HOW DOES BEING WITH A NARCISSIST CHANGE YOUR SLEEP PATTERN

[@Amethysts_moon]

My sleeping pattern is normal now after leaving the narcissist ex of 13 yrs old relationship

[@JoseMolina-lm9pc]

Same here feels incredibly real to wake up to sunrise & sunshine being out of the Devils den 😊❤

[@sandymorris3854]

For three years while with him, I could not sleep. I had constant insomnia. My legs and feet would also hurt. I left him on 7/25 and I have slept like a baby ever since. No leg or feet pain either.

[@puremaledark8305]

This is one that ive noticed but is rarely mentioned. They totally mess with your sleep on purpose.

[@BJBlaskovichGaming]

Yep, mine threw the curtains open somewhere between 6-7 AM on purpose so she could “get a picture of the sunrise” after we had met in person for the first time during our relationship. Our first day/night together and she does that the next morning.

[@1Marflowa]

I remember as a kid, i often hear my father beg my mom to let him sleep. My father had two Jobs, but my mom kept my dad awake in the middle of the night. She wanted to talk about all sorts of stuff. My mom brought a life time of stress, she still does. My Dear father passed away . I still feel , his body couldnt take it anymore.

[@monicag3943]

I'm not sleeping....just ended my narc relationship a few weeks ago. I'm working on healing, but not quite there yet.

[@TheMonalisa1976]

Time makes a difference, give yourself time🫶

[@Paka96756]

It will get soooooooooo much better, it takes time and work, but it’s sooooooooo soooooo much better on the other side 🙌🏽🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@Paka96756]

29 years from 5:30am-10:00pm it was all about her. 10:00pm-12:00pm was my time 🤦🏻‍♂️ which of course I was trying to keep my hobbies and interest alive only to be accused of doing other things. So happy to be free and living my life again. Thank you Anoushka for everything 🤍🙏🏾

[@joeoreo2498]

My narc x-gf lived in Milan, italy. I live in Chicago, IL. There is a 7hr difference. When it's 5:30am in Milan it's 10:30pm in Chicago. My narc would call me and keep me up til about 2-3am. Sometimes even later. My narc would then complain whenever we would argue for something she did and get mad and tell me that I don't let her sleep and I stress her out!? 🤷 These ppl are so messed up. They don't even know what to think themselves. I discarded that 8itch 4months ago and Im getting my sleep back. Less stress and anxiety now. I do miss her but I'm never going back. She is screwed up in the head n heart. 💔

[@kieranoconnor333]

I’m in England, my ex in Brazil. I could sleep early if I wanted but I had to be on camera otherwise she’d have a meltdown. These people really just have little to no consideration for others.

[@joeoreo2498]

@@kieranoconnor333 yes me too. She would expect me to put her to sleep thru FaceTime but wouldn't bother to do the same for me. Nothing but wasted time with these demons. Stay safe my friend. ✌️

[@ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω]

I woke up every day for months at 2 in the morning, stressed and couldn't go back to bed. Sometimes, I couldn't sleep at all and went to work sleepless. I was stressed of how he would behave the following day. Each time it ended, I felt physical fatigue and enjoyed sleeping properly. I got eye bags then and the dermatologist says they are because of emotional abuse and stress. Thank you Annoushka

[@FOROW99]

Sleep vampires are a pain in the neck .. RUN ...

[@mr.anderson3369]

I was married to a narcissist for 24 years, she filed in August of 2019, I became incredibly stressed out, like I was living in a bit of a panic mode. During the divorce(between the months of August and December), I was so stressed out that I lost about 60lbs(225 to 165lbs) and my hair was falling out. I was 52 during the divorce, that December was when I was diagnosed as being bipolar. Throughout the months during the divorce I was in and out of bed all night and every night, I was getting up and pacing the house, but something interesting happened the first night after she moved out, I didn't shake, or get out of bed that night, and, something I'll never forget when I was going through the manic episodes and getting out of bed, was that all she thought about it was that I was disturbing her sleep.

[@Melchizedek11]

How do you feel now? ... Still diagnosed Bipolar? ... Medication? ... Becoming Bipolar in "such a situation" is a natural life hack😮😮😮

[@mr.anderson3369]

