HOW HEALTHY MEN SHOW UP IN THE LIVES OF WOMEN by RC Blakes

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[@tahomalewis2300]

Thank you so much for creating this video. Your words served as confirmation for what I was seeing in action.

[@LisaBlakes]

Greetings everyone! Thank you for joining us! Please hit the 👍to like this and invite some people to view. Thanks bunches ❤

[@RCBlakesJr.]

Thanks all

[@alphaandomega1332]

First Lady, Oh my God 😊.

[@colleenlam8915]

Great great message. Thank you, God bless

[@annazolnierczyk9885]

Could someone give me an updatodate email address to RC Blakes? No reply from the one at the website. I will be most grateful.Anna

[@Ella03434]

💐L💐I💐S💐A💐

[@catb8661]

A healthy man loves a woman before she's perfected. He sacrifices for her. He has a vision of his woman's potential. He works to help her become the best version of herself as God designed her to be. 1) A healthy man teaches his woman submission by example (through submission to God), not by demand. Eph 5:21 2) A healthy man learns his woman's emotional range, and he adjusts his leadership to her emotional capacity. He disengages her triggers. 3) A healthy man promotes healing in his woman. He sees deeper than her complaints. He makes her feel safe, emotionally, and physically. He makes her feel that she's a priority. 4) A healthy man is rarely triggered by his woman because of his emotional intelligence. He disengages his triggers. He focuses on constructive dialog, resolution, and understanding. He validates her feelings with respect. 5) A healthy man never strives to win an argument. He works for understanding. He listens actively. He concedes points. He apologizes and takes responsibility for his mistakes. He feels her heart. He works to reconcile.

[@shontaenorwood7076]

Thank you! I was looking for this breakdown in a snapshot 😊

[@jessicamarie7494]

❤

[@delle3955]

Thank you❤

[@Whatyousayin24]

I finally have mine, thank you God ❤🙌🏾 I’ve learned and have healed so much by listening to you sir.

[@cheyluv6256]

🙏🏽🩷

[@onevenus6040]

It's dangerous to submit to a man who is not submitted to God "

[@DanaeLaurenTolbert]

Exactly, that is why I am not a fan of missionary dating. I ain't bringing no big grown man to Christ.

[@LadyBugShaun]

Lol!! Missionary dating??!! Lol!!!

[@Elle3211]

Dangerous is both the exact word and an understatement.

[@Crob100]

I'm not even Christian, religious, or anything else, but I would definitely attend yr church, Sir. Our community is in such disrepair, we definitely need these messages. We have to learn our roles as men and women, then begin to build/repair our relationships with each other and then build/repair our families. Then, we will be able to tap into our power. Thank u for this word. Watching from Dallas, TX.

[@josephinegicho9325]

Uncle Blake is spitting fire out here!!🔥 "He demonstrates submission by example not demand," "He submits his life to the word so any area of his character that is not in alignment with the word- she sees him bring adjustments to that area. His submission to God is to the word," 🗣️🗣️ "It's dangerous to submit to a man that is not submitted... When he isn't submitted to anyone that's dangerous" 🗣️🗣️ Thank you Uncle Blakes!

[@a.a761]

RC Blakes you are a father for many of us I am grateful that God put you on so many daughters live. Praise be the lord forever and may He bless you and lady Lisa ministry. Amém.

[@whatsyourflavshaveice4768]

Pastor I wish I knew you 25yrs ago😢 O but God!! I’m here for it all and growing everyday! 56yrs later😢😢😢😢😊😊😊😊

[@michellegordon948]

It’s better late than never ❤❤ I was 17 when I met pastors dad he was the first pastor that taught the word to me I’m forever grateful❤❤❤

[@ileneyoung7404]

@michellegordon948 I, too, wish this lovely couple all the blessings that the creator can give subhanallah. I had a father who I loved dearly. He died as I became an adult. So, I never got a chance to have conversations with him as an adult at 28 at the time. However, all our stories are different. My biggest cry coming up was support and still is to some degree at 61 now. I guess I would wish to know Bishop and his wife during my twenties and thirties they could have been that whisper in my ear I desperately needed to hear from. I was always looking for support but did not have it, but you know what they say. God watches over all souls. I believe this to be true for me because I am still here. Ameen.☮️ much love and respect to Mr., Mrs. Blake.

