How Family Guy Failed Brenda Quagmire! (Family Guy Video Essay)

[@Dip-Star-1489]

The worst part about this whole episode is that Quagmire, a sexual abuser to the EXTREME, was the one to get rid of Jeff, bonus points being that Brenda was unaware of the plan. Abusive relationships are extremely difficult and dangerous to escape once you’re in, with several needing outside intervention to help the victim, but the victim should have the right to testify against the abuser and get away from the situation with the support of close ones.

[@feliciaadams7666]

Quagmire doing that isn't all that out of the ordinary. Creeps like him tend to see the women in their lives, usually close relatives like sisters or mothers, as actual people and not targets. To him those women are just flesh bags with holes that make annoying sounds until her drugs them. He's cool victimizing other women but his sister? No, no that's HIS sister who has thoughts and feelings and played with him growing up.

[@bob5253]

This is why I hate Quagmire

[@rodrigobueno8652]

Nya, the worse is the victim blaming

[@keirstengrant4132]

@@feliciaadams7666 I would be fine with that if literally anyone, even it's like Stewie and/or Bryian and there ingroned or what ever pointed that out. But the fact that they did not just made me feel like I watching an entriley different version of the show that did not come from this plane of existance.

[@ryanmatthews3609]

@@bob5253 his the worst character in all of cartoon history.

[@SplashSurfer216]

I think one of the worse things about this episode is it’s portrayal of the abuser, Jeff. In short, he’s nothing but a one dimensional, offensive stereotype. They could’ve played their cards right and depicted him as being manipulative towards Brenda, or have his abuse of her happen off screen or play it up for seriousness instead of comedy. He comes off as just an overgrown kid who yells and hits his mom when she won’t give him what he wants. We could’ve even brought some background to Jeff as to why he acts so aggressive and angry. But because this is a comedy we have to make the abuser as over the top, bratty, and deranged as possible.

[@servoaugusta513]

Yeah abusers often lull their victims back into their arms through promises of rehabilitation and future compromise. American dad did a better job actually depicting an abusive relationship between roger and a 9 year old.

[@kumakiel8850]

yeah bc like abusers never show their true colors so blatantly in front of others, and always build up a persona in front of others to throw people off their radar!!! like there’s so much they couldve done with that

[@AHappyBlackGuy]

Yeah like Jeff is always a very outwardly hostile person to literally everyone and beats Brenda in front of everyone. Not to give abusers credit but that’s stupid even for trash like him. They coulda gave him a bit of character like have him be friendly with people that aren’t Brenda like Peter and Joe, maybe show him unhappy at his job or maybe he had a messed up childhood and abuse is normal to him or something cause not every abuser is so obvious like that. It’s also hilarious that Joe says he can arrest Quagmire for saying he wants to kill Jeff when Jeff beats Brenda right in front of him.

[@lukespillman1313]

Exactly! If you're going to tackle domestic violence/domestic abuse in your show, do it correctly.

[@Dip-Star-1489]

Also didn’t help that Brenda was Quagmire’s sister and that Quagmire was the one who got rid of Jeff. It feels wrong since Quagmire is shown to also be an abusive person in the sexual sense so it’s like you need another abusive person to get you out of the old abusive relationship. It’s somewhat hard to explain.

[@delphoxhoopa7289]

I think the worst part of Brenda's story is she never got proper closure. Jeff being murdered robbed her of the chance to have a realization that Jeff is awful to her and she deserves better, which is a necessary realization that victims need to have to break the cycle. Combined with her brother and his friends, one of them being a *COP,* she would've had a way to get away from Jeff safely and had proper support for herself and her baby while she recovers. But since he was killed, she was still stuck in that Stockholm Syndrome mindset, which means she would've either got with someone just as bad, if not even worse than him at least, or basically would've completely mentally shut down both from being a struggling single parent and no longer having the person who emotionally manipulated and threatened her into completely revolving her life around him at worst. And since her next appearance clearly showed her dead, it's naturally going to make the audience come to the worst conclusions, and that's without wondering what ended up happening to her baby after she died. Brenda's entire arc was a complete mess, and one of the worst "domestic abuse episodes." I've ever seen on a TV show.

[@valtheemokid4005]

It's so weird how they randomly killed her off. At the reveal of her death was so weird too

[@alexvaughan1013]

When does Brenda die?!

[@delphoxhoopa7289]

@@alexvaughan1013 The episode called Coma Guy.

[@valtheemokid4005]

@@alexvaughan1013 When Peter was in a coma and he was about to go on a ghost ship.(if he did, he would've died in the coma) On the ship was every character that was killed off like Mayor West and Peter's boss but it showed Brenda too, apparently showing that she died off screen.

