How I Learned to Love My Body

[@LanaBlakely]

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[@dukefisher1957]

I think whatever you've been doing your whole life has been working for you perfectly. ❤️

[@Dr.pikachuu]

How did you fully overcome it

[@natemarx4999]

When you work and take care of yourself, self hatred becomes extremely foreign. 🙏 ♥️

[@bondlikebangtan5880]

Thank you for sharing this site, i am pushing aside getting professional help bc i don't know where to get one in our locality but this is really helpful... i know i am trying to be strong for myself but professional help is... different. Thank you and you're very pretty! Girl's in our locality would exchange everything to have skinny legs (tho I have one) I mean, regardless of that and no matter the standards are, you look perfectly beautiful to me 💓

[@dctribute9865]

You are literally better looking than 92% Of women and this not an overstatement you can check yourself on wheat waffles KZbin Video which he rated the faces of 1000 man presumably the statistics are not very different from women And yet they still shame you faking losers

[@martinamav8072]

It’s funny because I’ve been judged for being too fat while you’ve been judged for being too skinny. No one will ever be enough for society so just do the hell we wanna do. You’re slaying in leggins

[@LanaBlakely]

Well said! Thank you for your kindness.

[@memm7846]

and if you DARE being balanced just right in the middle... ..."who you think you are? you think you're balanced and superior?"

[@LanaBlakely]

@@memm7846 Lmao

[@Hashslingingslasher-]

@@memm7846 I dont get that kindve reaction. People appreciate my ability to maintain a good weight which gives me hope for humanity

[@SeaFlower38]

@Goochisz Magoochisz I don't think people have to be very thin to be relatively healthy. In addition, there are many skinny people who are unhealthy just like there are overweight people who are unhealthy. Whether or not any1 wants to change is their business and others should mind their business about other people's lives and bodies.

[@Ratsfrom42]

It's so interesting how some people say skinny influencers or celebrities are so toxic because they are skinny and show off their bodies while here, Lana gives a completely different perspective that those skinny bodies helped HER to be more confident in HERSELF and HER body.

[@LanaBlakely]

It helped me a ton!

[@markersandacrylics5898]

I think this is because people see the blame for their trigger in outside influences and then think society etc needs to change instead of gratefully accepting it. In my opinion, the external influences only show you what you can work on inside and when you have done that, the view of the external changes and it no longer triggers you if for example someone is skinny or not.

[@Ratsfrom42]

@@markersandacrylics5898 So well said I agree wholeheartedly.

[@aichujohnson8444]

Right, because one size does not fit all.

[@veroniicagu]

🙏

[@SandraintheCity]

thank you for talking about this. some people really have no clue how much a “simple” comment on someone’s weight/appearance really takes a toll on you. you hardly ever forget it.

[@Stan0070]

Don't worry about this people do what's good for your body and health wish you the very best.

[@wessamkhaled4214]

that's right 👌

[@LanaBlakely]

Totally. It took me years to even bare looking at myself without feeling disgust - all thanks to the comments I'd been receiving repeatedly.

[@steveleeart]

I had a homeless person poke my stomach like I was the pilsbury dough boy and asked me when I was due…

[@Joshen_Marient]

The worst part is that they don't even realize how insensitive their comments are. Even worse, some people will jokingly and playfully call you out in a group setting without ever realizing that they are embarassing you.

[@AyMuchacha]

*_My body wasn't made to be pleasing to the eyes of others, it was made to carry me through life._* *Perfect reply to use when someone ask you or comment about your body.* 😎 *Thank you for opening up!* 💙

[@elisagalan6878]

When i was 17 my self image was really damaged, i remember giving my aunt a hug and her telling me "oh my god you get skinnier every time i see you" and i immediately started sobbing because I actually had been working out trying to put on weight for months

[@LanaBlakely]

I can relate. I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that!

[@khalilahd.]

I relate to this so much. I used to hate when people said I didn’t have enough curves or I was too tall. I love that you’re having this open dialogue. I think no matter the size social media has made everyone question their body once or twice. I hope everyone continues to learn to love their body by taking care of it and not comparing 💜

[@LanaBlakely]

Yeah and this was BEFORE social media. I can only imagine what it must be like now, especially for young teens! xx

[@francesmunzen5897]

@@LanaBlakely Hi Lana! How tall did you end up being if I can ask?

