HOW I CHOSE MY FIRST NAME // Trans Storytime

[@jackisnotabird]

What if I had actually gone with one of the other names? Do I look like a Luke to you?? 😝

[@tesialyon627]

Luke was i think the best by far of the other options

[@carmenherrero622]

Jackson Bird right as you said Luke I thought it it as a really cool name for you! I think my male name would be Andrés, as it is a name my mom discovered right after she named my brother and I'm pretty sure if I had been born a male I would've been called Andrés. Really cool video, I love these kind, talking about yourself and just being you and letting us know. Keep uo the good work!

[@cassesque]

Jack definitely fits the best, but out of all the options Luke definitely sounds the most you

[@juliap8068]

I think you made a good choice with Jackson/Jack, but I actually like your whole selection! Except for Bill haha. When I was around five, I wanted to be named Tracy for some reason. I'm not sure where I got that from since it's definitely not a common name for the year I was born, and now it's pretty cringey. I also had a while that I wanted to be named Elizabeth because I thought it'd be cool to have a name that lent itself to a lot of nickname options. I'm happy with my name (Julia) now though.

[@chuhusuu1]

Jackson Bird I can totally see you as a Luke

[@Litzergam]

Maybe your Mom sensed something when she was pregnant. Her name choices were HarriSON, CarSON, and JackSON. Perhaps she knew she was having a son.

[@leahb8772]

...yeah cause they were her names for a male baby??

[@torrinashley6076]

@@leahb8772 You're missing the point 😂

[@gimygaming8655]

@@torrinashley6076 I did too

[@IceKreacher]

And his was LarSON lmao

[@StarrySkyyyy]

@@leahb8772 permission to woosh you

[@jagoandlitefoot]

my name search process was, like 1) is it a "me" name 2) is it not already taken by anyone i know 3) does it sound good with my last name 4) bonus points if it starts with the same initial as my old name so i don't have to change my email address

[@charleyburton5207]

doctorwhofan883 my name change was like "okay what's the furthest from my birth name I can possibly get"

[@aaron-eg3rf]

mine is going the same except point 4 , theres not very many masculine /Gender Neutral names that I like that start with H . I was considering Alex but going back to no2 , a friend of mine is called Alex so yeah . . IDKim just glad to see that I can relate

[@abbiesweeney7298]

mine was the exact same lmao. i found a name that works with all four points, august :D

[@chrisisbookinit]

Re the third point: imo the only first name that goes well with my last name is my brothers name -__-

[@Musictree16]

jagoandlitefoot that’s me but I know to many people

[@maryellenhreha]

I'm a cis gal and I've always hated my first name. So at the end of high school I had to make a choice about who I was going to be in college, and just went by my last name, Reynolds. The problem is, people make a lot of weird assumptions when a girl goes by a last name. People assumed I was in the military a lot, for one. But now it's totally natural and my mom advocates for me at family events, enforcing the name change with aunties who may be less understanding. If I ever get married, my plan is just to ditch my first name, move my maiden name to be my official first name, and start fresh!

[@Magpiecheek]

madamreynolds oh wowww I feel this. I hate my first name too so I wanted to go by my middle name, Lizette but NO ONE would switch! I gave up

[@secretaltruism4174]

My aunt removed her last name legally. She had gotten married a few times and constantly taken the other person's name, and got sick of having all these names. So she's just her first name. Though Facebook doesn't allow only having a first name.

[@Noreen_Ni_Riain]

Yeah, I'd like to do that. In college, my current asks would be Ryan or Nemo. Nemo as short for Noreen. I think either would be easier, both because they're kinda androgynous/unisex and because they're shorter.

[@algriffin7630]

Me too!! I don't like my actual name, and want to go by alyx, but that's my dad's name, so I feel like that would be awkward. Idk. I need advice haha.

[@zekethegeek97]

Even though I'm confused with exactly what I am, I could never go by just my last name. It would be very confusing if I told people " Hi my name is Mann"

[@Mariederoses]

Hi, my name is Keith, and I'm a trans boy. Crying bc I've never said this before.

[@sidney3159]

SpaceKingKeith i love your name omg

[@evan10307]

hello red palidin (srry i accept yall ha)

[@torrinashley6076]

Why is your profile pic of a girl

[@humbled_bones]

Torrin Ashley maybe they where never trans/detrasitioned??

[@torrinashley6076]

@@humbled_bones Maybe

[@andrineslife]

The first time I saw the glare in your glasses, I tried to tilt my screen backwards/forwards to get the glare to go away.. Tired brain..

[@noahatlas5240]

I chose Noah because, I'm not kidding, it's easier for baristas at Starbucks to hear and understand. My deadname is unisex and easily confused with other names. Noah is (typically) male, and my idea was that baristas and people who heard my name wouldn't misgender me. You'd be surprised at how many people misgender others even with a binary name. my name is Noah Samuel, which ties back to by Christian roots, and my parents like that. It was a bit easier when I told them I picked Noah bc it was my favorite Bible story, but the truth is a little different

[@jackisnotabird]

People never understood me when I said my birth name so choosing a name I could clearly pronounce was also really important for me. I totally get that.

