How do you deal with difficult people at work if you are quiet/shy?

[@ghettogreenbeann]

I remember finding your videos when i was 15. Im 26 now. But there was a time where i lost your channel for a while and forgot your name but your last name seemed to ring a bell. I think its great you still make these videos a decade later.

[@breakthroughmoment1647]

“Embrace your shyness.” I couldn’t concur more. I actually think it’s to one’s benefit to be a bit mysterious or reserved.

[@adasanti7312]

Thank you for this gem.

[@paulbroderick8438]

Work people are just acquaintances, not friends. Every job I've held meant avoiding certain obnoxious 'boss favorites'!!

[@MsActor2009]

Yes, you’re right. They are acquaintances or situational friendships, but they are not good friends and you need to filter everything you say! I’ve rarely kept in touch with coworkers after I’ve left a job and they will throw you under a bus if they have to or want to hang out with you, but not promote you!

[@blackrose7262]

This couldn't have come at a better time. I recently started working at a new job. This person has been nitpicking my work and trying to call out my mistakes during meetings. I want to respond so badly but I've already had a 1:1 with the team lead and they say I'm doing great so I'm not worried about it anymore but it is still quite annoying. So I'll just keep doing what you said and keep busy.

[@MsActor2009]

Hi Blackrose, when a coworker tries to nick pick or correct my work to the point of being annoying, I just smile and say “thanks for pointing that out”. If you lose your cool, they’ve got you! Also, send occasional status updates to your manager and team lead, but don’t include the nit picker on the email. If the nitpicker rats on you, senior management knows what’s really going on! When I say “thanks for pointing that out” or “thanks for letting me know”, it can sometimes cause the nitpicker to become nicer and they will want to show me how to do more things. Nit picking stems from jealousy and job insecurity.

[@domtheurbanlibrarian9076]

Hello Marie! Can you talk about how to handle overexplaining yourself? Bullies benefit from this and should be talked about more. And I love hearing you talk about these things. It helps me feel safe. 💯✨ Best!

[@mariedubuque]

that is a good one, I will do it. Thanks and have a great weekend!

[@MsActor2009]

Agree, being shy can be a superpower at work. Shy people get things done and tend to stay out of drama. I received an update on HR policy earlier this year that even if I talk negatively about something at work “in my own home” it can be reported!

[@adasanti7312]

Very important to only keep conversations work related. I worked with someone who was my CHILDHOOD FRIEND! Our families were friends too. After a long time I realized she went to our boss and told her I did not need a raise and if I ever vented to her, she reported it with lots of addition and frosting to our boss to get better promotions. I trained her for that job.

[@jesuschaveziii6520]

Found your channel again! Love your videos!

[@ej5000]

Excellent advice as always 😊

[@jjrrhh1983]

Happy Wednesday Marie! Excellent advice once again! Have a great safe day ahead awesome beautiful friend! 😊💪🌹☀😎

[@FoxInYourBox]

Hey Marie, last year I introduced three separate friends to each other, forming a friend group of four. While we all initially enjoyed each other's company, I noticed that they all had more in common with each other than with me. Feeling left out and anxious when we hung out, I worried they would realize they didn't need me and would drift away. So, before the school year ended, I distanced myself from them. At first, I felt fine, but by the end of summer, I missed them. Now, seeing them together at school, I feel lonely. I have other friends, but I miss the dynamic of that group. I'm torn between trying to reconnect, risking rejection or an awkward reunion. I fear I've destroyed the friendship completely. I know that I want to at least try to repair things so do you have any advice as to what would be a good start?

[@mariedubuque]

Could you talk to one person in the group who you feel closest to and tell her that you miss them and are sorry you fell out of touch for so long. (you could say you were very busy, had a lot going on etc.) I would save the part about not having a lot in common until later. They could very well welcome you back into the fold or dismiss the whole idea. Either way, it doesn’t hurt to try. Just prepare yourself for disappointment. And honestly, are you looking at that group through rose colored glasses? There might be another reason you left, Could be you didn’t feel like you could be yourself. Not sure, but go with your gut. Something wasn’t right and you might experience the same feeling if you reconnect. At the same time, expand your social circle.You might find you meet new people who you connect with even better.

[@johnrainsman6650]

Can I share my story with you about a manager who really u pset me? I could use your advice. At work, she mishandled my mistakes and disrepected me.

[@judgegixxer]

I stay quiet. One day I won't and I'll end up in prison for the rest of my life.

[@777ysl6]

Hey marie! Love your videos so much. Was wondering if you have any advice for a 21 year old girl who feels like her life is slipping away! :( I unfortunately found myself amidst political unrest resulting in a full blown war in my home country about a year ago and my university career was interrupted, im set to start next year and I have about a year's time on my hands and starting college at 22 years old which is the age alotta people graduate definitely makes me feel devastated at times. Watching your videos makes me so happy thank you for your content!

[@mariedubuque]

I know this seems like a long time at your age, but believe me, it is not. People of all ages are in college. You will fit right in. Also many people graduate “late” from college due to gaps, having to work their way through, illness, all sorts of reasons. My point is, you are not alone.

[@777ysl6]

@@mariedubuque thank you so much for your kind words 🤍

[@user-xy4ff5yp7b]

Please talk more loudly! I have the volume up full and need subtitles!