How I Got Over Heartbreak | Russell Brand

I've had my heart broken so much over the years, when I was a kid, a teenager, in my 20s, 30s...
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[@AuthenticSelfGrowth]

Heartbreak can be one of the best things to happen to you because you can put yourself back together again better than you were before 👌🏼

[@stomachegg041]

For me its the time wasted. Like did we have to go through it all to be here? Im sure theres other pathways

[@BatALash]

stomachegg0 yes you did have to go through all of that. It’s only time wasted if you choose that way of thinking. That’s just self-responsibility. Heartbreak can work in your favor if you look at the bigger picture.

[@stomachegg041]

But how do you know that I had to go through it?

[@insimplebeing]

Sometimes heartbreak is the first time you find out you have one.

[@SuperGrinch123]

Nicely put. . I agree!!

[@thetricky5569]

don’t drown the brain in the “potential of what that person COULD HAVE been”

[@ShinkuGouki]

Could have been worse. This idea that you missed out on a great future with a person is a delusion. A man could lose his wife in a car accident and forever believe that if she hadn't died they would have been happily ever after. Little does that man know that she would have got bored of him and banging Chad on the side and fighting with each other constantly until they hated each other.

[@treylyde999]

Self actualization

[@peternystrom921]

Exactly what i´m coming from now, for like 6months i been "thinking" what that person could be but it dosnt work if both sides dont think the same.

[@aaronraja3967]

Guilty as charged lol

[@kimberlyjohnson8674]

iiMxrshxll 888 Damn! I needed to hear this! 😞

[@gurudra]

A certain darkness is needed to see the stars

[@JoseSanchez-wg9hi]

Love this, thanks for this! 👍🏻

[@siljrath]

beautiful. tho i hope that never gets abused as erroneous excuse to pluck out eyes.

[@lucya8916]

Beautiful xxx

[@workingclasshero9769]

Except the sun

[@mario-off-topic]

This is a deep one!

[@fancyfree8599]

“If you make the non-sacred sacred - trouble and heartbreak is coming”. So true.

[@nunya257]

Fancy Free This is a new concept for me. So true!

[@poorhai9321]

yep like you make ur partner an idol

[@Dexiteros]

@@rickym8351 Yes he is referring to us humans by saying 'non-sacred'

[@weirdscience6820]

But there's a difference between idolizing and idealizing. Putting that someone before others who may be better for you is coz you're attached to them.

[@jakethehuman7]

I paused at that moment and had to absorb that for like 5 whole minutes

[@twosocks8088]

8 years ago I went through a heartbreak. It was the worst pain I had ever experienced. My health diminished badly. It almost killed me. I no longer have a heart for one person, but weirdly I have an even bigger heart for many. I wish everyone on this thread a beautiful life.

[@beckyanna7287]

Hi 💢... Sending you alot of love and positive energy 💞The relationship restorer Dr Steve who helped me to reunite back with my ex... He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me get to back with my ex I have been enjoying a happy and a peaceful relationship with him. I will advise you seek out his help thanks....

[@beckyanna7287]

Send him a message on Whatsapp 💕

[@twosocks8088]

@@beckyanna7287 No thanks. I am not interested in the slightest. Love my freedom and whole new perspective. All the best.

[@donshifty]

@@twosocks8088 update? are u completely over this person?

[@satan96ell75]

Same. I love and symphetyse with who I earlier would call my enemy

[@brandominoeffect]

Silence can be so loud in the beginning after a breakup but eventually it’ll become music to our ears

[@Freetheebees]

I don’t understand when people say that about silence after a break are they referring to meditation and quieting the mind? Or thinking about everything till you come to realization of acceptance by going through the meaning behind your feelings?

[@foxdonze]

@@Freetheebees Learning to be alone, and being comfortable with the absent position that person left behind following the breakup. My girlfriend and I broke up today, I can hardly stand to not be distracted by something and just sit with my own thoughts and emotions, but eventually I'll learn how to fill that void for myself, by myself, and thats where the growth comes in. Remember all suffering comes from attachment, and that at the end of the day the only one who can make you truly happy is yourself

[@mattm8932]

Yeah the silence is killing me.

[@niallmartin9063]

Heartbreak is a forced annihilation of the self. The older I get, the more I appreciate how fragile we are. You move on, but is there ever really “closure”. You can’t get “over it”, you have to go through it. Heartbreak is the cruellest life lesson. Are there easier ways to learn the same lessons? Probably not.

[@niallmartin9063]

Ethan Rage yes it can, it’s a journey but it has to be done. I buried the shards a long time ago, now and then one surfaces. It reminds me of a sobering lesson. Which is a good thing.

[@mogznwaz]

@@niallmartin9063 oh yes I totally relate to that. I can feel absolutely fine then a shard spikes up and I can feel myself back in the grief. I think that what it's like. Grief. I go through it then I stop, it passes and I carry on.

[@Heraclitus___]

“Are there easier ways to learn the same lessons? Probably not.” 👍

[@nurarich4945]

It’s been 3 years but some days are good and some days are bad,it’s a never ending circle.but i am grateful to my lord,everything happens for a reason.

[@townbythetown]

@Ethan Rage so how do you view it properly when you lack the will to even cope? 3 days after being dumped by my woman of 7 years, I had built my life around her

[@keciafine3289]

Getting over the death of my husband and daughter. I’ll never fully get over it

[@kymberlytompkins1528]

Kecia Zuercher I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you love ❤️ light 💡 and prayers 🙏🏻

[@audreykenwrick9391]

.. I too am suffering grief through the sudden death of my son ..., you/we will never get over the loss but with time will learn to accept it and live with it .. this is what your loved ones would want you to do ..death is part of life and our loved ones are in the spirit world now ... we will all meet again and be joyous ..sent with love to you 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@monam.5923]

Kecia Zuercher Sending Love and Peace your way. Stay strong Love is eternal and everlasting 💞

[@monam.5923]

audrey kenwrick I also experienced the loss of a child Somehow through time we accept but never forget.Time does not heal it puts things in perspective. Peace and Love for you❤️

[@sageartchannel3363]

🙁🥺

[@Mel-59]

My heartbreak was the 20 plus year marriage ending with his affair. Nearly finished me off, but in retrospect he did me a huge favour. I am so much happier without him.

