How I got OUT of failing friendships with guys

I tend to attach very deep to people- including of the opposite gender. You might wanna look at my emotional boundary series if you haven't yet - • 'He broke my heart & w...
Last video I spoke of things I learnt from failed guys friendships - • Things I learnt from f...
Some of you asked how I got out of those friendships. This video is the answer! I hope this blesses and helps you have healthy relationships with the opposite gender. Let me know if this helps in the comments below. God bless.
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[@EstherSymss]

The more closer you go the more harder it is to step back. One more thing, this is what I learnt based on my experience: never love anybody more than yourself (except God). Bible says to love people as yourselves. Loving people more than yourselves means you'll give up your integrity for them and also they'll become your god.

[@VihanDamaris]

Very true! 😮

[@maxsingh2510]

Amen to that

[@varun7599]

Love your neighbour* as yourself* *Correction alert

[@vishnus2837]

but give priority to others than you...contrary to the new age belief...bible tells us to put others first then you...

[@snehaphilip5028]

Very true💯💯

[@lvlycreator92]

Sometimes letting your friend go is the best thing you could do for yourselves and for your friend. If it’s too difficult and if you feel you have no power to break up your relationship then PRAY and wait for the Lord to work. Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:6‬,7”

[@charleswilson9480]

I let Jesus Christ take care of the friends in my life .. I had a good friend growing up Jesus removed him from my life

[@its_just_me6183]

Why?

[@charleswilson9480]

@@its_just_me6183 because y is a crooked letter that can’t be straightened ..

[@JavaBott]

This is something I’ve had to do multiple times with women. Now I’ll only open up my heart with the woman I’ll marry. Praise God for being our strength before breakthrough 🎉🥳

[@jewishbride5010]

It's the holy spirit knowing the boundaries we have to keep, knowing what is in man! I pray to have this inner knowing again, in accordance with john 2:25 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

[@wizos6525]

i dont have these problem , i dont have any best friend , i accept jesus in 2007 when i was 17 , from that day i have friends but not best , i use to tell about jesus and people dont want to here it , they want worldly talk which i not able to . so there is no close kind of friend in my life .

[@ooviyamanickam6368]

That's relatable...

[@praisegod5865]

God will bless you if you ask for a good friend may be 1 or 2 you can ask Jesus if you want

[@starsmoon8623]

I do have Jesus on my head all day. Someone told me once, how annoying i was cause i only talk about Christ. He is the subject of my joy sooo.. i was like maybe i am too much so i tried to talk about some stuff but i end up finding our discussion annoying.

[@sritha2736]

My current state

[@marijarajicova]

You're so wise and beautiful !! 🤍🕊 I really love part 6:02

[@rbeautybaby7789]

Vihan, I'm amazed at how God answers me through you! Glory to God... Your my friend far away... it fills my heart with gratitude to think how God can answer such little prayers... keep encouraging! You're so precious to God and to us...

[@koskutis]

I have a friend "actualy i love her" that ive been intimate with for a month or so. But she didnt want a relationship back then. She said that we met at the wrong time. Then she went to another country cuz that was her plan even before we met. She cried for a month and took back her heart. I didnt. I gave my heart to her... we broke off our couple thing when she left. But we still talked for hours everyday. And my heart was still with her. And its been with her for a half a year now. I followed her to that country. Just to find out that she doesnt feel the same way anymore and that she let me go already. We were friends for some time. But my heart was longing for her as my wife. U talked about not doing something in hiding. It was the first relationship that i wanted God and everybody to know about. She was perfect. She seemed that way atleast. But my heart didnt want to be friends so i tried to push things in my way. After i saw she still doesnt want me i said ok no talking till i get over u. And during that month guess what happened.. she found a boyfriend.. that devastated me totaly. Im still getting over it and thinking about her everyday. It brought me closer to God and closer to myself. Thats amazing and im so grateful for that and all of the things she saved me from during our time together. But despite all that im still thinking. Ok, ur young. U want experiences u want to walk your own path and make your own mistakes by trial and error and thats ok. Do your thing. When ur done and tired of this carnal stuff ill take care of your wounds and be there for u to try things out again. Am i delusional?.. I know God didnt want this to work. Cuz i glorified her. Ive never met a person i would actualy praise. She was amazing. I have no words. I think thats why He took her away. Is there a chance God did that just for me to find myself in him again? And not becuz she isnt the one? Im kinda lost. Still holding on for that glimmer of hope. Can u shed some light on this please? Cuz i dont hear God talking to me so i cant take advices from up there and im stuck here with my overthinking...