[@noahjaybee]

PRO TIP: Do the passport change through a local place, like a Post Office. Mine processed in less than 2 weeks, rather than the normal 4-6 estimate.

[@LaurenFairwx]

So cool to hear more about the name choosing process! I feel like you picked the perfect name for you. Here's a weird fun story about nicknames! I hate when people call me Laur. Weird people I'm not even close with have called me that my whole life and it has always irked me for some reason. But when I was in middle school, I tested out the nickname Ren. It felt less feminine and more weird and it was fun for a while. My dad called me that for like 5 years.

[@jackisnotabird]

People called me Ren too! It started after Even Stevens came out. I didn't like it at first and then I liked it because Kevin Bacon's character in Footloose was called Ren, but by the time I realized that people had stopped calling me it.

[@hpfan114eva]

"Ren Fairweather" sounds like a YA protagonist!

[@sid9666]

I'm choosing to stick with my birth name sydney but usually just go by sid. (preferably I'd change the spelling to sidney but whatevs). I like it cause it is unisex and I think, in my transition, its important for me to remember my feminine side and not get too carried away with my masculinity. so it feels like a nice balance. plus its a name my mom chose for me cause she had a good friend (who was a guy) named sidney when she was young and I want to kind of honor her with that :)

[@sid9666]

also changing names is a pain in the ass so its just easier to keep this one haha

[@torrinashley6076]

That would make me ridiculously dysphoric

[@sebastiang6397]

THATS EXACTLY WHAT I DID!

[@sebastiang6397]

My mom also had a friend named Sidney!

[@Magpiecheek]

When you mentioned that many trans people try to choose names that were en vogue when they were born, my initial reaction was that it was because if you were tryna stay stealth, it would be kinda weird to have a name that was so far ahead of the times. Idk if that's right obviously but that's just what came to mind. Looking forward to your next video!

[@jackisnotabird]

Yep! Stealth is exactly it. Sometimes I think I internalize stealth practices and forget why I think what I do. Recording this video was on instance of that. In the moment, I couldn't for the life of me remember why it can be a good idea to choose a name that was popular when you were born and when I was editing, I was like duh it's because being stealth used to basically be the only option.

[@ozercolino7643]

I'm a non binary trans guy and when I first started choosing my name, I would go over lists of names and write down the ones that I liked. At first I considered the possibility of changing my name to the male version or gender neutral version of my birth name (Oliver/Ollie), but I knew multiple people with that name. Then I considered changing my name to Nick because my middle name is similar to it. I had been planning to change my name to Nick for a while, but then I came across the name Oz and it just felt right for some reason.

[@seth5229]

Oz Ercolino I use Ollie in real life because people are much more likely to assume that Ollie is olivia as opposed to Mikey or Seth. As it happened though I don't like the name Oliver or Ollie particularly and I know an Oliver who's called Ollie for short so that wouldn't work anyway. (I'm also a transmasculine nonbinary person)

[@ozercolino7643]

Seth Tuohy When I was looking for a name that I liked, what I did was just look through lists of names and write down ones that I liked. When I first came out, people asked me how I chose my name and the truth is I saw it on Tumblr because there are a bunch of blogs dedicated to helping trans people chose names. Before I came out though, I was depressed, so I really needed to come out, but I was also really anxious about it. One of the excuses for not coming out was that I didn't have a name yet, but in hindsight it probably would have been better to come out even if I hadn't fully decided on a name yet. But anyways, the reason I knew the name Oz was "right" was that I didn't have to force myself to take on that name, I just wanted to.

[@achilleus9918]

i've considered changing my name so much and it's so frustrating because i love my name but i cringe so much whenever people say "oh that's such a pretty name" or read me as male/androgynous (i'm nonbinary) then correct themselves after hearing my name. the name i nearly went with was ethan, because it's close to esmé in terms of initials and syllables and i didn't know anyone called ethan - then i found out there was a friend of a friend from school called ethan, and also the process of getting people to call me a different name seemed so daunting, and i do like my name... anyway, i had a hard time with "names popular when you were born" because i wanted something masculine (rather than strictly unisex) but not hyper-masculine (i'm not a brad or a dave or a bob), and i wanted it to be english rather than american (i live in england) and i wanted it to not sound like i'd named myself (so nothing too unusual or modern). it's also easy to spell - for some reason no one can get 'esmé (pronounced ez-may) right. anyway, i think jackson suits you way more than luke, but that could just be because i know you as jackson :P

[@jackisnotabird]

One of my favorite names is Elliot. Dunno if that would suit you, but I've definitely met people of all genders with that name so it's a tad androgynous and starts with E!

