How Gen Z Deals With Stress

[@joshuabenton3785]

I love how everyone claps when he says “why are you burnt out???” Then they hear the answer the person has and it’s legitimate…and they suddenly realize they probably should have not clapped…

[@TimothyCHenderson]

Got that vibe too. He trailed off at the end there to a very quite audience.

[@bayou_cat7679]

Agreed! They were laughing as though to say 'right? weak little bastards', and it is so not what he meant.

[@joshuabenton3785]

@@bayou_cat7679 precisely

[@mega11ee77]

So true. I hope all the people in the audience that clapped felt very embarrassed.

[@vegetossgss1114]

Stress is fairly related to work. And work is very important for us and for the overall society. However, working 5 days a week during 40 years or more is too much. 2 centuries ago, life span was much lower, so the comparison to old times is not relevant. I'll definitely say that youngsters want a better work/personal balance and more free time to enjoy life (and participate to the economy through consumption, as stores, cinemas and restaurants usually make most of their sales during the week end). That's why the best answer, in my humble opinion, is to propose to all workers the possibility to switch toward a 4 days week work, as some European countries are currently experimenting. This should concern blue collar jobs as well as white collar jobs, even in prestigious industries such as consulting and finance. This 4 days a week schedule can take different forms, and result in a reduction of the monthly salary, or not. Personally, I would easily accept a stimulating and challenging job with a 4 days per week schedule, even if I have a 20% lower compensation. It is worth it, and I'll be highly motivated in the long run.

[@dunyamedia]

I don’t think personal life has gotten worse and infected the workplace, work has taken up more and more space and taken over and hollowed out personal life. None of the “good old days” people had email at all, let alone dealing with email after hours and being expected to be permanently on call

[@AryonaSamoto]

Agreed, the pursuit of capitalism has created the hustle culture that sees the youth crumble beneath the pressure. How can the younger generation know how to connect in a healthy way when the culture and family dynamics have only ever showed them unhealthy ways

[@joshualane1716]

I think this is a more fair interpretation. I work three part time hourly jobs (because none of them are willing to put employees on even at 30 hours a week, let alone pay a living wage), and I get after-hours texts and calls from all of them. Furthermore, I think it’s bizarre to point to the behaviors of the like the 1950s as ideals to aspire to. We’re not emotionally un-equipped to handle the stresses they dealt with: the stresses have gotten more complicated, infected more areas of our lives. Not to mention we’re better at expressing ourselves and more willing to seek out therapy and emotional help from the people around us - which will make us stronger than bottling everything up and taking it out on our spouses and kids when we get home.

[@sushmitamukherjee8502]

YES! working hours have gone up to 12 hours a day atleast in the industry I am connected with

[@kubli365]

@@joshualane1716 so great that we're able talk about our problems and feelings to someone who doesn't really care and needs to be paid after

[@matimoi]

EXACTLY THIS.

[@MichaelHarto]

As i grow older, i realize that the newer generations are not worse than the ones before. He's right, the world IS different now. They have to deal with it differently from the way we did before. We as the older ones have to be able to realize, adapt, and nurture them to their true potential. They don't suck, if you feel they do, that means you failed as a leader.

[@mfz8580]

there are no generations that are inherently worse or better then other generation. Those people who thinks there are are just having an ego so fragile they make the desperate attempt to boost it by telling themself they are the better generation.

[@pappapoppa]

Michael. Explain to me why you cant own a home in comparison to the older generations that could? Explain to me why we carry a 100x debt level on education? Wake up Michael. These are NOT inflation adjusted values.

[@Peter-uo9km]

Nah they really do suck. The most bland and talentless generation are the newest batch. Ugly too.

[@s0nnyburnett]

They've been nutured and coddled too much that's the problem. No amount of understanding will satiate their demands, their entitlement is off the charts.

[@pappapoppa]

@@s0nnyburnett Basic affordable housing is a demand? Printing cash to such extremes is a demand? Poor allocation of resources? crumbling health care? you want to know what's actually embarrassing? the individuals of the older generation who had an easy economy and still failed to create wealth. "entitlement". we are inheriting a world destroyed by your generation. Please. Spare us your mental retardation. .

[@zombiekiller390]

Right there in the audience is the main problem when they applauded at "Why are you burnt out". The dopamine rush of belittling a generation for its shortcomings is of more importance than understanding how it came to be and offering a better solution.

[@mynameisreallycool1]

Exactly. I can guarantee you that they completely missed the point of the speech completely and just heard "Man said gen z is lazy! Yay let me clap because I'm a sheep and I also didn't pay attention to the entire speech because I have a short attention span!" Then felt like idiots afterward when the guy continued talking. Lmao

[@Christian-en6lk]

I know. I get so frustrated whenever older generations make fun of young people for having a mental breakdown from stress. I’m very fortunate that my parents taught me that there is more to life than just work and making money. But for a lot of people, it’s been so ingrained in them that if they’re not enjoying work, then life is utterly meaningless.

[@imathumb]

@@Ace11113 he lacks empathy? 🤔 he literally said world conditions are insane - "these poor kids". From experience, as a 38 year old, i can tell you that the generations ahead of you are actually a lot younger than you think. we got unloaded with this train wreck too (millenials/gen x), and have just had to grow up watching our parents do nothing about it (i was panicking as a 10yr old in 1994), until we're finally of an age where we're starting to take over...and then a new generation grows up and thinks we didn't try to stop it (we havent had a chance yet) 😔 all the selfish old oligarchs and oil magnates like trump are still ruining everything for everyone, the very oldest generation that are just starting to die out. we're on your side.

[@imathumb]

that could be it, but they could also be laughing out of exasperation, because the couple of generations before Gen Z have also been grappling with this bullshit situation for a long time. we certainly didn't create it, we just inherited it a little sooner than you. it sucks for everyone and i think it's just sympathetic cynicism, like...we KNOW. now we've got a new generation screaming at us, before we've had a chance to even take over from the last one and try to fix anything 😪

[@flippertygippert]

The idea that their applause is about belittlement is a presumption on your part. For some, I’m sure that’s true, but not for all or even necessarily most.

[@tumblergal]

It's funny cause before the pandemic I think a lot of people accepted that they might spend the rest of their lives in the corporate world or in a job they don't particularly like but pays the bills. However, after the pandemic a lot of people are realizing how fragile life is and how short our time on earth is that sometimes staying in a job you hate and being loyal to it when it isn't to you is just not worth it anymore.

[@vegetossgss1114]

Stress is fairly related to work. And work is very important for us and for the overall society. However, working 5 days a week during 40 years or more is too much. 2 centuries ago, life span was much lower, so the comparison to old times is not relevant. I'll definitely say that youngsters want a better work/personal balance and more free time to enjoy life (and participate to the economy through consumption, as stores, cinemas and restaurants usually make most of their sales during the week end). That's why the best answer, in my humble opinion, is to propose to all workers the possibility to switch toward a 4 days week work, as some European countries are currently experimenting. This should concern blue collar jobs as well as white collar jobs, even in prestigious industries such as consulting and finance. This 4 days a week schedule can take different forms, and result in a reduction of the monthly salary, or not. Personally, I would easily accept a stimulating and challenging job with a 4 days per week schedule, even if I have a 20% lower compensation. It is worth it, and I'll be highly motivated in the long run.

[@supernerd4623]

@@vegetossgss1114 100% agree with this, I keep seeing articles about this more and more frequently (like almost weekly at this point) and only see indicators of an INCREASE in measured productivity, usually around 40% more done in a 32-hour week. Can't be a coincidence.

[@abrilalecatalan]

Yes!!

[@supernerd4623]

@ALL PODS BITE HOWARD the boss can screw himself, there's plenty of others out there and the age of being able to treat workers like shit and generating more profit is winding down. Hardass boss doesn't get no loyalty, soon as the expertise of their underlings is in short supply globally their team is screwed.

[@supernerd4623]

@ALL PODS BITE HOWARD managers forget that skilled and experienced workers are a valuable resource and should be treated as such, they're not paperweights that get things done when you yell at them.

[@redred7702]

“Why are you burnt out?” *intense clapping followed by intense regret* As someone in Gen-Z, I would say you hit many of the spots, but not all of it. One the main factors is that the second we get off of social media, we’re left wondering what the fuck we’re supposed to do with our lives. Previous generations practically left a burning world for us to fix (just as their generation has done, and the generations before that generation, and so on and so on), and proceed to complain about how sensitive we are. We are a very globally connected generation due to technology and social media. We have access to so many perspectives, and we have to compute ALL OF IT before making any decision instead of mindlessly parroting what propaganda is being delivered. We’re expected by our peers and our elders to be better, but no one knows exactly what “better” is anymore. We’re constantly trying to put our voices out there, to make ourselves heard so that progressive change CAN happen, but are then pushed down by some guy in their 50s for being “young, ignorant, inexperienced and uneducated”. (Edit: oh goodness this was not an attack on people in their 50s. I’m so sorry, I adore my parents and they’re in their 50s. This was supposed to be an attack on people who believe that older means better and say stuff like “youth is wasted on the young”.) It’s not ONLY because we aren’t equipped to deal with stress. The wide-spread acceptance of mental health barely even existed until recently, so I doubt the older generations were better than us at stress-managing either. We simply no longer chose to deal with it by drinking it away and pretending it doesn’t exist (edit: we chose to deal with it by drowning ourselves in the lives of others and are overly aware of it’s existence instead. Both cases are terrible choices I would say). Edit: This is all from my personal experience and observations from those around me. It is a select sample, but certainly a sample that exists. You can’t blame social media for everything. It plays a roles in the ever degrading mental health of the general population, but please stop tunnel visioning on one issue that makes up a much, much larger issue that can’t easily be fixed with “just take their phones away”. I don’t have a solution as much as I wish I did.

[@SukacitaYeremia]

The older generations thought giving their kids more choices in their lives would be good. Well, it was good up to a point and then it wasn't. Well, not with what we've been equipped with to chip at it anyway, things can still change.

[@tuc_mage]

i agree

[@malamute17.]

I completely agree

[@waykeeperfarmandnerdery]

Preach❤

[@jamais_vu3]

100% agreed

[@TimothyCHenderson]

After working retail for 20 years (Gen X/Y bi-cuspal here) and dealing with mostly young people, Gen Z is no more conflict avoidant then Millennials were as I've worked with both. Teenagers and younger 20 somethings are just coming out of their adolescence which is the time in your life when you're told what to do by those older than you be it parents or teachers. Young people are expected to follow the rules and not push back, that goes for all generations. It takes time to build up one's professional confidence no matter the cohort. As for communication, I think older generations often overlook how connected GenZ are to their friends at all times. That's what always shocked me about young people and social media compared to when I was young. All the people I chatted with online back in the 90's where from all over the world, none of them were my friends irl. All my school friends and childhood friends either didn't have access to computers or didn't use the internet like we did. While kids might not be seeing their friends psychically as much as we did, they are connected at all times via text and social media by a phone they carry with them everywhere. That level of connection gives me anxiety even as a 43 year old.

[@el864]

As a Gen Z, I absolutely agree with you first point- like all the ‘issues’ he talks about affecting gen z - emotional vulnerability/immaturity, conflict avoidance (especially with older adults!), a lack of perseverance ect, are all very much traits of young people in general, something I’m really hoping people tend to grow out of lol. In terms of communication, personally I just dislike text as such a abstract form of communication, so I’m not texting my friends all the time cause I recognise it would just tire me out, so they know I’m unlikely to be texting a lot. I think much of gen z has less of a reliance on devices as (often fear-mongering) older generations would have you believe, and a lot of the ideas on ‘gen z’ are based on stereotypes and headlines based on a minority.