[@MrBrandonStar]

The writers really don’t know how abuse works

[@aduckofsomesort]

Friendly reminder that the victim does not need to file a complaint if an officer has witnessed the crime.

[@ZionKraze]

If Screams of Silence: The Story of Brenda Q was meant to be a PSA, it's kinda a slap in the face when the last episode Seahorse Seashell Party was right BEFORE it.

[@rebal180]

Family Guy has a history of making hypocritical episodes. Like when Peter's sister came to visit and she turned out to be his personal bully. Then the episode tries to frame him as a victim despite the fact that he bully's his own Daughter.

[@vanapirarayne738]

That episode was supposed to give you an understanding of why Peter treats Meg the way he does. He sees her as his sister. That what the episode was supposed to be about.

[@TerraJ-ug6nc]

@@vanapirarayne738 watching these videos and reading the comments shows me that a lot of ppl don't pay attention and just want tho be offended

[@vanapirarayne738]

@@TerraJ-ug6nc Yes. That's so true.

[@icecreamhero2375]

Its a little bit hypocritical that they played abuse straight when abuse is typically done as a gag in this show especially when Meg is being abused, but when you think about it its perfectly in character for the Griffins to worry about someone they barely know and ignore the abuse going on in their own house. Poor Meg she is always ignored.

[@roberttreacy8271]

“A little bit”?

[@Kayla-et3uk]

They are, sadly, on point about the police bit. They do always step in or do something until it’s too late.

[@seeleunit2000]

Yep, pretty much.

[@humanwolf1984]

That's kinda why the only relationship I want is with a Dog dog's would die Defending you while another person would either would do something if they want to protect you. 😢😡🐕😇

[@KvngLeroy1]

​@humanwolf1984 are you saying you tryna date dogs? I pray you aren't

[@greygaston1263]

That’s only because abusers tend to hide their true nature, but Jeff doesn’t need to do any of that because the show just wants to make the police look as useless as joes legs!!!!

[@johnynoway9127]

​@@humanwolf1984except most dogs need training to be of any use outside of lazyness and comfort. Most dogs cant protect you unless you train them to do so. Or it can be the opposite and you get a really nasty dog who bites everyone.

[@clarahesse3970]

There actually could be a confrontation for Quackmire here. Like, imagine if part of how she ends up with men like this is because her example of men where men like Glenn. We know Ida was off at War, so if she for example was his little sister, and a lot younger then him, then he would be her model for what a man is. She could even know what he’s doing is wrong, but her only other example of a man is, is a rapist.

[@starcherry6814]

Thats a brilliant idea!!

[@TerraJ-ug6nc]

... Quagmire is a navy pilot he may not have been at war but he was gone

[@1slayer959]

2:18 This here is part of why the quagmire hate towards brian is unearned. Where does quagmire get off preaching to brian about women being objectified. He's a rapist. If that wasn't his sister, she very much would be receiving the abuse brian implied. It's just the plot bending over backwards to make brian seem insensitive. When really quagmire just has a very short fuse

[@katherinetressler1508]

Honestly, I always saw Quagmire's hatred towards Brian being caused by the fact that Brian lives with Lois, sleeps at the foot of her bed, and was allowed to hump her leg in one episode. Quagmire is just jealous and made up a bunch of hogwash to make his hatred justifiable

[@iceluvndiva21]

THANK. YOU! I seriously can't understand why people excuse quagmire yet dump on brian.

[@TerraJ-ug6nc]

Who did he rape? When? And no she wouldn't have like who did Quagmire ever beat up and then have sex with? And even if that's true that means he can't hate Brian for the reasons he hates Brian?

[@lindsayshanks7555]

​@@iceluvndiva21 as screwed up as it is it's mainly because of the way Quagmire's offensive behaviour is framed. It's framed as a joke so it's easier to laugh off - which is exceptionally stupid, it really should be consistent across the board, not just for Quagmire

[@elliottpak]

@@lindsayshanks7555It’s also because people keep saying that Quagmire is “honest” about his actions.

[@E-rational]

The Cleveland Show also had their own domestic abuse episode (Buried Pleasure) and even that episode was probably done a little better than this episode. Holt realized he was being abused and even tried to put his foot down and stop it. Cleveland, Tim, Lester, and Terry tried to end the abuse once they realized Holt was being abused. The roles were even reversed with Joan being the abuser and Holt the victim.

[@nekonomicon2983]

24:18 The one time the "Shut up, Meg." gag line would've worked.

[@45darkrai]

Wasn’t this episode literally after “Seahorse Seashell Party” where Meg rightfully called out her family for all the abuse they caused her only for the end of it to take it all back for the sake of her being a lightning rod?