[@hey0173]

i was bullied because i was too short and i’m a boy

[@mel999.]

Same. And most days I'm still trying to love my petite body.. its hard when ppl around me (family mostly) keeps telling me that I'm too skinny, even tho I feel good. My boyfriend makes me feel good.. but I always find myself comparing my body to other girls and wish I was shaped like that.. its tiring for my mental health

[@tkoviet]

Story of my life. Skinny shaming is so accepted. I, too when I was younger, I tried every way to gain weight just to fit. The good thing in getting older is that you care less about what people think. I accepted a long time ago my skinny figure and I love it !

[@himsingh]

same here

[@himsingh]

its the fat who are struggling most due to physical problems

[@b.p.5129]

It’s so important to recognize that the things people say about us that we internalize aren’t a reflection of our worth and value, but a reflection of who they are and how they feel about themselves. Basic kindness and respect isn’t something we need to earn from others, but something they ought to give to demonstrate their own capacity to love and be good people.

[@varun.shenoy10]

For me growing up I was fat and overweight. The person who insulted me the most was my father. I don't have words to explain but when I watched this I cried. Thank you so much for sharing this 🙏

[@drosophila510]

Oh that's sad, I hope you're doing okay now

[@varun.shenoy10]

@@drosophila510 Thank you for the encouragement!...... I have improved from before. The journey is truly rewarding!

[@FantasticBooo]

❤

[@suu5006]

I’m so glad that you’re talking about it.It makes me feel less alone and that I’m not the only one who goes through things like this.Again,thanks Lana.

[@LanaBlakely]

You're definitely not alone! xx

[@aaronmarchand999]

Jealous people trying to drag you down. Now look where you are. In the end, you win. Congratulations, you have successfully transcended all your childhood haters. In the grand scheme of things, maybe they were there to help you, maybe without those experiences your life would have turned out completely differently. My attitude towards haters is to simultaneously thank them from the bottom of my heart while giving them the middle finger

[@aaronmarchand999]

Something I just remembered: When I was in high school, I joined a band with my friends, and then I started hearing gossip about how I sucked at guitar, and how they didn't want me in the band if I didn't get better fast... that sucked, and I ended up quitting the band because of it, but in the end that was the motivating and driving force for me to work hard and get really good at guitar, and start recording music on my own, and get to a level that I probably never would have even come close to if I had stayed in the band and was just accepted and validated "as I was." It was similar when I went to a temple in china for the first time, and the master told me "your tai chi is very bad." It's quite discouraging in the moment, but that ended up being the driving force for me to eventually get good to the point that he saw our meeting as destiny, and he took me in as his disciple, and eventually I became the one who would teach tai chi to people coming to the temple. I feel the same way currently re: ongoing business failure. It can be soul-crushing at times, but in the end it will probably (and already has) force me to improve everything way beyond what would have ever happened if I just got quick and easy success and validation right from the beginning. I think the problem is not in the criticism itself, but in the fact that people don't understand that there is a process to overcome this kind of criticism. And because people don't understand this, they don't teach it to their children, but instead they just throw them into the social world at school where whatever happens will happen, and sometimes they never manage to go beyond the "box" that the judgment of other people puts them into. A quote from Les Brown (motivational speaker) about the moment that changed his life: "...I met a high school teacher who one day changed my life. I was waiting on another student, and when he came in he said to me 'Young man go to the board and write what I'm about to tell you.' And I said 'I can't do that sir.' He said 'Why not.' I said 'I'm not one of your students.' He said 'It doesn't matter, follow my directions now.' I said 'I can't do that sir.' He said 'Why not.' I said 'Because I'm educable mentally re*tarded.' And he came from behind his desk, and he looked at me, he said: 'Don't ever say that again. Someone's opinion of you does not have to become your reality.'" The truth is that there is a complete lack of understanding of some of the most basic and fundamental aspects of human psychology and development... even in the field of psychology.

[@veroniicagu]

🙏

[@swibrotv1833]

@@aaronmarchand999 This is great, and how i hope people would start adapting this "grow" mindset instead of stepping backward 10x because of a criticism, yes it hurts but you got to walk from that, you got to. i wish you luck on your business endeavors!!!

[@ALS1914]

"My body wasn't made to be pleasing to the eyes of others, it was made to carry me through life. "👏💙 I need this, what a great video! Thank you!