[@Moerilind]

Totally get you. I was also falling emotionally for a man. Though he is not completely my type, his heart for God and his love for Gods Word just completely wowed me over. Recently i misinterpreted some of his messages which he wrote just seeing me as a friend, and i took it as a growing interest in me romantically on his side...which made me fall for him even more. For over one year i had the impression he is going to be my husband. Always batteling between this peace of just knowing it and then again doubt because he is not interested. One week ago i confronted him with my growing feelings but also that God is telling me to stop writing him. He respected it and in the end also was sorry for the way he wrote me which allowed my hopes to explode through the roof - this destroyed me in a way...knowing for 100% he has never been really interested in me and i have been friendzoned. I do not really know how to deal with it either. One way i still have this lingering hope he will one day become my husband...on the other hand i fear i am just being delusional and i am just wasting my time with this hope. Right now i cannot do much more but pray and wait on the lord. When we were still talking he once mentioned he met a woman who was really his dreamgirl but because theyr callings did not really match they stopped seeing each other. It really bothered me a lot and my heart was aching knowing there could be another one for him, and i am just ponding over the thought "why cant i be the one, why am i not good enough" i dont even want to begin to imagine what you are going through and i am not sure if i would take i lightly knowing in my time of "absence" he would find a woman...in the end i would be able to rejoice because it would certainly be for the glory of God, but in the beginning it would also break my heart. I have never before been an envyous type of girl, but with him i have discovered all sorts of feelings and emotions i was not even aware were lurking inside of me... Just pray and seek the Lord, though it may be painful, this life here is not for forever. How wonderful it will be when all our little problems will just vanish in his glory. Leave the past behind and focus on the race you are running. Your run matters more than the people you are running it with. Finish the race you have started and God will tell you "well done" those words are worth more than any love a human being could give you. Take care brother and be blessed!

[@lvlycreator92]

I can understand because I have been in similar situations. I will tell u what helped me. First of all remind yourself that God is always ready to talk to you and comfort you. He doesn’t hold back from talking to you. Second, understand that if he is taking people out of your life it is because he has better plans for you and the person that you are letting go. Third, get in to a room, lock the door to avoid interruptions, turn off your mobile, kneel down n just pour your heart out to him. Talk to him he definitely listens. Finally read the scriptures you will see His words coming to life, talking to you and comforting you. I said read the scriptures because you are already surrounded by so many voices but if you want to listen to God’s words then read the scriptures. I’m sure he will fill you up with his peace. Be patient. This will be your best experience with God. All the best ! God bless! “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:6‬,7”

[@foreverdreaming2591]

How did "God" take her away? Didn't you just cut her off?

[@tiavc8082]

You're the best counsellor. Every video of yours has sth to do with helping the sinners to get closer to Christ.

[@VihanDamaris]

Praise God! 😄 how wonderful to hear.

[@thisissarah815]

This is EXACTLY what I am dealing with right now!!!! This is a sign from the Lord. Every time I hung out with this guy, he expected something sexual. I would tell him I didn’t want to do anything and he’d say ok. Then he’d ask me to do something again. And he’d make me feel so guilty for sticking up for myself. I stopped taking his calls a couple of days ago. And he said some things that made me feel like a terrible, selfish person. This is God saying I’m not ❤️ God bless you for sharing this!

[@mikehubbard5493]

That is signs of a narcesist He is not consoling with you, he is trying to control you.

[@maxsingh2510]

If we take the context of what this person is saying to you, we see that HE in fact is the selfish one. If this person had a daughter or if you had a daughter- what would you want for them and how would you want them to be treated? I myself used to be this guy- I didnt coerce woman and take my desires to that extent, But my motivations were always selfish and sexual before I found Christ. Stay strong and firm in your moral obligations to your body(temple) and yourself. GOD BLESS YOU.