[@vandy5206]

Gen Z doesn’t deal with stress. We overwork ourselves and try to be the best versions of ourselves at whatever cost until we burn out and give up. Social media only adds to this idea that we have to be perfect and extraordinary. Which I think is why mental illness is on the rise personally. Perfectionism causing eating disorders, the pressure to be the best version of yourself and to not fail causing anxiety and the realisation that this perfect version of life isn’t possible, causing depression. And all the causes of this mental illness are hidden in our subconscious because we don’t know how to deal with the stress, and we push the problems to the back of our mind because that’s all we know.

[@WesleyDechavez]

in short, stress.

[@johnfisher8401]

lol why does everyone in this generation all of a sudden have depression and anxiety? I dont believe it. Everyone has anxiety and stress, thats not a disorder. Everyone has TrAuMa.

[@sophie3869]

THIS

[@CybernerdShua]

@@johnfisher8401 It could very well be that we have gotten better at finding symptoms of depression and anxiety.

[@esausantibanez3702]

Okay, so you recognise things that make you anxious, stressed, and to have an altered version of reality. What are you gonna do about it now that you know this and understand that it bothers you? You say that it is all you know, well get out there and find more to know about, break your bubble.

[@sinnylynny2986]

I also really think part of our generation being so non-confrontational is because of our parents. Every time a lot of us asked something small of our parents it became getting screamed at, or seeing our parents argue to the point of domestic abuse or divorce, so we're hardwired to be afraid of speaking up.

[@books2438]

And there it iiiiiis

[@udontevenwannaknowbruv]

I am afraid of speaking up or demanding more out of fear of being wrong. Growing up with a dad who expects only the best of you and who constantly compares you to other kids does that to you. I was literally taught that mistakes are bad. If I made any mistake he would berate me and ask me ‘aren’t you ashamed of yourself?’ I can’t bear to make mistakes at work and if I do, I won’t be able to accept it and I will beat myself up over it for days. So yeah you’re right. It’s so bad that when my employer eventually took it upon himself to give me a raise, I asked him not to because I didn’t see what good qualities I had and I could only focus on my past faults at work. I still can’t get out of this mindset

[@CybernerdShua]

Perhaps so, but I had parents that were quite stable and didn't do much yelling unless I did something hurtful to another person. Yet I still dislike confrontation. I propose an alternative hypothesis to sit alongside yours: It may be that some of us had parents that were very selfless and instilled in us the idea that we, too, should be selfless. Leading to a feeling that being confrontational is a sign of self-absorption for us.

[@invisibleaccount9284]

@@CybernerdShua I feel like that’s accurate to my experiences too. My family is incredibly selfless. My mom gave everything to raise myself and my sibling as a single mom (she didn’t even get child support, she was and still is almost completely on her own). Her life is so hard and she’s so selfless I’m terrified of doing anything to make her life even slightly harder. Any mistake I make is something she has to deal with. Confrontation meant I wasn’t doing something correctly and again that was something she had to deal with. I can’t speak for anyone else, let alone a whole generation, but between that and the many impending (potentially world ending) disasters, I constantly feel on the brink of losing everything. Losing and getting back up builds strength. Teetering on losing builds fear.

[@shubhampawar8862]

my dad is little ignorant but at least he listens to what I speak thats enough for me whereases by gods divine power I've got great mom , she does make her expectations high (as i was top student ) but don't let them reflect through her face or posture, after pandemic my scores fall like asteroids but though she supported me sometime I just feel I mugged up all my feelings and drank it sometimes i just feel like i don't want to eat because my stomach is already full of those feelings but yet trying something BEST OF LUCK HOMIES lets crack it

[@jamescassar5348]

In my opinion ( I'm a 28 year old male with a child due in December) we really need to limit social media at a young age. I'm a huge advocate for tech being used in education and moving with the times but apps like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Reddit and tinder should be limited to 18+. Giving teens and even worse children the freedom to dopamine enhancing apps at a young age is dangerous and what's crippling society as a whole.

[@WanderTheNomad]

We should encourage and teach kids how to limit social media usage themselves. Because there's not always gonna be someone doing that for them.

[@jamescassar5348]

@@WanderTheNomad I agree but to an extent. I don't believe kids have the mental capacity to control it themselves. Having for example a time frame of one hour per day on social till the age of 12 let's say and then slowly increasing it with monitored conditions should be a concept introduced early on. I see far too many 16 year olds posting bikini shots for likes and by the time they are 18 they're being sponsored by companies to advertise their products. Is that really the best they can achieve?

[@WanderTheNomad]

@@jamescassar5348 limiting social media usage when they're younger combined with teaching them how to manage it when they're older sounds good to me, but I'm not hearing much about the teaching part in your reply. Since you brought up bikini shots for likes as an example, you could ask them why they want the likes, what thoughts/emotions drive the need for likes, what emotions do the likes bring, is it necessary to to prevent those negative emotions/achieve those positive emotions, etc Basically get them to understand their own behavior and the consequences of their behavior so they're motivated to change themselves instead of always needing someone to stop them when they go too far.

[@jamescassar5348]

@@WanderTheNomad likes, subscriber counts and affirmation from others hits the dopamine receptors in our brain. For example, I use social to promote my work in the kitchen ( I'm a chef) and I post regularly on chef pages that promote that kind of work. Having for example a thousand people like your work and commenting on it saying how lovely it looks and what not feels good. Now I can control that simply by limiting my time on my phone and spending more time reading books and by working every day. I believe that raising your kids to love books and reading, validating their opinions and being open with them about the realities of social media that it's all a facade and not how the world works is essential. Teaching your kids that it doesn't matter how many likes you get on your photos but giving value to others does is my take on it.

[@SketchyCrush]

I kind of doubt social media will be as present when our children are older. Almost every major social media company is bleeding money and many were never profitable ever!

[@KJA1775]

I am one of the senior guys at work who comes in to speak to the new employees during orientation. The last thought I always leave them with is to say that, "in my experience, everyone in the company is willing to be helpful, but you have to ask. No one is going to beg you for the right to help you out." They all seem to appreciate that bit of advice.

[@JW-Handle]

Stealing this line, thanks :-)

[@chromiyum6849]

You improved my life by a small but a significant amount. Thanks for that.

[@potatowaffle5653]

Right on

[@noahgmorgan]

Allow me to present my Gen Z work experience: I go to my boss first and stay emotionally professional. I am the one who takes responsibility for myself, goes to therapy, and has other sources of fulfillment. The millennials and Gen Xers on my team are the ones who bring their problems to the workplace, immaturely impose their emotions, and suppress my potential for their own gain. I’m tired of other generations blaming Gen Z for their own bs. They need to accept that they too might be the problem, and that they might not know what’s right for everyone.

[@monocyte2210]

Im a middle aged guy millenial and inagree with you. The boomers and genx in our workplace act like children also

[@nathanfuchs1998]

100% can 2nd this

[@OurgasmComrade]

I'm a 32 year old millennial and just out of curiosity, what examples of mistreatment from other millennials have you experienced? I feel I'm alongside Gen Z'ers relate to them in how I would like to see society improve

[@terrygeer3089]

"suppress my potential for their own gain" I'm most interested in what exactly you mean by this. Every generation has their weaknesses, that's true... but I suspect there is something in this particular statement that needs to be examined.

[@psyaviah]

Don't necessarily blame your co-workers. Blame Simon & HR (medior- and senior management) for cultivating the belief system that you're the problem, or your co-workers are. What Simon says here is uninformed, biased & unscientific. I want to "stress" that there's no scientific basis or research why GenZ would be less good at dealing with stress. It's an invention, of Simon's, that he's putting out there, so others can feel good about themselves - and he can keep his businessmodel going. You should stop listening to Simon, unless he comes with decent scientific research and on top of that some ways to deal with problems at work. He doesn't, he frames generations, because that's the easy way. The guru status he has, he plays out well to stay in business, so ignore him. The best advice I can give - talk to your co-workers, be empathetic. You emotions are you, and you can bring them to your work environment - as well as then other ppl at your place. Sure generations differ, but you'll have to work with them. So talk, don't let someone draw a wedge between it all.

[@Eldrich4291]

As a Gen Z (early 20s atm), I notice what contribute to my stress in daily life is the easy accessibility of news (especially bad news). We are connected to the world 24/7 and it's easy to stumble upon many demotivating info (war, accident, crime), no matter how hard I try to ignore. It's really shaping a bleak view of the world. Dumping away these negative thoughts are another issue because of a fast-paced environment around me, so we didn't really stop, talk, and decompress the negative thoughts we accumulate.

[@JN-wr9he]

Time alone away from it all is key, have to find ways to switch it all off

[@sylviam6535]

Previous generations went through wars they handled it better.

[@kurbiscremesuppe]

How are you affected by war? Did you lose your job, any family members, your home, any body parts? If any of the above, you have my sympathy. Otherwise just stop being a victim.

[@gardenjoy5223]

How about de-connecting for a bit? 24/7 is addiction, not connection. Here's an idea: actually read some books, e.g. by Simon Sinek or on any topic you find interesting. You connect to that one person, who is conveying an idea, and that person doesn't expect you to reply either. Just weigh what is said. Buy the books and make scribbles in them. Underline, place your questions in there. It truly helps on several levels. You reach down to yourself, you have some me-time, you develop your mind and you of course focus on positive books. Wishing you 'good effort' as it beats 'good luck' all the time.

[@davidpolttila5270]

What an enlightening platitude. It's depth and inertia will certainly propel our kind to greatness. "The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households." - Socrates. Mid life crisis has sounded the same for at least two thousand years by my account. Things weren't better when you were younger, and you didn't know what you know now, and your elders said the same stuff about you. You know this.

[@piksween5075]

love that

[@Scipionyxsam]

Patterns do repeat indeed. And compared to what they once were, the Greeks have definetely fallen off. Superfluity does breed a weak character, weak people breed hard times. And that's showing in boomers, gen-xers, millenials and last but not least zoomers. Maybe Sokrates was right after all and the cycle is just repeating itself with the West being in heavy decline.

[@UnicyclDev]

I think he’s confusing actual societal failure. We’re stressed because our rent is higher, wages lower, school debt, actual tangibly is a worse position.

[@joshuabenton3785]

i think its just a both and situation. societal decline plus everything he highlights, which is also a sign of societal decline. its tough nowadays.

[@firepower287]

It's both. Societal expectations and culture has shifted dramatically when compared to the past with the addition of what you are saying above. Are we less resilient? Maybe idk.

[@Welterino]

I agree with you, here in Brazil there is absolutely NO fucking way that you can buy a house or apartment before you are at least old (having worked the entire life may give you a chance). New cars are also rich only, education is extremely expensive, healthcare is expensive. To be honest anything in Brazil is expensive as fuck. I would be 100% dead from hunger or suicide if it wasn't for my parents, It's one of the few countries I know that even if you work 44 hours a week you still can't pay your bills.