[@zeruszephuros5419]

Thanks for making this vid...as a very "chubby" person I always hate how other people made fun of my body weight, now that I see the other side of things I realize that no matter how thin/slim/fat/normal you are...people's just gonna make fun of you because they're human, and it happens everywhere So what you can do about it is just simply accept yourself : )

[@LanaBlakely]

Spot on! It's impossible to please everyone, regardless of what you look like. :-)

[@manishnarashiman3319]

There is a mid ground which is good for your health

[@veroniicagu]

🙏

[@JorgeRamos-xw6dy]

Insecurities are amazing. This girl is absolutely perfect yet she questioned her beauty. I have met pretty girls that put themselves down for no reason at all. I'm sure most people will look at Lana and wonder why she ever felt insecure, but that is part of growing and maturing and most people go through it one way or another.

[@agustinthierry6719]

I’m a skinny man and I really appreciate this video, thank you. I’m pressured by everyone to be a muscled man but I don’t want to. I don’t want to “sculpt” my body to please others. I want to accept my body as it is and I want it to express what I am. I’m no gym bro or rugby player. I’m me, and this is my body.

[@dlsolof]

This video was so important. Too many people have too many opinions on what everyone else "should" look like. The message is always to be the opposite of who you are. If you're thin- get curves. If you're curvy- lose weight. Not every body can do all the things. There's no good reason they should have to, and forcing them to be different easily creates problems. Life's much easier when we let everyone be who they naturally are.

[@LanaBlakely]

Yep. It's always "too much" or "too little" of something. And my weight definitely wasn't the only thing I was being made fun of!

[@dlsolof]

@@LanaBlakely I can relate, for sure. It’s the opposite side of the spectrum, but the podcast Maintenance Phase is so eye opening on society’s obsession with body image and trying to control people.

[@ApurvJyotirmay]

Going away from social media was the best thing I ever did for my mental health. I hate it when other people intentionally make someone else feel bad for the way their bodies are. To everyone out there, small or tall, fat or thin, pretty or ugly, etc etc. Don't let others define your worth based on your appearance. Be a kind person, and keep working towards your goals and do whatever makes you happy. You're more than your mere appearance ♥️

[@saqibetsultanli]

I found you in quarantinedays, and i am so thankful, u are so nice person, happy to find you! love u from Azerbaijan♥️

[@sominlee7106]

Today is my birthday and I found your channel. I’ve been watching your videos for hours now and this is a big gift for me. I’m very fortunate to find your channel today and it’s my most valuable birthday present. Thank you so much

[@AhmetKaan]

*Everything negative around you is an opportunity for you to rise up. Stop caring about what others are thinking, just start putting in the work. I am cheering for you...*

[@Jeromy_1]

Bullying in childhood can do so much damage to self esteem. Adults are often guilty as well. Lana, you are a natural beauty. Your personality and values enhance that so much more! Thank you for sharing this 💓

[@Ray-q8v9b]

I'm an ESL teacher and I'd want to use this in my lesons with adult/teenage students. I really love your way of speaking, the accent, along with great quality video and subtitles and all! Thank you, Lana for sharing your personal experience however difficult it was for you to get reminded of those stressful times

[@sparkee.]

Hey Lana I just wanted to tell you that you are my inspiration You have made me want to be myself more. I cannot change myself for the society or for what anybody else thinks because I realised that what matters in the end is how you feel and if you don’t feel happy then nothing is worth it.

[@LanaBlakely]

This makes me very happy.

[@lizrose900]

6:45 i relate to this bit especially. it’s really comforting seeing celebrities or people online with the same body type as me because i’m not comparing myself with them instead i relate to them.

[@JonathanTash]

8:14 "I liked myself until others told me that I shouldn't." I feel that pain too. For me, it wasn't my looks. Rather, I was told I could do no good, and for a long time I took it to heart and suffered silently.

[@Alexandra-cw8jj]

"I liked myself, until others told me that I shouldn't." Relatable, Lana. I really don't understand how people can be so mean. 😢Never in my million years will I ever insult or bully someone for how they look let alone for their weight, because I myself know how that feels. People should be nicer towards everyone! You don't know how your words can affect other people!

[@pranavsood2767]

The part where she said "Do you want to study engineering or are you being pressured ?", god how she vocalized my whole existence in one sentence.