[@oscar3611]

that's good. Why are you happier?

[@Mel-59]

@@oscar3611 It was many years ago. I no longer feel lonely and unloved, and eventually learned to love myself.

[@roryrichards9340]

Im going thru this right now with my wife. Selling the house and getting divorced because of infidelity. The family is broken now and the kids have to be uprooted.

[@cinnamon-spice]

@@roryrichards9340 I feel for you. It's one of life's worst experiences, and much damage can be done if not handled with care. I wish I had coped better. But we cope as best we can at the time. I send you my heartfelt best wishes for a brighter future.

[@roryrichards9340]

@@cinnamon-spice Thanks a lot! It's taking everything I have not to travel down that Dark Path. Im struggle with letting it go and let things be. I know I can't change what happened but there's a dark side of me that begs to emerge. I need to keep the kids in mind.

[@return2innocence221]

The ending of a relationship can actually feel quite similar to a death and people should be allowed time to greave and go through the stages (shock, anger, sadness and hopefully acceptance) 🕯️💟🕯️💟🕯️💟🕯️💟

[@gabrielastefania4236]

Return 2 Innocence so true!

[@damianclarke8056]

Horrible feeling that is. I hope i wont have to go through it again

[@gardenroom65]

He took the pension after 20 yr marriage. I’m still angry 15 yrs later.

[@duby884]

@@damianclarke8056 i will never ever go through that again !!!!!

[@telmaandrade274]

@nik nak did you ever got through?

[@jadearthur4267]

Currently grieving over a 5 year relationship. I still love him with all my heart but he stopped loving me and I can't do a single thing to change it. Feel like my soul has been torn in half. I'm not excited for the journey of getting through grief. I can only hope I can come back to this comment some day and say that I've healed.

[@camilla4962]

Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance. He helped me restore back my broken relationship of 5 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him

[@camilla4962]

Text him on WhatsApp

[@camilla4962]

[phone]🙏

[@climbjay]

Did you?

[@aphotic_grae]

Hi friend, I stumbled upon your comment two years after you made it. How are things now?

[@Elvira_Berzina]

It feels like being stabbed in the heart over and over again i Just wish there was a way I could delete him of my memory.

[@Saviourofhaha]

eternal sunshine, time heals

[@Elvira_Berzina]

Rob Reeves : an update I have finally healed and met someone wonderful 🤍😌

[@Saviourofhaha]

@@Elvira_Berzina funny how that works 😍

[@telmaandrade274]

I lost my love, I've done everything wrong and he broke up. I can't do anything. Just the memories and the plans we used to have don't leave me. I wish it would stop. I wish I couldn't feel anymore

[@kieranbrunt4946]

@@telmaandrade274 I feel the exact same right this minute, we're not alone

[@wonderwoman5528]

Heartbreak is a physical pain in your heart, a loss and bereavement of a person who is still alive. You understand what drug addicts withdrawal feels like because the dopamine, oxytocin... has been snatched from you when it made you so happy, and made life worth living. You believe your pain is worse than anyone else’s, and depending on how special the person you loved was, you might be right. Time is the only thing that heals. In 4 years you would have completely healed, moved on, and learnt something from this. Just remember to never dwell on what could have been, don’t torture yourself, don’t ruminate. Accept the past

[@Un1234l]

It's fucking bullshit how it takes us that long but for the other person they move on within weeks or months.

[@wonderwoman5528]

@@Un1234l it’s awful, but it time you’ll see that it teaches you a thing or two

[@jenk6895]

4 years?!?! If it took that long I don’t think I’d even survive! Yikes

[@wonderwoman5528]

@@jenk6895 ha! First love is probably the hardest

[@gitarist25]

4 years?????? : (((((

[@crystalsuishou8367]

After two thorough heartbreaks, and while my instincts tried to make me close my heart, I realised that opening my heart instead would be what would be making sense of everything I went through. Opening my heart, beyond anything, this is what healed my heartbreaks. Two months later, I got a nice e-mail from a person abroad, and one year later on the day, we got married. It will be fifteen years now, and I understand what I've been searching: it was deep harmony and tenderness.

[@RajaStoykor]

This is so encouraging. So hard to not just close yourself off in defense.

[@snakedogman]

You just got an email from "someone abroad" and you married them? This story needs more details ;)

[@mogznwaz]

I've had my heart broken and it is the worst pain I've ever felt. You never really get over it, not really, it changes you forever. Only way I managed to move on was to remember that 1) I only have 1 life and time is precious 2) time is a great healer 3) I tried to think of that experience as a chapter in my book. It's always part of my book but I can start a new chapter. 4) none of us are free from suffering in life 5) it is worth being kind to myself but also reflect on mistakes I might have made and things I could and should have done differently so I don't repeat them

[@silverboots2934]

mogznwaz All very true ❤️

[@mogznwaz]

@@mayrake Thank you. You are absolutely correct when you interpret not getting over it because you take the experience, the lessons and the memories with you. I'm definitely a stronger person now - but I'm also different and in some ways I'm sad about that but I also have learned to accept it and also kinda like the insight and wisdom I feel I now have..

[@donshifty]

@@mogznwaz update?

[@matthewjohngrabow9365]

Wow. "If you make the non-sacred sacred suffering is coming." Deep. True.

[@1love847]

Everything is sacred. Its the attachment to anything that causes suffering.

[@deadreckoning6288]

@@1love847 The deep truth.

[@everready2903]

@@1love847 Exactly! Even when a pet dies some people are distraught. But a human loving a human is normal.

[@siamaknooraei853]

Heartbreak is a loss of meaning! Having to come to grips with the reality that the person who was once upon a time the centre of your world is now gone, you feel that your whole life story was an illusion. I’ve felt it on several levels with several people. It hurts like Hell. Every time I experienced heartbreak, I felt like I lost a part of myself. I had to eventually accept it and move on. One thing I am certain of is that heartbreak will increase your tolerance for emotional pain and make you more resilient.

