How I discovered my most essential ADHD travel hack (the cheese story)

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00:00 - Intro
00:18 - The Cheese Story Begins
06:10 - Stimagz
07:44 - The Rest of the Cheese Story!
09:44 - Le Travel Hack!
12:15 - Outro

[@figure15skater]

Her comment of "WHAT DID YOU DOOOOOO!!?" (@8:26) made me laugh even HARDER than I already was!! OH MAN! This is THE funniest video I've seen in LIFE in like months!! WOW. Just wow, seriously, Girl, THANK YOU for a really good laugh and for sharing this *EPIC* ADHD true life story!!

[@HowtoADHD]

Aw thanks :)

[@Netkuszkusz]

In life / in months? That's a wow. :)

[@VixenDra]

If you find it any useful for the future, how about showing the size you want with your hands? :D or by number of slices(if applicable, and, I think, up to 20):) I'm from the metric system(Poland) but I still have no idea how much of a thing I want in something-grams:) It's not noticeably rare for me to see people asking in visuals or slices(in a non-turist area)^^ Also, never seen hg before, ever^^; I'd be confused no less than you xD Kg seems to indeed be the default, as far as I've seen

[@dumbgames4933]

So much this

[@cziegle3794]

​​@@HowtoADHDI didn't know hg was a thing either before watching this video. I would've probably made the same mistake. You're not alone in that. Enjoy your purchases. How was it in terms of flavor? Was it good? Would you buy it again?

[@Sir-Fix-a-Lot]

As a European I can tell that no-one here uses hectograms for anything outside of school when you learn about weight. Any normal store would have the price either per 100g or per kg.

[@HanneHaugnes]

As a European, I'm used to seing the price of anything "loose" in hg rather than kilos. That includes scoopable candy, certain fruits, and deli cheese. So I suspect what country you live in might have something to do with that :)

[@user-vz4ve5qq5j]

I’m Australian and have always used the metric system. As someone now in my 40s, I have NEVER heard of hectograms! Nevertheless, cheese is awesome and this was a lovely video. Happy holidays!

[@bosstowndynamics5488]

Price per hectogram would be the same thing as price per 100g, it's just a weird way of saying it

[@CountNodonora]

As a Canadian, prices would never be in hectogram either. You'd see it as per kilo or per 100g but absolutely never hg. I love the metric system but the hectogram isn't a unit to me.

[@rayzol]

sure its not a whole European thing. Here in Germany, i've never seen hectrograms at the service here.

[@bonessasan]

Cheese is not the worst thing to have accidentally bought "too much" of. And when you're eating it often (and for a while) after you get home, that's a fantastic way to revisit Italy in a small way without actually having to be there.

[@helenl3193]

Yeah, I wish I'd been able to afford to bring 3 kilos of cheese home from my last trip to France (or Italy, but been to France more recently) Too much cheese is a lovely problem to have! 😂

[@JacquelineUnderwood]

*if* you’re allowed to bring it back. If it’s unpasteurized, I’m pretty sure the regulation is more strict

[@paulnielsen3525]

I don't have ADHD (like my son and wife do), but I must say . . . that is NOT too much cheese, and it's Italian so it's probably wonderful aged goodness!

[@madlion9273]

Nobody is perfect ADHD or otherwise. Being kind to yourself and others when they are being a flawed human can help make things a lot less stressful.

[@joshuascharf8753]

Jessica, don't feel bad about this. Hecto gram is not a common thing across Europe; so we as Germans (my wife without ADHD and I) could have completely fallen for it as well. Loved your comment on: don't expect your travel partner to not have ADHD when your on vacation. Great summary! Enjoy that cheese now 😅

[@PeloteDeLeina]

French here and I've never seen hectogramme either. The story was still hilarious though, I loved it.

[@guitaryska8379]

I'm french and it's the first time I see a store using hg. Knowing how much is a kg and the price of cheese and seeing a shop selling cheese at 2€ per kg smells fishy. It really looks like a tourist trap... Anyway, now it's the good moment for a fondu 🧀, enjoy your cheese!

[@klaudynakot]

I'm Polish, I live in The Netherlands and I also never heard about hg. I would assume it's the price for a kg and be surprised when my order would be more expensive than a tag price. However, I probably wouldn't order 1kg, so the pain would be smaller. 😅

[@edithgruber2125]

In Germany, we often give cheese prices in € per 100 g but I've never seen it expressed as hectogram. I would have been confused as well.