[@aditigotimukul4857]

I can absolutely relate to this. For the longest time, I've tried to hide my body so that people don't feel uncomfortable seeing it. People are cruel when they spew comments about something as sacred, personal & unique as one's body and somehow think it's normal. There's NO ideal body type. Every body is beautiful. Just the way it is. As long as you feel healthy and happy in yourself, that's all that matters. To whoever has gone through this, let me remind you, you're a thousand times enough! I love you.

[@giovannacosta7061]

you're the sweetest . thank you for this, sometimes all we need is to remember we're not alone

[@SamiFilms]

I identify with (surprisingly) A LOT of what you mentioned: from skipping a class to feeling physically inferior. I'm glad you're now feeling good about your body. This video is definitely a step forward into feeling good about mine.

[@_Shaia_]

Thank you so much for bringing this to light and talking about a topic that is very sensitive. I struggle with the same thing. Exact same thing. It hurts when people ask if you're starving yourself when you're not. when I was happy with how i looked and how i felt, that was when i was asked that same question. I was upset. I tried to eat more but ended up weighing the same but "looking fatter". Anyway, thanks again for this video. I will keep working on my mindset. Thank you.

[@mariah-rv4dk]

i related to everything you talked about in this video, i’m petite as well & people always had some snide comment about me and it always made me upset. i just wish everyone would stop making commenting on other woman’s bodies & just mind their business! i struggle w body dysmorphia now at 23 but it’s not as bad as it was for me when i was in high school. i just hope society as a whole stops putting these unrealistic beauty standards onto young girls and women like myself. thank you for talking about this ❤️

[@AymanMehrab]

I've been skinny shamed since i was a kid and i can feel you girl. It's better to avoid such toxic people. Infact these people are the ones who are drowned in their insecurities so they try to pull everyone around them down so they can feel better but little do they know it's them who are losing their value and respect in the people's eyes not the other person ❤❤❤

[@Joshen_Marient]

You look happier than ever Lana! And I love that you and everybody here is growing into the best that we could be. Have a great day eveyone! Godbless!

[@λυπημένοςσκύλος]

Thank you sis. This is what i need the most right now, i have been called anorexic by my own sister because im too skinny. Little do they know, im struggling very hard and im hating my self-image a lot. School stresses me out so bad and im depressed i never told them and they came out to this conclusion that im anorexic. Spent my whole night crying again. I can relate to this so much ♡ i've been skinny shamed my whole life.

[@LanaBlakely]

Sending you love!! xx

[@λυπημένοςσκύλος]

@@LanaBlakely thank you so much 🤧💖

[@PetterHughes]

6:32 I relate to what you said about people asking you when you're getting married, having kids, getting a real job, etc! People asking me that has affected my mental health, and I try avoiding certain people because of that. I prefer to decide for myself if I want to achieve those things, and to go at my own pace.

[@RealJamieBarclay]

I've had such a similar experience, growing up I have always been one of the skinniest kids around I hated it. When I turned 18, I started bulking and going to the gym 3-4 times a week and actually put on a good amount of weight/muscle. Initially I felt good (or so I thought) but it was never enough. Despite putting on a significant amount of weight, I felt like I was making basically no progress. However, recently I came to a similar realisation as Lana, I shouldn't be working out to look good, I should be working out to stay healthy. The only way to actually feel good enough, is to love your body regardless of looks. So now I just walk my dog, play archery and plan to do some rock climbing, you know, sports that are actually FUN and are still keeping me healthy? Don't get "keeping yourself fit and healthy with fun activities" confused with "Doing exercises you don't like to try and make yourself look a certain way, to impress people who don't care, to temporarily mask an insecurity." The health and fitness industry don't give a shit about how happy or healthy you are, they want to keep you feeling insecure, so you'll spend more money chasing a dream body that doesn't exist.

[@J_KC305]

Lana, I love you. You never deserved to feel like that growing up, nobody ever deserves that, it will always be impossible to impress anyone in this world, there's so many ideals people have about image and how things should be in this world, but you are the only one who can truly define yourself.

[@LanaBlakely]

[@davidj.morachavarria1969]

This video is very interesting and I totally understand what you went through because I suffered a lot of discrimination for been so thin during my childhood, adolescense, and part of my adult life, until I decided to get in to the gym, not for people's comments but, for healthy purposes. So far, nowadays, I feel happy with my body because I feel more secure, healthy and stronger but, I totally agree that people can be cruel in life. Keep it up Lana! Mature people will always look for someone far beyond his/her personal appearance because they know perfectly that sooner or later, body will change through the years. Sorry to hear all those things that happenned to you.

