How Do You Recover from an Affair? 5 Tools to Get Unstuck

[@movewithcesar]

Back in 2018 i was in a very dark place as a result of my wife cheating on me, therapy was ok and it did help to an extent, then when i found your videos Sam, You and Rick helped me find healing, I’m in a much better place as well as my wife, she’s still doing therapy and I’m finally using different means besides therapy for my healing. Every-time i meet someone who’s going through a similar situation where i was a few years back, i always send them to your page. God bless you all.

[@samshealingpodcast]

so kind of you my friend. thank you for watching and for the excellent encouragement.

[@punky479]

I'm so bad at the self sabotaging. I'm aware of it. But cannot reel it back in. He's doing better then I expected to me. I felt bad when he said. This is going to be a long road.

[@Bumbledora]

Same for me. I'm on a long road to recovery from my husband's infidelity. I do sometimes lash out and I just can't help myself. I'm so angry. Hugs to you 🌹

[@carolinasregion]

Samuel, I have watched many of your videos and they have been a huge help to me! I found out last year that my wife of 34 years had been having a five year affair. I had no idea, and found out quite by accident. It was like a bomb went off in my lap! I didn't even consider reconciliation, it was over for me. I have struggled for a year to get past the devastation and this video really helped and gave things to think about. Thank you for all you do!!

[@samshealingpodcast]

i'm so glad I could help. thank you for watching and your kind words.

[@farrealmrollers5764]

Been giving and receiving a lot of grace the past two weeks. Thank you for reminding me of the principle of pain shopping; time to step out of the grace clothes

[@Bumbledora]

Thanks! I'm in depression and anxiety, so I need to hear this. I'm so tired to feel this way. My D-day was 27 April 2023. I feel powerless yes. I'm so angry at my husband and his AP. I'm stuck. I hate feeling this way. Trying to find the goodness in my life. There's a lot to be grateful to. So why can't I feel happy? It still hurts 😢

[@lesliewaite4316]

The affair happened 36 years ago..husband never helped us work through..this is our first real try..and last ..we are 66

[@lesliewaite4316]

Ps..I decided 2 years ago that I am amazing !!! By the way

[@sarahschmidt3297]

Grateful for you and your videos! You definitely found your purpose 😊

[@matthewfoster8217]

Thank you Samuel. God bless you 🙏

[@samshealingpodcast]

back at ya friend.

[@lidiagarcia6461]

Hello my husband and I are going through a unique situation where we both are the betrayed & the betrayer we’ve been married for 16yrs and been together on and off since we we’re 15 we’re both the same age going on 39 soon we have 4 children together he has one with from someone else before we had our children I thought that I could’ve dealt with our situation on our own but I was terribly wrong I’ve become someone I never thought I’d be I’ve hurt my husband and are hopeful with this program maybe we could heal we’re currently doing the 7 day boot camp

[@gamerillenium1974]

Thank you Sam 🙏🏻👍

[@simfora8053]

I’m 17 so super young to be watching these recovery affair videos but I can’t help not to watch it. I have emotionally cheated and I don’t know what too do. Whoever I talk to, I tell them my side of the story of how it happened and everyone tells me it’s not my fault or that it happens all the time. Whenever I talk to people about my situation, no one seems to be of help. I don’t know what to do because I can’t really get a therapist for couples because my girlfriend and I broke up because of this. I just wanted space because I didn’t know what emotionally cheating was. So I asked for space so I can heal and recover, but I can’t seem to do it. I didn’t know I was emotionally cheating until I was told 2 weeks ago when all this occured. I stopped talking to the person I emotionally cheated with because I wanted to be with my girlfriend even though we broke up. But I don’t know what to do because the person I cheated with is at my school and all I think about is her and I just want it too stop and I don’t know what do too. Do you think you can make a video on recovery on your own, or making a video on emotional affair withdrawals and what it is because I don’t know if I’m having withdrawals. Sorry this is a lot I just don’t want this person in my head anymore. I hope you read this and got some advice, even if you can’t make a video on this because your videos now are really helpful. Thank you so much.

[@rosewatson7163]

Hey there, @simfora8053 - I know it's been a year but hoping you found healing and figured out what was going on for you. I applaud you for having so much self-awareness and desire to grow through it at such a young age.

[@lyndaclements3251]

Sam, I really enjoy your videos and I really want to do the things you suggest. However I am really struggling. My husband had a affair with one of my best friends for at least 7 years. We have only been married 10. The affair was not a full blown affair but was a strictly sexual when opportunity was there when they both had way too much alcohol. We are boat neighbors and alot of alcohol is part of the boating scene. Since I found out which was Oct 29, 2021 my spouse quit drinking, goes to marriage coaching and also sees a therapist. I feel like such a idiot for not knowing about the affair and trusting him. I feel so betrayed by him and my best friend that I am just beyond words devastated. He is begging for forgiveness, apologizing, hates himself, and said he has always loved me and it was a drunken opportunity and that is why he quit drinking. How can I even believe or trust him ever again. 7 years of betrayal. Wouldn’t I be a fool to except him back. We live in the same house but I have not physically seen him since the day I found out. I can’t even look him in the face. I never at this point of my life though I would be in this position and don’t know how to move forward. Can you honestly love someone and cheat on them? I can’t wrap my head around it. Please help!

[@laniec.f.2531]

I feel your pain. Blessings as you continue down this road to healing. Keep coming back to this channel. There is amazing wisdom here. Take your time, don't make hasty decisions... you are in a state of shock and disbelief. Be kind to yourself. Breathe. This is hard, but you can do it. Baby steps. Peace.

[@shaym106]

Thanks for the video Sam. Hey...what is the name of that book by Dr Gottman that you have often mentioned in your videos? I'd like to find me a copy. Thanks in advance for your reply

[@samshealingpodcast]

thank you. there are a couple books by them i reference. do you remember what I was discussing?

[@shaym106]

@@samshealingpodcast I don't, I'm sorry. My memory is terrible, but the 3 you do reference, can you pass all 3 along to me, please. I'd like to read them. I NEED to read them in fact. Thank you for replying to me, I really appreciate it Samuel.

[@betrayedinseattle1767]

What about if the unfaithful had the other relationship the ENTIRE time we have been together ( over eight years)! I don’t see anything about that!

[@alixhice]

4:28 Yes! We are entering “gorgeous” though all our hard work with your help. Thank you for your wisdom.

[@samshealingpodcast]

thank you for the kind words my friend.

[@BrazilianPolish]

No, you don't! What happen you don't give as much importance as used to. After 5 years still some reminders opens the scar.

[@farrealmrollers5764]

Been a long two years