[@Ginatus]

​@@guitaryska8379 In Italy, it is common to order an "etto" of cheese or deli hams (100 gr = 1 hg). So it's not necessarily a tourist trap, just Italian culture.

[@plantyfan]

Ok I'm gonna need a new series called, "That's so ADHD!" where you and/or Dani collect anecdotes from Brains and Hearts where everything turned out ok but it's an insane story 😂

[@HowtoADHD]

Ok I kind of love this 😂

[@bellaluce7088]

@@HowtoADHD Yes please to this idea! 😃

[@plantyfan]

@@HowtoADHD I feel like it would be relatable for so many of us and maybe pretty fun too

[@athlene110]

Do it!!!!

[@itsthevoiceman]

That's a fountain that will never dry out.

[@KiraFriede]

To be fair, as a German, I also didn't know that hectogram was a thing. I probably would have made the same mistake as you with the price. Well, probably not the whole mistake, because I know how much a kilo is. So I would have ordered it in grams.😮

[@temeraire8329]

Same xD

[@pHiLmO88]

Me too

[@katjabregenzer4031]

Same here, plus the h absolutely looks like a k and since that's far more common I would have absolutely assumed the price to be per kilograms 😂😅

[@_Crazy_Melon_]

most off the time they use gram or kilogram not hectogram

[@chargebanzai2938]

Yeah I live in France and I have never seen hg

[@SuperWhatapain]

😂😂😂 quarter wheel of cheese with one minute left. I can SO relate

[@bellaluce7088]

10:53 *"The brain that's trying to manage the condition is impacted by the condition."* The essential Catch-22 of ADHD! 11:32 *"Don't expect them [or yourself!] to magically not have ADHD..."* I had to discover these TRANSFORMATIVE insights on my own despite being diagnosed years ago. Sing it from the rooftops! 🤩 *Metacognition is MAGIC!* ✨Good intro: Metacognition - A Brief Explainer

[@TheS4ndm4n]

I'm an engineer from Germany, I have always used the metric systems and we do have hectoliters (which is an abomination of a unit, from a technical point of view), but I have never seen hectograms and I 100% would have made the same mistake. I mean I do have ADHD myself, but still...

[@michdem100]

I'm Polish engineer - it still surprises me how bottles and cans have volumes in centiliters. After that's just how petrol is sold in decimeters cubed, not liters, even though that's the same thing

[@TheS4ndm4n]

@@michdem100 Both of these may be a Polish thing. Never heard of that, but that would boggle my mind as well.

[@michdem100]

@@TheS4ndm4n which one, liters for petrol or milliliters for bottles and cans? Either way - good thing conversions are super easy

[@gulplastgaffel]

​​@@michdem100I always translate the 33 cl to 3,3 dl in my head, as I find dl (deciliter, 0,1 l) to be the most drinkable of the measurements 😂

[@TheS4ndm4n]

@@michdem100 Yes, like that. Only drinks recipes are in cl, which makes sense in a way, I guess. Could use ml there too, though...

[@Felix-qq6sx]

Ouch... I know why the cheese shop sold you these amounts. As a family, we often order similar amounts of cheese if we find good cheese shops during vacation. But we're 10 people with 2 cars, intending to gift some of it to other families. I hope the cheese is good and has not gone bad before it got eaten.

[@xrockangelx]

Yeah. I've worked in various culinary settings during my career and come from a foodie family. That doesn't seem like an alarming amount of cheese to buy to me either, but it is a lot for one person (even a few people!) -especially someone who's not intending to order that much cheese. The cheesemonger probably didn't think it was anything out of the ordinary to buy that much cheese. I've worked for places where we would go out and order a whole wheel or two of different cheeses every month or so.

[@AppelXY]

I lately learned that cheese can be freezed. Then it doesn't go bad that quick

[@Lily-cx1vo]

Bah, cheese doesn’t go bad, scrape that mold off and keep digging in! 😜

[@athlene110]

Lol. I am from Canada and we use metric and I have never heard of hectograms in my life. Didn't learn it in school, didn't know it exists until right now from this story. This was funny. I'm glad the cheese didn't go bad and that you were able to bring it home!! Cheese is certainly a unique momento!