[@libzzconnor7648]

I'm going through this right now I was only seeing this guy for 3 weeks but we saw each other everyday and talked on the phone every night for hours, it's my fault that he don't want me and I have apologised numerous times to him but he won't accept. He's now ignoring me when I text I miss him so much why am I hurting so bad over someone I have known for such a small time, it's not my first heartbreak either.

[@jcjcc1960]

Only time heals.. Or life just changes and it never feels the same, but you adapt..

[@debboo69]

True true true x

[@gardenroom65]

Life doesn’t heal, you just have to live with it!

[@denizdickson7345]

You are right you are a beautiful woman

[@adamsmith9898]

Time is an illusion. There is nothing that can cure a broken heart, it's always there you just learn to live with it like an addiction.

[@monkeyrevolution1964]

Brazil is not only Football , Carnaval , Samba . We really can Rock as well kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYbSZ5Vontx2rK8 any good please ?

[@LevelUpYourLife]

Yes this is so true, we have to focus INWARDLY on healing our baggage, our trauma and our blocks so that we can free up our energy for actual healthy love.

[@justmadeit2]

Breakups are very hard and if someone has any underlying issues to start with then when they breakup it can feel even more difficult to cope with. I made something on here about 5 years ago after going through a very bad breakup that people seem to find useful/helpful? Its not 'high definition quality' but Is ok, to see it just type in to the search bar above this following title.......'Some blokes guide to relationship breakups'

[@llararulens8895]

Yup, unpack the luggage and reveil what's inside. Then deal with it and move on.

[@mariahspapaya]

Very spot on, Russell. I’m still experiencing pain over a year now for someone I dated for 2 months, but it felt like I knew him my whole life. I don’t fall in love easily, but when I do I’m all in. It was almost as if we saw right through each other and held each other to a higher standard and our relationship exposed our deepest wounds without any provocation. Maybe we needed time apart to do the inner work. I’m slowly getting towards acceptance and allowing what is, I just miss him so much sometimes. He was a gem in my life and I learned so much from him in such a short period, though sometimes I still grieve for not having more time with him. It is what it is, it’s all on its way...

[@LydieLyd]

This is beautifully said

[@perfectionnotallowed6093]

I’ve experienced this as well! 💜

[@TheBoomshine]

How are you doing now? I am the heartbreaker in this scenario, but my heart is broken over how much she's been hurting.

[@allergictohumansnotanimals5671]

@@TheBoomshinesame here 😣

[@sharndawg007]

Heartbreak for me is usually a sense of yearning for something deeper than the circumstances that led to the heartbreak. It is the feeling of being rejected, unwanted, cast aside after investing so heavily in someone or something that I looked to fill me up. The real truth is, I break my own heart by operating through layers of behaviours stemming from outdated and unhealthy thoughts I used to build my own identity and self worth and expecting that someone or something can fill that void. That's the ongoing work I feel needs to be done in order to get over the root cause of our individual heartbreak.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Sharnie Williamson,We have the same surname lol 😁

[@denizdickson7345]

Hello, how are you doing? It's really nice to meet you here i guess we share the same thing please reach me on [e-mail]

[@nickbankiyan-monfard7453]

This is so beautifully put. Thank you.

[@aland4440]

"Don't make the non-sacred, sacred, suffering is coming" That hit me pretty hard. Thanks Russell. It's been a hard couple of months.

[@harrisonjames1467]

I got my help from someone who who was able to help me during my marriage separation and his name is Doctor Odia i think he can also help you too❤❤❤❤

[@harrisonjames1467]

Text him via WhatsApp❤❤❤

[@harrisonjames1467]

[phone]❤❤❤

[@zs5002]

This is why we should never let one person be the source of our happiness. First you gotta build it yourself and then the right person might come along and you can share it

[@suryaone1180]

Anyone currently experiencing heartbreak here, this time last year I was about three weeks away from having my heart broken completely, the rest of the year was extremely painful, there were times when I had had enough of life, but I did the work and since then I have had a profound spiritual awakening. I watched many of Russell's videos during this process and can safely say now that I am in an incredible position, life is great and full of wonder, I know it's hard but God will give you what you need and you will come out the other side more complete than you could ever imagine.

[@SLICKDEXIC]

Start a cult already.. I’m ready and willing

[@taimoora12342]

Lmaoooo

[@jcjcc1960]

Tony Mars you're not that funny please stop I believe Russell Brand is really trying to give you some good advice

[@karin1616]

Good for you. There are people whose deprivation is not psychic, but social. But Brand will never start a church for them.

[@lee48lee68]

JC JCC -Tony Mars IS that funny.

[@BrianStyleDeath]

hes trying haha, his hearts just not in it, bless him

[@Sameoldfitup]

"The violets in the mountains have broken the rocks." Tennessee Williams

[@paulothx138]

What i love about Russel is that by lookimg him, superficially, you don't see God, but when you listen to him you learn about God and his hate for human idols. Thanks for this, my brother.

[@Cat_StJames]

Love fiercely. Because this all ends.

[@TheBorgioso]

That's kinda the opposite message of this video, no?

[@monkeyrevolution1964]

Brazil is not only Football , Carnaval , Samba . We really can Rock as well kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYbSZ5Vontx2rK8 any good please ?

[@crackasscrackle]

*im always in awe at how Russel has been able to turn his life around and be more at peace with himself. It honestly could have gone left, but for him to be on the right path after being through so much, speaks volumes and is a testament that we too can turn our lives around. We too can rise*

[@padmanathannadason4773]

not only that he gives hopes to millions out there..A true legend

[@RainbowWoods]

I am dealing with heartbreak and death and loss right now. The love of my life (so far) recently passed on. Sometimes it feels like the heaviness of the pain will never go away. And sometimes I feel perfectly okay and at ease with life. The way another person touches our lives is sacred and can be experienced as sacred. And are they really gone, when you see them in the clouds, hear their voice laughing in your ear and find yourself doing things that they did in some of the same ways they did them? When you find things along your way that seem as though they could be left there for you like messages from them? I am blessed by his presence. And however sad I may feel, I know time will make it easier to let the sadness of his passing give way to happiness in the magic of our paths ever having crossed. Love is sacred. Loss is painful. And life is still beautiful. ✨🙏✨ ✨❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖✨ 🌈

[@ShinkuGouki]

Life is pain. Be grateful for the unforgettable memories he gave you and by being happy,you honor him. I feel your pain. I lost my dad,the only person on this planet that truly loved me and I miss him the same way I did 17 years ago. But he always told me to enjoy life and I would be greater than him. I would do anything to bring him back. Enjoy life because we all gotta go someday.