[@JustinB6699]

Yep.

[@ZoobiethePopplio]

Well, that explains why Meg gave the worst advice at the intervention.

[@peterversionone]

Every video essay of Quagmire and Brian and Quagmire’s hatred of Brian. They never say what truly started it. And they always say it started with that episode. I think it started with the episode New Brian. Brian was staying with Quagmire, and all he asked was not to insult this woman coming over. Stewie insulted her, and Quagmire blamed Brian. And if you think about it, there was never an episode after that Quagmire hung out with just Brian. If Peter was around, he swallowed his pride if Brian was already with Peter. Stewie caused Quagmire’s hatred

[@TerraJ-ug6nc]

THIS!

[@estebangutierrez160]

Yeah but even then, there are other reasons why Quagmire hates Brian.

[@somebvnny]

I hate how this episode can't decide if it wants to be serious or comedic. It _wants_ you to take it seriously but still tries to make jokes at Brenda's expense, even while her boyfriend is beating her. Seriously, they wrote Jeff like a bratty little kid purely for comedic purposes. (and its not funny). You can mix serious topics with jokes, but this episode is not a good example of how to do that.

[@Anonymous-bi5pv]

"People" like Jeff DO actually act that way though, like bratty little kids. Abusive men are constantly coddled and babied by society, very rarely are they held accountable.

[@smartboy201]

Without the standard cutaways or even characters, the scene with Lois and Brenda comes off as almost _chilling._ This is because the jokes no longer bounce off of anyone who might set up a cutaway, so lines like "You don't see how soft and gentle he hits me when we're alone!" just come across as a result of potential brain damage from the beatings she receives. I can almost imagine that if Peter was there, it would've lead to some quip about him wondering how you'd beat someone soft and gently, leading to him imagining Jeff using Sock'Em Boppers. Something like that, but instead we just get Lois playing it straight and letting the horror override any comedic value in the line.

[@rodrigobueno8652]

The worse is when it try to b serios we have thin like puting all blame on brenda

[@sleepy_cinnabun]

@@Anonymous-bi5pvmy ex gotta way with it because he was “handsome” and the ‘that’s my little brother he doesn’t know better” I was in that abusive relationship for five years. I was shunned by my family for staying with him but he literally brain washed me to always think about him and only care for him. I was like Brenda and honestly this episode as an abuse survivor is not that bad, it’s showing real tough shit. I was 18 when I was with him I left finally at 22,

[@RayvenLunaNite]

I was a victim of d.v by both a parent and a spouse. It is a horrific thing, even worse when those around you become complicit and don't do or say anything. Luckily I survived.

[@LuckyPigeon1111]

I hope you're okay.

[@RayvenLunaNite]

@@LuckyPigeon1111 very much so with a happy family I've made with a wonderful man

[@mathieuleader8601]

I would made the fact that Brenda is staying with Jeff because his wealth is paying for Brenda's daughter Abby's cancer treatment

[@blueraccoon1088]

As much I can connect the dots I don't think so remember she could be Gary's daughter little lady. maybe he can't go bc he's deaf and Glenn volunteered since he can't hear her

[@anthonyluclarocque1765]

I prefer Jeff Fisher the stoner to Jeff Finkelman the abuser

[@Aye-McHunt]

His name isn't Finkleman. It's Feicalman, as in Feical Matter. Or, to put it another way, A Shit Man. Because Jeff really is a shit boyfriend.

[@shanefraley827]

Yup! This episode was such a nightmare to watch and everybody knows it! I think the main reason why they didn't give Jeff the intervention instead of Brenda is because they were too scared of him. And when Joe told Jeff to put the gun down, he was stunned when he did as he was told.

[@shadowleon659]

This episode was just insulting and disrespectful to people who were once in abusive relationships. Jeff was so over-the-top and stupid that it was impossible to take him seriously as a villain, none of the characters did anything until the climax to stop him from abusing her, Quagmire victim blamed his own sister and despite Jeff abusing Brenda in front of Joe he didn't even bother arresting him on the spot. To add insult to injury, it's later revealed that Brenda randomly died from what I read on Family Guy's wiki because I still refuse to watch anything modern Family Guy related. I mean South Park, King of the Hill and even Courage the Cowardly Dog did this concept far much better. Overall, fuck this episode and I'm thankful that I never have to watch it again

[@greygaston1263]

To make things worse, I also want to point out that both of quagmire’s parents are still around, one of them is willing to fuck a judge so that her son can get away with fucking minors, and the other is a main character, and yet neither of them were in this episode, that just shows how little Brenda was loved by her own family!!!!