[@ronjaj.addams-ramstedt1023]

I've spent most of my life in Finland and did learn the word hectogram in school here, but had never, ever known the unit to be used in real life. And the h does resemble a k enough that AutDHD & dyslexic me would probably have misunderstood, too.

[@killymxi]

In the parts of the world where I am, it is unfortunately common to mix prices in /kg and /100g to make somewhat more expensive products appear less expensive. Usual shady marketing. But I've never seen deci-, hekto- prefixes applied to units of mass. Seems twice as shady to abuse it with such resemblance. Besides dyslexia and inattentiveness, there are people with bad eyesight.

[@athlene110]

We need some local Italians to give us an example comparison of hectograms to lbs or kg. 😊 With pictures please, I'm a visual learner.

[@itsLhun]

The store was likely a tourist trap. 😢 Nobody, nowhere in Europe uses hectograms. Prices are either kg or per 100g

[@HanneHaugnes]

@itsLhun I see prices in hectograms at the grocery store every time I go, so I suspect it differs from country to country. The main one is the scoopable candy.

[@Mocodity]

I live in France. This is not an unreasonable amount of cheese. 😊

[@AzaleaJane]

I'm from the US. This is not an unreasonable amount of cheese for me either 😂

[@BlackPanthaa]

love this story, so funny 🤣 it really makes you think how you could handle a situation similar with your future kids!, to help them be more positive about funny mistakes!

[@HowtoADHD]

Aw I didn't even think about that! Thank you :)

[@citychicken9949]

Yup. I would say that my ADHD has helped me be less stressed toward my daughter and in finding more situations funny than getting frustrated or angry. You don't get mad when accidents happen because you see yourself in those accidents and you either find it hilarious or you sympathize. :)

[@lzlzlz347]

Thank you for sharing. That is very comforting to hear for me because I worry much about the future and doubting about having kids or not. Moslty doubting about the fact that I just might not want to have kids. But also doubting if I would make a good mum being the way I am. Now that I think of it, I really am patient with others making mistakes by accident@@citychicken9949

[@melissahand6485]

My life is ran with hacks. I’m 62 and recently dx with combined type ADHD. Having been unknowingly ADHD all my life (treated for depression) and friends who say “but you are successful”, I clearly have had to have a lifestyle I created to be able to succeed. Example: Went back to college at 50 after being laid off from 19 year career job. Recorded all lectures (with permission) so I could focus on lecture and listen to recording to take notes later. The list is big by the time you’re 62🤷🏻‍♀️😁 Thanks for keeping it real. I send people your way often❤️

[@ruaoneill9050]

I live in Europe and I've never heard of hg, that was clearly a trap they set for tourists! But that 'hack' hits hard. I've always worried about everything because deep down I know that it is impossible for me to enjoy life without inevitably making a careless mistake or impulsive decision that will fuck everything up and then I'll feel shit about myself for ages (forever really). But you've just presented me with the idea that I can just try my best and when I inevitably mess up, I can just... forgive myself, accept it and laugh about it? I'm honestly still trying to get my head around it but thank you for giving me this idea. Lastly, not judging or anything, but I would have eaten all that cheese in like 2 days.

[@Serena-or7sl]

In the Netherlands it's a common unit for expensive stuff like cheese and cold cuts (or even expensive vegetables), either with hg as a unit of written as 100g. It's infuriating.

[@Ginatus]

It's not a trap set up for tourists, just Italian culture :). Here it's common to sell cheese and deli meats by an "etto" or 100 grams. The short way of writing that is hg. In my supermarket they have the price by kg or by etto, but I've seen this abbreviation used in specialty shops.

[@diane_999]

I grew up metric in Australia, have travelled in Europe (south to far north, also Italy), and been living in Belgium for 20 years... I love cheese too... and I have NEVER seen prices in hg for anything anywhere !! Btw, no such thing as too much cheese!

[@sootycat2740]

I impulse bought a block of cheese on Wednesday! And took it to my creative writing group (basically just a bunch of neurodivergents)… and we all wrote about the cheese! And ate all of the cheese! 🧀 This story has very much made my day ❤

[@strawycape9693]

So much cheese! Don't feel too bad about not knowing the measurement units - we use metric in the UK and I had never heard of a hectogram. Glad you managed to bring the cheese all the way home, and a reminder that (most) cheese can be frozen just fine if you are worried about wasting any - we had a tower of cheeses instead of a wedding cake this summer and still have several chunks in the freezer.