[@MJ-ct3gv]

💗💗💗 Much love to you...

[@josieg.k.7320]

Rainbow Woods all my love to you 🌷💕

[@namodat]

Hope you find energy to get through this 🌺🌺

[@RainbowWoods]

Satsui Nohado Thank you. Yes, I am grateful, and I always aim for happiness. I also lost my Dad around 19 years ago and I have great memories of him. I know your Dad must have loved you in a very special way. And I am sure that other people love you too - in a different way yes, but still in a true way. ✨🙏✨ ✨❤️🧡💛💚💙💜💖✨ 🌈

[@pumpkineater23]

Love is a temporary madness that erupts like volcanoes and then subsides, and when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness it is not excitement it is not passion it is not the desire to mate every second.. that is just being in love which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away. And, when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two. - Louis de Bernieres. Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

[@LilySaintSin]

Wow!

[@AntuDas]

Amazing!!

[@duby884]

Absolutely fucken WOW!!!!

[@ashk504]

Omg, this has to be divine timing , I saw this poem somewhere else yesterday !! I've never read it before until yesterday.. so now, I must wonder why is it following me?

[@MissSpooks]

*i'm heartbroken over a guy i wasn't even in a relationship with, i just miss him sometimes and everyone else is pretty annoying.* 😪💔

[@crackasscrackle]

Lemme just give you a heads up right there. Take heed!!! That's one of the most dangerous form of hearbreak as technically speaking you have no "grounds" to feel that way. Especially if they put you in an akward scenario of being a fuck buddy without a title. They can get away with feeling guilty for the pain you'll feel and you'll be in a cyclical shit storm as your feelings never got to be actualized or rightfully expressed. You may unintentionally spend years pining over the scenario, wishing for acknowledgement, closure, and you'll prolly incessantly idealize the guy for what you wanted him to be for you.. cut off all form of communication. Dont stalk him on the socials, don't WhatsApp him, dont send cute lil texts of happy birthday or other salutations. Nip that shit in the ass (butt/bud). That way you can heal and make space for someone else....and now for me to take all of what i just said to you, as an advice for myself 🤣🤣🤣😭

[@ZamWeazle]

@@crackasscrackle Yes your spot on. I would however like to mention that when she said she wasn't in a relationship with him one cannot assume that there had been a history of physical intimatcy with the person or Fuck buddy as you said. Ive had my heart broken in the past by someone i was never physically or romantically involved with. This happened twice to me. Maybe i had some kind of attachment issue. This is also a contributing factor to why in my past i became extremely promiscuous (similar to Russell)

[@andrewg2618]

@@ZamWeazle Wow, very similar to my situation. I've been with many women (even married in the past) but there is one that I am still heartbroken over...and we never got to be intimate. There was plenty of push and pull and mixed messages from her. I would pull back because she only wanted to be friends...but when I pulled back, she'd contact me to go out together. Very destructive and I am still in her web. It's difficult when you work with them and see them every day too.

[@ZamWeazle]

@@andrewg2618 Oh bless you man! Yeah i certainly emphasize with you there. My fist time. I was flat out rejected. No teasing, no confusion. I miss read her friendliness completely. this was over a period of time and i was only 17 at the time. She for some reason became mean and cruel to me. This wasn't a cruel to be kind kinda thing no. She developed into a mean person i think. (Well, at the time) . I got over her fairly quickly, i might add! I learned to hate. Lol Which is the only time this negative emotion helped me. It snapped me out pretty quick! My second time was a friendship built over a year or so. She had a boyfriend but for some reason i became. infatuated or in love as you will. It was mostly one sided. I think she liked me a little but not Romantically. I was in a depression for a period. It was horrible. I worked with her, but i moved away for a while. It became easier and then one day. I didn't care anymore. I started to date again and life was great.

[@EdwardGFunk]

i'm right here baby.....

[@osse1n]

The time of heartbreak is a time for introspection and growing. People come into our lives with specific purposes and stretch out our minds so that we can fill it with wisdom.

[@beniteztheconman]

Who comes into the lives of billions of starving children who die of hunger? Please stop living in your insane world...thanks.

[@BatALash]

It’s clear when certain people aren’t ready to hear a deeper truth. Such bitter, projecting comments here. Yikes.

[@finregan9322]

I got proper shat on once...Broke me for about a month where I spent my time listening to crap songs and living on Shreddies.....But then one morning I woke up and didn't care anymore....Time is the only healer when it comes to losing a true love

[@mr.b1362]

Fin Regan props brother👍🏼 I just finished my first month and still feel like death

[@finregan9322]

@@mr.b1362 You'll be fine mate....I found going out with friends and meeting new faces helped massively...Before long she was just someone I used to know

[@finregan9322]

@TheSwoleBroscientist Yeah maybe but I never made that mistake again...Be careful with trust...I'm very cautious now

[@finregan9322]

@TheSwoleBroscientist Never say never mate....The perfect match is out there somewhere

[@GTF85]

Fin Regan 🤣🤣🤣🤣don’t have to have your heart broken to live on Shreddies mate.Ended me that comment haha but on a serious note I’ve always thought the same, give your mind time to sort itself out (however long that may be)and you’ll be sound.

[@graceandglory3962]

We attract what we need to grow. I am finding that I grow the most after the experiences if I sit with myself and a pen and paper for a while ( as long a it takes) to assimilate all it was meant to teach me. This self love propels me to this discipline, to make the effort. I always come away with gratitude and my heart still open IF I do the inner work. If not, blame and resentment can happen. Then the heart closes and we start drawing boundaries so we don’t get hurt again. The problem obviously is that we stunt our growth and isolation turns to depression etc.