[@achilleus9918]

i considered that actually! definitely a contender if i ever can be bothered with changing my name

[@elliotdavis1723]

Jackson Bird Elliot is an amazing name!!! (*wink wink*) I have most of my friends call me El though

[@seth5229]

Fun fact: Esmé is historically a French male name. Esmée is the feminine version. Evelyn is also historically a male nane but used primarily for girls now. Personally I love the name Esmé but other more neutral names beginning with E are Ellis, Evan, Eli, Emerson or Emery.

[@adrienuhhhh]

Omg my birth name is Esme' and even before I knew I was trans (I'm a trans guy) I had always hated my name. I go by Emmett and I love it so much. I've always loved the name since I was young (yeah, it's because of the Lego movie) and I went by Emmett in my 6th grade English class 3 years before I actually came out to everyone. It's so cool to see another trans person who had my same birth name.

[@ameliabowen4205]

My mum wanted to call me Amelia and I still wish it was my name. My dad made her choose a different one because he's a pilot and apparently didn't want people thinking of Amelia Earhart or something. Usually if I'm in a conversation with someone I don't think I'll see or speak to again I say my name is Amy

[@UniqueSouls]

Olivia Bradshaw omg that's so weird me too!!!!!!!!!!!! That's actually so weird

[@JacksenRose]

I know a 7 month old named Amelia BECAUSE or Earhart lol

[@boatsandcurrent]

What's super sad (in my case at least) was I didn't know being trans was a thing you could be until I was in late high school/early college, so I don;t really remember experimenting with boy names at all when I was growing up. I tried going by so many different girl names to see if I could find something comfortable and never was able to find anything that felt right, so I just settled with going by my birth name even though I didn't like it at all. Fast forward to now, and I'm definitely trans and definitely going to change my name, so I picked Noah. It's from one of my favorite books, and it also just felt like me. I'm currently having some doubts about the middle name I chose (Lane, which can be a little androgynous depending on who you ask), so I'm really looking forward to hearing your perspective about middle names in part 2!

[@jackisnotabird]

I didn't know being trans was a thing until mid-college so I totally feel you! I just had a super active imagination so I played with boys names a bit growing up without thinking there would ever be a reality where I could be a boy. Noah is a kickass name. Good luck with everything!

[@boatsandcurrent]

Oh thanks fam, that's really kind of you!

[@MightyAceCakes]

Thank you for sharing this personal story. I've always been interested in the behind the scenes of people doing things like changing their names and interesting things like this. However I had to giggle when you got to the "Link" name because you just described Link from Good Mythical Morning. (Although he is going by his middle name apparently lol.)

[@jackisnotabird]

Is his full name Lincoln? That would be cool. I mean, I'm pretty sure I was totally thinking of Link from GMM back when I was thinking Link was a cool name.

[@MightyAceCakes]

I had to look it up to be sure but his name is Charles Lincoln "Link" Neal III. I think it's pretty cool! I think you could have pulled off Luke if you went with it but Jackson just seems to fit you so well.

[@Link546511]

Jackson Bird I loved hearing you say you considered the name Link. As a queer person currently in the process of changing my name, I had considered the name Link for a few years and everyone thought I was ridiculous, I still like it and just knowing I'm not the only person who thinks that feels nice.

[@aldergroves]

non-binary person here & like my name is lee, which is pretty unisex in itself but my middle-name is super female-sounding soooo i've considered the name Hayne/Haynes in its various possible spellings however, it's never sounded quite right so i've just stuck with my birthname w/o actually really using the middle-name, hahaha

[@jk-jl2lo]

aldergroves If Hayne/Haynes doesn't sound quite right, maybe something similar to it will sound better? You might like Hayden, Hadley, Henley, Haven. (I just googled unisex names that start with H)

[@aldergroves]

that's a good idea to look around about! thanks for the ideas

[@icantthink0faname206]

👀 my middle name is lee

[@rickki]

when I was a kid I absolutely hated my name. I thought it was too masculine and to this day no one ever spells it right. I liked Emma and Elizabeth. I thought they sounded feminine and classy. Now that I'm older I realized that I'm not very feminine and Rickki actually suits me quite well. If I was trans the only reason I would change my name would be to separate my old female life from my new male life because Ricky is more traditionally male even though it's technically gender-neutral.

[@Filitelchy]

When I was still in like elementary school I tested the name Luke as well Didn't really like it, it didn't fit me so I looked around for a while. Finally I found it. Jason. HA! I didn't go with that spelling. I wanted to be a little different with it. So I spelled it as Jaceon. It sounds like an Evee evolution.

[@zanderjayy]

I chose my name Zander very recently. It kinda... fell upon me. I never really had any issues with my old name for a long time until I started presenting more androgynously and then people would look to my name to gender me and I was not about that at all. I think it fits!