[@NerdyAardvark]

I lived in Italy for a couple years and it took me a while to figure out what hg was. Confusingly, in Italian "hecto" becomes "etto", making the abbreviation even less obvious. Once you inderstand that a hectogram=100 g, it's actually a really convenient unit roughly equal to a small snack of food.

[@OrafuDa]

Oh well, that story started as one of my nightmares. So glad you made it to the bus. 😊 And that Danny had your back and took it all with humor … and you too. ❤️ Give Danny a big hug, please. 🤗 “Fun” story that happened to me: In Japan, with a group of students, we were about to take the bullet train on the way back from a place up North. On the train we had a couple of minutes, so my fellow students jumped off the train to get packaged sweets from a sales cart directly in front of the train doors. I didn’t want to take the risk, but my appetite got the better of me and I jumped out last … bought my sweets … turned around … and the train doors closed directly in front of me and the train left. … 😳 Needless to say that bullet trains try to be punctual to a few seconds, so it wouldn’t stop. The rest is a blur for me. I only remember somehow explaining things to the station attendant in broken Japanese. They contacted the train, and my folks got to hear of it and took care of my stuff. So I was on the next train, without jacket or backpack or anything (except for my wallet and the sweets 😅), and caught up with them in Tokyo. 🤦‍♂️ 🚊 😮‍💨

[@rrg2248]

I’ve NEVER heard of hectograms and I’ve spent lots of time in Europe!

[@HowtoADHD]

thanks, that makes me feel better!

[@DaleESkywalker]

I learned the metric system in fourth grade (way back) in '79. Now, the schools don't teach cursive and many other helpful things. I've heard kids ask if cursive is a code! If you are growing up now, it's a good thing KZbin has a lot of videos that teach us those, but you have to know where to look and what to look for.

[@Maungateitei]

Perhaps you have heard of hectopascals? hPa, commonly used in weather isobar pressure charts, very close to millibar alternative?

[@Maungateitei]

​@@HowtoADHDYou are far safer eating Unpasteurised cheese than cheese made from pasteurised milk. Pasteurised milk and cheese made from it will spoil with pathogenic bacteria and molds. NOT unpasteurized milk or cheese as the beneficial probiotic antibodies in the milk and enzymes from the cheese culture destroy pathogenic microbes and the toxins they produce.

[@MissAmeROCKana]

Heartily agree. I’m chronically ill (Hashimoto’s and hEDS) and learned that I need to build in half a day of nothing into every few day stop on my road trips. If I’m lucky, I won’t need it, but if I plan too many activities, I will wind up beating myself up for not keeping up with my own wants. For that reason, I absolutely cannot let someone else plan my trip, but the grace is essential to enjoying the trip.

[@kat5000]

So relatable!!! Just asked my mom for a recipe for Christmas cookies, handed down from my great-grandmother. Weights are given in dag - deca-gramm. Thing is, I learned cooking and baking from pretty much scratch while on an exchange year in Canada... Spoons, cups,... But no. Dag it is now.

[@Iwasonceanonionwithnolayers]

People aren't understanding with the careless mistakes part of the diagnosis. It's infected me over a lifetime and I definitely would have ruined my dream trip, had I done that. (I also love cheese, so, likely 😅) I see myself being impatient with other ADHDers and, even through my frustration, I'm looking at myself and saying "Where's your empathy!?!" I know how annoying carelessness can be, but it's not healthy being around such a lack of compassion all the time. I'm seriously considering cutting people out of my life over this. It's too much stress on me as a neurodivergent and I don't want to be that kind of person either. Sometimes it seems like a silly reason, other times, dire and completely necessary 😒

[@stephanieperry1119]

How much of each kind of cheese did she buy? If it was being the Hectogram how much was each kind of cheese been per hectogram or kilogram to be €93?

[@marandadavis9412]

​@@stephanieperry1119 she bought 1kg of one type and 2 kg of another. What confused her was the prices being listed in hg.