[@tommywatt2814]

How are you doing

[@thefrenchfryguy9959]

I think I've recovered from heartbreak, but I really just miss that person😔

[@zodixv3]

The FrenchFryGuy ‘it’s okay to miss them as long as you remember why they’re not in your life anymore’

[@doggystyle8457]

Its okay to miss them, and please don't try to avoid that feeling just flow with it and it'll go away by itself.

[@parvatidevi616]

Look in the mirror and say I love you missing another who doesn't want to be with you is energy away from loving yourself. See the break up as a blessing as it's not a cliche that everything that ever happens is for your highest good. Look back on your life every high cones following a deep low. I lost my mum in a traumatic way and at the same time had no love or support from my husband of 8 years but it didn't matter as beating up on others never helps . Just be your true loving authentic self and know lots of people are praying for you and rooting for you including me . God bless you and take away your emptiness and sadness so you can be present in the moment and open to the treasures awaiting you

[@jimihendriixx]

@@parvatidevi616 It's been a year. I hope everyone is doing well.

[@coreymichael1880]

I used to be the person searching every video for heart advice. It helped yes, but the best thing I ever dude despite the many videos, countless books and advice I got - exercise saved my life. I felt that blackening heartbreak where the light doesn’t shine. Now I’m trying to help this I’m same boat - bro, listen - YOU WILLL BE FINE!!! Time is the greatest currency we have - let’s spend it wisely because trust me heartbreak buys tina of nothing.

[@ganny8149]

Toxic relationships, cheaters, abusive and short term relationships have always been easy for me to move on. But a healthy long term relationship with years of happiness and love that ends with little to no words or explanation has never put me this low. When you’re told you did nothing wrong and were the best and only guy to treat them the way i did. What can I possibly tell myself to move forward into another relationship without the damaging fear that no matter how perfect i can be for a person, even then it may simply not be enough.

[@lamusic1996]

It must be enough for the right person for you. More then enough. We innocently tend to idealize the partners shaping the emotional trap for our hearts when everything is done. Don’t loose hope and save all your love for the right one.

[@robinlaurita4663]

"If you make the non-sacred sacred, suffering is coming." Russell Brand What a powerful statement...Thank you! This thought cracks open so much.

[@TeamFriendship]

This just came out 3 days after the worst breakup I've had. My brother called me randomly the very day it happened. I can't help but think the universe is aligning and supporting me to help me make the most out of this.

[@sallylunamoth5542]

My Heart was Broken the Day I was Born 💔

[@petemc5070]

Whenever I am aware of memories of heartbreak it's always my own loss and pain I think about, and oh so very rarely the heartbreak I know I caused someone else to feel.

[@hugsandhomies]

Thanks for this Russell. You're a wonderful human bean. I went through a breakup last August, and the worst of it was the full, retrospective realization of just how much heartache I had been giving her for far too long. This video was definitely well timed to help me in my latest relapse of grief and remorse.

[@MrCheesyBaconBits]

Heartbreak is magnificently painful, for me it happened suddenly on new years eve... perhaps its a blessing in a way.

[@edgarasa3610]

What i learned from this heartbreak was that because my previous relationship was so looong and full of love that it would be so with this person, and i gave my heart away too quickly without looking at the obvious signs. What i got out of this experience was a closer relationship with my mom, a reaffirmation that I am completely against "hook up" mentality, and that I need to change my internal dialogue to be more positive. While there is still salt in my wound, I am starting to find gratitude for this experience.

[@dwaynejohnson178]

I am from United States, I was in a relationship with Johnson Paul and we loved and cherished ourselves for good 9years and everything was going on smoothly but February 10’th 2020 a day I can call a lovers day we both had misunderstanding because I answered a call from a guy that is asking me out for a data but I refused, and he told me that the relationship is over and that he is fed up with me and I begged him because I love him so much but he refused me I was so down cast and I felt the world has come to an end for me but my friend told me about a spell caster that helped her sister out in getting her relationship back, a good job and Favour in any of her endeavors but at first I was scared I have to give this man a trial because I love Johnson Paul very much and I am not willing to loose him to any woman, so I ordered returning my love spell from this greats spell caster that made me a happy woman again to say it all my ex came back to me with much love and caring heart....I am testifying to this great spell caster Dr osekhametalor you are the greatest man in this world and you mean so much to me your are the best spell caster that I have ever hear off In all forum contact this man via this WhatsApp [phone] if you really need to get your problems solve message him now

[@AnzableChar]

hey, how are you now?

[@samlaws2688]

This is one of the only comments I’ve related to so wholly. Three years since I lost my first love and best friend, so much reflection yet the lessons I learn make the pain greater . My mind feels stagnated and diseased

[@Zetsuke4]

I'm suffering a heartbreak right now please give me hope and encouragement

[@petercollingwood4108]

Zetsuke4 - Time will heal the pain. I’ve had this three times now! going through the forth now. After a few months you will stop continually thinking about that person. Eventually you will only think about that person occasionally not constantly, when you notice this happening you know you are on the willing side, and life becomes happy again. The proof is I never think about my first three heartbreaks now, i struggle sometimes to remember detail about them now. And I know in a few more months this will be the same with my forth heartbreak. Stay calm, try to keep busy and time will eventually relieve you of this dreadful pain. Good luck, the clock is ticking 😌

[@kymberlytompkins1528]

Zetsuke4 sending you ❤️ and light 💡 🙏🏻

[@angelaohanian8036]

Believe me, I’ve been there, several times... in time, you will realise you will heel, & next time, love will be better & deeper, you will grow & learn from this 😘

[@emilymaybe5405]

trust me i was a MESS. i couldn't eat i lost a lot of weight, i was crying to anyone who would listen, i thought about him every minute of every hour of every day for months. i'm at peace with it now, living in the present. if i can get over it, anyone can

[@readyone4fun]

You can’t get it from anyone or anything besides yourself. Give yourself hope & encouragement

[@mxmrroverkill]

i got my heart broke because i met a girl who showed me so much affection when we first met and for months after only to have her call me a creep when i opened up about my depression. she not only made that worse but the broken heart on top of makes me feel dead inside now

[@hide_and_go_sikh]

I'm 40 years old and I just got my heartbroken for the first time and I feel like I'm handling it much better than many of the other people I know.