[@NoorRazStudio]

I see your point but I think we also have a lot of luxury we take for granted because it's now the norm for many people, e.g. having hot water, heating, instant access to various food and cultures, tech gadgets, rights protected by law, equality, freedom to speak against govt actions, etc. We are arguably one of the most privileged generations the world has ever seen, but I think we are struggling to shed the negativity / sorrow of older generations and maintain awareness of the bigger picture. We are getting there though, and I'm hoping the next generations will be better than us in this regard (assuming humanity lasts until then 🤣)

[@annieothername]

@Noor Raz Studios I think OP’s point is despite the expansion of these “luxuries” many more of us lack access because it isn’t economically viable. It’s soul crushing to work 65 hour weeks* or spilt shifts between 2 part time jobs and a side gig in order to slow the sticker shock of heating costs, from the US to the UK. (*re: big tech companies like Twitter recently announcing a 40 hr work week min, with the CEO often being praised for such actions in his previous pursuits)

[@draconicmeta846]

The other thing about us Gen Z is that our sense of purpose has been completely diminished, you see as a kid you’re told “you can do anything if you work hard” guess what? I took that very advice and year after year I work double or triple the amount of my peers and I can only ever accomplish half of what they could, why is this? Because all systems set in place aren’t here to help you they’re here to weed out those who cannot endure the system I’ve worked hard for 12 years and I just started university this year as a science student and I am more depressed and angry than ever, I was screwed over from the beginning and now I want to switch majors. We need a better system. I digress

[@jemappellemerci]

Yes you’re so right. All through high school I made sure to choose the ‘hardest’ science-y subjects because I thought being in STEM would be fulfilling, make me enough money to live comfortably, etc. Now that I’m in university actually working on getting my degree, I see that it’s not what I’d ideally want to do for the rest of my life. I’m only doing this because I feel like it’s one of those fields I least mind dedicating my life to (rather than the one I’d *want* to dedicate my life to, which for me would probably be psychiatry, which I need a medical degree for, which I can’t get because my grades aren’t all that great, etc etc). I will be exploited, the only thing I have control over is where. Also, STEM doesn’t really earn that much after all 😅

[@draconicmeta846]

@ALL PODS BITE HOWARD wtf does the nfl have to do with anything related to the subject?

[@javierpacheco8234]

@@draconicmeta846 he is showing a sense of humor, I think you take comments way too seriously. 🤔😢

[@draconicmeta846]

@ALL PODS BITE HOWARD bro stfu what exactly do u know? U do realize no matter which direction I go I can’t afford anything right? That’s my point. Not big leagues or any of that bullshit, my point was that even though I put the effort did the work the results at the end will never be there

[@slimvera5373]

@@draconicmeta846 I understand what you're saying but life ain't easy or fair it doesn't mean get resentment or hate life We all struggle I'm sure there's qualified people who have gone through what you're going through at school or online when a road block pops up don't get discouraged keep going You might not see progress in a day, or month but if you keep doing what you're supposed to I promise you'll be successful

[@michellesancartier958]

As you point out, the nature of work is changing. I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing that Gen Z is expecting more from their workplace. We’ve learned the nature of the 9-5, 40 hour workweek, isn’t working great for folks -especially during the pandemic. I absolutely love that Gen Z is demanding more. I agree that they could use more skills around emotional regulation, but I’m not sure that’s generationally unique and think it’s more due to age. I think the empathic response/overextension you mention from older gens is a personal issue with emotional regulation, boundary setting, and codependence -rather than an issue with Gen Z.

[@MNP208]

I was thinking the same thing. I know co-workers in their 40's who display the same behavior. It's a personality traits more than a Gen Z trait.

[@jillsarah7356]

Exactly this.

[@oscarlove4394]

I agree that my generation needs more skills around emotional regulation, i think its something we can and should teach in elementary school but i dont think we're deficient compared to previous generations, i just think the demand for emotional regulation has gone up. There's so much more in the world to panic or be anxious about, i'm not saying the world is significantly better or worse its just that its shoved in our face more how terrible things are. We deal with it at roughly the same speed as previous generations, but the load that's shoved on us is higher and its pushed on us faster, And we dont have the experience and mileage yet that older people do. I feel that most of my generation are failing to cope properly, either letting it get to them and becoming anxious and stressed, or becoming apathetic to suffering and the state of the world. I have several friends who dont care about climate change and so forth, because they strongly feel we're going to be the last generation. And its very common to hear about depression or anxious disorders nowadays which i consider the other end of the scale.

[@vegetossgss1114]

I love your comment Michelle. Stress is fairly related to work. And work is very important for us and for the overall society. However, working 5 days a week during 40 years or more is too much. 2 centuries ago, life span was much lower, so the comparison to old times is not relevant. I'll definitely say that youngsters want a better work/personal balance and more free time to enjoy life (and participate to the economy through consumption, as stores, cinemas and restaurants usually make most of their sales during the week end). That's why the best answer, in my humble opinion, is to propose to all workers the possibility to switch toward a 4 days week work, as some European countries are currently experimenting. This should concern blue collar jobs as well as white collar jobs, even in prestigious industries such as consulting and finance. This 4 days a week schedule can take different forms, and result in a reduction of the monthly salary, or not. Personally, I would easily accept a stimulating and challenging job with a 4 days per week schedule, even if I have a 20% lower compensation. It is worth it, and I'll be highly motivated in the long run.

[@Popi89ferezzx]

I love that the world is legitimately and quantifiably just harder and we're being blamed for recognizing it and reacting.

[@bjjkickboxing7876]

Yeah no the word isnt harder calm down.

[@duckqueak]

@@bjjkickboxing7876 It is literally on fire.

[@bjjkickboxing7876]

@@duckqueak still not harder.

[@phoenixc33]

@@bjjkickboxing7876 No, but it is harder to deal with. We're all exponentially more aware of every single thing happening all the time.

[@menwen959]

@@bjjkickboxing7876 I see the brainwashing worked on you.

[@Wilbyfan]

I think he has it backwards. It's the millenials and gen z that get calls and emails at home late at night and thus can never switch off. It is the workplaces that intentionally create "in between" spaces to hang out with your coworkers (pool tables, breakfast bars, company gyms) so you spend all your time with coworkers and are "nudged" into work talk there, too. At the weekend and in the evenings you end up so tired that church and voluntary work just seem like more stress. And you get paid so little and have so much job insecurity that you can't push back. And even with an academic degree and two jobs we won't be able to afford a house.

[@Misseggy24]

Literally, that was what I was thinking. In my workplaces, I’ve always found us Gen Zs to be the ones who finish a day at work, and then want to immediately leave to go spend our free time with our other social groups, doing things for ourselves etc., whereas it’s the older generations of workers who always want to go out for drinks after work, hang around and chat etc.? No, I want to be able to disconnect from work when I finish it, not lug it around with me and be unable to have time for myself??

[@udontevenwannaknowbruv]

My boss implemented a ‘fun’ way of getting to know our new colleagues by making us go to a nearby cafe with a different colleague every week during our break. We get one break of 50 minutes, what made him think that people are willing to waste their one moment of peace on small talk with a colleague!? I quit after that. It was even more stressful to me as an introvert, I used my break time to eat lunch in silence and recharge from interacting with others all day. Going from that to then spending time with a colleague during break without a moment to myself, it made me exhausted mentally and physically at the end or the day. 😃

[@thaddacusmaximus6706]

I’m 21. The only time I went to dinner instead of straight home was with my best friend since high school (20) who worked with me and two coworkers (both 19). We all didn’t like the job, and we’re the youngest workers by about 5+ years. It was more of friends going to get sushi rather than coworkers blowing off steam after our 10 hour shifts. Only my best friend works there now, but he’s putting in his 2 weeks soon because the company is going down the drain. My mom wanted me to work there because it’s close to home and the pay was good for someone as young as I am. (Part of me thinks it’s because her dad was a factory worker, and I look very much like her dad.) Pay be damned. I’d rather make $12 for 40 and have time after work than make $14 for 40 + 10-15 hours of overtime, but spend the rest of my Saturday sitting in my room doing nothing but gaining the energy to go make lunch. I have no children to support, no wife or girlfriend to go out with, I have no reason to work so many hours other than “money money money!” Even then, I barely had time to go spend the money since I had work till 12 on Saturday and church till 12 on Sunday.

[@bunnehhhh]

THIS. THIS RIGHT HERE. ALL OF IT, EXACTLY.

[@ramspeedmusic]

Yeah, Simon is out here to sell something. Not a fan of him. His gen X generation were at one time deemed “slackers”. Also they were called the “me” generation. I heard my parents talking about it and I remember it being in the media back in the 90’s.

[@ultimatist]

Some good points here, and the data probably supports the generalities. But if you think GenX and Millenials are "emotionally stable" or professional at work, you haven't been in enough offices. They're better at suppressing things, or being passive aggressive for longer, but they blow up spectacularly.

[@krisg5078]

Older people lash out more and say its okay for them to do so cuz they are old 😅😅😅

[@pegmama8]

30 Seconds in: “Gen Z are so aggressive that as an intern they’ll email the CEO about issues” 3 minutes in: “Gen Z are so conflict avoidant that they’ll ghost someone instead of breaking up with them”

[@mfz8580]

feels like hes just saying that so those audience feels like they are the better generation

[@IcePhixia2000]

Do you understand the difference between face to face confrontation vs keyboard warrior? Which is exactly what ghosting is, just block and hide behind a screen.

[@johnfisher8401]

Emailing the CEO is extremely unprofessional.

[@manazyt]

As a profesional Gen Z'er myself, conflicts in person are very different from online. Online I have incredible confidence charisma whatever on voice call etc. But in person, all that just fades away.

[@aura5944]

We’re on the spectrum, all of us!

[@rose_clips]

I like when he said it’s not good or bad, it’s just is. If we only learn that it just is, we’ll understand each other more.

[@TokyoBlue587]

Seems like not being able to handle stress well is a bad thing in this stressful world.

[@grominwithrob1339]

I manage a business. Business is easy, the individual emotions and daily personal drama from each employee is the hardest part.

[@vickyf1168]

Agree with you 100%

[@humantacos9800]

They don’t seem to be able to regulate their emotions at all. They demand empathy for their needs but our unable to give it. That’s a generalization but a definite pattern.

[@violetadams4428]

So I understand the point he is making, but there is a significant problem with the way people address gen z. They talk about us, instead of talking to us. Which is why so much misscommunication occurs. And as far as the willingness to quit/resign, rather than ask for a raise; that has a lot more to do with markets and math than confrontation avoidance. People who change jobs often make between 15-20 percent more depending on the field. And I usually ask for a raise after getting job offers for higher pay to bargain, but it's almost always turned down. Most bosses, unfortunately, are not like Simon Sinek. They won't just give you a raise because you need it and have worked there a while. We also work longer hours, in jobs that are more multifaceted than ever before, for less money, and less buying power than our parents and grandparents did. Part of the reason we switch jobs so often is that we find better jobs, in terms of both pay, and work environment. We have the ability to find work at a much faster rate than the generations that came before us, because of the internet, and we use this to our advantage. Meaning we have less incentive to stick with a job we don't enjoy because we have drastically more financial costs, and access to more career opportunities. It doesn't make financial sense to be at a job where those needs aren't being met. What we, as a society need to be asking is, what is it our companies, especially large corporations, are doing or not doing, that causes such low employee retention rates among gen z. Examples include, low pay, hostile work environment, abusing employee time, harassment, lack of benefits, impromptu schedule changes without notification, no tuition reimbursement/matching, hostility towards disability accommodation. All of these are contributing factors to why we switch jobs often. I do agree that we need more emotional professionalism, but that's not a gen Z exclusive thing.

[@heartsofgold100]

100% agree with every point here

[@Chromeman001]

Glad to know I am not the only one that thought these things. Im a bit older (34) and normally agree or at least see insight with most of Mr. Sineks points. But this one felt a little off the mark, not only in terms of opinion, but just about how he was talking about people.

[@aviannachannel]

!!!!