[@seeleunit2000]

Yep, it's a bad episode and it handled the message on domestic abuse badly.

[@skeebas_2541]

She didn’t die, she appeared in one of Peter’s hallucinations with other deceased characters

[@Geshtar82]

Maybe Joe thinks it's normal to be like that remember when he arrested Lois gave her a beating but didn't show any bruises and he speaks normally until Lois says she understands then he says Shut up something something just as cringe-worthy as this then strikes her 3-5 times with his big fists.

[@matti.8465]

The main problem with this episode is that they wanted to have their cake and eat it too, meaning they wanted to do an emotional episode about abuse while also wanting to make jokes about it. So we end up with this weird episode where the victim is portrayed realistically and the abuser is a cartoony joke. I actually don't mind them choosing Quagmire for this, it humanizes the character. Family Guy is an episodic series, what Glenn did before is only relevant if we see it in the episode itself.

[@nanopanda]

Honestly? The joe inactivity could be more realistic if jeff was a police officer. A lotta cops protect each other even when they're violent and the arc could test quagmires friendship, joes motivation for being in the police force and how brenda is on the outside looking in on jeff being cool with everyone

[@RubyGirl378]

Sweet dee the giant bird.

[@johnmartin298]

My issue is Brenda never grew beyond being a victim. She didn’t leave or attempt to fight back, Glenn killed him and lied about it to her. Could’ve been a triumphant moment where she learns to stand up to him in whatever way she could. Plus I think in episodes like this, jokes just don’t work. This is real shit, and you don’t wanna mess up the tone every 5 minutes with comedy

[@StarViewer68]

It would have been so satisfying to have it be Brenda who killed her abusive boyfriend. Maybe after finding both her brother and boyfriend gone, Brenda follows her gut instinct and looks for them, somehow finding them in the woods. Then seeing her boyfriend choking Quagmire, she shoots him to save her brother (maybe she had a gun in her purse just in case she needed to use it). Because Brenda now sees that her boyfriend isn’t just hurting her, but her brother who she loves and couldn’t bear to lose. So she makes her decision, which simultaneously frees her from her abuser and help save her brother.

[@nicholassims9837]

Anyone else noticed how much more backbone Brenda was in her first appernce by tellign Jeff to shut up and leave her alone

[@DarthJoshReturns]

This episode reminds me of the anime Your Lie In April. In that series, the protagonist is a piano prodigy who was turned off of playing because his mother was a massive Stage Mom and would violently beat him if he ever went off-key. However, throughout the series, he is often beat up for comedy because "anime," and he was essentially harassed and guilt tripped into playing piano again. That show handled abuse with about as much maturity as Family Guy did.

[@fyrewatermelons]

My gawd Quagmire's family is messed up. The only sane one is Ida.

[@claymathewselevator8121]

His brother Gary

[@Maw0]

​@@claymathewselevator8121 Has he ever appeared?

[@juliaboskamp9666]

@Maw0 no thats why he is the only sane one

[@Aye-McHunt]

​@@Maw0The Family Guy writers keep phoning him up with offers but he never answers his phone.

[@Maw0]

@@Aye-McHunt Yeah.

[@Rangnathebloodedge]

He only cares when it suits him

[@SrMechaGojira93]

Funny thing is - this was the episode that made me give up on Family Guy There’s a few exceptions I did watch: • Back to the Pilot • Save the Clam (Jerome returns and Horace dies) • the Valentine’s Day episode (I got baited because of the description mentioning Brian’s ex girlfriends) • the Brian-Vinny trilogy

[@alexvaughan1013]

Family Guy failing female characters? Alliterative and all too common.

[@soulessdarkangel]

Brenda deserved better. The guy she was seeing was a terrible person. I can see why they killed the guy off in this episode.

[@ryanmatthews3609]

but at what cost?

[@Ixapter]

I had no idea she was on that boat! I guess that was their way of saying that they never want to have anything to do with her ever again.

[@aliahduiker7998]

My least favourite part is Brenda never got any closure or whatever you would call it. She never really learned that she deserved better and the way Jeff treated her was obviously not okay. Like it’s great shes not longer with Jeff, but realistically I’d think she would get right back into a relationship like that. Poor girl left still thinking she still needed to be “corrected”.

[@RyanPancakes]

I mean I can only speak to my own experience in my own abusive relationships but I did not get closure. The first one drove me to try to become unalive and my family took me out of the situation while I was hospitalized and away from him. To this day he will off and on try to get back into my life and I have tried my best to avoid him to keep my peace. My second ended because she found someone else and abandoned me so not only did I experience abuse for 2 years but then I was thrown away like garbage when she was done using me and 6 months later I still feel unlovable and worthless (I’m in therapy so I am working on these feelings). Her getting into another abusive relationship and dying by his hand or her unaliving herself are probably what did happen realistically unless she did go to therapy and work on herself.