[@annjoseph5429]

Even I have this issue of getting too attached.. that all boundaries get blurred.. I needed this.. thank you!🙏

[@preetikujur1823]

Hey Vihan You are a great blessing for the people especially for the young generation.. Vihan you always inspire and teach me a lot of things I need to know. We come across some confusions in life where both the ways seem to be good though one of them is opposite to the other and not from God. This video really helped me to overcome ungodly relationship.. Your videos are bringing me closer to Jesus and I pray I'll be as close as u r.. I Thank Jesus I'm free now 😇 May Jesus Bless you abundantly Vihan and you carry on inspiring people.

[@reedemed_caleb]

Vihan just to remeber that you're a beautiful young women of God, dont ever let the darts of insecurities discorage you! And same goes to anyone watching this! You're fearfully and wonderfully and beautifully made ❤❤ dont let the darts of the enemy attack your worth ❤ (Genesis 1:27 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.) (Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.) If we are made in God's image, then how can we be ugly? when God is Perfect and Beautiful! We are also Beautiful ❤ so shut the devil up when he attacks your confidence in Christ and beauty.

[@gabrielasanchez2028]

oh yeah that's true she can be insecure but she shouldn't be ❤️ i feel like i have a radar for insecurity, like i can suspect what other girls think about themselves or certain specific insecurities, but that's because I can relate and empathize. I hope you have a good day Vihan if you read this :)

[@varun7599]

Never make 1-1 friendships with the opposite gender whether online or offline. 1-2,2-1,2-2,3-2,2-3 group of friends are always useful and safe-meaning no one will fall for the other one.

[@VihanDamaris]

True, it is better

[@alexhaverman113]

It's a simple as don't date unless your other is considering marrying you. Dating is a waste of time and energy, courtship is the whole point.

[@lordsworshippers1053]

Its so painful when you leave your friend with whom you have been all the time But at last god is our power and strength 🙏😇😇

[@ooviyamanickam6368]

That * okay*at the end tho😭❤️❤️thank you so much vihan

[@SunshineJenny]

Oh Vihan!!! The emotions & thoughts you shared are so spot on. Those feelings of guilt pull hard. My friend didn't know Jesus at all & I thought I was supposed to show her Jesus. It was the other way around with her showing me the wide unGodly path. The guilt that I failed as witness for Christ can play havoc on my mind. I pray for her & trust that God has a perfect plan for her life. Thank you so much for sharing your struggles. It helps me more then you know. God never ever wastes a hurt. Love & prayers, Jen 🤗🤗🤗

[@rekhaiyer7552]

Love You Vihan♥️... You are so matured for your age...

[@shine2678]

How old is vihan?

[@muschio7]

Thank you Vihan, I really needed to hear that. That I can have boundaries without having guilt :) God bless you and your family :)

[@mikehubbard5493]

I'm a great failure in this mater, but that love you want is described in the Song of Solomon. If your going to be in love with someone it's going to HURT. If you cannot be seriously injured by that love then your not in love. That's why you want to be equally yoked. There are many in this day who function, and manipulate the relationship by hurting. Probably raised , and ruled by the whip, and the love of the parent came in word only, and not a genuine love. Love is a never ending journey into the unknown heart of another. Only Jesus can give you perfect love.

[@nikitabhalerao5140]

Hey dear vihan this is really well promoted...I detached myself from my bestfriend who actually closed to me ...it was hard at first ..bt GOD has handled everything beautifully 🔥🤩 ...and m not gonna return back to those people ..GOD has already given me freedom ✝️❤️

[@sarasonarrr1005]

Please pray for me sister I'm also suffering from this situation....

[@princesszari9404]

You r an angel 😚I wish you be my friend plz vihan I'm a girl .I want a friend like u

[@strongnation-india]

I think sister some time we need the grace of God to helping us to receive a complete deliverance from the person and keep walking with the Lord continuely

[@joby6760]

Video as like, HolySpirit directly talked to me. God bless!

[@danielashishjohnson9513]

I like the way how you make the use of words to describe a complicated thing in an easy way...