[@vegetossgss1114]

Stress is fairly related to work. And work is very important for us and for the overall society. However, working 5 days a week during 40 years or more is too much. 2 centuries ago, life span was much lower, so the comparison to old times is not relevant. I'll definitely say that youngsters want a better work/personal balance and more free time to enjoy life (and participate to the economy through consumption, as stores, cinemas and restaurants usually make most of their sales during the week end). That's why the best answer, in my humble opinion, is to propose to all workers the possibility to switch toward a 4 days week work, as some European countries are currently experimenting. This should concern blue collar jobs as well as white collar jobs, even in prestigious industries such as consulting and finance. This 4 days a week schedule can take different forms, and result in a reduction of the monthly salary, or not. Personally, I would easily accept a stimulating and challenging job with a 4 days per week schedule, even if I have a 20% lower compensation. It is worth it, and I'll be highly motivated in the long run.

[@yeetyeet1655]

I think it’s funny when he brings up emotional immaturity. Most of us are teenagers- obviously we’re emotionally immature lol

[@caenir]

He's talking about at work. And offices. He's not referring to those still in school, but those who have passed. Gen Z goes up to 25 now (there are different ranges, but that was the first google result).

[@JN-wr9he]

It’s really strange to point a finger at kids and how they have turned out without looking back as to why i.e. the role of their parents’ generation. I mean if your kid grows up emotionally immature don’t you as a parent bear some responsibility for it, too? And in the case of a whole generation, the same argument stands both individually and collectively.

[@caenir]

@@JN-wr9he Wasn't this the video where he says he's not talking about it because they're bad, but because they're different. I've watched a few of his clips these last few days so might be mixing it up.

[@HKS286]

Not all the audience who is listening to this talk can be called emotionally immature. Also, emotional maturity has very little to do with age.. I've seen teenagers who are more prudent at handling emotions and navigating difficult situations than some so called adults. I feel, he is on point, emotional maturity is not that common.

[@Peter-uo9km]

@J N parents don't raise their children anymore the state does. You spend more time at school than with your family.

[@evasccl7846]

I am one of those empaths who burned out to the point it almost cost me my life as it affected my health... doctors had to order me to stop it all!! I did and i have discovered how important it is to be for myself and how to be for others without attatching myself to their pain, burdens, etc... it takes time to get to the point where you remain that powerful empath healer without absorbing other people's pains AND make time to detox daily... because the world really is in a mess we all contributed to in some way, shape or form! Thanks for making this video!

[@Mgrtimesthree]

How are you working to put yourself higher in priority?

[@angellombness4371]

Brené Brown's process of identifying your values, then doing the hard integrity work of comparing all your behaviors to your values. It's a tough process, a lot of resource & value prioritizing - along with painful realizations, when we hold them up to society expectations.

[@evasccl7846]

@@Mgrtimesthree I learnt to become aware of my limitations and how much I can healthyly manage without loosing myself. I also hold people accountable because the truth is, i was in many ways unaware of those whom come with their load and do NOT help themselves with the advice given... saying no to that cycle was a winner in my case. I have a list of things i get lost in because I love (which i did not know i loved and was good at!) and i make sure that i intentionally take time to indulge in one or two of them daily AND not feel guilty. The truth is, that when we face our own vulnerability and fragility... we get to the root of who we truly are and as we learn to accept and live in harmony with ourselves... we get stronger and better equipped to keep sane healthy and be of help to others without loading ourselves with other's pain and baggage. In a way is like having a crate where as we listen and help others, the baggage is thrown there and it self destructs without distroying you nor the one you are helping 😂😂 Compassion reaches new heights when we learn to apply it to ourselves first, go through it... helps to provide help to others as each case is slightly different. I embrace the fact that each individual is different, has their own individual unique story... and of course, some things we will relate to and often empaths can mirror the other persons downfalls... it is helpful to be aware of projection of others onto you, which requires us first know, understand, accept ourselves!

[@evasccl7846]

@@angellombness4371 It is a painful but necessary process to go through indeed!

[@BarriosGroupie]

Yes, our time and energy is a currency

[@jster4702]

I see a lot of people talking about the tech side of things, but not a lot of discussion about this generation’s lack of community. That, I think, is the main culprit here. As our bonds to one another grow weaker, so too will our sense of purpose and meaning. We’ve reduced our idea of community to what happens at the office, which makes for one dimensional relationships and a one dimensional life. My suggestion? Make some form of mentorship part of the school curriculum. We spend a ton of time on academia, but hardly any on emotional development. Ideally, this would fall on the parents, but as someone who works in the school system I can say firsthand that a large percentage of them are ill equipped to provide anything of the sort. We should teach kids how to start conversations, maintain relationships and navigate confrontation. That’s what will really result in a fulfilling life. But we just keep obsessing over SAT scores and college admissions.

[@gardenjoy5223]

That will certainly help a bit. But lack of purpose is even more important. If you have to work hard to achieve something, and you do not see a deeper meaning in that, that makes it easier to give in and give up. My first 'real' job was kind of boring. Early twenties, still living with my parents. I didn't make all that much money, but I hardly had any expenses. So, on the most boring days I dedicated that entire work day to a good cause. All the money I made that day went as a gift to that cause at the end of the month. Just one example, of course. That purpose held me going.

[@Maria-ok7oe]

i have to thank you. I am one of those empaths and get a lot of shit dumped upon me. I realized that the easiest to deal with it, is to give the amount of emotional stress back to the people that unload with me. Tell them about 'I have a friend who...' and one of the problems I got dumped upon me. that way you spread the burden out again. everyone then carries a bit of someone else, without knowing who it is. the funny thing is, that it even makes everyone feel better, because they are not alone with their problems but can also think about problems of other people and often, the person I told about someone else's problem comes up with the solution.

[@KarlosEPM]

That's it. You're building community 😊

[@Maria-ok7oe]

@@skinnybob6104 what do you mean with this?

[@slimvera5373]

Yea I like that take care of yourself first though sometimes we ain't going to have someone to speak to so our mental health has to be on point to deal with it and get through it a feeling is just that it'll pass

[@lisal.1114]

Honestly just tell them off, if u r not mentally well enough for that. Setting boundries matters!. People that put u down for setting up boundries r red flaggs and dont deserve your love. It hard work to implement that habbit, but will pay off in the long run. ❤

[@TheRandomINFJ]

You're empathetic, not an empath. True empaths are too rare for you to be one. Social media led you to believe reading vibes is an "empath". Most humans _can_ read a room and take on that emotion. Please do not confuse the two like everybody does. Trust me, if everybody who said they were an empath truly was, the world would be in a better place than it evidently is now. ❤ Edited typos cuz my phone's a butthead 👎

[@ShutInCuber]

As a junior, it's nice to hear this. Although I'm connected to the internet, the only social media service that I use is Discord and KZbin. I was always a hard worker, but transitions from middle school to high school is really poorly done, because you go from doing no work to only work real quickly. It was even worse for me because with Covid-19, when teachers change the way that they do things every 3 weeks, it's really hard to keep up. A combination of many things definitely gathers up a lot of stress for Gen Z, especially when we're in a time that we are told (even though it's only slightly true) that everything that we do as 14-17 year olds decides our entire future. That's really scary, especially for someone that's being told "we don't know everything, you aren't expected to know everything and do everything perfect", telling us that for a good future we need to be perfect is just not consistent, but the future overpowers the proven brain science. This confusion as well as the previous mentioned stress really piles up, and we try many different things to release it. Although I may be a little biased, I believe that the dopamine problem with the internet and social media is more of an effect of this stress building up, being used to help release it, and THEN the cycle of more dopamine, less work happens, instead of the dopamine addiction happening first (at least, that's how I see it for those currently in high school, but younger kids that are 5-12 years old are a different case). But, when these dopamine items get taken away, they may have a good effect of making us actually work for something to do, though now we have no idea when to take out these stresses, and just do it on instinct at the moment that the barrier loosens, which, as Simon stated, is when they talk to the more empathetic people that they spend time with during work or school.

[@finadoggie]

From one junior to another, I’m glad to see I’m not the only one thinking this

[@anonymous_5720]

I am sorry but the stress at work has killed my self confidence and most part of my nerves for over 18 years. Despite confronting workplace bullying head on and being told point blank by the bully that he is a racist, the guy is still there and I am still working because I have to pay the bills. Don’t put it all on the younger generations. If they feel empowered to take this brave actions quickly let them. The older generation needs to stop being such an ass.

[@lauranceboyd6365]

Be racist back.

[@humantacos9800]

Life is hard. Sounds like your parents left you ill-equipped to handle adversity. Don’t let your confidence be determined by strangers who are of little consequence.

[@JN-wr9he]

@@humantacos9800 and why would you blame parents? projecting?

[@anonymous_5720]

Everyone is free to make their own conscious choice in life. Can’t impose our ways on future generations. We also don’t do things the way our grand parents did. We evolved massively. The way businesses evolved is also massive. So why do we expect the future generations to be the same as adults as us?

[@JoeMac1983]

2:43. Simon, it goes both ways. If employers thought an employee was a keeper, they should have preemptively called them into their office and given them a raise. That's how you maintain and foster loyalty. Making a stellar employee go through 6-12 months of feeling resentful and quiet quitting when you know that this is an employee you want to stick around is actually hurting you and your business more than you realize. A stellar employee is generally a leader among peers. When you know you could be paying them more based on their output (and they know you could be paying more based on their output) but you don't, you cause them to become very resentful leader among peers. Their resentful attitude spreads like a cancer because other employees who know that you, as a stellar employee, are getting taken advantage of and they then know that they have zero chance at receiving a raise. If you're going to choose to be cheap with someone and drive them to "quiet quit", then you'd be wise to make sure they're a run-of-the-mill wage slave with no ambition. A great worker with drive can cut both ways in a business, depending on how you treat them.

[@Ubernaught012]

Most companies will pay the minimum wage wage they can to keep you. If you haven't tried to quit yet, they won't give you a raise. If it's high turn over they may not even care.

[@tahitianflower]

Everyone is responsible and accountable for their own feelings and not their employer or anyone else. You can choose how to respond to situations. Your comment implies that an employer is responsible for their employees feelings but I have found that many times my employers had absolutely no clue about my feelings and needs until I spoke with them about it. Employers aren't mind readers. Important things need to be communicated to your employer in business relationships.

[@JoeMac1983]

@@tahitianflower As I said, it goes both ways. Putting all the blame on the employee is very short sighted. Let's be honest though, a boss knows when he's taking advantage of a stellar employee by getting phenomenal output from him or her and knowing that their value is more than what they're currently being paid. In those instances, I believe the saying that "sin is when you know you should do something and you don't do it". If the boss knows that, hey, Carrie is doing 3x the output as everyone else but I'm going to keep paying her the bare minimum, then the boss has sinned first in this relationship. If the boss doesn't act before Carrie realizes her worth, then the boss is going to have a cancer in his organization as her output plummets and she drags down the output of others. The employer is not responsible for the feelings of the employees, however, the employer is responsible for managing the employees and all the baggage and feelings that they each carry. If you are a manager who wants stability and high output, then go ahead and take advantage of your stellar employees at your own peril. In the end, the boss's boss isn't going to be happy with the output of a crew that has "quiet quit".

[@tahitianflower]

@@JoeMac1983 You know what, I can see your point in all of this and I also agree that it does go both ways. So surprisingly I'm cool with the way you laid out your point. 👍

[@PixelatedSlag]

spoken like a true employee.

[@charl4478]

I have a friend that works at a print shop. He works 6 days a week and gets Sundays off. That's one day. One day for himself. What's he gonna do during that one day? Rest. There's no time to "barbecue with the neighbours" and that kinda stuff. What these older generations don't understand about the modern work place is that employees are essentially just batteries for one man at the top to profit. Work IS your life now, and if you don't like it, you die hungry on the street.