[@joannacabrera2607]

I finally found someone whom I can relate to, I never opened up to anyone about it because I thought too that they would label me as weak. Your words made me realize a lot of things.Thank you for sharing your story.

[@DoctorAzmain]

Thank you for sharing this small part of your struggle Lana❤Our body image is so personal to us. As a doctor, I’ve seen patients of all sizes, some struggling with anorexia, others trying to lose excess weight. I try my best to listen to their stories and never to judge, because even in medicine, there’s still this bias against people of certain weights. I'm constantly trying to feel more comfortable in my own body and my own skin - I owe it to others to be understanding of their story.

[@rebekalabruja]

This is so crazy, some people are naturally skinny. I'm like that and some members of my family are skinny. It's ok to be skinny, it's ok to just be ...you. ❤️

[@steveleeart]

So true 🙏

[@annasushko2572]

I should say that your behavior in front of the camera has changed. I see more confidence in your gestures, more freedom in your eyes, more wisdom in your thoughts! How amazing it is!

[@therealmethatyoudontknow]

Those comments were so mean and cruel, like, wtf? Were they blind cause your literally gorgeous!! But even if you weren't, no one should treat other person like that.

[@hamishweir5631]

Thanks for this video, as a slim guy I strongly relate to your experience and it's always comforting to know I'm not alone. Glad you found peace in the end!

[@eusabeharafay59]

I have exactly the same body type as yours and have heard the exact same thing all my life. It effects me so much and I'm still here trying to learn my way out of being affected so much. Thank you for this

[@Moonchild99.]

I relate to this so much. I've always been skinny and it's so tiring when people comment about it. If my health is fine then there's nothing wrong about being skinny. It's just genetics

[@LanaBlakely]

Exactly this!

[@raviilakra]

I'm 28 and I'm skinny. I don't hate my body, I hate when people tell me that I'm skinny.

[@rachaelmolene]

One year later but I really resonate with this comment. I'm turning 28 this year. I don't hate my body, I just don't like people constantly asking if I'm sick or telling me to eat more or my Mum constantly buying drugs that can "allegedly" make me put on weight. I never hated my body but people started pointing out how skinny I was and made me so conscious of the same body that I was so proud of.

[@W2lvr.198]

Your lucky then

[@ChrisGaultHealthyLiving]

Awesome video, Lana, as usual! You have to love yourself! I was a skinny little kid also. Still thin but put on muscle in my 20’s due to weight lifting. Some of us are just hard gainers! Now, in my 60’s, I’m just trying to keep what I have! Not for others, but for myself! Glad you do that also! Love your videos, you really rock! Keep helping people!

[@sunetrabhatla]

Can definitely relate to this. Been in the exact same position and felt the same way in school as you mentioned in the video. Now that I’m older my perspective has changed. All the people who said I’m skinny are all envious of me since they are unable to lose weight and want to look thin but they are trying so hard. I’m so happy with myself and my body. I was afraid to go to gym but now I workout everyday and feel fit and wonderful.

[@charlottel0ckewo0d555]

I enjoyed watching your video. I grew up with a disability, and spent my childhood in and out of hospitals, so non of the other kids looked like me. Or in high-school. I’ve struggled a lot with self-acceptance, and confidence. But im trying to learn to be better, and I know others are too. Remember to love yourself, cause no one is prefect and that’s okay

[@katrina639]

it’s so crazy how we really never know what others are going through because ever since i’ve found you, i’ve always thought you had such an admirable physique which i could tell was natural to you. i thought what a dream it would be to have the body that is yours, come to find out the challenges that came with it for you. thank you for being as transparent with us as you are.

[@katrina639]

@@darthvader1793 ?

[@ilyqd]

Thank you for this video Lana. I've gone through very similar things growing up with comments about how skinny I was or whether or not I was eating enough (I was). About a year or two ago, I started gaining weight due to my depression getting worse and generally not being active. The same family members/people around me would then start asking why I was gaining weight and still question my eating habits. What I've learned throughout the years is that people will always have something to comment/judge you on, you will never be perfect to others but you can be loved and accepted by yourself and that's what truly matters. Weight does not equal health and it's the latter we're supposed to be concerned about.