[@Cupid_]

Thank you, I am Muslim and truly enjoy your teaching always look forward to it.

[@LisaSimmons-mn2sr]

We love you!!!

[@wivianerodrigues_interpreter]

Assalamu Alaikum. I am also a Muslim and I always listen to RC Blackes' classes. May Allah swt bless him with more wisdom. I learned and learn a lot from his channel Alhamdullillah

[@Cupid_]

@@wivianerodrigues_interpreteralhamdullilah, been listening to him for years and he truly helped me a lot. Many of his teachings are very similar to Islam and is in the Quran. I finished the Quran when I was very young and memorized so whenever he mention something from the bible, it was also in the Quran. Small differences of course. Besides god/Allah uncle Blakes keeps me grounded.

[@neidalewis3354]

This is a great discussion. No one has ever discussed this that I have seen.

[@zobalatics]

I cannot thank you enough for this. Going through a divorce after a 26 year marriage. I wish I had this information before getting married. I will be sharing with my 23 year old daughter and my friends.

[@MeMe-i2p8r]

Hey, I’m here for you. It’s difficult and different- but do able.❤🙏

[@vonch33]

Wow... the part about learning his wife's emotional range !

[@mariahcharnelle]

as i have watched a lot of your videos straight for almost a year, i cannot express how much growth and healing i have seen in myself. thank you so much Pastor RC and Lady Lisa for all yall do 💛 on top and going higher..see yall at the top!!

[@shavonneosborne7845]

Love learns you.

[@nicolesmith923]

Love this!

[@roseminorql5879]

I never had a healthy man!!! Only God Knows Who’s Healthy For Us🙌🏻🙏🏻🐑🦁🕊️

[@jasonbrown6895]

Thank you sir. My mind has been opened from this teaching.

[@marann7223]

Bishop Blakes wow… I intentionally didn’t join the live bc of the title, I was scared that this video was gonna trigger my recent breakup, but today I got the courage to watch it and I’m so grateful for you and your knowledge and your words, this spoke peace into my heart and was an eye opener that God removed this person out of my life because of the unhealthiness in him. I am able to see things more clearly and get closer to what I should look for in the future. I can’t thank you enough. Blessings

[@allenahercules2594]

This is the clarity I needed after being stuck in an unhealthy back and forth with a man who to-date hvnt understand my emotional ranges & triggers nor values. I think I got comfortable and stuck in the potential of him, due to my fear of abandonment. So Thank You Bishop ... I finally made the choice to completely disconnect. This discussion was timely, since i struggled for years trying to understand what was wrong.

[@Afuaasantewah]

This message brought me to tears. May God bless your union and ministry.

[@erica__dee]

The emotional range point blew my mind 🤯🤯🤯

[@Gdenise]

“An independent soul” amen you can’t force a Woman into submission.. said so maturely🙌🏽🙏🏽

[@Gdenise]

Wow this is so well said, giving her space to heal and grow from her being used to being independent..so many men don’t like that and try to immediately erase this..but it does not work like that..

[@RaysaSylvester]

HONESTLY, people's experiences/life's wisdom (such as yours, from a healthy, reflective & good-intentioned heart) tend to have helped me much more than any therapist I have ever been to. So thank you for all of your wisdom and kindness!!

[@crystalgrose]

Blessed Evening Bishop RC, Lady Lisa and Everyone 🙏🏾🙌🏽 This is a great conversation! Thank You for addressing this Bishop RC.

[@theshoelady4]

Amen! Love this Pastor RC!! Fellas and Ladies listen up!!! Good Stuff!! ❤

[@alphaandomega1332]

I agree with the lady 💯 you do feel safe and secure.

[@missextraordinary7172]

RC Blakes, thank you so much for being a father to the fatherless. I am 45 and never had a father in my life. I never experienced any type of father figure in my life. At times that used to bother me and I would cry a lot with little self-worth. When I got saved and really found GOD. I was able to let go of all that hurt and pain. Thank you!