[@vegetossgss1114]

Totally! Stress is fairly related to work. And work is very important for us and for the overall society. However, working 5 days a week during 40 years or more is too much. 2 centuries ago, life span was much lower, so the comparison to old times is not relevant. I'll definitely say that youngsters want a better work/personal balance and more free time to enjoy life (and participate to the economy through consumption, as stores, cinemas and restaurants usually make most of their sales during the week end). That's why the best answer, in my humble opinion, is to propose to all workers the possibility to switch toward a 4 days week work, as some European countries are currently experimenting. This should concern blue collar jobs as well as white collar jobs, even in prestigious industries such as consulting and finance. This 4 days a week schedule can take different forms, and result in a reduction of the monthly salary, or not. Personally, I would easily accept a stimulating and challenging job with a 4 days per week schedule, even if I have a 20% lower compensation. It is worth it, and I'll be highly motivated in the long run.

[@ramspeedmusic]

Oh yeah… I’ve been there too. It’s rough. Worked at Whole Foods which you must have open availability to get full-time hours and benefits. The hustle will eventually bring you down.. It can be so dystopian out there.

[@ITzzDecort]

this deserves more likes!!!!

[@titan_o7]

My mom and my dad are my role models for a lot of what I do. They’re both in their late 50s and they lead a completely different social and professional life from anyone else that I’ve seen even up to their 30s. It really is quite real how different everything was even 50 years ago. And honestly, I _LONG_ to be like my parents, but it’s gotten to the point that there is no way for us to do that in today’s world. I weep for when my parent’s generation dies out. It scares me beyond anything else.

[@andfoundout]

Going to people IS the right choice, we're supposed to connect through struggle and chaos. The problem is it's supposed to be a network of people, a life outside of work

[@mayosmayo4738]

No, you have to die in a war, that’s how you deal with stress

[@andfoundout]

@@mayosmayo4738 😂😭

[@MeesterMonkee]

“They don’t recognize when we’re doing the right thing for them” maybe what’s right for you is not right for them

[@istvanpraha]

IT's more too little too late. It sucks as a manager. I fight for big raises but subordinates/team don't care because they still can barely save for retirement, let alone afford a house. And we "pay well." In my experience the biggest issue is inflation/housing crisis. You can't just add $100K to "home value" every year for no reason. No company can out-raise that. That's my two cents on why people don't "appreciate" what we do

[@gardenjoy5223]

@@istvanpraha Yeah, those housing prices are insane in certain locations. No-one with a starting salary can afford to live anywhere else, than with their parents. There are way too few starting options on the housing market.

[@Smoothshoes]

I resonate with most of what he said from someone born in ‘98. Gen Z is near the forefront of the Information Age. We have a lot of burdens. With everything we learn, just from our phones in our beds, we never rest our minds. Ignorance is bliss, but in this world, you can’t afford to be in bliss anymore. Stress is inevitable, but this time it’s necessary. Competition is fierce. Ordinary is no longer acceptable, and the worries of the world will impact us to do better I hope. Our sacrifice of our constant computation is the next generations blessings. That’s what I believe anyway

[@deliverus8340]

Noo bro. You can afford a rest and not ordinary rest, but the rest in Christ Jesus and that rest is eternal. The world soesn't matter anymore because it is not important

[@Scipionyxsam]

Sounds like a savior complex and the delusion that you can get educated by a smartphone and heavily guided search algorithms. Ignorance is bliss indeed then.

[@KatyWithAWhyyy]

Gen Z or not - I don't think I should have to ask for what I'm worth or quit to be valued. If you love me and I'm worth so much...pay me what I'm worth. It's this sneaky game of "well you didn't ask"....companies need to pay folks what they're worth from the jump.

[@kroto7451]

Negative. It's not that simple. There is a baseline salary for what the market says that position is worth, so the company will try to basically match that when you are a new hire unless you can convince them you are worth more before they even hire you. They don't know your worth as an employee unless you are able to convince them through example,performance, etc. Of course a company is going to tell you they "love" you after you have been with them for a while, because it benefits them to keep you so they dont have to go through the trouble of hiring someone else. A company assumes you are happy with what you are getting paid because you haven't said anything. When you first accepted the job, that's when you told them you agree with the pay. You never ask them how much they think you are worth, instead you TELL them you are worth more, then you talk about it/negotiate just like you would do before you accept the job initially. The data they review, much of the time, doesn't tell the whole story about what YOU contribute to the company. If they don't agree with your salary demands and refuse to pay you what you think you are worth, that's when you make a decision on whether or not that company is worth it to YOU to keep working for. This is when you should consider "quiet quitting" to allow yourself time to look for employment elsewhere at the salary that you desire, which may require negotiating BEFORE you accept a new job offer. Always remember that YOU come first in your life and you need to make sure you are getting what YOU want.

[@Teesquared00]

@@kroto7451 This is essentially why people do quiet quit and look for other jobs though. I mean you're not wrong, but what you are describing is an elaborate explanation of how companies seek to get something for nothing. Everyone wants the best talent for the lowest price, so employers play a game of putting all the responsibility of getting recognized and paid fairly on the employee, else they will pay them as little as they can get away with. Obviously there are exceptions. Some employers will pay anything to retain highly specialized talent, others will never ever give a raise because they plan to replace anyone who asks for more money. It would be preduent for many employers to take a more active role in retaining talent, even if that means avoiding the salary race to the bottom to save money. High employee turnover and low wages are/is a very short sighted business model and will almost always cause long term problems which is what I think we see now in labor markets. Most employers got so content with people's despiration after the '08 recession that they were caught with their pants down when skilled talent capitalized on the labor shortage and started playing hardball with employers.

[@danielwilcox4869]

As a teacher in an American high school, I can absolutely see all of this. Cell phones and social media have fundamentally stunted the growth of our young people to a debilitating degree. That's all there is to it. I mean, of course, I'm biased, I'm a teacher who contends with TikTok for my students' attention. But I don't think there's any question--giving young people a device that enables and encourages their worst impulses is a bad idea. And now, businesses are feeling the impact of it. If you're a lobbyist for corporate America, item #1 on your agenda should be getting our representatives to work on legislation that encourages digital media literacy, regulation of social media, and youth mental health services.

[@kroto7451]

I can't wait to deny my daughter her own smart phone (she will be allowed a simple flip phone, assuming they still exist 10 years or so from now). She is only 3 yrs old right now, but I see what damage social media is causing to people, especially children (bullying/harassment, becoming anti-social, depressed, low self-esteem, etc.), and that's the main reason they use their phones anyway. She will not be allowed to use social media of any kind until she is out of school. I know she will hate me for a little while, but she will also understand at some point in her life, that what I did was the best thing I could have ever done for her. Kids minds are not fully developed, and addiction stunts their development. You being a teacher I am sure you are well aware. Social media was designed to capture the attention of an individual for as long as possible because that's how they make money. That's why they have "gamification" aspects to it such as the "Like" button. Social media is good if used appropriately and in moderation, but it has sadly consumed the world and there's no end in sight, and this makes me feel so bad for the future of the world, especially when the majority of parents don't take action with their own before it ever becomes a problem to begin with. Thank you for what you do.

[@ScabbyMcKniel]

Do you guys use the concept of digital citizenship over there?

[@Grayewick]

"I mean, of course I am biased" There you go. People change. Standards change. Interests change. Trees need pruning, but old branches should also learn how to let go. Tradition is important, but you don't progress by walking backwards.

[@combinationova]

I don't believe that social media has stunted growth, I believe that a lack of understanding that kids are capable of learning more in a shorter timeframe has. The best decision I ever made was doing two years of full time dual enrollment. None of my peers in college felt too rushed. The issue with the American system is our reliance in high school on taking it slow so that the slowest gets their help, when we should be focusing on ensuring that the faster thinkers also get there in the subjects they enjoy. Attention spans are down because information is condensable, which is a desireable trait.

[@subhadramahanta452]

Why not give a smarphone with kid's mode on with only apps and contents you find appropriate to them. For example, Wikipedia, channels like Discovery, Discovery Science, educational contents, etc? There's always two side to a coin, I have seen increased use of educational contents from online by younger generation in my country, many claiming that the content was much better understood online than schools and colleges. It just a tool, it depends on how you utilise it. If you aren't careful enough, you might end up stunting the growth of your child, rather than helping them.

[@frontrowattheshitshow8849]

I am so glad this explanation exists because it feels like not enough of the older generation is trying to take care of the newer generation (Millennial here, by the way) From what I've seen, encountering people in person, they're mostly content to pass blame onto whatever else exists. The current president, the newer generation, the government as a whole, foreigners. We really need, all of us really need, to be more supportive of people who want to make a positive change in the world. To make a change in this modern day is so impossible without help! You need lots of money you can funnel to the right groups, you need lots of influence over lots of people so they'll do and learn the right things, you need lots of support from lots of people because no one person can do everything themselves, you need to know a lot more than most so you can be a competent leader all of the time, it is so impossible! I just wish we could all get on the same page and agree that we want to live longer lives full of happiness and peace, then start working together to achieve that. There's got to be at least several thousand people on the planet that are intelligent enough to agree on this, imagine what we could achieve if we all put our heads together and carefully thought about how to take care of each other and our planet. There's gotta be at least a little bit of potential there, right?

[@NargisKhan-jw2lz]

Corporates got us here. They want us to be in office 24x7, look at all the big companies and their little towns they call offices. So let's not blame the new kids on the block, I'm 27 and I'm happy for them to start changing the scene

[@lollalofi3933]

It really depends what kind of job you do

[@l-train7876]

What kind of job do you have that keeps you at the office “24/7”? Unless you’re a doctor or lawyer, why are you tolerating that when there are all these remote jobs in a post-Covid world? I’m in the corporate world and I don’t know anyone who spends more than 40 hours at an office, most people I know go in a couple days/week and work the rest from home. I’m fully remote myself.

[@l-train7876]

@Mekehl employees have the luxury of choosing where they work! If they’re not happy with their pay or schedule, quit! It’s not slavery.

[@l-train7876]

@user-yj8zw7hk6f that’s not a paradox. What value do you bring the company, that would justify paying you “US rates”?

[@Goldlucky13]

i feel lucky as a 23 year old that i do have a work/life balance and have learned to manage stress, mostly. i grew up without much of a support system so my options were either to literally die or stand up and make something good out of my life. so i have worked jobs that provide housing, so i meet my neighbors who sometimes work directly with me, sometimes not, but i have a nice little community there. i play in an orchestra for the county and make friends there and relieve stress through music. in my free time i make sure to give my body the exercise it needs and stimulate my brain with reading and video games. i dunno. i'm content.

[@unclestarwarssatchmo9848]

As a 24 year old working during my gap year in college I reflect a lot on my stress and why I feel like I'm less equipped than people older than me. This video made things click and really opened my eyes. Hats off to you sir, thank you!

[@minah6535]

I've literally had teachers basically telling class "...and now you guys gotta fix these problems thr older generations has caused". I clearly remember this exanple from a discussion about the climate crisis.

[@slimvera5373]

Yea it's a manipulation tactic from the government it's always our fault but we were given this world we ain't make it The hard lesson sometimes is that people don't always have your best interest that's life it ain't fair or free lol But that doesn't mean for you to give up or grow resentment everything is gonna be alright I was in six grade when the planes hit the towers I thought terrorists were gonna bomb us and kill my grandma

[@joane24]

When you think about it, it says more about the speaker, than about the message itself. Basically, it's just talk. It's about complaining about the problem that we see exist and dune know how to deal with, so we just say how catastrophal it is and that you (younger people) are all doomed. But actually, is it? There's always been issues and problems in the world. Economical, political, pandemics, natural disasters, wars, etc., take a pick. Some generations are more optimistic and say "we're gonna fix it" and then the next one says "we're all doomed". And the world goes on.