[@nancygomez8361]

This is confirmation from the Lord. Thank you sister!

[@hiddengem4293]

For me, it will require for me to literally move out of this city.

[@geetavishwakarma5873]

Such a helpful video, I relate so much to what you have shared, the experience, the fear and the stage that follows after. Really blessed listening to it 🙌🏽

[@everydaybakingcooking]

The Holy Spirit tells you when to cut ties. You were just there to either learn or teach the other person on each other's journey. Satan keeps on trying to disturb us. Divine helpers can come in any form. Collegue, man at a store, etc. Especially beware of those "Christian" friends who try to woo you with all the Christian clichés... "Be blessed, I thank God for blessing me by crossing our paths, ... etc, and they buy you something with a Bible verse that you cannot refuse because you don't wanna hurt them, also those who preach to you just because they are older and have more life experience. If someone is not walking upright, a newly spirit baptised person can minister to him or her. Eg. Jesus and John the Baptist, David and Goliath, Joseph and his family, Jacob and Easu. Seek God. He will make you part of His divine family. Follow your calling.

[@anoopabraham2929]

Excellent advice, dear Sister Vihan. God bless you RICHLY

[@manuelsathya]

Thanks for your video. I and my wife are undergoing the same now and I share with my family and with few friends and ofcourse my Lord. Turning your most trusted friend to an personal enemy is one our the biggest death we face in our life time. The only person who can comfort is our Lord no human at all. I feel the breaking of friendship is Gods plan for you, but you will seems to loose eternal peace in this world but it is really not. The problem in this break point, is the role of saturn, he will make definitely one person to sin. One person will become very rigid and arrogant like pharaoh and will face Lord's wrath

[@aromasolanki7859]

Love you girl Thank you so much for posting these things God bless you

[@laudantchristum1432]

Very helpful!

[@rajmetneo7215]

I've been through when even I felt I was unloving to a friend after detaching and went back to show love, tell about Christ's love that is a spirit of compromise and that's a silent and a powerful spirit strong as witchcraft, just being detached from that and drawing closer to Christ showed what other dirty spirits I have opened doors to. Thank God we are victorious above these powers in Christ, nothing can overpower us for a long time.

[@sobhasalenlakra4729]

Yes I some friends but no more important than the lord

[@KidseSeries]

Keep up the good work.

[@venessa18]

God bless you Vihan for this video n may more on this matter I too went into a romantic relationship with a friend N the only reason I agreed for us to be boyfriend n girlfriend,was bcz my friends were in such relationships n honestly through out my teenage years I had nvr tried this but when I turned 18 I agreed I knew n loved God at the time even though at the time I was not a firm believer But still I feared God enough to choose to wait until I am married to have sex Or even kiss cause I heard someone say it's not good to start something that you know you won't be able to see through Which made sense cause if we began kissing I just asked myself who would be strong enough to stop the other person bfr we went too far I knew I wasn't that strong n I knew definitely he wasn't strong either He did not have any relationship with God I knew that at the time But I choose him because of his physical attributes n just to test the waters I mean others were doing it But I still had my reservations So it only lasted about a week Here's why He tried to kiss me one time but he didn't manage to-THANK GOD And yes I know that it was not by my own power, it was the Lord's strength in me that helped me to say no n escape the incident So the next day I talked to him bcz I just wanted to know what his values were But sadly I came to the understanding that he was the kind of person that did whatever came natural to him Well.. honestly it's not like I didn't know it at the time , I think I was just trying to ignore the reality so that I can be part of the crowd. So I ended the relationship with him completely and distanced my self from him. I won't lie n tell you that I gave my life fully for God right then n there but by God's grace, it has bn a journey and finally I gave my life fully surrendered to Him at 21yrs of age now I am 24 and I thank God for the victories n the failures that I have gone through in life cause now I am where he wanted me to be born again Now I'm not saying that I am perfect or good only God is good But just a warning , don't try it, don't test the waters because they might be too deep n drown u Rather turn to God He loves you more than any man ever can or ever will And if you are about to give in to the temptations of the flesh n of the devil Turn back to God now cry to Him repent of your sins n He promises to forgive you, in the Bible we are told that all fornicators n adulterers will burn in hell ,the word of God is true trust it Every day strive to be like Jesus Christ God bless you all Shalom

[@thepromiseland.4867]

God does not like idolatry. You will have to pay for it if you idolize someone or something..