[@arawithcamera]

"...our body are working extremely hard for us every second and everyday in the system that is so complex, it's quite impossible to even comprehend..." This is so truee, I'm going to start telling myself this everytime i caught myself feeling unsatisfied about my body.

[@Bhomieisflawed]

I can so relate to the ''soooo skinny phrase'' I have being told that I walk like I want to break and that I look wretched. Now, I've put on a lot of weight and I get comments of how my tummy is much bigger and my waistline not being as sexy.... It's like nothing ever pleases anyone😂

[@LanaBlakely]

So sorry you're getting such comments. Some people are pathetic!

[@sofianuri9354]

I really appreciate you. Thank you for being here and speaking up.

[@Sumoni__Puri]

You have made me accept my body. Thank-you, Lana. I am also skinny but you came into my life and made me realise that I should be confident in myself. ❤️🤗 And now I am 😃❤️

[@Lucas_S91]

I recognize so much of what you're saying. As a 30 year old man I'm 186 cm and around 65 kg. I've been skinny my whole life and working out or eating up to the point that I'm feeling nauseous hasn't helped. At every job I've had, whenever we had cake for someone's birthday or something, people would encourage me to take an extra big piece because "you look like you can use it". Only as I'm getting older I'm feeling more and more comfortable with the way I look. Sure, I'd like to gain a little more weight, but I'm okay the way I am now.

[@LanaBlakely]

Oh boy, I feel you on the cake thing. "Take some more - you need it". Imagine telling someone they should take LESS cake? It would've been seen as totally unacceptable and rude. Because skinny people don't have feelings I guess? Thank you for sharing!

[@charvi5046]

I RELATE TO EACH THING YOU HAVE SAID HERE! I HAVE HAD THE EXACT SAME CHILDHOOD. Thank you Lana for such a honest place you create on youtube! thank you for your awesome work!

[@NateshasAmbience]

Thank you so much for addressing this vulnerable topic. More people need to talk about it. Lana does it again!!!

[@yohaizilber]

Subjective negative body image can be a ruthless enemy when trying to navigate an already hard life, this is especially true in our modern inflammated society. peeling the layers behind our subjective views is the only way forward. I can definitely relate to your experience thank you for sharing.

[@myfriendgoo2816]

I just now remembered a self-help book from many years ago that warned against "Change your weight and change your life" thinking. It didn't dispute that thinner people were more popular, etc., but did say that most people are setting themselves up for disappointment if they think they'll get to and hold onto that level. OTOH, if you go for something more achievable and sustainable, you'll be better off but won't hear so much from others and won't change your life that much, so you have to be self-motivated.

[@umbrelladestroyer]

Happy birthday, Lana!

[@ellabajae]

it’s so interesting and eye opening to hear someone speak from the opposite spectrum of my experience. thank you for sharing

[@nerminealaa5560]

You are one of the most vulnerable authentic beings I’ve ever seen 💜💜💜 Much love to you Lana xx

[@evermorenata]

I never thought of these celebrities you've mentioned could actually help someone, because all they make me feel is as though I'm not fit enough or skinny enough, but it's nice to see that there are different perspectives than mine.

[@PriyankaDas-gn8fx]

I was scrolling and then the title of your video catched my attention. You literally shared my own life story and it was so damn relatable. Word by word. I am glad that I am happy with my body now but there were days when I used pray relentlessly to have an ideal body approved by the society. I hope that one day everyone will be in peace with their body. Love you. ❤

[@ArchieTheSoundGuy]

As I guy who is watching your channel, Lana, I have never thought that you had problems like these earlier. Throughout your videos, I have always viewed you as a very attractive and naturally beautiful girl with thoughts in my head like: "oh, whoever her boyfriend is or could be - he is a really lucky guy!". Thanks for the honest and thoughtful videos you are making here.

[@ittiebittiedance]

Every body is beautiful

[@princekalender2154]

You're kid photos are adorably cute!

[@LanaBlakely]

Haha thank you!!

[@kaheichan1335]

yes... totally relatable - since young ppl always told me that I look tall and thin so they immediately thought that I ate too little and urged me to finish the leftovers after we're done eating, even when I admitted to be too full to eat more, especially grandparents:/

[@drsurbhibhanot7397]

Only Lana can be that honest , I simply respect you for this

[@howdydee]

This really resonated with me. I also skipped a grade. I was always the smallest and youngest in my classes and I was definitely made fun of for it all throughout school. I started figure skating at 13 and that really helped my self image because I was around other ppl with a similar body type to me. It helped me stop caring what other ppl thought about my body.