[@slimvera5373]

@@joane24 lady what the fuck are you talking about Have you seen the world news not CNN? America is a Republic,and the government turned fascist over 15 years ago , you have no ideal the Crimes America has committed Now the WEF is here and ready to take over So you don't know what the fuck your Talking about this ain't no fucking debate

[@gardenjoy5223]

Before, people just died of world wars and extreme hunger. People tried to fix that problem. At least some did. We ALL are born into a world filled with problems. We ALL are trying to fix the next biggest problem. Nothing new here. Now stop driving a car, stop buying trendy clothes, stop going to a swimming pool, stop using the fridge, shower and AC. Just read a book by the light of one lamp and adjust your bedtime with the available sunlight. My grandmother lived through the poverty of two world wars, walked an hour to and an hour from her work, since she couldn't afford the bus. Knitted and mended clothes all evening. Ate meat occasionally, cheapest food mostly. But at least her ecological footprint was small.

[@girliechk]

I have to imagine that there aren't enough of us fellow Empath's teaching our beloved Millennials on how to emotionally shield themselves - not to take on another's emotions as their own. I was never taught this technique and also struggled - bearing the weight of others. As a 40 year old, I get it now and wow is it life changing. Dear Fellow Empaths - listen, feel, observe, guide if needed, but remember to release the other persons energy after the conversation. It is not yours to hold. Then find a place to recharge and reground.

[@cherryturnip]

The weight of carrying professionalism around, is an aspect of work that gets to me on a regular basis. The clean, cut aesthetic of having one’s shit together is always juxtaposed with a crumbling management team and an oblivious higher up presence. It drives me crazy, to pretend that everything is going well while mentally opposing literally everything That goes on in my place of work. Instead of venting my frustrations to my other workers, who I don’t honestly feel comfortable enough to talk to most of the time, the kind fellows on KZbin get my rants . You are so very welcome

[@minah6535]

Yt comments has become my diary/venting space fr.

[@J4kee]

I'm really glad people like him exist to understand.. and also help others understand as well

[@anoopg7006]

True!! Crucial in these times!

[@whimsylore]

As a millenial empath who quit to work for myself, it was actually the baby boomers and gen x unloading their fears on me rather than gen z who were more self-aware of their emotions to begin with. Also, to everyone who laughed when he said "I know what you do and you don't do enough to burn out," check yourself. You probably go through life unaware of how much emotional labor you require that others do on your behalf. Look to what you require of your family, if not your coworkers or friends.

[@braaap56]

im a millennial as well and i was born early 90's so we grew up before social media but also adapted to it when it came, but also but addicted to it like gen z because they were born "into" social media and they don't know life before that. Also early 90's-early 2000's was alot less anxiety driven compared to this current enviroment with endless social media channels all trying to steal your attention with notifications, endless scrolling, hate comments online, talking to people online versus meeting in person and socializing.

[@artemicionkupo4367]

"emotional labor.".. oh my god.... I'm going to use that for compensation negotiations. Love it, so exploitive. Especially since we are in the "sensitive" phase of BS. Thanks for this. Now for the raise.

[@cabana85]

Using the phrase "check yourself" says it all 😂

[@pubear7514]

Your comment is very insightful. The replies to it are quite asinine.

[@Christianna271]

You're bang on, Laura. I'm a millennial working in a team of boomers and the amount of complaining from them gets exhausting. I just want to get on with my work but they keep demanding my attention to talk about their lives and issues. The lack of insight on their part is astounding.

[@tylerhunt8425]

As a gen z, everything you said about us, has been nothing but the previous generations in my personal experience.

[@th3j0t46]

2:00 We take our emotions to work because, in most cases, work comes home instead of being left at the workplace. If your boss makes you take home to work, you are more than fine taking emotions to work. If your boss wants emotions aside of work, then he/she can't make you work regularly outside of your worktime.

[@rachelh.5223]

I have to disagree with not having good stress relief tools. I'm a millennial in a Master's program dominated by gen z, and THEY are teaching ME how to set boundaries, practice self preservation, and say no. I would argue it is the older generations who have emulated poor stress coping mechanisms (alcoholism, family abuse, poor eating habits, harsh managing style, etc.) And this new generating is doing everything they can to not perpetuate (drink water more than anything else, practice empathy, exercise, equity-minded leadership, dedication to diversity, caring about the future of this planet, etc.) And I would never discourage that intern to speak out to the CEO, and instead encourage that CEO to practice empathy and remind them the intern is a person in their care, who is on the front lines and can provide perspective on how the CEO's policies and decisions are actually affecting their employees, product/ion, customers, etc.

[@lammy94]

Spoken like a true uni student 😕

[@rainbowsun5480]

I’m a Millennial and my youngest sibling is a Gen Z and oh my goodness this sibling understands empathy in a different way than the other siblings (two others). We go to the youngest sibling for empathy rather than our parents. However, I worry for the current young generation. The current teens and elementary school kids. Too much technology at a young age and not enough emotional development.

[@madhusaivemulamada3556]

+1

[@ThomasMiller-tp2uv]

I think it's the industry. I asked my 20 something nephew about this video and he thought it was spot on

[@travishuggans5927]

I’m seeing a lot of comments about Gen Z having too much exposure to how screwed up the world is via the internet and social media. Struggling with things that are outside of our control is something humans have always had to deal with to one degree or another, it’s not generational. If it’s something you struggle with, I absolutely empathize because I once did too- I highly recommend learning about the sphere of influence concept! TLDR- the more you focus on things that are outside of your ability to influence (and no, posting on social media does not count as influence) the less influence you have. The more you focus on things within your sphere of influence, the more that sphere grows. If you find yourself so upset about global issues that you fail to do the smaller things that are within your control, it is a good indicator that you actually aren’t emotionally mature enough to handle the bigger issues.

[@paperspeaksco]

His blanket conservative approach that "Church gave people purpose" is pithy at best and concerning at worst. It's a quick slope from there to "young people lack values" which is the catch-all for any hard conservative view that's looking to get enshrined into law.

[@VictorCardena3]

He’s still right

[@banenefleur]

I like how when he calls out about how we (as gen z) have the tendency to avoid conflict. It's unfortunately true, but it is something to deal with.

[@slimvera5373]

Having a voice for yourself is important a close mouth doesn't get fed you ain't gotta be scared to speak your mind and if someone don't like that message me I'll kick they butt for u

[@MarcieVillela]

By far, the best explanation on how to understand this generation. I'm a teacher, and I've been quite scared by these young students. Thank you Simon!

[@elodiepollock7326]

I dont think it's that more expectations were/are transferred to the work place, but rather that work started to take up more and more space in peoples lifes, so it started from the workspace and not from personal life

[@educationrxpodcast]

These issues in the work place are beginning in classrooms. Children throwing chairs, hitting teachers, or even pepper spraying the teacher! Emotional intelligence, social emotional skills, and building resiliency in children is an urgent need. We need to look at this crisis and intervene to prevent long term issues.

[@someguywithabirdface2583]

Tldr give teachers more wages?

[@istvanpraha]

These trends are so new that those kids aren't working adults yet.

[@educationrxpodcast]

@@someguywithabirdface2583 just expressing one of the reasons teachers are struggling.

[@educationrxpodcast]

@@istvanpraha that is incorrect. These issues have been building for over 10 years, and the data is strong.

[@birdgurl6075]

People are burned out because we are not living naturally. Thank you for recognizing that this world is uncertain.

[@anoopg7006]

I really think the power of millennials is crucial in this conversation. Millennials are the perfect group to help this young generation if we continue to help ourselves. Millennials have inherited a healthy work ethic as well as empathy to be able to prioritize what's really important. We don't get caught up in dogma, status or selfishness and we care about results and are passion driven. - There are areas where we still need to strengthen ourselves, yes, such as "asking for help or saying no" etc and I don't think we are here to take the credit, no, I think we don't get to see the trophy. Most likely we are here to take a beating so that the ones who follow can do what they do best. At 31 I feel VERY responsible for helping the younger generation and I am working harder than ever so that I can help them in their hour of need.

[@humantacos9800]

This post is like saying “We’re the best at being humble.” Classic Millennial.

[@snoozyq9576]

​​@@humantacos9800 not really more that we've inherited a bunch of problems that make us able to relate to younger gens

[@glockhall59]

None of this is true, in fact it's the opposite. Millenials are even more self-centered and immature than my generation is, and they're just as much at fault for ruining our world as the boomers are.

[@glockhall59]

​@@snoozyq9576I see this sentiment among millenials a lot but I think there's a greater generational gap between us than you realize, I've never seen a 30-something year old millenial accurately understand Gen Z, and my peers have echoed this belief.

[@anoopg7006]

@@humantacos9800 The challenge I see with GenZ is that they are born into a culture which forces them to make judgements at lightning pace about everything including themselves and a brain running on judgments is a hard brain to live with. I believe as they heal and let go of the patterns of judgments their true self can reveal. I think GenZ is superior in terms of intelligence but I also think they need to work on being more self-aware to reveal their genius.

[@nathankaeter9272]

"all the institutions that used to meet peoples needs have collapsed or been pushed aside by financial, time, and changing culture pressures" "how are you burnt out?"

[@hk_4014]

As a gen z, I am definitely guilty of that at times. Its not just the fact that they are empaths though, its the fact that they are strong and respectable individuals that have been through a lot and know how to deal with it. We want respectable people that can help us, and the world just doesn't have a ton of those people, including our parents. I've just started a new job though, and I am going to avoid doing this.

[@IcePhixia2000]

Well done, you are the 1% of gen Z that has a shot at making it big, the fact that you admit to some of this and willing to work on it makes you a super hero in the future world. Keep being introspective, work hard and good things will come your way whilst people around you will always mope about being a victim... If I can give you one piece of advice for life it is this "Never be the victim" no matter how bad things get, no matter how much the media wants to tell you that "you are a victim".... Be a hero, rise above it, become a force to be reckoned with. The worst thing to happen to millennials and gen z is the oppression game of who is the bigger victim, and once you fall into that trap your whole life will be destroyed because once you can say "its not my fault, its someone elses fault" then you never have to improve yourself and this is how you fall into a trap where you wake up at 40 and realise... damn, im still staying with my parents. You are not a victim, become a hero, and don't let anyone ever tell you that you are a victim, its a sneaky trick they use to keep you down.

[@royce6485]

It’s hard to be emotionally professional when you are at your absolute breaking point. Everything outside of work has become so shitty that people are so burnt out. And when you’re burnt out you have to cut out some things. I am NOT cutting out family time. I cannot possibly keep up the facade 24/7. So maybe my performance suffers at work. Work seems so insignificant when compared to saving the planet and country

[@_KingOfCalifornia]

21 year old zoomer here. I deal with my stress by drinking. kinda like how society has been doing for the past 100 years

[@c4rnage125]

My family has ruined my mental health but being a 18 yo adult I have to take care of myself.

[@slimvera5373]

You ain't gotta do it alone I came from a broken home to your family doesn't define who you are they wanna be crazy no problem but it doesn't have to be you take care of yourself first your the star player of your team

[@lazarusblackwell6988]

Thank you for your understanding Mr Simon. It helps to see that we are not alone.

[@JamieRambles]

The older generations are much more stressed in my work place than the younger people. They're irritable. I find the younger are quite game for confrontation if need be. And that annoys older people. But maybe because I don't live in America it's different.