[@EnabiSeira]

Spanish here, I'd also think that was kilograms. I didn't know that hectogram was a thing. The good thing? You'll have enough cheese for the festivities and gatherings :D PS: I have some old magnets like those from Stimagz (Geomag I think was the name, they came with metal balls to build things). I like them, although they aren't meant to go in the mouth (if someone is prone to gnaw at things).

[@ninjabgwriter]

This is actually a really excellent travel hack. I thought it was going to be something like 'oh I brought cheese and was prepared so when I got hungry it helped' or something. And those hacks for doing prep work to make stuff easier on yourself certainly have their place! But that the hack was literally just 'don't be down on yourself when you experience ADHD symptoms even when it's a ✨special occasion✨' is not something I hear or think of a lot. I never realized how often I expect my brain to behave neurotypical just because there's some kind of event. Like 'oh well I'll just stop getting autism induced sensory overload at this party, the social events which have the express purpose of existing so that you have fun there, and put myself under large amounts of stress to hide that I'm uncomfortable so everyone else can have a good time' rather than... making accommodations for myself and not judging myself if I need to step away from the party for a few minutes to decompress or go with some friends to a quieter section of it.

[@mchlle94]

I love this take! ❤ To add: it was a touristy area, and hearing her misleading response to your polite question, I’m guessing the “hg” was a bit of a tourist trap. It’s def not normal to use in Europe. Also, most cheese sellers will give you an indication as they’re asking you where to cut it off. And it’s very normal to not know the exact kg and communicate through depicting the desired size. Long story short: not your fault, I would have been confused too. Next time don’t feel ashamed and politely decline. But hey, now you have Italian cheese for a year! And you’re supporting the local economy ;)

[@jessicanicolebelmonte6252]

Especially in handwriting it can be very easy to confuse “hg” with “kg”! It happened to me when I saw the initial video pictures, and it was only after zooming in that I noticed the difference.

[@bosstowndynamics5488]

The thing is though, that's a good way to trap people on price but she ordered in kg regardless of the label, because what she received was a lot more than 300g of cheese (which would be 3hg). This was more just an unfortunate consequence of ADHD combined with enough Italian to get into trouble

[@ursulamoney203]

Her answer to the 'Too much?' question was NOT a tourist trap: it was an honest answer. In Europe when we find good cheese we buy it: a lot of it - it keeps. And as someone who has run a small shop, the question could easily be interpreted as 'Do you even have that much? Am I leaving you short?'.

[@mchlle94]

@@ursulamoney203 fair enough! As a European I never buy that much, but I can totally see it being a normal thing

[@mchlle94]

@@bosstowndynamics5488 you’re right about that :) (and very relatable for me as well lol) but I do think the pricing can confuse someone in how much cheese it will be. If you think it’s in kg (but are unfamiliar with that unit of measurement) and the price is low, you might think; “well then, a kg can’t be that much cheese”

[@LWilli5]

Having fun with the mistakes is so much more fun. Fortunately, cheese lasts a while. I’m so glad you had a good time on your trip? 🤗

[@jenniferkogure3370]

Thank you for sharing this funny story. I live in Japan, I've been here 6 years, and still use a unit converter app

[@haileymatthew4016]

For me to buy too much cheese I'd have to first admit that 'too much cheese' was possible... But yeah, that "What did you do?!" was VERY familiar 😅

[@tinaperez7393]

Such a great useful reminder - progress not perfection - the mind that is trying to manage adhd is the mind simultaneously being impacted by it. So... be aware of that and patient! 👍

[@flamecondor]

Watching this and the bit at the end about stuff to remember when traveling with someone with ADHD and getting upset at the mistakes we make and needing people to be understanding and even help you joke about it just keeps my mind going back to my ex. She would always come down on me like a tonne of bricks for small mistakes to the point that I just started to hide stuff and felt scared to be me around her. Thank you for stuff like this, it does help me atm even more so as we enter the holiday period and my mind keeps feeling lonely and looking back on how I was better off even though I wasn't and it ended for a reason.