[@whitneyangelie3682]

It sounds so trite and cliche to say, but the best way to get through heartbreak (and anything, really) is to actively start treating yourself better. I did something recently that I NEVER in a million years thought I was even capable of... I really truly started to love ME, all of me. I started doing these visualizations where I would imagine me and my crush staring into each other’s eyes and I would take all of my infatuation and longing for him and project it onto myself. Almost like I was looking at myself through his eyes and feeling the feelings I have for him towards myself. It was amazing to actually feel all of that infatuation and reverence for... myself. I would do these visualizations constantly, seeing myself through his eyes with my feelings attached. Then I started talking to my inner self, self soothing. If I felt frustrated it was “Hey... it’s ok baby, don’t worry”. I mean I talk to myself the way I’d always wished my mom had talked to me when I was a little girl. If I start getting anxious I give myself permission to feel it and I gently ask myself “Why do you feel this way? Can you identify what the real issue is? And what good are these anxious feelings? What purpose are they serving? Can we maybe figure out a better way to go about this?” And on and on and on. I also baby myself now- I sleep when I’m tired, I turn off my phone when I want to rest, I work out every day, eat healthy meals at home (no fast food) but I allow myself a treat if I really want one, I massage my face and hair every night. All so that I feel *taken care of* which I’d never really felt before. Now I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. Most of my life I suffered with severe depression and PTSD, some days I didn’t know if I could even make it through the day. But my depression and most my PTSD symptoms are gone now. Its not like my external life is so great now (I still have guy problems and not so great career prospects) but despite that, I’m still happy and secure. It’s a downright bizarre, foreign feeling for me and I have to check myself daily because my mind will try to sabotage me, but I don’t let it anymore. I’m in control of me now, nobody else has any say-so over my emotions. It’s a whole new world when you’re coming from a place of self love.

[@janinec544]

thank you, I needed to read this

[@whitneyangelie3682]

@@janinec544 You’re welcome, Janine, I’m glad it helped you in some way.

[@micahrutland9021]

Thuis is beautiful. You're obviously a wonderful person.

[@whitneyangelie3682]

@@micahrutland9021 awww thanks luv 💜💜💜

[@whitneyangelie3682]

@@jyotsnanair1571 Yea I am *totally* over the guy from back then . It took a couple years for me to be able to say I was 100% over him w no emotions left whatsoever, and I think it took longer bc I still kept him in the background of my life instead of cutting off ALL contact of any kind like I should have . But eventually I put myself out there to meet other guys even tho I felt the same way as you (that he was perfect for me and no one else could measure up) but once I opened up more I found myself really liking someone else. We didn’t work out long term but it was still great and I don’t regret it-it opened up my eyes to realizing there are other guys out there I could feel something for , I just had to be open to it. And that’s when I met the guy I’m w now who is miles better than my ex and I’m happier and more in love than I ever was w my ex….It sounds cliche but taking care of yourself (mentally, physically and spiritually) plus putting yourself out there to meet others is the best way to get over someone . I know you’re prob feeling like crap rn but trust me things will get better. Just try to not check up on what your ex is doing, especially if he’s w someone else . It’ll only hurt you. Avoid that shit at all costs and just try to go out w other guys even if it’s just for fun or friendship … Being reminded that you can have fun w someone else and that you’re desired by others will help to keep your mind off of your ex and the pain he caused you. I know it hurts now but you’ll get through it and 2 years from now if you look back and read this comment you’ll be so over him and probably even have a new guy by then 🫶

[@davidheller3998]

When you chose to love someone you make yourself vulnerable (open to be hurt), you trust, you give. Ultimately if you truly love you keep giving. The Biblical expression of love is sacrifice, putting the other first, this is the formula to a long and fruitful marriage, for this to work both parties need to engage, unfortunately in a relationship there tends to be one “ more in love” than the other, this is a recipe for heartache

[@marybrown6215]

Usually, the relationship ends when people get tired of pretending to be the person their partner really likes.

[@mattshenkerwhat]

Wow both comments here are 🔥. I’m dealing with a heartbreak right now that sparked from my former partner not putting love into practice. She didn’t put effort into the relationship while I did. Eventually I became drained because I was pouring everything into a relationship that wasn’t giving kindness and love back to me.

[@DaveEntity]

Most relationships end because someone or both ppl stop putting their best foot forward and reveal their flaws. The opposing person or both then start losing attraction. Be yourself from the start and work on your flaws

[@thekillerdynamo]

I definitely have a greater appreciation for Mr. Brand after watching some of his videos on dealing with loss and heartbreak. Thanks for this good content, it definitely helps

[@PowerfulU]

Heartbreak is a consequence of truly loving another. Great video Russell.

[@Becky-vb8fs]

There are so many forms of heartbreak. From my experience you can be heartbroken as part of a process to then grow from it and see a positive and a new path. Such as leaving a toxic relationship. There is heartbreak where you are grieving for something that was positive and beautiful but you again learn from it and move onto a new path. Yet there is true heartbreak where the crack is never fixed. It is life to experience all though. If yuu haven't felt it all you haven't lived

[@sospita_]

the world and everyone breaks my heart.

[@stevenbanks268]

Russell touched my heart with this one. I feel exactly how he does and it’s for the better.

[@Reilly5]

Russel Brand: Thank you for describing my heart break I'm going through. Despite how many videos and articles I've read about heart break, and break ups, this video finally answered my biggest question why my life turned out like this. Now I have to figure out my own spirituality without a god or religion because those things don't work for me. Starting regular meditations this year has helped, as has therapy. Your channel has really helped me this year since I discovered it. Now I have to understand faith in terms of dating because I've never had a romantic relationship, and faith feels like a form of fantasy.

[@annaalpaca8]

You always post what i need to hear! Thank you as always!

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Anna Stephens,his good🤙.

[@callcare1349]

I still do believe in love, I still do believe in caring for someone

[@braelyntillotson3048]

love when you speak , puts things in a understanding that wouldn’t be able to put into words other wise

[@gloriatravis5788]

Russ, you need to go on the road more often! This is so focused and brilliant and to the point. It's like a gift from your trip. Much appreciated and understood.