[@vicentemondragon1726]

The idea that the police being able to do nothing without the victim when abuse is very obvious and even witnessed by a police officer to make it worse is completely untrue, even if an individual does not press charges the state can.

[@GenieVillain26]

"They're more toxic than the elephant's foot at Chernobyl". I've got to use that one at some point.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

Honestly I like Joe normally but here it feels like the fact Glenn's thought crime lead to a stronger reaction than when he watched a man beat up a woman, has me thinking he has a bias towards abuse victims that aren't proactive in leaving. A lot of people are like that preaching 'well if you stay with an abuser you don't deserve sympathy'. Hammered home when at the end of the episode he admits he considers her to be garbage

[@RanterInShades]

I keep expecting Mr. Enter to appear somewhere in this episode.

[@goreweeb4566]

Kitty handles serious topics, and a lot of other things for that matter better than Mr Enter tbh.

[@elliottpak]

@@goreweeb4566 Mr Enter was a lot more quicker with review and dished out some really hard hitting points (He was spitting FACTS when he said “All domestic abuse is bad. Not all domestic abuse is on this level.”). Plus, his anger is arguably far more justified here than in his old SpongeBob reviews, and I really liked how he called the episode a pathetic attempt at winning an Emmy. Also really appreciated how he put a disclaimer that he was going to get VERY pissed off at the beginning of the review, and how he made a separate video further explaining his thoughts on the episode! And I really love how he pointed out that family guy has been doing this kind of domestic abuse stuff for comedy for YEARS, thus can not try and make a serious episode about it, how every time Family Guy tried to be serious since “Not all dogs go to heaven”, it has failed miserably, AND how he brought up the cutaway gags as a reason as to why he can’t take the episode seriously. However, Kitty was also really precise with analyzing this episode and despite making far more jokes compared to Mr Enter, still made sure to treat domestic abuse as a dead serious problem and even gave her viewers a hotline for domestic abuse violence just in case. She even suggested some far better alternatives to what happens in the episode and other changes that could have improved it,which is greatly appreciated when critiquing media. Also loved how she REALLY tore apart Quagmire in this episode, even bringing up how Quagmire prioritized scolding Brian over an insensitive remark more that trying to stop Jeffery from _beating the absolute shit out of Brenda_ in a previous episode. The sheer amount of wisecracks she makes at Quagmire’s expense is amazing and is honestly one of the reasons why I prefer to watch her review more regularly, despite loving both reviews. And I really liked how she brought up South Park’s depiction of domestic abuse with Heidi and Cartman, and compared it with this episode, stating what South Park got right and what Family guy got wrong. Overall, the two reviewers have different approaches to criticizing this episode. Mr Enter was absolutely relentless, especially when he got to Quagmire’s speech, while Kitty was calmer but just as critical. I think both of these approaches worked incredibly well, and that both of them did a great job reviewing this episode!

[@baffledbrandon3132]

Having been around abusive assholes my whole life, my biggest problem with this episode is that the abuse isn't realistic at all and is instead so cartoony and over-the-top that it's impossible to take seriously. In all seriousness, though, fuck this episode!

[@OtherBarry4908]

Like Mr enter said, lifetime movies did a better job of portraying domestic abuse than this episode.

[@Rebelheart1985]

It should’ve been focused on Brenda. It’s her situation.

[@danielperez143]

Even though I'm not as big of fan of Mr enter as I used to be, I do love how he completely destroyed Quagmire's speech and called out the hypocrisy

[@elliottpak]

Yeah I absolutely love the part where he pointed out Quagmire is a big hypocrite, like he said EXACTLY what I thought about Quagmire this whole time. Mr Enter has also make it clear that even though he DESPISES Brian, he doesn’t approve of Quagmire hating Brian, as he sees it as an insult to the audience.

[@danielperez143]

@@elliottpak it really is tbh

[@elliottpak]

@@danielperez143Agreed, they could have chose Joe as the character who berates the others since ya know, he’s a POLICE MAN, no SHIT he would be the first to call out others, but no, of COURSE they had to choose the character who is the LEAST likely and LEAST qualified to call out others.

[@ryanmatthews3609]

@@elliottpak who?

[@broistyping]

i wish you were around when i was 11 and knee deep in my family guy hyperfixation, i would have binge watched all your family guy videos

[@tanishamuntslag6369]

So...in this episode the show wants us to forget that quagmire has done worse than Jeff and that we should root for him getting rid of Jeff

[@eddieru]

i called that hotline in the beginning of the premier and they hung up on me??