[@doodledude3955]

When you talked about how you spent so much time fantasizing about “jack” and how you felt that jack is just someone you created and how jack is your ideal or far too good to be who you are-that’s exactly how I am. I don’t really know anyone who thinks like me. I spend so much time thinking and creating this person in some other universe called Jax. I am a girl and in my head/ other universe version of me I am a boy who’s name is Jax (or Connor, I like both names) and I continuously create him, he is my ideal or someone who is too good to ever be me. I am getting a haircut tomorrow to get my hair cut a lot shorter and I kinda nervous. I’m very glad to hear I’m not the only one who spends time thinking about something like that. I’m glad I found your channel, thx

[@SelenicSoul83]

I've been thinking of a new name for myself on and off over the past couple of months now, and it's... ugh. Hard. My brother already got the name our parents had planned for if I were amab, but maybe I should ask if they ever considered any other names... Very interesting video. Thank you for sharing :)

[@jackisnotabird]

Yeah, you might be surprised! Growing up, I always assumed if I'd been AMAB I would've gotten the other name they were considering for my older brother, which was Robert. I was really surprised to hear my mom was considering totally different names for me.

[@namelessnerd2989]

I still haven't really chosen a name because I'm not officially out to anyone as ftm. When I was a kid, my names on games and things were always Jared or Jaden. I guess I liked J names or something? For a while I really liked Elliot, but while I still like it, it seems a bit too formal to me. I also have always liked Eli, so I'm kinda thinking Elliot with Eli as a nickname. What about that? I also like the name Isaac, but I know an Isaac in real life so that would be weird. Maybe as a middle name? I've toyed around with Liam and Kyler, but neither of them feel right, especially because Kyler is kinda crossing the line of stereotypical trans names. I asked my mom a while ago what she would have named me if I had been a boy, but unfortunately I don't remember. I need to find another time to ask again. Anyway, that's my long winded explanation of my quest to find a name :). Awesome to see you posting again so soon!

[@lightupheelies9716]

Hell yeah! I actually had a really similar name choosing process to you! I had a character named Gabby that I really liked, so I just took the name and changed it to "Gabriel"

[@bread7303]

thanks so much for this video! I'm agender and currently trying to decide on a new name for myself, and I'm having trouble. My given name is Brenda, but I have this nickname that literally everyone calls me: Bread. I like being called it, but sometimes it's just not practical to introduce yourself as Bread because people are like, "haha I thought you said bread." when I finally came around to choosing a new name, first I thought about Cyril, but nobody knows how to pronounce Cyril so then I considered going by my last name Lee. I like Lee, it's cool, it's fun, it's pithy, but it's also my last name. I put it as my preferred name for a pre-orientation day for my college, but when I got there my nametag said "Lee Lee" and it was hell. I can't be Lee Lee!! so now I'm going back to making a new list. hopefully I'll find something better? maybe Robin?

[@chickenlicker1712]

Bread my given name is Brenda as well lol but I'm changing it

[@DustyForgotten]

My grandmother's married name is actually "Betty Lee Lee" and it is absolutely acceptable and also very cute.

[@elibundy3613]

Jack! I can’t believe you had the idea to go by Larson possibly because of Rent. And then Liam because of Mr Shakes. You are already one of my favorite youtubers and that just cemented it. You are so awesome!

[@tylergriffin6062]

My little brother's called Alex Samuel so he took both of the names i wanted 😂😂

[@jazzyjezza3858]

So basically this is how I chose my name: Me: *writing down every male name that I love* My friend: *reads them out until I find one that feels more "me"* Me: whshsjdkskejc. tAMIKA! I got it! My friend: woah calm down What name? Me: jEREMY

[@asherstiles5101]

I named myself Asher because it means happy/fortunate/blessed, and at the time of naming myself I was struggling with the idea that because I was trans I was cursed. I was trying to counteract that idea.

[@Emiko-x8s]

That's awesome!! I found mine while studying Japanese and i liked it!! I'm applying for a name change right now!!

[@Emiko-x8s]

Oh and i have another "me" inside of me she's 8 right now and i named her Hailey when my little sister Isabelle was born my parents considered it naming her Hailey but decided on Isabelle to my great dismay! (I really liked the name Hailey)

[@Eli-sp8fl]

dude you look so like jared kleinman!!! it's dope!

[@SomeoneBeginingWithI]

I'm 21 nb, and this video made me feel a lot better about not having settled on a name I want for the rest of my life. I'm currently trying to go by my birthname's first and middle initials on official stuff, and in person by a neutral name that I derived from those initials. idk if I want to stay with this forever, but it feels like a good start. It's reassuring to know that you tried a lot of things out before you settled on your final name.

[@colorbandiits]

I changed my name to franklin legally last winter, but I have no intention of going by that, I just don't like the way Frankie looks as a full name and I didn't like how Frank went with my middle and last name.

[@malarky27]

I came out right before going to a new school. I told everyone "Hey, call me Clayton!" ..... Yeah. A Clayton was in my home room that year. So now it Klayton. Me being unique.