[@jalariaaum3261]

This was so meaningful for me as I journey through the tail end of my Dark Night of the Soul. Thank you for sharing.

[@dopelyrics6223]

I wish I was clever enough to understand him. I reckon what he said was good, though 👍

[@melaniepaigehighfill-gassa8638]

Ah, I'm relieved to know it's not just me. I first became familiar with him while he was going through the post addict, recovery phase. He was clean and sober, but it was often hard to tell. He was brilliant, yet quite manic acting. I still love him and the calm Russell is lovely, if only I could make heads or tales of what he's saying. He make me feel completely uneducated. 😟😞😯

[@lemartin3827]

He’s saying that heartbreak comes from over-investing yourself in another person to the point where they had too much power over your sense of self worth. Hence the reason you feel awful when that love is taken away. He’s further saying to better focus that energy in the future by investing in something more spiritually robust I.e. yourself, ultimately. Hope this helps- I feel bad removing Russell’s flowery wordplay but it would be a shame for all this to be lost in translation, as its a message thats helped me a lot in recent weeks

[@Tom-eq7lo]

Sooo many big words can’t even think about my ex just tryna get my head round what he’s saying 🤣

[@chasvonplatten1298]

Ah, the beginning of wisdom is humility and to acknowledge that "we don't know" . Congratulations, you are well in your way!

[@48sydney]

Big words do not make an intelligent man. Delusions of intelligence are quite amusing.

[@TheRealGuywithoutaMustache]

Well, thanks for offering your advice Russell, I'm sure people would be grateful for this

[@dr.vonettachisholm978]

You look as if your own soul has been reborn. I don’t know what you’ve tapped into but continue because it is beautiful! Thank you for opening up to hurting 🌱

[@InnerVisionStudios]

Really enjoyed what you said here Russell.

[@wingchun6036]

We come into this world on our own, and leave it on our own. And it's okay. Being too obsessed with anyone in any way is unhealthy, it's like being intoxicated. Life's just a bridge, you keep moving forward towards your goal (which should transcend love which seems to be the be all and end all in some cultures). Plenty of people who aren't in relationships. Their life isn't worthless.

[@karlk9316]

Kudos to you Russell Brand for your excellently thoughtful and helpful videos on topics important to every brother's life and learning.

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

Love them for who they are not your image of them. Make compromises. Your not Single... You must think as a couple. If someone doesn't appreciate you. Move on. Don't think of happy times...but remember the BAD times!

[@brainbarz]

But what if there were no bad times? Truly. 6 months of bliss, gone because of their choice to just quit out of nowhere?

[@GenesisCamille]

Never did I think RB would be helping me understand how this heartbreak mind set works.

[@rabiujibril1077]

I recommend you to (Dr Steve). He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me, I have b e e n enjoying a perfect Relationship with my ex. I will advice you seek his help thanks.🙏

[@rabiujibril1077]

Tex t Him on Whatsapp now with these number okay.

[@rabiujibril1077]

[phone];

[@GenesisCamille]

@@rabiujibril1077 appreciate the recommendation. My ex belongs to the streets. The world can have him.

[@KaseMasta-gk9ug]

"How to Forget Sarah Marshall"

[@glenhallawell1748]

Im going throught serious break up been abusing the drink and druga badly for 3 years but 80 days only had 1 relapse and watchimg and listening to Russell brand every day is helping very much THANK YOU

[@adeviyat]

It is not the heart that breaks, but the mirror reflecting ourself as pure love, that's what hurts when we loose the mirror, we can only see and experience ourselves by or through the other...

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Adeviya Teke, you are absolutely right

[@thelandofopie]

Thank you for becoming the approachable bridge to evolved consciousness.

[@paidistapleton6208]

Going through that now. Hard to see a way out but hopefully time will help.

[@stephw3475]

I’ve seen a couple other of your videos and I never thought I could relate to you so much. Your feelings are so close to how mine are. It’s crazy. Thanks for your videos and advice. I’m going through heartbreak after being ghosted 5 months ago. It’s still hard but I pray it’ll go away soon

[@elaineknox1023]

"If you make the unsacred sacred, trouble will come"...excellent way to describe our part in our own heartbreak.

[@Yararar]

Thank you for investing your time to help others~

[@sallylunamoth5542]

Such a Lovely Comment 💞

[@chasvonplatten1298]

@@sallylunamoth5542 Indeed!

[@georgesdubuis6833]

@Killucifer Divine Almighty in Africa they need your help, go on & good luck!

[@sovREVERE]

I’ve never seen someone vocalize my thoughts so eloquently

[@lorrainenicholls971]

Thank you for your wise words Russell. I'm going through the worst time this year. I'm listening to you xx

[@deedee9312]

It's easier to move on if we come out of the foggy illusion and get into the beautiful present and understand that WE have choices! Respect Russell! Your a true "word~smith"!!

[@erindambrosio5410]

This is good stuff❤️ Not sure if anyone reading this has ever heard of the spiritual teacher Barry Long, but his awakening was instigated by the heartbreak of romantic love. His teaching helped clarify a lot for me!

[@rikjones9029]

I've always struggled with getting over one person I lost and it was quite some time ago. I do believe I need to go within myself more to find the person I was once and what I could be instead of thinking what could have been with that person. Your videos give food for thought, thanks. Rik

[@rtlemon]

I very much needed to hear this today. Cheers Russ.

[@St.Arthur]

Man, I have literally discovered your videos and this persona of yours through a Myers-Briggs test and we are literally the same person in different ages coexisting in the same reality (I'm Male,23). Your thoughts are exactly my thoughts and WOW, I am just so happy to get this kind of advice that feels as perfectly articulated insight from my own personality. Please teach me how to articulate as you and to find the fluidity of thought you have.

[@ray25_oxygen]

Today, my girlfriend broke up with me after the third year of our relationship. Your timing is good, I must say.