[@carolinakm3795]

I love this and still want to learn why we have to be empathetic for younger professionals that are like this and it just makes my job more difficult to support them and hire them. If there is so much uncertainty, why come into a working environment and off the bat complain and challenge the places they work because they want to control how much "stress" they believe they are having.

[@mrnobody6609]

A four day work week would solve a multitude of problems. Stress would be one of the biggest ones. It would literally save thousands of lives, as death is seemingly the only way to get away from all of the issues that the modern working environment brings. I'm currently burn out. I work 10 hours a day without a break. I don't even have the luxury of having a lunch break. It's just 10 hours straight through, and it's getting to me. The real heartbreaker for me is that I can't even remember the last job I worked at where I had regular breaks (or one where I only worked an 8 hour day). It was at least 12 years ago. Work is becoming completely unreasonable at a time when people are making less money than ever before. I no longer have any sort of a life outside of work, so I do not feel like a free man. I feel like a slave. 100% of my life (including my free time) is dictated by work. The only actual free time I get is 2 weeks of paid vacation, which is also bullshit, because by the time that rolls around I have some serious stuff to get done at home that I haven't had the time to do until I use up my vacation to do it. So I'm lucky if I have a few days per year of actual completely free time, which is utterly unacceptable. My only option is to change to another job that won't pay as much, and will almost certainly come with the exact same problems I'm facing now. It's no wonder suicides are so common. The temptation is always there for me.

[@mau345]

Asking for a raise is really contextual. When the environment of a company is so blatant as to not giving people promotions or raises, contract continuation is uncertain, plus youve underwent a series of lay offs- we’re not idiots, we know we wont get that raise. Ive had a colleague who got accepted for a higher position in the same company, but our boss backstabbed him by talking with his supposed new boss to take back the offer just to make my colleague stay. Our boss never gave him a raise as a counter offer-the audacity. With such an atmosphere, no way in hell are we going to ask.

[@Dhanraj12345]

I am 17 years old and really bad with dealing stress, he is totally right..😌😓😓

[@DA-nk6gx]

As a 24-year-old, I tend to find the older managers I work with mainly older Millennials or gen z are more conflict-avoidant than the younger generations of workers. When presenting issues with the business's operations or ideas on how to solve work-related issues many just up and walk away while I'm mid-sentence. This has happened to me at several jobs. I've seen managers do this to those younger than them in several workplaces. To me, that's extremely unprofessional and avoidant especially when they are the ones to come and start the hard conversation. They can start the "conflict" but can't fully engage with it or follow through. Many managers from older generations want to talk at employees rather than with them. Once they've said their peace they don't care about the employee's thoughts or suggestions to what is being said. Much of this (the employee's thoughts) is to inform management on how the day-to-day is on the floor and how it can be improved. I find many managers sticking rigidly to top-down control and not allowing any bottom-up processes to be truly acknowledged in large corporate jobs even though many put on a facade of listening to employees through yearly or biquarterly suverys. So, many workers from my generation get sick of being ignored by way of age and lower position especially when they are overqualified for the jobs they have. It's as if any conversation from a younger, lower-rung employee is considered whining or excuses regardless of what is being said or presented, even if they are bringing up a clear-cut, widely seen issue like understaffing in a department as a reason for not exceeding or meeting department goals. It comes to a point where you're not being heard, well compensated, or appreciated so all loyalty is lost. Finding a new higher paying job makes far more sense than staying underpaid, overworked, and unappreciated. You do that or just coast by making your money and stop actually caring about work while slowing down your production to the bare minimum, stopping all the extra work you did to help out based on a presumption of loyalty and respect going both ways. Now, this doesn't apply to all older management or workers it's just a tendency I've seen in several of the places I've worked in different industries across the country.

[@alicecarroll2923]

As a millennial, in nearly any situation I''ve encountered, Gen Z keeps pace and can run circles around most of the stalwart employees from a different generation when it comes to work, social justice and school. Damn. Of course they're burned out, and they also want a work/life balance. I assume he has specific sources that run a bit deeper than his examples, but the surface only seem to encompass the info this person wanted* to find. Chin up, Gen Z. We'll help with confrontation, and you can help us with compassion ♡

[@istvanpraha]

Gotta disagree on the social justice one. You need some life experience to address that one. All I see is super young people calling random stuff sexist and racist, to the point of being super awkward. And everyone is afraid to tell them they are wrong because then you are the "ist." They actually need to be quiet and listen for five minutes. In fact, many problems linger because we can't address them head on. Can't address that many of our customers don't speak English well (so could use other support) because that's "racist" to bring up. Nonsensical, right? Well apparently it makes sense when bought up by a 25 year old in a meeting

[@giolag5593]

When our society treats everything outside workplace as laziness and luxury that's what happens...People used to work to earn a living now they are supposed to live to work

[@darkseid2021]

On the topic of mgrs thinking they know how much they're tasking individual members of the team: I can wholeheartedly say that, "No, my mgrs NEVER knew how much they were tasking me with because they had bad communication and would rather sit in their office than to interact with people." Mind you, these were mgrs in J&J and Amazon. Part of the issue is the sheer amount of hierarchies present in big companies, it creates a situation where mgrs are the middle-man and would also rather avoid the employee for fear of confrontation in how they can't do anything about the situation.

[@basedmushroom]

Some people will just need to learn the hard way, and some will not be able to recover. The world is changing so fast it won't be easy for those who are already behind.

[@quintessences]

As a fellow Gen Z I don’t think we are conflict avoiders when it comes to work it’s the lack of communication and expressed gratitude. If I am doing a good job and a valued employee I would appreciate being told that rather than being given more and more responsibilities in the work place and also be paid a wage that isn’t unlivable. It’s also that the old dogma around work, business and the world that needs to be changed and I think we as a generation are acutely aware of that. Just as we are with being aware of how most systems currently in place wether it be politics, education, and health need to change. We grew up in an already internet existent world and so we have always been aware of how globally connected we are and as such we see how fucked up the world is. It’s not that we are emotionally immature and unable handle stress it’s that the world we grew up in made us aware of all the stressful things previous generations were ignorant to because of a lack of the internet. This awareness and the lack of progressive change in those who are in power is arguably why we are so stressed out. Take school shootings. Most if not all of Gen Z have grown up surrounded by the fear and news of hearing about school shootings whether locally or through viral stories such as Sandy Hook and the constant fear that oh shit that may be us while at the same time we consistently see that nothing gets done about it. The solution is known, other nations have solved the issue of school shootings yet here the school shooting happens, they say their condolences and prayers and then it just becomes a blame game and deflection around the cause while not actually addressing the issue so it happens again and again. Personally I’ve had to go thru several active shooter encounters while at school and it’s a scary fucking experience. Yet they still exist and the only actions done have been performative: make students go thru metal doctors, wear clear backpacks, put police officers in schools. None of which have done anything. Look at what happened in Uvalde. Its tiring feeling like a pawn that no one really cares about.

[@SeaCatFl]

I'm a 53 year old Manager and I can tell you that this is correct. I'm dealing with Millennials who don't bother me because I can relate to what they are dealing with. (I didn't grow up their way but I saw it and understand it.)The Kids coming in though are a completely different breed. They live on their Phones and they are controlled by Social Media. Their attention span is almost not there and talk about thin skinned.

[@anaranyabose]

The root reason is so excess of information on the internet and even the smallest and silliest stress in life becomes the moto of their bad day bcz they get their satisfying answers and wrong judgement supporters on internet easily.Bunch of folks are freely expressing their wrong ideas and spreading it which is done by this social media ! 12 y/o peeps following all sorts of depression pages and deep thinking pages on Instagram late night,whereas that was the time we would hear stories from our parents or sleep watching cartoons!

[@angellombness4371]

I agree. Brené Brown's process of identifying your values, then doing the hard integrity work of comparing all your behaviors to your values. It's a tough process, a lot of resource & value prioritizing - along with painful realizations, when we hold them up to society expectations.

[@jacobstebel3337]

I don't often agree with Sinek, but he's dead on here. Gen Z is such a wonderful generation. We absolutely need to figure them out and help them live up to their immense potential!

[@alainagray45]

As a gen Z, I think a huge contributor to the overwhelming amount of stress is the introduction of social media and the internet in general. In a drastic contrast from older generations, we have access to thoughts of people all around the world. We can interact in ways we never could before. We can also offend much more easily. Before, you could make a touchy joke with ease. But now, one slip up can get you “canceled”. Thousands of people can see if you make one bad comment. There’s strict rules of what is acceptable and what is not, and something that could’ve been innocent in its meaning could be interpreted as something much different. People are more harsh and say things they’d never say in real life. These days, there’s so much more need to be “perfect” and not mess up what you say.

[@slimvera5373]

I get that unplug yourself sometimes and have a conversation with an older person they're hilarious or have a self care day , make a gratitude list , if we forgive ourselves for our mistakes then what people think won't matter

[@zoidsfan12]

You hit most of the points here. Because I have decried the collapse of social structures in living memory. People don't get out and interact nearly as much as they used to and it's having a negative effect on us. The big issue though is that many of us are realizing the pointlessness of working a wage job. We have terms like wage slaves because we feel like people's lives are boiled down to how much energy we can expend to further the ambitions of a huge company. We are finding fundamental issue in our lives being fuel for a furnace and feeling as though when we die we won't have left a lasting legacy. Some never find their way. Others like me decide to take an independent path. I only work for mom and pop businesses where I know the owner personally now. I choose to spend my energy on my projects and ambitions, my goals in life, rather than chasing what society deems markers of success. Why become a debt slave, forever requiring stable income to pay off debt from college, a car, and a house. I'd rather live impoverished but be pursuing my dreams than forever putting them on hold so I can chase the purple dragon that is money and fortune. That is the fundamental struggle we are having as a generation. The realization that we are a tiny cog in an incomprehensibly large machine and that our epitaph will be interchangeable with a million others. And we want to change that.

[@vegetossgss1114]

Stress is fairly related to work. And work is very important for us and for the overall society. However, working 5 days a week during 40 years or more is too much. 2 centuries ago, life span was much lower, so the comparison to old times is not relevant. I'll definitely say that youngsters want a better work/personal balance and more free time to enjoy life (and participate to the economy through consumption, as stores, cinemas and restaurants usually make most of their sales during the week end). That's why the best answer, in my humble opinion, is to propose to all workers the possibility to switch toward a 4 days week work, as some European countries are currently experimenting. This should concern blue collar jobs as well as white collar jobs, even in prestigious industries such as consulting and finance. This 4 days a week schedule can take different forms, and result in a reduction of the monthly salary, or not. Personally, I would easily accept a stimulating and challenging job with a 4 days per week schedule, even if I have a 20% lower compensation. It is worth it, and I'll be highly motivated in the long run.

[@roxanne_louise7397]

Something he did not mention is the fact that gen Z is entering a workforce where employers do not pay enough for us to afford the bare minimum; housing, food, utilities, health care ect. That is a massive contributor to how we view work. Especially if you live and work in a big city, affording housing is nearly impossible. You might be making $60K but when your rent burden is 50% of your take-home pay, that doesn't leave a lot of money for leisure activities. Not to mention, a lot of us -- much like millenials -- have insurmountable student debt. I would also like to mention that a lot of gen Zers don't want work to be their only source of fulfillment. What we want is a culture of working to live rather than living to work.

[@Rob--]

Most Gen z are teenagers. Why do they need to afford housing?