[@TheDevineFempress]

I wish this was 10 hours long … please Pop ….more … please …far too many of us were raised by broken girls that became mothers … mine chose to be alone because of her own trauma… what you’re saying my heart knows is right…your heart knows the truth when you hear it…the thought of actually experiencing this almost brings tears to my eyes….we need you and this so much … I’m at 44:29 and I don’t want it to stop. I thank God for you so much… you’re helping us heal… God knows I’ve been hurt by the lack of this for as long as I can remember… God Bless you

[@nikkyshamz2696]

Wonderful checklist of qualities to look out for in a prospective partner. Thanks as always.

[@chrisssyinchrist]

Pastor, Thanks for making content like this that spells out what we need to know.

[@ms.forever9282]

I’m grateful to God for my dear parents but Bishop RC and Ms. Lisa Blakes are the kinds that I truly missed and never had in my life! Our lives could have been a lot better with great people like them who are good communicators that can speak godly wisdom into us; they bring clear views to our minds, hearts, and spirits -“the heavenly intelligence” because of their good hearts and souls from God. I believe that certain people enter our lives to enlighten us and pave our way to salvation. Who are your "enlighteners" ( if that's the word for it lol)???!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@TheDevineFempress]

Have you thought of how blessed we are to have access to them in this way and not have been out “actual” parents. It’s having to compare what he gives in comparison to what our parents did not that actually makes us able to sit and listen…we’ve all been hard headed it’s a blessing that we are our age when we get this and not our younger selves … and unable to have a two way “talk” you have youth will have you interrupt so many blessings with a petulant mouth…

[@AFaithDevelopmentSession]

@@TheDevineFempressAMEN! This is so true 💪🏽❤️

[@badlynn1100]

My father was an awesome man. I didn’t make poor choices because of him. Thank you Lord for my Daddy and this teaching! Everything right on point

[@edithhall-4456]

Beautiful Queen 🤩 message varying me on a healthy man shows up He won't be intimidated by my independence or my control but goes deeper for understanding. Thank you R. C. Blakes🎉😊

[@lwarfield52]

Thank you Bishop and First Lady Lisa for this priceless and timeless blessing. 🙏🏾

[@saraw7050]

Amen. This message blesses my soul! Thank you. I pray that it will convict and encourage both men and women. What is impossible with man is possible with God!

[@myracunningham2664]

This blessed my entire soul! Thank you!

[@mekaislovely]

Sometimes I have to turn. These videos off to keep from crying😢 Going thru it in my marriage and so many of your videos confirm my possible inevitable 😢

[@ileneyoung7404]

Good evening, Bishop Blakes. I am currently listening to your podcast. I've heard several others before and there's always a lesson in your conversation. I' ve converted to Islam one year on 11/3/2024 this year. I appreciate you and your wife in your ministries. Much respect to you and your family. You guys are true.

[@nqobilemkhize8110]

I’m forever indebted to this man of God, his teachings have given me hope in times of despair. He has equipped me to embark on my healing journey confidently so. God gives me my daily bread through different people like RC Blakes😊

[@Gdenise]

Wow this is so well said, giving her space to heal and grow from her being used to being independent..so many men don’t like that and try to immediately erase this..but it does not work like that

[@adelemcmaster2738]

Glory to God 💯

[@royalndebele-1]

I truly love your content ❤. God bless your calling ❤.

[@mildredherring2541]

Thank you Bishop RC. And 1st lady Lisa Blakes. This was a great message. I enjoyed it.Awesome work that all of you do for all of us to reach, teach, build up God's kingdom, while tearing down the enemies camp. ❤🙏Giving God,all glory praise and honor .😊😂😮😊🙏🙏🙏Greenville SC

[@mi8345]

I SO needed to hear this today!! My husband is in treatment until the end of the week and I am dreading him coming back as the same man. This video a great reminder as to what to look out for! Thank you so much!!

[@alicesutton559]

Thank you, RC Blakes, for the insightful message. It’s always a pleasure to listen to you, and you’ve done an excellent job of highlighting the key characteristics of what it means for a healthy man to show up in the lives of women. I now have a deeper understanding of how these principles play out, and I hope that we all take what you’re sharing and apply it in our relationships and interactions. It’s so important to reflect on the qualities of a godly man, understand how men think, and truly show up in our relationships. Thank you for shedding light on these valuable insights!