[@hunk6778]

Its gonna be much worst than u think, start to run 2 times per week my friend, an advice from a homie

[@valiaeverly]

I’m going through a heartbreak too 💞

[@demywesup5099]

So sorry to hear this. I used to think heart break was for the weak minded. I would often ask "why can't people just get over it?" however i experienced heart break about 2 weeks ago and I must say it is by far one of the worst gut wrenching and depressing feelings I've ever had. Girlfriend of 1 year and 4 months and I broke up and my lifes been chaos. Videos like these and people like Russel and Goggins are getting me through the motions of life right now. I am still in pain but I am slowly starting to see the light at the end of this dark tunnel. I just hope you will see the light as well. who knows, maybe one day me and you will look back at this comment in the future, years from now, and just smile. Good luck friend.

[@lucya8916]

This video is a coincidence in timing, I felt sadness due to heartbreak during my meditation today. I suppose what hurts is that I opened my heart to feel something beautiful and left it open during the horridness.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Lucy A,be strong 💪💪💪💪🌹🌹🤙.

[@myprince4930]

Hi How are you doing?

[@myprince4930]

Hi How are you doing?

[@darnfirefingers]

Hi Russel, your words of wisdom and understanding is incredible. I think I experienced my first heartbreak 30 minutes ago. I’m 33 and I believe I’ve never got my heart broken. I’ll sit with this pain for now while taking inventory of my patters, impulses, etc. Good thing I’m holding unto something sacred. Thanks for the reminder.

[@dwaynejohnson178]

I am from United States, I was in a relationship with Johnson Paul and we loved and cherished ourselves for good 9years and everything was going on smoothly but February 10’th 2020 a day I can call a lovers day we both had misunderstanding because I answered a call from a guy that is asking me out for a data but I refused, and he told me that the relationship is over and that he is fed up with me and I begged him because I love him so much but he refused me I was so down cast and I felt the world has come to an end for me but my friend told me about a spell caster that helped her sister out in getting her relationship back, a good job and Favour in any of her endeavors but at first I was scared I have to give this man a trial because I love Johnson Paul very much and I am not willing to loose him to any woman, so I ordered returning my love spell from this greats spell caster that made me a happy woman again to say it all my ex came back to me with much love and caring heart....I am testifying to this great spell caster Dr osekhametalor you are the greatest man in this world and you mean so much to me your are the best spell caster that I have ever hear off In all forum contact this man via this WhatsApp [phone] if you really need to get your problems solve message him now

[@peterglynn2128]

Russell Brand is very Intelligent ! He is well worth being taken seriously . The older he gets , the wiser he gets. Keep the good work !

[@_M_D_M_]

I am 38 and after 4 heartbreaks I guess I will come back to this video again in few years time.

[@janinec544]

im 38 and this is my 3rd one. When you move on from the last, you really believe the next one is going to be the one and then bam, heartbreak. Hurts man.

[@MrRob1217]

@@janinec544 same here and you think you would be able to deal with it better but the true sets your heart loves who it loves I want it does it can hurt so bad right now I'm in so much pain wish I had someone to talk to about it if you would like to talk to you can message me

[@maryscott7184]

I've had my heart broke to. When I was married for 25 years and I thought my husband really loved me. I found out that he never loved me at all and he was just going through the motions. My heart snapped and shattered into a billion little pieces. I lost weight and got so skinny that I looked like I was from Africa. I couldn't concentrate on anything for more than a couple of minutes and I tried to kill myself. The man I had a beautiful daughter with and trusted hated me. He was having an affair on me and had been for 15 years or better. He wanted to wait until our daughter was 18 so he wouldn't have to pay child support. That's been 10 years ago and it took me all of 8 years or so to get better. I'm. Much better now and not dating anyone and dont care to. I want to make sure that this time around I find someone who really truly understands me, respects me and loves me. Thanks Russell, great topic could you please talk more on this subject thank you. 🤗💝😘♥️

[@jordangould1541]

I'm sorry for the pain you went through, I can only hope and pray that you receive the love you need, whether through a relationship, a spiritual insight, a creative endeavour or just a recognition that all is well.

[@JackCMerrick]

Mary Scott be strong, sister. You are not alone. Sounds a lot like my story…🙌🏼

[@monicagicharu2284]

Skinny like you were from Africa? What made you think it’s okay to say that? I’m from Kenya and that really offends me. Sorry for your predicament but please don’t be so ignorant.

[@crackasscrackle]

Was sympathizing with until you uttered that racist rubbish *face palm* you watched too many of those brainwashing infomercials didntchya?!

[@hazelford3358]

crackle krispies :Is your sympathy so easily lost?

[@alexandrajb7574]

Wow! Im in love with your words!

[@westsussexgirl3454]

I love listening to you talk and thank you so much for this, I really needed it right now 💔

[@lucya8916]

Russell, I've lusted after you for 17 years and you've never broken my heart 💖

[@chasvonplatten1298]

(smile)

[@crackasscrackle]

Creepy, but cute...

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Lucy A, Really!

[@venusflytrip2504]

11 years together, a cat, a dog, a son, a house. A concatenation of dreams, all dead now. The pain of unravelling it all (still to come) is really what will break me.

[@elizabeth-ty3he]

I’m sorry

[@KyraKrenitsky]

Thank you deeply brother. I am feeling challenged by, wanting to share and help people I can see are struggling, whether they know it or not - I can see where a lot of their pain/issues are arising, yet I cannot figure out an effective way of communicating without coming across as "holier than thou/condescending" It is a fear of mine to come off that way, so I find myself just keeping my mouth shut as I watch the bad habits continue, which leaves me feeling a strange sadness rooted in a moral obligation that seemingly I let slip by.

[@deeva4289]

You're amazing Russell. Thanks for this!

[@theindividualizt]

Certainly! When Russell got married, and removed the eyeliner, it broke my heart!

[@crackasscrackle]

Fuck outta here🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 that's so funny

[@getredytagetredy]

Sandi Small ...jack...Russell ?

[@1love847]

Sorry to be so superficial while your talking about something so emotionally deep but you are so fine right now. Lol

[@blacktulip2407]

I cant believe i love to listen to u so much. So bad from my side to not give myself this chance until today. Thank u! Blessings to u & ur loved ones.

[@oxx676]

Your insights are seriously refreshing my guy I love your videos