[@lovehellmusic]

As a fat guy, I was bullied in the same way. It is really interesting to realise that the very opposite of my body type had a similar childhood to mine.

[@monkeyshd]

1. FOR WHO, WHAT DO YOU WANT? 2. I WANNA FEEL LIKE THIS I am speechless, cause all the things that you said is so related

[@rockinggirl0610]

Literally made me cry. I have been short my whole life and not a single day goes by without me thinking about it. And you're right. When im alone i don really care that i am short, I think its cute and its what makes me "me." Similarly to you, i also like looking at celebrities like camilla cabello and especially sabrina carpenter, they seem to be rocking everything so why cant i? Thank you so much for this vid xx

[@LeanneAguirre]

I love this video of yours. This resonates me so much. From elementary to high school I always get bullied for my skinny body. I'm in my college years now and I am starting to weigh down their opinion of me and start to accept my body for how it is naturally built. ✨

[@timitimi2]

Your story really hits home for me. I'm 22 years old and have always been the smallest and almost always the youngest in my class and I have been skinny for as along as I can remember. I didn't think much of it until I grew older and really absorbed what people had to say about my size or body or how I had a little lower abdominal fat at my lower tummy. I'd always be in baggy clothes cos "my legs were too thin and looked hungry or sick ". I'm just glad I can finally shut people off when they have things to say about my body and also why I shouldn't be in the gym or workout. I've been able to put on 3kg in about 2 years (I've worked out more in these two years) and these same people also have things to say about how I'm looking "fuller". I'm just going to focus on my fitness goals of being stronger, flexible and learning new things. It's really impossible to please people and nobody should ever feel the need to please people. It's YOU against YOU.

[@noodles8951]

I am super skinny and i relate to you so much. You are helping me so much right now. And the relative bodyshaming you before even meeting you, ah so many timesi went through this. When i look at you, your past stories are what i'm going through right now and the way you have become, your self love,your confidence, your manners and everything is what i aspire to be when i become older. As past you is me rn , i hope future me can be like you are rn.

[@Karolhaygh]

I remember when I first saw one of your videos I thought wow she is so beautiful and soft she looks like a model. You could have kept that perspective intact but you decided to open your heart up to all of us, thank u so much for creating such a beautiful connection between you and us. Such a beautiful soul ♡

[@rachaelbarrett2654]

Tk you so much for sharing this.im 46 year old woman and i have always had skinny legs.i always hated them but finally after all these yrs i am accepting myself for who i am..good on you girl you look fabulous ❤❤❤❤❤

[@gorbachov4321]

This is so relatable. Teenage years were the worst regarding this - everyone and their mother thought they should point out how skinny I was and the comments about "do you even eat, etc." were so common that after a certain point it just didn't even reach me. It's kinda strange that it's so acceptable to tease skinny people like that. I imagine people who are overweight have their own set of struggles with this but when you are skinny it's seems totally OK to just point it out and basically mock you for it. The most important thing I feel is just to maintain a healthy weight, if you are not totally underweight then it's fine - the rest should be up to you if you want to bulk up or not.

[@mbtisocialclub]

Hey thank you for talking about this, I've felt insecure about my body for a long time so I really respect that you had the courage to talking about this

[@sodoff4451]

Thanks for this video. I can relate to it even though I'm a boy. I'm short and skinny which wasn't easy. I'm 20 now and I feel comfortable with however I weigh or what my height. Love yourself it's the goal

[@brynlowe2408]

99.9 percent of people must love you just as you are . People can be very jealous of those better than themselves. You are perfect.

[@shaylamills6675]

i feel so seen and heard, thank you for this. i’m not alone on how i feel.

[@Skillseboy1]

Happy birthday Lana!

[@tacobelltacos2178]

I can kinda relate. I always had a golden brown tan skin, although it’s a standard in the western world. Here in asia thats a different story being fair makes you immediatly beautiful, accepted, and gives you more power in general. So when i was younger i remeber my family memebers telling me “If you had fair skin you would be more handsome” repeatedly. Since i was playing soccer at the time i would get worried if my skin would be darker after playing cause that always happens. I always hoped my skin would lighten up when i’m older. Now i love my skin color and don’t feel insecure about it at all i don’t care what does other folks tell me about my skin.