[@ThistleBlue]

Huh, so not a ftm, but rather an mtf in my case. I've always used Connie as an alternative name when creating second profiles for website and services when needed. Then decided on Sophie because it was what my Mum chose if i was a biological girl. This video, in the point that using the initial and the surname situation for identification, may have convinced me to use Connie as that would make document changes easier as you said. Thanks.

[@lucypeters9476]

This video is so interesting! I never thought about what a big decision choosing your name is as a trans person but it makes a lot of sense because names are such a big part of identities. Growing up I loved my name but always wanted my name to be spelled Lucie instead of Lucy because then I could dot the "i" with a heart. I now am happy it is spelled the way it is though because people never misspell it.

[@fliss5152]

I'm so so glad you mentioned that you chose a lot of names originally based on wanting to have some sort of emotional connection to them; I struggle with my name a lot because I want it to mean something (throwback to two years ago when I used Castiel, ew), finding a name has been way more natural feeling since starting to look for names that just look nice or sound good with my last name rather than "Hm, Dexter is a cool name and my favorite fictional serial killer"

[@elliotdavis1723]

I almost chose the name Remus because of my love of the character

[@jackisnotabird]

Dude same.

[@sugarcrystal8122]

😆 nice

[@idrankthemilk9870]

Almost choose the name Harry . I ain’t even like the character, just the name .

[@TheMaebunny]

I'm still a bit iffy on trying out names. I considered Garry, and Stuart but they didn't really suit me, lmao. I have asked my parents what they'd've named me if I were born a dude, but they hadn't thought of any. My dad wanted to call me Xena though XD I like Vincent, but a family friend's last name is Vincent, so I thought I'd just shorten it to Vince, since it sounds sort of edgy, lmao. As for middle names, I quite like the idea of having me old name as my middle name. Idk, I don't want to completely get rid of it, because I do like it as a name, just not really as me.

[@WigWoo1]

Luckily my last name works as a Womans name so I'm just going to flip my first and last name around. That way I don't just throw away my old name. Even if it's a name I wouldn't Identify as anymore, I still think it's very important to remember who you were and to never forget your old identity. Even if those memories are negative it still made you the wonderful person you are today and I think it's important to not let memories be lost to history. The past is the most important influence on your future

[@fishwearingsocks6402]

My current name is one of the names you mentioned, and I’m not sure whether the feeling I got was uncomfortableness from hearing it or guilt of thinking about changing my name from that. Anyways, thanks for sharing your experiences!

[@ceruleanloomling5968]

I never really thought about male names for myself growing up, and my parents never considered other names for me before I was born, so I had some trouble coming up with any options when I tried to find a new one. I spent a frustratingly long while in "name limbo" until I got so fed up I went on a name database, and then I had the opposite problem. To many possibilities. So I created a shortlist of about a 100 names, sent copies to my parents (who have been really supportive and actually asked to be included in choosing my new name) to find the ones each of us liked best, which narrowed it down to 15, and from those I actually managed to find the right one. I've been going by Lorenz for almost half a year now, it's not official yet and won't be for a while, but I'm really happy with it.

[@julianc3701]

Aw man, I loved that you thought of Larson! But maybe only because I, too, love Rent. Jackson seems to fit you really well though. I'm not out yet, but I've tentatively chosen Julian. Other options were Damian, Daniel, Devon, Evan, Joshua, and Zachary...aka too many :-P This was a fun video!

[@OctagonalGolbat]

Naming yourself seems tough, good job on choosing such an awesome name!

[@leojune4131]

This might be weird, but I'm really glad you struggled with your name. I'm trying to choose a name, and it's comforting to know that I'm not alone in changing my name multiple times

[@jaredlikesmusic]

I totally relate to the “naming myself after a male role model” thing. I named myself Jared right off the bat, and I do like the name, and it’s what I go by now, though I’m thinking of changing it because of what I’m about to say: I decided on the name because Jared sounds close to Gerard and I absolutely idolize Gerard Way. It’s so cringy AcK

[@frnksfrthmmrs2508]

i totally get it. i also idolise Gee but i’m also a huge fan of Dan and Phil, which kind of started to suck after i started to love the name Daniel and people thought i was just a “transtrender” and wanted to be a complete and utter stalker

[@cameronmac4522]

I initially was thinking of a more gender neutral name, but totally see now how it would make transitioning even harder. I've been leaning towards Cameron, but have also considered Carson, Peyton, and going by JT which is taking the middle part of my name out, which make it much easier for transitioning. I've also thought about Jackson, but I think it might not suit my age as well.

[@thimblepunk7359]

my process was thinking of my top like three priorities for a name and working from there. for me the vital ones were a) that I wanted to strengthen connections with my future, not cut ties to my past, b) something that could be shortened in different ways c) to not be a name that I knew someone with/a full name that sounded good

[@CaseyCassidy]

As you mentioned passport I had a moment of panic, before remembering I did it today. It's all good. LeakyCon (hopefully) here I come!