@Melchizedek11 I feel like I've gone through an awakening, I can now look back more critically at the things she did and said over the years, without the fear of her backlash. For one, I got used to her insults towards me, and her controlling behavior. For context, I couldn't even win an argument with her to keep smoke detectors up in the house. I look back now at the dynamic we were living in, I was one of the few men that she never flirted with. After the divorce she was trying to keep me around on the side as supply, it was strange, I felt completely discarded but she never stopped contacting and love bombing me. I never contacted her after the divorce, for about 3 years after the divorce she was still sending me pictures, mostly of her face, but there was also pictures of her new car, her new cat, etc... But then she texted me about a month into the strike, she asked me if we were on strike, it was a question without a question mark, and that was just over three and a half years after the divorce. When we divorced she moved from Michigan to California, I know no one in California, I dont know if she did, but that text told me more about how she is now than she could've imagined. She's living in Corona and there were two locations near her that had been on strike for about a month at the time, one was in LA and the other was in Ontario, which Ontario is like two towns over from Corona. I think she wanted to make sure I realized that she had become a self-absorbed beach bunny bimbo who most likely found out about the strike because she just happened to drive past a picket line one day, and thought it would be fun to bother me about it. She was trying to kick me when she thought I was down, boy did she have it wrong, because of going on strike over that contract I'm getting back 14 years worth of frozen pay increases within the four years of the contract. Seroquel has been a life-changing medication, I haven't slept this well my entire life, I also take Pristiq.

[@wyldchyld777]

Same with me been a year now without her she called two weeks ago and asked me to come back or be friends with her. I overcame but now again I have started missing her. I know I dont have to go back but there is a fight between my head and heart everyday. I am again not able to sleep. Its the worst feelling.

[@vickibazter3446]

I get it. ❤ head fight

[@thecherrytrips]

He complained about not being able to sleep comfortably in bed if we shared it and continued to complain that I woke him up and he couldn't get back to sleep because I got up early to exercise before work, so I started sleeping on the sofa on workdays to let him rest. However, the TV was downstairs where I slept, and he would insist on watching the news before going to bed, making me stay up past midnight despite having to wake up at 6 am for work. After a few months, the inevitable gaslighting kicked in and he started accusing me of cheating for not sharing the bed, even though I had sacrificed my comfort and sleep for his health and I was the one who had a job to manage. It was so deliberate and expertly thought out and I remember vividly questioning and trying to remember the truth of why I had moved to sleeping on the sofa. I was sleep deprived and questioning reality.

[@adrianhowell6173]

Keep talking about this issue your on the right track 🙌🙏

[@YakobLTW]

The 5 years of her in my life, messed up my sleep and skeep schedule to the point where it was so badly affected that stress and anxiety were just getting worse. My diet and mood were dropping down aswell. Honestly, the day we ended, I was afraid of waking up the next day and she just wasn't going to be there. But, I had the best sleep in a loooong time. Sure nowadays I use magnesium aswell, but my exercise routine is in full effect and I use that to help my muscles. Rather than the constant energy drinks (everyday and sometimes multiple cans) and the naps throughout the day. Over. Gone. I get sleep now and i feel RESTED everytime. They really do kill us slowly with their presence.

[@homealoneuniverse1221]

Agree on all the ambient stress factors you mentioned, but there were also acute events that occurred regularly, pushing me to do chores that ran late into the night, knowing I needed to be fresh for work the next day, arguments that went to bed unsettled, and I was just laying there, eyes wide open, or maybe I'm finally drifting off, and then some loud bang from another part of the house, because she's still angry at 2 in the morning, and it sets me off literally shaking in bed. Yes, I did get out a few years ago, feeling much better. I still wonder tho how much I lost by trying to stay for so long.

[@steveanhiron6764]

I thought her actions inhibiting my sleep was not her fault . Looking back on it all after hearing this , I know it was intentional . Ouch !

[@ricardogalban9638RG]

Only the person we know about it believe this dangerous game .

[@Agheel963]

100% since getting away my sleep has returned to normal. Narcissist would keep me awake til stupid times,then "let" me sleep for a few hours before waking me up

[@destinationunderground6006]

My ex used to do this religiously. Was terrible when I worked rotating shifts and worked doubles all the time. Then when it got to a point when I'd get upset and start losing it over circular nonsense arguments I w a s made out to be some nut.

[@mandrenshaw5069]

My ex narc used to prevent me from sleeping by pulling the covers off the bed so I'd be freezing or he dragged me out the bed by my feet. It was like torture!

[@puremaledark8305]

I had a family member that would do that. They would go into my room and even flip the mattress and throw the pillows and sheets around

[@detjaggillar8081]

My ex covert narcissist was always interupting so I didn't got a good sleep. He did the same to me: taking the sheets, pillow etc. Drag me up from the bed to argue about something ridicilous or start the TV or RADIO whit VERY loud sounds on etc. Or wasn't he home he calls me in the Middleton of night to talked of something meanless thing that we cpuld about next day. ALL of this was evil and to disturb my possibility to have a good night sleep 😒 I was in that toxic relationship for 10 years and it got more and more obvious that it was in purpose to brake my mental health down. When I Finally left him (for about 11 years ago I slept a LOT cause I was totally stressed out and probably depressed too so I only get up to work at 8 AM then home (my own new home!) - make food and eat and was jump into bed at about 19 PM to sleep! My life was like that for about 3 month and the I forced myself to start healing my self. Try to be very aware of my health, my sleeping = not too much but enough and eat good healthy food, taking vitamins and to educate myself of NPD etc. At the same time I also take my time to go out in the Woods and nature and startded (again) to do gardenia as I always have done before I met the narc but he always try to not do when I was with him. Every singel thing I love to do before I met the narc I tried to catch up - again. That helped me to heal 💯🙏 It wasn't a Quick Fix but it helped me to heal and to understand: It was no wrong with me. It was him who was sick in NPD ..