[@curiousself329]

I am very pale and got nothing but negativity about my skin colour my whole life. It’s ‘transparent green’, ‘looks sick’, ‘why don’t you get a tan’. To the point where I would struggle with allergic reaction after self-tan cream 😔 Like it’s always ‘too something’ for people and never enough to get to those skyrocket high beauty standards.

[@nk_9715]

Family memebers?? Oh my god I'm sorry that happened, they had no right to speak to you that way. Honestly the entitlement people feel "to fix" others disgusts me

[@AshishKumar-si6mo]

The best thing I heard till date was "Accept your body as it is, and take care of it because you live in it till your last breath" ....I started working out regularly only because I felt like it, not because I was shamed about it. Body shaming really makes you anxious, and I know what it feels like. You go, girl

[@patasmith7344]

Thank you so much for making this !

[@radovan998]

Great video! Why don't people just stop interfering in other people's lives and start looking after their own business 😩. Thank you for all videos that you recorded. 💕💕

[@sparkabundancespirituality1755]

Just because you are conditioned to see a specific type of beauty as beautiful, doesn't mean that only that specific type is beautiful. If you genuinely see yourself as beautiful from the inside out, others will look at you in the same way, because the world reflects your perception back to you. Peace, love and joy to everyone reading my comment❤🙏

[@angelabacatano6323]

I resonate with you so much! My family members and other cousins often call me skinny and only if I gain weight I'll be prettier. Those words still remain until now, and I still struggle with body dysmorphia.

[@BenIsFiguringitOut]

Thank you for this video. As I’m working on some things physically, I’m reminding myself that these changes I want are for me and not to impress others. Thanks again!

[@doa1514]

This was so beautiful Lana. Felt like exactly what I needed to hear, conveyed in the most real sense of it. Thank you so very much for posting this, this was lovely ❤

[@Oziverse1610]

Words can be so powerful, people tend to forget that quickly But then also their words are mostly a representation of what they're going through, even though it is not an excuse to treat someone like that Everyone is beautiful on their own unique way

[@SmashMaster]

My best friend from Highschool was a tall chubby boy. I was a skinny tiny girl. Neither of us ever realised our size / shape difference as we were too busy being friends and making jokes etc… until a lot of people started repeatedly pointing it out with comments such as “she’s so tiny and you’re so big, she could sleep in one of your shoes” etc…. I know, some people were trying to be mean. But we actually found it so funny and laughed it all off and used people’a comments to add to our own story. But it could’ve also gone a different way…. 20 years later and my friend would still like to lose weight and I’d still like to be taller… but neither of us are super unhappy about it either. Often times people will point out how skinny/curvy/big/small you are because they either admire you or they envy you. Sometimes it’s not meant in a bad way but hits a part of us that we feel insecure about ourselves. Sometimes it’s meant in a bad way out of spite. Either way, it’s terrible when it becomes a self-consciousness issue. To all the self-conscious folks out there: hang in there, keep rolling with the punches and do you!

[@malva5456]

This reminds me of how everybody is talking about body positivity, but skinny people aren’t allowed there. They say: “skinny is the stereotype, don’t complain”. But what about naturally skinny people? They don’t exist in there. People called sticks, people that are asked every day if they eat, people whose bodies have the same right to be happy with. It’s not a battle about who has it worse, we should work together, because we are humans, our bodies are created amazingly perfect, to achieve the goals we can achieve

[@victorias.4293]

Thank you for this, i felt so identified with everything you said cause i've been there too, i used to measure and weight myself couple of times a day (sometimes i still do), wore two or more leggings undeneath my jeans, never wore black jeans, skirts or tank tops because it made me look skinnier, had a hard time eating in front of others and often found myself trying to prove that i actually ate, didn't want to go to the pool and i was a swimmer as a kid, spent all of my teenage years hating on my body and had not respect to it. I think it even was hard to be around me, cause all i did was criticize myself. Time pasts, now i am not slim anymore but it was a nightmare to gain weight because i obligated myself to eat more than i could bare. I still live the trauma from it, still afraid of missing a meal, people and even family tells me that i looked better before. I thought that when i gained weight everything would be easier, what a fucking lie! if you don't fix your mind nothing's ever going to be enough.