[@olexkaymartin2364]

This was fire Bishop !! Thank you !!

[@MiriamsMindset]

THIS!!! ❤ I was with the wrong person for sure! Thank you for your always on time content. I wish I could share it on my own channel, which has nothing to do with relationships, but I do give little bits when I can. Thank you again! Many blessings to you and Lisa!🙏🏽

[@LucyB789]

I love your videos! Appreciate you so much ❤❤❤❤

[@aurorymack7138]

Wow! Realizing that neither the man that I was previously married to, nor the men I dated later, were healthy…

[@l.s.9618]

An excellent teaching Pastor. Thank you!!

[@patriceparks8087]

Another amazing message! Thank you bishop "Promote healing" love this

[@ileneyoung7404]

Bishop and Mrs. Blake are special people their out here doing the ministry. They seem more approachable. Some church's don't appear to be this way. God bless the both of you.

[@Jw630900]

You better preach Mr. Blakes!

[@jl1959]

Truly a refreshing and empowering place to anchor ourselves as representatives of Christ and the church. This is exactly what Christ was and is teaching till this day and always. We as the xhurch would not surrender otherwise. Unless a way was made through demonstration! Power and transformative for those who earnestly seek to be the community of Yahweh. Be blessed❤

[@jeanbutler8508]

You better preach Bishop RC Blake

[@davidsisson2026]

Previously RC you posted about some secret hand gesture. I've been following you for about a year or more. You have never seemed to me to be in the occult. God bless and keep preaching.

[@emergingqueen3750]

God bless you and your ministry! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@Simply__Christie]

OMG… I have never heard a bad teaching from you! Thank you for existing and for what you doing in helping women 🫶🏽 You make us believe that good men do exist!

[@RCBlakesJr.]

They do 😊🙏🏽

[@forerunness]

Amazing session 💯🙏🔥 thank you, pastor RCB 🧡

[@kitaevans8686]

Bishop, you the best. I wish I would have known you 25 years ago, but God brought you into my life at the right time. ❤🙌

[@valeriemoorephillips9122]

Oh my goodness, Amen and Hallelujah !!!

[@teresabrown174]

I receive this very powerful word Bishop Blakes, thank you so much!! I desire to have these attributes in a man, but until then I will continue my walk with the Lord and work on me! Thank you again, I love you and First Lady Lisa and All you do!!❤️🙏🏾

[@christeancarson4766]

You spoke the very truth I am living through with my husband. We're seeking coaching soon.

[@colleentimmons5379]

This was great thank you Pastor❤

[@neidalewis3354]

Thank you! This was great and enlightening.

[@nowKissthaQueen]

"Almost went viral right there" 😅 looking back on my notes im going to remember that 😂🤭

[@nzingahoney]

About ten, twelve years too late 😢. I am moving on, will not make these mistakes ever again.

[@shontaenorwood7076]

Knowledge is power at least now you know😊

[@Lasbeth977]

Thank you pastor for all the teachings 🎉❤.

[@aracelimartinez8577]

28:00 profound perspective on a healthy man understanding that part. Thank you.

[@loisthomas5465]

Thank you so very much my Bishop 🙏🏼💙🙏🏼💙

[@InYourFaceMoFo]