[@blazertundra]

Reminds me of the time I went to a timeshare with my grandma. She possibly has high functioning ADHD but is a Heart at the very least. Knowing it had a kitchen, I brought my cast iron skillet, some cooking supplies, and got $35 in groceries (mostly fresh meat and produce) to feed me for 4 days. I was so happy with myself for planning all the things and helping make the trip enjoyable for both of us. Well, on the second to last day, I oiled the pan and set it on the stove to season it... And forgot I left the burner on. As soon as I smelled it in the bathroom, I knew what had happened. The pan was superheated and smoking like crazy. I yanked it off the burner and had to open all the windows. The room was hazy for the next 3 hours and smelled like canola oil for the rest of my stay. Instead of freaking out that I could have burned down the timeshare, my sweet grandma just sat back and watched the ADHD comedy show without an ounce of judgement. 😂

[@arielle.m-g]

The phrase “careless mistake” is so BURNED into my brain because I heard it from teachers, parents and bosses. I have to consciously remind myself that’s not who I am and grant myself grace ❤

[@Coldshrike]

"She's an artist, she really knows her letters" makes absolute sense in the context but also sounds delightfully like something my niece would say about a new friend after starting school.

[@CaptainStitchyPants]

This is beautiful, I love it 😂 It's easily done and hey, at least you like cheese! I've learned so much about working with my brain and not beating myself up from your channel. The stories you tell from your own experiences have been so important to me since I was diagnosed a couple of years ago. To watch you crying with laughter while telling this story made me so happy to know you were giving yourself some grace 💜

[@brittany281]

Ugh this gets me. No ADHD but as someone who remembers SO MANY flaws constantly being pointed out and many an outing/vacation ruined because of misunderstandings...this hits home. Grace is pretty much always the best response (for ourselves & others).

[@jzzgrl321]

My latest ADHD travel incident was that I had two drawers of clothes I’d worn - ones to be washed, and ones I could wear again. A week after getting back, I couldn’t find a couple of my favorite things, and realized (after assuming for a couple days they’d show up after I did more laundry) that the “to be washed” drawer never made it to my suitcase 😢. Instead of beating myself up like I used to though, I let myself mourn the loss of the clothes (and the money to replace them), and reminded myself “I have ADHD. Things like this will happen sometimes.” Of course next trip I was paranoid 😂

[@Serena-or7sl]

Try to message the place you stayed at! I'm sure that some places will have kept it for a while. (And some would have contacted you as soon as they noticed)

[@erinpijlie5078]

Thank you for this funny and relatable story! As a Dutch person (we idolize cheese), maybe I have al tip what to do with the remainder of the cheese: maybe you can use some of it to make cheese fondue(it's basically a lot of molten cheeses and you can dip bread or other things in it)?

[@katiecassidy3540]

girl i’m from the uk and i have never seen that before, that would definitely happen to me. and now you have loads of cheese! this is fantastic!

[@meganthompson6727]

I’m from a metric country and I’ve never heard of a hectagram either! I suppose it makes sense for something expensive like cheese!😊

[@Acces_Approved]

I have only recently discovered that I have ADHD. Watching this video made me realize or remember, the many times that I was with my ex-husband and I would make impulsive decisions or lose track of time or do other small ADHD things, and instead of the moment, being one of understanding, it turned into a moment of shame for me. Thank you for this video and helping me get one step closer to healing.

[@jordanstrickland9884]

I love your videos so much! They have been helpful for me understanding my ADHD.

[@placeholdername0000]

"It's really pretty cheese" Also known as the "ohhh, shiny!" form of ADHD.

[@robyn_rainbow]

This was the greatest story! I love the fact that you can laugh about it - that you were brave enough to try to order in Italian (without resorting to English like I would have if I would have ever tried to speak another language) and the big one - that you could take the cheese home! All I could think of was how much money's worth of cheese you would have to throw out (both coz it takes a long time to get to Australia so it would go off and because I'm assuming our quarantine wouldn't let us bring it into the country). I'm so happy you could take it home with you. Also - as someone who uses the metric system I had NEVER heard of hg (hectograms according to google) before.

[@ilianaboheme]

😂😂😂😂 This is the best Adhd story! Jessica you are the best!🙌💗

[@CyTic5]

Thank you. This is a very comforting story. Happy to hear that it didn't end up ruining your trip and you could both laugh it instead.

[@SarahGaleano]

Haha 🤣 I’m literally traveling right now and just had a decision fatigue fail at Starbucks and ended up just ordering water (not exactly what I wanted but ok). This made me feel so much better! Thanks Jessica!

[@funnelqueen1986]

Thank you for everything you do!