[@istvanpraha]

I have! I make $130K and loads of people in my MCOL make way less than me. I feel like I'm around the minimum to truly "adult." I have no clue how others exist, I guess they pay lower taxes and save less for retirement and sort of exist paycheck to paycheck and have given up on home ownership? All of the formerly cheap areas around me are still ugly and boring but also now super-expensive. TBH it has all signs of a housing bubble, with the housing market freezing up right now. TBH we do need a recession to clear out some irregularities

[@KeepItSimpleSailor]

Gen Z need some history. A kid I spoke to the other day thought he was working the longest hours in history. I explained historical approximations of work hours, the context of working conditions and the battles for workers hours and basic conditions. It hopefully moved his thinking to a better place.

[@pastorpierremayo5918]

Excellent Simon… you are so spot on man. 👍🏾❤️

[@avoiceinthewilderness9864]

Gen X here....the world has become so different and much harder.....they need understanding and encouragement! When they are overwhelmed be there for them.

[@BeAwesomeful]

The framing here seems to be off..."they don't know how to deal with stress"...the proper framing should be "there's no other outlet for stress and emotional regulation." Simon talked about how church attendance is down, attendance at social clubs is down, we don't socialize with our neighbors anymore...those are all places to make a community and release stress, that's where people used to have the space to regulate their emotions. If business wants everyone to spend as much time as possible at the office, then people will need to have space and community at work to regulate their emotions. Expecting people to just not have to release stress anymore simply because they're spending all their time at work is completely unrealistic and frankly inhumane.

[@jeff9316]

He is just making this up. I have never lived in a neighbourhood where I didn't know my neighbours, nor do I have any friends or relatives who don't know their neighbours. This includes small town, city apartment buildings, fancy neighbourhoods, and middle class neighbourhoods. There is still a bowling league on multiple nights of the week in this small town I live in, as well as many other sports leagues for all sorts of ages. Work is becoming less of a community with the rise of remote work. And do you really think people historically have not had this dynamic of similar politics at the work place? Walk into a hedge fund office, do you think they all have similar politics? What about a kitchen at a restaurant? Or a construction site? Implied political agreements have run throughout company cultures for a long time. This all sounds so cute and insightful but he's just making it all up.

[@gosiaroszina8599]

Does anyone knows where to find the full interview? 🤔

[@green_beard]

bro, it was harder for us because was no internet or social media to go to and discharge, but with each generation it gets easier and easier. Ik what you trying to say, they still have to face challenges and stress, but with each generation things get better

[@CeruleanStallion]

Do you think the internet and social media is a healthy alternative to real life connections?

[@green_beard]

@@CeruleanStallion knowing that internet can be kinda trash, I still can say YES, absolute yes, because where I grew up other kids and teens had a knife at them all the time and you could not play because you could get cut for no reason, so all you had to do was stay inside house. But with internet you can just close the tab and open another link if someone bothers you. With social media you can find someone who understands you and likes same things as you do

[@Deletaste]

Maybe the reason we can't deal with stress is because of how stupid the previous generations were and now we have to deal with a messed up world and try to fix it.

[@slimvera5373]

Your preaching to the choir I was given this world I ain't make it but why you stressed out about something you can't control life ain't easy we all struggle But don't let that struggle turn into resentment put the technology down work on self love, buy a new shirt for yourself, maybe a new skin care routine listen to Tupac, he dealt with everything your dealing with and more remember we can't help no one unless we help our selves

[@Rob--]

What parts of the world do you need to fix? War? There's been wars throughout the existence of humanity so that's a no go. Climate change? Can't stop that so don't stress about it. Housing costs? The market has always fluctuated, just wait for the lows. Work? Get a trade job, 100+k a year after 5 yrs and endless work.

[@gwarlow]

@@Rob-- Most countries are not involved in wars nor do they want to be. There is one though that seems bent on continuing that sad “tradition”. Can anyone guess which country (government) that might be? I’ll wait. ;-)

[@sdev2749]

The ONE big thing you are missing in this discussion Simon is that the main reason these GenZ'rs are lousy at confrontation and thus lack confidence is because they consistently have their heads down in some electronic device relying on social media instead of real world interactions. Today's generation and also Millennials for that matter grew up fixated on the Internet and interacting with it without the need to socially interact with real people as did previous generations before them. How do I know this? because I am a 1966 vintage GenX'r who has observed this for the last 57 years. Even my generation was attacked for being slackers by our Boomer parants, you only have to go back to old 80's movies to realise this. GenZ kids were sarcastic, and cared little for the seriousness of older generations who grew up in a period of want during and after WWII. We were constantly told just how lucky we were to have all the "mod cons" such as technology, fast food, entertainment and luxuries that were lacking and just not there for earlier generations struggling to cope with VERY serious situations like world wars etc. GenX'rs were consistently told to eat a cup of concrete and harden up, we were the last generation to be on the receiving end of corporal punishment and the generation that had both parents working so we had to do almost everything ourselves, we had to learn fast how to look after ourselves because our parents were way too busy to look after us for us. Millennials who came after us were born into a period of instant communication, instant gratification and communications without the need to socially interact on the same levels we did. When we called our friends of girlfriends we had to get past their parents first. They were the ones who picked up the phone, answered the door and interviewed us before allowing us into their homes or into their lives. They were strict and security conscious and we dealt with that at a social level. We knew that if we wanted to see our friends or girlfriends we had to pass the parent test first so we learned very quickly how to win them over socially. Yes, this meant direct communication and learning how to be polite and become accepted. Today's kids and Millennials before them could bypass this because the internet allowed direct communications with friends and relationships that would enable them to bypass the parents and formulate a plan to meet up somewhere outside of the family home and a selected time and date and exclude the parents from getting to know you, trust you and accept you. This led to these younger generations being able to effectively exclude the parents almost entirely. Parents often complained that they had no idea who their millennial teenagers were hanging out with, where they went or what they were getting up to. And if a parent dared to enquire they were shut off entirely because the millennial kids were less likely to be polite and more likely to be often distant if not down right rude. As for GenZ'rs I believe they are even worse as Simon explains and cannot cope with the slightest issues. They spend so much time starring into screens that the art of social interaction is almost lost on them. Yes they can still communicate directly if required but it is often at a much higher cost. They are often emotionally lacking, socially awkward and lacking any kind of skill to detect and understand social interaction ques. This is why they drop out, fail, quit and fall apart when things get a little rocky. Unlike GenX'rs who were simply told to harden up and clipped around the ear if we started acting up. Yes, GenX'rs did and were capable of falling apart just as easily as Millennials and GenZ'rs but if we did have tantrums we knew it would not be tolerated. The consequences of losing our shit were often severe and we paid for it dearly. I want to stress and clarify that my rant is based on "generalities" and not the "exceptions to the rule". There are many millennials and GenZ'rs who are more like GenX'rs because they had different upbringings, morals and or core values to kids over the last 20-30 years. But the clear majority of kids from millennials and GenZ'rs fit into the profiles I have explained above. They are not by any means a failure but technology advances in communications to the point of instant communications and gratification demand has actually had a net negative effect on their ability to interact with others on a social levels that older generations such as mine enjoyed the benefits of.

[@WowDaniX]

I stay to myself at work. I’m not your friend nor enemy. Coworkers can wear you out with their personal BS.

[@bennfisherr6317]

I've worked at multiple places in my life and I've always TRIED to do the same thing. I keep work life and personal life as separate as possible.

[@icidaimon5670]

Recently started to cohabitate with my partner’s Gen Z child which has been a challenge to say the least. I’ve tried my best to help her see her potential, broaden her horizons and even got her into therapy. My friends encourage me and say there’s nothing more I could do but the kid seems so unimpressed, unresponsive and just miserable. This talk opened my eyes.

[@KURTrek]

Consider for a moment that in a Gen Z's mind, the challenge isn't dealing with normal problems like "getting through life" or even "having a promising career." These are healthy distractions from what they are all thinking about: It's about psychologically dealing with the fact that your own species is knowningly causing a mass extinction, and the people in power don't seem to care literally at all. Stop looking at Gen Z people like they need fixed, look at the human species and ask yourself what are we doing to Mother Earth. People wonder why they are miserable, it's Gen Z that will witness the steepest decline in the number of species on the planet more so than any previous generation.

[@icidaimon5670]

@@KURTrek What do you recommend for a 20-year-old who doesn’t ever leave the house, sleeps until 11 or 12 most days, doesn’t talk to anyone, has no interest in work, school or pursuing any hobbies and is in her pyjamas from the previous day when I come home from work? I’m not saying they’re aren’t problems in the world. I have also battled with depression myself. I never said she needed fixing. I genuinely want to help her.

[@alisonhayter528]

This is a very strange clip and he managed to talk the whole time without saying a thing...maybe young people just don't agree with kowtowing to the higher ups...maybe they're sick of people failing up or getting promotions because of nepotism..maybe they can't envision a life of WORKING to make someone else rich while they can't even afford to move out of their parents house (hellloooo inflation)....I mean having to deal with all that seems pretty stressful.. add to that the stresses of raising a family with TWO working parents...hopefully, there's a big shift coming...🤷🏻‍♀️

[@kyawzayya3877]

This needs to be more viral. I sick of these rants and complains which I can't even do anything to help them. I couple time is good but everyday is too much. Tips on how to reply them if they start to rant?

[@the1kimkelley]

Thanks for leveling up the conversation. We agree with you and are actioning the reality of this changing workforce at pepelwerk

[@gimmedatcake4785]

2:52 is what he says after wages of too many jobs have increased only minimally in the past fourty years. It is incredible that one can come up with good arguments about some of gen z generations problem but at the same time dismiss causes like the literal economy itself. It was just a matter of time until people would've started revolting against unfair wages.

[@gratefultammy]

Beautifully said ! So so good Simon

[@Cocotikihut]

GenZ is the boldest generation online and most cowardly generation in the real world. I have a had conversations (not aggressive arguments) with 2 of them separately about goal setting and finding purpose (both males over 22 years old) and the conversation made them so uncomfortable one of them cried. How did they become so sensitive? I am a millenial and I notice they care about "feelings" more than finding a career, moving out of the house, learning how to drive, being social with ppl face to face, etc. You cant find your own happiness catering to the feelings of everyone around you.

[@HoratioNelsonGenZ]

Well society is likely to collapse anyways so there's no point in us Gen Z being blinded by false and over hyped optimism.

[@thecode327]

The trick is to turn your short term stress into long term depression. That way future-you has to deal with it and now-you doesn’t.

[@greatwavefan397]

This hits a little hard.

[@JediBunny]

It’s important for everyone in every generation to realise the difference between healthy venting, and emotional dumping. Healthy venting can be productive and takes the other person’s emotional/energetic bandwidth into account, while emotional dumping is toxic and selfish. Another important point is for people to learn boundaries _for themselves._ Boundaries aren’t something you can put on other people - you must create them for yourself and move through life in a way where you don’t cross your own boundaries. It’s up to the individual to sort out what those boundaries are. The final and perhaps most important point is that empathic people are incredibly valuable to society, but also often misused, mistreated, and then discarded. These individuals must learn to create boundaries for themselves first and foremost, or they will forever be trampled upon. If you find an empathic person, do your best to learn how to healthily vent with them, strategise together, ask their advice and opinion, etc., and give them space to open up. Don’t selfishly use up their time and energy for your own benefit and gain. And empathic people - if you find yourself in these draining situations over and over again, _you cannot keep others warm by setting yourself on fire._ Start learning about and building your boundaries and self worth _today._ -with Love, a recovering boundary-less empathic person

[@herethere5637]

Maybe I am a sociopath. I feel like I have lots of empathy for lots of people, but I feel all those 3 things you mentioned about "empaths". Its easier for people to label me as a narcissist psychopath. Maybe I am evil but I just don't realize it, even though I can remember doing good things to the same people who think I'm a scum of society. Really demoralizes my whole being