[@DDarkestKnight]

0:38 It's bad. Imagine hiring a funny actress in a comedy and her only character motivation is to be the abuse victim and nothing else

[@kaijunasan4497]

Was always more surprised why she never showed up again 😮 still the fact she cried even after her ex left means the toxic relationship just really destroyed her mind 😢 also awesome of you to put the domestic v number this really needs to be heard and seen more in the world 👏👏

[@thesupernaturalhouse]

I feel like it wouldve been super good if shed hung around lois and realized that her relationship is not healthy, as dysfunctional as lous and peter ARE they never hit eachother- at least, not consistently like Jeff does to Brenda

[@daddykipperflipper4600]

I have loved these videos since I stumbled across your channel less than a month ago. Congrats on 100K+!

[@Hack_Man_VII]

South Park side note - You know....would it reeeeeally be so bad if Cartman died? How much better would people's lives be if he wasn't around?

[@deeouttabk]

But then the show is boring that’s like them killing stewie or Brian off FG

[@Hack_Man_VII]

@@deeouttabk South Park has no shortage of characters who can drive the plot. We don't need Cartman to keep things from getting boring

[@doedee7973]

Cartman is a multi-dimensional villain who is also hilarious. He helps carry the show

[@AngryKidaardman1998]

Second time quagmire has been written to be in the position of someone morally correct but only makes an ass of himself turning into a massive hypocrite. The first time was him acting like he could call out Brian for his trashy behavior. Once again literally every other character could’ve been in this position to call out somebody whether it be Brian, Jeff or anyone else.

[@elliottpak]

33:34 Jeff really isn’t wrong about Quagmire considering what he said to Brenda in his speech and everything else that Kitty pointed out.

[@alexvaughan1013]

I know Family Guy and my favourite manga Vinland Saga are in no way comparable, but Vinland Saga does a far better job of depicting an abusive 'relationship' with the character Arnheid. Her abuser and slave master, Ketil, even manages to fool the audience that he 'isn't that bad'. But when the chips are down, he shows his true colours. It's absolutely horrifying, and treats the issue with the dignity, maturity and realism it needs. Seriously, go read Vinland Saga. It'll change your life like it did mine ❤

[@alexvaughan1013]

It just hit me. I've talked about Vinland a lot on Kitty Monk's channel. Especially community posts that have mentioned Leif Erikson Day. Funny since Kitty never talks about animanga, let alone Yukimura Makoto's embellishment of history in which explorer Thorfinn Karlsefni sought revenge on a balding Welshman!

[@rainkoro0449]

I'm so sorry, but "It only hurts when I see" always makes me cackle like a hyena

[@Dupontman627]

Peter saw her in his coma adventure

[@JoltYourLife]

I hated quagmires letter to her during her intervention

[@cameronspalding9792]

@ 14:56 This part of the episode made me laugh: ‘This song is from childhood?’

[@jasonmunozjr]

I just love how you said "die" like that!

[@nicholassims9837]

They also could have made Jeff be manipulative like Gaston who had some brains and wasn tjust a brute

[@jodifoster9820]

Yes Brenda did have a choice to leave, they’ll either kill you in the relationship or kill you when you leave, so you might as well die trying

[@BlitzDemonGamer3032]

I'd feel like South Park did it better with the domestic abuse with Cartman and Heidi

[@toomuchsci-fi]

Seth McFarland has a knowledge of musicals like those by Rogers and Hammerstein, and it would stand to reason that he has watched Carousel, where the main woman falls for a carnival barker who beats her and she literally says in the musical that when he hits/slaps her it "feels like a kiss." The worst part is when he is a "ghost" of sorts, he hits his daughter who says it's weird that when he hit her it felt like a kiss. Thus, this musical shows how the cycle of abuse continues. Edit: I always saw this episode as a different retelling of that musical

[@doedee7973]

Not even. The musical made a good point, this did not at all

[@ryanmatthews3609]

@@doedee7973 good point on what?

[@anonymouspatriotnetwork2740]

My black eye is not that bad it only hurts when I see. How do you break your finger, my finger fell down some stairs.

[@TrixyTrixter]

21:00 Moments like these are what makes me love Catherine.

[@cameronspalding9792]

It’s legal to abuse your partner but not legal to talk about murdering the abuser!!!

[@robbyw.8616]

Two video premieres at the same time!? Let's go.

[@nicktaylor2657]

Surprised Jeff hasn't come back It could be a I know what you did last summer type episode 🤔

[@ryanmatthews3609]

i wonder.