[@wordhappyHazel]

This video fills me with so much joy 🥰☺️ Thank you, Jess 💜✨️

[@raehawkins7655]

i’m so excited for the travel hacks video!!!

[@KevinBelcher-ru3cd]

Love the story! Hope you are feeling well!

[@puppypoet]

I absolutely love this. I have done goofy stuff so much and seeing someone else do it makes me feel a lot less dumb.

[@Techinkling]

Great story! Looking forward to the full travel hacks video. Good timing as many of us are probably making smaller treks to see family in the coming weeks!

[@odakotarose]

I mean, as a person who really really loves cheese, this seems like the exact opposite of a problem 😂

[@pnut9995]

This is the best! Keep the grace! You will need to keep giving yourself grace and patience and finding the humor in motherhood! You are soooo amazing!

[@user-xq7ut7wn1i]

OMG Jessica, you have no idea how much I needed this video. THANK YOU

[@vicky266]

Love this story! It is so funny and endearing. You’re right we need to show grace to ourselves we have ADHD! Happy holidays to you and yours ❤️🎄❤️🎄

[@adamloepker8057]

Good story, thanks Jess!

[@vindicated30.6]

I love that you have a copy of the book Boundaries on the shelf behind you in the video! Such a good book.

[@retop56]

Great story. Thanks for sharing!

[@karen23826]

Thank you for the laughs, really enjoyed watching this. I am also very glad you didn’t beat yourself up over it. That makes me even happier:)

[@JMD3M410]

I was so confused as to how I already knew this story somehow. And then the vertical video started! Great to have more context.

[@neiloflongbeck5705]

Hectogrammes are a very rare unit. In the UK prices are usually in £/kg.

[@iwishihadseenthatlol]

At market stalls in the north I often see £/100g.

[@Llanegwynedd]

I could definitely see this happening to me. Thanks for sharing! Good to see I am not the only one.

[@Susieshoosie]

This is so relatable, I've for sure made inattentive/impulsive mistakes while traveling because *overwhelm*

[@citychicken9949]

I relate SO MUCH to this story LOL. My cousin and I have ADHD and we had a lot of moment like this when we used to travel alone together lol. It's even funnier because I'm younger by 6 years but I manage my ADHD better so I'm basically the "responsible one" when we travel LOLOL.

[@sub4ru87]

Sending hugs from a fellow Italian with ADHD, this made me laugh so much 😂🤗

[@SmallBlogV8]

I live in Britain (which _mostly_ uses metric measurements but not always) and I have never heard of a hectogram. I would've assumed it was kg too! But since I know a kg would be a lot (2.2lbs) I'd just have stood there working out how to order in 100g's worth...

[@xt4hodgson]

I missed it the first time but 1hg is 100g I think they've labelled it wrong. Unless it's really light cheese

[@xt4hodgson]

Nevermind, looked at the receipt again, that still looks like more than 3kgish of cheese but that's what they've charged for

[@zankhnavasha2380]

The last part was super helpful for me as a parent….recognize that for people with ADHD things like this can and will happen!

[@LillyxTopaz]

5 minutes early to the meet up point would be me rushing in absolute panic because I was positive we would be late and miss that bus. I can't enjoy timed outings like that because I'd do nothing but obsess over how much time we had left to make it to the 'meet up location' and I'd focus on NOTHING ELSE but the idea of being late.

[@TheNinthDoctor]

Oh man, what a great story! And what a great lesson/hack to remember, too. As a Brain from the US who lives in Asia, I'm absolutely positive I've done things very similar to this, many times (I'll have to try to think of specific examples)!

[@daxafer]

In Canada, cheese and other deli items are usually price per 100g - which is a hectogram - but i’ve never seen it written as hg. Even most packaged grocery items usually show the unit price in tiny print - price per 100g or 100ml. So you can check whether the big package is a better deal. (Maybe this is why it always takes me at least an hour for groceries)

[@wooof.]

MORE ADHD STORIES!!! I love them hahaha!

[@Drecon84]

Not getting upset with yourself is really one of the most essential skills to master.

[@joshuasims5421]

Your Italian sounds really great! This should be one of your ads for language learning apps.

[@kitttieluv]

I would have been crying laughing too. Omg that's hilarious! I love it!