[@unlimitedfunlol]

GAH!!!!!!!!!!! Link AND Lincoln AND Luke....they were some of my name's choices too!!!!

Wow, I'm currently thinking to be William, I jumped a bit when you said it 😂

[@simplystoned420]

I flip flopped around a lot with names, but I eventually landed on Toby (Tobias) and it fit. I couldn't find a middle name that fit for several years until I started messing around with different name ideas with a bunch of different characters from the Outsiders, and the name Cade just clicked.

[@misonlothal]

Im thinking of going with elliot, purely bc ever since i was younger its been a name that i have loved and when asked for a male name i would always think 'oh elliot' and kinda just think about the name if somebody said mine and as to why this is i have absolutley no idea

[@veggiebr0th]

im between naming myself cedric (after the sorcerer from sofia the first), ivo (after my birthname, and after dr robotnik/eggman) or sawyer (after one of my ocs whom i named after a character from pokemon xyz). i think im gonna go with ivo sawyer to preserve my initials though. plus, i can use ivo in spanish and german speaking spaces, and sawyer in english speaking ones :)

[@birdboy37]

I RELATE TO THE NAME PROBLEM SO MUCH. TOO MANY PEOPLE AND BAD MEMORIES ATTACHED TO NAMES

[@Junethh]

4:42, I wanted to go for luke aswel! but i was short for luka, from vocaloid -////- its so embarrasing.

[@JustThinkInnocence89]

Interestingly enough, I'm transitioning currently (8 weeks on T now, and my facial hair is finally coming in!) and I've chosen to change my name to William because it came to me in a dream. I'm still using my old nickname (Mel) because it's unisex, but I'm also slowly trying to get people used to William for me.

[@a.e.p.9818]

I actually think Liam would of suit u, sounds pretty kool and somehow goes with ur personality

[@SomeoneBeginingWithI]

Only seeing this now from the link on your last video. I don't think this appeared in my sub box...

[@ClipsByLaura]

Jackson definitely fits you and I love how it's a name your mom considered for you. I wouldn't be able to use 'my boy name', since my parents wanted to use the same boys name for me and my sisters and with the last girl, decided to name her the girl version :')

[@alecwinner]

I'm such an oddball wrt my name, I'm trans, so I legally I've changed my name, but I also have DID, and since I was basically 'born' I've always ID'd as Alec, way before I ever came out. And when i figured out I was trans it fit so well with me, I never even had to consider other names. I liked other guys names before i came out, but they were never me, it's like I literally sprung fully formed from my brain, name and all.

[@tashagamble1883]

I am MtoF, but I got a ton of great tips form this. Thank you!

[@projectz975]

this is soo wild to me, like the whole years long struggle to choose a name. i just searched for girl names that started with my given initial and picked the first one that stuck out to me & then i just swapped my middle name to a female varient. it took me one hour to choose a name & one week to get emotionally attached to it lol

[@Novjuly]

I always used to you with pen names. The one I stuck with was Ruby, and now I cringe at it, but I'm not sure why.

[@WordsFlowMagnetic]

I love love looove the name Carson. It's cool you didn't pick it but I might well name one of my kids that one day

[@superhpfan00]

I almost got name JaNese (juh-neese) after my aunt LaNese but I'm pretty sure I'dve been perpetually pissed with people calling me Janice my entire life. I dont think my parents came up with any boy names (or at least they dont talk about them) for me. I ended up being named after one of my moms high school drum majors. Pretty much everyone calls me by my deadname but if I had the chance to legally change mine, I'd change my name to Antony but I might change Nicole to Nickolas, I'm not sure about my middle name

[@maritimus_]

thinking of names, i had gone through the "close to birthname" thing as well, so it revolved around emile, emilien , erin (this one lasted a long time too), but none of those worked so with my best friends we were looking and i was almost Teddy but luckily we saw Charles :')

[@ClycloneMC]

One of my parents possible names for me was Rhiannon Ellis which I actually like way better than my actual name. I also like that I could play off the Rhiannon and go by Rhys which I guess doesn't actually correlate but it made sense in my head.

[@izxasx7658]

does anyone else think of a name you like but then thinks of someone they know named that and then you’re like “ew i don’t wanna be named after them” no just me? okay bye

[@dawnieedreams]

lol for me, I already went by Dawn online cause a long time ago i made a fan account for a character named Dawn, and i've been going by that for years online by then. When I really started to think about names, Dawn just stuck to me, so uh.... blame the show creators for why I'm Dawn rn also for right now, my middle name (still not 100%) is Marina. When i was being born, one of my names that my parents thought of if i was AFAB, was Ocean. While Ocean didn't stick, I looked for more aquatic related names and came to Marina and for right now I'm really liking it :)

[@hypatiastanhope4716]

I transitioned long ago but never really got around to legally changing my name lol , I've gone by 3 different name a over the past decade and a half lol some people even still call me by my birth name ( it's a unisex name so it's ok ) naming ones self is the hardest thing I've ever had to do lol

[@prettypinkpastel5385]

I have considered the names Leon, Luke, Leo, Sebastian (because it starts with the same initail as my birth name), Ash (then I realized people might think its short for Ashley). I am really stuck on the whole name change thing especially since I haven't came out to my parents as trans yet so yeah that's a thing..

