People don’t care about marriage like that! Because it’s not good because men these days doesn’t care about women and marriage. The men want to live their life as player and cheating on women even go solo with their life. Because they don’t respect women or don’t love them. The Asian community are starting to changing now and ever. Most Asian in America are more focusing on School and jobs than Marriage. This is reality! We are living in the future and not in the past.

[@tywilliam3225]

Maeu Daou Are you married? If so, Are you happy? If not, You will get a reality check when your husband or wife will cheating on you or divorce you over a mistress/misters. By the way, Don’t killed your self when your husband or wife divorced you. Life is too short for killing yourselves over marriage.

[@Scorpio_Moonshine]

@@tywilliam3225 What you call "facts" sound more like personal experience/projection or observation which doesn't make it true for everyone. If you have facts, can you site any scientific evidence for your claims?

[@skyborne6393]

Better than those dating apps 🤣

[@justhavefun2640]

and i have neither .... i felt that

[@FireflyDivision]

Tinder but then without internet lmao

[@Nathalens]

*MOM PLEASE PUT MY DATA IN THERE RIGHT NOW*

[@heavenlyderpfowl1180]

Chris chan was ahead of his time

[@haraanganjotsingh8032]

Some of them will abuse the return policy

[@kieronb2928]

As a brit this feels kind of weird to me

[@Tuan...]

Kieron B is basically the same as a online dating site (tinder, Match etc...) but you dan’t get cat fished

[@zknyy]

Most of you who are out away from China don't know China/Chinese. This video is too much bias.

[@bjdooi]

Tinder irl, better than tinder imo

[@andreamai]

What would your reaction if your parents did this to you?

[@finadlc6967]

Does this meeting for finding groom still happening?

[@Mraren01]

Finances and height? Yeah I would be forever alone over there

[@常乐-w7l]

We have a requirement of three 180s: 180m2 for your apartment (or house) size, 180cm for your height, and 180mm for your d*ck size. Maybe you still fulfill the last one?

[@mahdyarisadhono1536]

Did china banned tinder to?

[@toffguy3297]

MOST OF CHINESE LADIES MONEY FIRST BEFORE LOVE AND SOLE.

[@toffguy3297]

BIG PROBLEM IN CHINA MARRIEGE IS MOST OF CHINESE WOMAN LOOKING FOR MONEY FIRST. FAILED MARRIEGE. MONEY MONEY MONEY !

[@julioduan7130]

are sold? Are you serious?

[@calatis4u]

60 in good shape vegetarian with good morals looking for love, anybody interested to have a colorful lifestyle? Must relocate and be open minded to what is right and true. No dowry no need. Both must contribute to our future. Must understand that we become one.

[@DeyvsonMoutinhoCaliman]

We also have a term, post-wall women.

[@ArtieCarden]

love his glasses damn

[@LuckyBide]

I hope the young generation in China will get rid of that obsolete tradition where parents decide and arrange marriages.

[@jackoghost]

there are short people in china too?

[@mjsz7428]

who is here after the daily dose of internet??

[@tjtampa214]

You mean like FB... or those dating apps? It's been done for years online, in bars and other ways by various cultures. Nothing new here. It's an age-old story.

[@dannysze8183]

it is different. Chinese women purely look for rich guy to marry and split his assets in half. that is in the Chinese law, there is no prenup in Chinese law.

[@ElectrickSoundz]

No ads in the anything is nice except home screen non products after burner country sales

[@pulpze]

Real life tinder

[@shainajanecabanlit1307]

Could someone help me finding my friend father

[@Klazyo]

Beautiful

[@XRIZALIDE]

Came here because of 9gag.. Not disappointed at all

[@Langlang2024]

Only in Shanghai...

[@jackiedike4077]

Same as dating site

[@startledhamster]

How's this different from Tinder? Offline version xD

[@dannysze8183]

tinder is for sex not your financial assets. in Chinese law, once you are married, your assets will split in half with your spouse.

[@ElectrickSoundz]

Lessons for all Latin Americans of America up today to teach a new way

[@janh3827]

That guys is looking for a wife but embrassied to admit it lol

[@ElectrickSoundz]

I feel like. An human resources student intern on KZbin fee education

[@ShannonDerie]

Dude at least learn how to pronounce the name of the city correctly

[@ElectrickSoundz]

Hey teacher leave those kids aline

[@georgiaailsa4659]

Funny, i'd like to have a try, hahahahahahaha

[@commenter7893]

I guess they have yet to discover the internet.

[@mayasayonara9169]

Internet is a no go. At least with this market gives an opportunity to meet the person in person if you like their profile displayed at the market

[@vitfrac1200]

Reggie is cute

[@Rinkyu]

I like it

[@ElectrickSoundz]

You to premium at this time

[@iziz356]

He is a whole meal

[@romal6793]

its nice

[@comprehensionpassword803]

BBC Finally!!!!

[@Blackmar229]

If I need marriage I will come china 😊

[@FuzzyStayBuzzin183]

I found this weird

[@averageidiot1454]

Selling yourself is weird whether on or offline

[@Ymejii]

Well it’s not for money just like posting a flyer that says your looking for a partner And stuff

[@Ymejii]

Is this Chinese people only sorry if that sounds racist at all just wondering

[@jajsjshdjd]

that is chinese real liffe tinder for you :)

[@troytaylor5746]

This is hilarious

[@gerard4039]

Lots of westerners will laugh at this but this is actually what makes China going forward and the west going bankrupt … I don’t expect westerners to understand because if they did they wouldn’t be where they are 😅😅😅😅

[@Joe-jp1pb]

I would stick out like a sore thumb in China..... I'm 6'2 all the chinese look 5'5 and below.