[@ΜΑΡΙΑΠΑΠΑΔΟΠΟΥΛΟΥ-π7ω]

Or...when they start sending you toxic texts when you have just gone to bed Of course, you end up crying, texting them back and not sleeping

[@heidirigg2721]

Funny I haven't even seen the full video yet. I already know this is true. Every time I left I slept like a baby. When I would go back. I could not sleep well. I would have horrible dreams. I have found my pieces with Jesus Christ 🙏 and he has lead me to all of these videos. They have helped so much. Thank you. You are a blessing to me and I will always be GRATEFUL 🙏. I CAN’T WAIT TO HEAR THE WHY BEHIND IT. THANKS. HAVE A BLESSED DAY

[@heidirigg2721]

Finished the video. This checks all my BOXES. I feel so blessed to know this. Thank you ❤

[@HeatherPretorius-zb4tf]

I've had a different experience, probably because I am no longer trauma bonded to my narc husband, I hate him but can't leave because he has threatened to take our 5 year old daughter away from me. Also trying to become financially able to leave and afford lawyers and therapy. I stay up till morning hours then when I finally sleep, I sleep so dead I wake up with a migraine, completely exhausted, I don't think I even dream anymore. I slept this dead even before I started staying up as late as I could handle, waking up feeling as if I had never slept at all.

[@BJBlaskovichGaming]

My sleeping pattern is back to normal and I’m not randomly waking up in the middle of the night since I went NC with my narc ex gf 19 months ago.

[@TheCm1546]

Still working on getting back to being able to sleep normally. Since I moved out it has gotten better ❤they would kick their legs all night long keep me up all night then tell me I was lazy if I wanted to sleep in after all that.

[@steveanhiron6764]

Completely changes sleep pattern . Through the middle of the day , for my reverse direction ops nap , there is a dog barking under the bedroom window . Like the vegetable patch with her colourful flower claiming space . Writing on the wall ,hey .Have wondered why I set myself up , however after all this info’ … I’m ok . Thankyou

[@DannySainz-o4g]

My ex used to wake me up on purpose. With different dumb ass excuses. Besides keeping me stressed out. So i wasn't sleeping at all. Keep away from these kind of people. It's been 7 months we've been split up i went no contact and on Sunday she tried calling me twice. I didn't answer. It was hard. She is beautiful and I loved her with all my heart. But i am DONE.!!! Everyone be careful. God bless you all.

[@KylieVincent-w9m]

I was kept awake most nights, I was told I go to bed to early, that I was a kid, he would get in bed cause an argument then get up again, he would then repeat til all hours of the morning. I would go to work with zero sleep and he didn’t work so he then stayed in bed. Often whilst in bed he’d be kicking, saying I’m taking up to much of the bed, it was horrible. I became too scared to move in bed in the end.

[@heidilarsen4719]

We never met,but talked together for years..Everytime it felt real close..he would all of a sudden have a new girlfriend. About less sleep, he would text me so much in the night ,and not let me sleep. Now he got a new one and I think he will let me dissapear out of his life. As the close friend he said I am😢

[@steenkristensen6351]

Det er jeg enig med dig om Anouska hvad du siger forsat god aften 😉

[@arcticauroras9627]

Bothers mi more, how can she just lose you when we knew each other

[@arcticauroras9627]

Eggshells all over the place vampires

[@arcticauroras9627]

I'm awake all nights

[@arcticauroras9627]

Love isn't from no sex and not seeing kids with social workers

[@arcticauroras9627]

I'm SAS

[@arcticauroras9627]

Imagine kids with you

[@arcticauroras9627]

A night

[@arcticauroras9627]

Just stick the phone down girl

[@arcticauroras9627]

Yeah can't sleep that well, u ain't next to me

[@arcticauroras9627]

No cortisol, just u

[@arcticauroras9627]

Still you

[@arcticauroras9627]

I'm not a hedgehog

[@arcticauroras9627]

Probably be nicked or kids move place

[@arcticauroras9627]

NO SEX

[@arcticauroras9627]

Bad want

[@arcticauroras9627]

I'm SAS