[@yoimxyler1711]

I’m struggling with my name picking right now because my mom hates all the names on my possible name list and won’t call me the one that I really like (Jonah) or the nickname I have (BJ) just because it’s not close enough to the name she gave me. She won’t call me anything other than my birth name until I “find something better”

[@aokimika9249]

😂😂😂😂 I had/have an alternate universe me too. My alternate universe name was Jack. Now im at Mika and my pet birds name was Billy. And also went by Lukas for a short wile. (My brothers pet birds name was Johnny... Rockabilly and Johnny cash... yeah. We didn't even plan that..)

[@jawggy2260]

I chose my name because I always liked the name ever since I was a kid, probably because one of my favorite cartoon characters had this name (even now one of my favorite characters from a more recent show has this name). I still hadn't felt quite right because trying new names just feels weird for some reason so I headed over to the magic conch website, asked if i should use the name, and it said yes. I don't know if its entirely because I just like the characters who have my name but i definitely still like the name otherwise. other names just don't feel right

[@Crowsbatsandrats]

I also wanted to go for the name Link but I wanted to do it because of the Legend of Zelda series and when explaining to people why I choose my name I didn't want the weird judgemental looks them from so I decided not to go with that.

[@rorygiambalvo2955]

My dad didn't have any backup names for me, but I've hated my name almost my whole life. I'm not sure if I'm binary trans or genderfluid, but I'm starting to use Miles around friends and at work, even changed my preferred name at work for the upcoming year! It's probably not the name I'm going to use for the rest of my life, and I feel some shame in using it professionally, but I need to distance myself from my birth name for my own sanity, so it's a good middle ground.

[@MatiRL]

I'ts been so amazing to see your transition, I am so very happy for you n.n

[@fmangnus6738]

I also have a lot of stories/au’s in my head and from when I was younger to now pretty much all the names already have a face to them. Like Noa is now my girlfriend, I have a friend we call Aleks , now I’m considering Charlie, Finn or Sam....

[@penguin112493]

I've never considered any other names for myself, but my parents apparently spent a while trying to choose between Samuel and Aaron. I'm really glad they went with Sam, as Aaron Harris has some weird alliterative properties that would have gotten annoying after about six days

[@emmamiele5850]

I love hearing that you like William Shakespeare and Abraham Lincoln: 2 people I very much like as well.

[@antjuanfinch1461]

And yes you definitely seem like you could've been a luke! And I've actually been strongly considering changing my name to Alexander because my mom said that she always thought that she should've went Alex instead of Antjuan and it's starting to grow on me and I think that it fits me more than antjuan

[@alan177]

I came up with Al for my animal crossing character, to abbreviate my birth name, before I even new I was trans. Then when I figured out I was trans, one of my first thoughts was, "what's Al short for... Alan!" and that was it. The more I thought about it, the better it got.

[@rapidcreativity]

When you said, "Just Jack," it reminded me of Jack from Will and Grace. That's all I have to comment.

[@fudgecake4633]

My nickname as a child was Chloe (which now is like absolute Hell- it feels almost as weird as my birth name) Then when I transitioned to Agen I kept my name which was already unisex. Now I'm Charlie (trans male) because it had a small link to Chloe, but I'm still not sure! Recently I've been thinking about the Jason... I've also called myself Travis in my head once??? Very confused, lol.

[@LadyAneh]

My process was: hey, except for spelling and an almost never practiced pronunciation difference, my name sounded like a guy name already. Aaron it is. And for my middle name...just something I've always liked. I write as an amateur, and had named one of my many characters my chosen middle name already. Easy as pie. Now, if only my last name weren't so boring. How did you get Bird as a last name? That sounds so cool!

[@Bloodmoon_Artwork]

I just wanna say I appreciate your videos so much Jackson! I’ve been watching lots of them lately, and it really helps me process and learning things. At first I was super uncertain and afraid of everything and just didnt know what to do. And then I found your channel, youre like a life saver bro. I recently found out that Im a trans guy. At first I was thinking of the name Keith, which I love, but it doesnt really work for my country? (Im Dutch) I later came out to my mom and we were brainstorming together about names and we came up with lots of names, but they didnt quite fit. (I wanted a name that began with S since thats the first letter of my birth name) Then my mom came up with Sylvian, Syl in short, and that was it, I felt the spark you know. Im totally planning on changing my name to that. My friends also call me Sylvian/Syl and it just feels so right! It feels really nice that my mom came up with it. And Im planning on jokingly refering to myself as Sylvester whenever I’ll be at fancy parties in the future lmao. Anyways, keep on doing what youre doing, thank you!