[@VihanDamaris]

Yep

[@Brian-isatree4yhvh]

Nothing is worse than bad relationships,id beg anyone dont trade your relationship with Jesus for anyone, dont buy the lie satan is peddling, also to whom may read this,if u can pray in the Spirit,please do it often, not just at church, I was 14 at the time n didnt even know I could do it outside of church ,sadly all hell broke loose at home n i allowed sin n the door and walked away from God..what a foolish wicked person I've become in the sight of a Holy God,if only I took the time to stop n pray before I went n did the horrible things I've done.i wouldn't had done them.please,please dont grieve the Holy Spirit,He can depart from a person..May God bless you and please 🙏 often n stay in His word...

[@gervasiopereira6724]

Only one friend is their in one Life is Jesus Rather then your own True People your Own wife your Own Own Own Whoever might be They will leave but it Finally u Come to him To take his Hand to Help you From Your Pit which u are Thrown By your Closest People of your Life .He says Cast out your Burden to me and I will give u peace Says our lord Jesus Amen

[@girl.in_blue4146]

Vihan, you are so relatable and wise. I love your content and look up to you. Keep doing what you're doing ! God bless

[@joeycunningham9325]

So true. Thanks, God bless!!

[@ramyasreegorre5880]

Thank you sister for keeping this video,this is not helping to come back from the situation but also instructing that people are there like that be cousios Thank you so much

[@mariavirginia2196]

much needed..............

[@sarojachamling_vlogs]

Plz pray for my friend Ritu 🥺 she is struggling

[@Styles_by_sharmila]

Really worth it sister vihan

[@joannepranata9405]

this is for all friendships and relationships not just opposite gender

[@hamednaieem2573]

Your so right

[@TheStoicMindyt]

🙏Vihan please pray for me to reconnect with god

[@aermanfrost9672]

Brilliant!

[@hannahvalentine240]

Nice one 👍🙂

[@forjesus4620]

God bless you.

[@santoshjesus]

Yes off course

[@godsbeloved6770]

Thank you vihan❤️ for this video

[@ashimoni77]

Thank you...it really helped 😊

[@ancyg15]

Thanks for the amazing upload....

[@nivaaniesunny]

Vihan please pray for me

[@sarasonarrr1005]

Thank you so much for your guidance

[@MJ_Stanley]

4:50 well said! Go to God for help!

[@rojorenu]

Thank you for making this video sister! 😇 I know that there are going to be a lot of people out there who will find this video really useful! 😇 Praise GOD that you were able to escape that toxic relationship! 😇

[@hidanlearn]

Thank you

[@beingnad135]

Time will heal wounds overtime

[@atanubiswas9118]

😄

[@earnestedward3138]

Like seriously ?????

[@forjesus4620]

Thank u so much at right time...

[@jmalko9152]

Another great video!

[@mehawazir8502]

I want to meet you❤️

[@alexjohn3876]

Thanks sis. It is really at the right time

[@HearThisDestinyChanger]

🙏🏿

[@philipsamuel9484]

Good one Vihan, God bless

[@neelamabrahamlall1181]

Thanks a lot sis

[@apurvbarla1558]

👍🙌

[@g.khosamani6571]

2nd one here I am ❤️

[@g.khosamani6571]

7th like❤️ Heyy Vihan!

[@g.khosamani6571]

Really needed🙏

[@jesus_saved_us_wtl]

What if we are in a marriage

[@VihanDamaris]

Aw man. I am reminded of the movie 'War room' and the power of prayer.

[@jesus_saved_us_wtl]

@@VihanDamaris sorry but what this means dear. should I watch this movie. Prayers for all marriages going through this.we should hear the Holy spirit VOICE and take any decisions at first only cos He is always guiding us. PRAISE GOD JESUS CHRIST.AMEN

[@VihanDamaris]

Yes please do watch it :) yes, will pray.

[@mahimatahiliani6808]

Vihan you're a blessing for millions of youth