I would view this text from multiple perspectives, especially regarding how the expectations and demands placed on a "healthy man" might impact individuals with traumatic experiences. Here are some key points: 1. Idealization and Projection: The text portrays a highly idealized image of a man who is self-sacrificing, prioritizes his partner's needs above his own, and takes on the responsibility for her healing. For people with a history of traumatic relationships, this idealization can be problematic. It may lead them to seek such self-sacrificing partners or try to live up to such ideals themselves, creating unhealthy dynamics of self-abandonment. 2. Submission and Power Balance: The notion that the man "leads" and the woman "submits" - even framed positively - can be particularly triggering for individuals with a history of abuse or dominance in relationships. In truly equitable relationships, healing often involves finding a balance where both partners learn to maintain their boundaries and communicate in healthy ways. 3. Responsibility for the Partner’s Healing: The text suggests that the man is responsible for the woman’s healing. From a therapeutic standpoint, healing is fundamentally a personal, inner journey and cannot be fully "done" by another person. People with trauma histories might risk setting overly high expectations for their partners or themselves, leading to unhealthy dependency. 4. Trigger Management: The idea that a healthy man "resolves his own triggers" and is rarely triggered by his partner sounds positive on the surface. However, in reality, triggers-especially for those with trauma-are a natural part of human interactions and not a sign of weakness. Healthy dynamics are less about eliminating triggers altogether and more about recognizing them together and developing respectful, supportive ways to handle them. 5. Active Listening and Respect: Positive aspects of the text, such as the emphasis on active listening, respectful communication, and empathy, are indeed crucial for a healthy, supportive relationship. However, it's essential that these qualities are mutual, rather than one-sided expectations. While the text outlines valuable principles for a relationship, it may present an overly idealized, almost "perfect" image of a partner. For individuals with trauma histories, this could create pressure to feel overly responsible for their partner’s well-being or vice versa. A healthy relationship thrives on mutuality, realistic expectations, and the ability of both partners to balance their needs and grow together.

[@aurorymack7138]

This is so good!!

[@TraviaCarlisle04]

Thank you! 🙏🏾❤️

[@clifftondivine129]

I needed to hear this

[@emergingqueen3750]

Great teaching! ❤️❤️❤️🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@callonthemidwife1874]

Thankyou so much for this inspired message Paster Blakes.

[@carmenduke4472]

Hello Sister/Pastor Mrs. Lisa Blakes❤

[@amandaadams9170]

Great points for a healthy relationship 👏 Thank you!

[@maren1679]

Thank you. So helpful. ❤

[@janellamurphy5665]

Good evening Bishop & Queen Lisa Blakes, thank yo so much for this important message!!! I do intend to become a member of your channel! I want you to know that you and Lisa's Ministry helps me to learn how to behave,and carry myself as a Queen should! God's Daughter Amen!! May God continue to bless you and your family...

[@Asiamariestar]

I can listen to your videos all day 🙏🏾

[@valrio8224]

This message is so on time!

[@jamieburton-oare3537]

Thank you’

[@rikaegill]

Thank you!!

[@jasonbrown6895]

I look forward to more

[@AprilLee-f3y]

Thank you Bishop, I would be so lost, you, Queen Lisa, and Bishop RC Blakes has shaped my life abundantly. Clarity always! One day, I know Yahuah will bring the Man of God into my life and make sure how GOD values me he will do the same. So I continue to wait and wait. I will keep serving in church and teach these babies of whom truly made them in love!

[@carmenduke4472]

God bless you Pastor RC, thank you for your teaching’s, men should represent the healthy versions of a Father a Uncle a Big Brother “The head in love and respect “ those qualities truly touches a woman’s heart to trust and submission as God called the order,

[@londontyler6598]

Thank you Bishop.

[@theresajeffers3982]

This was such a deep message

[@shuniquehandley2518]

I have to write this down, because know I'm going to receive my healthy husband.

[@doinmeeh2006]

Thank u Bishop and 1st LADY❤😊

[@adelemcmaster2738]

Help me, Lord

[@sunshinesandysp]

Amen. Great mesaage

[@Seerspirit]

This is good teaching and I agree with him .

[@rickeishaa]

love love love this

[@LadyBugShaun]

It's the "like two women in their quarreling for me." A man who is always ready to be in a quarrel is definitely not masculine.

[@melissawiley3688]

Happy Monday 🎉❤everyone ❤❤🎉🎉🎉💯🌹❤️🙏😊💃🙌🙌😘

[@amber983]

Shared! 💯

[@RaquelSophia613]

The effects of an unhealthy man are devastatingly debilitating and destructive-only YAH can heal the heart of a broken daughter of GOD.

[@yolandamontgomery3138]

🙏🏽✨🙏🏽✨Thank you ❤

[@Jessicad.kearney]

Speak about it Pastor🙌🏾 Sitting on their rusty, dusty spending her money 💰 😂🙏🏾 thank you preaching a raw authentic word that Teaches the community