[@roedoresdeoliveira]

For me it was pretty simple, i had made a short story once when i was in highschool about myself but i refered to me as Oliver, done.

[@evanbrito4573]

my birth name is stephanie with an e and since i was little i hate it. so, past year i started to call myself he and name myself jack. i used it for some months but it didn't work so well. couple weeks ago i came out to my friends and they give me advice on names but none fit me. after a long time visiting baby names websites, i found Oliver and when i see it i just knew, ya know? yesterday i came up with dean as my middle name and i am feeling so good and comfortable with myself rn. idkw, but is really good this feeling of accepting yourself.

[@foreverwantingpie]

My middle name is unquestionably feminine but I don't think I'm going to change it cuz it somehow doesn't bother me. Glad you uploaded!!

[@Chichiltek]

My name change names where 1: storm 2:Light 3:knight 4:castiel now it’s Remington And the list continues (hopefully not)

[@rim.j0b_mach1n3x_x]

i love the name link and my friends call me link and i chose it bc of greek mythology but im not sure because i do feel like ill get bullied bc of the game legend of zelda. i might keep it but im not sure

[@awhiny1]

That is exactly how my trans son picked his name! In college he asked me what name I had picked for a boy and I immediately said Benjamin Robert- and that’s what we’ve called him ever since. He recently legally changed it 😊

[@biscuitfoot1257]

I had a similar experience! So, It started in early middle school. Even after liking being called male, only feeling comfortable looking male, etc, I still didn't know I was trans. During this time, I started wanting to go by Samuel. I asked my brother to call me it, I asked other people, and of course, I would be told: "that's a boys name, you're a girl!". I was confused why I couldn't go by it, it felt so right, like I was meant to go by anything other than my "birth name". After being met with conflict, I went through that conforming stage where I wore makeup, wore my hair short, wair "girly clothes", all that. It never felt right but I never thought about it until the summer before 8th grade. At that time, I pushed my "male identity" so far away to where I thought I just couldn't be a guy, I also found out about non-binary at the time so, I thought that was appropriate at the time and I thought I was non-binary for a few months (I'm not saying that everyone that is non-binary is just in a phase, that was just for me) until I researched a lot more into the topic of female-to-male trans individuals. At this time, I had my hair cut short, I was wearing things that I was more comfortable in but something was missing. I am an artist an I create OCs and characters a lot, so, I created this "character" named Andrew. He looked like how I wanted to look, he was me. I didn't realize I made who I was inside. I ended up choosing the name Andrew because I always liked that name. I'm a senior now and I'm going to get evaluated for T, it's like fulfilling a life-long dream. I've had dysphoria my whole life and I've finally realized it instead of going further and further into the closet and denying my true self. Whoo, sorry if that was bit of a read and poorly worded.

[@Sisu_Kara]

The name Kara was a crush i had in college so roughly the same age and was the same initial too. Once i worked out i was nonbinary decided to add a nickname from a language i liked (Sisu from Finnish) and both males and females use it.

[@BusinessCasualLabCoat]

When I was deciding on a name, I almost went with Ciaran, and some days I regret not sticking with that. Years later, I ended up using it as the name of my first D&D character (but he spells it "Kyran"). I never really considered using the male name my parents had picked for me, because it was too close to my birth name for it to be comfortable, and I had a friend with that name, so it would have been weird.

[@beckm9728]

My parents apparently would've named me John (after my grandpa) if I was a boy, and I actually like that name and I'm holding onto it for when I have kids. Thing is, even though my parents technically picked both my legal name and nickname (Rebecca after Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm and Becky after Becky Thatcher from Tom Sawyer, respectively because my parents are both NERDS) my older sister kinda made the final call on calling me Becky, since that was the name of one of her best friends from preschool. (Her other top choice was Lauren.) If I was a boy, however, she wanted to name me after her imaginary friend.... Hoonky. Needless to say, I dodged a bullet by being a girl.

[@noahr.7144]

I'm already starting to transition I go by max but it started as a placeholder name and now I want to go by Kade. It just feels more me. Any tips for changing your name after people have already started calling,you things you asked them to?

[@schismbytool]

I've had two guy names i had ( im on the third ) the first was arrow ( cause green arrow was my fav superhero at the time ) and the second was Andy, but my friend phil made fun of it, so now I'm Eathan. Becuase my foriegen friend spelt Ethan wrong. And I loved it

[@mrsheep1589]

The name i’m considering was popular when i were born but it was still top 10 boys names last year.

[@ash9121]

I was just up at 3am and for some reason I thought of the name Ashton or Ash (preferred) for short

[@ash9121]

I’m a Demi-boy by the way