[@NeonMegatron073]

This is fantastic! I had a very similar occurrence too! With cheese, also in Italy. I got more than I wanted (not as much as in the video) and it was a different type of cheese than I thought it was! I didn’t know until I had gotten back to where I was staying that I had a large wedge of Parmesan! It was good, but there is only so much one can do with Parmesan! 😂

[@Gudregerar7]

Oh I looooove cheese to!!! And I can really understand your craving for it!!

[@IndigoSpades]

Your videos have helped me so much with not feeling the same amount of shame I used to carry for being this way 🖤 Congrats on your book, darling!

[@kedrynevans6240]

Well, if you were going to make an error- getting a whole bunch of awesome cheese from Italy is a great one! Hope you enjoy it and thanks for sharing the hack and story. Looking forward to the other hacks!

[@martinsw4711]

I had a cheap kiddie version of those stimagz when I was a kid! That's so cool to see.

[@charlyheather1822]

I am from Europe, but I haven't heard of hektogramm being used ever before. O.O Thank you so much for sharing the story with us!

[@christineg8151]

This is hilarious, and so relatable! I could totally have done this myself, and I DO use the metric system regularly. (US, but scientist.) I hope you enjoyed the cheese! I love cheese, and that looks like good stuff!

[@mrsbettytracy6669]

I started to say this could happen to anyone, not just ADHD. Then I remembered I'm ADHD and might not be the best judge of that 😜😊

[@dragonscalefeet4990]

That's such a perfect story for what happens when you're in a hurry. Just yesterday I paypaled money to a completely strange person because I wanted to get it done quickly. I've even sent a way to low invoice to customers. And afterwards? Roll eyes, share, laugh and love yourself. I'm kind of surprised you were allowed to bring this amount of cheese back to the states! Enjoy!😊

[@ilenastarbreeze4978]

i am canadian, and i have never seen anyone use HG , i would have assumed the same thing as you! i dont even remember it was a measurement! and enjoy your cheese! love the cheese, the cheese is life! :P

[@napa8266]

Be kinder to yourself. The incident around the cheese purchase is related to being human navigating a place, culture and language that is not naturally your own. We are going to make mistakes irrespective of a diagnosis when navigating areas in our lives that are foreign to us. Your story is fun, comical and brings joy. People can relate with. So thank you for sharing 😊

[@pegasusquilts]

Yeah travel! Clothing sizes, pizza sizes, drink sizes ..... I can't wait for the travel hack video. I travel a lot. Think I've got it pretty well down but I'm always looking for more hacks.

[@MissBeckyBoo7]

I’m going on a solo trip overseas in two weeks time… Excited for your travel hack video!!

[@michelledillman6381]

Thank you for sharing !

[@jessicanicolebelmonte6252]

I am so glad that you are able to laugh about that cheese incident. And I admit to having a good laugh myself. But I also learned something new to look out for if and when I travel to other countries here in Europe. As others have already pointed out, the German practice is a bit more obvious in the labeling using “€/100g” and “€/kg”. But even so, with my ADHD, it takes a considerable amount of energy while shopping to make sure I move the decimal point correctly when comparing prices.

[@lyndiscealin]

German here. Never heard of hecto gram before 🤣 that would be 100g (or 100gr) in Germany. Hope that feels you a bit better, I would have thought it was 1kg as well ❤ (btw. I am the kind of person that needs to plan everything myself because I can't trust others to not forget something important 😬 I compensate a lot of my forgetfulness with ocd)

[@maxsinclair787]

im sorry you had to go through that, but this made me laugh so much, its quite relatable...

[@ginnymay8965]

I relate to this SOOOOO much!! And like you I have come to accept that I’m going to do these things and accidentally buy/do things that I wasn’t expecting to do. I am autistic and I also have ADHD as well as other conditions (that I can’t remember right now). Oh wait I do have undiagnosed partial awareness seizures.

[@amartini51]

This reminds me of another life hack - if you know you want to spend a certain amount, you can ask for “about 5 euro of this cheese” vs ordering in kilograms.

[@evilqueen13]

I suffered for years on vacation. I would bring my big camera to take pictures on vacation and get distracted lining up a shot only to realize I've been left behind, it's been happening since I was a child, one of my first memories was getting lost and asking a cop for help. I'm 52 and only just realized why I am like I am.

[@KJ-bj2oi]

I am moving in the new year and this is going to be really important to remember