[@lillordakira9752]

33:34 They could've gave Jeff a gun with blanks or no ammunition in case he figured out the plan.

[@WeebGuru6]

I’ve noticed this type abuse where the victim isn’t at fault and doesn’t need to change only works between a parent and a child because objectively the child couldn’t have done anything or ask for any of this vs if it’s a spouse the victim has to change because they brought that person into their life and if they don’t learn and change it will continue to happen case in point angel dust from hazbin hotel he has to change drastic if he wants the abuse to stop

[@ryanmatthews3609]

but he hasn't.

[@megaduckk2912]

a friend of mine was actually horrifically physically abused out in the open and nobody (not even the cops) cared. it's more common than you think that it happens in the open where people can see. the episode still sucks, but that part isn't even rare. abusers get more bold the longer they're able to abuse their partner and the people around often are victims of normalization through similar methods as the primary dv victim had originally, if not being gaslit as well

[@ryanmatthews3609]

highly unlikely.

[@sleepy_cinnabun]

@@ryanmatthews3609I’m living proof of it they could care less when I screamed from him hitting my thigh. His family didn’t care so please stfu

[@grapeshot]

In front of this 🙀 the cat's like I'm just here🫠

[@darkstar2483]

I know the focus is on Brenda and her star role episode, but the episode she debuted in will always piss me off because of how Quagmire acts towards Brian. Brian isn't the best guy, I know. Hell, he's horrible most of the time. But the way Quagmire blows up at him at the mailbox just seems like overreacting. Brian not knowing that was Glenn's sister is understandable, and given Quagmire's reputation, I gaurantee almost anyone else would have said the same thing as Brian. But Quagmire decides to act openly hostile toward Brian for that comment when anyone could have said the same thing in that context. I don't care if he has legit reasons for disliking the dog, Quagmire was a massive asshole for his comments throughout that episode.

[@axels3188]

I do think Family Guy failed Brenda Quagmire also I wonder if Quagmire’s niece from that Christmas episode is meant to be Brenda’s Baby or His Death Brother’s Kid.

[@shanefraley827]

Well, it was revealed that Quagmire had six brothers in the episode Tales of Former Sports Glory. So, it's possible that his niece Abby is either his deaf brother's child or one of the other five brothers. I think Brenda is definitely Abby's aunt.

[@grapeshot]

Will there be an honest Anakin, who never had the high ground, and that's what led to his very deep sunburn.

[@SeyaDiakite7]

Next you could do an essay on how Kevin Swanson being in Iraq war affected his mental health.

[@Neilhammond64]

I just wanna know who's idea it was to make Family Guy a serious drama. Between Thanksgiving and this, I do not understand the tonal whiplash. Family Guy is a COMEDY! Three act structure should be funny funny funny. This isn't All My Children!

[@Ghostface2252]

I remember seeing this episode when it premiered and I just thought that it was a terrible episode and it makes it double worse because this episode came out right after the infamous Seahorse seashell party were they said Meg was heroic for being abused by her family.

[@DDarkestKnight]

One of if not *THE* worst episode in Family Guy history

[@constructivecriticism6203]

Seahorse Seashell Party is worse imo

[@DDarkestKnight]

@@constructivecriticism6203 That's one episode that can compete with it

[@constructivecriticism6203]

@@DDarkestKnight Or Peter Assment

[@DDarkestKnight]

​@@constructivecriticism6203 Heard about it but I've never actually seen it

[@constructivecriticism6203]

@@DDarkestKnight it’s basically about how “men can’t be sexually assaulted” and that it’s ok for a woman to rape a man if she’s lonely. I’m not kidding

[@arnold20139]

I hate the fact that I have mixed feelings about this episode. I like how Quagmire killed Jeff. Yet I also hate how they portray abuse in a one demsional way.

[@summerathebeach_xo]

Those domestic abuse resources are very important thank you for sharing

[@humanwolf1984]

Kitty the screams of silence opened some unpleasant memories from my little sister's first marriage that was a abusive one kitty monk. 😭😢😥💔❤️‍🩹

[@Lasagna_Garfield_]

That’s so sad I hope she’s safe now 🩷

[@humanwolf1984]

​​@@Lasagna_Garfield_ Yes she is now her new husband is a nice guy just not the one who knows how to read the room though. 😉

[@blueraccoon1088]

15:25 was that a sly 3 reference? It was originally a coffee machine but it's close 😊

[@nexusgiga]

Unfortunately they’re right about the police part. Police can’t do shit if a victim doesn’t call or they don’t eee it. Even if they know it happens

[@BriceInkling138]

I think one thing I like about that episode is the Iraq Lobster cutaway gag. That's it. I'm not bothered to say anything else. Except I find it so two-faced of the Family Guy writing team (yes, by mentioning them, I'm not making this comment as an invitation to harass them at any point at all) to make an episode saying abuse is right when Meg is the one to be used as the family's punching bag, but it's completely wrong when you have someone else like Brenda being abused by a horrible and abusive boyfriend. There's nothing else to know about Jeff or Brenda other than Brenda being an abuse victim (for desperate laughs just to piss people off) and Jeff being the one note jerk who abuses her for his own desire or because he's the way he is. We don't know how Jeff started abusing Brenda and the fact it's kept as some mystery or some sort is just poor character writing. Even for an adult comedy like Family Guy.

[@MrSupersmash93]

Which one is worst scream of silence or the hurricane one?

[@TrixyTrixter]

Hey Kitty, I would once more like to request you allow Catherine to do an episode. I really like her personality and feel like her side role is really not allowing her to grow as she could on youtube.

[@matthewwisdom9933]

Like they're right the people would say that this is not about Family Guy failing Peter

[@ryanmatthews3609]

35:33 love this expression he makes like his fall to his death.

[@TheHeavyshadow]

I think almost any topic can be handled both serious and comedic at the same time. There is just one very important detail: At whose expense is the joke? Or rather: What EXACTLY is meant to be funny? For example: I like the "engagement ring under the splint"-joke because it feels like a crass hyperbole of the "Deep down he loves me. You just can't see it like I do."-stereotype. It's not making fun of Brenda specifically or abuse victims in general, but instead underscores how flawed that mindset is by sarcastically saying "Nothing says love like an engagement ring on a broken finger!" The funny thing here is the juxtaposition of two obviously contradictory things by taking the stereotypical mindset to a ridiculous extreme, NOT something like "She's too stupid to see he abuses her, haha!" Similiarly: The "It's police policy. We can't step in until it's too late."-line makes fun of the police doing too little in these situations, not the abuse or abused themselves. For an example I find less well made: The "Shut up and limp! We're in a handycapped spot you [WAH]!" There it kinda tips over the line into "making fun of the abuse itself/ making the abuse funny"-territory. Which could be "fine" (relatively speaking) in a purely comedic episode, but in one that tries to be serious at times, that's really not a good look.

[@ShadyRK9]

UGH! THIS IS MY LEAST FAVORITE FAMILY GUY EPISODE!!! (next to the Hurricane episode!) 💢

[@redjirachi1]

Mr Enter: Oh yeah, it's all coming together

[@icecreamhero2375]

How to save this episode. End it with this joke. ( Peter is sitting on the Couch) *Peter:* I'm glad Brenda isn't being abused anymore and things are back to being peaceful around here. I'm gonna go get a beer, why am I talking out loud? ( Peter gets up and it is revealed that he was sitting on Meg the whole time and she is flattened like a pancake.) *Meg:* So they do a whole epsidoe about Quagmire's sister getting abused but ignore my daily abuse. I get no respect around here I tell ya no respect.

[@rachelpogue66]

I don't remember her name ever being said as being Harriet?

[@SarcasticPossum]

Nice opening reference.HaHaHa!

[@kateswift3254]

13:15 I wish I was kidding my sister went through the same situation where her ex reacted the exact same with our brother

[@GumSkyloard]

As a Portuguese guy, I'll admit. I was a little bummed with the Portuguese fishermen started speaking Brazilian Portuguese. Like, come on, they couldn't get 2 guys from Portugal? Also, love how you actually *did* try to speak Portuguese. And yeah, the whole Brenda arc is gross, and they handled it horribly.

[@gamemasternintendoo]

If people die from doing what Quagmire did in this episode, it wouldn’t be their blood on your hands.😏

[@bsanchez3563]

Sweet Dee. Huh I wonder if x was formerly called called twitter based on tweedy bird or tweedy birc loc. Edit: Da,n gotta admit it that it is imo an undeniable, that this episode/vid hits and like a hornet can sting over again, and bites simultaneously and does not let go.. that really digs into the feels. Legit imo

[@ryanmatthews3609]

26:52 and in his mind if he couldn't/can't be happy then no one could.

[@zahwon6351]

They could have made him traumatised because Jeff was raised on an abusive home. And so he doesn't know what his doing isn't right. And then having Harriet express she wants to help cause of her family history. It could go 3 ways from there. 1 Jeff leaves cause he recognises that what his doing is no better than what he went through. 2 Harriet leaves and finds herself. 3 the original plot

[@ryanmatthews3609]

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[@josaicmosaic]

double upload whar???